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How to Reconnect with Joy as an Adult (Even If You Feel Stuck) Mar 25, 2026

Feeling disconnected from joy in your adult life? You're not alone—and you're not broken. In this episode, we explore why so many of us lose touch with joy as we get older and how the constant pressure to be productive keeps us stuck in a cycle of doing instead of living.

You'll learn how to reconnect with joy in simple, meaningful ways—without needing more discipline, structure, or even a defined hobby. From revisiting what brought you joy as a child to embracing small, everyday moments of connection, this episode will help you shift your definition of success and start prioritizing what truly matters.

If you've been feeling stuck, burned out, or unsure how to have fun anymore, this conversation will guide you back to yourself—and remind you that joy was never something you had to earn.

Why Your Brain Won't Let You Relax: How to Stop Overthinking During Downtime Mar 16, 2026

(UPDATED AUDIO...Mercury Retrograde, amiright?) Ever sit down to relax after a long day, only to have your brain start listing everything you should be doing instead? Suddenly the dog hair on the floor, the unanswered email, and the unfinished to-do list make it impossible to enjoy your evening.

If this sounds familiar, you're not alone—and you're not bad at relaxing.

In this episode, we unpack why your brain resists downtime and why high performers often feel guilty when they try to rest. You'll learn how your nervous system was trained to associate relaxation with laziness, why overthinking keeps you stuck in constant productivity mode, and how science actually shows that rest is essential for creativity and problem-solving.

We'll also explore the "incubation effect," the surprising reason your best ideas show up in the shower, and why learning to relax might be the most productive thing you can do.

If your brain won't stop running the moment you try to slow down, this episode will help you understand why—and show you how to start retraining your mind so relaxation finally feels safe.

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Each message:

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Anxiety While Waiting: Why the Uncertainty Gap Feels Like an Emergency (And How to Stay Calm) Mar 04, 2026

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You know how it goes.

You sent the text... You're waiting to hear back...

And it's taking wayyy longer than it should.

So now you're refreshing the screen, checking to make sure your phone is working, going back and rereading what you sent 5295 times.

Your nervous system is spiraling.

You are in the Uncertainty Gap and it's the worrrrrrst.

In this episode, we're talking about uncertainty intolerance. Why the in-between time, while you're waiting for an outcome, a reply, or an answer is like, your worst nightmare.

We're talking about why your brain would rather invent a problem and TORTURE you with it than sit in neutral, and how this pattern becomes one of the biggest energy leaks for high performers.

You'll learn:

Why "nothing happening" feels unsafe
How catastrophic thinking is just pretend play
The real reason waiting drains you

And I'll share with you a simple exercise you can use to build up your tolerance for uncertainty and building the capacity to do nothing is how you shift your identity to someone who is unbothered in the unknown.

Ready to build your tolerance for uncertainty one rep at a time?

The Daily Recalibration is a short, powerful daily reset designed to train your nervous system to stay steady in neutral.

One clean rep every morning so you spend less time torturing yourself with made up shit and MORE time regulated and efficient. Get it here: The Daily Recalibration

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We don't vent. We regulate. We don't rehearse old patterns. We interrupt them. We uplevel our identities one win at a time.

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The Hidden Habits Keeping High-Achieving Women Exhausted Feb 25, 2026

You look high-functioning on the outside. Successful. Responsible. Emotionally intelligent. Capable.

But inside? You're exhausted.

In this episode, we're breaking down the hidden habits draining high-performing women — the subtle, daily behaviors that quietly fuel burnout, chronic stress, and nervous system dysregulation.

This isn't about quitting your job or overhauling your life. It's about the micro-moments.

The email you rewrite five times. The "no worries" when there are worries. The overexplaining. The cushioning. The constant anticipation of other people's disappointment.

These tiny behaviors may look responsible. But they're actually energy leaks.

If you're a high-achieving woman who struggles with overthinking, people pleasing, overfunctioning, or feeling chronically stressed even when everything looks "fine," this episode will help you:

Identify hidden habits that contribute to burnout
Understand how nervous system dysregulation shapes your identity
Stop overexplaining and energy-managing
Shift your identity through small daily micro reps
Reclaim your power without dramatic life changes

Because identity isn't built in breakthroughs. It's built at 3:15pm on a Wednesday.

And those small reps? They change everything.

5 Signs Your Nervous System Is Chronically Dysregulated (And Stuck in Fight or Flight) Feb 18, 2026

Do small things feel like big things? Can a short text send you into a spiral? Do you "lose" hours to rumination, scrolling, or shutdown?

You might be experiencing chronic nervous system dysregulation.

In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 clear signs your nervous system may be stuck in fight, flight, or freeze even if you're high-functioning and holding it all together on the outside.

There's a big difference between occasional stress and living in a constant stress response. When your nervous system is dysregulated, neutral feels threatening, small stressors feel catastrophic, and peace feels… temporary.

We're talking about:

Why everything feels like a big deal
What it means to "lose time" when triggered
Why you can't let things go (even when you want to)
How stress spills over and ruins your whole week
Why your regulation tools feel fragile or short-lived

If you've ever thought:

"Why do I overreact to small things?"
"Why can't I stop ruminating?"
"Why does everything feel overwhelming?"
"Why do I feel stuck in fight or flight?"

This episode will help you understand what's actually happening inside your nervous system.

We also talk about the difference between trying to regulate your environment… and actually recalibrating your nervous system.

Because peace isn't something you achieve only when the entire world cooperates.

It's something you experience when your nervous system isn't on emergency duty 24/7.

Ready to Stop Living in Fight or Flight?

If you're recognizing signs of chronic nervous system dysregulation in your own life, this is exactly the work we do inside Calm AF Life.

We don't just talk about tools. We recalibrate your nervous system so peace becomes your baseline — not a temporary blip.

Join the interest list and learn how to regulate your nervous system on demand (without trying to manage everyone else's mood).

Because confidence, emotional stability, and peace live on the other side of a regulated nervous system.

If this episode resonated, share it with someone who needs to stop sending the hazmat team to every text message.

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Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

Getting to the Root of Chronic Dysregulation: Why Everything Feels So Hard Feb 11, 2026

**THE AUDIO HAS BEEN UPDATED**

Your nervous system is like an emergency dispatcher who's been on duty for five years straight. She's stopped filtering real emergencies from imaginary ones and now she's just patching every trigger through as a massive, all hands on deck emergency.

And instead of doing the right thing and giving her some TRUE time off, you just keep giving her more energy drinks and telling her to take 5.

You aren't solving the problem, you're trying to fix the symptoms.

This is what chronic dysregulation does. It's not just creating anxiety and hypervigilance...it's seeping into every area of your body and life...affecting your sleep, your digestion, your happiness, your immune system, your relationships and your ability to level up.

There's a big difference between being a regulated person who sometimes slips into dysregulation and being a person who is chronically dysregulated. If you keep treating the symptoms you will stay chronically dysregulated.

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Why Trying to Stop Overthinking Makes You Overthink More (And What Actually Works) Feb 04, 2026

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How much time did you spend this week analyzing why you do the things you do?

Reading about attachment styles, scrolling Instagram therapists, listening to podcasts about nervous system regulation, journaling about why you can't stop overthinking?

Now—how much time did you spend actually not overthinking?

Yeah.

Here's the thing nobody tells you:

All that analysis? All that learning? All that trying to stop?

That's not the new pathway. That's the old one.

You're standing on the old road—the one with all the potholes—staring at the potholes, trying to understand the potholes, researching how potholes form.

And you think you're building a new road.

But you're not. You're just making the old road more familiar.

I recorded a whole episode about this because I keep seeing the smartest, most self-aware people (my people—energy managers like you) trying themselves into the GROUND.

Trying to stop overthinking. Trying to set boundaries. Trying to not be so hard on themselves.

The trying IS the problem.

In this week's episode, I explain:

Why 80% of your time is spent hardwiring what you don't want (and you don't even realize it)
The spray bottle metaphor that'll make you go "oh shit"
What it actually looks like to get on the new pathway (real client story that'll probably make you cry a little)
How to flip the ratio so you're spending 80% of your time being calm AF instead of trying to be

Calm AF Life: Regulated is coming soon. This is where you will shift the identity from knowing how to regulated to REGULATED.

In the meantime, get the Daily Reminders private podcast that you can listen to on repeat that will recalibrate your nervous system (not just add to your tool collection).

Get support

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

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You're Doing It Wrong: Why Your Anxiety Tools Aren't Making You Calm (And What Actually Does) Jan 28, 2026

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You know what to do.

You've read the books, listened to the podcasts, practiced the breathwork. You know your attachment style, you've done the inner child work, you can meditate when you remember to.

So why aren't you calm yet?

In this episode, I'm telling you the hard truth about why all those tools you've collected aren't working—and it's not because you haven't found the right one yet.

This episode will sting a little. But if you're exhausted from working so hard to feel inner peace and it never seems to stick, this is the wake-up call you need.

What You'll Learn:

Why having all the anxiety tools doesn't make you regulated (just like cookbooks don't make you a chef)
The real reason you're still anxious even though you know what to do
The identity shift from "high-functioning anxious person" to "regulated person"
Real examples of what this transformation looks like over time (from my Calm AF Life members)
How to stop wasting time, money, and energy on tools that only work in crisis moments
The difference between knowing how to regulate your nervous system and being regulated

Calm AF Life: Regulated is coming soon. This is where you will shift the identity from knowing how to regulated to REGULATED.

In the meantime, get the 7 Reminders private podcast that you can listen to on repeat that will recalibrate your nervous system (not just add to your tool collection).

Get support

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

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Conflict Avoidant? Walking on Eggshells? You Might Be an Energy Manager. Jan 21, 2026

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In this episode, we're revisiting one of the most resonant topics here at Calm AF: The Energy Manager.

If you're the calm, capable one everyone relies on...you can read a room, smooth over tension, and keep everyone's emotions balanced with one hand behind your back, but YOU are slowly losing your light..this is for you.

We're gonna break down how being "fine" on the outside while managing everyone else's emotional temperature isn't emotional intelligence, it's a survival pattern. And it's exhausting. We talk about what it looks like and what actually changes when you stop energy managing...where you feel the microshift in the room and instead of running toward it, you sit there. You let it be uncomfortable. You let THEM be uncomfortable. And eventually, your body learns that the firehose won't kill you.

Over the next couple months, we're diving deep into Energy Manager recovery. Subscribe so you don't miss a single episode because this pattern doesn't just go away on its own (unless everyone in your life suddenly becomes perfectly chill forever, which... sure, Jan).

Get support

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

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You Aren't Behind, You're Doing It Right Jan 14, 2026

I am nipping some unhelpful thinking in the bud in this episode. YOU ARE NOT BEHIND. Just because you haven't solidified a plan or taken major action the first two weeks of January doesn't mean you're doing it wrong.

January comes with these absurd and unrealistic expectations that we should already have our goals mapped out, habits in place, and our "new self" fully activated. But that's not how it works.

In episode 343, I'm sharing why this season is better suited for reflection and getting oriented than performance and how identity creates habits (not the other way around)

If you're already feeling behind, rushed, or disconnected from your goals this convo is for you.

Get support

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

Why You're Overthinking Everything (And Why It Gets Worse the More Successful You Are) Jan 07, 2026

From the outside, you look steady.

People trust you. You handle shit. You neverrrrr let them see you sweat.

Inside, though, your mind doesn't stop.

Your constantly replaying conversations and second guessing decisions that you've already spent forever trying to make.

And you think that, surely by now, you'd be past this level of doubt.

This episode is for high-functioning, high-achieving people who aren't lacking confidence or skill but are exhausted from the constant mental vigilance.

We're talking about:

Why overthinking increases after success, not before
How managing perception erodes self-trust
Why calm isn't about relaxing
What it really means when things suddenly feel harder again

Get support

Calibration call: This isn't ongoing coaching. It's a single, focused recalibration session designed to get you clear when you find yourself stuck. Learn more here.

Private coaching: I work privately with a small number of clients who are tired of losing time and energy to overthinking, second-guessing, and energy managing. This is a high-level engagement for people who are operating at a high level and want to stop feeling like it's fragile. Find details and complete application here.

Identity Shifting: The Most Important Step (That You Probably Skip) Dec 31, 2025

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As we close out 2025, this episode is an invitation to pause before you plan.

If the year felt beautiful—amazing. And if it felt heavy, disorienting, or unfinished—you're not alone.

Instead of starting the new year with goals, strategies, or fixing yourself, this episode begins where real change actually starts: identity.

In this episode, I'm sharing Step One from my Future Self Course: Dream Big.

Not as a vision board exercise. Not as wishful thinking. And not as a plan.

But as a necessary first step in identity creation.

Inside this lesson, we explore:

Why starting with how keeps you stuck in your old identity
How "being realistic" often means shrinking your desires before you begin
Why getting your hopes up is not irresponsible—it's clarifying
How dreaming big gives direction before you ever need a strategy

This lesson is about permission. Permission to want what you want. Permission to imagine without editing. Permission to let the next version of you come into focus.

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You'll receive:

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Let this be the year you stop shrinking what you want—and start becoming who you already know you're here to be.

REPLAY: Navigating the Holiday Vortex Dec 23, 2025

The week between Christmas and New Year's—what I call the holiday vortex—is your secret weapon for creating a calm, focused, and successful start to 2025.

In this episode, I'll show you why rest is the most productive thing you can do and how using this unique time strategically can help you achieve more without burnout.

You'll learn how to break free from the productivity treadmill, rewire your nervous system, and step into the new year with clarity, confidence, and joy.

If you're an ambitious high achiever ready to thrive without exhaustion, this episode is for you.

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You Are the Main Character: How to Rewrite Your Identity and Change Your Life Dec 03, 2025

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What if you approached your own life with the same intentionality a screenwriter brings to their main character?

In this episode, we're talking about why so many high-achievers are living like background characters in their own story AND how to step into the lead role.

You'll learn:

Why identity always precedes behavior (and why most people get this backwards)
The difference between writing yourself from the inside out vs. the outside in
How one client became "a person who exercises every day" without willpower or discipline
Why change feels so hard when you're operating from the wrong identity
The Rewrite Method: seeing your life cinematically and showing up with intention

This isn't about fake-it-til-you-make-it or toxic positivity. It's about understanding that every moment is a scene, and you get to choose who you're becoming in real time.

If you've been waiting for permission, clarity, or motivation to make a change, this episode will show you why the shift starts with identity first, action second.

The Truth About Priorities Oct 29, 2025

If I could go back and tell my younger self something, it would be this: Figure out what really matters in life. Figure out what, at the end of your life, made it a life well lived. And then figure out HOW to not forget it.

(This episode is a replay from 2023)

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These aren't another thing for your to-do list. They're daily permission slips to prioritize what makes everything else easier.

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Ensures the FIRST neural pathway you travel each day is one of joy
Reminds you that work doesn't HAVE to be hard
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Stop Fixing Yourself: You're Not a Project. Oct 15, 2025

In today's episode of Calm AF, we're diving deep into one of the most harmful modern mindsets: the belief that you have to fix yourself before you can enjoy your life. If you've ever felt like you need to check off a to-do list before you're allowed to relax or be happy — this episode is your reminder to stop fixing yourself to be happy.

Inspired by a love letter from my private podcast, this "spiel" explores why you don't need to earn joy, peace, or worthiness. You're not a project — you're a human being living a once-in-a-lifetime experience. And that means you deserve to love your life right now, not after the next goal, hack, or habit tracker.

🧠 What You'll Learn:

Why constant self-improvement can actually keep you stuck
The difference between desire-based transformation and shame-driven change
How to stop treating your life like a never-ending project
The truth about the to-do list that never ends
How to actually enjoy your life — while still growing and evolving

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Why You're Stuck and How to Change — And Find Peace of Mind Oct 09, 2025

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You say you want peace. You say you're ready to stop overthinking, people-pleasing, and spinning out.

So why does your brain keep dragging you back into suffering — even when life gives you a moment to breathe?

In this episode, we're talking about the ways we argue against our own peace — and how we fight harder to stay stuck than to change.

You'll learn why familiar thoughts like:

"I'm not good enough."
"Life's harder for me."
"People always let me down."

…feel so true — and how to stop identifying with them.

We'll talk about:

Why your brain clings to old suffering stories — even when they hurt
How to recognize when you're defending pain instead of choosing peace
A nervous system practice to shift out of mental spiraling
Tools to build evidence for your peaceful, grounded identity — one thought at a time

Because your peace doesn't begin when life gets easier — it begins when you stop fighting for your suffering.

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Rewire Your Brain: How to Break Old Thought Patterns and Build New Neural Pathways Oct 01, 2025

Why does your brain keep pulling you back into the same thought loops — even when you want to change? In this episode, I'm breaking down the real science of neural pathway rewiring, and why motivation isn't the answer.

You'll learn:

Why your brain defaults to familiar (not better) pathways
A simple, effective way to rewire old patterns
What to do in the moment when you catch yourself thinking the old story
Why reminders and repetition are the keys to lasting change
How long it really takes to shift your brain's default setting

This isn't about willpower — it's about working with your brain, not against it.

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The Simplest Way to Start Feeling Better When You're Mentally and Emotionally Exhausted Sep 17, 2025

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Feeling mentally and emotionally drained but convinced you have to keep pushing through?

This episode is for you.

If you're running on fumes but your instinct is to try harder, work longer, and push more - you might be doing exactly what's keeping you stuck. In this episode, I share the story of a high-achieving client who was beating her head against a brick wall until she learned the power of pressing pause.

In this episode, you'll discover:

The difference between inevitable pain and optional suffering
Why "trying harder" often makes everything worse
How one client found the door she'd been missing by stopping her run toward the wall
Why clarity comes from pause, not force
The simple practice that can shift everything this week

This isn't about giving up on your goals - it's about getting out of your own way so you can actually reach them.

Ready to stop running into brick walls? Get daily love letters every day in September that remind you there's another way. These aren't another thing for your to-do list - they're one-minute reminders that you don't have to do life the hard way.

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The Secret to Getting More Done and Being More Productive (It's not what you think) Sep 10, 2025

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What if everything you've been told about productivity is backwards? What if the secret to achieving your goals isn't more discipline, but more joy?

In this episode, I share the story of my most reluctant client who finally agreed to choose the "fun bucket" - and accidentally became more productive than she'd ever been. You'll discover why white-knuckling your way through goals leads to burnout, and how prioritizing fun creates lasting change instead of temporary fixes.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why every client avoided the "fun bucket" (and why you probably would too)
The real reason discipline-based approaches fail long-term
How I stopped needing a donut as my only source of joy
Why fun and hard work aren't mutually exclusive - they're partners
The restrict-binge cycle that happens with joy (and how to find balance)
How to rewire your brain to see fun as fuel, not reward

This isn't about being less serious about your goals - it's about being more strategic. When you fuel up with joy instead of discipline, everything else becomes easier.

Ready to try the fun bucket approach? Get daily love letters all September long that remind you fun is the most efficient fuel you can put in your tank. These aren't another thing for your to-do list - they're daily permission slips to prioritize what makes everything else easier.

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How to Start Fresh in September Without Falling Into the 'Buckle Down' Trap Sep 03, 2025

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September is my new year. The fresh start is so invigorating and exciting AND leads to one of the most COMMON traps we find ourselves in. This epsiode is for you if you're in any kind of new chapter moment - back to school, empty nesting, relationship changes, or just ready to stop earning your way to what matters most.

Key Takeaways

Why September feels more like a new year than January (and why that fresh start energy can be tricky)
The "old voice" that shows up during new chapters telling us to buckle down and get serious
Why we achieve our way away from the thing we wanted to achieve our way to
The difference between doubling down on what matters vs. buckling down on discipline
How high achievers get trapped in earning their way to their own values
What it looks like to be bombarded with reminders of what matters instead of what you're not doing enough of
Why prioritizing joy, beauty, and connection isn't unproductive - it's fuel

Creating Your Legacy (Throwback) Aug 20, 2025

Sometimes the most profound lessons come from the most unexpected places. When Bob Saget died, the tributes revealed something that completely shifted how I think about legacy—and it's probably going to change how you think about yours too.

Here's what I was expecting: Nice tributes. People saying kind things because that's what you do when someone dies.

Here's what actually happened: Story after story of exceptional kindness. Not just "he was nice"—he was exceptionally loving. He never ended conversations without saying "I love you" at least once. He was devastatingly demonstrative with his affection.

I want people to say the same things about me.

What legacy do YOU want to leave behind?

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"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

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Why Your Nervous System Thinks Calm Will Kill You Aug 06, 2025

Your nervous system thinks calm will actually kill you. I know it sounds backwards, but here's what nobody tells you: when you finally get the calm, regulated life you've been working toward, your system goes into overdrive looking for new chaos to manage.

In this episode, I share my client Hannah's story—how she went from drowning in research about her neurodiverse marriage to creating the calm life she wanted, only to have her nervous system immediately start looking for new problems to solve (hello, jewelry business out of nowhere).

This is the most predictable part of nervous system rewiring, and exactly why I told Hannah to give me a full year. Not because she needed more tools or information—she needed time to retrain a system that had learned chaos equals survival.

What You'll Learn

Why your nervous system equates hypervigilance with safety
The pattern interrupt that changed everything for Hannah
Why "giving it a year" isn't about learning more—it's about unlearning chaos addiction
How to recognize when you're replacing old chaos with new chaos
The deeper truth about what real transformation actually looks like

How To Change

This is exactly what we're doing in Calm AF Year: 52 weeks of retraining your nervous system to trust calm, creating an identity where it's safe to be successful without suffering, surrounded by people learning the same thing.

Enrollment opens August 11th.

Join the Interest List. Details coming soon.

Ready for more??

Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.

The Upgrade

You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.

Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.

Private 1:1 Coaching

"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

Click here to fill out the application

What if this is easy? (And other phrases Susan used to change her life) Jul 30, 2025

Calm AF Year is a year-long experiment to see what happens when you LET your life change instead of trying hard to change your life.

Enrollment opens August 11th. Get on the interest list here.

This is Part 2 of my conversation with Susan, one of my Calm AF clients who's been showing up relentlessly to create a life that she LOVES to live. While Part 1 was about intentions and her initial breakthrough with her Future Self, this episode dives into the practical magic that happens when you actually START LIVING these tools.

Susan shares her biggest shifts, including:

How "Nervous System First" became her internal mantra
Understanding the Calm AF scale and why hyper/hypo vigilance isn't a personality flaw
The rubber band theory that will change how you think about setbacks forever
Why feelings only last 90 seconds (but the stories can last a lifetime)
The purple car theory in action - and how it completely transformed her 30-year marriage

This isn't theoretical bullshit. This is what it actually looks like when someone stops making everything so complicated and starts trusting the process.

Resources:

Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.

The Upgrade

You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.

Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.

Private 1:1 Coaching

"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

How Susan Transformed Her Life by Trying Less Jul 23, 2025

Calm AF Year is a year-long experiment to see what happens when you LET your life change instead of trying hard to change your life.

Enrollment opens August 11th. Get on the interest list here.

Episode 329

Back in 2021/2022, Susan was doing what lots of you are doing right now. Listening to this podcast, nodding along, feeling seen, knowing that something about this Kristen lady felt SO right.... but still white-knuckling her way through life. Still managing everyone's feelings. Still exhausted from being the person everyone depends on.

Then she made one decision that changed everything. She heard about a calm AF coaching program I was offering and decided to stop nodding along and take action. She reached out, invested in her future self WITH a very important promise to her (future) self:

"This is the last thing I'm going to try. This is going to work."

Four years later? Same house, same husband, same kids - but a radically different human.

And she did NOT transform every single area of her life by working harder. She did it by doing the opposite.

In this episode, Susan shares the very first step she took to stop performing her life and start actually living it.

If you're tired of being anxious, tired of overthinking everything, tired of barely holding it together while managing everyone else's chaos - this conversation is for you.

Get on the Calm AF Year interest list to get details.

Resources:

Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.

The Upgrade

You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.

Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.

Private 1:1 Coaching

"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

Energetic Clutter: Why You Feel Soul Tired Jul 16, 2025

You want to stop carrying everyone else's shit...physical, emotional and energetic?? Calm AF Year is coming.

