BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

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175: You’re Not Lazy. You’re Exhausted From Proving Yourself. Jul 26, 2026

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Busy is not a badge of honour. It is a trap. And if you are reading this while doing three other things, this episode is specifically for you.

In this episode, Margarita makes a full unapologetic case for laziness. Why the pressure on women to be endlessly productive is not ambition. It is performance. And it is running you into the ground.

We talk about why your body is not a machine, why the 9 to 5 was literally built around male hormones and not yours, why productivity can become a sneaky way of avoiding yourself, and why the women who are actually winning are the ones who know when to stop.

In this episode:

Why a busy woman is not always a good woman

Why laziness and efficiency are a lot closer than you think

Why productivity can become a way of avoiding yourself

Why your 28 day cycle means the 9 to 5 was never built for you

Why nature does not rush and neither should you

Why women carry two shifts and still get called lazy

The difference between performative busyness and productive ambition

Why slower is not smaller and your ambition is yours to define

If you have ever felt guilty for resting, constantly busy but not actually going anywhere, or like you are performing productivity

rather than actually creating, this one is for you. Lazy cow.

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174: You Need To Risk Being Disliked Jul 19, 2026

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THE SELFISH RESET — Live Call with Margarita Aug 13

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They taught you that being mean would get you ostracised. They taught you that having boundaries made you difficult. They taught you that disappointing people made you a bad person.

They were wrong.

In this episode, Margarita breaks down why the fear of being called mean is keeping you stuck, small, and silently resentful and why direct, honest, boundaried women aren't mean at all.

They're just no longer convenient.

In this episode:

1. Causing discomfort is not the same as causing harm

2. Mean usually just means you're no longer convenient

3. Niceness without limits becomes unpaid labour

4. Nice girls use niceness to control how people see them

5. Over explaining is fear dressed as communication

6. Women who avoid being mean often become it anyway, through resentment

7. Anger is not a flaw it's a service announcement

8. Kindness without limits becomes slavery

9. The difference between power and cruelty

10. Freedom means you will eventually disappoint someone, choose whose

If you've ever said yes when you meant no and then resented it, over explained yourself just to be liked, or become passive aggressive without meaning to.. this episode is for you.

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173: Why Vain Women Win Jul 12, 2026

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They told you vanity was shallow.

They told you caring about how you look made you stupid.

They told you self beautification was selfish and vain and bad.

They were afraid of what would happen if you started liking yourself.

In this episode, Margarita breaks down the truth about beauty, vanity and self adornment, why it's never been about men, why it's one of the most powerful things a woman can do, and why the women who invest in themselves get more of everything.

In this episode:

1. Everyone cares what they look like, drop the pretense

2. Pretty privilege is real — use it strategically

3. Looking good changes how you behave, and that changes everything

4. The word bimbo was invented to keep you from investing in yourself

5. Vanity is self investment and self sacrifice is not love

6. Your appearance is your first communication

7. If you're a mother, being vain is your duty

8. Vanity and self hatred are completely different things

9. To be desired, you have to desire yourself first

10. Beauty and youth are temporary. Self adornment doesn't have to be

If you've ever felt guilty for caring how you look, disconnected from your femininity, or like you're waiting to glow up after something

instead of right now, this episode is for you.

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172: Selfish Girl Blueprint: Stop Being Nice and Get The Life You Want Jul 05, 2026

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Your nice girl personality has got you this far. But it's also why you're exhausted, resentful, and running on empty.

In this episode, Margarita breaks down why selfishness isn't a flaw it's the missing ingredient keeping you from the life you actually want.

– Nice girls abandon themselves before anyone else can

– The world rewards agreeable women until it doesn't

– Selfless women become resentful — and it poisons everything

– People don't respect women who don't respect themselves

– Being needed is not the same as being loved

– Stop auditioning — you already have the role

– Selfish women ask for more and get more

– Boundaries don't lose good people — they expose bad ones

– Stop managing everyone else's emotions

– Every successful woman disappoints someone

– Selfish women actually give more — that's the paradox

– Becoming your own favourite person

If you've ever felt like you give everything and still feel invisible, resentful but unable to explain why, or like your whole identity is

built around being useful — this episode is for you.

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171: How to Deal With Jealous People Jun 28, 2026

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Not everyone in your life is going to like you. Your mother in law. Your colleagues. People online. And the harder you try to convince them otherwise, the worse it gets.

In this episode, Margarita breaks down exactly what to do when you're surrounded by people who don't like you, are jealous of you, or quietly resent you and why trying to be "enough" for them will never work.

In this episode:

— Stop trying to convince people who've already decided who you are

— Jealousy is usually not about you, it's about them

— Not everyone deserves access to you

— Never shrink yourself to make others comfortable

— Success reveals people

— The opposite of jealousy is inspiration

— Never complain, never explain

— You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to

— Stop making peace your responsibility alone

If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to explain yourself to people who won't listen, or like your success makes certain people uncomfortable this episode is for you.

