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With over 200 episodes, fascinating and inspiring guests such as Lewis Howes, Ricki Lake, the Real Jerry Maguire – Leigh Steinberg, and with over 500,000 people having tuned in globally, come join the conversation and help us explore what it means to be authentic in a world that doesn’t necessarily want you to be, or make it easy.
Hosted by former Showtime Exec turned Tedx Speaker and KindFluencer, Mark Shapiro.
Imagine a world that's a cross between Disneyland and Willy Wonka where you can be whoever you want to be, do what you want to do, dance how you want to dance, and just express yourself as you please with 69,999 other for an entire week. This place exists for one week a year and it's called Burning Man.
For Mark, Burning Man almost serves as New Years. He uses it as a time to assess where his life has taken him since the last Burn and where he is at emotionally, spiritually, physically, and romantically. Even though this past year has been challenging, it's also been full of immense growth. In Episode 187, Mark shares what made this year's Burn particularly special.
Stay tuned to the end of the episode for a list of special affirmations that help Mark through his challenges and could be of service to you as well.
Connect with Mark: AreYouBeingReal.com | Instagram
Show Notes:
-What is Burning Man?
-Why Burning Man is like New Years.
-Common challenges you encounter at Burning Man.
-Why Mark was terrified to go and almost didn't.
-Mark's favorite art piece from the festival.
-The craziest thing Mark has seen at Burning Man.
-Affirmation that Mark wants to share.
We've all heard of the importance of 'trusting our gut' and, If you're like most, it's often times easier said than done. The world is full of so much noise and distraction trying to compete for our attention. Sometimes, our own logical thoughts paralyze us to the point where we become overwhelmed and don't take any action. Whether these stumbling blocks are self-imposed or not, it's important for us to get acquainted with the tool that the Universe has given each and every one of us: our intuition.
In Episode 186, Mark sits down with Kirra Sherman, the host of The Deeper Spark Podcast and a fearless intuition coach. She has been helping others get familiar with and trust their gut and live more in tune with the deeper spark inside us all. Whether your struggling to trust your intuition when it comes to your business, your relationships, or just struggling to let go and allowing your inner-self to deviate from your plans, you're sure to find unique insights and takeaways on this episode of the Are You Being Real Podcast!
Connect with Kirra: KirraSherman.com | The Deeper Spark Podcast | Instagram
Show Notes:
-What disconnecting from technology and a surprise trip to Whole Foods taught Kirra about intuition.
-How to reconcile what we logically think with what our heart feels.
-How speaking your truth can help those you love to understand where you are coming from.
-The difference between your 'big sense' and your 'little sense.'
-How Kirra wants to be remembered by her family.
-Why 'pondering' is Kirra's most consistent practice.
-What Kirra wants to experience most in her life at this time.
Links mentioned: Kirra's Fearless Intuition Programs
Some of life's biggest regrets revolve around our authenticity and our relationships. The choice of what and who we choose to give our time, attention, and love to can profoundly affect us and have long-lasting consequences, which is why it's a good idea to assess where you at and where you want to go. It's time to have the courage to free yourself of any relationship that isn't meeting your expectation or inspiring you to live your 'higher game.'
Adam Gilad has had to do just that many time in his life in order to live inspired and to truly be supported in his great vision. He's an inspiring speaker, writer, producer, and relationship expert that embodies the word 'boldness,' especially when it comes to finding and cultivating the relationships of his dreams. If you want to learn how to live the 'higher game' and live more boldly in your life, tune in to this episode!
Connect with Adam: AdamGilad.com
Show Notes:
-How Adam came up with the name for his hot tub.
-An important way Adam identifies "who is not his person."
-How speaking his truth has affected Mark's dating life.
-The definition of love.
-What to do if your partner is on a shitty path.
-Why Adam admires LeBron James
-How to establish healthy boundaries in your relationships.
-The definition 'boldness' and the differences between inner and outer boldness.
-What it means to "sit in your soul."
Links mentioned: Music & Lyrics (movie) 21 Laws of Boldness by Adam Gilad (book) 59 Seconds by Richard Wiseman (book) Still Here by Ram Dass (book) Mastery by Robert Greene (book) Brene Brown (all her books) The Bold Man Summit The Higher Game
There are moments in our life when we feel disconnected from others and want to meet new people to help breath new life into our day-to-day. Whether it's for business connections, dating, or just new potential friendships, we all experience insecurities, especially when it comes to connecting with random strangers.
