Queer Sex Ed Podcast

Building Trans Justice Into Sex Ed - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 64 Mar 14, 2020

Sara and Jay are back this week to finish our discussion of justice-centered sex education! This week we discuss moral panics and also provide structure, guidance, and questions to ask yourself to build sex ed centered on trans justice.

We tried to focus on offering structures, guidelines, and tangible ways you can question your own work, but there's no way we could cover everything in one show. For more on this, check out our previous episode, number 63, and also Episodes 1, 9, 11, 21, 23, 24, 34, and 53.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/IicmJZnuTvGPk7Ojfgieqg

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 4:59 - Word of the Show: Moral Panic 20:33 - Famous Moral Panics of the Past and Present 28:43 - Patreon Message 32:30 - Main Topic Intro 38:49 - 5 (+2 Extra) Steps for Building Justice-Centered Sex Education 44:32 - Working Backwards to Build a Foundation 49:11 - Power Dynamics and Sex Ed 56:11 - We Can't Do This Work in a Vacuum 59:02 - Helpful Guidelines to Start From 1:07:15 - Questions to Ask Yourself

Show Links:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/wicked-deeds/201507/moral-panic-who-benefits-public-fear

https://www.newstatesman.com/culture/games/2019/08/moral-panic-over-fortnite-and-purpose-play

https://www.aier.org/article/the-anatomy-of-a-moral-panic/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/youre-wrong-about/id1380008439

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-hysteria/id1441348407

https://rossieronline.usc.edu/youth-and-racism/akiea-gross-op-ed

https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/04/how-sex-education-fails-people-of-color-in-the-united-states/

https://wearyourvoicemag.com/sex-and-health/sex/sex-education-centering-whiteness

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/afrosexology-sex-positivity_n_5b69b913e4b0de86f4a59f1a

http://www.nativeyouthsexualhealth.com/whatwebelievein.html

https://rewire.news/article/2015/04/09/can-teach-kids-consent-without-bringing-sex-conversation/

https://theestablishment.co/the-sad-case-of-laci-green-feminist-hero-turned-anti-feminist-defender-322515344297/

https://www.themarysue.com/laci-green-terf-impression/

Sex Education Guidelines:

https://www.bzga-whocc.de/en/publications/standards-in-sexuality-education/

https://siecus.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/Guidelines-CSE.pdf

https://culturallyboundgender.wordpress.com/2013/03/09/toward-an-end-to-appropriation-of-indigenous-two-spirit-people-in-trans-politics-the-relationship-between-third-gender-roles-and-patriarchy/

https://www.bgdblog.org/2016/07/appropriating-two-spirit/

https://intersexroadshow.blogspot.com/2016/08/the-problematic-ideology-of-natural-sex.html

Trans Justice and Sex Ed - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 63 Jan 20, 2020

This week, Sara and Jay talk about the difference between "trans-inclusive" sex ed and building sex ed based on a justice framework more broadly. Also discussed, inclusion, virginity, life-long sex ed, and reproductive justice.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/yxW1Eq_tTeefHcc5G02ZVg

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 3:22 - Accountability Corner 17:57 - Word of the Show: Inclusion 25:00 - "The Language of Appeasement" Article Discussion 35:09 - Patreon Message 36:40 - Main Topic Intro 41:41 - What's Wrong With Sex Ed? 54:12 - Why Make Sex Ed Better? 1:04:59 - Being Justice-Centered 1:15:03 - Risk Aware Sex Ed 1:28:00 - Sex Education isn't a Biology Class

Show notes:

www.them.us/story/sex-with-acrylics-is-safe

www.twitter.com/DrDLStewart

www.insidehighered.com/views/2017/03/30/colleges-need-language-shift-not-one-you-think-essay

www.zora.medium.com/when-black-women-go-from-office-pet-to-office-threat-83bde710332e

www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/4/20/reproductive-justice-and-family-building-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-21

www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/1/18/identifying-desire-asexuality-and-aromanticism-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-9

www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/2/5/sharing-your-desires-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-11

www.queersexed.org/archive/2019/4/21/biological-sex-and-expanding-the-trans-medical-model-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-53

www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615

www.coloradoindependent.com/2019/05/23/colorado-laws-sex-ed-consent/

Audre Lorde Reads Uses of the Erotic: www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFHwg6aNKy0 (CW: cissexism, anti-pornography) Text version: https://uk.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11881_Chapter_5.pdf

www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html

www.medium.com/@JessieRaeFisher/on-neopronouns-eec46705c5dc

www.nonbinary.miraheze.org/wiki/English_neutral_pronouns

www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/10/01/guatemala.syphilis.tuskegee/index.html

www.siecus.org/sex-ed-is-a-vehicle-for-racial-justice/

Genital Torture and Trans Bodies - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 62 Jan 12, 2020

Join Jay and Sara as we explore the innies and outies of genital torture play (sometimes called CBT). We'll talk about pain tolerance, dysphoria, safety tips, and give examples of genital torture play you might never have thought about before!

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/Bjuvrzx9T2mvJ37L3CWrAQ

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 7:21 - Word of the Show: Pain Tolerance 14:40 - How Do You Find Your Pain Tolerance? 22:40 - Patreon Message 25:57 - What is Genital Torture Play? 29:48 - Why Not Just Use "CBT"? 33:23 - Types of GT Play 52:42 - Trans-Specific Tips for GT 1:10:28 - Harm Reduction Safety Tips 1:23:04 - Negotiating GT

Show notes:

https://www.cnet.com/how-to/australian-fires-everything-we-know-about-the-crisis-and-how-you-can-help/

https://www.npr.org/2019/01/31/690363402/how-the-cia-overthrew-irans-democracy-in-four-days

https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mg4pqn/we-asked-a-cock-and-ball-torture-expert-about-the-art-of-dilating-urethras

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know

https://theprincessfantasy.com/blogs/news/figging-101-from-ancient-punishment-to-modern-pleasure

https://sextoycollective.com/best-sex-machines/sybian-saddle/

Dysphoria and Sex as a Trans Person - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 61 Nov 24, 2019

