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People Pleasing & Perfectionism Nov 24, 2022

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When you were born, you weren't a people pleaser. Yet many people label themselves as such today (even though it causes undue suffering).

Why?

Because learning to be a people pleaser usually helps you cope with a traumatic experience that could date back to your early childhood years.

For example, one of the folks who came to the Freedom Specialist retreats was a self-admitted people pleaser with a porn addiction. He even contemplated suicide. After digging, I realized he still carried the trauma of his friend committing suicide nearly a decade before he stepped foot in the retreat.

But by working with his body—instead of his thoughts—he discovered a new way to act. The result? His trauma disappeared and he's never been happier since.

In this episode, you'll discover how to use your body to quiet your nastiest negative thoughts and unlock more joy than you even thought possible.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

The "never out of the blue" mindset tweak for better understanding and erasing your addictive tendencies (2:50)
How to uncover if a loved one has suicidal thoughts by zeroing in to the language they use (5:42)
Why your brain acts like a QR code (and how this fact creates untold amounts of suffering in your life) (12:40)
The "Different Body" secret for instantly obliterating your negative and triggering thoughts (13:56)
A 3-second trick for curbing anger whenever it rears its ugly head (14:49)
Why simply praying can evaporate your worst thoughts and feelings (even if you don't have a religious bone in your body) (19:56)
The weird root cause of aging, midlife crises, and divorce (and how to prevent it in your life) (23:07)

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Suicide (w. Michael & Yoshi) Nov 17, 2022

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Suicide is the second leading cause of death for everyone up to age 45. It's a tragedy—and a full out epidemic.

So why do so many people in our world choose to kill themselves instead of living out the rest of their days?

Well, there are several reasons. From societal expectations to social media and everything in between. But another massive problem is people don't feel comfortable talking about it.

In fact, even though I had suicidal thoughts, I had no idea my son did. I couldn't spot it, even after he read me a cryptic story he wrote. More recently, I caught him bawling his eyes out in his car as he tried to talk his friend down from the ledge. His parents didn't know either.

Suicide happens all the time, it's the second leading cause of death up to age 45, after all. Yet nobody is comfortable enough to discuss it.

But you know what?

It doesn't have to be this way. You and I have the power to change this. Forever.

And in this episode, my two oldest sons join me to discuss suicide, why it's such a common problem, and how you can prevent suicide in your family.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

The sad truth about why "spotting the signs of suicide" won't help (and how to actually prevent suicide) (2:14)
Why teenagers don't tell anyone if they have suicidal thoughts (and how to change this before they make a fatal mistake) (6:33)
The weird "Hypothetical Suicide Scenario" which may save your child's life (10:56)
How "renaming" your kids when they grow up frees them of nasty expectations and unlocks their true self (17:41)
Why expectations, even healthy expectations, add unnecessary weight and pressure to your children's already tough lives (15:48)

The Buddha And The Philospher Nov 10, 2022

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The Buddha as we know him wasn't always the Buddha. In fact, he was just a normal guy who suffered like most of us do. But then the Buddha discovered the only true way to get rid of suffering.

Years after the Buddha's discovery, a philosopher approached him. The philosopher searched for the answers to life his entire life. And the Buddha's only solution was to sit in silence for two years.

After begrudgingly agreeing to the Buddha's terms, two years later, the philosopher had no questions for the Buddha.

Moral of the story?

You don't have to solve your "problems." In fact, trying to solve them is what makes them seem like problems in the first place. But your problems don't exist. And by prioritizing your body—instead of your mind—your problems will dissolve on their own.

In this episode, you'll discover why the mind creates problems. And why relying on the mind to solve them only makes them bigger.

Ready to free yourself from suffering? Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

The Buddha's profound secret for appreciating and enjoying life right now (even if you're unhappy) (5:44)
How to banish all your worries, anxieties, and fears by removing a single letter from your vocabulary (8:27)
The "Body First" approach for eliminating as much as 90% of your problems within a few weeks (13:39)
The counterintuitive explanation for why mental health problems are skyrocketing (and how your body can reverse mental traumas) (16:07)
The insidious "Thinking over Being" infection popularized by philosophers which nukes your ability to free yourself from suffering (16:45)
5 simple ways to get into your body today to make your problems evaporate on their own (20:41)
Why never resolving your relationship problems makes you and your partner happier (22:28)

You Aren't A Parking Ticket, You Don't Need Validation Nov 03, 2022

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We don't come out of the womb seeking validation. But shortly after, our parents, our society, and our culture train us to seek validation.

This is a mistake that leads to suffering, depression, and even suicide.

Why?

