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Keeping It All Together (with Jasmine) Feb 17, 2022

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Addicts feel alone and isolated when battling their addictions. But they don't realize their spouse feels even more detached and miserable.

How do wives keep their lives (and family) together when their husband has these issues?

My wife Jasmine joins me on this episode to discuss some coping strategies for wives dealing with their addicted husbands. She covers bad strategies that can wreck your marriage. And good ones that can save it—like she saved ours.

Listen to the episode now to discover some of the best ways to keep your life together when your spouse's addiction wants to tear your world apart.

Show highlights include:

Why you're not alone as a spouse to an addict (even if it feels like you are) (3:00)
The insidious way your mind tricks you into concealing your personal issues so you can start healing (4:14)
The "forever myth" that makes freeing yourself from addiction's grip impossible (8:50)
How addiction disguises itself as bipolar disorder (and how to know which one you're dealing with) (9:43)
Why it's never your fault if your husband battles an addiction (even if he blames you) (12:20)
How porn, romantic comedies, and even Disney movies give men a failing impression of relationships that can tear apart even the strongest marriages (13:57)
The "Nature Trick" for alleviating your toughest emotional burdens (22:43)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the 'F' Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that's making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you've been missing.

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The Other Side of the Story (with Jasmine) Feb 10, 2022

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When you're dealing with addiction, it's easy to feel all alone. To feel helpless. To feel like a victim.

But you know what?

It's even harder, lonelier, and heartbreaking for those close to you.

Wives of addicts keep asking me how Jasmine felt when I battled through my porn addiction. And today, I'm letting Jasmine describe how she felt.

Whether you're an addict yourself or your spouse is, this episode reveals how addiction ruins the lives of everyone around you.

But there's hope. If Jasmine and I were able to conquer our failing relationship, I know you can too.

Listen to the episode now and take the first step towards healing your relationship.

Show highlights include:

Why struggling with a porn addiction is even harder on your wife (and how to repair your relationship) (1:28)
How looking at AA meetings like a school classroom helps you quit it (without relapsing to your addictive habits) (3:08)
The weird way to transform the collateral damage your spouse feels from your addictions into collateral healing (5:25)
Why your suffering "seeps" into everyone around you (and why this is reason to celebrate) (6:00)
How having a pornography addiction makes your wife not even want to hold your hand (10:36)
Are you turning your wife into a single mother because of your addictions? Here's how it makes her feel… (11:58)
How addiction demolishes the trust in relationships long after you apologize (19:25)
The "Flashback Anger" phenomenon all wives of addicts feel at random (and how to overcome this) (19:44)

Sexual Energy Feb 03, 2022

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There's a common thread between most people battling a porn addiction:

Their sexual energy is out of control, which turns them into a helpless victim because of their urges.

But here's the thing…

Sexual energy doesn't exist. It's simply a sensation in your body. And when you realize you're in control of the sensations you feel, you'll never find yourself searching for porn again. Best yet: you won't have to keep experiencing the guilt-and-shame cycle every time you do.

In this episode, you'll discover some simple strategies that will help you kick your porn addiction cold turkey.

Listen to the episode now and never watch porn again.

Show highlights include:

The oddball "move energy" trick from a top MMA trainer that obliterates any physical pain you're experiencing (2:16)
How to never lash out at anyone again (even if they make you furious) (4:53)
The insidious way having a "hidden" victim mindset fuels your porn addiction (5:58)
Why treating your bottled up sexual energy like an itch frees you from porn's poisonous tentacles (9:04)
The "sensation" secret for morphing your lust and sexual desires into intellect and love (9:52)
Why tickling your forearm helps you feel more pleasure during sex (13:13)

BS Goals Jan 27, 2022

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Setting goals helps you experience happiness, strive for something greater, and can add to your fulfillment. But setting goals can also make you miserable, fill you with darkness, and sabotage your life.

Why does this happen?