Sara and Jay jump into the first topic discussion of Season 2, how to navigate sex and dysphoria as a trans person! We discuss strategies, validate the struggles, and give some tips from our experience.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/FM-xOB1SR4ek6UXYWOjcRg

Segments: 1:30 - Intro 2:10 - Word of the Show: Gender Dysphoria 20:09 - Dysphoria Tips 45:46 - Patreon Message 47:54 - Exploring Sex As A Trans Person 59:17 - HRT Effects on Sex and Orgasm 1:19:58 - Final Takeaway Tips

Show notes:

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/08/not-all-trans-folks-dysphoria/

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/how-to-navigate-gender-dysphoria-during-sex

https://www.buzzfeed.com/kaichengthom/the-search-for-trans-womens-orgasms

[NSFW] https://crashpadseries.com/

[NSFW] http://troublefilms.com/

http://instar-books10.mybigcommerce.com/nerve-endings-the-new-trans-erotic/

QSE Listener Questions 6 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 60 Nov 16, 2019

Season 2 kicks off with a question episode catching up on your emails to us over the break! We discuss endometriosis, herpes transmission, identity-based humiliation play, and more! We are so excited to be back in your podcast feed with regular weekly episodes again.

Transcript: https://otter.ai/s/p3FKnWmQTyS8jynNBQ_Mvw

Segments: 2:35 - Season 2 changes to QSE 6:18 - Endometriosis and Testosterone HRT 20:11 - Identity-based Humiliation Play and Slurs 32:26 - Patreon Message 36:32 - Oral Herpes Transmission and Communicating Boundaries 53:21 - STI Risk with New Tongue Piercing 1:05:53 - Wrap Up 1:09:51 - Bonus! An Anti-Fascist Rant

Show notes:

[Last Week Tonight, Bias in Medicine] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TATSAHJKRd8

https://www.history.com/news/chamberlain-kahn-act-std-venereal-disease-imprisonment-women

https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html

Editors note: I accidentally left the same small clip of audio in the show at the end twice. I don't know how it happened, but I can't redo it without redoing the entire time-coded transcript so I'm leaving it in. I'll try and be more careful in the future.

Body Changes on Hormones - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 59 Jul 27, 2019

This week, Jay and Sara spend some time talking about the general changes people can expect when starting testosterone or estrogen, progesterone, and spironolactone as hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Also discussed: muffing, exploring new sensations, and a response to Buck Angel's recent fearmongering about the risks of taking testosterone.

Segments: 3:48 - Word of the Show, Muffing 13:13 - Patreon Message 14:46 - Intro to Hormones and HRT 25:21 - Talking with the doctor about HRT and sex 36:26 - Effects of Testosterone 49:17 - Effects of Estrogen 1:01:10 - Effects of Spironolactone 1:10:07 - Effects of Progesterone 1:15:12 - In Response to Buck Angel's Recent Post About Hysterectomy 1:26:12 - Wrap-up and Tease for Next Week Show Links: www.vice.com/en_us/article/59dxw3/a-guide-to-muffing-the-hidden-way-to-finger-trans-women

Direct link to buy Fucking Trans Women by Mira Bellwether: https://payhip.com/b/hRtK

https://www.wpath.org/publications/soc

www.hrc.org/resources/safer-sex-for-trans-bodies

www.transhealth.ucsf.edu/trans?page=guidelines-home

www.instagram.com/p/Bz57jmKjtTj/ (SERIOUS CW for body gore and bloody images. This is the Buck Angel post Jay is responding to around the 1 hour 15 minute mark. I feel we describe it well enough in the show to make our larger point without needing to see the actual picture, but I know some people will want to see the original thing for context.)

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019/2020 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

QSE Listener Questions 5 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 58 Jun 17, 2019

Jay and Sara answer more questions from you, the listeners! Questions include bondage for disabled folks, lower sex drive on SSRIs, period sex, and Fetlife tips. Also discussed: new HHS regulations that discriminate against LGBTQ people.

Segments: 3:07 - Accountability Corner 6:22 - New "Conscience Rule" in Effect Now 18:55 - Future HHS Regulation Proposed to Allow Discrimination 28:34 - Rope Bondage and Disability 38:35 - Lower Sex Drive on SSRI Medication for Depression 55:27 - Patreon Message 57:54 - Period Sex Taboos 1:14:32 - Fetlife Tips and Navigating Kink as a Newbie Show Links: Make a comment and learn more about new HHS guidelines at www.protecttranshealth.org

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/acts-of-faith/wp/2015/03/23/indiana-house-passes-controversial-religious-freedom-bill/

https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2018/05/15/10-things-you-need-know-about-tony-perkins-and-family-research-council

http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/

https://www.postroehandbook.com/

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Abortion Laws and Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 57 Jun 01, 2019

Sara and Jay spend this week's episode discussing the legal and political movement to outlaw abortion in the United States, including the propaganda strategy of CPCs, the history of US abortion law, the current state of abortion rights, and how you can help protect abortion access in your area.

Segments: 4:44 - Accountability Corner 8:54 - Word of the Show, Crisis Pregnancy Centers (CPCs) 21:08 - Patreon Message 23:43 - Intro to Abortion Rights 26:20 - Pushing Back on Anti-Abortion Propaganda 35:55 - US History of Abortion (1800-1990s) 47:04 - TRAP Laws After PP v Casey Supreme Court Case 1:06:57 - Current State of US Abortion Rights 1:12:35 - What Can We Do to Protect Abortion Rights? Show Links: https://www.politico.com/magazine/story/2014/05/religious-right-real-origins-107133

https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-extreme-abortion-bans-in-alabama-and-georgia-happened.html

https://www.marieclaire.com/politics/a27615254/abortion-bans-the-south/

https://qz.com/1620691/alabama-abortion-law-kay-ivey-and-the-white-women-for-trump/

https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2019/05/georgia-alabama-abortion-ban-hollywood-dont-boycott

https://rewire.news/article/2019/05/21/the-auntie-network-local-funds/

https://www.thecut.com/2019/05/how-to-help-alabama-6-week-abortion-ban-georgia.html

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/After_Tiller

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Pervertables and Kink on a Budget - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 56 May 20, 2019

This week Jay and Sara give tips on doing kink play in free and cheap ways! Also discussed: Pervertables, classism in kink spaces, where to find cheap toys, and kinky craft time.

