This podcast provides practical tools and real life application for taking your life from where ever it is to the next level. We cover relationships, health, emotions, mindset, confidence, entrepreneurship, money and all other parts of being a human. Did you know there is something better than happiness? It’s the life you were meant to live.
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Join me on the podcast this week and discover what I believe our most valuable resource is in this lifetime, and how you can maximize it to make every aspect of your life easier. This is not a linear theory and things might get a little complicated at times, but stick with me on this, because if you can apply what I’m talking about in your life, it will make every day easier and more fruitful.
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Tune in this week to discover how to work with and allow your emotions, how to set up boundaries around your grieving process when dealing with other people, and eventually how to accept the reality of the situation. Losing someone we love is awful, and it will feel like nobody understands what you’re going through. There is some truth in that, but that doesn’t mean that grief has to hold you back forever.
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Listen in on our conversation as Matthew shares his insights into what makes a great and engaging story, where people often go wrong when sharing their stories, and his specific tips for beginners. Stay tuned until the end to hear Matthew in action sharing a tale of his own with us.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I share how I was able to identify my values and implement them in every aspect of my business, hoping to impart the same values, ultimately, onto my clients. This episode will hopefully give you an insight into what your values are and how you can align with them in everything you do, whether it’s in a business, your family, or just how you want to approach every day.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I discuss how I became confident and loving of something that I resented for years, and what I do to keep myself in love with this aspect of myself every single day. Building confidence isn’t easy, but when you can spot where it’s a problem for you, and with a little help from somebody who’s gone before you, you can make confidence a reality.
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Listen in on our discussion today as Thomas shares how he left the church and went on a journey of self-development that, in the end, brought him closer to God than he could have ever seen coming. Thomas has some incredible insights about our development through adulthood, as well as the power of combining mindfulness and faith.
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Join me on the podcast this week and discover how to navigate change with peace. Whether it’s moving to a new city, your kids going off to college, or even adjusting to life after the end of a relationship or the death of a loved one, this episode is for you.
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Join me this week and discover the three stages of awakening. I’m going to discuss the benefits of having a coach, and what kind of improvements you can expect to see in your life if you take this work and really run with it. Life was never meant to be 100% roses and easy sailing, but applying thought work in your life can make the less-than-perfect stuff become genuinely useful.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I take a deep dive into the self-coaching model – specifically the point where we choose our thoughts about our circumstance. I’m sharing how you can identify where you might be going awry when identifying a circumstance, and how you can reframe your circumstances so that your positive thoughts don’t become redundant.
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I was interviewed for the podcast of one of my clients recently and her questions were just so perfect that I thought I have to share this with all of you.
You’ll discover what real coaching is like, what you can expect if you decide to receive coaching, and the thoughts that you can apply to your own life to make every day as good as it can be.
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Join me on the podcast this week to discover what other people having agency really means, and how you can flip some of the negative thoughts you have about other people’s actions. Our world would not be the same if people didn’t have agency, so it’s time we took a close look at it so we can use it in our favor, instead of thinking of ourselves as the victim of other people.
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Join me this week for an insight into what’s going on in my brain when it comes to self-coaching and mind-management. I really wanted to get vulnerable with you guys this week so you can see that, even though I’m the one giving the answers, that doesn’t mean all of the stuff I teach is not a problem for me as well.
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It’s clear to me that, with all the modern conveniences we have at our fingertips these days, our intolerance for discomfort has dropped dramatically over the past couple of decades.
Join me on the podcast this week for a frank discussion about anxiety, how it shows up for us, when we need to be concerned, and where there might be something we can do about it with a little self-coaching.
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Listen in this week as I provide insight as to where the work I do as a coach transcends into the scripture that I hold so dear as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. If you’re facing what seem like unjust difficulty in your life, tune in for a little reminder that Heavenly Father has your back.
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Tune in this week to discover why I think we have a natural propensity to pull together, join forces, and make changes that help us move forward, personally and as a society. I’m sharing how you can intentionally evolve yourself to get what you want out of this life and be at ease with the discomfort of growth.
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Join us on the show this week as we discuss what contributes to people distancing themselves from the church and what they’re really going through. You’ll discover why questioning your faith is not the evil we sometimes consider it to be, and why, if somebody you love is going through a faith transformation or perceived crisis, that is not the end of their journey with Heavenly Father. Oftentimes, it’s just the beginning, and there are things you can do to help them through.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I explain my stance on empathy, why it might not work exactly the way you think it does, but also why it’s wonderful and an amazing part of being a human being. Some people might find this a touchy subject, but take a listen before you make up your mind.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I unpack an idea I’ve been sitting with for a while. Whatever “it” is to you – it could be marriage, children, a new car, a new job, a business of your own – I have 5 elements to consider that could be holding you back from going and getting “it” and how to overcome these hurdles.
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Tune in this week as I share how to take the pressure off of yourself in family gathering situations. I’m sharing how you can go from fearing the worst about how everyone else is going to enjoy themselves to simply having a great time yourself and appreciating your family for who they are, misbehavior and dysfunction included.
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Join me this week, whether you’re engaged and looking for some insight into the sexual aspects of marriage, or you’ve been married for years and are struggling with your partner’s level of desire and arousal, whether that’s lower or higher than your own. What I have seen in my clients is that there are two people within the sexual dynamic of a marriage: the higher-desire partner and the lower-desire partner. I’m going to be addressing both sides of the story today and share what thoughts you can work on to look after yourself and your own needs, without making life any less comfortable for your spouse.
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Join me this week and discover how you can have fulfilling relationships without changing anything or anybody. Once you come to grips with appreciating the external things you have to encounter daily, then before you know it, your relationship with your life will be completely different.
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This week on the podcast, I’m talking about that space within us – the human void – and how it manifests in ourselves and the people in our lives. Tune in and discover how to know when you’re feeling it, and what you can do to ease the burden for yourself and the people you love.
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Join me on this episode as I discuss the process of incorporating my work as a life coach into my beliefs as a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Discover not only how I came to see the two as compatible, but also what made my father realize the importance of the work I’m doing, not only for me, but for everyone in my community.
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Tune into this week’s episode to discover how you can make every goal you set for yourself so much easier by choosing to put your feelings first. Sure, you can try losing weight by running yourself into a body shape you can begin to think about loving, or pay off your debts so you can start to feel financially free. But if you could feel that financial freedom or love your body first, trust me, you will 10X your progress in everything you set your mind to.
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Join me on this episode as I explore the idea of choosing and creating your purpose. You’ll discover how to explore the many things you could dedicate yourself to and how to choose one, or more, without listening to all the reasons your brain will provide for why it should be easier than this and you should quit now.
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Join me on the podcast this week as I share my talk from the BYU Woman’s Conference and discuss some stories from my own life, with regards to my own obedience and that of others, which hopefully will reframe the way you consider your role in keeping the people in your life on the right track.
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Today my sister and fellow podcaster Natalie Clay joins me to talk about why all of our problems are, at their root, thought problems. We talk about why it's so tempting to think that our situation is the problem - rather than our thoughts about the situation - and how to start shifting away from this mindset.
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The River of Misery is that short but often difficult period of time where you're struggling the hardest with whatever change you're making. Join me today to learn all about the River of Misery and why it's one of the most essential experiences for personal growth. I'll describe the concept in detail and provide numerous examples of the River of Misery so you can start identifying it in your own life.
