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Understanding Attachment Theory with Melanie Cooke Jun 13, 2023

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This week, Maria sits down with Melanie Cooke and has a deep conversation into attachment theory. You'll learn the different types of attachment, how avoidant attachment is prevalent in today's dating environment and what you can do to make sure you are your best for a healthy relationship.

Melanie Cooke is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and private practice owner. She works with high performers who are outwardly successful, but struggle with feelings of dissatisfaction, emptiness, and confusion--who feel that something is missing and who want to feel whole, but don't know how to. She helps them better understand their emotions, establish boundaries, balance control with acceptance, and work through conflict in order to have more fulfilling relationships. She practices trauma-informed Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Gestalt therapies, along with body based mindfulness because our emotions, fears, and wounds are as much in our bodies as they are in our minds. So is healing.

Learn more about Melanie at https://www.melaniecookelmhc.com/

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The Future of Dating According to Tinder with Erika Ettin Jun 06, 2023

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Tinder just came out with a (gorgeous looking!) report called The Future of Dating 2023, looking at dating trends and what Gen Z thinks of online dating. Here to decode the data is Erika Ettin.

Erika Ettin is an online dating expert and dating coach who helps people navigate the world of online dating. Her expertise includes profile creation, photo selection and photography, message writing, and date planning. She is also the author of the book Love at First Site: Tips & Tales for Online Dating Success from a Modern-Day Matchmaker and the co-host of the popular dating podcast "So, We Met Online…"

Check out The Future of Dating Report here: https://filecache.mediaroom.com/mr5mr_tinder/179342/Copy_of_FOD_Report_2023_FINAL.pdf

Find Erika on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/ALittleNudge/

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Why Women Freeze Their Eggs with Professor Marcia C. Inhorn May 30, 2023

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Why are women freezing their eggs in record numbers? Talking about this important subject this week is Professor Marcia C. Inhorn. She is a Professor of Anthropology and International Affairs at Yale University and author of Cosmopolitan Conceptions: IVF Sojourns in Global Dubai.

Her new book, Motherhood on Ice: The Mating Gap and Why Women Freeze Their Eggs, explores this question by drawing on the stories of more than 150 women who pursued fertility preservation technology. Moving between narratives of pain and empowerment, these nuanced personal stories reveal the complexity of women's lives as they struggle to preserve and extend their fertility.

You can find where to get a copy of "Motherhood on Ice: The Mating Gap and Why Women Freeze Their Eggs" at https://nyupress.org/9781479813049/motherhood-on-ice/

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GREATEST HITS: How to Harness Your Anxiety as a Superpower with Dr. Wendy Suzuki May 23, 2023

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What if you could make friends with your anxiety? What if you could learn to leverage your anxiety to be a gift? We look at anxiety as such a bad thing, but so often our anxiety is trying to tell us something. Learning how to harness that can be a game changer.

This week's conversation could help you change your life.

Dr. Wendy A. Suzuki is a Professor of Neural Science and Psychology in the Center for Neural Science at New York University. Her TED talk has over 31 million views and was the 2nd most viewed ted talk of 2018. She's the author of "Healthy Brain, Happy Life" and "Good Anxiety" which is now available wherever books are sold.

Learn more about Dr. Suzuki's work at…

https://www.goodanxiety.com/

https://www.wendysuzuki.com/

Follow Dr. Suzuki on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/wendy.suzuki/

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Use The Connection Codes to Create the Relationships You Crave with Drs. Glenn and Phyllis Hill May 16, 2023

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This week's guests are Drs. Glenn and Phyllis Hill.

Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation where he discovered the source of all of their disconnect.

From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes which is a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4 minute tool. Now, they are authors, speakers, and have Connection Coders in over 50 countries who are living in peace in their relationships.

Download the Core Emotion Wheel, THE tool to conquer conflict in just 4 minutes for FREE at https://www.connectioncodes.co/matchmaker

Learn more about the Connection Codes at https://www.connectioncodes.co/

Pick up a copy of "The Connection Codes: The Blueprint & Tools for Creating the Relationships You Crave" at https://www.amazon.com/Connection-Codes-Blueprint-Creating-Relationships/dp/B09BSKMCJM/

Follow on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/connectioncodes/

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Hotline Edition with Carolinas Matchmaker, Laurie Berzack May 09, 2023

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***Matchmaker Maria's Eurovision Party in NYC this weekend, Saturday, May 13! Get tickets now! https://www.eventbrite.com/e/matchmaker-marias-eurovision-party-tickets-617316860347 ***

This week on the hotline, Maria is joined by her BFF and fellow matchmaker, Laurie Berzack! She's the founder of Carolinas Matchmaker and the host of the Love on the Go podcast.

