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The One Where We Bridge The Divide Oct 20, 2021

It is tough times. This podcast is full of suggestions on how we can lift where we stand to better our life and the lives of those around you.

The one where we parent like grandparents May 31, 2021

The one where we parent like grandparents! We can learn a lot from the energy and lack of judgement that good and loving grandparents use. (Of course, I am speaking about my grandparents, and other grandparents who are good, kind, patient and loving).
No wonder people love being grandparents and wish they could have skipped right to that part, they are not so concerned and panicked over the outcome. They have the wisdom to know that everyone has a journey. I am taking a look at what mindset grandparents have and how we can infuse some of that vibe (I say vibe WAY too much in this episode) into our parenting now. I hope some of this podcast helps you today!
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The one where we prevent burnout, if we can. May 06, 2021

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This episode teaches the signs of burnout and what we can do to turn the ship around!
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The one where we can tolerate tantrums Apr 13, 2021

Tantrums! They stress parents out! I have good news! They are normal!
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The one where the mom's needs matter Mar 12, 2021

A few weeks ago I was criticized for taking a 24-hour break to myself at a hotel. So this time I took a 48-hour break. Please, women, support yourself in the ways that you need to. Our society is not set up well to support its women and moms. Only YOU know what you need as a mother. Take breaks BEFORE you crumble if possible. THIS is self-care. I find it so awful how AFTER we hear about a heartbreaking situation of a mom's suffering, we all say "we wish we knew." And yet, when that same mom is trying to take a break or get help, she is likely and often shamed.
It was so interesting to me to watch women’s discomfort with me taking time for myself. What does that tell us? Typically that type of reaction means women want this for themselves.

I refuse to just survive in my life, I want to thrive.

When I am burning out, it is a sign of unmet needs. I really don’t need to worry too much about how it happened or where to place blame, rather, I choose to take action. I am really honest with myself. I see myself getting more tired, snippy, and overall lacking a desire to be in my own life. These are messages to me that I am struggling.

I am not interested in hanging by a thread and then lashing out. I am interested in being mature and being in charge of how I show up in the world.
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The one where we dont solve other people's moods Feb 12, 2021

Let’s discuss the moody kid who brings up for us all kind of feelings of disrespect or overwhelm or despair:
Repeat after me this mantra:
this child’s mood is not mine to solve.
While connection is the goal, NO relationship is connected at all times. How would that be possible when we are human beings with moods and hormones and stress?
Relationships have an ebb and flow - that’s is real life chock-full of real emotion. We can both hold the goal AND hold space for our (& our child’s) struggle.
In moments of struggle where you can’t get to compassion or connection - go neutral.
Honestly, sometimes your child just needs their mood & to work through it and you can simply go and get on with your day. We forget that kids have moods and hard days like we do! Ideally, you show some compassion:
Theirs are theirs to learn from and experience.
We need to worry less about changing their mood and more about helping them navigate it and allowing their feelings!
Stay in the row boat and out of the muddy pond (see -my parenting course!). Remember-two people stuck in a muddy pond is not useful.
Go neutral.
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The one where we start to empower our thinking Jan 30, 2021

It is so easy to be stuck right now. I get it! I am feeling it so much. I also wanted to share with you about pain. Clean pain and dirty pain. The cleansing waterfall of pain that we need and want to go through, VS the muddy pond of pain that we cause ourselves by getting "stuck" in our feelings. One is cleansing and healing, one is a pit of misery and stuckness. I hope this episode helps move you into the healing and cleansing pain again if you have been feeling stuck in the misery of the muddy pond as I have been.
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The one where we let the children FEEL Dec 17, 2020

Building emotional skills in our kids will make them more brave, resilient and able to cope! However, many of us were not taught or modelled these skills of emotional intelligence and so, we can find ourselves really in the trenches while we parent.
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THIS podcast episode also TEACHES you how to be with your child in their emotion. You will learn how your voice can sound. What words to use. How to name it to tame it. What happens if you label their emotion incorrectly. Why leading with the naming of the emotion and empathy HELPS your child gain emotional intelligence. HOW they can ACTUALLY feel the emotion. Not fluff, but rather HOW I teach my kids where and how to find the feeling in their body.
This is one not to miss! Go listen now and as always, SCREENSHOT and share for others to find it!