When you set goals that are too big, you lose sight of all the small joys in your life right now. The more overwhelming your goals are, the more you feel like a failure. And even if you reach your goals, you realize you're still not happy. Because reaching your goals makes you happy for 90 seconds. That's it.

The solution?

Using goals as your "north star." They help guide your actions, but you don't have to sacrifice your happiness in the moment.

In this episode, you'll discover a new approach to setting goals that boosts your happiness and likelihood you'll achieve them.

Listen to the episode now and see how "BS Goals" can transform your life.

Show highlights include:

How to rewire your brain around goals so they don't fill you with misery if you fall short (1:17)
The "Lower Your Gaze" trick that transforms your biggest goals into easy, actionable steps (2:20)
Why setting small, attainable goals helps you reach your big, overwhelming goals faster (4:44)
The "First Step" strategy for keeping your motivation tank full when attacking your goals (6:48)
The "BS Goals" system for conquering your goals (without sacrificing your happiness along the way) (10:35)
How hyperfocusing on distant goals makes your life dark and gloomy in the present (even if these are big, life-altering goals) (16:18)

"Follow Me" Jan 20, 2022

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If Jesus came back today, do you think you'd drop everything and follow him? How many other people do you think would do the same?

In the Bible, a rich man refuses to follow Jesus because he was too attached to his possessions. In the real world, we're all the rich man — no matter how wealthy we are.

Chances are, you've prayed about or wished for something that you've had an opportunity to pursue. But you didn't because you would've had to sacrifice everything. I know it's scary because I've gone through the same battle.

But what if that opportunity gave you a feeling of ecstasy that you couldn't find anywhere else? And what if you only had one opportunity to experience this?

In this episode, you'll discover why dropping everything for a life-altering opportunity is frightening. And why that means you should do it even more.

Listen to the episode now and let the doors of massive change open right in front of you.

Show highlights include:

The counterintuitive way obeying every religious rule can result in a full-blown porn addiction (7:15)
How to make happiness burst through your entire body without doing anything to make yourself happy (12:56)
The insidious way clinging to everything in your life deprives you of true bliss (20:58)
The almost-too-simple "Follow Me" strategy that creates more peace and joy in your life than anything else (25:13)
Why you must let go of the best things in your life to achieve everything you've ever wanted (27:03)

Un-Worrying Jan 13, 2022

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Humans are weird. We worry about our kids, our jobs, our relationships, our finances, and everything in between. But we don't have control over these things most of the time.

Do you worry around the clock over things big and small? Worrying sends you down a vicious cycle that makes you less capable of fixing whatever you're worrying about. And often, you even worry about being worried.

The result? You aren't as happy and fulfilled as you could be.

But there's an easy way to stop worrying in its tracks. It instantly reduces your stress levels, clears your head, and helps you make better decisions.

In this episode, you'll discover simple ways to stop worrying by using your body.

Listen to the episode now and make all your worries disappear.

Show highlights include:

Your brain's pattern recognition "glitch" which creates unnecessary stress and worry (and how to reverse this glitch) (4:27)
How worrying poisons your body, disrupts your thinking processes, and turns your emotions up to "11" (6:23)
Why worrying about your kids makes you less capable to help them (even if it's out of love) (6:35)
The insidious "Worry Cycle" trap that creates a never-ending loop of anxiety and erodes your happiness (13:50)
The "Inner Exuberance" secret for ending your constant worrying, anxiety, and even OCD (15:09)
How to make your internal environment zing with joy (even when everything's going wrong in your life) (19:15)
Why simple movements like stretching and yawning build a bonfire of wellbeing inside you that lasts all day (20:12)

Honestly Ignorant Jan 06, 2022

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Most people think knowledge improves their life. The more you "know," the more you can win arguments, impress others, and build a better life.

The truth is that knowledge clouds your judgement, creates fake problems, and depletes your joy. These false truths you believe can even turn into wicked root issues that make true happiness impossible.

There's a reason people say "ignorance is bliss." When you embrace ignorance, you unlock all the joys of life that are right in front of you right now. It sounds counterintuitive, but it works.