Read the VOX article mentioned in the episode: https://www.vox.com/policy/2023/5/3/23707936/surgeon-general-loneliness-epidemic-report

Follow Laurie on Instagram at http://instagram.com/carolinasmatchmaker

Follow Laurie on TikTok at http://tiktok.com/@carolinasmatchmaker

Listen to the Love on the Go podcast on…

Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-on-the-go/id1631398944

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4ZLPYIsjL3p8HYYjaAXwax

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Hotline Edition: He's a Snorer, What Should I Do? with Maria's husband, George May 02, 2023

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*** Join us at Matchmaker Maria's Eurovision Party on Saturday, May 13th in NYC! Get tickets now! https://www.eventbrite.com/e/matchmaker-marias-eurovision-party-tickets-617316860347 ***

This week on the hotline, Maria is joined by her husband, George, to answer your questions!

Follow George on…

Instagram at http://instagram.com/nerdmeetsfood

TikTok at http://tiktok.com/@nerdmeetsfood

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GREATEST HITS: Building Body Image Resilience with Dr. Lindsay Kite Apr 25, 2023

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This week, Maria is getting real about body image and dating with Dr. Lindsay Kite!

Dr. Lindsay Kite is co-author of the book More Than a Body: Your Body Is an Instrument, Not an Ornament (2020, HarperCollins) and co-director of the nonprofit Beauty Redefined, alongside her identical twin sister Lexie Kite. Both received PhDs from the University of Utah in the study of female body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Lindsay and Lexie help girls and women recognize and reject the harmful effects of objectification in their lives through their social media activism, online course, and regular speaking engagements for people of all ages. Lindsay lives in New York City.

Learn more about Dr Kite at http://morethanabody.org/

Pick up her book, More Than a Body: Your Body is an Instrument, at https://www.amazon.com/dp/0358229243/

Follow Dr. Kite on Instagram at http://instagram.com/beauty_redefined

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Hotline Edition: How to Make Meaningful Friendships as an Adult with Lane Moore (updated) Apr 18, 2023

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This week, Maria is back with another hotline episode with award-winning writer, actor, comedian, and musician Lane Moore!

Her first book, How To Be Alone: If You Want To And Even If You Don't, became an instant #1 bestseller and was praised as one of the best books of the year by The New York Times, New York Magazine, NPR, Good Morning America, Fast Company, Marie Claire, and many others

Her second book, You Will Find Your People: How To Make Meaningful Friendships As An Adult, will be released on April 25, 2023. Pre-order now!

https://www.amazon.com/You-Will-Find-Your-People/dp/1419762567

Follow Lane on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/hellolanemoore/

Follow Lane on Twitter at https://twitter.com/hellolanemoore

Learn more about Lane at https://www.lanemoore.org/

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Hotline Edition with @NYTVows Writer Selena Coppock Apr 11, 2023

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After two weeks off, Maria is BACK with another edition of the hotline! If you want to join us for a live taping of a future hotline episode, be sure to follow Maria on instagram to know when the hotline will open next: http://instagram.com/matchmakermaria

Selena Coppock is a former standup comedian, writer, author, and storyteller based in NYC. She is the creator and voice of @NYTVows, the parody Twitter and Instagram account that lampoons the New York Times Wedding section, the wedding industrial complex, WASPs, and courtship rituals of the rich and insufferable. She is also the creator and host of TWO WICK MINIMUM, America's favorite and only podcast about candles.

Follow NYTVows at…

http://twitter.com/nytvows

http://instagram.com/nytvows

Find Selena at…

http://instagram.com/selenacoppock

http://twitter.com/selenacoppock

Check out Selena's podcast, Two Wick Minimum, on Apple Podcasts

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/two-wick-minimum-with-selena-coppock/id1440652282?mt=2

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