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This episode is all about how you can achieve your impossible goals by envisioning your future self. But before that, I share seven of the biggest reasons why people don't achieve their goals and how you can avoid those pitfalls. Some of them are tricky, but if you try the future self exercise I walk you through, you can use your future self as a guide to becoming who you are meant to be and achieving all that you are meant to do.
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In this episode, I talk all about brain software and how it shapes your thoughts, feelings, and actions. I share some of the most common situations where the Something Is Wrong tape starts playing, and encourage you to practice building some distance between you and these thoughts. And I also discuss whether or not we should try to change this software or just try to work with it.
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I'm digging into parenting and discipline on this episode and sharing a framework for teaching and leading your children. I talk about what we should focus on as parents, how rewards and consequences can affect behavior, and how to set expectations in your household. Discipline doesn't have to be complicated - it just has to be rooted in love.
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In this episode, I talk about some of the reasons why you might be uncomfortable giving your business the full attention it deserves. I also dive into the three buckets that make up your business and how you can fill them up. Filling up the buckets of strangers, acquaintances, and fans is essential if you want your business to generate profit.
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I talk about the importance of witnessing your eating habits without judgment, feeling your feelings, and planning out what you’re going to eat. I also discuss some of the emotional eating habits I’ve observed in myself as I’ve done this work and how I’ve come to love and accept my body exactly as it is. Losing weight shouldn’t be about trying to conform to some external standard of how your body should look. It should be a vehicle for leveling-up your relationship with yourself and your life.
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Listen in as I share some stories about clients who have been seeking relief, what I recommended for them, and what I want you to think about when you’re feeling negative emotions that make you want to seek relief. We’ll also talk about dirty emotions versus clean emotions, locating your emotions in your body, and why joy is the ultimate form of relief.
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On this episode of the podcast, I’m walking through why every relationship we have exists entirely in our own mind. This is great news: it means that we are 100% in control of our relationships with other people. And that means we can choose to have compassion, curiosity, and love for other people, rather than worrying about whether or not they really like or approve of us.
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On last week’s episode Brooke Castillo and I discussed religion and the response has been so overwhelming about how much you loved it. This week I share some additional thoughts based on 5 years of coaching members of The Church about how we sometimes, unconsciously use the very beliefs that can make our lives better, to hurt us. Tune in and gain some awareness to help prevent falling into these traps.
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Today I am sharing with you a conversation I recently had with Brooke Castillo about religion. We discuss the difference between your relationship with God and your relationship with your religion, where God fits in the model and why our experience of God is so much stronger when we’re suffering. Thanks to Brooke for her willingness to come on the show. I know you’ll enjoy this episode.
Part of our ability to interact with one another in an appropriate way means we censor ourselves. This is healthy and I wouldn’t want you to drop it. But sometimes we have an opportunity to be more honest with one another about what we think or feel. I wonder what would happen if we all started saying what we mean a little more and believing other people a little more as well. Tune in as I share some ideas about how this can deepen your connections with one another.
If you’ve listened to this podcast for long you know that I teach that your circumstance doesn’t need to change for you to get the result you want in your life. I also teach that focusing on the circumstance is not the most effective way, but today, I want to talk to you about the irony of how circumstances sometimes do change once we do the work of not needing them to. Tune in to learn more and for tons of real life examples.
One of the questions I get a lot is, “What is the difference between traditional therapy or counseling and coaching?” Today Natalie and I are tackling that question. We’ll tell you what we love about therapy and why we think coaching is a better fit in many situations. Tune in as we discuss the challenges of marriage, how a coach helps you through it, and why we believe not all marriages should last forever.
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Today I’m answering questions sent in by you, my listeners. I’ll be answering the following questions:
- How do I teach this to my kids?
- What do I do if people think I’m the difficult one in the family?
- How do you learn to hold yourself accountable and follow through?
- Where is the line between though work and changing up something that isn’t serving you in your life?
- What advice would you give to a classroom of 11 and 12-year-olds?
- How do I find my passion and purpose after being a stay-at-home mom for a long time?
- How do I slow down my thoughts enough to stop yelling at my kids?
- How can I stop being annoyed at my husband when he plays video games?”
You’ll also hear why I’m not a fan of love languages. Thanks to everyone who sent in a question for today’s episode.
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Is there such a thing as right and wrong? Yes. And no. Today I’m talking about this concept with regards to decisions you make to help you be more confident and timely in your decision making. Indecision is a dream killer. Don’t fall for that. We’ll also talk about right and wrong with regards to your past, and to the decisions people in your life may be making that your brain keeps telling you they shouldn’t be.
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Today I have a fantastic treat for you. Natalie and I sat down with our daughters (ages 9, 10 and 11) to talk about emotions, thoughts, friends, advice for parents and what’s so great about being a kid today. You’ll hear about the tools Natalie and I teach which our girls understand, and the parts […]
Sometimes we have thoughts that we know are negative. We may not be able to change them but it’s easy to identify them as problem thoughts. Then, other times, we have thoughts that sound useful. They feel necessary. They sound pretty or righteous or feel very justified and reasonable. Maybe other people offer them to […]
After achieving some mind-blowing goals in 2018 I decided to take a look at the 4-step process that got me there so I can utilize it again in 2019. Today I’m sharing that process with you to keep in mind as you set your goals. My most favorite part of achieving a goal is the […]
Today’s episode is the third and final segment of Better Than Happy Live. If you’ve been listening to this series you’ve heard just a tiny bit of what I cover at this full day workshop style event, but I hope it gives you a deeper look into how applying these tools in your life literally […]
Today I’m bringing you a second segment from Better Than Happy Live. Listen in as I coach real people with real issues and we apply the tools you’ve heard here on the podcast. Before the live segment I’m sharing with you some perspective on the perfect Christmas.
December is the time of year when everyone starts talking about being so busy. The rush of the holiday, the endless to-do list and the expectations everyone seems to have can give you the opportunity to fall for this trick your brain plays. But busyness is not about what’s going on outside of you.
Today I’m sharing something I’ve discovered about myself in my own self coaching and as I’ve stopped snacking. Transitions are uncomfortable. I’m sharing my own personal story of struggling with major transitions in my past, but I’m also sharing what I have discovered that has been so mind blowing for me...
The tools you’re learning are changing things for you, so naturally you want to share it with others. I hear from listeners and my clients that they are trying to explain it and sometimes the people in their lives aren’t open to it.
Gossip is something that most of us agree we don’t want to participate in, but there is something about it that is exciting and compelling to our brains. Today we’re taking a look at why it’s so tempting, what the negative effect of it is in our lives, and I’m giving you a three-step process...
On your wedding day, as you leave the temple hand in hand, nobody expects that one person will stop believing in the gospel and choose to leave the church one day, but sometimes it happens. Like most other parts of marriage, this requires some effort to navigate...
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We live in a world full of options and everyone wants our time and attention. While having so many options is an amazing part of an advanced world, it also leads to decision fatigue for many. Today I’m going to talk to you about editing your life and making decisions ahead of time.
Ever notice how painful it is to be wrong? Today we’re exploring why the brain has such an aversion to it, and some of the un-necessary problems we create for ourselves as a result. Of course we’ll address how to re-direct your brain and the benefits of doing so as you pursue your goals.
Today I want to give you an in-depth lesson in the concept of buffering. Buffers can include everything from drugs, alcohol and pornography to overeating, shopping or video games. You’ll know it’s a buffer if it has a net negative effect in your life. This episode is one of my most powerful.