Even though he had a comfortable job straight out of college as a consultant for Deloitte, Rob Lawless decided to get rid of his insecurities and work on becoming world-class at connecting with random strangers. He's currently on a mission to connect with 10,000 new friends to see what kind of possibilities open up for them and for himself. It's what he's dedicating his life to at the moment and it's where his personal satisfaction and passion lies.
In this episode, Mark sits down with Rob to discuss how the project came to be, the lessons he's learned along the way, and what the future holds. You're sure to find some inspiration for finding your own unique path, sticking to it, and make a few new friends along the way.
Connect with Rob: Instagram | Twitter | Robs10KFriends.com
Show Notes:
-How Rob transitioned into his authentic self.
-How long Rob's 10,000 Friends project will take to complete.
-Why the project has evolved from 10 minutes to 60-minute meetings.
-How anyone can become one of Rob's '10,000 Friends'.
-What trends Rob sees in the conversations he has had.
-How Rob manages the relationships he has created during his project.
-How Rob has been able to financially sustain himself during this project.
-How Rob's faith helps him move forward into the unknown.
Ben Morrison describes himself as a comedian, writer, actor, and director. But he is so much more than that. He's also an internationally celebrated (by few) photographer of sheep and the self-proclaimed Michael Phelps of poop jokes. Most importantly, he is a hilariously outspoken advocate for Crohn's Disease education and a dear friend of Mark.
While most comedians decided to pull back on their craft just after 9/11, Ben decided to double down and use it as a method of healing his own emotional wounds as well as his audience's. His courage to write material on difficult subjects has helped many cope with their own stigmas, especially around Crohn's Disease (something Ben has had since his youth). Tune in to see for yourself how Ben's incredible example shows us how to laugh in the face of adversity and help others find their laughter along the way as well.
Connect with Ben: Instagram | Twitter | BenTheMorrison.com
Show Notes:
-How 9/11 affected the comedy scene.
-Ben's personal thesis on comedy as a vehicle for healing.
-Why Ben fell in love with the lifestyle of a comedian.
-How Ben uses comedy to talk about difficult subjects, like Crohn's Disease and colonoscopies.
-Ben's daily routine to keep himself sane.
-When it's most difficult to be authentic.
-The craziest prank Ben has ever played on someone.
-How Ben deals with criticism from his audience and other comedians.
Links mentioned: Superfunny.show AComediansGuideToCrohns.com Sex With Emily Podcast
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Kyle Kesterson comes back for a bonus episode of his discussion with Mark on fear. Over the course of his life, Kyle has developed the ability to quickly identify a fear and then take massive action to push back on it, all thanks to his analysis of The Four Dimensions of Fear. He first shared it with Mark on their trip to Israel. Mark liked it so much that he had to have him share it with us during their interview.
Mark also shares a time where he had to face one of his own fears, which oddly enough, was the same experience that led to the creation of the 'Are You Being Real' name for the podcast! Do yourself a favor and tune in for a second helping of Kyle and his wisdom!
Connect with Kyle: Instagram | Twitter | KyleKesterson.com
Show Notes:
-What does F.E.A.R. stand for?
-The Four Dimensions of Fear
-How fear relates to excitement.
-How Kyle uses changes in his physiology when facing a fear.
-How Mark faced a personal fear on the dance floor and came up with 'Are You Being Real.'
Books mentioned: The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson
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Kyle Kesterson can easily be labeled as an adventurer, an entrepreneur, a digital nomad, a storyteller, and fearless. However, he prefers to be "Unlabeled," as his Instagram shows. If he had a mantra to guide his life by, it would be "I wonder where this road goes..." He is wise, well-traveled, and a unique example of true fearless. I had the privilege of meeting him on my recent trip to Israel and I absolutely had to have him on to share his wisdom with all of you.
In this episode, I sit down with Kyle in his van (aka "The Bromfmobile") and discuss his childhood, life as a founder and entrepreneur and how becoming self-aware of his own fear propelled him to a TEDx talk (among many other speaking engagements) and a radically awesome, fearless life. This is a hefty episode full of many insights and realizations you'll not want to miss.
