Stay ConnectedIt’s time to start running your money so it doesn’t run you. Your host, Veronica Grant, a certified personal finance consultant, will help you navigate debt, spending, saving, and investing in plain English (and make it fun!). Listen weekly on Tuesdays for a deep dive into a money topic and on Fridays as she answers questions from the community.
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https://www.creditkarma.com/home-loans/i/average-home-value-increase-per-year
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***Everything You Need to Know About Investing is OPEN!***
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When I invest and teach others to, I focus on investing where historical statistical analysis backs up my actions. I don't recommend investing where unicorns and luck are required for success.
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schwab.com/research/mutual-funds/quotes/summary/swlsx
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To be clear, nothing, including ANY investing, is 100% guaranteed. But this habit gets you as close as you can be.
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Investing isn't as risky as you think. I'll show you why.
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https://www.investopedia.com/ask/answers/042415/what-average-annual-return-sp-500.asp
https://www.fool.com/investing/2020/01/06/the-10-best-performing-stocks-of-the-decade.aspx
https://investor.vanguard.com/investment-products/mutual-funds/profile/vfiax#performance-fees
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There are four things you can do with an old 401k, and I've ranked them from the worst to the best thing you can do.
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Not running your money can cost you big time. Here are three major ways.
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How much money do you need in your emergency fund and retirement accounts? Let's crunch some numbers.
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Beyond the spreadsheet, how much money do you actually need? Here's a new and different way to answer that question.
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Welcome to the Run Your Money Show! Listen to learn about what's missing (and wrong) in the financial advice industry and where this podcast fills the gaps. Whether you're stressed about money or unsure how to optimize what you have so you can buy your lattes now while still being smart, this podcast is for you.
No BS, no judgment, and no shame.
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In the final summer bonus episode, I share the future of this podcast and my business. I've got some fun things cooking up I can't wait to share! Also - I share my birth story and how postpartum has been going.
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How do you manage money in a relationship? What if you have different spending/saving styles? Can one person in the relationship manage the money? We answer these questions and more in this episode!
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How do you overcome money scarcity? What's the problem (and benefit) of money mindset? What if you want more money, maybe a lot more money, butyou feel guilty about that or wonder how that contributes to societal inequality? We dive into all this and more!
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When do you talk about money in dating? How? What's "appropriate" and what's not? I share it all in this episode.
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Everyone! Meet Kira Sabin of the Relationship Quotient. If you're looking for someone to turn to for dating/relationship support as I transition in my business, Kira is your girl. In this episode, we talk about the state of dating, how we got here, and what we can do about it.
Plus - Kira has an entirely different perspective on online dating that I find fascinating.
If dating feels like the worst right now... or always keep coming up empty, this episode is a MUST LISTEN.
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Bonus - I'm sharing some bonus episodes I think you'll love between now and when I launch my new show in the fall! First up - a deeper look at why I transitioned into my business. It's been brewing for a long time, plus a vulnerable share of what's been going on for me behind the scenes. Enjoy!
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When you’re expecting a new child, it not only changes everything but it also presents a new opportunity.
Being in the dating and relationship business since 2015, I’ve released well over 300 episodes of the Love Life Connection. A couple of months ago, you heard me announce the addition of a second part to my business (relating to money). And at the time, I thought I’d be doing both.
But I’ll be on maternity leave for the birth of my second child... meaning that this podcast will be paused. However, when it resumes, things won’t be the same.
In this episode of the Love Life Connection, you’ll learn about what’s changing with the show (and my business). I’ll tell you everything you need to know about the rebrand happening behind the scenes and how it all affects you.
3:19 - Why this episode feels like a full circle moment
7:01 - My relationship to money and the link between relationship red flags and money fears
9:53 - One thing some law of attraction/money manifesting teachers get right
13:07 - The direction I’m moving in and why I have some fear about it
17:04 - My tentative plan as of now
23:50 - Why it’s important for women to talk about money
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram, Tik Tok, or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to An Important Update and Goodbye (For Now!), here are your next steps:Sign up for the Run Your Money and Pay Off Your Debts masterclasses.
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Download the Money Checklist or Money Meditation Bundle.
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The high vibe versus low vibe obsession in the self-help world makes me want to throw up. People-pleasers and those who want to take the high road all the time usually act that way because they’ve been conditioned into this whole high vibe/low vibe idea.
It’s a misinterpretation regarding positive energy and positive thinking. But it can lead to a lack of boundaries that leaves you feeling really drained and resentful because you’ve trained people to expect you to always say ‘Yes’ to whatever they ask of you.
So if you struggle with boundaries, are a people pleaser, or think you need to be high vibe all the time, then you're really going to relate to my client and caller Irina’s situation. She’s feeling the pressure of staying high vibe, and it’s created inner turmoil and stress when she’s triggered by people who don’t respect her time and energy.
In this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn how to respond when others hurt your feelings and exploit your lack of boundaries when you’re trying to stay in a positive mindset. I’ll teach you why you should focus on your state of being instead of emotions from moment to moment, how to change your relationship with a toxic workplace, and what to do about difficult people in your life.