Segments: 3:18 - Word of the Show, Pervertables 8:03 - Kinky Craft Time! 14:34 - Our Favorite Pervertables 26:50 - Pervertable Safety Tips 40:29 - Patreon Message 43:27 - Kink Doesn't Need to Be Expensive to Be Good 58:16 - Planning Your Cheap Kinky Play 1:06:12 - Tips for Exploring Kink Alone, With Partners, and With Strangers/Acquaintances Show Links: http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/bdsm_toy_bag.html

https://archive.org/details/ThePrivilegeOfPerversitiesRaceClassAndEducationAmongPolyamoristsAndKinksters

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Navigating Consent On Dating Apps (A Dick Pic Isn't Communication) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 55 May 12, 2019

This week Sara and Jay are talking about online dating, hooking up, consent communication online, and the culture of dick pics and other boundary crossing online. Also discussed: the male gaze, what app developers could do better, what we can do better as users, and tips for making your online dating focused on consent, communication, and mutually sexy fun.

Segments: 5:56 - Word of the Show, Dick Pic 14:55 - How All Men Benefit From Misogyny #yesallmen 22:30 - Why Are Dick Pics So Bad? 31:36 - Patreon Message 35:06 - What We Mean By "The Male Gaze" 43:05 - Apps Designed By Cis White Men & For Cis White Men 58:00 - Using Tools That Weren't Meant For Us 1:10:08 - Better Online Communication Show Links: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/01/why-men-send-dick-pics/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/13/magazine/women-coding-computer-programming.html https://www.1843magazine.com/features/the-scientists-who-make-apps-addictive

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

The Future of Trans Liberation - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 54 Apr 27, 2019

This is the culmination of our four-part series on transgender medicine, focused on what a trans liberation future really looks like.

What would it mean for all people to live, express, and love free from shame and the threat of violence?

How can we work in solidarity with all marginalized people of intersecting identities to build a future of mutual support, honest communication, and unlimited love?

Also discussed: A trans research update from Jay's conference including exciting news about HRT, fertility, PReP, and more!

Segments: 2:32 - Trans Research Update of the Show! 6:57 - WPATH Changes Are a Mixed Bag 10:28 - HRT Research Updates 20:02 - PReP & HIV Prevention Research 28:16 - HRT and Fertility Study 44:18 - Public Health Updates 58:39 - Patreon Message 1:00:31 - What Would Trans Liberation Really Be? 1:20:15 - Envisioning Revolution Without Centering Violence 1:24:53 - Trans Liberation Isn't "Genderless" It's Genderful 1:33:02 - What Does Full Bodily Autonomy Look Like? 1:37:48 - What Else Would You Be Doing?

Show Links: http://transhealth.ucsf.edu/protocols

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/opinion-broadnax-afrofuturism-black-panther_n_5a85f1b9e4b004fc31903b95

https://chicagounbound.uchicago.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1052&context=uclf

https://www.law.columbia.edu/pt-br/news/2017/06/kimberle-crenshaw-intersectionality

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You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Biological Sex and Expanding the Trans Medical Model - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 53 Apr 21, 2019

This week Jay and Sara dig down into "biological sex" and break down why it's a problem, how it's more complicated than you probably know, and new ways to discuss bodies without binary sex. Also discussed: research impacts of using biological sex, expanding the trans medical model, and how we project gender and sexuality onto animals.

Segments: 5:46 - Word of the Show, Biological Sex, Real Sex, or Sex 42:02 - Patreon Message 45:01 - Quick Medical Model Review 48:34 - How Research Focuses on Binary Sex AKA "We Start With Gender to Prove Gender" 1:04:26 - Animals Don't Have Binary Sex or Gender 1:11:40 - How The Medical Model Has Been Helpful

Show Links: https://medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615

https://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/3/3/audio-article-the-xx-and-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-15

https://www.nature.com/news/sex-redefined-1.16943#/spectrum

https://www.newstatesman.com/future-proof/2015/02/sex-isn-t-chromosomes-story-century-misconceptions-about-x-y

https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/qvyq8p/transgender-non-binary-stock-photos-gender-spectrum-collection

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You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Butt Stuff 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 52 Apr 06, 2019

This week Sara and Jay begin their series about everything anal! This show covers the basics of butt anatomy, ass play safety tips, and all of the many reasons we enjoy butt stuff. Future episodes will cover more specific activities, answer your butt questions, and dive further into why there is so much stigma built up around butt sex and ass play.

Segments: 3:16 - Word of the Show, Lube 29:43 - Patreon Message 33:19 - Basics of Ass Anatomy (Ass-natomy) 48:05 - Ass Play Examples 1:02:23 - Butt-Specific Safety Tips 1:26:48 - What We Like About Anal Sex and Ass Play

Show Links: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/anal-sex-what-you-need-to-know https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32887307-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-t-shirt?p=classic-tee https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32890343-buttbase-queer-sex-ed-tote-bag?p=tote-bag&size=large https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY https://www.ohjoysextoy.com/buttsex/ http://www.newnownext.com/ive-contracted-my-third-gastrointestinal-parasite-from-rimming-and-i-cant-be-the-only-gay-man-suffering/01/2018/

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You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Modern Transgender Medicine - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 51 Mar 22, 2019

Jay and Sara continue their discussion of trans medicine by focusing on current barriers to care caused by our medical model of trans identity. Also discussed: transmedicalism, solidarity work, and what non-binary transition can look like.