The one where WE bring the love Dec 05, 2020

What if WE can change our whole experience in life by being the person who brings the love. How much "control" would that give us? How could we influence a room, a family, a community for the better? Even if it ONLY changed how WE experience our own life and experiences, wouldn't that be amazing? To be the person who brings "the love" to a situation? Maybe it's what the world needs. We have enough people maybe who are being divisive and contentious, maybe we need a few more people who are bringing the love.
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**The one where we stop causing ourselves pain!** Nov 28, 2020
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We all want to experience happiness in parenthood, but sometimes, the truth is, it can feel so far away.
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The one where we don't control others Nov 16, 2020

I received a question from someone whose partner reacts in large dramatic ways and tries to draw the other partner into arguments. This isn’t easy and navigating this takes emotional maturity. If you have a partner who is emotionally immature often, absolutely that is a struggle. It will feel a lot like navigating a relationship with a child or teen. I don't say that with judgement, I simply say that to empower you to know that the same tools I teach in my parenting course apply. The question (after an explanation) was “how do we deal with someone else's big emotions?”

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The one where we ask WHO do we want to be right now? Nov 12, 2020

Who do you want to be in the world right now? How do you want to show up in relationships? WHO do you want to be as a parent?
How to show up for yourself and be in alignment is discussed in this episode. The world is in a LOT of tension and turmoil and it can absolutely be more difficult to feel light and breezy and joyfilled. It in fact, can be VERY easy to feel heavy and sad! Our brains are worried about what is next. This episode is meant to take your hand and show you the way out of the dirty sinking pond of hopelessness (that I feel somewhat in too!) to a place of CHOOSING who we want to be and how we want to show up.
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The one where we deal with our parents Oct 16, 2020

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This episode is all about how to navigate that world in between how WE want to parent (more connected, less critical) and how we may have been parented (harshly, critically). Some of you have written to me that your parents call your children "fat" or "brats" or will spank or hit your parents and have asked how to deal with that. Some of you have asked for help on how to ask your parents to just take a little step back. I hope this episode helps you look to the good in your parents ALL WHILE setting boundaries in love. It is worth a listen if you have ever struggled as a parent WITH your parents.

The one where we deal with the buttheads Oct 03, 2020

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This episode is all about difficult people and how do we even deal with them?? How can WE stay in our power? What can WE learn? How can we cope and thrive within these more difficult relationships? I already know this will be a popular episode and a "must listen" because guess what? We ALL struggle with someone. Please share this with friends and let's help one another co-exist in peace!
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The one where we have space for backslide Sep 26, 2020

Is it possible that we can KNOW how we want to act, and yet, still struggle at times to show up that way? Is that allowed? Can we meet that place with heaps of self-compassion?! A large part of being able to accept that we are humans who sometimes ride the struggle bus is understanding WHAT our brains do during times of stress which contribute to us showing up a bit frazzled. This episode will meet you where you are at and remind you that it is okay to struggle during times of uncertainty and transition and that, when we stop judging ourselves, we can get through our stretchy-growy times with more ease through acceptance. This episode will bring a LOT of relief if you are struggling!
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The one where we start to feel the feelings Sep 19, 2020

We are scared to feel our feelings because of two reasons

We weren't allowed to in our childhood or two
We are scared to because what we think feeling our feelings looks like is an outburst, rage, yelling, and swearing. That isn’t feeling, that is reacting.

Because what was modeled for us was reacting to our feelings, we think that is the same as feeling them and we don’t want to go there. Reacting to our feelings in a huge outburst is almost always a release of a big pile of repressed feelings.

When our feelings are denied in childhood, in adulthood we lose the ability to recognize our needs and meet them. Then we get resentful, lash out, and blame others. Or we internalize it all and it manifests as guilt, shame, and struggling. Most people whose feelings were dismissed as a child feel, to one extent or another, unlovable now. Or that one part of them is unloveable or shameful.
To learn more about how to feel our feelings, check out this episode!
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The one where we discuss anxiety Sep 13, 2020

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This episode talks about anxiety. About how it IS our brain's job to keep us safe and how resisting anxiety makes it so much worse. How anxiety always tells us 3 lies that we should consider pushing back against:
1. The worst is going to happen.
2. You can’t handle it.
3. This will last forever
Because anxiety can cause flightly feelings in our body, we often want to get rid of the anxiety - because we cannot tolerate the FEELING in our body. We resist the physiological feelings because no one has taught us how to allow them and breathe THROUGH them. However, the resistance often feels worse than just feeling, allowing, and processing the anxiety in your body. Much MORE info on this in the podcast. You can find my podcast (Behold the Connection) where most podcasts are hosted and yes, on iTunes! Leave me an awesome review!