8:46 - The big picture of emotions and your overall state of being
14:27 - What you can do when someone hurts your feelings and you take it personally
19:21 - The only two options you have when you’re in a toxic work environment
21:58 - The common denominator in Irina’s situation (and what she fears may happen by asserting boundaries)
26:20 - A familiar method you can use for people in your life and how to train yourself to set boundaries
34:07 - Breaking down the call with Irina with some key takeaways
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After you listen to How to Keep Your Vibes Up When Others Are Trying to Pull You Down with Irina, here are your next steps:Listen to episode 306: “How to Have Rock-Solid Boundaries in Dating: A Masterclass.”
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Money in your relationship will come up eventually, whether you want it to or not.
When you get ready to move in together or buy a house, you’ll have to decide how you’re going to pay the bills and who’s financially responsible for what. Or one of you might want to put something in your name because one person has good credit while the other doesn’t.
But must you have your financial situation in order before you start dating? That’s not a question with a simple yes or no answer.
So in this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn about what I think you do and don’t need to have, financially-speaking, before you date. Along the way, I’ll use examples of how me and my husband do things financially to help illustrate what I’m talking about.
4:11 - What you don’t need to have financially before dating or getting into a serious relationship
9:47 - The foundational piece you must have before you’re really ready to be in a serious relationship
11:41 - Having your own financial system in place around spending, saving, and investing
15:18 - The unfair U.S. financial system and what you need to know about your partner financially
20:16 - The more important thing for you to discover about your partner than their salary
21:58 - A consequence of not having your own strong money system
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You’ve heard so many cliches about change--“change is good,” “change is painful,” “be the change you want to see in the world,” and on and on. When it comes to relationships, though--especially the long-term kind like marriage--the “ideal” (according to society) is of stability, both externally and internally.
The image of the home, the 2.5 kids, the dog, and the white picket fence has become a cliche itself, as has the idea of couples growing old together and doing the same things they’ve always done. Not everyone desires that path, though, nor does the path or destination to a long-term relationship (in whatever form you want it to take) have to be conventional, either.
You may be able to relate to my old client (and past podcast guest) Antoinette. She last appeared on the Love Life Connection a couple of years ago and since then has gotten a part-time job that takes her around the world. But she feels the lack of a stable, physical address and the internal changes she’s undergone in the meantime makes it harder for her to meet someone and form a long-term relationship.
Her situation seems symbolic of this “post pandemic” world as we embrace new ways of being, living, and working. So in this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll hear more about the beliefs underlying Antoinette’s uncertainty and the big transformation she’s undergone over the past couple of years. I’ll reveal how you can unplug from your unwanted beliefs around dating, relationships, and marriage and why change isn’t a bad thing (for you or your relationship).
10:43 - Why Antoinette reframed her desires since her last show appearance
19:26 - Antoinette’s new vantage point and the issue that brings up resistance
26:00 - Why you’re constantly changing (even when you think you aren’t) and why that shouldn’t stop you from dating
30:44 - Practical exercises to uncover and sever limiting beliefs about marriage
33:55 - Why an unconventional career or lifestyle doesn’t need to be an impossible obstacle for a long-term relationship
37:42 - The inner child work trap you don’t want to fall into (especially if you’re a newbie)
45:42 - Recapping the call with Antoinette with a few key reiterations
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to How to Date When You Travel A Lot or Are Becoming a New Version of You with Antoinette, here are your next steps:Listen to the past episode with Antoinette.
Sign up for the Run Your Money and Pay Off Your Debts masterclasses.
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There’s always something going on in pop culture or the news cycle relating to love and relationships. And for the fourth episode of the month, I usually pick a topic from one or the other, analyze it, and share what I think it can mean for you.
Today on the podcast, you’ll hear me draw from both the news and pop culture wells. The New York Times recently published a piece on couples’ sleeping situations, and Chelsea Handler made a choice that Tucker Carlson and company don’t like very much. And both of them touch on some pretty controversial matters that illustrate a shift in attitudes from more traditional ways of doing things.
So in this episode of the Love Life Connection, you’ll learn about the NYT article claims regarding the bedroom situation for couples and why I disagree with a couple of their conclusions. You’ll also discover the underlying reason for Carlson’s angry reaction to Handler and why it should actually thrill you.
8:30 - What the New York Times article claims and what me, my husband, and some of my friends do
10:41 - The “pink flag” expert consensus and one reason why I don’t buy it
21:10 - Why the NYT’s second argument feels way off, too
26:09 - Tucker Carlson’s reaction to a recent Chelsea Handler appearance in the media
33:24 - What the Handler vs. Carlson exchange really shows on a macro level
37:21 - What Carlson’s reaction means for you and why it’s a good sign that people like him feel threatened
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to Chelsea Handler’s Child-Free Choice and Couples Opting for Separate Bedroom: Secret to Long-Lasting Love Or the Beginning Of the End?, here are your next steps:Read the New York Times article and watch Childfree Millennial’s video.
Listen to the January episode on lonely single men.
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Many women relate to their Bumble account similar to how they relate to their bank account, or so it seems. They don’t want to look at it and are even afraid of logging into it. It touches on core wounds around worthiness and value; they’d rather do something else.
In the same vein, lots of people have misunderstandings when it comes to investing. They think it’s only for rich people or really risky. But it doesn’t have to be.
My caller today, Laura, wants to know how to start investing her money. And while she’s based in Europe, anyone in the world can benefit from our conversation because a lot about your relationship with money doesn’t change regardless of where you live. In addition, you'll discover some similarities between how investing works in the U.S. and other countries.