Our brains are very good at negativity. It’s a natural survival mechanism. But today I want to talk to you about judgement, fear, worry and self-loathing. These are the most common forms of negativity and in many ways they create un-necessary problems and suffering for us.
Lately I’ve been doing a lot of reading up on accessing your own creativity and today I want to share some of my biggest take aways. I’m sharing teachings from Stephen Pressfield, Austin Kleon and Elizabeth Gilbert. Tune in as I teach you why you don’t need to be original.
How do you know if you’re a good mom or a good dad? Is it if your kids are happy? They are obedient and get good grades? Is it based on how they turn out? Is it based on whether or not the like the way you raised them? Or is it none of those?
The idea that we should get married, then try to meet one another’s needs sounds like a nice one in theory, but in reality, it causes more problems and puts distance and resentment in homes and families. Today I’m breaking down the concept of meeting your own needs. I want to clarify what this means and why I believe this is what Heavenly Father wants for us. We’ll touch on the Family Proclamation and I’ll explain why this helps couples be closer and stronger than ever.
The clutter. The chaos. It’s everywhere. You agree that having it organized would be life-changing and magical but it’s so overwhelming. Allow me to introduce Shira Gill. Shira is not only a professional organizer, she’s also a Certified Life Coach and today she’s allowing us to steal some tips and tricks to allow you to get started tackling the toy bin, the pantry, your sock drawer, and even your closet.
Today I’m sharing a real coaching session with a real client. Listen in as Sara talks about her frustration with her children when they don’t do what she asks them to do. This is a powerful session if you have kids and even if you don’t.
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Today’s episode is a special back to school message for your youth. Please help me share it with them and check it out yourself. You might be surprised at how much you’ll learn. To grab a seat at Better Than Happy Live visit jodymoore.com/bthlive To register for Foundations of Marriage with Natalie Clay visit jodymoore.com/marriage
I’m SOOOOO excited for you to get to hear the wisdom of my brilliant and hilarious sister Natalie Clay. Today Natalie and I talk though 6 tools we believe everyone who is getting married (or already married) needs to understand to have a joyful marriage and create healthy families. Don’t miss this episode!
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Most people are searching for the answers to “how” to achieve the things they want to in life. They think if they can figure out how, then they will believe it is possible and then they will go for it. Today I want to teach you why this is backwards and how to let go.
In our natural unsupervised state our brains want to focus on and try to change things outside of us. If this worked I would tell you to keep doing it but it mostly doesn’t work. So today I want to teach you how to accept the things that happen that are outside of your control.
Buckle your seat belts kids. I have a special treat for you today. If you’ve never listened to “Awesome with Alison” then I’m happy to get to introduce you to Alison Faulkner. And if you are already a fan, then I don’t have to tell you how much fun she is to learn from.
My clients like to ask me if their feelings or behavior is normal given a certain situation. It’s as though our brains want to be justified in some way. Today I want to talk to you about what is normal and I recommend that you question whether or not “normal” is going to create the life you truly want.Join me today as I dive into this topic including tons of examples.
Are you a person of excellence? Or are you more of a 75% person? And what is the difference between excellence and perfectionism? These questions are answered on today’s episode and I’ll also be sharing with you why I’m committing today to be a person of excellence. Will you join me?
Play is an important part of your life. It not only is fun and feels good, but it impacts your emotional health as well. As kids we understand this but as we grow up we tend to allow the responsibility and pressure of being an adult get in the way of play.
Pride is one of the greatest hazards to us in this lifetime. It’s a concept that is often misunderstood and easy to neglect but something I think is powerful to take a closer look at today. I have found myself falling into the trap of pride in a few ways lately and today I’m sharing my experience with you as well as some thoughts on pride including how is it different from confidence? Join me today as we explore this important concept.
Ever feel like your prayers aren’t being answered? Well, it’s not that you’re doing anything wrong, but today I’m sharing some insight based on the tools I use as a Coach as well as examples from the Book of Mormon about how to pray in the most effective way.
What makes someone lovable? Is it the things they do or say? Is it how they feel about us? And what makes someone un-lovable? Is it that they aren’t nice, don’t like people or don’t love us? The answer is no. What makes another person lovable is your decision to love them. Period.
Fear is a protective mechanism designed to aid in our survival. Today I want to teach you 5 things about fear to help minimize your fear of fear. Because showing up in your life may require some fear but with the tools I want to teach you today, you’ll be better equipped to handle it.
Today I’m teaching you about confusion, overwhelm and indecision. These are what I call indulgent emotions. Feeling them does not get you closer to clarity and focus. Instead it keeps you unconscious and stuck. They are a result of a mismanaged brain and while it may feel like they just happen to you, I have actionable tips to help you get out of confusion and on with solving problems and accomplishing your goals. Tune in and let’s do this.
It’s nearly Mother’s Day. And if you’re like many women I know you secretly hate this day. You try not to but it seems like your expectations are never met. You don’t know why you’re disappointed but you just are. Or perhaps you hate it because of the strained dynamic that exists between you and your mother and this day brings up all of it for you. Well I have good news for you. You can love Mother’s Day and it’s simpler than you ever imagined.
What do you want? Do you know? When I first began coaching LDS women I discovered that many of them didn’t allow themselves to want. They felt like wanting might mean they were not grateful for what they had or that it was not keeping their priorities in check. Other times I work with clients who find the wanting to be painful because they don't believe they can have what they want. Today I am going to teach you why I believe that wanting, when done from abundance, is a virtue.
I’m a Mormon. This is not a surprise to you I hope. But today I want to talk with you about why I’m a Mormon. I want you to decide why you believe whatever you believe because the why matters. Are you a Mormon because of the community? Is it because of a certain church leader? Is it because of Joseph Smith? Are you a Mormon by default or is it rooted in sound doctrine that makes your life better? Just something to consider. Tune in to learn how I answered this question for myself.
Today I’m teaching you the way to have deeper, more fulfilling friendships and how to show up when you meet new people in a way that feels confident and helps you attract your tribe. We’re also talking about what to do when you don’t get invited out and you’re feeling hurt about that.
Whether you’re setting big goals or just navigating the changes of life, learning to master skills will serve you well. Sure there are skills that are obvious like playing an instrument or a sport, but I want you to consider the skill of being uncomfortable, overcoming procrastination, and being more patient.
Crystal and Sean live an amazing life. They’ve been successful in their endeavors in blogging and Network Marketing and today they’re sharing how they’ve created these results for themselves. But they are not amazing people because of their success. Instead, you’ll hear as you listen to them, that their success has come because they first have chosen deliberately who they want to be. Listen up as they tell you their story.
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Forgiveness is a divine attribute. We are commanded to repent and seek His forgiveness and we are also commanded to forgive others. But only every time. But how? How do we know if we’ve been forgiven and what is Godly sorrow? Forgiveness is not something you do. It’s a change in the way you think and feel about someone else. It’s your opportunity to be a higher version of you.
When we have a challenge, most of us become focused on figuring out what to do. We share advice with one another about what to do and we search for the right action to solve the problem. But none of our action is as effective as it could be if we stop and align our intentions first.
What is respect anyway? What qualities do we look for in someone that we respect? Today I’m walking you through a closer look at respect and then we take what we learn and apply it to self respect. In today’s world of instant gratification and concentrated pleasure, erosion of self respect is a problem.