Because you're already perfect the way you are. But the more you seek validation from others, the more you remove yourself from your perfection. Which makes it impossible to free yourself from your suffering.

In this episode, you'll discover why validation is a deadly poison that keeps you caged instead of free. And how to feel okay with your life without any kind of validation.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

The "learn to suffer" mindset tweak which extinguishes trauma overnight (1:08)
Why validating your kids actually robs them from the joy of being themselves (even if it makes them smile in the moment) (4:47)
The "Ugly Painting" trap which erodes your kid's self esteem (even if you're trying to build it) (7:07)
How comforting someone who is suicidal is like giving them a deadly poison (and what to do instead) (13:37)
The toxic "Culture Infection" which makes it impossible to free yourself from suffering, addiction, and trauma (18:06)
Why soothing your suffering with validation inflicts long-term misery that's almost impossible to get rid of (21:12)

You Be You (w. Jonathan) Oct 27, 2022

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Can the Freedom Specialist still help you even if you're not miserable or dealing with severe trauma?

Most people don't have severe trauma or addictions that sabotage their lives. But there's still an opportunity to feel better, to feel more like yourself, and to experience more joy than you do right now.

In fact, that's exactly what happened with today's guest, Freedom Specialist client turned coach, Jonathan. Jonathan wasn't a ball of misery every day, but he still felt like he was missing something in his life.

After spending four days at a Freedom Specialist retreat, Jonathan unlocked a deep sense of joy that most people never get to experience.

In this episode, you'll discover how to transform feeling "okay" into feeling alive and free every single day.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

How needing your partner for your own happiness—or vice versa—cripples your relationship (2:56)
Why telling yourself you're okay just two weeks after a tragic situation distorts yours "Internal Happiness" and exhausts you (6:36)
The insidious "Mental Prison" addicts lock themselves in which causes them to fall back into their worst compulsive behaviors (and how to break free from addiction for good) (7:44)
The deadly "Emotinally Stupid" thought which triggers your worst addictive cravings (and how to delete this thought from your psyche in a day) (9:07)
How to unburden yourself from the constant voices of criticism in your head (20:00)
Why the stories your mind tells you squelches the unique gift inside you (22:24)
How just living instead of trying to "fix" yourself unleashes joy on your soul and to every person you interact with (27:42)

8 Billion Worlds Oct 20, 2022

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We experience situations of disagreement every day.

And we get annoyed when we argue with our loved ones, who are supposed to understand us more than anyone else and vice versa.

We ask ourselves how far from reality the other person can be, and don't shift from our position. It's those silly arguments that can end a relationship.

But there is a way to avoid unnecessary conflict and strengthen your relationships at the same time.

In this episode you'll discover how you can approach your relationships and even find joy in having differences.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

How to elevate your experience with a book in a matter of seconds (1:03)
Mr. Miyagi's secret for finding joy (and what to pay attention to) (7:02)
The reason why reality is an illusion, and how to attain a deep understanding of the world (8:44)
How your nervous system controls your thoughts for you to not get overwhelmed and break down (14:13)
How our environment begins to shape our sense of reality before we're even born (19:09)
Why welcoming disagreements strengthens your relationships (without having to argue all the time) (25:03)

Beyond Therapy (w. Chase Sayer LCSW) Oct 13, 2022

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Therapy has helped a lot of people in the world. But it can't help everyone. And in fact, it may not be the best approach to solve mental health problems.

For example, today's guest, Ace Jaysayer, is a therapist himself. But after an earth-shattering divorce, he slowly realized the modern form of therapy isn't too effective.

He first used his skills on himself for a year. When that didn't work, he found the best therapist in the world for him. But that didn't work either.

As he was on the brink of suicice, he discovered the Freedom Specialist and came to a retreat. Within two days, 98% of his trauma vanished.

In this episode, Ace shares his story, why modern therapy isn't as effective as it could be, and how you can overcome your suffering (even when therapy didn't work for you).

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

Why mental health in America is declining despite the stigma around therapy vanishing (7:35)
The weird way even the best, good-hearted therapists can't help all their clients overcome their problems (9:20)
How an earth-shattering divorce led this top therapist on the brink of depression to a Freedom Specialist retreat where he conquered his suffering in 2 days (and how you can conquer suffering too) (16:02)
Why therapy couldn't help a professional therapist who knows how to find the best therapist for himself (19:03)
The "thoughts as a byproduct" strategy shift which how the Freedom Specialist retreats can help you conquer your trauma when therapy can't (22:29)
Why working with the body is a more effective way to handle mental health issues than working with the thoughts (23:14)
How to get rid of your trauma in as little as two days (even if you've spent years in therapy) (24:10)

Ripples of Change (w. Amber and Lee) Oct 06, 2022

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When you make a massive change in your life, like unlocking unlimited joy and freedom, it causes ripples of change to every relationship too. And these ripples of change aren't always positive, which confuses many people.