Enrollment opens August 11th. It's a year-long experiment to experience how much lighter and calmer you can feel when when you stop accumulating everyone else's stuff and start protecting your own energy. Get on the interest list here.

Ever feel like you're carrying invisible weight? Like you're soul-tired even when your schedule isn't that crazy? That heaviness you can't explain has a name: energetic clutter.

Welcome to Part 4 of our Internal Clutter series, where we tackle the sneakiest drawer of all - the one filled with everyone else's emotional stuff.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

Why you feel heavy even when life is good
How to recognize what's yours vs. what you've absorbed from others
The sneaky ways energetic clutter builds up in your system
Why being an "energetic sponge" leaves you feeling depleted
Simple practices to clear your energetic space
How environmental energy imprints affect your daily life
The real impact of digital emotional overload
Practical ways to protect your energy without becoming cold or disconnected

Key Takeaways:

"You're not just tired because life is hard. You're tired because you're carrying years of accumulated emotional debris that was never yours to begin with."

Most of the energetic clutter weighing you down isn't even yours. Every anxious person you encounter deposits a little anxiety in your system. Every tense conversation leaves residue. Every chaotic environment you walk through leaves some of its chaos behind.

This stuff compounds over time, which is why the heaviness feels more obvious as life goes on. You're not just feeling what you absorbed today - you're carrying the buildup of years of taking on everyone else's emotional stuff.

This Episode is Perfect for You If:

You feel drained after certain conversations or being around specific people
You walk into rooms and immediately pick up on the "energy" or tension
You feel overwhelmed after scrolling social media for just a few minutes
You're tired in a way that sleep doesn't fix
You can't figure out why you feel heavy when nothing particularly bad happened
You suspect you're carrying emotional weight that isn't yours

Previous Episodes in the Internal Clutter Series:

(325) Part 1: Naming the Problem - Your Internal Junk Drawers Are Overflowing
(326)Part 2: Mental Clutter - The 47 Open Tabs in Your Brain
(327) Part 3: Emotional Clutter - The Feelings You've Shoved Down for Years

Get on the Calm AF Year interest list to get details.

Resources:

Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.

The Upgrade

You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.

Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.

Private 1:1 Coaching

"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

How to Clear Your Emotional Junk Drawer + Stop Stuffing Down Feelings Jul 09, 2025

Sign up for the Calm AF Year waitlist here

Ever feel like emotions hit you out of nowhere? You're driving to work and suddenly sobbing, or you feel rage after someone does something slightly annoying?

Friend...your emotional junk drawer is overflowing.

In this episode, I'm diving deep into the invisible emotional clutter we've been shoving down our entire lives and why it's stealing your energy, blocking your joy, and keeping you from living fully.

What You'll Learn:

The signs your emotional junk drawer is full and overflowing
Why we were taught to stuff emotions down (and why it's not your fault)
What's actually cluttering up your emotional space right now
The cost of carrying decades of unprocessed feelings
My simple "feelings room" technique for emotional decluttering
How to stop adding new emotional clutter to your system

Resources:

Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.

The Upgrade

You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.

Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.

Private 1:1 Coaching

"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

Mental Overwhelm for High Achievers: Why You Feel Foggy and How to Clear the Clutter" Jul 02, 2025

If you're so smart, WHY does your brain feel like a junk drawer that's been stuffed so full you can barely get it open?

In this episode, we're talking about what's actually cluttering up your mental junk drawer and why the same brain that got you where you are might be what's trapping you there.

We're talking about:

The 4 types of mental clutter that high performers collect (and why you can't think your way out of it)
Why more thinking leads to more uncertainty, not more clarity
The simple 4-step process to start cleaning out your mental junk drawer today
How to stop drowning in your own competence

This isn't about productivity hacks or morning routines. This is about clearing the noise so you can hear yourself think again.

Sign up for the Calm AF Year waitlist here

Resources:

Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.

The Upgrade

You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.

Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.

Private 1:1 Coaching

"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

Your Internal Clutter- How Your Junk Drawers Got So Full and How to Declutter Jun 25, 2025

Feeling overwhelmed by racing thoughts, emotional overload, and constantly absorbing everyone else's energy?

You're not broken - you just have some internal junk drawers that are overflowing.

In this episode, we explore the three invisible junk drawers in your mind: mental, emotional, and energetic clutter that's been accumulating for years.

You'll also learn why trying to fix the problem from the outside fails and the daily maintenance approach that actually works for lasting calm.

Sign up for the Calm AF Year waitlist here

Resources:

Private Podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated.

The Upgrade

You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me.

Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.

Private 1:1 Coaching

"I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn't about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you're planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.

Little Fires Everywhere: Why High Achievers Are Always Burned Out (And How To Stop) Jun 18, 2025

You're the one everyone turns to when things go sideways.

You stay calm when the stakes are high.

You SHINE under pressure.

So why are you so burned out?

In this episode of Calm AF, I'm breaking down the real reason high achievers feel like they're constantly putting out fires—and why your nervous system can't seem to turn off, even when there's nothing actually burning.

We're talking about:

Why hypervigilance isn't the secret to your success
What firefighters can teach you about calm under pressure
How your nervous system turns minor stress into five-alarm panic
The identity trap of being "the one who holds it all together"
Why regulating BEFORE the pressure hits is the actual flex

If you're tired of living like every moment is an emergency, this episode will feel like a permission slip and a wake-up call.

Links & Resources:

The Upgrade 90 days of guided transformation—from hyper achiever to Calm AF high performer. Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get direct access to me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.
Secret Podcast: HyperAchiever to High Performer A free audio series to help you make the transition from an overwhelmed overachiever to a regulated, calm AF high performer.
Come say hi on Instagram: @kristenfinch10
Subscribe + leave a review if this episode landed with you

A Commencement Speech for Grownups: Jun 11, 2025

Today's episode is a little different than what you're used to hearing. Today I wrote US a commencment speech.

Inspired by my son's high school graduation, I started thinking about all the ways adults are graduating: out of relationships, into relationships, out of old roles, into new chapters, out of versions of ourselves that no longer fit.

But we rarely pause to celebrate those transitions. In fact, we usually shame ourselves for them.

Not today.

This speech is for the 38-, 48-, 58-year-old who's starting over. Starting again. Moving into a new chapter. It's a love letter to your resilience, your wisdom, and your still-unfolding story.

In this episode, you'll hear:

Why every ending is actually a graduation
What midlife commencement really looks like (hint: pet hair + coffee stains included)
The truth about possibility, purpose, and starting over
A powerful reminder that you're right on time, exactly as you are

Whether you're navigating a breakup, a career pivot, an empty nest, or just a quiet inner shift—you're not behind. You're on the brink. The world is still yours.

Links & Resources:

The Upgrade 90 days of guided transformation—from hyper achiever to Calm AF high performer. Every week, you'll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get direct access to me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens.
Secret Podcast: HyperAchiever to High Performer A free audio series to help you make the transition from an overwhelmed overachiever to a regulated, calm AF high performer.
Come say hi on Instagram: @kristenfinch10
Subscribe + leave a review if this episode landed with you

7 Strategies to Get the Best Out of Yourself and Everyone Around You May 28, 2025

In this episode, we're talking about how to be the kind of leader, partner, parent, and friend that inspires the very best in others—and yourself.

You already know how to push, nudge, and motivate yourself. But is the way you are leading yoruself the same way you are showing up for others? And if not, why not?

I'm sharing the 7 ways you motivate yourself to be your best and how to start applying these same strategies to others:

1. Keeping people down when they're struggling 2. Shaming instead of compassion 3. Withholding love until they're "worthy" 4. Keeping score of their failures 5. Comparing them to everyone else 6. Disappearing when they need support 7. Only celebrating perfection

And if you're curious about how to start upgrading your old, tired strategies to ones that might actually work (without the burnout)—I've got resources for you.

Resources Mentioned:

Private Podcast: From Hyperachiever to High Performer Click here to access it!
The Upgrade [YOUR_UPGRADE_LINK_HERE]

A Client Story: This is What Real Nervous System Regulation Sounds Like May 23, 2025

How many times have you tried to set a boundary but then backed down.

Today's bonus episode features a powerful Voxer message from one of my Upgrade clients—brought to life with a little AI magic (to keep my private clients private).

What you'll hear is what this work ACTUALLY sounds like. What is possible when you don't just know how to regulate in structured moments, but in real life.

No spiraling. No shutdown. Just clarity, boundaries, and calm.

This is exactly what we practice inside The Upgrade—and from May 23rd until May 26th, you get $300 off the full program.

Grab your spot now—doors close Monday, May 26:

Inside the Upgrade, you'll learn how to:

Speak without overexplaining
Say no without apologizing
Lead without control
Rest without shutting down
Stay regulated—not just in moments, but as your default

You get: 12 weeks private coaching via Voxer Weekly private podcast episodes Access to the Regulated course Daily bite-sized reminders in your inbox

This is for you if you're tired of working so hard to calm down –– because it obviously doesn't work like that.

Let's do this together.

How High Achievers Can Avoid Summer Burnout: Mastering Nervous System Regulation May 20, 2025

Summer is supposed to feel freeing—but for hyper achievers, it often feels anything but.

In this episode, we're pulling back the curtain on why summer is actually the most dysregulating season of the year for high performers, energy managers, and people pleasers. If you've ever felt guilty for not enjoying your "time off," or found yourself craving September more than sunshine, this one's for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why the lack of routine in summer can trigger nervous system chaos
How the Calm AF Scale helps you avoid swinging between hypervigilance and total shutdown
What a regulated, grounded summer can look like—and how to create it

Important Dates

Enrollment for The Calm AF Summer Upgrade: May 23–26
Program Start Date: June 1

Resources:

→ The Private Podcast Series: From Hyper Achiever to High Performer → The Upgrade Coaching Program → Private 1:1 Coaching Application

How To "Let Them" (Without Your Head Exploding): Boundaries, Regulation, And Emotional Resilience May 07, 2025

We love the idea of "Let Them."

Let them judge you. Let them walk away. Let them misunderstand you.

But when you're actually in it—when someone ghosts you, talks behind your back, or oversteps your boundary—it doesn't feel empowering. It feels like rejection. Or worse, like you're white knuckling "let themmmmmm" so hard, you think your head might explode.

In this episode, I break down what "Let Them" really means (spoiler: it's not about not caring), how nervous system regulation helps you stop reacting, and why emotional freedom starts with staying anchored in your body—even when you're angry, hurt, or annoyed.

What you'll learn: – Why "Let Them" is more than just a mindset – How to stay regulated when you feel rejected or misunderstood – Why boundaries collapse when you're dysregulated – What it actually looks like to be mad and grounded – How to let people go without losing yourself

Mentioned in this episode: → The Private Podcast Series: From Hyper Achiever to High Performer → The Upgrade Coaching Program → Private 1:1 Coaching Application

You're Not Fine. You're Functioning. Apr 23, 2025

You're not fine. You're functioning.

And if that hit a little too close to home, this episode is for you.

You're showing up, getting things done, holding it all together— But inside, your nervous system is screaming.

This episode is the mirror you didn't know you needed.

🎧 Want to stop just functioning and start actually feeling like yourself again? Start here

In this episode, we talk about:

The invisible cost of high-functioning women pretending they're fine
Why "I'm fine" is a nervous system default, not the truth
How overthinking, overgiving, and overfunctioning are all survival strategies
The real reason your boundaries don't stick
What to do when "fine" is no longer good enough

You're not broken. You're not behind. You're just practiced at surviving.

Ready to stop managing life and start leading it? Listen to the private podcast: From Hypervigilant Achiever to Calm AF High Performer

💥 And if you already know you're ready for the next level… The Upgrade is your next step. Apply through the private podcast or DM me "UPGRADE" on Instagram: @kristenfinch10

Breaking Free from the Guilt Trap: From Energy Manager to High Performer Apr 16, 2025

You say "I feel guilty." But is that really what's happening?

In this episode, I'm calling out the biggest lie high performers tell themselves—and what's actually keeping you stuck in overgiving, overfunctioning, and overthinking.

You'll learn:

The real emotion behind "guilt"
Why you feel bad setting boundaries (even when you know better)
The 3-part script to break the guilt cycle for good

This episode isn't a self-help pep talk. It's a pattern interrupt.

Resources:

Hyper Achiever to High Performer Private Podcast: This series unpacks what most people never tell high performers: your next level isn't about doing more—it's about feeling safer doing less. It's about trusting yourself deeply, leading without force, and accessing your full power without burning out.

The Love Letter Subscription: $9/month or $99/year—and wake up every morning to a reminder that rewires your brain. Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.

The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. A 12 week guided course delivered via email and private podcast, designed to expand your nervous system's capacity to stay regulated PLUS 12 weeks of personalized text and voice coaching (via Voxer).

Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.

Shifting Identities — From Hyper Achiever to High Performer Apr 09, 2025

You don't need more hustle—you need a new identity. In this final part of the 3-part series, Kristen breaks down the two biggest shifts that unlock high performance: making calm your home base (not your vacation) and finally letting go of the belief that doing it all alone makes you stronger. You don't have to be operating at an elite level to think like a high performer—but you'll never become one thinking like a hyperachiever.

Resources:

Hyper Achiever to High Performer Private Podcast: This series unpacks what most people never tell high performers: your next level isn't about doing more—it's about feeling safer doing less. It's about trusting yourself deeply, leading without force, and accessing your full power without burning out.

The Love Letter Subscription: $9/month or $99/year—and wake up every morning to a reminder that rewires your brain.

The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. A 12 week guided course delivered via email and private podcast, designed to expand your nervous system's capacity to stay regulated PLUS 12 weeks of personalized text and voice coaching (via Voxer).

Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.

What Hyper-Achievers Do that High Performers Don't Apr 02, 2025

If you're always overthinking, overdoing, and over-managing everything in your life, this episode will help you see where those habits are coming from—and what's possible when you start leading from regulation instead of urgency.

Inside this episode:

Why being busy isn't a badge of honor—it's a red flag
How high performers simplify instead of overcomplicate
The difference between leading through pressure vs. encouragement
Why overthinking keeps you stuck (and what to do instead)
Why doing everything alone isn't helping you move faster

✨ Ready to go deeper? Subscribe to the free private podcast: Hyper Achiever to High Performer

Resources: Hyper Achiever to High Performer Private Podcast: Learn to how to get and stay calm af.

The Love Letter Subscription: $9/month or $99/year — wake up every morning to a powerful, bite-sized reminder that blends neuroplasticity with just the right amount of dopamine to rewire your brain, shift your mindset, and keep you aligned with who you're becoming.

Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.

The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours.

Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.

The Daily Habits of High Performers Mar 19, 2025

Ever wonder why high performers seem to have effortless discipline while you struggle to stick to your habits? It's not magic—it's simplicity, consistency, and a commitment to the boring.

In today's episode, we're breaking down the key differences between hypervigilant high achievers (who run on stress and urgency) and Calm AF high performers (who operate from clarity and intention). You'll learn:

Why you're overcomplicating your routines and making success harder than it needs to be.
Why high performers don't chase instant gratification—they trust the process.
Why expecting your routine to entertain you is keeping you stuck.
The simple, sustainable habits that make high performers successful (without the chaos).

If you're ready to stop overthinking, start moving, and finally make your success sustainable, this episode is for you.

Resources:

The Love Letter Subscription: $9/month or $99/year—and wake up every morning to a reminder that rewires your brain. Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.

The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours.

Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.

Why Trying To Control Everything is Keeping You Stuck—And What to Do Instead Mar 05, 2025

If you're the one who shifts the energy in a room, who anticipates what people need before they even realize it, who prides yourself on preventing problems before they happen—this episode is for you.

You believe you're controlling things because you have proof—meetings where you turned a "no" into a "yes," situations you steered to avoid disaster, people you influenced into changing their minds.

But here's the truth: Control was never actually yours.

In this episode, we break down:

How gripping tighter actually makes things worse
Why you're exhausting yourself for an illusion
Why you believe you control the world, but not your own thoughts
What surrender really means—and why it's not "giving up," it's actually the path to true power

Resources:

The Love Letter Subscription: Start your day with a powerful, perspective-shifting message—before the world pulls you back into the grind. These love letters will shift your whole day and they're $9/month. Join here. Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.

The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours.

Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.

Struggling to Reach The Next Level? Why You're Operating at 70% and How to Fix It Feb 26, 2025

You think you're giving 100%—pushing yourself, outworking, and outperforming. But what if you're actually only operating at 70% and don't even realize it?

In this episode, I break down why elite performers feel maxed out, even when they have more to give. It's not about working harder—it's about stopping the energy leaks that are burning you out. You'll learn:

The #1 reason high achievers feel stuck and exhausted
How wasted energy—mental tension, overthinking, and nervous system overload—keeps you from peak performance
Why the top performers in the world don't push harder—they regulate better
Practical strategies to calibrate your nervous system and unlock your full capacity

If you're ready to stop running on nervous system overload and start performing at your true potential—without burning out—this episode is for you.

Resources:

The Love Letter Subscription: Start your day with a powerful, perspective-shifting message—before the world pulls you back into the grind. These love letters will shift your whole day and they're $9/month. Join here. Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.

The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours.

Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.

https://kristenfinch.com/Struggling-to-Reach-The-Next-Level-Why-Youre-Operating-at-70%-and-How-to-Fix-It

If you want a calmer, more joyful life, you don't need a complete overhaul—just small, consistent shifts.

That's exactly what the Love Letters offer: a simple daily practice that transforms from the inside out—for just $9 a month.

Why It's Hard to Enjoy Your Life—Even When You Think You Should Feb 19, 2025

Welcome back to Calm AF. In today's episode, we're diving into a moment that every high achiever eventually faces:

I did it. I achieved the thing. I checked all the boxes. So why don't I feel how I thought I would?

If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

Inside This Episode:

Why hustling feels so good (and why it stops working)
The moment every high achiever faces—and how to move through it
The difference between achieving for validation vs. achieving from enoughness
Why the world doesn't want you to stop hustling (and how to break free)
How to redefine success on your terms

Resources & Links:

💙 The Love Letter Subscription: Start your day with a powerful, perspective-shifting message—before the world pulls you back into the grind. These love letters will shift your whole day and they're $9/month. Join here. 💙 Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.

💙 The Upgrade: If you don't want to DIY it with a course, but you aren't quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours.

💙 Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching (not a week later) as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you're looking for. This is high touch, bespoke and we move quickly.

Why Discomfort Is a Green Light Feb 12, 2025

You want the next-level version of yourself? You have to think like her, act like her, show up as her.

But here's the catch—growth isn't comfortable. It's not supposed to be.

A couple weeks ago, I spent four days deep in upleveling and shifting mindsets with my bestie, Amanda and over and over, the theme that kept coming up wasn't the strategy or logistics—it was discomfort. The discomfort of stepping into a bigger vision. The discomfort of letting go of what won't come with you. The discomfort of doing the things that feel risky, scary, and unknown.

Today, we're talking about why discomfort is actually a green light in your transformation, how to tell the difference between fear of expansion and a genuine red flag, and how to rewire your mindset so you don't let discomfort keep you stuck.

You're listening to this because you know there's another level waiting for you. But if discomfort keeps stopping you, it's time to learn how to move through it instead of avoiding it. Here's how we can work together to build that skill:

Regulated Course – If discomfort keeps knocking you off track, Regulated is a self paced course where you learn how to manage your nervous system so you can take action without spiraling.

Speed of Life Session – Need a strategic, high-impact coaching session to get you unstuck now? This is a one-time, focused session to recalibrate your mindset and get you moving immediately.

Private Coaching – This is for high-performers who are ready to move—fast. If you don't need hand-holding but want targeted, in-the-moment coaching to stay in momentum, this is where we do it. Apply here

You don't need to wait to feel ready. You need to build the skill of moving forward anyway. Pick the path that fits where you are, and let's go.

The Power of Mindset: Unlocking Your Next Level Jan 29, 2025

At the highest levels of success, it's not your talent, resources, or strategy that holds you back—it's your mindset. In this episode, we explore how mastering your mindset unlocks your full potential and helps you step into your upleveled identity.

You'll hear Emma's story—a high performer who had everything she needed to land her dream job, except the full on belief that she could. We'll break down the invisible ceiling that fear and doubt create and share the exact steps to start embodying your next-level self today.

If you've ever held back because success wasn't guaranteed, this episode is for you.

You'll learn:

Why mindset is your greatest asset at the top levels of success.
The invisible ceiling keeping ambitious women stuck.
How to create and embody a mental picture of your next-level self.

Resources:

Regulated: A self-paced course designed to help high achievers understand their unique nervous system and create a personalized Calm AF plan.
The SOL Session: Don't Jump!: The Speed Of Life Sessions are there for you when you need in the moment coaching. This one's for you is you find yourself trying not to jump in and fix people's moods, problems, energy. Get coached so you don't jump in their hole. Two powerful audios. Immediate results. Lasting change.
The Upgrade: Upgrade to 12 weeks of personalized Voxer support to implement what you've learned with direct guidance from me.
Private Coaching: High-touch, tailored support for ambitious achievers ready to thrive without burning out.

How To Stop Fixing Everyone Else's Problems Jan 22, 2025

Are you exhausted from constantly fixing everyone else's problems? Do you feel like your calm depends on everyone else being okay? In this episode, we're tackling the habit of jumping into the "dysregulation hole" and learning how to stay grounded instead.

You'll discover:

What the dysregulation hole is and why you keep jumping in.
The real cost of always fixing other people's problems.
How to disrupt the cycle and reclaim your energy.

Plus, I've created a special Speed of Life Coaching Session to go along with this episode. It includes a quick, no-fluff coaching session for when you're about to jump in, and a deeper dive episode to help you encounter fewer holes to begin with.

Click here to grab your Speed of Life Coaching Session for $22

Resources:

The SOL Session: Don't Jump!: Tired of jumping into everyone else's chaos and losing sight of your own goals? The SOL Session: How to Stop Jumping in the Hole gives you the tools to pause, ground yourself, and lead with calm instead. Two powerful audios. Immediate results. Lasting change.

–Regulated is a self-paced online course to help you understand your unique nervous system and create a plan that works for YOU to get and stay calm AF. Get it now before the price goes up.

– The Upgrade is 90 days of personalized support. Using Voxer (a voice/text messaging app) you can ask for help and I will give you direct guidance to help you navigate challenges and implement what you're learning (during coaching hours on Tuesday-Thursday) . It's flexible, practical, and designed to meet you where you are. If you're ready to bridge the gap between self-paced learning and individualized coaching, The Upgrade is the perfect place to start.

– Bespoke, private coaching is for those who want direct, no-fluff guidance tailored specifically to their challenges and goals. No sifting through content, no generalized advice—just personalized coaching that gets straight to the heart of what you need to move forward with clarity and confidence. If you're doing big things and you just want to get what you need and get back to it, private coaching is for you. Referral or application only.

Why High Achievers Experience Burnout (And How to Fix It) Jan 08, 2025

Burnout isn't just about being tired—it's about being stuck in a cycle of overdrive and collapse that drains your energy, erodes your confidence, and leaves you feeling like no amount of rest will ever be enough.

This morning, a client shared a story that perfectly captured the heart of this struggle, and it was so powerful I scrapped my original recording of this episode to include it.

In this episode, I'll share her transformational journey of breaking the burnout cycle—not by doing less or trying harder, but by completely shifting the energy behind her ambition. We'll explore:

Why burnout happens to ambitious people.
How fear-driven ambition keeps you stuck in survival mode.
The real costs of staying in the burnout loop—on your energy, confidence, creativity, and joy.
What happens when you break the cycle and step into aligned ambition.

If you've ever felt like time off leaves you just as exhausted as when you started, or if you're constantly swinging between pushing too hard and completely shutting down, this episode is for you.

Discover how to recalibrate your energy, regulate your nervous system, and create a life where rest and productivity coexist effortlessly.

Resources

– Private Coaching: For the most high-touch, personalized support, private coaching offers direct access to me, tailored to your life's biggest challenges and opportunities. Together, we'll keep you regulated, focused, and powerful as you create lasting transformation in your marriage, career, or personal growth. Private coaching is available by application or referral. Click here to apply for 2025.