Today I’m talking with Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Tony Overbay about narcissism, depression and anxiety, and his advice to couples struggling in their marriages. Tony is so insightful and as you’ll see, he never takes himself too seriously. Please enjoy this episode where we dive into these topics and more.
Ever have a shame attack? Happens to us all from time to time, right? I had one this week. It was a great opportunity for me to practice what I preach. sharing my experience with you and giving you the steps to deal with a shame attack and come out stronger on the other side.
One of the most common things I hear from my clients who have businesses or side gigs is, “How do I get motivated to do what I need to do?” Of course this doesn’t just apply to building a business, but today I’m sharing with you how to get out of overwhelm, indecision, stress, and doubt.
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Did you know there is something available that’s better than happy? It’s your most complete life and the most amazing experience available to you. Check out today’s episode where I teach you all about this, clean pain versus dirty pain, and spill the beans about the changes happening her on the podcast.
Fat adaptation is your body’s natural metabolic state. It means that when you eat food, you store some of it on your body as fat to be used in case there is no food available. It mean that hunger is not an emergency. It’s just a whisper that comes and goes.
The body is an amazing creation that provides an internal navigation system for helping us navigate what is useful and what is dangerous. It gives us physical clues (sensations) and emotional clues (emotions). Today I want to challenge you to really tap into what’s going on and ask yourself whether it’s a sensation or an emotion.
I’m so grateful to sweet young Ellie for being willing to share her story today. Her experience with depression and anxiety has made her wise beyond her years. Check out today’s episode as she shares her experience and some word of advice to anyone (especially your kids) who struggle with depression.
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If you have a child you want to help or motivate or change in some way… this episode is for you. First Ask yourself WHY you want to change them. It’s always so we can feel better. This doesn’t mean it’s wrong or you should let go of it in every case but really be intentional. Then remember your child has agency. This means they are going to make some choices we don’t like.
Spending time with my future self has made a huge difference in what I create in my life. What will you look like in the future? What will you think about and what will you have done? Your future self has so much wisdom and if you learn to ask her, she will help you with whatever you need right here and now. Your future self is also someone you are currently creating. Are you creating her intentionally or just allowing life to take you where it will?
Making a contribution in the world is an important part of a fulfilling life. Today I want to teach you more about how to find your zone of genius. It begins by finding fulfillment in whatever you do right now. Then to keep making progress to become the person you have the potential to become.
I love making money. Most people think that making money means sacrificing your time and effort and giving up part of yourself in exchange for money. The harder you work and more you sacrifice, the more money you can make. I believe different.
Confidence. It feels amazing and it makes you better at anything you’re trying to do. Confidence is the solution to so many problems we create for ourselves from people pleasing to worry to relationship problems. We’re spending some time today learning about the opposite of confidence, shame, and then I’m teaching you how to build confidence. The definition we’ll use is knowing and embracing all the parts of yourself.
Today I’m teaching you about mental, emotional and physical health. It’s a longer episode because this topic is so all encompassing but make sure you listen to the end where I teach you about how to utilize what we know about human nature and the brain to lose weight without relying on willpower.
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This is the first of a 5 part series on the Be Bold Pillars. All of the tools I teach are centered around these 5 areas and focusing on these areas is the key to living an amazing life where you grow and thrive, reach your full potential and leave the world a better place.
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I learned so much from reading Carol Dweck’s book about a growth versus a fixed mindset that helped me really recognize a lot of fixed mindset early on in my daughter. On today’s episode I’m teaching what Dweck has discovered through her research and how to talk to your kids in a way that fosters a growth mindset to set them up for confidence and fulfillment. But for the majority of this episode I’m interviewing my 10-year-0ld daughter Macy.
Our brains are really good at noticing what we don’t want, what’s not right, and what we need to stop doing. But the things we focus on are the things we give energy, attention and power to. So if you have a habit you are trying to change, try focusing on what you want to START doing instead of focusing on what you want to STOP doing. This is challenging to figure out in many cases which means it’s no wonder we have a hard time changing course.
I’ve learned so many things as I’ve built this business over the last few years and I want to share it with you to help you achieve the goals you are working towards. I’ve had so much help from mentors, support from family, and divine guidance that I can’t take the credit for, but today I will be sharing the mindsets I have that I believe have allowed me to utilize all of it to help people and reach my goals.
Surprise! It’s a Thanksgiving bonus episode to make sure you get exactly what you want for Christmas or any other time. Check it out and have an awesome holiday.
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I love it when you put a request out and people show up in droves to make it happen. I asked for your help getting Hank Smith on the podcast and you all pulled through. Thanks so much for helping make it happen. I love this conversation with Hank and I know you will too.
Guilt and shame are not useful emotions and not necessary. Everything that happened in the past is exactly how it was supposed to happen. The decisions you made. The events you cherish and the ones you wish you could erase forever. All of it is right on track. In addition, making the best choice you can is important, but there is no wrong choice. You will make it right.
Studies show that 100% of our kids will view pornography by age 18. On episode 111 I talked about some useful ways to think about porn when this happens or if you have a spouse who views it. Today we’re continuing the conversation about this important and sensitive topic. I believe knowledge is power and the more we know about the effects of pornography and useful ways to interact with one another, the more we'll be able to show up as our best, most loving, most capable selves.
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Most people are living their lives unconscious of what is creating their emotions and a portion of this includes mirroring the emotions of others. We get mad that our husbands are mad about something. We worry about our children when they are worried. We feel negative about our sisters’ negativity. This is a tool I use with my clients to gain awareness which is the first step to creating a more peaceful life. When you recognize your brain is just mirroring emotions, you can choose a different emotion.
We have so much knowledge about how to take care of ourselves physically. We teach our kids about nutrition and we understand the value of exercise. We brush our teeth even when we don’t have a toothache. All of this in the name of physical hygiene. But when it comes to our mental and emotional health most people have no idea where to begin with hygiene. Today I’m going to help you get started.
It’s common in a marriage for one person to take a one-up position and the other a one-down. This dynamic can easily get reinforced over time and ultimately causes problems in the marriage. Today I’m taking you on a deeper dive of what each looks like so you can identify where you place yourself in your marriage. Then I’m talking you through the main problems created with this type of inequality in your mind. The goal for each of us should be equality in our marriage.
How do you know if you should have another baby or you’re done? And what if you feel you should have more but your husband is done? How do we know what Heavenly Father wants for us and how can we find peace about such a big decision?
When you’re in an emergency situation your brain knows to laser focus in on what’s happening right here right now. It’s one of the amazing functions of the amygdala. But when we’re in the midst of a trial or challenge, zooming in to have a more short-term focus can be useful.
Circumstances are neutral. Always. Our brains don’t always want to embrace this and often don’t remember it, but it’s still true. Today I’m teaching you three things that prevent us from really understanding this. Number one, we have memorized thought loops that have to be retrained in our brains or the feeling we have about circumstances happens instantly. Secondly, if everyone around us has the same opinion we do about our circumstance, we have a hard time recognizing that all of this is optional.
When we operate from gratitude and abundance, we attract more goodness into our lives. We get to experience the world differently. We get to feel what we desire to feel right here and right now even without anything changing or without having anything different. Today I'm teaching you about appreciation (which I like to utilize to build confidence and recognize my own value which comes from Heavenly Father who created me) as well as gratitude and abundance and how to experience more.
