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I feel blessed to know Suzette and more honored that she was brave enough to come forward and discuss her struggles. She is passionate about helping others, connecting with people and sharing her message of healing.
IN HER WORDS:
I was raped by a 14-year-old neighbor at the age of 9. My parents weren't home and so my brother's older friend took the opportunity. As I've thought about it over the years, what stands out to me is that he had been grooming me since a young age. I was the one that he had a special nickname for, he always tried to make me feel special. So when the day arrived, I never in a million years thought he would do anything like that. I remember just freezing, not knowing what to do. Over the years, like a typical victim, I found myself making excuses for him (ie. boys will be boys, he was still a nice guy, he was also molested). Then I got to an age where I was like, NO. What he did was wrong. As I talked with people from many different walks of life, I found out that virtually EVERYONE knows someone who was molested as a child, whether it be themselves or someone else. This is unacceptable and needs to change.
I was pretty emotionally needy, as a child. I was the youngest of four kids. My father was a good man, but he was very strict, so there wasn't a whole lot of freedom to be yourself. My mother was sick most of my life. She was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis when I was 4. I watched her body decline and by the time I was 19, she was struggling to do basic things for herself. Eventually, I was forced to become a caretaker of my mom at age 12. Why do I say forced? Because no one asked, it was just expected. This had a profound effect on me. I didn't have a normal childhood because of it.
Skip to my adulthood. My mom died in 1998. I was 28 and in my last semester of college. I had postponed college to help with my mom. I don't regret this, I'm glad I did. Eventually, I met my now-husband. We settled in Michigan and I had two children. After the birth of my second, a son, I lost the use of my right arm for a time. After many tests, I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. Was I mad!!! It took me a few months, tears, and prayers to pick myself up from that. I determined that MS wasn't going to define me. I will still do what I have to do, despite it.
Several years passed and my kids were now tweens. I came to a place in my life where I decided that I wanted to Branch out beyond being a wife and mother...but I also wanted to make a positive impact in the world. So I decided to write a story that had been on my heart.
What has evolved from the story has been amazing. I've developed a production company named Grace Films, located in Reno. My dream is to produce films that give back to our communities...starting with my first story, 'Flower of the Sun'. Each story that I produce will not only be an impactful story, but a portion of profit will bless several non-profits. 'Flower of the Sun' has partnered with the Crisis Pregnancy Center of Reno, Awaken, and Xquisite. I'm excited at the prospect of giving back through Film!
Gracefilmsllcofnv@instagram
SuzyQue@facebook
SuzetteSutton-Frazee@ LinkedIn
www.gracefilmsllc.com
--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becoming-parents/messageNatalie was with me for podcast interview #2 and so much has changed! I'm so thankful she is willing to discuss the difficult process of being in business for yourself and how that sometimes doesn't work, doing what's best for your family and leaning into all of that!
IN HER WORDS:
I'm a mom, wife, entrepreneur and coffee lover. I also have had anxiety most of my life, although I didn't realize how long I've had it until recently.
My anxiety has been the reason I've failed at some pretty important things, but it's also been the reason I've succeeded at some pretty amazing things as well.
Things I can credit my anxiety for:
Doing well in school
Being a top performer at every job I've ever had
Having a clean house, healthy meals and snacks, while working 50+ hours a week.
Losing 30 lbs
Things I can blame my anxiety for:
Awkward first impressions
Difficult social situations
A failed coaching business
Gaining 60 lbs
I've pivoted my business into helping families who are dealing with anxiety & ADD/ADHD to live the peaceful life they want by addressing mental and physical wellness.
It's the season we're in right now, as a family, so I'm looking to help others who are just starting out in this journey & who don't want to necessarily be 100% reliant on medication. (I'm not anti-medication, just pro-adjusting the environment first)
Learn how nutrition, fitness & supplements (including CBD) can be beneficial to the entire family.
www.natalieihde.net
www.natalieihde.net/strategy-guide
FB & IG: @natalieihde
FB page: @familiesthrivingwithanxietyandadhd
Steph and I discussed suicide attempts, and how the thought of suicide never goes away, FAYA, hopscotching landmines with his dad, being the best version of yourself and how he was the Nudge He Was Dying For
IN HIS WORDS:
Having attempted suicide in my late teens (this happened at school in fact) ; this being the apex of the childhood I had and came from. I went from being afraid of my own shadow and the inability to communicate anything that emotionally related to someone that I'm very proud of today who can't SHUT UP about the human condition and the quest to be the best versions of ourselves. I spent some time in therapy seeking the tools to be able to UNPACK MY SHIT; which was a great start to my journey. There are a multitude of UPS & DOWNS in my almost 48 years on this planet.