So in this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn where to start investing, the difference between retirement accounts and investment funds you can choose, and how to start building your own portfolio. I’ll teach you how to prepare for retirement (and where you can get free money) and use concrete examples to see how investing can work over time.
13:27 - Laura’s beliefs around investing and the type of investments I do and don’t recommend
16:57 - The difference between a pension and a retirement account
19:05 - Why employee retirement benefits are the best deal for most people
21:33 - The difference between a ROTH and a SIPP account
24:50 - What to look for in terms of financial limits on your accounts
27:19 - Why you should ditch the stock shopping idea and go for an index fund instead
30:34 - How index funds are different from (and better than) mutual funds and how to choose one
34:11 - Should you build your own portfolio or let someone else do it?
36:45 - How to access index funds and the disadvantage of setting up a 401(k) at work
40:16 - Quickly recapping the call with Laura
41:13 - Why I buy individual stocks sometimes, even though I don’t typically recommend it
43:21 - My #1 recommended investment bank and the importance of low fees
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to Run Your Money: How To Start Investing with Laura, here are your next steps:Listen to episode 350.
Sign up for the Run Your Money workshop.
Open up an account with Vanguard.
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
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There’s a problem with a lot of dating and relationship stuff you see on platforms like Instagram...
You’ve probably experienced that light bulb feeling when you resonate with a piece of advice you see online. But you need to apply an extra filter when scrolling through a social media feed, watching a Youtube video, or listening to a podcast episode.
When someone posts something that makes you go “Ah-ha!”, do you ask yourself: Does this apply to me at all? Or does it apply to me in my specific situation right now? A lot of the time, there’s nuances that the content creator doesn’t (and in some cases, can’t) account for which might make their advice inapplicable to you and your circumstance.
But how would you know that for sure? In this episode of the Love Life Connection, you’ll discover three caveats to the usual relationship advice offered out there. I’ll tell you how to know whether or not something applies to you (and why even what I share with you on this show or elsewhere has caveats to it, too).
Along the way, you’ll see examples of bad vs. triggering behaviors, learn one thing I have my clients do when they’re trying to get over an ex, and discover what you can do when faced with a difficult relationship you can’t just easily cut off.
2:24 - The big secret of doing the necessary work to find your person
12:37 - Caveat #1: knowing the difference between a trigger and bad behavior
18:39 - Caveat #2: how your habits and values pair with someone else’s
22:49 - Caveat #3: how you treat a relationship you’ve chosen vs. one you didn’t
27:42 - The tricky part of dealing with difficult relationships you didn’t choose
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to Three Caveats to Typical Relationship Advice, here are your next steps:Listen to episodes 349 and 350 and the March 2023 bonus episode.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory session here.
Sign up for the Run Your Money workshop.
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You can’t exactly replicate someone else’s experience. You have viewpoints, skills, weaknesses, and other things you bring to the table that differ from everyone else. But listening to others who are willing to share their story about what did or didn’t work for them can reveal a nugget you can pull out and apply to your situation.
That’s why I’m so excited to have one of my very first clients ever, Katy, on the Love Life Connection podcast today. Through her sharing her story on this episode, you’ll get a glimpse of what the internal process can look like when I coach you through your dating struggles. And ultimately, you’ll discover just how close you and “the one” might be right now.
1:18 - A big announcement and how it’ll affect working with me in the short-term
18:17 - What Katy’s love life looks like right now and her emotionally unavailability at the beginning stages
25:31 - Why inner child work was still necessary for Katy despite her good relationship with her parents
28:29 - How Katy met Brian (and the surprise they both discovered about their relationship)
32:11 - How Katy knew that he was “the one” and that she was really ready to move forward in her love life
36:45 - What has helped Katy and her relationship the most during our work together
39:04 - Why dating isn’t just about dating
41:58 - What I mean when I say things can happen fast when you do the work
45:23 - The message that really sticks out from this conversation with Katy
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to You Never Know How Close You Really Are To Your Person with Katy, here are your next steps:Listen to episode 350 about big changes coming and episode 154 with Kristen Rice.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory session here.
Sign up for the Run Your Money workshop.
Get my book You Are Meant for Love.
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What’s your money story?
Do you feel anxious whenever the topic of money comes up in conversation? Does everything seem too expensive to you? Do you scoff at the very idea of investing because you assume you can’t afford it or think it’s too risky? Do you spend every penny when you get it or feel guilty when you spend even on necessary things?
If you’re still playing out a money story that doesn’t serve you anymore, then any spending, saving, or investment plan you come up with will most likely backfire. You’ll have a difficult time sticking with it.
But you can always create a new money story for yourself, and in April you can join in on my two-part masterclass designed to help you do just that. In this episode of Love Life Connection, you’ll get a little preview and learn how budgeting puts you and the wealthy on the same level, why investing your money can be simpler and less scary than it seems, and ways you can give money (beyond charitable contributions) and earn more money on the side.
9:14 - A recap of my money story growing up and how it influenced me as an adult
12:16 - Why I don’t like the money mindset concept and the importance of understanding your money story
19:53 - Why you don’t have to resent having a budget
22:06 - Putting to rest the myth that rich people don’t have budgets
25:34 - Savings and the difference between savings and investments
29:13 - Why investments seem more complicated than they actually are
35:39 - Why investing doesn’t require risking it all or having lots of money upfront to do it
38:10 - Ways you can vote with your dollars (and the real truth about the charitable tax break)
42:44 - Three ways to earn more money and the benefits of having a side income
48:13 - Details on my two-part masterclass coming up next month
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to How to Spend Smarter, Save Strategically, and Grow Your Money, here are your next steps:Listen to episode 350: “My Announcement for Some Big Changes Around Here”.