Connect with Kyle: Instagram | Twitter | KyleKesterson.com
Show Notes:
-Kyle's past and how he learned to lean into his fears.
-How sharing his past has allowed him to crush all his fears in the future.
-How vulnerability begets vulnerability.
-How to improve your relationships by "throwing out little seeds" of communication when you think of people.
-What his definition of authenticity is.
-Why there shouldn't be any guilt for not having goals, dreams, and ambitions.
-How a Google form sent Kyle on many unique adventures.
-What Kyle would love everyone to ask themselves.
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Franco Acosta is a name you may have heard Mark shoutout at the end of some past episodes. He's the current producer/editor of the Are You Being Real Podcast and a behind-the-scenes ninja on a lot of Mark's projects. But what you don't know is that Franco and Mark met just barely a year ago thanks to some serendipitous events that made their paths cross (or were they? Franco believes there are no such things as coincidences).
In this episode, Franco shares what it took for him to finally make the leap and move to Los Angeles to pursue his dream of acting (a goal many in this town can relate to). The lessons and insights he's picked up along the way can be of value to anyone, no matter what goals they have. Past guest Jake Greene said: "Everyone wants to be a part of a great story" and stories like Franco's show us that we all have the potential to be the protagonist of our own great story if we're bold enough to begin it.
Learn more about Are You Being Real at AreYouBeingReal.com/180
Connect with Franco: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Acting Resume (under construction)
Show Notes:
-Getting real with yourself when your past story no longer serves you.
-The power of replacing 'someday' with a concrete 'when' as you choose your goals.
-Following your gut and instincts even when the path isn't clear.
-How having the courage to be bold can create amazing opportunities.
Mark Shapiro is a self-proclaimed 'self-help dork' and loves to read. Sometimes it's to prep for an upcoming guest on the podcast. Sometimes it's for fun. Regardless of the reason, he's put in his time to seek growth from many books. It doesn't matter if it's printed on pages, scrolling on his phone, or listening to the audiobook, Mark is always taking something in.
On today's episode, Mark shares his top five books for personal development that anyone can jump into and find value for themselves and their vision. These are definitely game changers and should be looked at if you haven't done so already. Let us know what you think of Mark's list and what books you would have included if we had to make a longer list!
Connect with Mark: Instagram | Email | TEDx Talk
Books Featured:
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Other books worthy checking out:
The Four-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss: for how to make the most of whatever time you do dedicate to work.
The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer: for understanding the voice in our head.
Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari: for understanding the evolution of humankind.
Homo Deus by Yuval Noah Harari: for forecasting the future.
Calling In "The One" by Katherine Woodward Thomas: for finding love.
Attached by Amir Levine: for understanding our behavior in relationships.
Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill: for manifesting.
SPIN Selling by Neil Rackham: for Sales.
The Way of The Superior Man by David Deida: for understanding masculine and feminine energy.
Expert Secrets / DotCom Secrets by Russel Brunson: for online storytelling and business building.
Show Notes:
-How to be impeccable with your word.
-The impact that taking things personally has on our daily life.
-How to avoid making assumptions.
-How everyone can recognize the 'creativity' within.
-The benefits of living in the present moment, no matter what it is.
-How applying "The One Thing" can help you in any area of your life.
-Why multitasking is bullshit.
-Why Mark believes How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is the best back on interpersonal relationships.
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Tommy Sobel has a unique resume: he was a published student of neuroscience, he's been Steven Spielberg's right-hand man on set, and he became the top executive at Amblin Partner's New Media division (formally DreamWorks Studios). He knows very well just how enticing our phones can be (it was his job to keep us glued to them through his company's content). Now, he's left that all behind to help us have a healthier relationship with our phone and technology. He's founded GoBrickNow.com, which shows us how through one simple phone hack, we can reclaim some of our time back and truly connect with the world and the people in it.
In this episode, I sit down with Tommy to talk about lessons he's learned along the way going from student, to set assistant, to new media executive, to social entrepreneur. We talk about how his new phone usage habits affect his relationships, his business, and how we can benefit from the same. You'll also see how a simple object as a pen can make all the difference in your life.
Learn more about Are You Being Real at AreYouBeingReal.com/178
Links Mentioned:
-Connect with Tommy on Instagram-Connect with Tommy on Twitter-Official GoBrickNow.com site
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