Segments: 4:44 - Word of the Show, Transmedicalism 32:09 - Patreon Message 35:12 - Medical Model Recap 39:18 - How does the medical model influence trans medicine? 1:06:37 - Political and social impact of the trans medical model

Show Links: http://feministing.com/2016/03/10/my-auntie-buffalo-bill-the-unavoidable-transmisogyny-of-silence-of-the-lambs/

http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2013/03/the_emergence_and_danger_of_the_acceptable_trans_n.php

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/not-born-in-the-wrong-body/

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2015/jul/24/alena-bradford-transgender-south-georgia

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You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

The Trans Military Ban and QSE Listener Questions 4 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 50 Mar 15, 2019

Sara and Jay discuss the recently finalized trans military ban, including how we must address the impact of that on our community and still be abolitionist in our criticism of US imperialism and the military as an institution of violence. We also answer listener questions about staying dominant while you are bottoming, and navigating when one partner needs space when the other has abandonment trauma. Segments: 7:36 - Trans Military Ban 30:30 - Patreon Message 34:30 - Question Intro 41:22 - Question 1, Staying dominant while bottoming 52:30 - Question 2, What to do when one partner needs space and the other struggles with abandonment 1:10:18 - Question 3, Finding a trans-competent therapist for my son

Show Links: - www.apnews.com/ae07308b29c342429c3c627b7fc0b404 - www.queertranswarban.wordpress.com - www.polyamoryonpurpose.com/polyamory-drama

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

History of Transgender Medicine - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 49 Mar 10, 2019

Jay and Sara share some of the deep and complicated history of transgender medicine to discuss how physical differences become a medical diagnosis. Also discussed: the "medical model" of trans identities, and the process of medical pathologizing

Segments: 8:22 - Word of the Show (Pathologize) 34:59 - Patreon Message 36:48 - A Quick History of Transgender Medicine (Genital Invert, Transvestites, Harry Benjamin, and the DSM) 1:18:05 - What is the "Medical Model" of Trans Identity 1:38:10 - White Supremacy, Colonialism, and Transphobia 1:43:26 - Current Trans Medicine (ICD 10, ICD 11, and Autogynophilia)

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sensory Deprivation - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 48 Feb 22, 2019

This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of sensory deprivation play, including how to do it, what tools to use, and tips for staying safe. The word/phrase/concept discussed at the beginning is Dungeon Master (the kink kind, not the D&D kind).

Segments: 2:33 Word of the Show, Dungeon Master 19:07 Patreon Message 20:21 Sensory Deprivation Intro 33:38 Why do folks like Sensory Dep? 46:36 Sensory Dep Safety 1:01:00 Fun stuff, toys, and personal stories! 1:23:21 Negotiation tips

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

QSE Listener Questions 3 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 47 Feb 15, 2019

Happy 2019! The wait is over and we're back to answer your listener questions about sex, family, queerness, fat allyship, and more. Thank you to all the vulnerable people who sent us questions and put themselves out there. We really appreciate your questions and a chance to share your growth with the QSE audience.

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Audio Article - Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 46 Feb 11, 2019

This is an audio version of Sara's Medium article titled Protecting Transgender People Is Not A Political Choice.

Read along here: https://medium.com/@QSE/protecting-transgender-people-is-not-a-political-choice-c5c2187f3773

QSE will be back NEXT WEEK, I promise. Thank you for your patience and understanding <3

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Things You May Have Missed in 2018 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 45 Dec 27, 2018

Sara and Jay discuss news stories that you may have missed this year. We also discuss stories to keep tracking in 2019.

QSE will be back next year after a short break for the week of New Year's. We hope you have a wonderful time celebrating the last year and finding love, support, and community in 2019.

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

And A Kinky New Year - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 44 Dec 23, 2018

Sara and Jay celebrate a new year by looking back at their favorite moments, best sex toys, top kink memories, and a special surprise segment about making mistakes. Also we look forward to think about our intentions for the next year.

Join us, and maybe ask yourself or your partner(s) who listen these same questions:

What things are you celebrating from 2018?

What are you trying to be intentional about in the next year?

What things do you think people may have missed in 2018? What mistakes have you made in your sex, kink, dating, social life and what did you learn from them?

What is your favorite sex/intimate memory from the last year?

What is your kink memory from the last year?

What is your favorite new or rediscovered sex toy from the last year?

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Fisting and Edge Play - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 43 Dec 14, 2018

This week Sara and Jay talk about topping and bottoming fisting! Also discussed: defining edge play, how to safely explore your edges and how queerness gets portrayed as inherently sexual.

Show links: https://crashpadseries.com/queer-porn/queer-porn-meets-sex-ed-in-crashpads-guide-to-fisting/

http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2017/5/31/queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-2-kink-and-bdsm-101

http://www.queersexed.org/archive/2018/3/10/submission-queer-sex-ed-podcast-episode-16

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Switching Roles in Kink Play - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 42 Dec 10, 2018

Sara and Jay talk about switching during kink play this week! Learn about why we talk about dom and top as different things, what switching means, ways you can try switching, and things to think about when you're negotiating play where people switch roles.

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

What is Sex? LIVE from CU Boulder - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 41 Dec 03, 2018

This episode of QSE was recorded live at CU Boulder! Jay and Sara discuss defining sex and why that's so difficult to do.

Also discussed: STI testing, demisexuality, the sexphobia of SESTA/FOSTA, growing confidence as a dom, and so much more when we take audience questions. This episode was made possible by the University of Colorado's Ace&Aro Student Group.

If you enjoyed this live episode, you can help bring one to your hometown! Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Impact Play, Safe Words, and Pain Calibration - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 40 Nov 24, 2018

Sara and Jay talk about everything impact play this week! Learn about safe words, different kinds of impact play, things to negotiate in impact, and so much more.

Queer Sex Ed is going on tour in 2019 and you can bring us to your school, community center, workplace, or local dungeon! Learn more at www.queersexed.org/tour2019 or email queersexed@gmail.com to book your event with us or inquire about our sliding scale pricing.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Audio Article - An Open Letter to Everyone Who Won’t Stop Telling Me to Vote - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 39 Nov 03, 2018

Sara reads her most recent article about voter suppression for Medium.com. Please vote if you can in the US on November 6th, but remember that this system will never change just from votes alone.

"Voting is important work. If you are working on voting rights and access, what you do matters. However, I also need you to understand that the reasons people can’t or don’t vote are largely linked to their oppression. Until we address that underlying bigotry, voting will continue to be restricted and manipulated to oppress people who are already marginalized."