Listen to episode 352: “12 Key Takeaways for Online Dating, and What That Means For You”.
Sign up here for my 2-Part Masterclass, Get Your Debt Paid Off (optional) and Run Your Money.
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We’re living in a swipe right, swipe left world. Online dating sites have existed since even before Match.com became a thing in the mid 1990s. But now? New dating apps aren’t just popping up all the time, they’ve gotten niche-y with it too!
In addition to the mainstream ones, you can find dating sites based on a religion, others for farmers and other rural area dwellers, etc. Whatever demographic you can think of, a dating app probably exists for it by now.
Recently, Pew Research Center did a study on online dating in the U.S. that I found interesting and want to share with you. In it, they discovered 12 key takeaways, some of which aren’t so surprising while others definitely caught me off guard.
I won’t talk about all 12 due to length of time. But in this episode of the Love Life Connection podcast, you’ll learn six of the key findings Pew discovered about online dating in the U.S. and what they might mean for you and your love life. Even if you’re not from the U.S., you’ll still want to listen to this episode as so much of it still can apply internationally.
8:05 - A surprising takeaway about dating site and app usage among adults
10:03 - The most popular online dating site and why your location matters
14:39 - Why online dating can feel a lot more toxic to some people
20:43 - How women and men feel after using online dating platforms over the past year
25:55 - What dating algorithms can’t do and the right mindset to have when you use a dating app
29:17 - A takeaway people are split on that I’m hesitant to talk about
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to 12 Key Takeaways for Online Dating, and What That Means For You, here are your next steps:Read the Pew Research Center article here to get all 12 takeaways.
Listen to episode 350 about my announcement, January’s episode about a Psychology Today study and how that ties into the last U.S. midterms, and episode 348 about the business of marriage (featuring Warren Buffet’s previous open marriage).
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory session here.
Get my Conscious Online Dating Blueprint Workshop here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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Romantic comedies, dramas, novels, soap operas... we access so many things where we see the idea of having a soulmate come into play. And as soon as “the one” appears, the relationship just clicks and everything is perfect.
Or is it? How do you find the balance between passion and having a healthy relationship, if one of those criteria is lacking?
Today’s caller has a history of being in toxic relationships and starts off the call asking how you know when a relationship is right. But almost immediately, the real question she wants answered reveals itself.
1:14 - My opinion about the whole soulmate concept that relieves the pressure
6:47 - The real question underneath the caller’s question
9:24 - The difference between the two ways you can have sex
14:42 - Can a healthy relationship also be an exciting one for the caller?
20:25 - How to effectively approach a difficult conversation with your partner
22:52 - Why sex in toxic relationships can oftentimes feel like an addiction
25:24 - The importance of making agreements in relationships
30:53 - Getting clear on the love language in your relationship
38:07 - Why the belief “If it’s meant to be, it should be easy” is a myth
44:04 - Summarizing, highlighting, and expanding on the key points from the call
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:Get Mama Gena’s Pussy: A Reclamation.
Are you done with where you are right now? With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your session here.
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
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Ever feel like there’s something missing in some area of your life or that you’re meant to be doing something else?
Perhaps you’ve been in it (whatever it is) for a while but have had this nagging feeling that there’s a piece you could fit into the puzzle to make it even better. Or you want to change things up a bit because it’s become stale.
The answer to your biggest nagging question can often be found right in front of you. I love doing relationship coaching. But I’ve been feeling like there’s something else to do in my business for the last six or 12 months, at least. I didn’t figure out what, though, until a sudden realization hit me on my birthday last December.
So there are changes coming to Love Life Connection. In this episode, you’ll learn about what it is, how the idea for it came about, why I’m pursuing this, and what you can expect to be different from now on.
2:05 - What sparked the change coming (and how it contradicts something I’ve said on this show)
12:09 - The astrological connection between love and money
17:47 - What’s changing and why I’m so passionate about it
20:31 - Where you’ll actually see the biggest impact
26:38 - Examples of what having your money run you looks like
31:17 - Introducing the Run Your Money workshop and what you’ll get if you sign up
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to My Announcement for Some Big Changes Around Here, here are your next steps:Sign up for the Run Your Money workshop.
Get I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi.
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
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What do the law of attraction have in common with Christianity?
You’ve probably run into the law of attraction idea of “attracting” circumstances, events, and people into your life based on your beliefs or “vibration” or whatever. Even if what you’re consuming isn’t specifically about the law, it can’t help but pervade personal growth spaces the same way Judeo-Christian standards pervade society even if you don’t identify as Christian.
And this plays a part in a big misconception about inner child work (or personal growth, in general)-- the idea that doing it makes you invincible to problems. If trouble arises in your relationship, for example, then it’s because you didn’t do enough healing and still need to work on yourself.
But there’s only so much work that inner work can do. And this brings me to today’s coaching call on the Love Life Connection podcast. Laura doesn’t like who she’s been attracting in relationships. So she wanted to know how she can be better as a partner without sacrificing too much of herself.
But is she the problem, or is something else going on? In this episode, you’ll learn how to know where you need to grow or heal yourself and when it’s time to just kick the other person to the curb. I’ll also talk about why Laura’s question is such a loaded one and how you can start a relationship off on the right foot.