The first book that changed my life was "Awaken The Giant Within" - this was the foundation of changing my self-talk. Fighting the perpetual feelings of anxiety and questioning my success/self-worth made thoughts of ending things a mainstay in my life. I persisted through the lows and acknowledged and embraced the highs. My oldest daughter has a tattoo on her wrist in my handwriting that says "Resilience" - I'm kinda tickled by that.
I made it my mandate to strive to be the best example to both my girls. I always had a tremendous sense of contribution to fulfill; and chased any opportunity to do "PURPOSE-FULL" work. I risked a great deal in life and in love, these were the lessons that molded and formed my now business OnTheCusp. I believe we're all On The Cusp of our personal greatness; BIG or small.
Sometimes we need that Nudge We are Dying for. I'm proud to say that I played this role for many people at many levels on several fronts - One having been a Strength & Conditioning Coach for 20 years.
I have newly launched streetwear apparel company called FAYA - this stands for Fuck All Y'All. It's a positive Mantra to signifies a SUPERPOWER for the good people of this world to fight the fight against the HATERS & NAYSAYERS. It's a GOOD VIBES ONLY company.
The lid came off years ago......so here I am seeking to leave a daily legacy and always striving to pay it forward. What fascinates me most is ME with all the flaws & splendors; so I leverage this to help other people avoid going out of their way to make a straight line crooked.
Instagram - fayawickedsmahtapparel.
Instagram - sslaurentonthecusp
Instagram - fayawickedsmahtapparel
LinkedIn - Steph B St Laurent
Holy. Crap. This is long and amazing. I kept the entire episode, however, if you want to just listen to the meditation, singing or just the podcast, the time is marked below. I'm in awe of this session and how much my life changed because of it.
Meditation starts at 45 minutes and ends at 1:13
Singing begins right after meditation
The last half hour we go into what came up for me in the meditation.
This isn't just for me! You can work through your own healing through this session, have A-HA moments and release some of your own tension. Pelvic bowl coaching is incredible.
In the time since the interview:
TUESDAY: The day of Freezing after - it was raining during the meeting and my toilet was slowly running so water was on my mind. When I was freezing I got into the bath and it felt like coming home Could not take enough deep breaths Had waves of fear roll through me. I couldn’t even tell why or where it was coming from. It was debilitation I thought I’d want to drink but I didn’t My entire back was sore - like overused muscles My right side “took over” for my back My thoughts were all over the place I got an email from a publicist about my podcast and I unloaded how I felt and realized it was content I was holding back on (like I’m told I do) I slept fitfully the first night Found out the day we recorded it was a full moon in libra
WEDNESDAY: Still deep breaths but I didn’t feel like I was gasping for enough air Waves of fear gone Read the ebook. Holy shit. Left quadrant - my mom. The abuse. Inspiration and knowing Right quadrant - controlling and stubborn. Creative and safe Front - do what you’re told. Not what you want. Fight, flight, freeze. Dissociation. Vulnerable, pleasure, enjoyment, pleasure. Be seen. Bring forth your dreams and gifts, wishes. Breathing. Back - Coping. Holding shit together. It is safe to exist Redid my podcast info on the website because I replied to an email and it poured out of me.
THURSDAY: Watching Sophia’s videos. Back and shoulders/neck are aching like I’m working through things I think of my pelvic bowl as Stonehenge - 4 pillars and my goal is to make them work together and distribute evenly Waves of fear again. Breathing getting better.
FRIDAY:Waves of fear gone. Sleeping so much better. Reminding myself to relax my shoulders and back. Began doing the exercises from Sophia’s videos.
Find Sophia:
eBook: https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B9IgBEMIJjSJTERqMEJKUzEtR2kxUHFvcy1KWE4zRHVpME9n/view
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCd1lWcpXNLXqzBlz_xfCyhg
Website: https://www.sophiawiseone.com/
There are tons of resources. A 10-year blog, podcast, events, the book and cards among other great tools!