– Regulated is a self-paced course designed for high-level achievers who want to deeply understand their unique nervous system and craft a personalized plan to stay Calm AF, no matter what life throws at them.

– For those ready to take it further, you can upgrade to Mastering Calm AF, which includes 12 weeks of personalized support via Voxer. This ensures you have direct access to me as you implement what you learn in the course, navigate challenges, and create lasting transformation.

What to Leave Behind in 2024: Upgrade Your Energy for 2025 Jan 01, 2025

Happy New Year!

How FUN to start the day with a brand new episode for a brand new year!

BUT…

This isn't another episode about resolutions or "New Year, New You."

Because the new year doesn't need a new you.

It needs the real you—calm, aligned, and ready to create the life you truly want.

But before we step into that energy, there's some baggage to leave behind.

In this episode, I'm naming the sh*t you need to leave in 2024 so you can level up your energy in 2025. We'll cover:

The 7 patterns, beliefs, and habits holding you back (looking at you, perfectionism and overthinking).
Why regulation, resilience, and rewiring are the keys to creating real success.
How slowing down and aligning your energy leads to faster, more fulfilling results.

This year, your goals will be a natural byproduct of living from a regulated, empowered state. No hustle, no grind—just calm, aligned progress.

Tune in now to learn how to leave behind what no longer serves you and step into the real you in 2025.

✨ Ready to take this work deeper? My course Regulated is here to help you master your energy, build resilience, and create lasting change. Check it out now while the pre-launch price is still available!

Let's make 2025 the year of clarity, confidence, and alignment.

You are here to live a life that feels as good as it looks. No more settling for less.

–Regulated is a self-paced online course to help you understand your unique nervous system and create a plan that works for YOU to get and stay calm AF. Get it now before the price goes up.

– Mastering Calm AF is where you take what you learn in the Regulated course and move from knowing to implementing. Over 12 weeks, you'll receive weekly guidance and my direct support through Voxer during coaching hours, ensuring you don't get stuck at the points where you'd typically give up. This program is designed to help you create lasting change and confidently navigate your journey from unsure and anxious to calm and confident.

– If you're looking for the most high-touch, personalized support, private coaching is for you. This is coaching at the speed of life—tailored entirely to you, with direct access to me as you navigate the challenges and opportunities that matter most. Whether it's your marriage, career, or personal growth, we'll work together to keep you regulated, focused, and powerful as you create lasting transformation. Private coaching is by application or referral. Click here to apply for a spot in 2025.

Success and Ambition Without Burnout: How to Achieve and Thrive Dec 18, 2024

Can you be ambitious AND calm? Can you be a high performer without burning out?

In this episode of Calm AF, I'm sharing the exact principles I teach my high-performance clients so they can keep striving, keep growing, and actually thrive—without burning out.

Resources:

Regulated: A step-by-step guide to mastering your nervous system, transforming how you respond to stress, and finding more calm and clarity in your daily life.

Mastering Calm AF: If you want to take what you learn in Regulated and ensure you don't just learn but apply it, this 12-week program provides accountability, real-time support through Voxer access, and guidance to help you stay on track and navigate challenges as they arise.

Private Coaching: Personalized, high-level support designed to meet you exactly where you are and guide you toward greater clarity, regulation, and alignment. Private mentorship will be a great fit for you if you have worked with me in the past or you have a healthy understanding my coaching style. This is by application only.

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Breaking the Overthinking Spiral: The Path to Aligned Action Dec 11, 2024

Overthinking feels productive—it's like you're preparing, analyzing, and planning for every possibility. But in reality, it's a mental trap that keeps you stuck, drains your energy, and erodes your confidence.

In this episode, we're diving into why overthinking happens, how it sabotages your progress, and—most importantly—how to break free. You'll hear the story of a high-achieving client who struggled with perfectionism and overthinking and learn the practical steps to shift from analysis paralysis to aligned action.

What You'll Learn:

The surprising reason your brain defaults to overthinking—and why it feels so hard to stop.
The real cost of overthinking, from lost momentum to shattered confidence.
Simple, actionable steps to regulate your nervous system and start moving forward with clarity.

If you've been stuck in a loop of second-guessing, hesitation, and mental gymnastics, this episode will give you the tools to take the next aligned step toward your goals.

Resources Mentioned:

Regulated: A self-paced online course to help you understand your nervous system and create a personalized Calm AF plan. Course launches 12/12.
Mastering Calm AF: A 3-month program with course content and personalized support from me. Access to course begins 12/12/24 with accountability and personalized support beginning 1/9/25
1:1 Coaching: High-level, tailored support for ambitious high performers who want to embody their drive AND enjoy their success.

The Competitive Edge Nobody Talks About: Emotional Regulation Dec 04, 2024

Discover why emotional regulation is the ultimate competitive advantage in Episode 303 of Calm AF. In this episode, we explore how staying calm under pressure transforms your leadership, relationships, and personal growth. Learn why the calmest person in the room holds the most power, and how emotional regulation can help you build trust, process feedback effectively, and achieve faster, better results in every area of your life.

What you'll learn in this episode:

Why fear-based leadership doesn't work in the long run—and how calm leaders get bigger results.
How emotional regulation helps you handle feedback without spiraling or snapping.
The ripple effect of calm: How your energy impacts the people around you.
Simple tools to build emotional regulation and stay grounded in high-pressure situations.

If you're ready to unlock the power of calm and use it as your secret weapon for success, tune in now.

kristenfinch.com

The Ripple Effect of Regulation Nov 27, 2024

In this episode, we're diving into the power of a regulated presence and why it's the most game-changing skill you can develop.

You'll learn:

Why your peace doesn't depend on controlling others.
The difference between performative calm and true regulation.
How staying regulated creates a ripple effect that impacts everyone around you.

Plus, I'll share practical tools to start regulating your nervous system today and explain why your nervous system will resist these changes—and how to override that resistance.

If you're ready to stop managing everyone else's energy and start stepping into your own, tune in now.

kristenfinch.com

From Overwhelm to Calm: How to Stay Regulated in a Dysregulated World Nov 20, 2024

Sometimes, the most powerful move you can make is to stop.

In this episode, I'm sharing what I learned during a months-long pause from my usual routines, including how letting go of the old ways of working revealed a new, more aligned path forward. I'll take you behind the scenes of why I had to cancel everything—except 1:1 client work—and how that shift transformed not only my business but also how I live and coach.

This episode is an invitation to pause, recalibrate, and step into a new era of intentional, powerful living.

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300 Episodes: Embracing the Shift to What's Next Jun 26, 2024

As we move forward, I want you to imagine how it feels to take everything we've learned from these 300 episodes and let it integrate within you. You don't need to carry the weight of constantly seeking more information. You are ready. You are equipped with all the tools and knowledge needed to move freely and lightly. Get ready for a big shift.

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How Chronic Dysregulation Is Affecting Your Life, Part 2 Jun 19, 2024

Mood swings. Brain fog. Isolation, procrastination, hopelessness, anxiety. And those are just a few (more) of the ways chronic dysregulation is fucking up your life.

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How Chronic Dysregulation Is Affecting Your Life Jun 12, 2024

I spent more time than normal in a state of dysregulation last week – and holy hell, do I feel it. Here are 5 ways frequent or chronic dysregulation physically manifests in our bodies.

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Hard Now? Or Hard Forever? (Replay!) Jun 05, 2024

Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it's setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people's opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever?

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Lessons from the Hospital, Part 2 May 29, 2024

Life hands us "opportunities to grow" (yuck) when we least want them, when we feel least prepared for them, when we just don't have room or time or energy for them. Here are 3 big lessons from this week's unwanted "opportunity for growth."

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Panicked AF or Calm AF (Replay!) May 22, 2024

I will go into the whole story but the MESSAGE for today is this: You ALWAYS have two choices when it comes to stressful situations. You can be PANICKED AF. ANXIOUS AF. AFRAID AF. OR Calm AF. In this episode I'm going to share with you why it's ALWAYS worth it to choose calm AF.

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You Have What You Need May 15, 2024

The second you embrace who you are, instead of telling yourself you can't feel better or calmer or free until your external circumstances change – the instant you realize that your happiness can ONLY come from you – you will feel better. Calmer. Free.

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Stop Hoarding. Start Doing. May 08, 2024

Hoarding useful and helpful information is not moving the needle. It is only creating brain clutter.

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The Dysregulated Nervous System: NSF is the Golden Rule May 01, 2024

The golden rule of calm AF is Nervous System First because your life is curated based on the state of your nervous system. The state of your relationships, the state of your home, the state of your overall wellbeing is absolutely shaped by the state of your nervous system.

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The Dysregulated Nervous System: How to Take Back Your Power Apr 24, 2024

You need to learn how to manage your OWN feelings of discomfort instead of thinking you have to manage everyone else's. This is how you will take your power back.

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The Dysregulated Nervous System: You Need to Learn the Basics Apr 17, 2024

This episode is absolutely essential learning because until you have a different understanding of your own nervous system, you will always be chasing the next tool that might help you calm down.

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The Dysregulated Nervous System: Vacillators Apr 10, 2024

There are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Vacillators, of which I number. And if you didn't take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, check the show notes, take the quiz.

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The Dysregulated Nervous System: Hypovigilance Apr 03, 2024

There are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Hypervigilance. And if you didn't take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, check the show notes, take the quiz.

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The Dysregulated Nervous System: Hypervigilance Mar 27, 2024

There are 3 main dysregulation patterns: Hypervigilance, hypovigilance and vacillators. This episode is all about Hypervigilance. And if you didn't take your quiz yet, to find out which pattern you use the most, take the Nervous System Pattern Quiz here!

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Which Nervous System Pattern is Keeping You Stuck? Mar 20, 2024

To learn how to be and stay in calm AF energy, you have to get to know your internal dysregulation patterns. When you get to know your own nervous system and how you behave when you're dysregulated, you can start taking control of your own energy (instead of feeling powerless to everything happening outside of you).

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A Quick Detox from Folk Wisdom Mar 13, 2024

Is the folk wisdom living rent-free in your head ACTUALLY serving you and making your life better? Probably not. Here's to playing now and working later.

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The Fun Bucket: Having More Fun Drives Better Results Mar 06, 2024

If you're not prioritizing FUN in your day-to-day, then you are missing out on major benefits to your health, relationships, career, and even your bank account.

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The Leap Day Podcast Feb 28, 2024

I like to think of Leap Day as a bonus 24 hours and I think about it this way: if I were at the end of my life and I was gifted an extra 24 hours, how would I spend that day?

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Choose Growth Over Comfort (Replay) Feb 21, 2024

If you want to change anything, you've got to be willing to feel discomfort. Changing how you feel about your life, deciding to leave a toxic job or a toxic relationship, finding your forever person. Whatever it is, discomfort will accompany change. And if you want to feel better, calmer, happier, more content, more FREE...you have to choose growth over comfort. For a deeper dive, visit kristenfinch.com.

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Why You Should ABSOLUTELY Practice Self-Love Feb 14, 2024

There are so many reasons why we all need to prioritize a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves. It makes life simpler. It makes you feel better. You have more confidence. You set and enforce boundaries easier. It's easier to love other people. It's easier to let other people love you. So, ignore the gimmicky, click-baity, product-pushing headlines about self-love and get busy truly loving on yourself.

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Remembering What Matters When Life Sucks Feb 07, 2024

Life hands us "opportunities to grow" (yuck) when we least want them, when we feel least prepared for them, when we just don't have room or time or energy for them. Here's to keeping what really matters in your mind, heart, and soul when these ass-ortunities come knocking.

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How to Stop a Thought Spin-Out (Replay!) Jan 31, 2024

When you're in the middle of a thought spin out, your mind's brakes are overridden by the nervous system. Here's how to resume control.

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Fire Your Inner Boss Jan 17, 2024

Self trust, self belief, self acceptance, and self compassion will get you to the finish line of your goals WAY faster than self berating, self criticism, self sabotaging. So if your inner boss treats you like shit, it's time to fire her and choose a more worthy leader.

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Danielle's Calm AF Journey, Part 2 Jan 10, 2024

My client Danielle shares how she has transformed from someone who prioritized everyone else before herself to someone who prioritizes herself, her goals, and her life. To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here.

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Danielle's Calm AF Journey Jan 03, 2024

My client Danielle shares her Calm AF journey in this delightful conversation! To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here.

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5 Tips to Uplevel from "Goal-Setting Master" to Goal Achiever Dec 27, 2023

If you SET goals like a f*ckin' boss but struggle to ACHIEVE them, these 5 tips will change your life. To get your ticket to the Calm AF Goals Workshop on January 14th (or to get the replay) click here.

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What Do You Want? Dec 20, 2023

What I've found over the years is that this question: WHAT DO YOU WANT? is one of the hardest questions for women to answer. If you are not giving yourself permission to want what you want, these three obstacles are probably the reasons why.

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This Sh!t Works Dec 13, 2023

I could not be prouder of – or happier for – my clients who recently found themselves not only USING but totally benefitting from the Calm AF Life tools that they've been steadily and consistently adopting in our group and 1:1 coaching. And here's the key: they are reaping major transformations through relentless commitment to the process.

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Waiting for Your Wake-up Call (Replay!) Dec 06, 2023

WHY do we wait for a wake up call to feel ALIVE in our lives..to stop living a life in survival mode and start living our one life NOW. Today, I'm going to share with you the BIGGEST lies we are believing that are keeping us from reclaiming our lives from survival mode hell.

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4 Essentials to Create an Automatic Habit Nov 29, 2023

Thanks to neuroplasticity, the brain's ability to rewire neural connections, you can create any habit you want – especially with these 4 ingredients.

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How Do You Respond to Other People's Energy? Nov 22, 2023

Calm AF is an energy state where you know you are in control of your feelings, moods, and thoughts AND knowing you aren't in control of other people's. When you learn to be calm AF, you aren't reliant on other people being in a good mood so you can be in a good mood. If you want to actually feel calm, ease, rest, joy, happiness that is dependent on nothing outside of you, you need to learn to be Calm AF.

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Matthew Perry, Worthiness, and the Power of Opening Up Nov 15, 2023

Vulnerability is not just a virtue; it's a lifeline. In the face of struggle, shame, and the overwhelming pressure to prove your worthiness, PLEASE choose vulnerability instead of choosing isolation. Instead of choosing to go it alone, find a person or a community that gets it.

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The Hidden Cost of People-Pleasing Nov 08, 2023

Today I want to talk about the TOLL your people pleasing, perfectionism, energy managing, and overachieving behaviors are having on you. These are not so much character traits as they are your nervous system's reactions to perceived dangers. And, because mind-body connection dictates that toxic thoughts are poison in the body, it's important to unlearn these self-defeating habits - and master new ones.

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Breaking a Toxic Thinking Pattern Nov 01, 2023

Sometimes when you're in a rut, you have to just be in it for a minute while you work your way out. But when you're cycling through a toxic pattern that isn't changing, you have to think about your future self and shake things up.

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ADHD-Friendly Shui for Neurodivergent People, Part Two Oct 25, 2023

My ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for the second part of this conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home's energy.

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Buy Amanda's book Simple Shui for Every Day: 365 Ways to Feng Shui Your Life

Check out our FUN podcast A Life Coach and Feng Shui Expert Walk Into a Bar…

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ADHD-Friendly Shui for Neurodivergent People, Part One Oct 18, 2023

My ride-or-die, BFF, Feng Shui Genius Amanda Gibby Peters – who, unlike me, does not have raging ADHD – joins me for a conversation about using your neurodivergent skillset to conquer clutter and boost your home's energy.

HELPFUL LINKS

A Conversation About Clutter with Kristen Finch and Amanda Gibby Peters! RSVP here

Meet Amanda Gibby Peters and follow her on IG

Listen to House Therapy, the podcast by Amanda Gibby Peters on Apple, Spotify, and everywhere else

Buy Amanda's book Simple Shui for Every Day: 365 Ways to Feng Shui Your Life

Check out our FUN podcast A Life Coach and Feng Shui Expert Walk Into a Bar…

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Creating Time by Slowing the Clock Oct 11, 2023

Because life is short and precious, anytime we consider our future, things can start to feel urgent or even unattainable. Living with intention slows the clock so you can create the future you want.

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Being Calm AF When They Aren't Oct 04, 2023

The most important work I've done for myself over the years has been getting calm AF - which, as you now know, is not a permanent state of blissful serenity, but a willful insistence on protecting my own energy no matter what's going on around me. Because matching someone's bad energy is not helping me or them or anyone else, it's just making things harder and worse.

Happy Now: Autism, Marriage, and The Journal of Best Practices

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The Calm AF Diet Sep 27, 2023

Today I want to talk about your diet. To be clear, I'm not talking about food or calories or restriction. I'm talking about the Calm AF diet. When you decide that you are going to take your life back, that you are going to prioritize YOUR well being over all other things…When you decide you are ready to let GO of old limiting beliefs, rewire doubts, take the charge away from your fears…Your NEW beliefs are vulnerable. They need constant protection. So you've GOT to be mindful and discerning about what you are taking IN and what you are putting out.

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The Science of Why You Procrastinate (and How to Stop) Sep 20, 2023

You don't procrastinate because you're lazy, weak, or lacking willpower. You procrastinate because of brain chemistry – neurotransmitters, specifically. Put on your glasses, grab your pocket protectors, and pull up those pants—we're going to get nerdy today, Gorgeous Souls!

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How to Make Calm AF Your Default Setting Sep 13, 2023

We forget sometimes that we aren't anxious by default, we LEARNED anxious. You aren't a people pleaser, you LEARNED people pleasing. You weren't born angry, you LEARNED anger. If being in a state of anxiety, shame, or resentment is a learned habit, that means being calm AF is also a learned habit.

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What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 4: The Truth About Priorities Sep 06, 2023

Figuring out what, at the end of your life, will have made it a life well lived – and figuring out how to stay in pursuit of it – is what I'd teach my younger self.

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What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 3: The Truth About Optimism Aug 30, 2023

I would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about optimism: there is nothing wrong with CHOOSING to look at the bright side. There is nothing foolish about choosing to focus on the positive. In fact, choosing optimism is the path to resilience.

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What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 2: The Truth About Feelings Aug 23, 2023

I would go back as early as I could and start teaching my younger self the TRUTH about feelings: they're normal, they're valid, and they're to be felt.

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What I Wish I Knew Sooner, Part 1: The Foundational Work Aug 16, 2023

If I could go back and tell my younger self something that would have saved me the MOST time – I mean years and years of struggling and repeating old patterns – it would be to focus on doing the foundational work of wellbeing before anything else.

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Reminder: It Doesn't Always Go Great. Aug 09, 2023

Even when you've prepared, plotted, and planned. Even when you wake up KNOWING that today is the day for big magic. Sometimes shit goes off the rails. The dots don't connect, the plans unravel, the magic vaporizes. It sucks. And it's okay.

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Questioning and Rewriting Rules Aug 02, 2023

There are SO many unwritten, arbitrary not-really-rules rules that are keeping people from their happiness. What "rules" could you question? Which ones would you rewrite?

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While You're Alive, Be Alive (Replay!) Jul 26, 2023

Don't wait until your wake up call. Live the TRUE life you are here to live - not the one you think you're supposed to be living. To book your free consult with me, tap here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

Hard Now? Or Hard Forever? (Replay!) Jul 19, 2023

Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it's setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people's opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever?

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Do You Feel Like You Don't Belong? Jul 12, 2023

Most of us are starving for real, authentic connections and deep conversations but we prevent these by telling ourselves that we don't belong. If this is you, this episode will help you to drop that habit and start living like you belong -- because you do!

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Calm AF Forever, Part 1: The Three Components of Permanent Transformation (Replay!) Jul 05, 2023

Being permanently calm AF is about creating the life that you love - making your life your favorite story. Getting there takes an integrated approach comprising three essential components of wellness: physical, mental, and energetic.

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Happy Now: How Dave and I Created a Happy AF Marriage (Part 2 of 2) Jun 28, 2023

Dave joins me this week to share his thoughts on how we were able to recover our bestfriendship and build a happy AF marriage after he was diagnosed with Asperger's, an autism spectrum condition.

Helpful Links:

Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships

Happy Now: Marriage, Autism, and The Journal of Best Practices

Dave's book!

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Happy Now: How Dave and I Created a Happy AF Marriage (Part 1 of 2) Jun 21, 2023

Dave joins me this week to share his thoughts on how we were able to recover our bestfriendship and build a happier marriage after he was diagnosed with Asperger's, an autism spectrum condition.

Helpful Links:

Opposite AF: The online course for neurodiverse relationships

Happy Now: Marriage, Autism, and The Journal of Best Practices

Dave's book!

Calm AF Life: The Lifetime Coaching Program

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Why You Should Absolutely Choose the (Right) Struggles Jun 14, 2023

The only way to live fully, to be able to connect with LOVE and JOY, is to make room for pain and hard moments.

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"Acceptance Speech after Setting the World Record in Goosebumps" by Andrea Gibson

Unbecoming Your Past Self to Become Your Future Self Jun 07, 2023

Like a caterpillar's metamorphosis, becoming your future self requires an identity shift. Here's a little about how to un-become, so you can become.

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5 Steps to Becoming Your Future Self May 31, 2023

If you want to become your Future Self, you can't just HOPE, you can't just set a couple goals and sporadically think about them. To become your Future Self you have to change the habits of your Current Self. Here are 5 CALM AF steps to take.

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A Pep Talk May 24, 2023

We all need a good pep talk from time to time, and here's yours for this week. It's about nurturing your own well-being, on embracing your strengths and imperfections, and on practicing self-compassion.

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How to Avoid Old Habits When Creating a New Mindset (Replay!) May 17, 2023

Old habits kill new mindsets. Today I'll share with you the #1 thing you are doing that is keeping your from becoming your future self. The #1 mistake you are making when it comes to transforming one of more areas of your life. The #1 ERROR you are making when manifesting the life you WANT. AND what to do about it.

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How to Avoid Old Habits When Creating a New Mindset May 17, 2023

Old habits kill new mindsets. Today I'll share with you the #1 thing you are doing that is keeping your from becoming your future self. The #1 mistake you are making when it comes to transforming one of more areas of your life. The #1 ERROR you are making when manifesting the life you WANT. AND what to do about it. You can download a quick and helpful resource at kristenfinch.com/podcast or https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61e743f94cfe7529d668b339

How to Create the Perfect Morning Routine May 10, 2023

There is no such thing as a perfect morning routine for everyone, but there is absolutely a morning routine that is right for YOU. And it's worth having one because the beginning of your day is your energetic foundation.

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The High Cost of Approval Addiction May 03, 2023

Approval addiction is the result of seeking other people's opinions to determine your own self-worth. Just like any substance addiction, approval addiction is terribly self-limiting and comes at a hefty cost. Today, I offer some guidance towards recovery as a fellow – recovering – approval addict.

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Why Your Words Matter So Much Apr 26, 2023

Your words matter. When you use empowered words, you strengthen neural pathways that become the automatic path to empowered actions. You've got to start choosing your words mindfully. Let's talk HOW.

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How to Be More Consistent-ish Apr 19, 2023

To change any habit, you must be consistent in your effort - everyone knows this. What people don't tell you is that consistent-ish is far more viable. If you want inner peace, if you want to feel more CALM in your life, you need to be relentlessly committed AND consistent-ish.

AND!

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5 Habits to Give Up to Manifest Your Future Self Apr 12, 2023

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If you want to create something new, you need to align your current daily habits with your future self's daily habits – which means dropping these bad ones.

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Slow and Steady: The Importance of Daily Habits Apr 05, 2023

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When you try to race too fast towards your Future Self, you don't give your identity a chance to catch up - so take that manifesting slow and steady, baby.

AND!

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Why You Aren't Doing the Things You Know You Should Be Doing Mar 29, 2023

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Here's something that I hear a lot: "I know the things I should be doing, Kristen. I'm just not doing them." So let's look at why that is. If you want to create something extraordinary, remember: what matters the MOST is how you show up in your day-to-day life. If you're not showing up for your future self every day, then you're not doing the things you know you should be doing.