Read along here: https://medium.com/s/story/an-open-letter-to-everyone-who-wont-stop-telling-me-to-vote-21b75e28546b

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Voter Suppression and Gerrymandering - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 38 Oct 27, 2018

Sara and Jay are talking about voting, voter suppression, and gerrymandering this week. If you're wondering why a sex ed show is talking about this, we're excited for you to learn!

We talk about the recent attacks on the trans community by the Trump Administration as well as different types of gerrymandering, types of voter suppression, the importance of voting as harm reduction, and what we can do after the election because voting isn't enough.

Show Links:

https://medium.com/s/story/an-open-letter-to-everyone-who-wont-stop-telling-me-to-vote-21b75e28546b

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html

https://www.advocate.com/politics/2018/10/18/poll-trump-voters-believe-men-face-more-bias-lgbtq-people

Gerrymandering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YcUDBgYodIE

Another explanation of gerrymandering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mky11UJb9AY

https://www.brennancenter.org/publication/state-voting-2018

https://www.brennancenter.org/blog/state-voting-2018-updated

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

QSE Listener Questions 2 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 37 Oct 19, 2018

Jay and Sara are answering your questions this week! Thank you to everyone who was vulnerable and asked us to help you move through difficult things.

Discussed in this episode: dysphoria and eating disorder history, family rejection, telling a partner you are no longer attracted to them, fatphobia in dating preferences, what queer porn do we enjoy, supporting ethical porn production, and the pitfalls of focusing on inclusive language without inclusive action for allies.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Show links:

http://www.ashleighshackelford.com/

http://www.askingbear.com/

https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/

http://www.instarbooks.com/books/nerve-endings.html

http://www.ihartericka.com/#home

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/7xx73q/this-leading-trans-porn-company-is-wiping-slurs-from-its-site

https://medium.com/the-establishment/the-radical-potential-of-trans-kink-porn-cc6396773fd7

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/what-you-should-know-before-you-start-watching-porn

https://www.vice.com/en_ca/article/mgyax8/what-its-like-to-be-a-genderfluid-sex-worker

https://medium.com/@HARLOT/what-does-it-take-to-believe-a-whore-or-why-writing-about-sex-work-should-be-left-to-sex-workers-22fc6b2e9bdb

Boundaries - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 36 Oct 12, 2018

Sara and Jay are BACK and this time we're talking about boundaries, rules, agreements, and how you can figure out what your boundaries are and what you need to feel safe.

Useful links:

https://www.morethantwo.com/polyamorywithoutrules.html

https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

QSE Quickies - Kink Aug 30, 2018

Sara is back with another clip episode while the show is on a quick hiatus. This week we have clips from episodes 2, 14, and 16 about kink, BDSM, dominance, and submission, enjoy!

QSE Quickies - Communication Aug 17, 2018

Sara edited together some of her favorite moments about communication from past QSE episodes while she is healing from surgery. New episodes should be back in a few weeks, thank you for understanding.

Full episodes available here:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2bcQC0QCVSl0vOlly0zXgQ?si=bl-Wchy_RWeiapwS273uOg

https://open.spotify.com/episode/45LSqplKIF7DNz0TMOssAF?si=SLXgJgjwQOegPiKytBNosg

https://open.spotify.com/episode/7wROeWZESxjLQZ9IzV1TC0?si=2JbgolQnTgGxfv-7seREeg

https://open.spotify.com/episode/55ngvnUYvskGtPQwsHyfHq?si=F54Z2UAbRAuY6Gr3rDxLCg

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5Kze2aVlPRKa4rI8dAVmlZ?si=pqDmeS4iQEuqsz57ANdJfg

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Queer Rewatch Podcast: Episode 2 - Carol (2015) Aug 09, 2018

QSE is on a short hiatus while Sara recovers from surgery, so we wanted to share this episode of Sara's new podcast in the feed for folks who haven't had a chance to listen yet.

This new show was made possible by your generous Patreon subscriptions! Thank you for your support of QSE and we hope to be back soon.

Audio Article - How the Nazi Party Came to Power in a Democratic Country - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 35 Aug 03, 2018

Sara is back to read another article she recently published on Medium. This one is about how Nazis came to power and what we can learn from their legal structures, America's history, and our current legal climate.

You can read-along with the article here: https://medium.com/@QSE/the-time-for-never-again-has-passed-americans-are-complicit-in-genocide-as-defined-by-the-un-940b368e63e5

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Heteronormativity and the Nature Vs Nurture Debate - Queer Sex Ed: Episode 34 Jul 26, 2018

Sara and Jay dive deep into heteronormativity, including how the assumption that everyone is straight shapes our world and what we can do to fight back against it. Also discussed: searching for a trans gene, assimilation, and how the nature vs nurture debate harms us all.

Show links:

http://titleknown.tumblr.com/post/122715038542/cactuswrens-bad-dragon-blacklist-post

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/heteronormativity-gender-identity-sexual-orientation

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/07/what-is-heteronormativity/

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Making Sex Toys Work for Our Bodies - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 33 Jul 21, 2018

This week Sara and Jay tackle how we can make sex toys that are marketed to able bodied cis men and women work for fat bodies, trans bodies, disabled bodies, and all different kinds of bodies.

Topics include: sex negativity, making binary toys less binary, naming your body parts, experimenting, identifying pervertibles, and lots more!

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us. Get your own #buttbase sticker here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32901037-buttbase-sticker?p=sticker&size=small&size=small

Sex Toys 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 32 Jul 13, 2018

Jay and Sara continue their 101 series, this time to discuss sex toys! How do you find safe sex toys? What different types of sex toys exist? What the heck is an erogenous zone?? Answers to these questions and more on this week's QSE.