7:35 - The root of what’s really behind Laura’s dilemma
14:06 - How Laura’s difficulty with boundaries ties back to her parents’ relationship
22:27 - Why you should look at boundary setting from a win-win perspective
25:20 - Where Laura should focus her attention more (instead of on who she’s attracting)
34:09 - Wrapping up with a recap of the call with Laura
37:00 - How you can start a relationship off right from the beginning
41:42 - The power of inner child work to make boundary-setting easier
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to How to Be a “Better” Partner in a Relationship with Laura, here are your next steps:Listen to past episodes 223, 269, or 290 about the law of attraction and episodes 197, 234, or 239 about how to do inner child work.
Consider reading Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller.
Listen to episode 346: “How to Spend Your Money and Time Dating Better.”
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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You just found out the person you’re dating is going through a divorce that hasn’t been finalized yet. Do you pump the breaks on it? And if so, could you actually be convinced not to?
Talk about a hot take! Obviously, not everyone feels the same way. For many people, though, this situation is an immediate deal breaker, and you might be one of them. (In fact, many of my clients agree; I’ve got the DMs and emails to prove it).
But if you find yourself in this scenario, unless there are other red flags in your relationship, it’s at least worth thinking about from a different perspective. It might even surprise you to know that open marriages are quite common, including among people you’ve definitely heard of.
In this episode of Love Life Connection, you’ll learn the story of billionaire investor Warren Buffet’s open marriage and the benefits of staying married even after the love is gone. I also talk about red flags to beware of if you’re dating someone in this situation, as well as the business of marriage and how it still applies if you’re dating and living together.
5:59 - The open marriage of Warren Buffett (and why it was beneficial)
9:32 - The two parts to a relationship (and which part to watch for any red flags)
15:07 - How marriage is like a business
19:31 - The separate or combined accounts conundrum
22:13 - Another area you need to get clear on to have the space for romance in a marriage
25:36 - What if you’re living together but not married?
29:43 - My goal for you when it comes to dating and money
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to Should Someone Still Married On Paper Be A Deal Breaker For You?, here are your next steps:Book your Love Incubator Exploratory Call or read more about the program here.
Read Business Insider’s article on Warren Buffett’s open marriage.
Listen to episode 346: “How to Spend Your Money and Time Dating Better.”
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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Paige is no stranger to doing the inner work. She’s done A LOT of it! When she and I started working together, she’d been in therapy for a while, but her love life wasn’t changing the way she wanted it to. She needed something extra, and she found it through Love Incubator.
Now, Paige is here to talk about the work she did through the program. In this episode, she reveals how the work I taught her through it helped her finally release past hurt, confidently get back online, and deal with fear and rejection differently.
8:41 - Where Paige was stuck when she decided to join Love Incubator and how she healed herself
15:31 - Other things that have shifted for Paige (and how the lockdown helped her)
21:35 - What you can do vs what you can’t, even in the midst of a pandemic
23:40 - What being a part of the Love Incubator group was like for Paige
28:42 - The one hesitation Paige had before joining and what she’s grateful for about the experience
31:46 - What the Love Incubator program is all about and how to join
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
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As a Capricorn, I have an innate love for personal finance. I can nerd out and consume things like investing, budgeting, saving, paying off debt, and more for days. But I also believe that we relate to money the same way we relate to the people we date. In fact, we tie our worthiness to these things, especially women.
So how are they similar, and how do you decouple your self-worth from your finances and your love life? In this episode, I talk about the connection between where you spend money and who you date.
9:30 - The investment I used to make while dating and the policy that changed everything
13:50 - A common pattern I’ve noticed in some clients who use the same policy
16:21 - The parallels between your romantic relationships and your relationship with money
20:03 - What happens when you let money control you instead of you controlling it
25:26 - How to get control of your money so that it doesn’t control you
30:39 - A really shitty way to live that some personal finance gurus, nevertheless, recommend
36:30 - A little juicy preview of an upcoming episode
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to How to Spend Your Money and Time Dating Better, here are your next steps:Sign-up for the Love Incubator.
Listen to episode 298: “My Four-Part Framework to Clear Your Money Blocks.”
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
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There are a lot of great people out there for you to date. And any one of them can mark off all the checkboxes you have in your head or on paper for what makes the perfect match for you.
But how do you really know they’re the right person for you? This might be an especially pertinent question you ask yourself if you’ve dated more than your fair share of studs who turned out to be duds.
That’s the dilemma that today’s caller, Lisa, faces. She’s actually a former client of mine and in this episode, she talks about what it was like for her before and after coaching and what she’s been able to accomplish through our work together.
9:32 - Why Lisa initially reached out to me
11:21 - The best thing Lisa got out of her therapy and why she still needed coaching help
16:34 - Where Lisa’s at right now and a recent relationship experience that set off alarm bells in her head
21:59 - How Lisa wants to approach her next relationship (and why it might not be what she’s actually looking for)
27:54 - An exercise that can help activate the intuition and a subconscious habit you can easily fall into
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
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I have a deep interest in the political and the personal. I was in the political space before I started my coaching business, and I’ve been interested in personal development since I was little.
What drove me in my previous career, in a way, still drives me now: a deep frustration with the inequality of the status quo. I began to see the connection of one’s personal experience with what was going on in the broader picture of society.