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I have an amazing mom. Seriously. The best. She’s been on my mind a lot lately as she is battling some health issues and my heart is hurting for her. Today I want to share with you 20 things I learned from her so as to share her with all of you and pay tribute to this woman I love.
In the LDS Church we’re counseled to stay away from pornography and taught that it can have a negative impact on relationships and on the home and family. Today I want to teach you more about what goes on in the brain with pornography and my goal is to minimize the damage that pornography can cause in your home and your life if you or someone you love struggles with it.
Last week I did a Q/A call. You showed up and brought amazing questions! I loved answering them from you and wanted everyone who couldn’t be there to benefit from hearing them. It’s the real life application of this work that makes it life altering. Check it out here. Real questions. Real answers.
There are three types of people operating in this world. The first type of person doesn’t realize that they are the cause of all of their emotions and outcomes in life. They believe that outside forces are the reason and they delegate the responsibility to them leaving themselves powerless in their lives. The second type of person doesn’t sit back and remain a victim. Instead they step up and change their circumstances to make things better.
Anxiety is defined as a form of worry, fear or stress but if you’ve ever experienced anxiety, you know it’s much more than that. Anxiety is a secondary emotion and it’s caused by resisting the primary emotion which is likely worry, stress or fear. Today I’m going to teach you what to do with the primary emotion to keep it from escalating. I’m also going to help you know what to do when (despite your best efforts) you find yourself experiencing anxiety anyway.
Dr. Deb Butler is a Master Certified Life and Weight Coach and today she’s sharing with us some of her most valuable tools. First we’ll learn about the hunger scale and why most of us have lost touch with our bodies. When you learn to eat when you’re just slightly hungry and stop when you’re just slightly full, your body will be your guide and you get back in touch with what food should be… fuel for your body.
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There are three types of business. Your business, other people’s business and God’s business. Your brain wants to spend a lot of time in God’s business and even more in other people’s business because it believes that if you can get the things outside of you to do what you want, then you can have the life you want. This is a waste of your mind juice. Today I am going to teach you how to stay in your business and why doing so will give you freedom and peace.
The way you think about money will determine what your result with money looks like in your life. So many people are struggling with the drama of money and today I want to give you some insight to help you gain some leverage on it. Money is neutral. It is just simple math.
This is a question I get asked a lot so I thought today I would answer it for you. If you’re interested in learning more about how to become a Life Coach, OR you’re considering hiring a coach, there are some things I want you to understand and consider.
Judgement never serves us. It’s small minded and fear based and toxic for our Spirits in the long run. Discernment on the other hand is wise and loving and useful to help us feel more love, protect ourselves, and deliberately create the lives we want. Check out today’s episode to minimize judgement and increase discernment.
You know that feeling. Your lip starts quivering and despite your best effort you’re unable to stop the waterworks. Crying is an automated response to intense emotion and it’s a part of our humanness. It’s nothing we need to apologize for. Our natural response is to begin worrying about what other people think or to tell ourselves to stop but neither of these is going to be helpful. Instead, just give yourself a moment. Pause. Breathe. Remind yourself that you are just feeling an emotion intensely.
What makes us feel The Spirit? Is it doing things like reading our scriptures, saying prayers or going to the temple? If we don’t feel it does it mean we aren’t allowing it or that it’s just not there? What if I’m doing all the right things but I’m not feeling close to God? Today I’m going to teach you what creates that feeling and I hope to correct the way we talk and think about this important part of our experience here on Earth.
After working with hundreds of women on improving themselves and their lives I find that there is a lot of confusion about self compassion and self pity. Self pity keeps you stuck and is extremely disempowering and generally leaves us overwhelmed and hopeless. Self compassion on the other hand gets us moving in the right direction, brings us out of hiding and helps us redirect in a useful way.
Did you know that when you take some time to retrain your brain to think loving, kind, compassionate thoughts about yourself, you end up thinking about yourself less often? Today I’m talking to you about choosing your thoughts about yourself on purpose.
Today I’m talking with fellow LDS Life Coach Kim Giles of Clarity Point Coaching. Kim’s teachings were one of the first I discovered when I began my own journey as a coach and I am thrilled to get to share her with you today. We dive into the idea that life is a test and Kim explains that while doctrinally this is correct, in reality life is actually a classroom.
Today I want to reframe the way you think about failure. I want to clear up the misunderstanding most people have about what it is, what causes it and what it means about us and our lives. I also want to talk to you specifically about the question many moms have, "What if I am failing at being a mom?"; I am all for doing better but I want you to make those changes from a place of empowerment rather than from a place of shame.
I’ve got a bonus episode for you today and it’s going to teach you 3 reasons why emotions matter. Listen up and then make sure you sign up for my monthly coaching program Be Bold before June 1st as doors close and we get started mastering emotions on June 2nd.
Let’s face it. Most of us are approval addicts. When other people adore us we give ourselves permission to believe we are worthy of adoration. This is only a problem when someone doesn’t adore us or is mad at us. Today I want to give you some tools and knowledge about why this is a challenge and what to do to find some relief from that tricky part of your brain that wants to tell you that this is a huge problem.
Your marriage is the most prevalent relationship in your life. When you are happy in it, your life feels happy. When it’s difficult, your life feels difficult. Human nature is to believe that what’s preventing happiness in our marriages has to do with how our spouse behaves or feels or treats us. This is never true. It is always up to us what we want to experience and the feelings driving us will create our marriage.
Today I’d like to introduce you to a fellow coach and dear friend of mine Molly Claire. She’s a phenomenal coach and she has some great insight to offer to us about some of the traps we fall into as mothers. With the best of intentions, many parents are not deliberately conscious of what is our responsibility and what is not. We are taking on our kids’ success and emotions in a way that is harmful to us and our children.
I’m so excited to teach you a little bit about Byron Katie and what she calls “The Work.” These four questions followed by turnarounds give you a new perspective on any problem you are facing. Katie is one of the most inspirational and truly peaceful people I’ve observed and I know you will love learning about some of the wisdom she shares.
I’ve pulled some of the questions sent in by listeners and I’m answering them for you on today’s episode. These questions were selected because of the relevance I know they’ll have for so many of you listening. I’ll answer questions such as: “Where should I begin when I need a complete life make-over? How do I deal with the challenge of living with my parents? How do I forgive myself and my Bishop?” and “How do I let go of the need to be in control?”
Today I’m sharing another real coaching call with a real client. Danielle is having trouble maintaining the schedule she outlined for herself and to make matters worse she feels pressure from her husband to do a better job. She’s overwhelmed, feeling guilty and ready to do something about it.
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If you’ve been listening to the podcast you know logically that other people do not have the control over our emotions that we tend to believe they do. But why is it so difficult to remember this? Why does it feel like they absolutely do make us feel things? Today we’re taking a closer look at “difficult people” in particular and I’m giving you some specific examples and concrete steps to try out to minimize the impact of any difficult people in your life.
Today I’m coaching another member of the Be Bold Community. This time Kassie talks to us about the roller coaster many of us know well when it comes to our health and weight. Do I keep trying to lose the weight or do I just be kind and compassionate toward myself and accept my body as is. Listen as I coach her on how to keep working on her goal without creating more shame and overwhelm around this challenging topic.