Show links:

http://dangerouslilly.com/toxictoys/

https://grapeshotmq.com.au/2016/11/the-ovipositor-the-infamous-egg-laying-dildo/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wOGqyYFjf0

Sex toys shops we trust:

www.toolshedtoys.com

www.smittenkittenonline.com

www.tantusinc.com

www.bad-dragon.com/shop

www.selfservetoys.com

www.vixen-creations.myshopify.com

www.myspare.com

Get your own #buttbase sticker here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/queersexed/works/32901037-buttbase-sticker?p=sticker&size=small&size=small

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Modern Queer and Kink Criminalization in the US - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 31 Jul 07, 2018

Sara and Jay finish their discussion from last week with how modern laws, policies, and structures continue to fuel queer criminalization today. Also discussed: ICE and immigration enforcement, BDSM criminalization case law, HIV laws, SESTA/FOSTA, mass incarceration, and more. Thanks for sticking with us through a pair of difficult and important episodes. Show links:

http://www.blackandpink.org/

https://blacklivesmatter.com/about/our-co-founders/

https://www.raicestexas.org/

https://lgbtbookstoprisoners.org/

https://www.thenation.com/article/heres-how-to-cop-watch/

https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/what-do-if-youre-stopped-police-immigration-agents-or-fbi

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oqggi1nJ-xrGaWZeBagc3W9QXeBj1AAisttB2seR3i8/edit?usp=sharing Additional links:

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/qvnyzq/central-america-atrocities-caused-immigration-crisis

https://truthout.org/articles/seeing-dystopia-and-dreaming-abolition-at-the-us-mexico-border/

http://www.latimes.com/local/lanow/la-me-ln-lawful-resident-20180628-htmlstory.html

https://www.mercurynews.com/2018/06/13/california-woman-in-shock-after-ice-agents-detain-father-a-legal-resident-outside-home/

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/nationworld/ct-trump-immigration-strip-citizenship-20180613-story.html

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html

http://www.brynntannehill.com/drums-in-the-deep/

https://thecorrespondent.com/5696/were-heading-into-dark-times-this-is-how-to-be-your-own-light-in-the-age-of-trump/1611114266432-e23ea1a6

http://www.nybooks.com/daily/2016/11/10/trump-election-autocracy-rules-for-survival/

https://www.policyalternatives.ca/publications/commentary/whos-boss

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

The History of Queer Criminalization - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 30 Jun 30, 2018

Sara and Jay cover a brief overview of ways that colonialist states have used police, incarceration, and state violence to criminalize and punish queer and trans people.

Show links: https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=622972320

https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-History-Studies-Susan-Stryker-ebook/dp/B004KPLWHG

https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-Warriors-Making-History-Dennis/dp/0807079413/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1530395938&sr=8-1&keywords=transgender+warriors+feinberg

http://bilerico.lgbtqnation.com/2008/02/transgender_history_trans_expression_in.php

http://www.transadvocate.com/so-what-was-stonewall_n_8424.htm

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sexuality Research and Academia - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 29 Jun 22, 2018

Sara and Jay sit down with Chris Barcelos, a researcher studying queer sexuality, teenage pregnancy, and health messaging. We discuss many different things including whether to double down on a moderate message in times of crisis or transform, messaging around teen pregnancy, how sex health is racist, the untold history of sexual health education in the USA, and much more.

QUEER AND TRANS SAFER SEX PROJECT - Chris's archival project of trans and queer sex ed: www.qtsafersex.omeka.net

Apply to be interviewed for Chris's research here, especially if you are a queer person of color and/or trans woman or MAAB non-binary person: https://queersafersexproject.youcanbook.me/

Learn more about Chris Barcelos at www.tinyurl.com/queersex

Lou Sullivan Biography: https://www.amazon.com/Lou-Sullivan-Daring-Man-Among-ebook/dp/B06XBM61VQ

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Bisexual is not Transphobic and Other Responses to Memes - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 28 Jun 16, 2018

This week we talked about a few different topics that have been in community conversation lately, but part of a much longer history: bisexual, pansexual, omnisexual, and polysexual as sexual identities are not transphobic. We also discuss how dating preferences are informed by cis white heteropatriarchy, challenging your own assumptions, and dealing with the difference between a bigoted preference and a response to past trauma. (As a side note, we recorded this before the hoax campaign to "drop the B" was started by 4chan and spread by other false social media accounts, but yeah... that's crap and don't share it or give them any more spotlight than it takes to debunk the memes when you see them on a friend's wall.) Other links:

Does Race Affect Your Dating Life? | Decoded | MTV News: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=reuxx06KgMw

Racism in Gay Dating?!? Ft. Dylan Marron | Decoded | MTV: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTyDGiFZk98

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Femme - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 27 Jun 10, 2018

Sara and Jay dive into a deep discussion of femme as an identity, expression, and way of being in the world. Also discussed: being femme in public, femme invisibility, non-binary femme, androgyny as a masculine default, and more.

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

QSE Listener Questions 2 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 26 Jun 01, 2018

Sara and Jay are back from a mini-break to answer your questions! Thank you to everyone who sent in a question, which you can also do at queersexed@gmail.com.

Topics discussed include: STI disclosure, cutting a glove to make a dental dam, building a personal/community safety plan that doesn't involve police, icebreaker games for sex education groups, cis allyship, and dating at work. "Game On! The Ultimate Sexuality Education Gaming Guide" - https://books.google.com/books/about/Game_On.html?id=C49fMwEACAAJ

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Audio Article - When You Say “I Would Never Date A Trans Person,” It’s Transphobic, Here’s Why - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 25 May 17, 2018

JAY IS HERE! We will be recording episodes in person to release over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, I wanted to share another article I wrote on Medium with you. This one is about dating and transphobia.

Content warning for discussions of transmisogyny, violence against trans people, and queerphobia

Read along at https://medium.com/@QSE/when-you-say-i-would-never-date-a-trans-person-its-transphobic-here-s-why-aa6fdcf59aca

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Sex Education (Part 2) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 24 May 10, 2018

This is the second part of our conversation about sex ed! This week Jay and Sara discuss what it means to center education on the most marginalized identities, content we would like to see in sexual education, and some conversation about how openly exploring sexuality has changed our lives. For more on the FRC from Brynn Tannehill: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/brynn-tannehill/and-then-they-came-for-tr_b_9258678.html

You can send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sex Education (Part 1) - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 23 May 04, 2018

Sara and Jay reflect on their first year of the Queer Sex Ed Podcast in addition to talking about the politics of what we call "comprehensive" sex ed. This discussion went over three hours, so we split it into two parts. The second part will be available next Thursday.