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Calm AF Decluttering Series: Emotional Clutter Mar 22, 2023

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In Part 3 of the Calm AF decluttering series, we are talking about emotional clutter. Emotions are energy that's created and stored inside your body, energy that physically interacts with your chemistry, your organs, your cells – best to keep emotional clutter to a minimum. In fact, if you are tending to physical and mental clutter without managing your emotional clutter, then you're really only surface-cleaning.

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Calm AF Decluttering Series: Mental Clutter Mar 15, 2023

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In Part 2 of the Calm AF decluttering series, we are talking about mental clutter. Most people don't think about clutter being something that accumulates in the mind. But we think thousands of thoughts every day, and not all those thoughts serve us. In this episode, I give you actions that you can do on your own to get the mental decluttering ball rolling.

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Calm AF Decluttering Series: Physical Clutter Mar 08, 2023

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The physical clutter in your living and working spaces is impacting your energy; the calm AF approach to decluttering is an act of self love. It's a thing you do FOR yourself because of how it makes you feel, because you deserve to feel SUPPORTED, because – while the tidiness of your house has NOTHING to do with your worthiness – it sure feels good to have a nice space to relax in. In this episode, I give you the three steps to decluttering the Calm AF way.

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Curiosity Mar 01, 2023

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Curiosity lightens EVERYTHING up because it isn't looking for ONE definitive RIGHT answer. Curiosity is all about wonder. Curiosity is playfully looking for options. Curiosity is going to help you reconnect with who you really are, what you like, what you don't like, what you want, what you don't want. So you gotta put on your curiosity glasses. Put those sparkly lenses on and look around at all the things and just ASK QUESTIONS.

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How to Stop a Thought Spin-Out Feb 22, 2023

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Let's talk about thought spin-outs. This is when one anxious fear thought shows up, and before you can grab the thought to manage it, it's already spun off to another thought – and another thought and another thought. Thought spinouts feel like anxiety, they feel out of control.

Most of the time in a spin out, the thoughts are fast and furious. They feel very very urgent and very very true and your sympathetic nervous system is like "looks like we've got a major emergency happening….let's shut off all the higher level thinking and just survive here."

Once that sympathetic nervous system is activated, the thoughts aren't in your control. Not until your body signals that the emergency is over. Today, I'm sharing how to regain control in the middle of a spin-out and stay calm AF.

And...

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Why Self Love Feels So Hard (Throwback!) Feb 15, 2023

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I hear it all the time: "I *get* the concept of self love...it just feels hard."

Of COURSE it does. You were born into and have bought into a society that persistently teaches you that you aren't enough. You have been taught since childhood that getting the approval of others is what decided whether you were worthy. And you have been taught that other people's opinions matter more than yours.

Of COURSE it feels hard...it's like learning a brand new language. The good news is...if you can learn a new language you can learn self love. The trick is baby steps:

1. Acceptance of what IS

2. Self LIKE and/or appreciation

3. Self love

It IS possible. You can like yourself and your life.

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How to Find Your Joy as an Adult Feb 08, 2023

No matter what adulthood looks like for you, JOY is still inside of you. You do not have to learn how to feel joy, you just have to remember how to access it again. So, how DO you reconnect with who you really are, find activities that reconnect you to your JOY as an adult? That's what today's episode is all about.

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Focus on What's Working Feb 01, 2023

In your work of getting aligned with your calm AF self (your future self), you will inevitably revisit old stories. Stay on track by focusing on what's working.

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How to Do Hard Things Jan 25, 2023

In order to create your calm AF life, you are going to have to do very hard things. Scary? Yes. Worth it? 1,000,000 percent. Here are three ways my clients and friends set themselves up for success when it's time to do the hard thing.

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Break the Habit of Being Stuck Jan 18, 2023

"Stuck" can be a nasty habit to break. It's time to stop fighting for that habit you DON'T want and start allowing what you DO want.

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Hard Now? Or Hard Forever? Jan 11, 2023

Nothing changes without doing things that feel hard. Whether it's setting a boundary, saying NO to someone, learning how to not let the fear of GUILT stop you from every freaking thing you want to try, or not letting the fear of other people's opinions dictate how you live your life. So, you have a choice to make when it comes to creating the life you want: hard now, or hard forever?

Calm AF Life – my lifetime program – is online now! Tap here to join.

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Radical Self-Acceptance Jan 04, 2023

Changes happen with radical self-acceptance: embracing who you ARE, instead of pushing and exhausting yourself striving to be something different. Aligning with how you WANT to feel creates the change you want – NOT without effort, but without RESISTANCE, without giving up on yourself, without exhaustion.

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Calm AF Life, Part 9: How to Set Goals You Will Achieve Dec 28, 2022

The best goals to set are the ones that you can achieve and which support your Future Self. Here are the inspired actions to take to manifest them:

Acknowledge what's already working
Evaluate where you are now
Decide how you WANT to feel
Create alignment banks
Choose one or two feeling states to focus on

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Calm AF Life, Part 8: Manifesting Your Goals Dec 21, 2022

Being hard on yourself makes manifesting your goals hard – if not impossible. And the inverse is also true: goals grounded in self-kindness, worthiness, and calm AF energy almost – almost – manifest themselves.

In today's episode, part 8 of the Calm AF Life series, I'm sharing the method that I personally use to set, work towards, and achieve my own goals. Whatever you set out to achieve in 2023 – fitness, nutrition, relationships, finance, career – the Calm AF method for realizing your goals is the way to actually ENJOY your life and FEEL GOOD while you're manifesting. And doesn't that sound so much better than brow-beating yourself?

What are Calm AF goals? They are goals created from your soul, not your brain. Calm AF goals are about feelings, not actions. And Calm AF goals are informed by your Future Self, not your past or present.

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Calm AF Life, Part 7: Aligning with Your Future Self Dec 14, 2022

You can't create your Future Self by thinking the same way as your current self; it requires aligning with your Future Self. So, before you set any goals, before you make decisions, before you set an intention for the day, you want to align with your Future Self and find out what THEY have to say about it. Today I'm sharing the simple 3-step exercise that helps you access your Future Self today so you can enjoy being her tomorrow.

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Calm AF Life, Part 6: The Path to Your Future Self Dec 07, 2022

Once you commit to your calm AF Future Self, you soon realize that you will always be on the path to your Future Self. Not because your Future Self is always out of reach, but because once you arrive at your Future Self, you realize there's more growing, more learning, more experiencing, more wisdom, more life ahead of you. It's a path with countless new beginnings – but it doesn't have to be arduous or exhausting. That's why it is so vitally important to determine the most sustainable path forward.

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Calm AF Life, Part 5: Defining and Protecting Your Energy Nov 30, 2022

In part 5 of Calm AF Life, I want to dive into your energy. Mastering your energy is the most powerful skill you can learn. So, let's talk about what energy is (spoiler: it's everything) and how to start owning yours, regardless of what's going on outside of you.

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Introducing Calm AF Life! Nov 25, 2022

Calm AF Life Launches TODAY!!! Tap here to join.

Calm AF Life is my lifetime coaching program that will get you OUT of your head, help you STOP worrying about the things that won't ultimately matter, and bring you back INTO your life. Joining Calm AF Life gives you lifetime access to the entire immersive course, including videos, classes, coaching, and other content. Calm AF Life lessons are designed to give you in-depth, self-led instruction on all 3 of the components necessary to create a solid foundation for your growth: the mental component, the physical component, and the energetic component. In addition, you'll enjoy lifetime membership in the accountability community, designed to keep you aligned with your calm AF self while cheering for others along their journey.

A Calm AF Coaching Sesh with Courtney Nov 23, 2022

My client, Courtney, is a beaming example of the changes you can create when you align with - and consistently show up for - your calm AF self. She joins me to talk about her relentless journey, showing up for herself on the daily, and laying claim to a miracle pond in Iowa. Get comfy, gorgeous soul. It's time for a Calm AF Coaching Sesh!

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Calm AF Life, Part 4: Rewiring Your Thoughts (You're Already an EXPERT) Nov 16, 2022

So here's the thing about rewiring thoughts: It is possible for almost EVERY human. Not only is it possible, but it's exactly what the brain does IF AND WHEN we don't let other thoughts get in the way. There is a very specific, proven process to making this happen and today, I am going to teach you the rewire process: the proven steps of actually rewiring your thoughts. For good, for real, for life.

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Calm AF Life, Part 3: Feelings Are for Feeling Nov 09, 2022

Feeling your feelings is the next pillar of calm AF life, and to learn more about this, we are going to spend time in our bodies. Because that's where our feelings live – not in our minds, not in our thoughts, but in our physical bodies.

If you want anything to change in your life for good, you've GOT to become skilled in the art of feeling your feelings. Lemme say it again: The ONLY way to create a life you want, to change things that don't represent who you are becoming, to create new patterns that feel aligned with your future self, to manifest the things you want to manifest is to FEEEEEEL your feelings.

Unfortunately 99% of us don't know how to do this. We've all been taught to fix feelings, both our own and those of others. So, let's talk about it.

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Calm AF Life, Part 2: Nervous System First Nov 02, 2022

Whether you realize it or not, you curate your entire life around the state of your nervous system. Your nervous system is always the first point of contact with anything and everything. Your nervous system creates stories that feel VITALLY important to believe, rules that feel CRUCIAL to hyper vigilantly follow, and beliefs that feel necessary for survival.

The first step in creating sustainable Calm AF energy is learning how to regulate your nervous system. When it's dysregulated, all bets are off.

Listen to this second installment of the Calm AF Forever series, which is all about putting your nervous system first, and for a deeper dive into the mechanics of the nervous system, download my FREE 25-minute course here: https://kristen-finch.mykajabi.com/offers/ihVYFbz5

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Calm AF Life, Part 1: The Three Components of Permanent Transformation Oct 26, 2022

Being permanently calm AF is about creating the life that you love - making your life your favorite story. Getting there takes an integrated approach comprising three essential components of wellness: physical, mental, and energetic.

I'm going to break them down today, and then for the next 9 weeks I'll go deeper into each of them.

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Self-Worth: Seeds of Change Only Grow Beneath the Surface (Throwback!) Oct 19, 2022

If you want to make big changes that last, you have to do the deeper self work – the stuff below the surface. Nothing in your life will change until you go deeper and uproot your old limiting beliefs about self-worth and plant new seeds that serve you.

Here are three questions to ask yourself at the beginning of this important work:

WHY do I believe this thought about myself? Where did it come from? When did I learn it?
What would be different about my life if this seed was never planted in my subconscious? For example, if I NEVER had the thought "I am a person who never follows through?" What would be different?
What would change if I uprooted this belief? How would that affect my future self?

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What I Mean by Calm AF (Throwing Back to Episode 124) Oct 12, 2022

So. What the F is Calm AF? And how is it different from regular old calmness? Calm is a feeling. Calm AF is a way of being. It's an energy. When I talk about becoming calm AF I am not talking about walking around in some Zen blissed out state where nothing bothers you, man, and everything's fine. Nope, that's not it.

I am calm AF, but I'm not always calm. You can ask my family, I can be calm AF and angry. I can be calm AF and sad. I can be calm AF and ambitious, and I can be calm AF and calm. Calm AF is a knowing. It's a deep knowing in your bones that who you are is enough. That who you are is not a problem. That who you are is not broken. Despite what you've accidentally trained yourself to believe.

In this foundational episode, you will learn that:

Calm is a feeling. Calm AF is a way of being
Calm AF isn't a new thing to learn because it's already there, wired into you
Becoming calm AF is a return to trusting yourself, believing in yourself, and loving yourself deeply

Grab some coffee and give it a listen. You got this. And I got you.

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Investing in Your Future Self Means Saying YES to What Matters Oct 05, 2022

Investing in your Future Self means saying YES to effort, energy, discomfort, and sometimes even costs. And investing in your Future Self is ALWAYS worth it. Best of all, it doesn't always have to mean saying yes to big things, like concerts or camping trips or college courses. You can fill your tank by saying yes to a walk, a phone call with a friend, a nap.

What matters the most? At the end of your life WHAT will be the things that you will be SO glad you said yes to?

And, if you're feeling antsy in this space between where you are now and your Future Self, I got you. Check out episode 201: https://kristenfinch.com/feeling-antsy-in-the-gap/

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Replace Self Doubt with Self Belief Sep 28, 2022

Every single week, all week long, I talk to the MOST powerful women, women who could absolutely dominate, take over the freaking world, but who spend all their time and energy trying to silence their self-doubt. These women avoid taking steps to dominate, to step into their power, to apply for the executive role, for ONE reason: because they don't BELIEVE in themselves.

F THAT.

When you feel yourself doubting your abilities, readiness, or worthiness, there are 3 mindset shifts you can employ to replace self doubt with self belief:

Stop relying on evidence of your worthiness.
Stop being afraid of getting your hopes up.
Stop making everything such a big deal.

Let's get into it, shall we?

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Updating Your Thought-ware Sep 21, 2022

If we think of the brain like an organic computer, then the quality of your life is only as good as the thought-ware you install.

When you were born, your mind was a clean slate, running a simple emotional and physiological operating system. Its job was to keep you alive and get your needs met. As you got older, the adults in your life installed and started running their own mental "software" – or, thought-ware – onto your operating system. Then you got older still, and began installing your own thought-ware which you habitually run depending on what you're trying to do in life. Trying to fit in? Launch the "Mimic Others" program! Trying to get attention? Run the "Pout and Storm Off" application!

And just like in actual computers running electronic software, your thought-ware eventually becomes old and obsolete. It no longer serves you. Your operating system has evolved, and so must your thought-ware. If you are an organic machine with a natural computer at the helm, the only way to get the machine to produce/create/manifest what you want is to run the thought-ware which makes that happen. Which inevitably means uninstalling the old applications (UNLEARNING old thoughts), downloading new thought patterns that serve you better (LEARNING new ones), and running those applications all the time until your operating system can run them with maximum efficiency (REWIRING).

You don't have to be into computers – lord knows I'm not!!!! – to get this message. Just grab a coffee and listen up, Gorgeous Soul! We're updating your thought-ware.

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Increasing Your Baseline Energy Sep 14, 2022

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If you want to create a life that feels better, that feels lighter, that feels less heavy, you've GOT to increase your baseline energy. For all the chatter about manifesting this and that, what truly matters is the energy we bring to the work of creating and living – the energy that we choose as our baseline. Higher vibes lift us up, lower ones take us down.

Now, we don't boost our baseline energy by struggling or trying so hard or doing the most or doing it best. We do it by allowing. It's that simple. For me, it is easy to raise my vibration when I put myself in high-vibe situations: celebrations, concerts, nature. BUT. I can't spend all my time attending celebrations, going to concerts, or communing with nature. So, the other way I'm able to boost my baseline is to live grounded in what my soul knows matters: love, natural joy, connection. And I can do that almost anywhere, almost anytime.

Like anything achievable, it takes a little practice. The more time you spend feeling connected to those energies of love and joy, the more familiar they will be, and your baseline will shift.

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Some Things You Need to Know about Your Future Self Sep 07, 2022

Let's address some myths and misconceptions about your Future Self – who she is, who she isn't, and what it means to become her. Your future self is not a far-fetched version of you that you have to TURN into. It's you now, just without the limiting beliefs and bullshit stories you're carrying around. And you don't become her AFTER your journey, you realize you ARE her DURING it.

Grab a coffee, and let's get acquainted with our REAL future selves.

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5 Proven Steps to Overcoming Obstacles (and Staying Relentlessly Committed to Becoming Your Future Self) Aug 31, 2022

You can STAY relentlessly committed to creating the life you want, manifesting your intentions, achieving your dreams WITHOUT exhausting yourself. Here's how, in 5 proven steps.

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Mindfully Relentless is Relentless AF Aug 24, 2022

If you want to become your true Future Self, you MUST be relentlessly committed to the things that matter. Because it won't happen overnight, it won't happen without failures, and it won't happen the way you think it will.

Personally speaking, when it comes to MY one precious life, when it comes to being ALIVE in my life instead of surviving my life…absolutely relentless. Once I realized this about myself, I started thinking about all the other areas of my life that I've experienced transformation in.

The key was being relentlessly committed to the things that REALLY mattered.

I didn't want to be in a marriage where I groaned every time my husband came home from work. I want to be HAPPY when I hear that garage door open. If I'm gonna be with this person ALL the time, I want it to feel like I GET to have a forever sleepover. So, I worked relentlessly on the things I needed to work on.

It MATTERED to me to create a home that felt nurturing and calm. So I relentlessly committed to decluttering and cleaning EVEN when it felt like it was taking forever and I had two very little kiddos and approximately 20 minutes a day to work on it.

Deep friendship connections MATTERED to me. Being part of a community of powerful women mattered to me, so I relentlessly pursued it – albeit in a non-creepy way.

I had big audacious goals for my coaching business because it MATTERS to me that more women learn how to be empowered, set boundaries, stop people pleasing and energy managing so they LOVE their life so I relentlessly committed to creating this. It took me FIVE YEARS to really gain any traction but I never stopped. I stopped TONS of projects, tons of hobbies, tons of special interests. But I never stopped my coaching trajectory.

If you want to become your Future Self, manifest a life you love, you MUST be relentlessly committed because it's NOT going to happen overnight, it's NOT going to happen without LOTS of failures and it's NOT going to happen the way you think it will.

Today I'm going to share with you the most COMMON obstacles that take us off the relentlessly committed path. Because your relentless self is in there, and her path is waiting.

AND.

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Calm AF Anger is Empowering Anger Aug 17, 2022

Anger, when it disguises fear, is an unsafe feeling. But clean anger, calm AF anger, feels safe and in control. It is empowering and guides us to rational action.

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Wife Lessons Aug 10, 2022

Dave, my husband and Calm AF podcast producer extraordinaire, has learned recently that, "When you are so bold as to be true to yourself, you step fully into your power." Gorgeous souls, check out where he learned this. I love it.

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Feeling Antsy in the Gap Aug 03, 2022

The gap that exists between where you are now and where you're headed can feel excruciating and make you feel super antsy. THE WORST. Your brain, no matter how smart you are, cannot figure your way out of this gap. Because the human brain is designed to make sense of what it has experienced. If your future self is someone doing things you haven't tried before, then the best you can do is settled into the gap until your transformation reveals itself.

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3 BIG Lessons from Calm AF's First 200 Episodes Jul 27, 2022

This is Calm AF's 200th episode! I truly think that Calm AF was a universal energetic idea floating around looking for someone to grab it and manifest it. And I got to be the one who did. I am so, so, so grateful.

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How My Husband Responded When I Stopped Energy Managing Jul 20, 2022

You're in a neurodiverse relationship. You are wired differently, a neurologically mixed couple. It's tricky. We get it because we have lived it. In this episode, hear Dave's side of my journey to recovery as an energy manager. And join Dave and me for our new couples' program! https://kristenfinch.com/oppositeaf

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Empowered Living Demands Radical Ownership Jul 13, 2022

Taking radical ownership of your life empowers you to create the life you want, the relationships you want, the career you want, everything. It's not easy but it is crucial.

Personally speaking, my life overall changed for the better when I committed to fully owning it. My health improved. Our house began feeling like our home. And my neurodiverse marriage, which had been rocky, course-corrected. Not because "radical ownership" is some magical fairy wand that we can wave and suddenly everything is great, but because owning my life enabled me to make confident decisions about my circumstances that created real change. It's powerful and, like anything so powerful, it's not an easy thing to master. But endeavoring to take radical ownership of your life will serve you 100 percent of the time.

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My BEST Marriage Advice that Sucks (Throwback) Jul 06, 2022

The #1 thing I am asked to talk about is my neurodiverse marriage (Dave is autistic, I'm not). And I'm SO happy to talk about it...I'm SO happy to share what worked for our marriage. Except...my advice sucks.

I mean, it's SOLID gold, it is EXCELLENT advice, but it's HARD and it takes time, it requires you to change the way you've been living your life, and it can be painful.

I told you. Sucks.

On today's episode I'm talking about taking radical responsibility for your entire relationship so that you can transform it. I will share:

~ what radical ownership actually looks like

~how taking 100% responsibility for your entire life changes your entire life

~ why it's so hard to stay in your own lane

~ why letting people BE who they are will make YOU happier

I want you to stop WAITING for your external circumstances to change and change your life. I did it. You can, too. Join my next Rewired AF group to learn how: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/62b25c3c849e4b4fbbbea7d6

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5 Ways Energy Managers Self-Sabotage Jun 29, 2022

One of the most important milestones in the recovery journey of an energy manager is the moment they recognize just how much their behaviors — which truly are self-sabotaging — are making their life way harder. Because this is the moment they realize they must stop managing other people's energies. It's also the moment in which the brain jumps in and works to convince you that NOW is not the time to ditch your energy manager habit. Let's look at the top five ways our brains wage protest against STOPPING managing everyone's energy so that you can understand your brain's end game and move forward accordingly.

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3 Ways to Boost Your Own Energy Efficiency Jun 22, 2022

Life is draining. Trying to generate more and more energy drains us more and leads to burn-out. My advice? Boost your personal energy efficiency. Here's how.

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Permission Slips Jun 15, 2022

Today, for my energy managers, people pleasers, perfectionists, and overachievers, I am handing out permission slips. Because YOU probably aren't giving yourself permission to take care of yourself, to let yourself rest, to let yourself play, to STOP striving for perfection. I'm not giving you permission to check out or ignore life, I am giving you permission to do it shitty.

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Internal versus External Validation (Required Throwback for Energy Managers) Jun 08, 2022

Validation is recognition or acceptance that something or someone is worthy, legitimate, and acceptable. That's why validation, feeling valid, is such a big deal for all of us. When I talk to clients about internal validation, we are talking about a deep, almost profound knowing that who you are, and the feelings, thoughts, and opinions you bring to the table, are valid and worthwhile — without needing to hear it from anybody else. That is internal or self-validation. By contrast, external validation is when that sense of legitimacy and worthiness comes from somewhere/someone/something outside of you — from another person, for instance. Both sources of validation have remarkably positive and immediate effects on our mood because, to us humans and other pack animals, interpersonal acceptance and social legitimacy were factors crucial to our very survival. So, whether our ancestors carried themselves with true confidence or they sought kudos and pats on the back from their peers, the effects inside their brain would have felt equally good: The tribe thinks I am awesome and therefore, I am safe. However, only internal validation offers long-term, sustainable, positive effects on us psychologically and emotionally. Only internal validation serves our well-being over the long haul, and only internal validation builds and reinforces self-confidence.

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Doubling Down on Self Care Jun 01, 2022

When you feel overwhelmed, when it feels like you don't have time, when you feel like the best course of action is just to push through, that's when to double down on self care. The tragic mass shooting in Buffalo, followed last week by the unthinkable school shooting in Uvalde, have left us buried - practically suffocating - in feelings. For so many of us, the temptation is to ignore the heavy feelings and just white-knuckle our way through the next few weeks. It's to put the idea of self care away, to defer it until we can make time for it. But NOW is when you need to double-down on self care.

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Why I Stopped Energy Managing May 25, 2022

If you wanna stop energy managing, you gotta find your WHY. Your BIG reason that keeps you on point. Here's mine. AND, this week, you can still dive deeper with me and a whole group of gorgeous souls in my new 16-week program, Calm the F**k Down. Tap the link below to join!

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My Journey to Recovery as an Energy Manager May 18, 2022

Lately, I've been talking a lot about Energy Managers and energy managing on my podcast. So much so, that a number of clients and listeners have turned to Google to learn even more about energy managing, only to discover zero search results related to this topic.

And that is because the concept of the Energy Manager is something that I made up, a phrase I've coined. While Energy Managers have always existed, the classification comes straight from my brain – and straight out of my own, personal experience. I'm sure Google will catch up.

So, today I'm going to share my own journey in my Energy Manager recovery. How it started, how it went, how it's going, the process I've honed to guide Energy Managers to recovery – and my a-ha moment that changed everything.