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Today I’m talking to you about the action that you take in your life. When there is a problem to solve or a goal you want to reach, I’m all for taking action…but first I want you to pay attention to the emotions that are fueling your action. The emotions fueling you will determine how effective your action is and what the result is that you get from that action. I want your fuel to be as empowering as possible. Tune in today for more explanation and specific examples.
We’re told that when we do what we’re commanded, we are blessed. Today I’m sharing with you how the way the human brain functions and what we know about human behavior is a solid case for these blessings being automated when God created us. We’ll talk about scripture study, prayer, forgiveness, service and tithing.
I have 3 reasons why you shouldn’t listen to me and I’m sharing them with you today. I’m also answering the most common questions I’ve been getting about the Be Bold Membership Program since there are just a couple days to get in!
If you’re new to the podcast this is a great first episode to introduce you to this work. These are the 5 lies about how the world works that most people don’t realize are lies. Most people operate under the assumption these things are true and it causes a lot of unnecessary suffering, frustration, resentment and keeps us from reaching our full potential.
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I’m so excited for you to listen to this coaching session. I believe listening to coaching will help you take what you’re learning here on this podcast to the next level. It’s the direct application of this work. Many of you will relate to what April has to say in some way but even if you don't, plug your own struggle in and see if you can gain some awareness for yourself as well.
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Today I’m going to begin by sharing a bit about my journey to becoming a Life Coach. Then we’re going to learn about self-actualization. This term, coined by Abraham Maslow, is one most people have heard of but few understand. Today we’re breaking down the 12 characteristics of a self-actualized person.
Today I’m delighted to welcome back Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We’re talking about how to teach our kids about their sexuality and the law of chastity without inviting shame. Dr. Finlayson-Fife touches on topics such as masturbation and pornography and helps us understand now to navigate these topics with children from babies through teenaged and young adult years. You won’t want to miss this episode.
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Love and hate are powerful emotions. Many of us don’t experience them at their extremes very often. But they have relatives known as like and dislike and many others. Today I’m challenging you to think about what you are creating in the world. Are you creating more love or more hate?
Today I am so thrilled to have Brooke Castillo join me on the podcast to talk about connection in your marriage. Brooke teaches us more about connection and love, what creates them in our minds, and how to feel more of both in our marriages. She explains how to feel whatever you want even if your husband doesn’t do what you wish he would do. Brooke is an amazing teacher and dear friend and I can’t wait for you to hear her thoughts on this topic.
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Your brain thinks that the things that happen in your life should be filtered through the lense, “How does this affect me?” This self interested position is not only unnecessary, it keeps us stuck, inhibits our relationships, limits our parenting and causes many other problems. But when we remember to tell ourselves, “It’s not about you,” we get to live the higher, more fulfilled life we are meant for.
Do you have a goal? I’m not talking about the to do list or the things you wish were habits but aren’t yet. I mean a big, scary goal or a dream. If you believe you will do it someday…I want to help you make that someday be today.
Confidence requires ongoing work. It’s not a checkbox that we’re done with. Today I’m coaching a member from the Be Bold Community on how to quiet the voice in her head that tells her she’s not enough and decide for herself exactly what enough means.
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All of us have moments when we feel like a victim. A part of us finds some relief or validation in identifying this way. But for some people, victim mentality becomes a dominant personality trait leaving them constantly delegating responsibility for their emotional lives to people and things outside of them.
If you describe yourself as someone who avoids conflict and is uncomfortable having a difficult conversation then I have good news for you. You just haven’t been taught the skill of having difficult conversations and I’m going to teach it to you on today’s episode. If you prepare yourself properly and utilize the tips I’m providing you today, then no matter what the outcome of the conversation you will feel good and you will take yourself and your relationships to the next level.
To be vulnerable means to expose your weaknesses in such a way that you risk being harmed. No wonder we don’t like it. We didn’t get this far as a species by being vulnerable. But the truth is allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is how we truly connect with one another and as Brene Brown teaches, connection is what we are here for. Today I'm teaching you more about vulnerability and how to get more comfortable letting your representative take a back seat when it's appropriate.
I’m so excited about this episode. I have some great content for you dealing with why it’s so difficult to change the results in our lives. If you find that you sometimes do better at your health goals or financial goals or being patient with your kids… but then you revert back to your old ways… there is a reason and there is a way to break the cycle. Today I’m teaching you the why and introducing a brand new program for 2017 where we will do the work together to help you conquer yourself.
Ever feel like there isn’t enough time? Like you’re too busy? Like you missed a deadline? Time is like money in that it’s easy to develop a scarcity mindset around. But being in a rush and worrying about what comes next robs us of enjoying the present moment and living our fullest lives.
Do you have that voice in your head that cares about what other people think? Ever wish you didn’t? Well, the truth is it’s human nature and not caring at all isn’t actually healthy. It’s the part of you that makes you compassionate, empathetic and kind. Today I'm giving you some scenarios to consider and teaching you how to quiet that voice and feel more confident.
You guys. Are you ready for this? Today I’m coaching a real live client. A fantastic, amazing woman who wants to find herself. She struggles with feeling like her husband has expectations of her and we do some great work here helping her see that what she believes is the problem is of course not the problem at all. Check this out and see if you can relate to any of what this woman is going through.
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This is the final episode in the clean parenting series and it’s packed with goodness. As a parent, you are a leader and good leadership skills can help create the results you want in your home and your family. Utilizing these tools contributes to the type of home and family life you desire. On this episode I’m first going to each you about servant leadership. Then I’m going to give you a suggestion you can use in Family Home Evening or Family Council around defining values.
Today I’m taking a break from the Clean Parenting Series (which will be back next week) in order to talk about the 2016 Presidential Election results. More specifically, I want to talk about what you’re feeling and how to manage your emotions through this process. Then I have some questions sent in by listeners that I want to answer today.
Our children are here on earth to experience an entire range of emotions and as parents it can be heartbreaking to watch. But for your child (and for yourself) resisting emotion actually feels much worse than just allowing and processing it. Most of us were taught to resist it as children and when we try to talk our kids out of feeling bad we're passing on that same harmful message. Today I'm teaching you how to help them process it at any age in the hopes you will give your children this gift.
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You’ve heard of clean eating and how good it is for your body. Getting rid of toxins and chemicals and all the things that are not natural or good for us in the end? Clean parenting is how you get rid of the dirty pain that is keeping you from showing up how you really want to for your family.
Gretchen Rubin says “outer order contributes to inner calm,” and if you find that keeping your house clean and orderly is a challenge, today’s episode is for you. Jessica Bennett is the founder and co-owner (along with her husband) of Alice Lane Home. Today she talks to us about how to create a space that we love and that loves us back. Creating an interior space that contributes to your lifestyle and is elegant to you, sends a message to yourself about your value.
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Our energy is like time or money in that it is in limited supply at any given time and it's something I want you to consider using wisely and investing to get a return on when you can. Many of us don't pay attention to where we are putting our energy and this lack of intention will not always create the life and feelings you want to have.
We all have interactions and events in our lives that help mold and shape us in profound ways. Sometimes they affect us in positive, empowering ways and sometimes they impact us negatively and keep us from progressing and feeling confident about ourselves and our world. I call these turning points. Turning points usually have a significant amount of emotion attached and cause us to realize that something we thought was true isn’t or to consider something we never had before.
Sometimes we’re grateful that other people are good at things we’re not good at. Other times we wonder why everyone isn’t like us and at times we even find it very annoying and inconvenient. But we are all different and of course this is a good thing.