In this episode, you'll discover how being honestly ignorant makes you happier, helps you build a healthier marriage, and puts your life on "easy mode."

Listen to this episode now before your knowledge wrecks everything good in your life.

Show highlights include:

How assumptions you think help you can morph into full-blown traumas that keep slashing your happiness (2:11)
The weird psychological "Phantom Shooters" glitch that makes your life seem much worse than it is (3:30)
How removing the word "know" from your vocabulary makes 90% (or more) of your problems disappear overnight (5:55)
Why your worst emotions aren't as destructive as you think (and the "Know Filter" secret for escaping from your emotions) (8:36)
How to use the "picture in your mind" method to never be irritated or angry at anyone ever again (17:14)
Why admitting you don't know your spouse is the single greatest way to improve your marriage (17:59)
The wacky "stare at your wife" exercise for rejuvenating your love (even when you're on the brink of divorce) (24:34)

Chasing Perfection Dec 30, 2021

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Society has conditioned you to chase perfection since we were kids. Your parents praised you if you did your homework. And scolded you if you didn't eat your veggies.

This idea tricks you into believing your worth as a person is tied to your actions. You feel invisible when you win. And like an utter loser when you make a mistake.

But nothing sacrifices your happiness and joy more than chasing perfection. And it's not even tied to reality — your worth as a person has nothing to do with how smart, skilled, or perfect you are.

In this episode, you'll discover how to stop chasing perfection so you can experience happiness on autopilot.

Listen to the episode now.

Show highlights include:

Why you're not a failure even if you've failed more times than you can count (4:55)
The weird way eating your vegetables as a kid stunts your self-esteem today (5:37)
The brutal truth about why Floyd Mayweather isn't happy even though he's worth a billion dollars (10:55)
Why being ignorant is the easiest route to a happy life (and how to practice ignorance) (21:35)

Waking Up Dec 23, 2021

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Every morning you pull the blankets off of you, you unlock the power to end all your misery and suffering for good.

Here's what I mean:

Your problems and your suffering are like dreams. They're made-up ideas in your mind that torment you. But they're not real: If you "wake up" from them, all your problems vanish.

It sounds unbelievable, but it unleashes a level of zen only the Buddha experienced.

In this episode, you'll discover how to wake up from problems and live a life full of bliss.

Listen to this episode now and make all your suffering disappear into thin air.

Show highlights include:

The Buddha's secret for transforming his lifelong suffering into zen-like bliss (2:53)
Why your problems are as fake as your last nightmare (and how to leverage this to reverse your trauma) (7:31)
The simple 6-step process that makes vanishing all your misery as easy as getting out of bed in the morning (9:18)
How to erase your depression, worries, and sadness (without spending years in therapy re-experiencing your trauma) (12:07)

How To Never Work Again Dec 16, 2021

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Work is the biggest source of stress, misery, and overwhelm in the world. And it doesn't even exist. Work is nothing but an expenditure of energy — labeling it "work" causes stress, anxiety, and misery.

Since the Industrial Revolution, society brainwashed us to think hard work is a virtue. So we try to stay busy all day long at the expense of our joy.

But there's an easy solution for this:

If you stop thinking about it as "work," it becomes easier, more fun, and more fulfilling. And you experience a deeper sense of happiness too.

In this episode, you'll discover how to never work again for the rest of your life.

Listen to the episode before work stresses you out even more than it already does.

Show highlights include:

How we've "hijacked" nature and transformed ourselves into productive machines (and why this saps your joy) (2:34)
Why you don't have to work hard and stay productive to be content (5:18)
The insidious way homework brainwashed you into believing you can't have down time without feeling guilty (6:27)
The "Expenditure of Energy" mindset shift that instantly makes work more fun and fulfilling (9:16)
The weird way removing "work" from your vocabulary makes exercising easier (10:33)
The oddball "Quit Working" secret that melts all the stress off your shoulders in an instant (16:01)
Why your own mind is the most common source of all your misery (and how to morph it into ecstasy) (21:22)

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