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Queering Sex Ed at Gender Infinity Conference 2017 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 22 Apr 27, 2018

Sara delivered this presentation at the Gender Infinity Conference in Houston just a few days after leaving her job to do Queer Sex Ed full time. Topics include: who gets left out of sex ed, expanding the scope of sex ed, and where our sexual scripts come from.

In preparation for our next episode about comprehensive sex ed, we wanted to share the audio of this presentation with you. Next week, we will dive even deeper into what comprehensive sex ed looks like and how we can make it happen.

You can view the version of this talk with slides at http://www.queersexed.org/training-and-workshops/

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Reproductive Justice and Family Building - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 21 Apr 21, 2018

Jay and Sara discuss the broad spectrum of reproductive justice work as well as contraception, abortion, adoption, foster care, and ART (assisted reproductive technologies) from a trans-focused and queer-focused perspective. http://sistersong.net/reproductive-justice/

https://forwardtogether.org/

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sexually Transmitted Infections and Getting Tested - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 20 Apr 05, 2018

This week Jay and Sara talk about Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs) including a discussion of the word "risk", tips on how you can talk to your partner, and some STI facts you probably never learned in school. CDC GYT materials: https://www.cdc.gov/std/sam/ More info: https://www.teenvogue.com/story/planned-parenthood-std-awareness-videos-get-yourself-tested

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/would_i_see_sti_symptoms_in_a_month

http://www.scarleteen.com/tags/sti_testing

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexual-health

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QSE Listener Questions - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 19 Mar 28, 2018

Sara and Jay answer your questions on this week's show! Topics include: speaking at universities, consent to have difficult conversations, coming out and finding community later in life, healing polyamory trauma, and shifting how we teach sex ed. Resources discussed: https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Conflict and Cheating - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 18 Mar 22, 2018

This week Sara and Jay discuss different types of conflict that happen in relationships, share communication skills for more effective conflict resolution, and talk about the difference between active and passive communication. Also discussed: cheating, heteronormative scripts, and emotional labor.

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Ethical Communication - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 17 Mar 16, 2018

Jay and Sara talk about talking! How can you communicate with your partners, friends, and fuck buddies in a way that is direct, honest, and kind. Also discussed: metamours, sexual communication, and mental health in relationships.

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Submission - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 16 Mar 10, 2018

This week, Sara and Jay dive deep into submission, including a discussion of different types of pain, what subspace actually is, how some people use kink to heal from trauma, different types of submissive terms you may see online, and consensual nonconsent play (with a timestamp to skip the discussion, if you'd like).

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Audio Article - The XX and XY Lie: Our Social Construction of a Sex and Gender Binary - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 15 Mar 03, 2018

Sara reads her article on Medium about binary sex and gender. Sara and Jay were unable to record this week, but will be back next week with a discussion episode about submission! You can read the text version of the article in this episode at www.medium.com/@QSE/the-xx-xy-lie-our-social-construction-of-a-sex-and-gender-binary-4eed1e60e615

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Dominance, Orgasm Denial, and Kink Self-Care - Queer Sex Ed: Episode 14 Feb 23, 2018

Sara and Jay discuss all things dominance! This episode dives deep into the kink role that has the control in a BDSM scene and all of the different facets of dominance that don't usually get talked about in kinky conversations.

Also discussed: Playing with orgasm denial, dealing with sub drop and dom drop, and interrupting toxic masculinity in dominance.

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Trans Dating and Sex Positivity on KBOOs Transpositive Radio Show - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 13 Feb 16, 2018

Sara was interviewed on Portland's KBOO Radio Station for their Transpositive weekly show. They talked about why Sara started QSE, sex positivity, and the magic of trans people dating each other.

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Interview with Marla Renee Stewart, Founder of Sex Down South and Velvet Lips - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 12 Feb 08, 2018

Sara talks with Marla Renee Stewart from Sex Down South and Velvet Lips about helping people find sexual confidence, sharing your desires with your partners, starting the Sex Down South Conference, her experiences in academia as a sex researcher, and finding love for her body.

You can find more of Marla's work at the following links:

www.velvetlipsllc.com

www.sexdownsouthatl.com

www.sistersofsexuality.com

www.sexualliberationcollective.com

www.o.school

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Sharing Your Desires - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 11 Feb 06, 2018

Sara and Jay discuss how you can share your sexual and intimate desires, including strategies for starting the conversation, tools you can use to find where your desires overlap, and ways you can build communicative relationships in every aspect of your life.

Also discussed: fetish, fetishization, and a question about being in polyamorous and kink communities as a therapist.

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Bex Talks Sex Yes/No/Maybe list: http://www.bextalkssex.com/yes-no-maybe/

Scarleteen's Yes, No, Maybe sexuality checklist: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist

Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire by Jamie Grant (leader of the Desire Mapping session discussed in this episode) http://www.mappingyourdesire.com/book/

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Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Long Term Relationships and Long Distance Relationships - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 10 Jan 30, 2018

Sara and Jay discuss different types of LTRs and LDRs, including thoughts on how you can keep connecting over distance and time with the same person or people, how to ask for what you need, and ways you can work together to build your relationships collaboratively.

Also discussed: Consent, #metoo, the impact of sexual violence, and sex toys for fat bodies.

Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about our mission available at www.queersexed.org. This show is made possible by our generous Patreon supporters! If you find the show helpful and you are financially able to support us, consider joining our Patreon community at www.patreon.com/QueerSexEd. Any amount you can give makes a huge difference for us.

Identifying Desire, Asexuality, and Aromanticism - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 9 Jan 19, 2018

Hey friends! Sara and Jay discuss desire, exploration, and how you can identify what you want, learn more about sexual activities you may want to try, and how you could pursue those desires alone or with other folks. Also discussed: Asexual/aromantic identities and a discussion of poly friendships and asexual relationships.