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4 Lies Energy Managers, People Pleasers, and Approval Addicts Tell Themselves May 11, 2022

An energy manager is someone whose people-pleasing habit has gone next-level and become an addiction. You know you're an energy manager if you are constantly and hyper-vigilantly managing the moods, thoughts, and feelings of your people — your partner, friends, coworkers, furnace repair guy, whoever. It's exhausting and thankless and the "work" of energy managing never ends. And the crazy thing is that IT DOESN'T WORK. Like addicts clinging to their substance of choice, energy managers and people pleasers cling to a handful of very false notions that perpetuate this extremely toxic addiction. Today, I cover 4 of them.

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How to Build Resilience Through Emotional Intelligence - And Why You Should May 04, 2022

Resilience and emotional ownership - two life-changing products of emotional intelligence - are essential to your recovery as an energy manager. Today's episode of the Calm AF podcast is all about how to build these core strengths, and where you can start today. And speaking of starting today, click here for more info on my new class for People Pleasers & Energy Managers, starting later this month!

Energy Managing Is the New People Pleasing Apr 27, 2022

Gorgeous soul, I am pretty sure this episode of the Calm AF podcast is meant just for you. Today, I am talking all about energy managers. And if you're not sure what I mean by "energy manager," think of energy managers as people pleasers who have taken people pleasing to a whole new level. They're the ones who are not merely seeking the approval of one person, they are seeking to control all the moods of all the people. Yeah. It's intense, it's exhausting, and it definitely takes its toll on the soul. Let's dive in. To learn more about my new coaching program opening soon, visit

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There Is No Downside to Choosing Empowering Thoughts Apr 20, 2022

There is never a downside to choosing empowered thinking. There is never a downside to choosing to believe that the best is going to happen instead of the worst is going to happen, or believing that you are capable or worthy or enough. Your brain wants to hold onto the "yeah buts." Yeah, but what if I'm not? Yeah, but what if I fail? Yeah, but what about other people's opinions? Your brain — the human brain — is designed to look for all the ways you aren't enough, the way your life is lacking. BUT. It is never helpful to choose those thoughts. It is never helpful to choose anxiety or fear or shame. It's never helpful to err on the side of limiting or powerless thinking. And in this episode, as your coach, I'm going to prove it to you. Check out https://kristenfinch.com for more.

How to Make Empowered Decisions Confidently (05/01/2019) Apr 13, 2022

This episode is all about making decisions. More specifically, how to make empowered decisions. No anxiety, no doubt, no over-thinking, no FOMO - just total confidence. Empowered decisions feel good, they feel right, they feel solid. Let's talk about how to make them with confidence, every time. I'm Kristen, your Calm AF Coach. You got this, and I got you.

Declutter Your Life, Part 3: Emotional Clutter Apr 06, 2022

ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don't use, things don't serve a purpose, things you've outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let's talk about the emotional clutter that's getting in your way. Check out this related PLAYLIST that I've curated just for you, for after you listen to this episode: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/624773500d4a1c1ac93e381c

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Declutter Your Life, Part 2: Mental Clutter Mar 30, 2022

ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don't use, things don't serve a purpose, things you've outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let's talk about the mental clutter taking up precious real estate in your gorgeous brain - and WHAT to do with it. Visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf for the rest.

Declutter Your Life, Part 1: Physical Clutter Mar 23, 2022

ALL clutter is an accumulation of things that you don't use, things don't serve a purpose, things you've outgrown, unhelpful things that are taking up space. That space can be your home, your mind or your body. Today, let's talk about the space clutter takes up in your home. Visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf for the rest.

Waiting for Your Wake-up Call Mar 16, 2022

WHY do we wait for a wake up call to feel ALIVE in our lives..to stop living a life in survival mode and start living our one life NOW. Today I'm going to share with you the BIGGEST lies we are believing that are keeping us from reclaiming our lives from survival mode hell. Applications are being accepted for April's RewiredAF retreat and 4 months of coaching. Apply now at https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF

The Most Important Power Move Mar 09, 2022

The most important thing you can do as a person, a woman, a mom, a partner, a boss, a subordinate, is to step fully into the power you already have. To my people-pleasers, over-thinkers, perfectionists and overachievers: you take your power back, you take your life back. Today I'll give you 3 guidelines for how to do it now. Applications are being accepted for April's RewiredAF retreat and 4 months of coaching. Apply now at https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF

Why Your Soul Is Tired & What to Do About It Mar 02, 2022

Beyond the normal mental, physical, and emotional fatigue there is a deeper sense of exhaustion that I call Soul Tired. Soul Tired happens when we take on too much responsibility for things we can't control. Soul Tired happens when we spiral into over-thinking. It happens roughly 23-ish months into a pandemic. So, today's episode is all about understanding WHY your soul is tired, and then three solid things you can do now to give your soul - YOU - some much needed rest. Applications are being accepted for April's RewiredAF retreat and 4 months of coaching. Apply now at https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF

Being Hard On Yourself Isn't Helping...It's Hurting (05/13/2020) Feb 23, 2022

We all have an inner voice that chatters away in our heads. For most of us, that voice is not the nicest. It's not pointing out our successes or our potential or our strengths. It's pointing out our flaws, rehashing mistakes, generally being a Mean Girl. In this throwback episode, we talk all about the talk. Apply to work with me at kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf

Calming Down by Lightening Up Feb 16, 2022

Lighten up - that's the doctor's orders. Published research by Dr. Karyn Purvis shows that, typically, it takes about 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the brain. Which means we have to practice a thought 400 times before it becomes a belief or second-nature. BUT. When play is involved, that same synapse will develop over on 10 to 20 repetitions. So, today we're talking about lightening the f**k up while you learn to calm the f**k down. Apply for RewiredAF at kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf

Recognizing and Remediating ALL-OR-NOTHING Thinking Feb 09, 2022

In my experience, one of the greatest obstacles to achieving goals, manifesting outcomes, living a life you WANT to live every day, is what I call all-or-nothing thinking. You *have* to stop that sh!t if you want to get anywhere. Today's episode is all about it. Check out kristenfinch.com for more good stuff.

Throwback: How to Be Your TRUE Self (01/13/21) Feb 02, 2022

What is my purpose? It's a question I hear ALL the time. And most people think it's a really deep question with a big answer. But I think it's super simple. Your purpose is to BE the realest, most authentic YOU, you can be. The problem? You've learned SO much about who you *should* be, and what you're *supposed* to look like. Today I'm diving in and sharing: ~ True Self vs Learned Self ~ Why becoming your True Self requires UNLEARNING and REWIRING ~ How to figure out who the TRUE you actually is

A Tiger Doesn't Apologize for Her Stripes Jan 26, 2022

If you don't feel worthy being who you REALLY are - your most authentic and aligned self - you will find yourself feeling exhausted, resentful, depressed, anxious. In this episode, we dive into why that is, and what to do about it.

Creating Your Legacy Jan 12, 2022

What legacy will I leave? What legacy do I WANT to leave? What do I hope people say about me when I'm gone? I really want people to say the same things about me that they are saying about Bob Saget. This is truly the weirdest episode ever and that is not something I ever thought would come out of my mouth. But grab a coffee and hear me out. And. Go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to apply for my upcoming January retreat.

Find Your Community Jan 06, 2022

If the people you are surrounded by aren't lifting you up, cheering you on, dusting you off, laughing with you, celebrating with you, loving on you…FIND NEW PEOPLE. The people in your life will either elevate you or keep you where you are. It's time to surround yourself with the best. If you don't have this group, CREATE it. Go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to find your people.

My Quantum-Leap Year Jan 05, 2022

Some people greet the new year with goals, others with energy-charged words or phrases. There's no wrong way to strut into 2022 as long as you're choosing to strut in INTENTIONALLY. Me I love - and I mean LOVE - goals AND words. Lighting up my 2022 is the phrase, Quantum Leap. Because quantum leaps are the essence of easy manifesting. In this episode, I'm talking all about manifesting and turbocharging results in a PRACTICAL way. And. I'm taking applications for the January retreat and coaching session. Apply at https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredAF

Things to Leave in 2021 Dec 30, 2021

The new year begins in a couple days and we all have GOALS on the brain. So, today I'm gonna share with you the top 3 things to leave in 2021. Do NOT take this sh*t with you into 2022. If you are listening and it is already 2022, let TODAY be the last day. Release these things today. They are weighing you down, slowing you down, bringing you down. It's time to lighten up, speed up, and level up. Grab a coffee and let's do this! And visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to apply now for the January retreat! xoxo Kristen

Manifesting, Simplified: The Calm AF Method Dec 29, 2021

Today, I talk about manifesting with EASE, aka the Calm AF manifestation method. Because here's what you need to understand. The more you focus on the struggle, the more you resist the feelings, the more you think about how HARD this is…the more struggle, resistance and HARD shit you're going to feel. How about instead, you lighten the fuck up about it? I say that with nothing but light….let's just have some fun. Learn how at https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf

How to Manifest the Life You Want: Focus on WHO, Not HOW Dec 23, 2021

If you want to manifest ANYTHING, your time needs to be spent BECOMING the person who can do these three things: 1. Embrace failure 2. Feel your feelings 3. Have faith. Building on last week's episode (#166), we're diving deeper into focusing on the right thing at the beginning of your manifesting process. Namely, who you want to be. The January 2022 retreat and coaching package is open NOW for applications! Visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to apply.

How to Manifest the Life You Want in 2022 Dec 22, 2021

I'm a HUGE fan of setting goals. I think they are the BEST way to stay intentional in our desire to become our best selves, our FUTURE self. When I talk about Future Self, I simply mean the version of you that's done the work of unlearning old limiting beliefs and has become the MOST TRUE version of yourself. So, how do we do this? In this episode, I share a pragmatic approach to creating the reality you want. Grab a coffee, let's do this. Check out https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf for more!

Calm AF During the Holidays Dec 15, 2021

The point of the holidays is TO CELEBRATE. Can't get into the holiday spirit if you're freaking out, right? I got you. In this episode, I share 4 simple tips for creating CALM AF Holidays. It's deciding to create a Calm AF Holiday season, dropping expectations, preparing for what you want, and prioritizing YOUR self-care. Visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to go deeper!

How to Reconnect with Who You REALLY Are Dec 09, 2021

Often, I am asked, "What if I don't know who my 'authentic self' truly is?" And ten times out of ten, I respond with "Of course you do." Of COURSE you do. You cannot be separated from your true self….she's just buried under layers of fear, trauma, and expectations. This episode is a shortie, and it lays out concrete steps to reconnecting with your authentic self. Let's do this. ALSO: visit https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to apply for January openings!

Powerful AF Dec 08, 2021

In nearly a decade of coaching, I have learned a surprising truth about people: those who are POWERFUL AF are just as likely as anyone to find themselves caged in by life, if not more. Why? Because powerful people are feared the most and told the most lies about how they AREN'T powerful. They're told repeatedly that who they are is a mistake and everything they do is wrong.They're given the message that they need to be smaller, quieter, PERFECT in order to be acceptable to the world. This is what they hear over and over until the truth gets duller and the lies get louder. Sound familiar? Grab a coffee, let's dive in.

While You're Alive, Be Alive Dec 01, 2021

Don't wait until your wake up call. Live the TRUE life you are here to live - not the one you think you're supposed to be living.

Cranky AND Calm: How to Avoid Getting Into Ruts Nov 24, 2021

You can be CRANKY AF while still calm AF'er. Much as we try to align with joy and gratitude, inevitably, some days / some weeks are just sh*t...and so's our mood. Happens all the time. So, here are 3 tips to help you access Calm AF energy, no matter how you're feeling. AND. It is time to register for the next round of Rewired AF! Just click here to apply: https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF

People Pleasing (Throwback) Nov 17, 2021

Rewired AF begins in January 2022. Kicking off with an in-person retreat January 26-30 followed by weekly group coaching. We're making 2022 the BEST year. Click here to apply and schedule a time to talk: https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF

Do you find yourself saying YES when you want to say no? Do you rehash old conversations, wondering if you said the right thing? Do you spend time worrying about if other people are mad at you? Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells so your partner/mom/boss/whoever doesn't get upset? These are just a few ways that people pleasing shows up. Grab a coffee, we're doing this.

Behind the Curtain: My Hidden Superpower Nov 10, 2021

This week I'm going to be sharing my biggest AHA moments, lessons and GIFTS I've learned from my journey with having ADHD. And again, whether you have a brain wired like mine or NOT, the lessons and tools that came from this part of my story WILL be applicable for YOU.

Behind the Curtain: My neurodiverse marriage Nov 03, 2021

My husband, Dave, was diagnosed with an autism spectrum condition five years into our marriage. Unlike countless couples with a less-than-happy outcome - with or without the challenges of neurodiversity - we created a happier life together by changing our stories. Grab a coffee, it's time for some thought work.

Behind the Curtain: In My Real Life, In My Real Tragedy Oct 27, 2021

Today's episode is about death and what I learned from loss. It's my first time getting this personal, which scares me a little. But the lessons about rising from trauma, feeling our feelings, and the nature of love are just too important to keep to myself. Grab a coffee, we're going deep.

Addicted to Approval (Throwback) Oct 20, 2021

Approval addiction is when your self worth is defined by other people's opinions of you. When you can only feel worthy or good enough when other people SHOW their approval. Approval addicts need validation from external sources in order to feel enough and ANY criticism proves they are NOT worthy. In today's episode, I'm sharing: ~ the MANY different ways approval addiction shows up for people (people pleasing, hiding, attention seeking, etc) ~ the 3 steps to break an addiction to other people's approval ~ 4 tips you can use immediately while you're learning to accept yourself without the need for approval/praise.

RE-DEFINING Self-Worth Oct 13, 2021

The self-help industry is valued at $11 Billion. Health and wellness? $3 Billion. DIET amounts to a $254 Billion (1/4 Trillion Dollar) industry. The subtext of these industries is toxic and damaging: "Change who you are so you can feel WORTHY." It's bullshit. YOU were born worthy of being who you are. You're worthy. It's your birthright. So let's talk about it. Grab a coffee.

Self Love: Setting Mood Boundaries Oct 06, 2021

For you empaths, being very sensitive is a SUPERPOWER. But without energetic boundaries and some mindset strategies, it does NOT feel like a superpower. Grab a coffee, we're talking all about it.

Flowing or Growing Sep 29, 2021

Like all natural, living things, you are SUPPOSED to go through seasons. Sometimes you're flowing - things are going great, no problems. Sometimes things aren't going so great. This is when you're GROWING. Grab a cup of coffee, Gorgeous Soul. We're talking all about growing and flowing and how to manage these important seasons.

What to Expect When You're Rewiring Sep 22, 2021

Your brain generates as many as 60,000 thoughts every single day. Of those, 80% are negative ones. What's more? 95% of them are REPETITIVE thoughts. In today's episode, I share why this really, really, REALLY matters. Grab a coffee, we're doing this.

Panicked AF or Calm AF Sep 15, 2021

I will go into the whole story but the MESSAGE for today is this: You ALWAYS have two choices when it comes to stressful situations. You can be PANICKED AF. ANXIOUS AF. AFRAID AF. OR Calm AF. In this episode I'm going to share with you why it's ALWAYS worth it to choose calm AF.

Find Your People Sep 08, 2021

You might think it's impossible for someone to think WHO YOU REALLY ARE is amazing because you were taught from the time you were very little that you weren't good enough. The truth is, you just haven't found your people. Your people are out there. They are waiting for YOU. They want who you ARE, not who you've been trying to be. The only way to find people who love you is by unapologetically being yourself. Grab a coffee, we're diving into it.

BONUS EPISODE: The Rules of the Roles Sep 03, 2021

In today's episode, I'm sharing the steps you need to take to unlearn your old stories and create the life you want: find the rules, question the rules, rewrite the rules, rewire your mind.

I'm teaching this in depth in Rewired AF, a 6-month group coaching program beginning September 14th.

To learn more, go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf

Schedule a free consult call to see if the group is right for you here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/rewiredAF

Self-Love and the Importance of Routine Sep 01, 2021

Routines will create more INTENTION and ATTENTION on the areas of your life that you want to be more present in, and will help you always be moving towards your future self.Because Your time, without structure, disappears quickly. Today I'm going to share with you 3 routines that will change your life: a morning routine, an evening routine and intentional time blocking.

Self-Worth: The Seeds and the Garden Aug 25, 2021

Whatever thought you plant in your subconscious mind is what will grow there. The subconscious mind isn't judging anything. That's not its job. It's not questioning ANY thought seed you plant. It's just there to grow the thought into a belief. So today, let's talk about tending to your thoughts to make sure the ones that serve you have the strongest roots.

What Your Anxiety Is Costing You Aug 18, 2021

In this episode, I dive into some of the ways anxiety is eroding your quality of life, and what it's actually costing you. Anxiety is costing you money, relationships, connection, time, and so much more. That's why it's so important to learn how to calm the f**k down.

Self-Worth: Being Yourself Is Not Harder Than the Alternative Aug 11, 2021

Clients tell me that it's hard to be yourself. It's HARD to speak your truth. It's HARD to set boundaries. It's HARD to prioritize your SELF in your own life. But they don't recognize how much more difficult it is to live in a constantly self-limited way. It is SO MUCH EASIER to live your life as YOURSELF than what you're doing now. That's what today's episode is all about. Grab a coffee and let's do this.

Powerless Against Anxiety vs. Empowered With Anxiety Aug 04, 2021

It's not so much what you do when anxiety hits. Those in-the-moment strategies are helpful, but you really also need to be paying attention to how you think about anxiety, and your thoughts about your anxiety. So this episode is about shifting your mindset and learning how to stop feeling powerless to your anxiety. One of the keys that gets missed to managing anxiety from beginning to end is to become empowered in your thoughts about your anxiety. Let's dig in.

Self Worth: Practicing It So It Sticks Jul 28, 2021

Self-help. You've listened to all the podcasts, read all the books, learned all the tools. And still, the instant a challenge arises, you drop everything you've learned and go right back to your old habits. SO helpful. I have been there and this episode is all about how to transform these ideas into tools you actively use every day.

Throwback Episode: 10 Habits to Drop Now Jul 21, 2021

This was one of the most loved and thought-provoking episodes of 2020. I recorded this just before the pandemic shut down the world, and it's called Top 10 Things to Quit in 2020 – not that 2020 offered too much to keep. Anyway, these remain true today, over a year and a half later. Enjoy!

Throwback Episode: Feel Like You're Drowning Jul 14, 2021

Does it ever feel like life is overwhelming like you're drowning and right at the last second you get a gasp of air before heading back under, before going head-first back into life? This episode from October 2019 is all about that.

Throwback: Accepting What Is Jul 07, 2021

Acceptance does not mean giving in, agreeing, or condoning. It is only the acknowledgment of what is. Today, we're going all the way back to 2019. I loved this client's story so much because it is THE CLASSIC objection I hear when I tell people that before they can change something, they have to accept it.

Throwback Episode: Push Pause Jun 30, 2021

Throwback Episode! Today's throwback is one of my most deeply personal stories where the lesson was clear, present, painful, and absolutely life-changing. It's all about PUSHING PAUSE: what it means, how it serves you, and how to do it. Enjoy.

Meet The Lizard Jun 23, 2021

When your Lizard Brain is in charge, your body will feel panic. The boss, the teenager, the toddler stay mostly in your head. The Lizard moves into the body so it's easy to spot.In today's episode, I'll teach you how to tame The Lizard when she shows up and grabs the reins in your brains.

Meet The Teenager Jun 16, 2021

You inner Teenager shows up under similar circumstances to The Toddler, but the way she shows up is much different. How you respond to her makes all the difference in your ability to access your highest, most Calm AF self. This episode is all about The Teenager - may God have mercy on our souls.

Meet The Toddler Jun 09, 2021

When The Boss gets tired and clocks out, your inner toddler is free to run amok. That's when she is most dangerous. So let's talk about it. In this episode, I teach you how to recognize The Toddler, when and why she shows up, and what to do when your Toddler is on her rampage.

Meet The Boss Jun 02, 2021

Last week I introduced you to the coaching concept I created called The Team. The team is a motley configuration of thinking habits that steer your mind through just about every situation. Today, we'll talk about The Boss because The Boss, in my experience coaching people, is the loudest and most ACTIVE team member of all.

The Team May 26, 2021

In this first in a series of five episodes, I introduce you to your Team, a motley confederation of thinking habits that steer your mind through just about every situation.

Empowered Thinking vs. Positive Thinking May 19, 2021

I do NOT teach positive thinking, I teach empowered thinking. I'm not interested in trying to trick your brain into believing things that aren't true, I want you to OWN your thoughts and know that YOU are in control of them and your beliefs. In this episode, I explain why I don't teach positive thinking AND tell you how EMPOWERED thinking is the way to change your life.

Prioritizing Self-Care May 12, 2021

When you feel better in your mind and body and soul, the rest of your life feels better. Instead of procrastinating or shutting down because you're exhausted, you move quicker and get more done. Prioritizing your self care allows you to still do the things that need to get done without feeling resentful while you're doing it.

Internal vs External Validation May 05, 2021

This episode is all about validation and the two ways we experience it: from external sources and from our own thoughts. We'll dive into how relying on external things for validation causes and perpetuates problems - not the least of which being what I call "fragile happiness." Then I'll explain how you can take radical ownership of your feelings about yourself and your worth. Grab some coffee and let's do this.

Creating Your Future Self Apr 28, 2021

This episode is all about getting to your future self without taking the torture path. Because here's the truth about creating the future you want: if the journey there SUCKS, you're not going to feel better when you arrive. If you don't feel worthy along the way, you definitely will not feel like you're enough when you get there. In other words, happy endings do not come from unhappy journeys

Feeling Pain Without Suffering Apr 21, 2021

Most of us are taught that any feeling except happiness is something to be avoided. But, human beings are emotional creatures. Emotional capacity is literally coded into our DNA. In this episode, I explain the difference between "clean pain" - which is unavoidable - and "dirty pain," which is absolutely avoidable.

Choose Growth Over Comfort Apr 14, 2021

If you want to change anything, at all, you've got to be willing to feel discomfort. Changing how you feel about your life, deciding to leave a toxic job or a toxic relationship, finding your forever person. Whatever it is, discomfort will accompany change. And if you want to feel better, calmer, happier, more content, more FREE...you have to choose growth over comfort. For a deeper dive, visit kristenfinch.com.

Your Feelings Apr 07, 2021

Your relationship with your emotions is probably not super healthy...and this is not your fault.The ways we were taught to interpret and to deal with our emotions may have been legacy, but legacy does not equal healthy, does not equal true. In this episode, we unpack the baggage of our emotions, together. For a deeper dive and free registration to my Master Class, visit kristenfinch.com.

3 Step Process to Stop Overthinking and Make Better Decisions Mar 31, 2021

Overthinking does not help you make better decisions. In fact, it has the opposite effect. Here's my 3-step process to help my overthinkers.

Over-thinking is Undermining Mar 24, 2021

You are super-smart. So it seems logical that the more brainpower you throw at a problem, the longer you analyze it from every possible angle, the more likely you are to achieve total clarity and make the perfect decision. You need to knock that off, and in this episode I explain why.

How to Be Calm AF Mar 17, 2021

This is an extraordinary episode for a number of reasons. First, it's a deeply personal story for me. I'll take you through some moments in my life that were...we'll say, challenging. The overnight loss of my fiance, Mike. My dad's avoidable and yet, totally unavoidable death from alcoholism. A rocky period in my marriage. And I'll relate how I was able to work my way through these moments and come out the other side ready for more of life's magic.

You Are 100% Capable Of Rewiring Your Thoughts Mar 10, 2021

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You are not the ONE HUMAN incapable of rewiring your thoughts.

It is absolutely possible for you to drop your old limiting beliefs and create the future you want.

It's called neuroplasticity and today I'm giving a super simple example of a new neural pathway I recently created.

Ready to have accountability and support while you REWIRE? I am the perfect person to help. I'm so excited to talk to you!

Change Your Brain (Part 4: Change Your Life) Mar 03, 2021

***Make sure you are subscribed to this podcast...ch ch ch changes are coming!***

In today's conclusion to the Change your Life series I'm sharing the 5 steps that will allow you to rewire your brain for happiness.

I'll also teach you the 4 most common reasons people give up before the brain changes.