If you've discovered the secret to freedom and happiness, your first step is sharing it with your loved ones. But often, this "advice" comes across as judgemental and can strain your most beloved relationships.

Not only have I struggled with this with my wife, but today's guests, Lee and Amber have also struggled with it.

In this episode, you'll discover why these ripples of change can damage your relationships — and how to prevent it and even make your relationships stronger.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

Why making a massive change in your life can weaken your relationships (and how the "Toddler Technique" keeps your relationships strong) (4:15)
How trying to take care of your loved ones actually cripples them (and why anger may work better) (9:31)
The "Bleeding Relaxation" trick for making everyone around you more calm and collected (11:44)
The insidious way pushing your happiness on others backfires and plants the seeds of resentment (15:23)
How accepting people as they are makes them more open to bizarre self-help methods (20:45)
The "well, that's a cute story" secret for instantly making the negative voice in your head shut up (29:10)

Who Told You That? (w. Lee) Sep 29, 2022

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Who told you that all your traumas and baggage are problems? Where did the ideas of depression, anxiety, and addiction even come from? Are they even true?

Here's why I'm asking:

By simply questioning your ideas, problems, and emotions you can start to leave them behind. So why don't more people question these topics?

Well, they believe them to be true because their family, friends, and therapists drilled it into their heads. But feeling stuck also gives you a demented form of comfort — like it has for me and today's guest, Lee.

In this episode, you'll hear Lee's story of growing up for 16 years in a family that abused him physically, mentally, emotionally, spritually, and sexually. And you'll discover how Lee finally set down his trauma story for good.

The result?

He's happier and more free than he's ever been. (Plus, his beard is darker!)

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

How your tongue shapes your thoughts and can poison your body and mind (2:43)
The "Tongue Thoughts" mindset shift which instantly unlocks a happier and calmer version of yourself (5:11)
Why simply relaxing the back of your tongue is the easiest and most effective way to make your frantic thoughts vanish (5:17)
The Father of Modern Medicine's secret for using food as medicine to balance your body and mind (10:45)
The bizarre way your need for food strips away your freedom and joy (and how to overcome this "need" by breathing) (11:58)
The biochemical proof that breathing is a more effective source of nourishment than food and supplements (13:59)
The powerful "Placebo, Nocebo" technique for completely mastering your life and the world around you (18:04)
How to survive without food or water for years using the "Breatharian" technique like my teacher, Eliton El-amin (19:07)
Why food imprisons you and how thinking of food as an experience instead of a necessity frees you from food's wicked, inflammation-inducing grasp (21:34)
The "Self-Sufficient" secret which instantly wipes out your biggest fears and worries (27:19)

The Notion of Need Sep 22, 2022

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Since we were born, we've been conditioned to need certain things. From basic things like food and water to lavish things like sports cars and watches.

But do we really "need" anything? Maybe not…

I've been recently training under Elitom El-amin. He's a breatharian who hasn't eaten food or drank water in two years.

Yes, years!

As Elitom proves, not only do you not need food, but you don't need anything. And nothing—and I mean nothing—unlocks more freedom in your life than ditching your notion of need.

Why?

Because as soon as you ditch your notion of need, every possible life route you have becomes an option for a life-changing adventure.

In this episode, you'll discover how to question your notion of need, how you may be able to live without food and water, and why your needs sabotage your joy.

Ready to unlock a monk-esque level of happiness and calmness and free yourself from your needs? Listen now.

Show Highlights Include

How your tongue shapes your thoughts and can poison your body and mind (2:43)
The "Tongue Thoughts" mindset shift which instantly unlocks a happier and calmer version of yourself (5:11)
Why simply relaxing the back of your tongue is the easiest and most effective way to make your frantic thoughts vanish (5:17)
The Father of Modern Medicine's secret for using food as medicine to balance your body and mind (10:45)
The bizarre way your need for food strips away your freedom and joy (and how to overcome this "need" by breathing) (11:58)
The biochemical proof that breathing is a more effective source of nourishment than food and supplements (13:59)
The powerful "Placebo, Nocebo" technique for completely mastering your life and the world around you (18:04)
How to survive without food or water for years using the "Breatharian" technique like my teacher, Eliton El-amin (19:07)
Why food imprisons you and how thinking of food as an experience instead of a necessity frees you from food's wicked, inflammation-inducing grasp (21:34)
The "Self-Sufficient" secret which instantly wipes out your biggest fears and worries (27:19)

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