Bex Talks Sex Yes/No/Maybe list: http://www.bextalkssex.com/yes-no-maybe/

Scarleteen's Yes, No, Maybe sexuality checklist: http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist

Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire by Jamie Grant (leader of the Desire Mapping session discussed in this episode) http://www.mappingyourdesire.com/book/

Ending Relationships, Allyship, and Sex Work - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 8 Jan 13, 2018

This week on Queer Sex Ed, we talk about ending relationships in an ethical and direct way. Topics discussed include why relationships end, strategies for ending relationships, and thoughts on how to talk about challenges in a relationship. Also discussed: allyship as an action, dealing with toxic family, and the different types of sex work. Please send your questions to queersexed@gmail.com for us to answer them on future shows. More information about out mission available at www.queersexed.org.

Queerness, Performing Arts, and Trans Dating with Woodzick from the Theatrical Mustang Podcast - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 7 Dec 08, 2017

Sara sits down with her friend Woodzick, creator of the Non-Binary Monologues Project and host of the Theatrical Mustang Podcast to discuss many different topics including trans allyship, queerness, trans dating, and being in the performing arts as a non-binary person.

You can listen to episodes of Woodzick's podcast at www.theatricalmustang.podbean.com/ or on any podcast app.

You can find out more about the Non-Binary Monologues Project here: www.nonbinarymonologues.wordpress.com/

You can find out more about Woodzick's stage show featuring Sara here: www.facebook.com/events/131741140865479/

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Jealousy, Compersion, and Building Inclusive Spaces - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 6 Nov 27, 2017

Episode 6 is finally here! We talk about what jealousy actually is, how jealousy is a second-order emotion, and how you can reverse engineer your jealousy to discover more about your own needs, insecurities, and unmet desires. This discussion draws deeply from this article on More Than Two: https://www.morethantwo.com/jealousypractice.html This show also includes a conversation about how you can help make all spaces more intersectionally inclusive. There is also a short segment about compersion, a word that describes the joy poly people feel when they see their partners have pleasure and joy with another person. Finally, we have an amazing announcement! Thanks to our supporters on Patreon at www.patreon.com/queersexed, QSE will now be a weekly podcast! We're so excited to bring you more content, interviews, live shows, and collaboration with other shows. We still need your financial support, so if you believe in this work and you're in a position where you can help, any amount is meaningful for making this show sustainable for a long-term future. When we reach $1,000 a month, we will launch a queer-focused media discussion podcast! Theme Music by: The Platypussies Additional music provided by: Secession Studios . . . This episode of Queer Sex Ed was brought to you by: Emily, Sophie, and 20 other generous Patreon Subscribers. You can check out more from our supporters below You can submit your work to Tooth N Nail Vol. 2 here: submit@bytoothnnail.com You can support Sophie Labelle here: https://www.etsy.com/shop/AssignedMale

Threesomes, Foursomes, and Moresomes - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 5 Oct 25, 2017

Sara and Jay are BACK from a two month hiatus and we're talking about one of our favorite topics, group sex! What is a unicorn? How can you find more group sex in your life? What does aftercare look like when you've had group sex? Answers to these questions and more, including your voicemail questions, on QSE this month! We also discuss helping a partner work through past trauma, kink on a budget, hooking up 101, and a ton of other things.

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What is Queer Sex Ed? Oct 02, 2017

Queer Sex Ed is an imperative statement. When we call to "Queer" Sex Ed, it is a call-to-arms for sexual health educators, schools, parents, and people in all types of relationships to intentionally "queer" the institutions of sexual communication, sexual health, interpersonal relationships, and relationship structure. We believe that we must turn sex ed on its head. Even when sex ed is at its best, it is often (intentionally or unintentionally) exclusionary of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, gender queer, gender fluid and, agender people, polyamorous people, asexual people, people with disabilities, and so many more social groups who engage in just as many relationships as straight, cisgender, and monogamous people, but who are forced to do so through uncharted waters, lack of media representation, and massive social stigma. Listen to episodes of our podcast in Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or any other podcast app on iPhone, Android, and Windows Phone. capbr7ns Click here to listen online. Please send your feedback, guest ideas, and booking inquiries for workshops to: queersexed@gmail.com

Sara at Bedpost Confessions and Slutwalk - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 4 Sep 02, 2017

Hey friends, it's Sara! Even though the show is technically still on hiatus until October, I thought it might be fun to share two performances I recently had at sex positive events. I grabbed the audio track from when I performed my monologue about my first threesome at Bedpost Confessions and also the poetry I read as a speaker at Slutwalk 2017. I hope you enjoy these quickies, and we will be back in the middle of October with another full-size episode hosted by myself and Jay. vwpagifu

Solo Polyamory, Transition, and Kink with Lisa from the Elephant Talk Podcast - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 3 Aug 12, 2017

This week we are cross-posting an interview Sara did on the Elephant Talk Podcast! She will be on an upcoming episode in Elephant Talk Season 2, but Lisa and Kim wanted us to post the full, unedited Director's Cut version of the interview here, since we recorded way more content then they will be able to use in their shorter format. Sara dives deep in this episode into her own experience of her trans body, her current relationship style of Solo Polyamory, and her thoughts on kink, communication, and consent. You can subscribe to Elephant Talk on Apple Podcasts or any podcasting app of your choice (and I'd highly recommend it). You can also follow them on Facebook at www.facebook.com/ElephantTalkPodcast and online at www.elephanttalk.org

Kink and BDSM 101 - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 2 May 31, 2017

Sara and Jay dive right into the deep end with Kink and BDSM 101. We discuss intro level Kink and BDSM topics from a queer perspective. Discussion topics include the meaning of bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism, SSC (Safe, Sane Consensual) vs RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink), and different ways to get into the BDSM community.

This show was inspired by email to queersexed@gmail.com, please send your questions and ideas for future shows!

Sex Positivity - Queer Sex Ed Podcast: Episode 1 Apr 22, 2017

This is our first episode! Sara and Jay introduce the show and discuss what it means to "queer" sex ed. Discussion topics include: sex positivity, normalization vs destigmatization, how to tell partners about a sexually transmitted infection (STI), and what it means to center trans and queer people.

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