--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becoming-parents/messageKathrin and I discussed having divorced parents, starting to write at the age of 10, learning to forgive yourself, drug use, rehab, PTSD, punishing yourself by not writing for 4 years, suicide attempts, the recovery community, being court-ordered out of her mom's house, hitting bottom when the possibility of felony charge drug possession was a reality, strangers believing in you - to publishing as a dark fantasy Indie publisher, ghostwriting and doing such an amazing job that her husband stays home with their daughter.
I adore her and have read two of her books which are phenomenal!
IN HER WORDS:
1) Wife and mother of a three-year-old, happy, healthy, "adulting", doing what I love, FREE... from heroin addiction, near homelessness, near-death hospitalizations, and jail
2) Full-time fiction author and ghostwriter, International Bestselling Indie Author, living my dream, and being the sole provider for my family... from "unpublished author" with an exploding file of traditional agent rejection letters, loads of guilt and self-shaming/punishing (see item 1 above lol), wondering if I even COULD still write after 4+ years of not touching a word of fiction. Oh, and trying to make all that happen between giving birth at home, moving across the country with a 10-month-old, husband, and two dogs, and finally sending my toddler to preschool.
FIND HER HERE:
facebook.com/kathrinhutsonfiction
instagram.com/kathrinhutsonfiction
twitter.com/exquisitelydark
https://kathrinhutsonfiction.com
--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becoming-parents/messageThis time around, We did some horsewisdom readings - both with the oracle cards and intuitively! It was amazing. I let Jess lead this completely and take us where her intuition led. She brought up that I learned that I wasn't supposed to cry when I was about 7 years old and something pivotal happened around the age of 13-14 and both were spot on.
She also felt my shoulder pain and when I discussed when it started, what else was going on, etc.. she connected the dots in a way that had me dumbfounded. She related it to "being stabbed in the back". From this day, I haven't had any shoulder pain. Tension, yes. Breathing through it, yes. But the pain I felt every day is completely gone. I didn't realize how hard I was hanging on and how much I hurt until I released it. I learned a number that comes up a lot is 5 and my horse was Karma. I can't wait to buy her cards!
OUR FIRST INTERVIEW: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6QA8ZqIUdWw
FIND HER HERE:
www.jesscampmans.com
IG - @horsewisdomluminaryjess
FB -https://www.facebook.com/JessandButteMorganHorsesGuidedbyEquus/
IN HER WORDS:
The Journey of the Oracle is a transformational journey into HorseWisdom; it is the energy as informing wisdom that the horses have shared & the potential they offer, for healing & helping humanity to expand conscious awareness, embody authentic relationships, and reclaim sacred connection.
WELCOME TO THE COACHING SERIES:
When I wrote my book I did “Bear it all” - emotionally I was raw, vulnerable and the story was difficult to share but it was important for me to do it. I realized that I am only one story and that everyone has an equally amazing story to share. The podcast was born and for me, it was a way for my guests to “write a book in an hour” - to share their story in a condensed amount of time while being extremely raw, vulnerable, and genuine. It was an opportunity for the audience to feel less alone and build tools to cope with their own struggles. The coaching calls were a result of a suggestion from one of my guests. Not only am I physically The Naked Podcaster, but it’s my turn again to be emotionally naked so the listeners could know what it would be like to work with my guests.
This process wouldn’t work unless I was a good fit for the coaching call and I was really willing to open up. These interviews are scary as listeners get real insight into my life. It’s worth it because I’ve gotten to know my podcast guests and how outstanding they are. 100% of entrepreneurs birth their business from their struggle, and it’s a gift to show how they have turned their trials around to help others. I’m looking forward to sharing their skills with you and connecting who they are in a different way.
Enjoy the journey and remember to be kind to yourselves.
CONNECT WITH ME!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momofeighteen/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/MomOfEighteen
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/momofeighteen/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jenn-taylor-96442b98/
Website: http://www.momof18.com
Email: jenn@momof18.com
In 2003 Ash immigrated to the US from Iran where he lived during Sadaam bombing his city. He felt blessed to be in a first world country after a life in several countries where opportunity was limited. Ash learned that he could attend courses at UCLA and Yale for free and took advantage of the opportunities for education.
A techie in California, Ash built business and money only to be told he was going to die, but medical professionals didn't know WHY. He took it as a sign to live his life differently, more minimally, with intent to showcase people being kind. Ash and his wife Kristi and daughter Klaire moved to Reno, NV closer to Kristi's youth stomping grounds to create roots and build a life around being humble and showing kindness.