What is that broader picture? In this episode, I talk about how the recent U.S. midterm reflects a certain relationship dynamic, as well as discuss a recent study about why men feel lonelier than ever before and how that affects heterosexual women looking for a relationship.
2:19 - Why I had to leave working in politics behind and society’s double standards for men and women
9:53 - Republican media response to the Democrat's success in the 2022 midterms and the relationship dynamic it resembles
14:32 - Why young and middle-aged men are the loneliest they’ve been in a generation
16:08 - What does this mean for women looking for a man?
18:48 - What I’m asking of you if you’re a woman seeking a relationship with a man
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
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Nina hasn’t dated anyone in 13 years. Now, she’s beyond scared at the thought of getting back into the dating world. But that 13-year stretch isn’t the real issue...
When Nina was last in a relationship, so many things in her life changed--relocating, losing lots of friends, etc. However, things went sour, and she was left to pick up the pieces and rebuild from scratch. So she carries fear from the relationship that sparked her long dating sabbatical.
On top of that, Nina has three specific reasons why she has this anxiety about re-entering the dating world. In this episode, she reveals what those reasons are, and I talk to her about working her way up to dating again when she lacks trust and confidence in herself.
7:42 - Questions to consider as you listen to this coaching call
9:04 - Fears that prevent Nina from being comfortable with the idea of dating
11:14 - What drove Nina to make the decision she made in her prior relationship
19:29 - Where Nina can look to build confidence in herself
24:02 - The big story Nina has built up in her head about dating again
29:25 - Some action steps Nina can take next
34:18 - If you’re a survivor of cancer (or some other illness) and haven’t brought it up in your relationship
39:27 - Recapping highlights, takeaways, and next steps from the coaching call
43:39 - Are you shy, introverted, or reserved? How to tell and the difference between all three
46:45 - Action steps to help you get back into dating if you’re shy or have had a long layoff or bad breakup
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to How to Date When You’re Shy, Haven’t Dated in Years, or Don’t Trust Yourself After a Devastating Breakup, here are your next steps:Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Is it normal to be confused or hesitant about whether to see someone again after the first date? I get this question often from clients, and unfortunately, there’s no formula that’ll work perfectly to answer this for everyone. But you can still look at certain things to gain some perspective or ask yourself some questions.
In this episode, I cover a few things to think about after the first date to help you determine whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing.
7:48 - The two ends of the dating or relationship spectrum you don’t want to be in
11:40 - Where you want to be when you’re dating someone new
14:41 - Why I like to give people two or three dates (with one exception)
17:01 - Rule of three: what that means, what mine is, and why I encourage you to have it
19:58 - Why you should consider dating someone you normally wouldn’t
24:58 - The tricky thing about feeling bored in a relationship
26:22 - Ask yourself this when in doubt about your feelings
28:48 - One last thing you need to know about this topic
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
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Long-time listeners might get a sense of déjà vu with today’s show. This is a coaching call from 2019 but a very popular, timely, and super relatable one. That’s because what my guest Andree-Anne and I discuss is something a lot of women, including myself, have experienced.
If you tend to get wrapped up emotionally (and physically) with new partners long before any real connection gets made, you’re not alone. Listen in as I help Andree-Anne discover the truth behind her relationship attachment tendencies and offer strategies for breaking the pattern.
5:56 - Questions to keep in mind as you listen to this coaching call
10:07 - Why Andree-Anne feels she gets attached to guys too fast
13:24 - The pattern she has seen since the age of four that she fears is playing out in her own love life
18:43 - A short, complete-the-sentence exercise to get to the uncomfortable truth behind her issue
21:45 - What she believes a relationship will provide her that she can’t provide for herself now
23:00 - How she can connect with herself and find her identity, regardless of what’s happening romantically
28:17 - Andree-Anne put on the spot with a hard question to answer
30:13 - Tangible ideas to put into practice to help release relationship attachment
32:45 - Andree-Anne’s biggest takeaway from our coaching call
40:08 - Why you do know the answer to this question I asked Andree-Anne, even if you think you don’t
43:00 - Something that needs to be said before I wrap up the episode
46:00 - Recapping a couple of questions to answer in your journal
48:00 - Answering a question that comes up a lot with potential clients
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
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You’ve consumed all the information you can find on dating and relationships. Yet, you’re either not attracting the kind of person you want or are still in a relationship you want out of.
Does that sound like you? You’re stuck in a pattern, and to get out of it involves unlearning what got you there and then re-learning new skills.
In this episode, I talk about the four stages of learning any new skill to help you shift patterns that keep cropping up in your love life. But to start the show, I discuss a little about dating someone with different political beliefs, as that’s been an increasingly hot topic among my clients lately.
2:40 - Why dating someone of a different political persuasion isn’t about 100% agreement (and what you SHOULD look for instead)
9:34 - The situation women should avoid getting themselves into when it comes to interpolitical relationships
12:22 - One thing I have clients do when they’re beginning to date again
17:23 - Signs of being in the first stage of learning any new skill: unconscious incompetence
24:15 - How to know that you’re in the second stage: conscious incompetence
28:50 - The third phase of shifting your relationship patterns: conscious competence
33:59 - Briefly discussing the final phase: unconscious competence
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
After you listen to The Four Stages of Shifting Your Relationship Patterns + A Brief Chat on Interpolitical Dating, here are your next steps:Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Do you remember the episode with Sophie? She felt frustrated about an ex moving on so quickly after the end of their 12-year relationship. That call, and the fact that we’re in the season of engagement which often induces comparison and feelings of jealousy, have inspired me to expand on this discussion.