Sometimes it’s hard to say no but failing to do so can lead to a life that is less than authentic. In fact it’s living in dishonesty or at the least without full integrity for yourself and others. There is no room in your life or mine for this.
If you haven’t heard Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s message before you are in for a real treat. On today’s episode I interview her and she talks to us about our sexuality in the context of our religious beliefs. She offers useful advice about how to best teach children about their sexuality and the law of chastity without shaming or creating potential problems later in life. We discuss pornography, what to do if you are married and feeling a lack of desire, and other insight related to this topic.
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Do you consume more than you create? We consume thing like food, clothing, housewares, electronics, information, entertainment, social media and much more. A part of you desires to contribute something in the world in order to give a part of yourself and feel connected to the greater whole.
In today’s episode I’m providing you with an introduction to the 4 main concepts I’ll be teaching in greater detail in the Up Level Your Marriage Coaching Class. The class begins Oct 19th and will include lecture from me as well as coaching so you can get help applying them to yourself or learning them to better help others. You can attend the class on your own or with your spouse (who is free with your enrollment).
Failure. Most of us are afraid of it. Most of us have spent much of our lives avoiding or even running from it. Today we’ll explore and de-bunk the main reasons why it feels so scary including that it triggers both of our core fears. We’ll also take a look at how failure only lies in your definition of success and in fact the opposite of failure is not success, but perseverance. But what if you understood that failure lives in the same neighborhood as success?
This week in Take Tuesday I sent out a message asking, “why?” I wanted to know why you’re thinking of your life as overwhelming and unfair and hard. We describe our lives this way as though we are just stating facts but the truth is all of it is the story we are telling ourselves and that story becomes our reality. Why would you want your reality to be so full of suffering and so lacking in joy?
Homework. Kids hate it. Teachers probably hate it. Most parents I know hate it. But whether or not we agree, it looks like most schools are going to keep offering homework. Given that, there are 3 valuable lessons your kids can learn from homework and they have nothing to do with Math or Spelling. Homework provides a perfect scenario to teach them that they don't "have" to do anything. Secondly it allows them to learn time management.
When Your Faith is Wavering To have faith is to choose to think thoughts that will never be proven in this lifetime. We think about faith in a religious context but there are actually many things we have faith in every day. If you are a logical, analytical thinker your mind will naturally want to see how things add up. If you are a more organic, creative thinker faith might come easier.
We all grow up hoping for happily ever after but knowing that life is full of challenges and unexpected turns. When your husband decides he no longer believes in the religion you both have practiced, it can be an all-consuming challenge that can wreck havoc on your marriage, your confidence, and the dynamic in your home. OR, it can be a way to provide your children an amazing opportunity, a chance to truly discover who you are and an opportunity to connect.
I asked if you had any questions I could answer and you showed up in full force. One of many reasons I love you. Today I'm answering questions about everything from how to love your post-baby body to how to keep the intimacy alive in your marriage.
What does it mean to "find yourself" and is that a worthy endeavor or just an excuse people use for otherwise unusual behavior? This episode is all about why knowing yourself is an important part of intentional living and some simple exercises you can try if you want to know yourself better.
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Everything you feel that is keeping you stuck is based on one of the two core fears I'm going to teach you about today. All bad behavior from yourself or other people is rooted in these same two core fears. The first is the fear of unworthiness and the second is the fear of missing out.
You don’t want to yell at your kids because you don’t like being “that mom” and you also don’t believe it’s good for them in the long run. But sometimes you just lose your patience and some days it’s harder than others. There is a reason for this. It’s your lower brain. Your lower brain memorizes behaviors, thoughts and feelings and repeats them. It’s concerned with immediate survival and helping you get more of what is pleasurable and avoid what is painful.
This episode comes in response to questions from listeners about how to connect more deeply with other and how to feel comfortable when you're new and feeling excluded. It's human nature to want to be liked and noticed. But when we operate from a place of needing to be liked we open ourselves up to rejection and are less than authentic which is not an attractive trait.
I'm sharing some insight about stress, hunger, and fatigue. Ever wonder if some of it is just in your mind? Or all of it? What is the difference? When you understand the difference between sensations and emotions (even when they feel the same) you'll know how to find a remedy that truly addresses the cause of your problem. Failing to recognize the true problem means your remedy is only a distraction and might have adverse consequences like weight gain, lack of motivation or inability to find solutions.
As human beings we all have needs and we all have wants. There is nothing selfish or wrong with any of it. But many of us feel our wants and needs just happen to us and we believe that if people and things outside of us changed, we would have those desires fulfilled. I have found tremendous peace in realizing I can want things without needing them. Especially when it comes to other people's behaviors. Wanting and needing are not the same thing and your desires are within your control.
Today I'm introducing you to Lindsay Peterson, one of my beloved clients. Lindsay shares her insight with you and the changes she's experienced as she's applied the tools of intentional thinking and emotional management. Take a listen as you can probably relate to what she is going though. Beware. You might fall in love with her as I have. If you have any questions or want to reach out to her you can find her at email@example.com.
We talk about "mommy guilt" like it's just something that comes with the role of being a mom. But it's not. It's not necessary and it's not helpful. It doesn't allow inspiration to find you. It keeps you blocked and frustrated and disconnected. Today I break down why it's a prevalent problem and help you think about it differently.
We're here to be tested. Or are we? Didn't we all fail the test right away? There is no passing of the test. That's why I like to think about it differently. If you're not sure what a Mastermind is, neither was I until recently but check out today's episode and see if you agree with me. This life is a mastermind, not a test.
This is not a typical podcast episode. It's a talk I recorded especially for the young women of the Saint George 5th ward who will be listening to this under the starts at Girls Camp in a few weeks. I love sharing this message with youth and only wish I could be there in person. Have a lovely week girls and I'm hoping putting this out on iTunes will give some other youth a chance to hear it as well.
"I just want my husband to be happy." This sounds good and innocent and selfless. And sometimes it is. But many times it causes more problems for us (and our husbands) than we might realize. But never fear. I have some solutions for you today. Tune in to learn about the steps you can go through to get to the place where you will find peace which is, "I want him to be happy but I don't need him to be happy." Seriously. Amazing.
Hey there stay at home mom and others. Are you exhausted? Is there one big reason why or is it a bunch of little things that are hard to identify and even tougher to change? The way most people go about making decisions adds a tremendous amount of exhaustion and self doubt. In today's episode I'll explain some alternative ways to make decisions. Even the big ones.
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Emotions can be like a pebble dropped in the water and there is a ripple effect. Sometimes in life we need to feel sad or disappointed or bad in some way. But many times we layer additional negative emotions to them that keep us stuck. Anger, resistance, worry and guilt are secondary emotions that we invite when we don't pay attention. Today I'll talk to you about this cycle and how to stop getting stuck in it.
Today I'm answering questions sent in by 4 of my listeners. They are questions I picked because I know they will benefit all of you. First I'll address what I mean when I say to, "clean up your thinking." Then I'll talk more about holding the space and helping friends and children with these tools. Next is a question centered around Mormon doctrine and I'll end with help on dealing with a difficult manager or person in your life. Don't forget to send me YOUR question for next time.
I never give parenting advice. Usually. Ok sometimes I do. Today I am. Kids are very open to this work because they aren't so hard wired. They are still developing belief systems and they are highly influenced by you. Today I'm giving you 5 areas to think about so you can be intentional in the beliefs you offer to your kids. You won't want to miss this one.