Ash uses the power of video to learn stories of people local to Reno who are paving the way to a better life with acts of kindness. His TEDx talk highlights his illness, as well as his social media posts and with his art of showcasing others, it's clear that he is among the ranks of those being kind.
Some obstacles Ash has faced throughout his life:
Moved to the US at the age of 16. He didn't speak English and had to learn a new culture.
Was required to study full time at CSUN and build his company at the same time since the family had barely enough money to make it.
Built a successful business with no money and from the ground up on his own.
Health issues that led to a realization that "we are all dying" - Link below from his TEDx Talk that references this.
TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EB-yOjmK_I8
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ashsobhe/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AshSobhe/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sobhe
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClLCtrhxoWsMV0fPAEMp3OA
Sophia showed up naked and I KNEW it was going to be wonderful! It's slightly longer, but SO worth it! I loved this interview and this human being. I know you will too.
From Sophia:
Which struggle do I pick? PMDD, ADD, Entrepreneur failure, Pelvic pain? When I was 19 I lost my mind and chose to leave college mid-semester. I was diagnosed with Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD), which for me was the worst 2 days of PMS you can imagine but it lasted almost 14 days, the week before and then the week of my period, a.k.a. I would lose myself for half of every month to a whirlwind of mania, depression, and emotional and physical pain.
I used my spiritual and alternative upbringing as the foundation to find healing for my soul, body, mind, and heart. It took 7 years to get my self, my mind, and my joy back. I was able to finish college, become a licensed massage therapist, and worked enough to be financially independent. I gathered everything I learned in a basket on that journey and combined it with my nature, nurture, and training to create my toolbox. Which is Me, all of me. I offer all I know,
I have, and have learned. I learned to do intravaginal pelvic floor work after sex became painful and pelvic pain dominated my life. Now I help people clear, pain, blame, and shame out of their roots. (That's in the book and game too) I created a card deck, book, and online academy that shares the 72 teachings and 195 practices that healed my body mind and soul. I designed it as a game because play was the most healing component of my journey.
FIND HER HERE:
sophiawiseone.com
https://www.facebook.com/SophiaWiseOne/
https://www.instagram.com/sophiawiseone/
Jennifer came from low income and didn't know how to dream. She was given a death sentence on the operating table at only 32, with her organs swollen. She gave herself a year to change from overworked and stressed to healthy. Two surgeries, learning how to dream, going from a workaholic to balancing her family and work. Knowing she might die gave her a lease on life. She teaches small businesses how to do their own social media and has a course called Success GPS that gets them on the road to success. She teaches that it's not selfish to do your inner calling and having desire means the path is there, you just have to find it. She turned an accidental calling into work and embraces Political Consulting. Her kids were part of her amazing journey and she loves the life she created.
--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/becoming-parents/messageWhen I'm introduced to someone (virtually) by two people on the same day, I listen and connect. I'm so thankful I did! Katrina and I discuss how she was a bartender, got a college degree and THEN did door to door sales for 9 months, how that relates to dating, lacking confidence and how she healed from waiting to be picked up by her dad who was 2 days late, only to be complemented with a negative statement immediately after for her entire life.
IN HER WORDS: I was in my starter marriage a few years too long. I was pretending to be "happy" when I would show up at networking events even though my spouse wasn't supportive of me being an entrepreneur. It wasn't easy as I'm usually very happy-go-lucky. I realized that life was too short and at 35 left that marriage to go do what I knew I was meant to do and boy did I do it in a big way!
I never gave up and always believed "it would work out in the end" and it did. Now I have an amazing husband who we've supported each other through some big health challenges over the last 7 years and we're stronger because of it all. It's a story of having complete faith and stepping out in faith and belief in myself even though I couldn't see my next steps. It's a story of not settling and knowing I deserve more and not stopping until I find it. It's about love, money, and building your life around the kind of life you want instead of fitting your life in around your business.
FIND HER HERE:
Main website: www.JumpstartYourMarketing.com
Event webpage: www.LiveBigEvents.com
Int’l Entrepreneur Network: www.iEntrepreneurNetwork Int’l
Speaker Network: www.iSpeakerNetwork.com
www.Facebook.com/KatrinaSawa
www.Facebook.com/JumpstartYourMarketing
www.Facebook.com/groups/jumpstartyourbiz
www.Twitter.com/KatrinaSawa
www.linkedin.com/in/katrinasawa/
www.Pinterest.com/KatrinaSawa
www.instagram.com/katrinasawa/
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