What's Keeping You From What You Want (Part 3: Change Your Life) Feb 24, 2021

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In today's throwback episode I'm sharing the 7 most common faulty thought patterns that keep you from creating what you want.

Ready to change your life for real and for good? Apply to work with me 1:1.

What You Think Matters More Than What You Do (How to Change Your Life: Part Two) Feb 17, 2021

Today is part 2 of the 4 part Change Your Life series from April 2020.

We've been programmed to believe that willpower and grit and pushing through and taking action is what's going to create success.

But no.

What you do DOES matter, but what you THINK matters more.

If you are constantly moving through your life beating yourself up, being hard on yourself, focusing on feeling bad to motivate yourself, your'e going to burn out.

Today I'm sharing why:

~ all circumstances are neutral

~what you think is always a choice

~ what you think will create a feeling

~ what you feel will dictate your behaviors, actions and habits.

Your Conscious and Subconscious Minds (How to Change Your Life: Part One) Feb 10, 2021

(This episode was originally aired in April 2020).

You cannot create lasting lifelong changes if you keep thinking the same way you're thinking now.

In order to change your life, you must change your thoughts.

In order to do THAT, you need to understand WHY your thinking matters and HOW your thinking actually does create your reality.

In part one of How To Change Your Life, I'm sharing:

~ why it feels hard to create real change that *lasts*

~ why most people aren't able to create the real change they want in a sustainable way.

~ what the conscious + subconscious minds ARE and why they matter

~ why what you hold in your subconscious is either creating what you WANT or what you DON'T want.

~ why your thoughts matter MORE than the actions you're taking

Active anxiety vs Passive Anxiety Feb 03, 2021

This week I'm teaching your the difference between active and passive anxiety, how to recognize it in yourself and how to manage it so that you can calm your mind and achieve what you want to achieve.

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Why You're Unintentionally Fighting to Stay Stuck (And How To Stop) Jan 27, 2021

In today's episode I'm letting you in on something you might not even realize you're doing: fighting harder for what you DON'T want instead of what you DO want.

I'm going to tell you why and how to stop.

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Approval Seeking People Pleasers Jan 20, 2021

Today's episode is all about approval seeking behaviors and people pleasing.

I'll share how to KNOW if you're an approval seeking people pleaser AND 5 thoughts that you can borrow that will help shift you out of approval seeking behaviors and into your full power.

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How To Be Your TRUE Self Jan 13, 2021

What is my purpose?

It's a question I hear ALL the time. And most people think it's a really deep question with a big answer.

But I think it's super simple.

Your purpose is to BE the realest, most authentic YOU your can be.

The problem? You've learned SO much about who you *should* be, and what you're *supposed* to look like.

Today I'm diving in and sharing:

~ True Self vs Learned Self

~ Why becoming your True Self requires UNLEARNING and REWIRING

~ How to figure out who the TRUE you actually is

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The Power of Setting Intentions Jan 06, 2021

If you want to stop going through the motions and really BE who you're here to be, that doesn't happen on accident.

It happens when you decide. Intentionally.

Today I'm going to share what intentions are, WHY you need to be setting intentions, how to set intentions and how to REMEMBER your intentions.

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Resolution Writing Workshop 2021: How To Write Goals That You LOVE Dec 30, 2020

Today's episode is half podcast, half goal writing workshop.

In my world, we don't write goals because there's something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. We write goals that align with who you REALLY are, underneath the doubt, negative mental chatter, and fear.

When you write goals that align with how you want to feel, you don't need willpower and you don't give up.

Grab your notebooks, Gorgeous Soul. Because today is the day that we do this.

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How To Rest Without Feeling Guilty Dec 23, 2020

I mean...you *want* to rest.

But every time you sit down, the thoughts start...

"I don't have time"

"I have too much to do"

"If I have free time, I should be productive"

In today's episode I'm gonna turn your thoughts about resting, your thoughts about being productive, your thoughts about resting being something other people have time for UPSIDE DOWN.

Because, Gorgeous Soul, resting is the MOST PRODUCTIVE THING YOU CAN DO.

And I'll prove it in today's episode.

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Setting Goals That Stick in 2021 Dec 16, 2020

Two weeks until the new year. HALLELUJAH!

Today we're talking about how to set goals that stick! I'm sharing the top reasons people get stuck or give up on their goals and how to fix that.

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How To Stop Worrying About What Other People Think Dec 09, 2020

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One of the biggest obstacles people face when making changes in their life is the fear of what other people are going to think of them.

They want to change their career, but are worried about what their parents will think.

They want to set boundaries but are afraid people will their they're mean.

In today's episode I'm sharing 4 tips on overcoming the fear of other people's opinions about you.

Lack Thinking vs Abundant Thinking Dec 02, 2020

Today we're talking about the difference between lack thinking and abundant thinking.

Lack thinking is "I need to change something so I can feel worthy". It often creates temporary change.

Abundant thinking is "I feel worthy AND I want to change something" and creates sustainable change.

Listen in to learn about the difference and how to switch from lack to abundant thinking so you can create the future you want to create.

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Getting Out Of A Funk Nov 25, 2020

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You know the feeling....you have a few days in a row where you are KILLING it. You feel inspired and motivated and productive.

And then? You wake up and it's gone. Without a trace. SO annoying...the dreaded FUNK.

In today's episode I'm going to turn your funk upside down by suggesting that there is actually no such thing as a funk. Just a feeling that you haven't felt all the way through.

In today's episode I will teach you 4 things to know to get out of a funk.

1. Stop calling it a funk

2. Remind yourself you're not a robot

3. Don't put your feelings on a timeline

4. Stop being so precious.

You Can Do Hard Things Nov 18, 2020

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If you want to change anything in your life, you're going to have to do something (or lots of things) that feels hard.

Your brain, by default, will do annnyyyyything to avoid the hard thing. It just wants you to stay safe....even if that means staying exactly the same.

In today's episode, I'm going to teach you what you're going to experience when you DO the hard thing.

I'll share with you:

~ what happens before, during and after you do the hard thing

~ the different ways your brain will try to stop you from doing the hard thing

~ how to know the difference between your intuition and fear

~ why you need to set deadlines

Enjoy

You Are Not Broken And You Don't Need To Be Fixed Nov 11, 2020

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Gorgeous Soul,

You are not broken.

You are not a problem to be solved.

You are not a project to be fixed.

Who you ARE is not fundamentally WRONG....you've just believed it because you were taught it.

Today I'm sharing three thoughts to move you towards self acceptance:

1. Who you are, how you are wired, is NOT a mistake

2. Other people's beliefs about WHO YOU SHOULD BE come from their own opinions projected onto you.

3. When you stop believing there's something WRONG with you, you move out of struggle and into flow.

Feeling Your Feelings Nov 04, 2020

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If you want to change something in your life, you're going to have to stop trying to hurry up and FIX your feelings.

You're gonna have to FEEL them.

In today's episode I share:

~ what feelings actually are

~ why you are afraid to feel your feelings all the way through

~ 3 common thoughts you have about feelings that keep you stuck and what to think instead

Stop Consuming, Start Implementing (AKA: It's Time to Level Up) Oct 28, 2020

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With 100+ episodes under our belt, Show Up and Love is ready for an up-level.

BUCKLE UP, BUTTERCUPS.

I'm going to level up and teach you more advanced concepts and coach you a little harder.

You're going to level up by becoming an active implementor of the tools that I teach you.

If you want to *actually* change your life, you cannot passively consume self-help, personal development or inspirational quotes on the internet...you have to sit down and BECOME the student, do the work, BE the client.

Throwback: Self Worth Oct 21, 2020

Today's throwback's episode is the most downloaded, listened to, commented on episode of all 100 episodes. And there's a reason: it's the heart and soul of this podcast, the meat and potatoes of the message I share: WHEN YOU KNOW YOU ARE WORTHY, YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE.

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Throwback: Boundaries, Bouncers And Self Worth Oct 14, 2020

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When you are working on believing you are worthy, you need to fiercely protect your growth. Today's throwback episode is all about how to set boundaries.

Throwback Episode: Addicted to Approval Oct 07, 2020

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Today's episode is a repeat, but for a very specific reason....after celebrating 100 episodes together, we're going to level up. I'm going to start sharing information at a deeper level. I want you to have a solid foundation for some of the key concepts so when I return with brand new episodes, you're ready.

One Thought Can Change Your Life Sep 30, 2020

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To celebrate the 100th episode of Show Up and Love, I am reflecting on WHY I do this podcast: to plant seeds of possibility.

And I'm sharing a story of a client who had ONE thought that literally changed her life.

Even if it seems like you have a million different things you want to change, ONE thought can change your life.

How To Feel One Notch Better Sep 23, 2020

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The transformation we see on social media or on tv seems sexy...the homeless person who becomes a gajillionaire, the couch potato who runs the marathon.

But that really isn't how transformation *actually* works.

On today's episode I'm sharing:

~ the three stages of transformation

~ why inspiration is NOT a necessary ingredient for change

~ 4 ways to feel ONE notch better so you keep moving forward and stop quitting on yourself

Acceptance Does Not Mean Giving Up Sep 16, 2020

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Acceptance is one of the fundamental ingredients in creating a life you want to live.

But it gets a bad rap.

In today's episode I'm sharing what acceptance actually means and what it doesn't mean:

Acceptance doesn't mean giving up.

It doesn't mean condoning.

It doesn't mean settling.

It doesn't mean trying to convince yourself to LIKE something you don't like.

Acceptance simply means acknowledging what is REAL, what is TRUE so that you stop fighting with reality and make the changes you want.

How To Ask Yourself Better Questions To Get Better Results Sep 09, 2020

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The types of questions you ask yourself every day MATTERS.

If you are asking yourself low quality questions rooted in fear or confusion, you will get low quality results.

Today I'm sharing three tips to get you asking yourself high level, high quality questions so that you can manifest a life you WANT to live.

Is Your Inner Boss A Bully? Sep 02, 2020

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There are two types of bosses: the type that lead through fear, intimidation and shame (bully) and the type that inspire and motivate people (visionary).

Most people's bosses in their HEADS are bullies. They have a belief that if you lead through love or encouragement, you won't work as hard.

In today's episode, I"m challenging that belief and suggesting that managing your mind as a visionary instead of a bully will lead to faster change that is sustainable.

Push Pause Aug 26, 2020

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Sometimes it feels like life is just one big emergency.

We feel like we're reacting to whatever is thrown at us when we COULD just push pause.

Most decisions are NOT life or death.

Push pause.

Breathe.

Ask for help.

Trust the answer.

3 Basic Truths About Thoughts That You Weren't Taught Aug 19, 2020

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This episode is one you'll want to listen to again and again. I am sharing three truths about how your brain works and how your thoughts work that are fundamental in creating real and sustainable change in your life.

1. You are not your thoughts.

2. Don't believe every thought you think.

3. You (and you alone) are in charge of your thoughts and feelings.

Listen and learn and then teach your kids.

5 Mindset Shifts To Keep You Moving Forward Aug 12, 2020

When you're moving forward on the path to your future Self, there *will* be mental blocks that show up.

In last week's episode I shared 5 common mental blocks that show up and today I'm sharing 5 mindset shifts (aka thoughts to think on purpose) to practice so you don't get stuck there.

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How To Create Your New Normal, Stop Stopping and Become Your Future Self Aug 05, 2020

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Yes, 2020 has been a year that has made us all feel like someone has pushed pause on life. But life hasn't paused.

Instead of waiting for things to go back to normal, we have this amazing opportunity to create a NEW normal, to manifest a new future, to Become the best version of yourself.

It's time to decide to get up, start moving forward and KEEP moving forward.

In today's episode I'm sharing 5 common obstacles people face that make them give up their forward movement.

Rewiring An Old Story Jul 29, 2020

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I recently created a NEW habit in my life: I changed the song I sing while I wash my hands (from ABC's to Britney....obvs). And while this new wiring isn't going to significantly impact my life, I noticed that I used the EXACT same process to rewire THIS habit as I did to rewire other old stories in my life.

Boundaries, Bouncers + Self Worth Jul 22, 2020

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If you are working on believing that you are WORTHY, boundaries are non-negotiable.

In today's episode I'm sharing a SIMPLE and NEW way of thinking about boundaries that you can start practicing today.

How I'm Practicing Self Love When Life Feels HEAVY Jul 15, 2020

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I'm not sure if you've noticed, but the world is upside down and on fire. There's a LOT going on in the world.

And just because I'm a mindset expert and life coach does NOT mean I'm immune from the heaviness of it all.

In today's episode I'm sharing what self care looks like for me in the current state of upside-downness:

~ Why trying to power your way through is perpetuating the pain

~ the question I ask myself ALL DAY LONG to make sure I'm honoring my self care

~ why I'm letting lots of things fall of my plate (if it's not a hell yes, it's a no)

~ why I'm having to CHILL OUT MY LIZARD BRAIN so I can ask for help

The Perfection Box Jul 08, 2020

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In today's epsisode I'm teaching you about the Perfection Box (the Worthy Ladder's sidekick). I'll be sharing:

~ what the Perfection Box is and why we are hardwired to try to fit into it

~ why what you think of as a flaw might ACTUALLY be a superpower

~ HOW to stop trying to SQUISH ourselves into a box, into a personality, we don't fit into

~ how your life changes when you get RID OF THE BOX

Perfectionism Jul 01, 2020

Perfectionism blocks your joy.

It keeps your from living your life.

It stands between YOU and peace of mind.

In today's episode I'm sharing:

~ the many different ways perfectionism shows up

~ WHY so many of us develop a perfectionist mindset

~ why trying to be perfect sucks

~ how to start embracing imperfection

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People Pleasing Jun 24, 2020

Do you find yourself saying YES when you want to say no?

Do you rehash old conversations wondering if you said the right thing?

Do you spend time worrying about if other people are mad at you?

Do you feel like you're walking on eggshells so your partner or mom or whoever don't get upset?

These are just a few ways that people pleasing shows up.

In today's episode I'm sharing:

~ how people pleasing shows up

~ WHY we are people pleasers

~ 3 ways to get OFF the sucky people pleasing bus: radical ownership, giving others their power back, owning your worth

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How To Make The Hardest Part of Your Day BETTER Jun 17, 2020

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We all tend to have "that" time of the day...the part of your day that you dread, that you just hope to survive, the HARDEST part of your day.

For most people, the hardest part is either the morning, the late afternoon/before dinner hour or the very end of the day...after you're done but before bed.

In today's episode I share with you how to take this difficult part of your day and make it BETTER. Because the truth is, while it's your thoughts that will ultimately change how you feel, it's SO important to set ourselves up for success while we work on the mindset piece.

There are 5 steps:

1. Decide and Declare that you are taking this part of your day BACK.

2. Find the predominant thought that makes you feel how you don't want to feel.

3. Name the feeling that you typically feel during this hardest part of your day (exhaustion, heavy, antsy, resentful)

4. Decide how you want to feel.

5. Create a sensory experience that supports how you WANT to feel, setting yourself up for success.

How To Know What To Do (When You Think You Don't) Jun 10, 2020

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"I don't know"

They seem like three harmless words, and most of us throw these words around mindlessly and easily.

But these words are actually harmful, keep you in the feeling states of overwhelm and helplessness and perpetuate your suffering

We use I don't know when we're afraid to fail. When we're afraid to be wrong. When we're afraid to be SEEN as wrong.

I don't know is an excuse that leads to shutting down.

If you want an answer to your question, "I don't know" cannot be the answer.

In today's episode I'm sharing three ways to STOP getting stuck in the inaction of overwhelm and helplessness so you can find the answers.

Do The Work. Jun 03, 2020

Today the message I want to share is about unlearning racism and becoming anti-racist. Showing up and loving cannot co-exist without equity. However, I am not the teacher of this movement, I am a student. Instead of listening to me today, please look at the list of resources I have included here, choose an article, a podcast, a book, a course and spend your time here.

BOOKS:

How to Be An Anti-Racist by Ibram X Kendi (may be on backorder, but is available on audible for immediate listen)

Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad

So You Wanna Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo

PODCASTS:

1619

Pod For The Cause

Seeing White

WATCH:

13th on Netflix

When They See Us on Netflix

ARTICLES/GUIDES:

Anti-Racism Resource Guide

Stop Saying All Lives Matter

75 Things White People Can Do For Racial Justice

Welcome To The Anti-Racist Movement - Here's What You Missed.

Dear White Women

How To Talk To Kids About Race

COURSES:

Spiritual Activism 101 by Rachel Ricketts

The Great Unlearn by Rachel Cargle

ACTIONS:

Text "Floyd" to 55156 to sign a petition a demand justice for George Floyd

Sign-up at Color of Change: https://colorofchange.org/ to be notified of more opportunities to take action

DONATE:

George Floyd Memorial Fund: https://www.gofundme.com/f/georgefloydMinnesota Freedom Fund: https://minnesotafreedomfund.org/Black Visions Collective: https://www.blackvisionsmn.org/Campaign Zero: https://www.joincampaignzero.org/Black Lives Matter: https://www.Blacklivesmatter.com

Addicted to Approval May 27, 2020

Approval addiction is when your self worth is defined by other people's opinions of you. When you can only feel worthy or good enough when other people SHOW their approval.

Approval addicts need validation from external sources in order to feel enough and ANY criticism proves they are NOT worthy.

In today's episode, I'm sharing

~ the MANY different ways approval addiction shows up for people (people pleasing, hiding, attention seeking, etc)

~ the 3 steps to break an addiction to other people's approval

~ 4 tips you can use immediately while you're learning to accept yourself without the need for approval/praise.

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Why Self Love Feels So Hard May 20, 2020

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I hear it all the time: I *get* the concept of self love...it just feels hard.

Of COURSE it does.

You were born into and have bought into a society that persistently teaches you that you aren't enough.

You have been taught since childhood that getting the approval of others is what decided whether you were worthy.

And you have been taught that other people's opinions matter more than yours.

Of COURSE it feels hard...it's like learning a brand new language.

The good news is...if you can learn a new language you can learn self love.

The trick is baby steps:

1. Acceptance of what IS

2. Self LIKE and/or appreciation

3. Self love

It IS possible. You can like yourself and your life.

Being Hard On Yourself Isn't Helping...It's Hurting May 13, 2020

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We all have a voice that chatters away in our heads. For most of us, that voice is...not the nicest. It's not really pointing out our successes...it's reminding us of our flaws.

THIS is why we numb out. To quiet the voice. But all numbing out does is make the voice come back louder.

In today's episode we're learning

~ what the inner critic is and how it shows up

~ why we are so resistant to changing our inner critic

~ why being hard on yourself doesn't prevent you from being lazy

~ the two simple steps to change your inner MEAN boss to a GOOD boss

CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART 4): Change your brain May 06, 2020

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Your brain is a powerful machine that has been programmed by YOU for your entire life. You have chosen the thoughts that have led to the feelings that have created the actions that have created the reality you have right now. Which means...if you want to change your life, you MUST change your brain.

In today's episode I'm sharing the 5 steps that will allow you to rewire your brain for happiness. Also, I'm giving you a heads up on the 4 most common reasons people give up before the brain changes (and how to move past them).

CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART 3): The thing that keeps you from what you want Apr 29, 2020

If you want to create what you WANT, you have to have awareness of what's keeping you stuck.

In part 3 of How to Change Your Life series, I'm sharing the 7 most COMMON thought patterns that people think that keep them creating

Listen to today's episode and find out which pattern (or patterns) is keeping YOU stuck.

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HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART 2): What you THINK matters more than what you DO Apr 22, 2020

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We've been programmed to believe that willpower and grit and pushing through and taking action is what's going to create success.

But, no.

I mean, what you do DOES matter, but what you THINK matters more.

Because what you THINK creates how you FEEL.

And how you FEEL dictates what you DO.

If you are constantly moving through your life beating yourself up, being hard on yourself, focusing on feeling BAD to motivate yourself, you're going to burn out.

Your THOUGHTS will create your reality.

Today I'm sharing why:

~ all circumstances are neutral

~ what you THINK is always a choice

~ what you think will create a FEELING

~ what you FEEL will dictate your behaviors, actions and habits

HOW TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE (PART ONE): Your Conscious and Subconscious Minds Apr 15, 2020

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You cannot create lasting lifelong changes if you keep thinking the same way you're thinking now.

In order to change your life, you must change your thoughts.

In order to do THAT, you need to understand WHY your thinking matters and HOW your thinking actually does create your reality.

In part one of How To Change Your Life, I'm sharing:

~ why it feels hard to create real change that *lasts*

~ why most people aren't able to create the real change they want in a sustainable way.

~ what the conscious + subconscious minds ARE and why they matter

~ why what you hold in your subconscious is either creating what you WANT or what you DON'T want.

~ why your thoughts matter MORE than the actions you're taking

6 THINGS I STOPPED DOING THAT TRANSFORMED MY NEURODIVERSE MARRIAGE Apr 08, 2020

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This episode is NOT just for people in neurodiverse relationships, it will help ANYONE in ANY relationship.

When my husband was diagnosed with Aspergers 5 years into our marriage, I googled "married to someone with Aspergers". The stories and articles that came up were completely discouraging. Everything said that these neurodiverse relationships don't usually work, but if they DO work, the neurotypical partner is going to face a life of suffering and sacrificing.

Ummmm...no thank you.

I decided that was not going to be MY story. I decided that was not good enough for me. I believe that life is meant to be lived FULLY, not just survived.

And so I decided that WE would create our OWN narrative. WE would be the example of what is POSSIBLE in a neurodiverse relationship.

And that's what we did. But the way we did it was NOT the way most people were suggesting because what other people were suggesting wasn't working. After spending SO many hours having conversations about communication that went nowhere, we did it differently.

Today I'm sharing the 6 things I STOPPED doing that allowed us to transform our marriage and create a neurodiverse relationship that isn't just surviving...we're genuinely happy.

YOUR LIFE IS STILL HAPPENING...HOW TO KEEP SHOWING UP Apr 03, 2020

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(This bonus episode comes from a FB live in the Show Up and Love Facebook group.)

Just because you are social distancing, just because you are working from home, just because the world outside looks DIFFERENT...YOUR LIFE IS STILL HAPPENING.

In this quick bonus episode I share why it's SO important to keep showing up for your SELF and your LIFE and how to do that, when you feel so much uncertainty.

FINDING EMOTIONAL BALANCE DURING A CRISIS Apr 01, 2020

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Right now the world feels overwhelming.

It feels heavy.

It feels uncertain.

And YES there are very bad and serious things happening in the world right now, but not EVERY moment needs to feel dark.

The Universe is created in a principle of balance. Yin and yang. Light AND dark. Good AND bad. There is uncertainty AND hope.

In today's episode of Show Up and Love, I'm sharing:

~ why reality is starting to set in for so many

~ why your brain wants to focus on what's going WRONG, what's "bad", what's scary

~ why it's the best time to get your hopes up

~ why you have to actively and mindfully choose different THOUGHTS in order to shift out of the dark

HOW TO HANDLE ALL THESE FEELINGS (during coronavirus + in crisis) Mar 27, 2020

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During this coronavirus pandemic, particularly at the BEGINNING of this situation, there tend to be a lot of feelings. A LOT of feelings.

And our human nature is to AVOID these feelings or JUDGE these feelings or try to FIX these feelings. The problem with that is that it only prolongs the suffering.

In today's mini bonus episode (recorded during a FB live in the Show Up and Love FB group), I talk about how the first step to moving forward and handling ALL these feelings is to SURRENDER to the feelings.

Surrendering doesn't mean give up or give in. It means compassionately allowing yourself to just FEEL what you feel and just BE where you are.

5 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF DAILY Mar 25, 2020

Today I'm sharing 5 questions that I use to shift my mindset from anxiety to confidence, from fear to calm.

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HOW TO FEEL FEAR WITHOUT BEING CONSUMED BY IT Mar 19, 2020

I've heard from so many people that things are starting to feel REAL. The initial shock is wearing off and the fear is setting in.

But we are in a LONG game and the self care needs to begin NOW.

Today I'm sharing how we can feel the feelings without drowning in them. How we can FEEL the fear without being CONSUMED by the FEAR.