The one where we love ourselves in struggle Aug 27, 2020

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This podcast episode is about loving ourselves through tough times, tough thoughts and honoring our feelings. Most of us were raised to shove our feelings down and "power on". While that doesn't work in the long term, and lends itself to buffering (abusing or turning to distractions) it also doesn't create emotional growth. Emotional growth and resiliency is in allowing yourself to be a human being and not a robot, ALL WHILE knowing that we can create a different outcome with our thoughts. Oftentimes we are so busy judging ourselves for how we feel, that we don't ever process our feelings and move past them into a new space. But what if we allowed it all? What if we allowed the full human experience?

The one where we say "so what" to our brain. Aug 16, 2020

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This podcast focuses on relationships (marriage) where our brains like to make mountains out of molehills. Our brains like to be right and cause drama. Our brains want us to look at everything from every angle to assess for emotional or physical danger. But for those small things in life where our partner, being human, disappoints us, can we lean into the phrase "so what?". Have a listen to see how this has served me so well in both honoring my feelings and managing my mind.

The one where not everything is a panic Aug 08, 2020

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This episode is all about how our brains want to give us a level 10 in panic about everything ALL the time. Thankfully, with practice, logic, and intention we can override the constant "you are going to die" or "you are going to fail" or "this is too hard" thoughts that our brain offers us. On the other side of panic is peace and confidence and assurance. Even when things are unknown, we can lean into our resiliency, strength, and confidence that WE CAN HANDLE new and unknown things. I can and you can too. Often times the bark is worse than the bite when we are really in things. We waste so much time stressing and worrying about unknowns, when really - we can handle whatever comes up. We've got this. I share a personal story on this episode and I hope it helps you!
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The one where we control what we can (& only that!) Jul 29, 2020

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In this episode I talk about how, whether its marriage or kids or schools going back open in a virus (or not going back- depending on where you live) we really should focus our energy and efforts on what we CAN control. Trying to control others is absolutely pointless. I find it valuable to make a list of pros and cons, being fully aware that there are cons to ANY situation in life (& pros!) and to choose both the positives and the negatives that I want to live with. I know that through controlling my thoughts I can also manage the "cons" as they come up in a way that best serves me.
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The one where we change our brains for the better. Jul 21, 2020

When attention flows, energy goes and the brain grows. Neuroscience tells us that we are growing our brain every single day and that through procedural learning, we can have a vastly different brain in a short amount of time. With depression on the rise, learning how to manage our thoughts and minds is ESSENTIAL. An unmanaged mind is an unhappy mind. In addition to this podcast, I teach this concept and the "how" in-depth in my course: https://beholdtheconnection.podia.com/connectedparenting

The one where we don't drown. Jul 16, 2020

These are hard times. The world is uncovering oppression and tragedy at every turn, WHILE we are in the middle of a global pandemic. Seems easy to cope, right? Nope. Our nervous systems are not getting a break. This podcast discusses the mindset we need to lean into in order to keep our mental health intact as we advocate, share, make changes, and live in unprecedented times.

Further tips to help relax and re-regulate your nervous system:

Get fresh air, ideally in the sunshine

Movement (endorphins)

Talk to a friend (social distanced or on Marco polo or phone or text)

Have a healthy snack that you love

Have some recharge time alone (pair this with screens if need be)

Be mindful of your bedtime

Read a nourishing book

Do a meditation or coloring page while listening to music you love

Put up signs to do deep belly breaths

Learn something new with your kids

Listen to a module of my parenting course or podcast episode

Have an episode of a show to look forward to in downtime

Choose thoughts that serve you “I want this life” “Everything will be okay. We can figure all of this out” “the world can make the right choices”.

Remind yourself that resistance IS what makes the muscle stronger and friction is what makes the diamond polish

Release the emotion. Let the tears flow. Embrace emotion, don’t shame it away. You are allowed to have feelings.

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The one where we turn off shame Jul 08, 2020

You’ll hear my say that I really don’t believe in guilt and I believe even less in shame. What does this mean?

Let me break it down. I don’t believe in guilt as anything other than an emotion I've generated either with my thoughts or my subconscious beliefs which then my subconscious offers me thoughts. Here is why I am not a big subscriber to guilt or shame. My brain will always offer me a gilt thought to help me stay true to my values such as “you shouldn't have done that”. So again, I take a look at that thought and I either accept or reject it. AND THAT IS IT. That’s where guilt ends for me. Because then, I go on the beautiful suspension bridge, I want you to picture one, swinging and hopping along the way to the beautiful land of curiosity. This a land that grows beautiful flowers and tall grass and lush ferns. The land of guilt on the other side of the suspension bridge is a land of thorns and thistles and blazing hot sun where you get no relief and your energy is sapped and it’s hard to want to keep going on.