Today, I talk about getting out of the comparison trap and jealousy traps and how to get overthinking about your ex all the time.
6:55 - How we’ve been trained to compare ourselves to others
9:51 - What happens when you beat yourself up for comparing yourself to others
13:04 - The simple phrase to train your brain when you realize you’ve fallen into the comparison trap
16:33 - One of my favorite tricks to handle jealousy
21:16 - A comforting perspective if you had an unhealthy relationship with an ex who’s in a new relationship
26:52 - The two phases of getting over an ex (most women get stuck in the second one)
34:36 - What might happen if you continue ruminating over your ex
I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!
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Jenn has a bit of an unusual situation going on. She’s in a relationship with someone she dated, but it’s not really a romantic relationship anymore. Instead, she has a situationship going on, and she wants to know how to get back to the way things were before they broke up.
What starts out as a conversation about boundaries moves beyond that and takes a different turn. In this coaching episode, I help Jenn discover the real reason behind her struggle to decide what to do about her situation and ways to work through it.
2:30 - Jenn explains her confusing situationship and what she needs out of it
9:15 - Why rebuilding trust after it’s been broken is really hard
12:38 - Getting to the heart of why Jenn is struggling to let go of this relationship
20:46 - Something pretty traumatic that sticks out in Jenn’s mind during this inner child exercise
26:25 - Why I want Jenn to focus on leaning into the anger she feels
33:19 - Working on your anger and why you need to get that emotion out of your head
38:33 - Breaking down the layers of Jenn’s real question
42:04 - My goal whenever someone tells me they’ve lost trust in their relationship
46:56 - What else suppressing the “bad” emotions can lead you to do
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Frustrated in your love life and looking for help? You have many tools and resources available to you, but you need to make sure you understand the specific purpose of each one. I’ve had clients frustrated with therapy because they thought or wanted it to be more like coaching when they’re not the same thing. So to help you figure out what’s best for you, in this episode I break down the three main services that can support you in your love life.
3:11 - Quick definitions for each type of main service you can use
5:45 - Reasons why someone might want to hire a matchmaker
8:35 - Four reasons why I’m hesitant on suggesting you work with a matchmaker
19:08 - How long to work with a coach and when you should work with a therapist instead
22:45 - How to know it’s time to work with a coach and the differences between coaching and therapy
26:17 - My sweet spot as a coach when working with clients
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Imagine being with someone for years. Then one day it ends, and your ex has moved on rather quickly... a little too quickly for you, in fact.
My caller Sophie knows exactly how that feels, and to say the least, she’s hurt and confused by it. In this episode, I walk her through what she needs to do to work through her current lack of trust and belief in love and the sad, angry feelings that come along for the ride.
4:58 - Why I think the topic of getting over an ex is such a misunderstood subject
6:52 - What happened with Sophie and her ex and what’s behind the fear she can’t overcome
11:20 - Signs that Sophie’s relationship was over and what they have to do with her past prior
16:24 - Something I want to highlight about inner child work (especially if you had a good childhood)
18:35 - What needs to happen for Sophie and why she seems more emotionally affected by the breakup than her ex
24:42 - An exercise to send forgiveness to a previous (adult) version of Sophie
29:38 - Why some people don’t get past the sadness over an ended relationship
32:33 - How anger is not a negative emotion and can actually be fuel for something better
38:52 - Helpful (and less helpful) ways to engage with your emotions of sadness and anger
44:42 - How to get to the second phase of getting over an ex
51:13 - A suggestion if you relate to Sophie and need to work on getting past your ex
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The holidays can be difficult for many reasons, but it can be especially difficult for single people looking for a relationship or those who feel stuck in a relationship they don’t want. You have to not only deal with feelings of loneliness or not feeling good enough in your relationship, but you have relatives who want to pry into your personal life when you’re just not up for it.
In this episode, I want to talk about how to handle the holiday blues, the nosiness that often comes with family gatherings this time of year, and reveal a different way to think about gratitude this Thanksgiving.
2:39 - One thing that doesn’t get mentioned enough about gratitude
5:01 - How to handle nosy relatives during the holidays
12:25 - Dealing with the holiday blues when you’re single (and don’t want to be) or not in the relationship you want
14:33 - The first thing to do when feeling the holiday blues
17:34 - The second thing you can do to deal with the seasonal blues
20:03 - The third step and why I encourage some new clients to do this
26:21 - Two ways I can assist you with step #3
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My client Crystal feels pretty annoyed by who she’s attracting into her love life. All she seems to get are a bunch of immature men! But is it really about the men? Or is something else going on here? In this episode, I help Crystal reveal some things about her boundaries. I also discuss dealing with anger and frustration and the effect of how society teaches men and women to behave in certain ways.
3:04 - One thing I see right off the bat with Crystal
9:11 - How sometimes your greatest gift can be your greatest shadow
14:50 - Where Crystal’s tendency to be overly generous comes from
19:03 - Why I recommend Crystal take a break from dating even though she’s been single for a long time
25:48 - How to tell when your boundaries are being crossed over and over
27:31 - Setting boundaries for relationships goes beyond your words
29:04 - Why doing inner child work can help you with setting relationship boundaries
31:09 - Stereotypes we’ve all heard about men and women (and how to temper their effect on your love life)
34:52 - If you want more help working on having (better) boundaries
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How you do one thing is how you do everything. While this podcast focuses on romantic relationships, I find that a lot of my clients have similar patterns and issues that show up in their platonic relationships too, especially friendships.