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170: Why Selfish Women Get The Life You Want Jun 21, 2026

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You were taught that selfishness is a bad word for a woman to be.

Margarita disagrees and she's about to prove it.

In this episode, Margarita breaks down why selfishness is the missing ingredient in your manifestation, your relationships, your boundaries, and your life and why self-sacrifice has been quietly running you dry.

05:46 – #1: Selfish women ask for what they want

08:04 – #2: Selfish women don't volunteer for self sacrifice

10:23 – #3: Selfish women are not afraid to disappoint people

12:11 – #4: Selfish women spend money on themselves

14:56 – #5: Selfish women protect their energy

16:24 – #6: Selfish women have higher standards

17:39 – #7: Selfish women understand the irony of life

If you've ever felt depleted from doing everything for everyone, resentful in your relationships but unable to say why, or afraid to

ask for what you actually want this episode is for you.

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169: 7 Things Unbothered Women Never Do Jun 14, 2026

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Chasing clarity from someone who won't give it to you?

That's just begging with extra steps.

In this episode, Margarita breaks down the 7 things unbothered women never do — the habits, patterns, and behaviours that keep you stuck, small, and auditioning for a life that should already be yours.

02:38 – #1: They never chase clarity (it's just begging)

08:16 – #2: They never make men the centre of their lives

11:37 – #3: They never audition for love

13:18 – #4: They never let anxiety make decisions

16:43 – #5: They never confuse being chosen for being valuable

18:26 – #6: They never over function

21:28 – #7: The unbothered mindset — I want this, not I need this

If you've ever felt anxious, overlooked, and exhausted in love and life, this episode is going to hit.

Because an unbothered woman isn't a woman who cares less. She's a woman who trusts herself more.

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168: From Anxious to Unbothered Jun 07, 2026

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Unbothered is no longer just a word. It's a book. It's a movement. It's on morning TV. And honestly? It's blowing my mind.

In this episode, Margarita takes you behind the scenes of the Unbothered book launch and answers the questions from her sold-out book signing event — so whether you're in America, Lithuania, or Uganda, you're in the room.

We get into what being unbothered actually looks like in real life, how the detachment movement started, the two characters at the heart of the book, why self sacrifice will never get you the love you're looking for, and what it means to truly be seen rather than just advised.

Plus the story of recording an audiobook with a newborn, why intimacy will always beat a studio setup, and what is coming next including a US trip that may or may not be happening.

This episode is for everyone who wanted a seat at the book signing but couldn't get one. Consider this your invite.

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167: 10 Unhinged Truths I Wish I Knew In My 20s May 31, 2026

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Your 20s are one of the most psychologically violent decades of your life. You're insecure but pretending you're not. You think every decision is permanent. You think everyone else has it figured out.

They don't.

In this episode, Margarita shares 10 unhinged truths she genuinely wishes she knew earlier.. the ones that would have saved her years of being extremely bothered. Because nobody sat you down and told you the truth.

So here it is.

This episode covers the 10 truths nobody told you in your 20s from why your anxiety is lying to you, to why your next glow up has nothing to do with your appearance, and everything to do with your nervous system.

Plus Margarita answers your voice messages on how many kids to have, what to do when your partner hasn't worked in years, and how to stay grounded when the people in your life are used to you putting them first.

If you've ever felt like everyone else had a manual you never received, stuck in anxiety you mistook for intuition, afraid of aging, being alone, or starting over, or like you've been living for everyone except yourself — this one is for you.

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166: How To Be A Mother Without Losing Yourself, Your Femininity, Or Your Ambition May 24, 2026

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Have you ever quietly wondered if motherhood means losing yourself?

Your identity, ambition, femininity, relationship, peace, dreams.

In this deeply honest episode, we're talking about motherhood, mum guilt, burnout, identity loss, feminine energy, ambition, relationships after kids, and how to raise children without completely abandoning yourself in the process.

Because somewhere along the way, women were sold the idea that being a "good mother" means self-sacrifice, exhaustion, over-functioning, and quietly disappearing.

I disagree.

In this episode, I'm sharing my honest thoughts on:

- how to be a present mother without losing your identity

- mum guilt and why it can quietly run your life

- balancing motherhood, business, ambition, and family

- feminine energy after children

- why burnout is not a badge of honour

- over-functioning, resentment, and emotional exhaustion

- relationships after children and why standards matter more, not less

- asking for help, support systems, and why support is not failure

- how to stay connected to yourself while raising young children

- why your children benefit from a mother who is emotionally regulated,

fulfilled, and alive

If you've ever felt overwhelmed as a mother, guilty for wanting more, scared of losing yourself after kids, emotionally exhausted from doing everything, anxious about balancing motherhood and ambition, or like becoming a mother meant losing the woman you used to be.. this episode is for you.

Motherhood should expand you. Not erase you.

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