1. 2 sides of Perfectionism
a.Cons -Very deep fear of failure -Never being satisfied
b.Pros -Doing the best we can
2. As ambitious people, we believe that:
a.Until I accomplish a certain goal - I can’t be happy
b.In order to be successful I need to be constantly dissatisfied until I accomplish the goal
3. So, Is it possible to be hungry and satisfied at the same time?
a.YES! Thats the mark of a great intelligence - being able to hold 2 opposing ideas in your mind at the same time
4. Is your Life an Odyssey or a Sisyphean Battle
a.Odyssey = Life is an adventure
-There are wins and losses -But you enjoy the journey
b.Sisyphean Battle -Feeling like you are Never winning
-Trying to roll a boulder up a mountain - goes on forever
5. As ambitious people - we tend to be harsh towards ourselves
a.But Self compassion is even more important than self esteem
b.You Treat yourself like you would treat someone you love dearly
c.The constant question: If I let up on myself …. How will I drive myself?
d.Ask yourself: What is the real motivation behind me wanting to do what I want to do?
-Dig for the intrinsic motivations
6. You will not always be happy
a.Accept your negative emotions b.Give yourself the permission to be human
7. Quotes:
a.When you appreciate the good in your life, the good appreciates
b.In life we must Learn to fail or fail to learn
8. Action Items:
a.Gratitude Journal
-Write down 3 things you are grateful for
b.If you were completely anonymous - what would you be doing?