So- the land of curiosity- why do I go here? I go here because the greatest gift I can give myself is going to the land of curiosity. Our brains love having a job to do and a problem to solve. Listen to learn more.

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The one where we take our brains back Jun 30, 2020

Let’s talk about how ANGSTY the world is right now. I know you are feeling it. I’m feeling it. We are not ourselves. Essentially what is going on is the pandemic is triggering our automatic, primitive brain reactions to danger. Our brains are doing what they are designed to do. They are reacting dramatically to what they feel is life-threatening, unfamiliar, and unpredictable. When we feel like our survival is threatened we feel like we need to do something to feel like we're in control of our fate. I always teach that our brains #1 job is to keep us safe, and it is, and what is going on in the world right now is the exact conditions needed to stir up your brain’s threat detection system.
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The one where we change the story May 22, 2020

Our relationships and the feelings we feel about the people in our lives come from the thoughts we think about them. We interpret the things they do through the lens we use via the stories we’ve told from our thoughts. We have so much power in our relationships if we are simply consider the stories we are telling ourselves and wonder if they serve us. What new story could you write?
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The one where you are an awesome mom already May 07, 2020

Happy Mother's Day. This episode is a kick in the butt to remind you that you are worthy and wonderful right now. That you don't need to be "better" and that your children learn from both your strengths and your weaknesses, so just keep being a human! I hope that you leave this episode feeling empowered to just keep being you and choosing thoughts that serve you.
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The one where we turn off overwhelm and guilt May 01, 2020

We ALL have a land of the shoulds and when our resources are low (meaning our coping is struggling) our mind just does a freaking fairy dance to that land. Remember your brain is designed to keep you safe NOT to keep you happy. It’s default is to keep you safe always and SO unless you are participating in CONSCIOUS thoughts (that you are choosing) and being mindful of your thoughts what your brain is doing is making sure you're not asleep on the job.
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The one where our nervous system just wants a villain Apr 23, 2020

The one where our nervous system just wants a villain when things are uncertain and scary. This podcast talks about how to take back charge of your brain.

The one where we allow our children to be humans as well Apr 17, 2020

Sometimes we want our children to behave differently so that WE can feel differently. But what if we just allowed it all? What if we held space for them being humans with normal feelings?

The one where we learn about anxiety Apr 06, 2020

It is normal to feel anxiety. Nothing has gone wrong! Anxiety is useful and tells us what to be on the lookout for. BUT anxiety can quickly become disordered as our brain likes to memorize patterns of survival. This episode touches on how we answer anxiety, how we interrupt the anxiety loop and how we can find peace in our thoughts.

The one where we parent bravely Mar 31, 2020

This episode will remind you that you have WHAT IT TAKES to succeed in life within you! This is the kick in the butt that you need to remember that you've got this. To slow it all down and have your own back. You can do hard things. Henry Ford once said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.

The one where we are new to pandemics. Mar 25, 2020

We have never been here before! This is all new! Is it okay to struggle for a little when your whole world is turned upside down and you are feeling grief and fear? I would hope so. Let's talk about how we can give ourselves and others grace.

The one where we soothe the children Mar 23, 2020

Children encounter all sorts of stress in their lives, and yet, don't have fully developed brains to rely on to process all of the changes. This episode will help you support your children through COVID-19, but also any major life disruption.

The one where you close your stress loop Mar 20, 2020

We all can feel stress. But it's so interesting how nobody has taught us how to process it. We have ideas on what can help, but we don't know the science behind it. Today, I am going to direct you to how you can close the stress cycle in your body.

The one where we all deep breathe Mar 18, 2020

This episode will teach you the difference between managing your minds and feeling your feelings and will remind you to just be in the present moment. Instagram: @beholdtheconnection and facebook group: Being a happy and connected parent.

The one where the world stood still Mar 17, 2020

Nearly every parent's world just got turned upside down. The threat of COVID-19 is staring us in the face, and so are all of our children who just got sent home from school. Indefinitely. My direct messages on Instagram are FULL of people struggling to manage their minds, and so, even though I am not ready for a podcast yet in my business, I am showing up here to help. I hope that these initial shorter episodes take some pressure off of your anxiety and help you set your intentions for the day. I hope you know that I am cheering you on as your workload seems heavy right now. I hope that you will feel lighter and brighter after you listen to this episode. Even if just a little. XO Radelle