Worry much? Wanna know why? Worry is one emotion that is never helpful and never necessary. Many people tell me they don't want to worry but they feel they can't help it. In this episode, we'll break down what worry is exactly and what causes it. This awareness alone will begin to change things for you. Then I have a few things you can try out the next time you find yourself worrying about anything.
Once you discover the thoughts that are keeping you stuck, you’re going to want to swap them out for more empowering ones. Today I’m sharing 27 empowering things I believe. Every one of them has changed my life for the better. Try some on. See how they fit. Then send me some of your own.
Today’s episode address an issue that was sent in by a listener who was treated really unkindly by someone else. It’s an example I know you’ll be able to relate to if you have ever encountered someone in your life who is difficult. Check it out and if you have an issue of your own you want to hear about, send it in to firstname.lastname@example.org
Even understanding that we can't please everyone all of the time doesn't stop most of us from trying to. Being liked and approved of feels good. What you may not realize is that living this way can be very harmful and ultimately won't create the life you want. Tune in to this episode to better understand why and how to break the habit.
Nobody on planet Earth is exempt from needing the Atonement. But sometimes the way we think about Repentence and Godly Sorrow makes us feel like there is something terribly wrong with us. I don't believe that's what God wants us to feel. I think it's the opposite. Tune in to find out what I believe Godly sorrow really is and why it's an empowering and loving way to trust His plan.
You guys. I’m talking Science today. I know… that’s not like me right? If you like Science then you’re welcome but even if you don’t, check this one out. This is not typical Science. This is the Science of your mind, your personality, and your life. Good stuff. Trust me.
Joe Dispenza talks about finding the space between intention and surrender. It's not an exact science, but once you start to recognize which one comes easier to you and shoot for the middle, you catch a glimpse of the ability you have to create any result you want. Tune in to this episode and I'll show you what I mean.
Enjoy the journey. We hear it. We say it. What does it mean exactly? What is the journey supposed to look like? And if it's not enjoyable does that mean I'm on the wrong path? Why is it so hard and when will it get easier? Understanding a bit about human behavior when it comes to learning a new skill or taking on a project or challenge, you can find the inspiration and meaning in the journey and the journey truly does become more than the destination. Today's episode will teach you the 4 steps. Let's do it.
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Today I'm talking about conquering indecision. Fearing there is a wrong choice keeps us from taking much of the action we want to take in our lives and misleads us into believing that our happiness is dependent on making the right choice. In the end we can't possibly predict even the majority of the challenges or rewards that will be triggered by any decision but the good news is we don't have to.
This week I'm talking about love in a way you've never heard before. First we'll explore how to be more lovable and more likable. Then we'll talk about how to love other people...yes...even the ones who seem unloveable. Even better, I'll explain to you WHY I highly recommend you allow yourself to feel love. You won't want to miss this one if you want to have more friends, and less angst around the people who challenge you.
Perfectionism is not the same as doing your very best. It is not the same as striving for more and better. Instead, it is a means by which we deprive ourselves of feelings of satisfaction, fulfillment and pride. Rather than having a realistic gauge of what is good and complete, we fixate on what is missing or wrong and it can impact so many areas of our lives. In today's episodes we'll explore some possible causes and as always, some things you can try at home to loosen your perfectionist tendencies.
When your beliefs make you unique and you tend to associate with people who share your values, the culture becomes strong and sometimes we don't pause to consider the difference between culture and doctrine. Other times we use the culture to remain in a place of spiritual immaturity. This episode will illustrate examples and teach you how to break this cycle.
Sometimes I remind myself that nothing is truly "hard" unless I choose to believe that. But other times this causes conflict and chatter in my head that distracts me from reaching my goal so I just give in to the thought it is hard. But the good news is I can do hard things and doing the hard work minimizes the harder and hardest. Listen to this episode and you'll see what I mean.
Before you set goals or resolutions, think about what your focus will be for 2016. Having a word or a short phrase can be the simple re-direction that will ensure you are taking your life in the exact direction you want. This episode will explain why having the right focus will create the results you want, and give you a head start on choosing yours as you dive into the new year.
Ever wonder why one day you feel committed to do (or stop doing) something and the next day it's so easy not to follow through? Today's episode sheds some light on what's going on, highlights just how harmful this cycle can be, and provides some simple ways to end it. Why not make this the year you find more discipline, more follow through and more joy. Come on mama. Let's do it.
Today you’ll get some insight about why change, whether we invited it or not, causes so much overwhelm and frustration for many of us and what to do about it. You’ll also get some insight from Gretchen Rubin about how to utilize change to create better habits and routines for yourself.
When someone comes to you with bad news, what is the appropriate thing to say? Or when you can see how a friend is keeping herself stuck, how can you help her? And what if it's your kids? Well, good news. You're probably already doing it right. Tune in to today's episode to find out why.
When you think about the future what do you think about? Or do you find yourself defining who you are and what you're capable of by evidence from your past? The future is yours for the taking and accessing it can help you create a life you love. Find out more on today's episode all about the future.
This week I talk about the present, why it is the only thing that is real, and how to experience it more fully. When we are able to be in the moment, we literally experience life more fully. It's powerful work and if sounds good but you're not sure how to actually do it, this is the episode for you.
Whether you've been through something really traumatic or had a blessed life, the things that happened in our past affect us. But only if we choose to allow them to. On today's podcast I'll teach you how to honor yourself and to take back your confidence regardless of what has happened or what you've done in the past.
If you liked Episode #5 about dealing with difficult family members, this episode will take you to the next level. We’ll talk about when to eliminate people from your life, when to set boundaries, and how to do all of it with love, respect and authenticity for yourself and other people. You can do this.
"I don't know" seems so innocent and feels like a fact when in reality it is only a thought. Everything is figureoutable and there is no wrong choice. What if you made decisions and sought answers from that belief? In today's episode I'll give you some ways to tap into it and begin feeling confident about yourself, your life experience and your decisions.
All of us understand that being our kids' mom is the most important job we'll have on this planet. At the same time we know we'll never be perfect, so how do you gauge how you're doing? On this episode we'll talk about the importance of defining it for yourself, the power of diversifying where you receive validation from, and we'll wrap up talking about tantrums from kids (and adults) of all ages. Go get um' mama. You've got this.
True self care is much more than a girl's night out or a break from your routine. It's a consistent practice and it is critical to your mental and emotional health. It's not only the best gift you can give your kids, it's your responsibility. In this episode you'll get a different perspective on it and tips you've probably never heard before. Check it out. You deserve it.
In this episode we explore why worry shows up for all of us. While it feels like a protective mechanism, in most instances it is preventing us from having our best lives and best results. Learn 4 simple things you can do to minimize it by clicking play on this episode.
In today’s episode you’ll learn all about boundaries and how to set them in a way that feels good. When used properly, boundaries create more love and less resentment in our lives. If you know this cognitively but struggle to use boundaries effectively, take a listen.
You know that one person who you wish would just stop doing what they do or start doing what you think they should be doing? Maybe it’s your mother-in-law or your husband or your brother. Well, I have great news for you. Press play and find out what it is.
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You know those things you do really well at until you fall off the bandwagon and then you’re back to where you started? In today’s episode I’ll teach you why and how to end that cycle for good.
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