~ Fact thinking vs Story thinking

~ Clean pain vs dirty pain

~ How to pace yourself for the long game (tread and float, tread and float)

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RAISING YOUR VIBRATION WHILE SOCIAL DISTANCING Mar 18, 2020

Most of the world is social distancing and finding that without the daily commutes and busy-ness, we have more time. More time with our minds and more time with our homes.

So, how do we take advantage of this time?

I asked feng shui expert Amanda Gibby Peters for the three things SHE is recommending to lift the vibration of your home. (And you'll be surprised at the one thing she's NOT recommending people do right now).

I also added the three things I believe will help us thrive during this uncertain time.

ALSO BIG ANNOUNCEMENT...Amanda and I have a podcast that is releasing tomorrow (March 19th) called A Life Coach and Feng Shui Expert Walk Into A Bar. It's full of aha moments and laughter. Make sure you are subscribed so you are notified when it's available. It's a GREAT thing to binge on while you're stepping away from social media!

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TAKING CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH DURING CORONAVIRUS Mar 17, 2020

What's true is that we ARE in a time of uncertainty.

What's TRUE is that we don't know what life is going to look like in a year or 6 months or 6 days.

What's TRUE is that there is a global pandemic that we are not experts in yet.

That is where we ARE right now and, aside from what we know to slow it down (hand washing, social distancing, etc), the incessant thinking and worrying and STRESSING about it is NOT helpful.

You aren't solving the problem, you are WORRYING.

Your worrying isn't making you feel better, it's making you feel WORSE.

The most effective thing you can be doing for yourself right now is taking care of your MENTAL health.

We need to not have a gazillion humans sitting in their homes panicking.

That is hard on your physical health AND your mental health.

If you are a listener of this podcast or a follower of my work I have TAUGHT you how to stay calm even during a pandemic.

You KNOW what to do.

Now you need to DO it.

This episode is a call to action...how do you want to see yourself when you LOOK BACK on this moment in history?

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WHY WORRYING ISN'T HELPFUL AND HOW TO STOP Mar 16, 2020

I was talking to a client today who was trying to convince me that worrying was justified right now because of the state of the world.

I disagree completely.

Worrying is never a productive use of our time. And worrying happens because we want to AVOID the uncomfortableness of anxiety and fear.

Worrying does not solve problems. It creates more of the same.

In today's bonus episode:

~ why FEELING the fear is more productive than FIXING it

~ why worrying is an ACTION that comes from AVOIDING fear

~ how to find the THOUGHT that is creating the ACTION of worrying

~ how to choose a thought that will allow you to take ACTION without having to worry

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FINDING CALM DURING CORONAVIRUS Mar 15, 2020

Right now, we are living in a time of uncertainty.

Our brains do NOT like uncertainty.

Our brains want to know what's going to happen.

So when we are in a time of uncertainty, our brains think they need MORE information, ALL the information in order to feel safe.

I promise you that all of the consuming and all of the worrying and all of the panicking is NOT making you feel safer...it's making you feel like there's MORE.

If you want to feel calm, you need to calm down your body so you can access the logical part of your brain.

THIS will help significantly more than consuming the news.

Today I want to share with you how to find CALM even when the world is upside down.

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MY 5 NON NEGOTIABLE DAILY HABITS Mar 11, 2020

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There are a lot of habits I've implemented over the last 10 years that have transformed my life. Some have stuck around for awhile and some have gotten dropped.

Today I'm sharing the top 5 habits I practice every single day that I believe are responsible for creating:

a happy marriage

a happy +healthy relationship with my body, food and exercise

an uncluttered home

a fantastic relationship with my kids (even though they're teenagers!)

a thriving and successful business

and a general overall feeling of CALM, HAPPY, and LOVE in my life.

My life isn't perfect but OMGOSH I'm in love with it because of these 5 NON NEGOTIABLE daily habits:

1. Journaling (my specific way)

2. Daily movement

3. Timeblocking

4. Gratitude

5. Evening routine

HOW TO STAY COMMITTED TO YOUR GOALS NO MATTER WHAT Mar 04, 2020

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In today's episode

~ I share how I transformed my entire life even though my entire life felt like a dumpster fire

~ The 2 things people mistakenly think they need in order to start making changes in their life, but DON'T (a plan and a guarantee)

~ Why COMMITMENT is all you need to create the life (marriage, habits, change) you want.

~ How to create a game-changing EVEN WHEN list (a list of excuses your brain will come up with to sabotage your success)

MANIFESTING WHAT YOU WANT Feb 26, 2020

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In this episode:

~What does manifesting actually mean?

~ The myths and misconceptions about manifesting

~ Why you are already a MASTER manifester

~ The 6 steps to Manifesting On Purpose

~ Three quick tips to enhance the manifesting process

THE WORTHY LADDER Feb 19, 2020

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In this episode:

~ What is the Worthy Ladder? It's a visual representation of how you measure up as a human being. You go UP, you're more worthy, you make mistakes....down you go.

~ Why we believe that our worthiness goes up and down based on our behaviors or others' opinions.

~ How do we know when we're ON the worthy ladder? (perfectionism, people pleasing, anxiety, hopelessness, being confused "I don't know" syndrome, lots of mind chatter, comparing ourselves to others

~ What is the SOLUTION? HOW do we stop believing our worth is based on external factors?

~ What changes when we know THERE IS NO LADDER? Absolutely EVERYTHING.

FEAR OF FAILURE Feb 12, 2020

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In this episode:

~ Why it's not *actually* the failure that you're afraid of

~ How fear of failure is affecting your day to day life (whether you're working on a "big" goal or not)

~ The three steps of "becoming friends" with failure: 1) recognize it when it shows up 2)Welcome and allow it 3) Fail. On Purpose. A lot.

GETTING UNSTUCK Feb 05, 2020

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In this episode:

~ Why your STORY is what's keeping you stuck

~ The 2 types of stories (and how to recognize them): Victim story and empowered story

~ WHY we hold onto our victim stories?

~ HOW to create and LIVE in our empowered story

SELF WORTH Jan 29, 2020

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In this episode:

~ Self Worth is the belief that you are good enough no matter what.

~ Why I believe making Self Love/Self Worth your #1 priority will make your whole life better

~ Why you believe your worthiness is dependent on external things in the first place.

~ How to get off the Worthy Ladder (Hint: There is no ladder)

~ 10 Ways Your Life Will Change When You Know Your Worth.

Stop Trying to Do it Perfectly...Do THIS instead. Jan 22, 2020

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Over the weekend, a client of mine (whom I've been working with for more than 5 years now) shared with me the tool that was the MOST transformative one for her was one of my FAVORITE and SIMPLEST tools: Do it sh!tty.

Here's why it's so simple...because we've been taught that life is complicated. That creating new things is complicated. That changing your body or your marriage or your job or your life is complicated.

But here's what I think...I think it's actually that you're afraid to try and do it wrong.

You think you have to have it ALL figured out before you TRY.

You think you need to have all the steps of the plan set in stone so it's fool proof.

And what I know is all this perfectionist mindset does is keep you stuck.

Today I want to share my favorite and simplest tool: Stop trying to do it perfectly...just do it sh!tty.

The Simple Word That's Sabotaging You Jan 15, 2020

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"Things are getting better, but still not great."

"I feel much better, but I'm not remembering to work on my goal every day."

It seems like you're just answering the question honestly, right? But as a coach I am sifting through my client's words trying to find what's keeping them STUCK.

Sometimes it's like I'm sifting through rubble trying to find a key.

And sometimes, it's EASY to find it. Because they use the word BUT.

Top 10 Things to QUIT in 2020 Jan 08, 2020

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Today I'm taking you through my Top 10 list of things to QUIT in 2020.

Here they are:

10. Assuming you know what people are thinking

9. Quit thinking/doing/choosing anything that doesn't serve who you are Becoming.

8. Trying to PROVE your worth

7. Survival mode

6. Instant gratification

5. Living in the past or the future

4. Trying to hate/punish your way to feeling better

3. Being confused

2. Believing ANYONE OR ANYTHING besides YOU is responsible for your happiness.

1. Thinking you need to "figure this out" on your own.

Gorgeous Goals (part 2): 4 Tips to STICK To Your Goals in 2020 Jan 01, 2020

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Now that we've set some gorgeous goals, let's talk about how to STICK to them. Here are 4 tips:

1. Write them down daily

2. Put actions on your daily calendar (and honor your commitments to yourself)

3. Develop a "never give up" mindset and redefine your definition of failure

4. Unlearn the beliefs that created the results you didn't want

Gorgeous Goals (part 1): How To Set Goals You Will WANT To Work On All Year Long Dec 25, 2019

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The reason why traditional goals don't work for the majority of people is because they aren't meaningful and they are based in "not enough-ness".

Let's turn goal writing on it's head. The reason you want anything is because of how it will make you feel. So instead of a quantitative goal (I will lose ## pounds, I will make ## money, I will go on 3 dates a week, etc)...we set FEELING goals.

Today's episode is HOW.

Let's LEVEL UP in 2020 Dec 18, 2019

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We are two weeks from a brand new decade. If you are ready to level up, there are two things you need to do:

1. Decide what you need to leave behind in 2019

2. Decide who you are BECOMING and how you want to FEEL.

If you want to change how you feel, you've can't keep doing the same things over and over and expecting something new.

In today's episode Kristen is discussing how to change your frequency so you are vibrating at the reality you want to create.

How To Get Out Of Survival Mode and Live Your Best Life Dec 11, 2019

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How much of your life is spent waking up, going through the motions, and then going to bed?

That's because you aren't living on PURPOSE.

You're living in survival mode. You're waiting for life to get easier, for the husband to change, for the money to come in, for the kids to get older until you feel like you can slow down and live your life.

Except that's not going to happen.

Because your brain is habitually running in survival mode, so there won't BE a time that it feels safe to just enjoy.

Most of us learned at an early age that life is hard, to not get our hopes up, to not get too comfortable when things are going well because something bad is JUST around the corner.

Except MOST of the time, everything is fine. It's likely that just 1% of your life requires you living in survival mode, but your brain is SO afraid of that 1% that it just lives in survival mode ALL the time...just to be safe.

And so we all walk around on autopilot. Just going through the motions. Living a FINE life in survival mode...just in case.

Today's episode I will teach you:

~ the definition of survival mode

~ why you spend most of your time in survival mode

~ how to shift out of survival mode and shift into living a life on PURPOSE.

Self Care is A Band Aid, Self LOVE is the cure Dec 04, 2019

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We hear over and over how important it is to practice self care. And that's TRUE.

But all the meditation, yoga, healthy eating, massages, and spa days in the world won't make you feel better LONG term if you don't know your WORTH.

Today, Kristen shares the WHY self care is the band aid and self LOVE is the cure.

Get Your Sparkle Back Nov 27, 2019

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"I used to be happy"

"I've lost my sparkle"

"I used to be fun"

If you've thought these thoughts before this episode is for YOU. Today I'm sharing WHY we seem to go from sparkly/happy/fun to a dulled down version of ourselves and how to move out of it and become the next SPARKLIER version.

Overcoming Obstacles Nov 20, 2019

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What if every time something went "wrong" you decided to believe it was exactly right?

What if instead of taking things going wrong as a sign to quit, you believed it was a sign to keep going?

If you start goals and then stop them when something happens (you get sick, kids get sick, job changes, you have a bad day, you get in a fight with your partner, an unexpected bill shows up), THIS episode is for you.

How to Stop Suffering and Add More JOY! With Megan Ladd Nov 13, 2019

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Today's episode is a conversation about one of my FAVORITE topics...how to SUFFER LESS and ADD MORE JOY with one of my FAVORITE people, Megan Ladd.

It's such a fun conversation and I'll be adding some more of our conversation in the FB group!

Energy + Frequency: Understanding It So You Can Raise Your Vibration Nov 06, 2019

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Today let's dive into a deeper understanding of energy and vibration.

Woo!

6 Foundational Beliefs To Become Who You Want To Become Oct 30, 2019

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Today is the ONE YEAR BIRTHDAY of Show Up and Love. I love making this podcast as much today as I did when I started a year ago.

I want to share with you 6 beliefs that I believe are a part of a strong foundation to build a life you feel empowered in.

1. I am way more powerful than I can imagine.

2. Everything is happening FOR me.

3. Lighten up.

4. I can handle anything.

5. What would the person I'm BECOMING do?

6. What if it TOTALLY works?

Enjoy today's episode.

xoxo,

kristen

The MOST Important Skill To Work On For Better Relationships and A Happier Life Oct 23, 2019

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We all think we're right. It's just how we're wired. We all believe that all of our thoughts are true and good.

ALL OF US.

Even people who think differently than you. Even people who are on the opposite end of the spectrum as you.

So when you're in a relationship with someone who thinks differently than you, it's easy to make them wrong and you right. It's easy for both sides to dig their heels in...and this is where relationships fall apart.

Today on Show Up and Love, I'm talking about the KEY SKILL you need to get better at to improve your relationships AND be happier in general: listening.

You MUST become a better listener if you want to be happier in your relationships and in your life.

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The Problem with People Pleasing Oct 16, 2019

You don't have to figure this out on your own and you DON'T have to keep sludging through life trying to figure it out on your own. I can help you. Book a free call.

Every time you water yourself down to try and fit into what other people think you SHOULD be, you dilute your power.

People pleasing occurs when you think you need other people to be HAPPY in order for you to be happy...when you need other people to validate you in order for you to be worthy.

Today I'm going to teach you why people pleasing will NEVER lead you to where you want to be and HOW to stop so you can become you you're meant to be.

What I know FOR SURE (special birthday episode!) Oct 09, 2019

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Every year on my birthday I like to reflect on the past year...I celebrate the things that went well, I notice the things that didn't and I look forward to see what I want to create next.

Several years ago, I wrote a manifesto of the things I had learned for SURE. I look back at that every year and even though it's been tweaked a bit here and there, the foundational truths remain the same.

In today's episode I'm sharing with you the THOUGHTS and BELIEFS that serve as my SOLID foundation. No matter what else is going on and no matter how confusing life feels...these thoughts remain true.

For fun, I wrote them down and made the manifesto available for you too! Enjoy!

(BITE SIZED BONUS) Acceptance is NOT giving up Oct 04, 2019

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SO many people think that ACCEPTANCE is giving up. That it's just throwing in the towel and learning to "accept" something you don't like.

But it's the opposite. Acceptance is what allows us to have room to change.

Listen in to today's bite sized nugget bonus

(BITE SIZED BONUS) Sometimes feel like you're drowning? Oct 03, 2019

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The Work That Pays Off With David Finch Oct 02, 2019

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TODAY ON SHOW UP AND LOVE:

I get asked about my marriage ALL. THE. TIME.

How did we go from mess to happy?

How do we make a neurodiverse marriage work?

What do we talk about?

Today...I sat down with my husband Dave and pressed record and we had a FUN (and very real) conversation about how we show up differently and how we make it work.

What I love about this episode is that for YEARS I didn't believe that we'd ever get back to this place...where we could talk and laugh and our relationship felt light and fun.

If this is where you are right now or even if things are fine but you're always down to learn some new relationship advice, listen in. We've got some ideas about the work that ACTUALLY pays off.

Does Your Favorite Feeling Feel Fleeting? Oct 01, 2019

I LOVE to feel inspired. It's in my top 3 favorite ways to feel.

And most of my life it felt fleeting, like it was totally out of my control.

When it came I was excited, but then I started wondering how long it would last and when it passed I wondered when it would come again.

But I realized something a few years ago...I am TOTALLY responsible for feeling inspired.

I don't have to wait for it or hope for it.

I get to GET it. On PURPOSE.

What would it be like if you CHOSE to feel the way you wanted to feel EVERY day in October?

SO FUN, right?

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Do you want to be HAPPY or do you want to be RIGHT? Sep 25, 2019

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Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right?

I ask this question of my clients ALL the time.

I ask this question of myself EVERY DAY.

If you want to be happy, you might have to give up the belief that every thought you think is right.

You might have to give up the control that other people who are doing things DIFFERENTLY than you, are wrong.

Today's episode is all about this question, why we ALL struggle with it, where it comes from and how to move through it...how to be happy and wrong or right or all of the above.

You get EXACTLY what you look for Sep 18, 2019

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For YEARS, I believed my husband was doing everything wrong.

For YEARS, I believe that my body was ALL wrong.

For YEARS, I believed that my life was hard, I was too busy, I was alone, I wasn't supported.

And do you know what happened when I believed those things?

My brain ran off to prove them all true.

The more I looked for reasons to resent my husband, the more I found.

The more I compared my body to what was "good", the more I came up short.

We absolutely find what we look for.

That's how our brains are designed.

So if you want to change ANYTHING, you've got to change what you're LOOKING for.

Today's episode I'll show you how you're probably doing this in your own life, how I did this in MY own life and how I turned it around.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU FEEL TRIGGERED Sep 11, 2019

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How many times a day do you get triggered?

Your heart starts racing, your breathing gets irregular, you feel like you want to fight or run or disappear.

That, my friend, is your fight/flight response and it's SUPER handy when you're being threatened by a gorilla enemy (you have to listen to understand this reference hahahaha!).

It's NOT super handy when you're just trying to feel better in your life, change some things for the better.

It is not good for your health or your life to be spending so much time feeling triggered...especially when the threat isn't even real.

In today's episode I'm talking to you about what actually happens in the body when you're triggered...

How to recognize YOUR specific response (are you a fighter or a runner?)

And what to do to get yourself OUT of that panicky place.

Enjoy this episode!

How To Show Up and LOVE Sep 04, 2019

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It's the title of the podcast, but WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

Today, I'm breaking it down.

What it means to ME to show up and love is to NOT water myself down, NOT drag myself through life in survival mode, NOT stay stuck because it's easier than doing the work of changing.

And how do we move from where we are NOW to showing up and LOVING our lives?

1. We soothe our nervous systems

2. We decide what we WANT and how we want to FEEL

3. We find someone who's already DOING it and get into their mind

4. We take the first step.

Why you're stuck (AND how to start taking action) Aug 28, 2019

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If you are a person who gets stuck in their heads....gets stuck in making the decisions...gets stuck in the planning phase...this episode is going to be like a LIGHTBULB over your head.

Here's what I'm sharing today.

Why you aren't taking action:

1. too much consuming

2. believing your excuses

3. afraid of failure

4. fear of the finality of a decision

AND how to START taking action:

1. Go cold turkey on the consuming

2. Challenge yourself to NOT believe the excuses

3. Fail. Try. Fail. Try. Fail. Succeed.

4. Stop being so precious

Enjoy

Goal setting (part two): BECOME the person who achieves her goals Aug 21, 2019

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Goal setting (part one): Just One Thing Aug 14, 2019

It's back to school time and that means...we get back to some order and structure and semblance in our lives!

Can I get an amennnnn???

I used to make progress on the goals that I set for myself. SOME progress. Rarely, did I ever see a goal through alllll the way to the "after" picture.

Not true anymore. Now, I know that when I sit down and set a mindful goal, I will achieve that goal.

Here's why:

I only focus on ONE GOAL AT A TIME.

Just one thing.

It is absolutely why I am able to achieve my goals and it's why my clients achieve there's also.

Today I'm sharing WHY focusing on JUST ONE THING is much more effective and efficient than having multiple goals at a time.

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How will you take care of yourself today? Aug 13, 2019

LOVE the bonus episode!!

Make sure you are subscribed because I *might* just release bonus episode whenever the mood strikes.

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5 lessons to learn NOW to live a happier life Aug 07, 2019

Today I'm excited to talk to you about something I'm SO passionate about and you KNOW I'm so passionate about it.

It's how to live the MOST out of your life so that you can get to the end of it and think "YES! I DID THAT!" instead of reaching it with regrets.

You know that everything I teach comes back to this: your life is quick, your life is precious. STOP WAITING for external circumstances to change.

So let's go through the 5 regrets of the dying...the people who are ON their death beds, looking back with a new perspective...what do THEY wish they'd done differently.

And then let's DO that. Instead of waiting, let's start living that way now.

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Why the word NO causes so much stress (and how to change it!) Jul 31, 2019

Many years ago I started working on setting boundaries. And what I realized while I was struggling with WHY it was so hard was that it wasn't the boundaries themselves that were hard, it was the relationship I had with the word NO.

I realized that I was afraid to SAY no...I didn't want to let anyone down, saying no to things was selfish.

But I was ALSO afraid to HEAR no...it meant rejection, it meant I was putting someone else in a difficult situation.

In today's episode I share four of the mindset shifts that I've worked on over the years to redefine my relationship with the word no.

As a recovering people pleaser it doesn't come naturally to me, but learning how to change my thinking has allowed me to set better boundaries and take excellent care of myself.

If you love this podcast, please leave a review. This helps other women find this support.

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Life is short...5 mindset shifts to love your life NOW. Jul 24, 2019

We all are souls having a human experience.

None of us are here to just survive it, to just go through the motions before we die.

We all want to love our lives. We all want to LIKE our lives. But because we've never been taught how to manage our thoughts, most of us tell our story from the victim role.

Today I'm sharing 5 touchstones that I go back to over and over again so that at the end of my life I can be the HEROINE of my story.

I want to get to the end and LOVE my life and LIKE my life.

I want to feel BETTER every day.

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Clear your Clutter, Change Your Life (Part Two) Jul 17, 2019

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I recently spent 4 days in Dallas with Amanda Gibby Peters. She's a feng shui expert and the creator of Simple Shui©, a modern-day, mission-driven, love-based practice of feng shui. Also, my bff and someone who's work has changed my life.

We were having such amazing conversations about energy and clutter and WHY it really really REALLY matters to get clutter out of your space and we spontaneously decided to grab a microphone and record the conversation for you.

I'm going to go out on a limb and say that part two is even juicer.

Here's what we're talking in part TWO:

~ Why even though feng shui isn't about decluttering, it's a very necessary first step

~ Why sage and crystals and cures aren't doing what you want them to do

~ The thought shift I experienced that CHANGED the way I looked at my house and how I take care of it.

~ 3 SIMPLE ways to start clearing your clutter TODAY

To learn more about Amanda's brilliant work, go to www.simpleshui.com or book a free 15 minute consult here.

Ready to level up, break through ruts, create a life you're head over heels in love with, book a free consult with me here.

Clear your Clutter, Change Your Life (Part One) Jul 10, 2019

Today is part one of a 2 part conversation.

I recently spent 4 days in Dallas with Amanda Gibby Peters. She's a feng shui expert and the creator of Simple Shui©, a modern-day, mission-driven, love-based practice of feng shui. Also, my bff and someone who's work has changed my life.

We were having such amazing conversations about energy and clutter and WHY it really really REALLY matters to get clutter out of your space and we spontaneously decided to grab a microphone and record the conversation for you.

And this conversation is fire.

Here's what we cover in part one:

1. Why your clutter REALLY matters

2. Why CLUTTER may be the reason you aren't reaching your goals or keep giving up

3. How to start clearing clutter TODAY.

4. What to do if the people you live with aren't on board.

It's SO good. I can't wait to hear what you think.

To learn more about Amanda's brilliant work, go to www.simpleshui.com or book a free 15 minute consult here.

Ready to level up, break through ruts, create a life you're head over heels in love with, book a free consult with me here.

10 Ways to STOP numbing out Jul 03, 2019

I woke up feeling anxious and overwhelmed the other day and my FIRST instinct was to grab my phone and start scrolling...AKA numbing out.

It's hardwired in me. For YEARS I used numbing out with food, wine, my phone, Netflix as the way of taking care of myself.

But numbing out is NOT self care.

So today, 10 ways to STOP numbing out.

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Connecting with FEMININE energy: what, why and HOW. Jun 26, 2019

Today I'm talking all about the feminine energy. What it is, why it matters SO much right now that we connect with it and HOW to tap into it.

So many of us have bought into the belief that feminine energy is weak, delicate, vulnerable, sacrificing. And so it felt quite UNSAFE to be a feminine energy in a highly masculine world.

Today I want to help you turn that idea on it's head. Why tapping into the feminine energy is SO important right now and I'll give you 10 different ways to start.

Book a free consult to talk about coaching. I can walk with you on this journey. You are not alone.

You Need To Calm Down Jun 19, 2019

This week I had all sorts of people texting me "Did you hear the new Taylor Swift song?"

It's not because I'm a huge Taylor Swift fan.

It's cuz she stole my line.

What I talk about ALL the time: you need to calm TF down so you can lighten TF up.

If you want your life to feel less heavy...if you want to NOT be triggered every day all day...if you want to feel FREE and LIGHT...you've GOT to learn to calm yourself.

Calm your body, calm your mind and you'll be able to lighten up.

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Just what you needed to hear today Jun 12, 2019

I've been writing love letters...quick little poems...to the women in my membership community for 5 years and SO often I hear back from them, "THIS is exactly what I needed to hear today".

So in today's episode of Show Up and Love, I thought I'd pick a random love letter and read it to you, talk about it for a few minutes because I'm guessing it might just be what YOU needed to hear today.

Today's topic? STOP TRYING TO CONTROL THINGS THAT ARE OUT OF YOUR CONTROL! Like other people's thoughts, opinions and actions.

Stay in YOUR lane, stay in your life.

Spread the love...share this episode with someone you love who needs to hear this today.

And then, get your cute booty on my calendar so we can stop waiting and start creating a life you are head over heels in love with.

Click here for a free consult...where you're tell me all the things and then I'll tell you all the things and then we'll make a plan.

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9 Thoughts that Can Change Your Life Jun 05, 2019

I'm a transformation junkie. I've been upleveling all the different areas of my life for over a decade now, and what I know for sure is that it's not what you DO that leads to change...it's what you think.

In today's episode of Show Up and Love, I'm sharing 9 of my favorite thoughts that I have practiced believing that have led to my own transformations.

Enjoy!

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How to Live a High Vibe Life May 29, 2019

You've no doubt heard or seen the phrase "good vibes only" at some point in your life. But maybe you've never really thought about what that means. Today we're going to dip into the concept of energy, frequency and vibrations. What "high vibes" or "good vibes" actually means, WHY it's important to always be striving to raise your vibration. And then? I'm going to give you TEN things that can raise your vibration NOW, mama. Because life's too short to wait to feel better. Raise your vibration and feel happier, calmer, better.

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Overcoming ANY Negative Circumstance May 22, 2019

Ready for your AHA moment today?

You one have one life. One big go around this planet. How are you gonna spend it? If you're like most people, you're spending time thinking your circumstances need to change before you can be happier: wishing things were different…a smaller waist, a lovey dovey partner, kids that can take care of themselves.

I get it.

But here's the thing: your circumstances don't create your feelings. Your THOUGHTS do. How you think about the size of your body, the way you think about your partner and your kids…THAT is what will change your life.

It's possible to feel happier or calmer or better NOW…without ANY external circumstance needing to change.

Once you get that…once you learn HOW to change your mindset, your life will change for the better.

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How to Accomplish ANY Goal You Set May 15, 2019

So you set a goal and things aren't going as planned.

The scale is at a standstill no matter how much you exercise, couple's counseling is causing more blow-ups than resolutions, spring cleaning has created a bigger mess than when you started…

Before you throw in the towel, listen to this.

Every time we give up on our promises, it pulls us down. That's why I'm urging you to keep going, even when bad things happen. Life just isn't unicorns and rainbows. But we can add unicorns and rainbows when we decide to stay dedicated! Today I'm sharing how to get over roadblocks to achieve your goals.

Can we pinky promise, right here, right now that you will never give up on yourself again? If you need me to help, you know where to find me. Let's talk. Set up your free consultation here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

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Everything Is Fine May 08, 2019

I have 1 word for you Gorgeous Soul...breathe!

That's right I'm taking a page from the yogi's handbook today because I think there's enough messages out there telling you what you need to do change. I'm a little guilty of this myself, I LOVE transformation. But transformation can become a burden if we let it.

So today I'm giving your psyche the extra TLC it needs to calm down and find peace. Because the honestly, even if nothing changes in your life you'll be okay. My hope is after listening to this episode you'll be one step closer to believing that.

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How to Make Empowered Decisions Confidently May 01, 2019

Why is making decisions SO hard for some people? Well…if you're like my son Parker, you are terrified of making the wrong decision. You take everyone's feelings into consideration and let that fear of disappointing people get in the way of what you really want. As a mom, I push Parker to lean into his intuition… and as your life coach bestie I'm gonna do the same with you. ⁣ ⁣

Change happens one little decision at a time. I know this because I transformed my life by making better decisions. Today I'm going to share how I make quick and empowered decisions, what I consider, what I dismiss, and how I move past fear.

If you're ready to take fear out of the driver's seat and make empowered decisions, I can help. Start here.

How to Finish What You Start (and STOP giving up) Apr 24, 2019

If I had a dollar for every time I said "I'm great at STARTING things...just not finishing them" I'd be a gazillionaire. For real.

I was the queen of starting and not finishing, of getting excited to start a new habit and giving up a few days later, of telling myself I'm going to DO it this time and never following through.

I believed that's just who I was always going to be. Until I had enough and learned how to FOLLOW THROUGH. I learned how to change my mindset so that I became a woman who almost always finishes what I start.

Today's episode is for YOU if you looooove the beginnings but never see it through to the end.

Also? If this is you...ENOUGH. You deserve to keep your promises to yourself. You deserve to take care of yourself and change the habits you want to change. I can help. Click here to get started.

The Pep Talk You Need to Hear Today Mar 27, 2019

Brace yourself, Gorgeous Souls: This episode is unscripted.

My ideas were getting all tangled up in my head so I decided to ditch the notepad and speak from the heart.

What I REALLY want you to know is this - you can handle anything.

I know that sounds cheesy or cliche, but it's the truth. You have handled everything so far. Everything. You've survived 100% of your bad days. The problem is that you can't handle things.

The problem is that you THINK you can't handle things.

The problem is that you don't BELIEVE in your ability to overcome obstacles, handle a crisis, or make opportunities happen.

You know what's NOT going to make you feel better? Doubting yourself.

This is not the time to think of all the possible ways you can fail. That way of thinking only brings suffering. What's more constructive is telling yourself the truth: I can handle ANYTHING. It might not be easy and it might not be fun, but I can DO this.

That's what I really want you to know. That and I love you and believe in you.

How to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Happiness, & Ease Mar 20, 2019

Today I'm going to teach you how to rewire your brain so you can feel better, so you can feel happier, so your life feels easier…all the things you want in your life.

You are a manifestation of your thoughts. Everything in your life…your body, your home, your relationships, your job, your money…is all thanks to thoughts.

And from your thoughts, you've made decisions. You might not always love the decisions you've made. You might call them mistakes, but in today's episode, I'm going to challenge that perspective.

Instead of looking at all the things that are wrong…

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You have the powerful option to look at all of our choices. You don't have to wait on your husband to step up. You don't have to wait for your kids to grow up. You are definitely not waiting to get some time alone because…c'mon. You don't have to wait to live boldly and authentically! You can END the cycle of misery, guilt and shame.

Let's dive into the 2 most essential tool you can use to rewire your brain for happiness: setting intentions and gratitude.

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Bonus - Bite Sized Nugget: Just. Stop. Waiting! Mar 18, 2019

Hello, friend! This is a bonus episode...just a bite sized nugget of inspiration that I want you to hear...something my heart really wanted to tell you.

I had a FB memory pop up that swooshed me back 8 years to the day my dad went into the hospital for the last time. He lived for 11 more days and in those days, I was reminded AGAIN of why we're on this planet.

It's not just to crawl through life in survival mode. It's not to just get through the days hoping someone or something will change and make life easier so you can finally be happier.

That's just not how it works. No one is going to do that for you.

It's YOUR f'ing life. YOU need to do it.

So today's bonus Bite Sized Nugget is maybe the kick in the pants you need to stop waiting and start living.

Click here to join my FREE 21 day Rewire challenge. It WILL give you a kick in the pants.

Click here if you're interested in working with me 1:1. I can HELP you stop quitting. I can help you get unstuck.

10 Daily Habits That Will Change Your Life Mar 13, 2019

I've been coaching for 5 years, but my 1st client was myself. I transformed my entire life…my body, my mind, my relationships, my home, my finances and my career. And I did it one habit at a time. I believe you can do the same. Today I'm sharing my 10 favorite daily habits I used (and STILL use) to create a life I'm really excited to live! Today can be the day you decide that this isn't enough anymore. All it takes is changing one area of your life at a time. Once you start changing one area in your life, you'll experience a snowball effect and change will start rolling into other areas. I transformed my life by changing how I showed up in my life. I changed my thinking, I changed my mindset. By doing that I changed my daily habits. The truth is changing any part of your life requires you to do things differently in your daily life. If you're not head over heels in love with your life, let's change it! Start doing some of these habits, start them today. Need help with your transformation? Sign up for a free consult here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult Ready to create a life you love? Join my FREE 21 Day Restart Event starting April 1st:https://kristenfinch10.lpages.co/rewire/

How to Stop Giving Up Mar 06, 2019

You're gonna need a strong cup of coffee for this episode.

This is a really really big topic that I'm excited to talk to you about today. I've struggled with this. Every single person who's ever been a client of mine has struggled with this belief about themselves too:

"I never follow through."

"I start things and never finish them."

"I always end up giving up."

Are you a chronic giver upper? Is your goal collecting dust in your mind? Do you have trouble keeping focused on, interested in, or even just remembering your goals? Maybe you've accepted that you give up. It's just a part of who you are.

But what if that's NOT the person you wanna be?

What if you're accepting the quitter mentality because you're afraid to fail. What if your scarcity mindset is getting in the way of a full exciting life? The truth is you CAN complete your goals. All it takes is rewriting the story you're telling to yourself about yourself.

Let's say it together now, "Our thoughts create our results."

As the former Queen of Not Following Through I have 8 ways to kick this habit to the curb. Let's talk about how to become a person who always shows up and never gives up.

If you need help, you know where I am! I'm almost out of spots for 2019. Book a consult here: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

Workbook:https://kristenfinch10.lpages.co/stop-giving-up-ep-21/

The #1 Thing That's Getting In Your Way of Success Feb 27, 2019

The science is simple.

Our habits, good or bad, rewire our brains. When we repeat a behavior, like complaining, over and over again it charges those neurological connections to make complaining easier and automatic. The more you complain, the more your brain rewires itself for negativity.

Complaining takes us out of our strongest energy and it doesn't lead us to answers….only more things to complain about. Complaining doesn't solve problems, it's just an attempt by our egos to get some validation.

If complaining is so bad for us, why do we do it? From a young age, we are taught that it's a socially acceptable way to bond with family, friends, and even strangers. For some of us, we thinking venting will make us feel better.

Let's be honest, sometimes we want to host a big ole pity party. But there is a way to bond over shared pain that will lead to comfort, and complaining is NOT it.

Complaining is absolutely keeping you from making progress, from achieving the things you want to achieve. This episode is filled with tangible tips that will stop complaining dead in its tracks.

If you're ready to make a transformation in your life, if you're tired of living in survival mode, book a consult with me!

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Who Else is Tired of Doing All The Things? Feb 20, 2019

This episode is dedicated to all the Superwomen out there feeling forced to do it all. I see ya girl! You're tired of working, taking care of kids, cleaning house, volunteering the list goes on with no help from anyone. It's easy to get stuck in the hamster wheel of the scarcity.

The thought of I have to do this and I have to do that will leave you feeling helpless. Instead of CHOOSING to do these things. Choosing to go to work because you love providing for your family. Choosing to have a clean home because it makes you feel good to be clutter free.

Doesn't that word change make you feel better? Well, I have more where that came from! Today I'm sharing my tiny mindset shifts that will have you saying bye-bye to the sacristy and have you racking in abundance!

Here is the link for the workbook: https://kristenfinch10.lpages.co/have-to-choose-to/

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3 Steps to Achieving Any Goal You Set Feb 13, 2019

Three lies we tell ourselves about our dream life: I don't know what my dream life looks like, I've tried that before and failed, I don't have the time or money to pursue this.

As soon as we even think about changing our mind comes ups with all these reasons why we can't.

Why is it so hard for us to dream big? Because our negative thoughts are in the driver's seat. We're scared. Scared of failing, scared of reaching for something we'll never achieve. We don't think we deserve spending money on ourselves or living this big awesome life we dream about.

So we settle for, 'just good enough goals,' that will make our lives a tiny bit better. We live a life that's safe.

Today we're breaking out of the ordinary! I'm sharing my three steps to transformation. It's time to dream, decide and do.

If you want to create a life you love I can help! What if you decided right now to hop on a free phone call with me? Click here so we can make it happen.

Email me: kristen@kristenfinch.com

How My Husband's Autism Diagnosis Changed My Life For The Better Feb 06, 2019

In this episode, I share a little secret. For YEARS I've been hiding it, denying it, and today is my coming out party. And it feels so good to be open and honest!

Now it's your turn. What good thing have you been resisting in your life? How have you let other people's opinions hold you back? Are you feeling stuck? Stopped hiding from the thing that you think people are going to judge you for, or the thing that you think you need more proof in order to help people? What do you need to believe in order to move forward? In order to live that full life that you want to live? What would you need to stop believing about yourself?

I hope sharing my story will help you fully step into your own power. Stop wasting time on fears. Stop wasting time on doubt. Put yourself back in the narrative; take this a step further.

Change it.

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What if it was easy? Jan 30, 2019

This episode is proof that you just never know when inspiration is gonna hit. The inspiration for this week: a toilet paper roll in a bathroom stall in a hotel in Louisville, Kentucky.

Listen to the episode for the full story, but here's the gist: there are two paths you can take to transformation...the HARD path or the EASY path.

And as humans, we are naturally wired to focus on the HARD way. Our brains are designed that way on purpose. The problem is that when we believe what we want to achieve is too hard...whether it's being happier in your marriage, losing weight, starting a business, or just drinking more water...it becomes hard.

Our thoughts create the results we have.

SO we have to change it.

What if you just decided to stop believing that your marriage was hard? What if you just decided to stop believing that decluttering your house was hard?

Do you think you might get unstuck and actually MOVE FORWARD?

Yep.

The lesson I share in this episode is how I've gotten unstuck and achieved every single transformation in my life.

If you want to get unstuck and get your own mind blowing transformations, I can help. Click here so we can make it happen.

How to Marie Kondo Your Mind Jan 23, 2019

Scientists argue that humans have between 20,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day. How many of those thoughts do you think are mindful? Hardly any of them, right?

We collect thoughts. Hoard them and replay them over and over again. Just like those jeans in your closet, they don't fit but maybe they will someday. If there are thoughts that are not serving you that don't represent who you are becoming, don't put them back in your mind. You can change them. Yes, yes, you can change your thoughts!

But how?

In this episode, I'm teaching the four steps that I take every client through that I go through myself every single day to declutter my mind so that I can feel freer so I don't feel overwhelmed or antsy or anxious or stuck, because anytime I'm feeling that way, it means there are some cluttered thoughts happening in my body. And the only way to get rid of clutter is to declutter, right physical mental doesn't matter.

It's time to declutter our thoughts!

Ready to declutter your mind? Click here to see how we can work together: https://kristenfinch.as.me/freeconsult

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How to Stop Making Excuses & Invest In Yourself Jan 16, 2019

"One of the only things I wished I did was take care of myself sooner. I felt like it was never the right time to take care of myself mentally."

These are the words of my former client who passed away from pancreatic cancer. As women, we put everyone else first and leave no time for ourselves. We have these thoughts in our heads, "I can do it on my own or I don't have time."

In today's episode, I'm sharing the top 5 reasons why we don't invest in ourselves.

A Sneak Peak:

*Investing SAVES money

*Making time vs creating time

*The wise words of a former client

*Self care isn't selfish

*the more money I put into myself, the better the results are

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How to Live a Happy Life: Actions and Mindset for a Better Life Jan 09, 2019

On a scale from 1 to 10, how happy are you?

Could you be happier in your life, career, and relationships—of course!

As a life coach, I noticed that a lot of my clients are settling. They set the bar low so they won't get disappointed or they can't see themselves feeling any better than they do at the moment.

I get it, I've been there gorgeous soul.

Today I share how to get to a 10 on the happiness scale.

I also go over:

*How do you know what a 10 looks like

*Why you're partner cannot control your happiness

*The magic of setting the bar high

*Redefining your intentions to get what you want

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How to Achieve Your Goals Jan 02, 2019

You set your goals. Now what? Now it's time to make changes. Listen to my 6 tips on how to achieve your goals.

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11: My goal writing process: how to write goals that STICK Dec 26, 2018

I spent most of my adult life setting goals that never made it past a week. I always got super excited to sit down on New Years Eve to create new goals, but I just never followed through.

But over the years I've been tweaking my process. Using a combination of traditional goal writing and feeling-driven goals to come up with a process that really works.

I've transformed my entire life because I know how to follow through on my goals and because I know how to manage my thoughts.

In today's episode I'm going to walk you through the steps I go through to create meaningful goals that stick.

To download the workbook click here.

Here's the other thing I know...I am an expert in transformations. I have transformed my entire life and have guided dozens of women to transform theirs. I KNOW how to do this and I can help you do it. One year from now, you won't even recognize your life. Click here and we'll see if I'm the right coach for you!

10: Why you don't stick to your goals. Dec 19, 2018

It's almost 2019!!! Time for those good old New Years Resolutions.

If you're anything like me, you may have noticed a pattern in your life, though... Get SUPER excited about making changes, write some goals down, dive in and quit.

In a matter of weeks.

Or even days.

That was me, for most of my adult life. Until I found the way that works for me and for my clients.

In today's episode I want to share with you 7 of the main reasons you've been setting goals without achieving them. I want you to understand why you haven't been successful so you can move past those old mistakes and TRULY make 2019 the year that EVERYTHING CHANGES! Yaaaaaasssss!!

If you want to make 2019 your most important year yet, I can help. I know how to guide women through the transformations they really want to achieve. I KNOW I can help you. If you are COMMITTED, click here and we can hop on the phone and see if I'm the right mentor for you!

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9: Grief and sadness: How to feel it without drowning in it Dec 12, 2018

I've had puhhh-lenty of experience with grief and loss and going through very hard times. But I've learned some really important lessons on how to manage pain...sadness, anger, despair, frustration...that I want to share with you:

~ pain is just a chemical process that lasts 90 seconds

~ the difference between pain and suffering

~ why it's important to stop trying to avoid your sadness

~ how to add EASE and COMFORT to pain

It IS possible to go through horrendous times in your life without drowning in it.

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8: My best marriage advice that sucks... Dec 05, 2018

The #1 thing I am asked to talk about is my marriage. And I'm SO happy to talk about it...I'm SO happy to share what worked for our neurodivergent (he's Aspergers, I'm not) marriage. Except...my advice sucks.

I mean, it's SOLID gold, but it's HARD and it takes time, it requires you to change the way you've been living your life, and it can be painful.

I told you. Sucks.

On today's episode I'm talking about taking radical responsibility for your entire relationship so that you can transform it. I will share:

~ what radical ownership actually looks like

~how taking 100% responsibility for your entire life changes you're entire life

~ why it's so hard to stay in your own lane

~ why letting people BE who they are will make YOU happier

Also...if you are ready to make 2019 the year that you actually CREATE a life you love, transform your relationships, your body, your happiness, your life...I would love to help you.

Click here for a FREE, no obligation consultation call. We'll hop on the phone and see if we're a good fit and how we could work together in 2019.

I want you to stop WAITING for your external circumstances to change and change your life. I did it. I'll help you do it too.

7: Managing Anxiety Nov 28, 2018

Anxiety keeps us stuck. It prevents us from doing both big things AND little things. In today's episode I'm going to take you through the process I take myself through when I'm feeling anxious.

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6: Becoming the person you really want to be Nov 21, 2018

Today's episode is all about how to BECOME the woman you want to be. How to move from where you are now to where you WANT to be. Because it's one thing to hope and wish and dream and it's another to take action and BECOME the next version of yourself. I'll take you through:

~ how to tap into the next version so you get crystal clear on what you need to do to level up

~ what to focus on and what to STOP focusing on

~ why appreciation of where you are and where you've been is important

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5: Not everyone is gonna like you and that's okay. Nov 14, 2018

There are 3 types of people in the world: people who like you, people who don't and people who just don't care.

And which people do you spend the most time worrying about?

The people who don't like you! The people you NEED to like you.

When your self worth is based on other people's approval of you, you will lose yourself QUICKLY.

Today's episode is a pep talk over coffee all about why we need to STOP focusing on trying to get people to like us and instead focus on the people who already do!

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4: Create a life you love...even if you don't know how Nov 07, 2018

In today's episode we're going to talk all about how to create a life that you really love...no matter WHAT you've got going on right now.

We'll discuss:

~ why actually being creative helps with changing your life

~ how to decide what that life looks like

~ how to get past the thoughts that have been blocking you from creating something new

~ why you need to clean up your messes to manifest what you want

~ why the people you surround yourself with are CRITICAL pieces of this puzzle

~ why gratitude is key

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3: What self care ACTUALLY is. Nov 02, 2018

You already know you're supposed to take care of yourself. And you'd LOVE to. But when? And how? I get it. The way self care is marketed to us women makes us think we need tons of time and boatloads of extra cash lying around. Massages, mani/pedis, girls nights out...they all sound amazing, aaaaaand...totally unrealistic.

Well, guess what? Those things are great if you can get it. But TRUE self care doesn't require money and only requires minutes a day. What I've learned in my own journey from overwhelmed, exhausted hot mess (who N E V E R took care of herself) to a woman whose self care is non-negotiable is that it's not massages, it's daily habits. Small habits you do each day that make your life better. That make you feel better.

That's why we're supposed to practice self-care, right? To feel better.

Here are some of the things I talked about in the show:

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2: Change your thoughts so you can be happier! Nov 02, 2018

You've heard it before...change your thoughts, change your life. But what does that even mean? And HOW?

How does changing your thoughts change everything?

I'm talking about this in today's episode.

Want to talk more about this episode or ANY of the episodes or topics that you hear on Show Up and Love? Join the Lounge. It's my membership community where we dive deep into these topics every day. It's an amazing community of Gorgeous Souls where we have virtual hangouts, q+a sessions, habits that we're all working on together. It's a no-low-vibe place and I'd LOVE for you to join me there.

Why Fear Takes Over Your Brain (The Lizard Brain Explained) Oct 23, 2018

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This episode explains the "lizard brain" and why overthinking and anxiety take over your mind. (This was the very first episode of Calm AF—and it's still one of the most downloaded!)

If your brain jumps straight to worst-case scenarios, replays conversations, overthinks every decision, or freezes because you're afraid to make the wrong move, your lizard brain might be running the show.

In this episode of Calm AF, we break down the neuroscience behind fear, anxiety, and the brain's fight-flight-freeze response. You'll learn why fear shuts down your ability to think clearly—and how to calm your nervous system so you can make decisions from a grounded, rational place.

Your brain is divided into three parts: the primitive lizard brain, the limbic brain, and the neocortex—the part responsible for higher-level thinking, creativity, and problem solving.

The problem?

When fear takes over, the lizard brain shuts down the neocortex… which means your smartest thinking disappears exactly when you need it most.

Understanding this changes everything.

In this episode you'll learn:

• why your brain goes into fight-flight-freeze mode • how fear shuts down your ability to think clearly • how to recognize when your lizard brain is running the show • the simple shift that helps calm your nervous system and regain control

If you've ever wondered why you overthink, freeze under pressure, or feel like your brain is working against you—this episode will finally make it make sense.

Daily Recalibration

Ready to reset your dysregulation default setting?

The Daily Recalibration is a short, powerful daily reset designed to train your nervous system to stay steady in neutral.

One clean rep every morning so you spend less time torturing yourself with made-up scenarios and more time regulated, clear, and efficient.

Get it here: The Daily Recalibration

Calm AF Life

If you want to practice this work in real life with women who are committed to growth, Calm AF Life is where we do it.

We don't vent. We regulate. We don't rehearse old patterns. We interrupt them. We uplevel our identities one win at a time.

If you're ready to show up that way, join us (or join the waitlist) here → Calm AF Life

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