In this episode, I talk about how to make more friends, how to form better friendships with new and older friends alike, and how to deal with conflict within your friendships (including ending them).
4:41 - The myth about making more friends (and where it comes from)
7:04 - A favorite way to grow your friendship circle (and two assumptions that’ll help make it easier)
16:46 - How making better friends is similar to making new ones
19:59 - Building up your rejection resilience muscle and learning to stay unattached to the outcome
23:02 - Keys to setting boundaries within better friendships
27:03 - Common patterns I notice with clients who have conflicts with friends
29:13 - When it’s time to have a conversation with a friend and how to navigate conflict within friendships
34:03 - Why breaking up with a friend can be harder than breaking it off with a romantic partner
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You don’t have examples of successful romantic relationships in your life or the lives of others around you. So how can you keep the faith?
When it comes to dating, others' beliefs and actions take up space in your head. So how can you get them out?
You only take action in your love life when you feel sure you won’t face rejection. So how can you get more comfortable going out on a limb and showing some vulnerability?
These are the kinds of issues that my caller Angelina faces. In this episode, I cover a lot of dating mindset practices to help her get out of her own head and discern what’s real. If her situation applies to you too, then keep the above questions in mind as you listen to today’s show.
8:07 - The two big things I see right away with Angelina’s situation
10:54 - One thing Angelina needs to re-frame about her past relationships
15:09 - Why your energy is so important when it comes to dating
19:49 - Why frustration isn’t really one of the issues for Angelina
24:53 - Truth versus stereotypes about older women dating
31:01 - What I mean by “healthy mindset” and the first piece of the puzzle needed for your love life
34:21 - The issue of trust, particularly self-trust
37:59 - The third healthy mindset piece you need when dating
43:03 - The fourth and final thing you need for a healthy dating mindset
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Sherry Argov’s book Why Men Love Bitches has sold millions of copies since its debut and has tons of reviews, most of them positive. It even had a resurgence in interest recently, so I thought I’d read through it for myself. In this episode, I break down the introduction and first chapter and the author’s four attraction principles. As you listen, you’ll discover why I feel the way I do about Argov’s work regardless of the nuggets of truth within her book.
1:53 - Why I wanted to start this potential podcast series
6:37 - Something weird about the book’s author
12:06 - Some of my initial reactions while reading through the book
15:45 - How I feel about Argov’s description and use of the word “bitch”
17:58 - Why I’ve started backing off of using the terms “feminine” and masculine”
23:06 - The main message from the men interviewed for the book
26:17 - An example of how the author muddles her message
29:25 - Why I find the first chapter of the book objectifying and trope-y
36:22 - Attraction principle #2 and why it isn’t conducive to an equal partnership
40:14 - The #1 thing men said they needed from a woman and my perspective on it
42:13 - A bitch’s availability and the weird inclusion in section three of chapter one
47:22 - My feelings on the difference between the two types of bitches (according to Argov)
51:54 - The absurdity of attraction principle #4 and “Samantha’s” story
57:16 - Why I think this book has had a recent resurgence of interest
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You’re on a first date and want a second one, but the other person doesn’t. Or they want a second date, but you don’t. This pattern keeps repeating in your love life and no matter what, you can never seem to find someone with a mutual interest and attraction for a relationship.
That’s the predicament in which my caller today finds herself. Chrissie wants to know why this keeps happening to her and what she can do about it. If this describes you as well, then tune to discover what might be the issue and how to address it.
8:01 - Chrissie’s dating pattern and what it reveals about who she’s attracted to
13:25 - A very common mistake people make when seeking out romantic relationships
18:03 - Where Chrissie’s fear of abandonment comes from
24:02 - The actions steps I recommend Chrissie take next
29:29 - Recapping the first round of this coaching call with Chrissie
32:58 - The first big piece that Chrissie needs to address
37:50 - The second big piece that Chrissie must address
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Dating more intuitively isn’t just all about feelings over logic. There’s something else you need to date more intuitively without anxiety overtaking your relationships.
In this episode, I talk about the purpose of different energies in your body, the four goals of intuitive dating, and how it all helps you engage logic with intuition in your love life to create a healthy and firm dating foundation.
2:08 - How the energy of your head and body differ and are designed to work together
7:56 - Examples of disempowering relationship beliefs and the behaviors they can spawn
12:12 - The first goal of intuitive dating you should strive for
14:35 - The second goal of dating intuitively
16:32 - The third goal of intuitive dating and the difference between intuition and fear
20:35 - The fourth and final goal of dating intuitively
25:34 - My intuitive dating framework and why you need it to help you navigate any situation you’re in
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Your intuition is always there. It can be hard to hear or loud and clear, but it’s there all the same. It’s just a matter of accessing it and trusting it.
In my self-trust podcast series over the last three weeks, I’ve talked about self-trust and having a stronger relationship with your intuition. In this episode, I talk with Denise who has really begun using and embodying the skills I talked about in that series and in my Intuitive (formerly Embodied) Dating workshop.
This is a bit of an unusual episode in that it’s kind of a coaching episode but also just a back-and-forth conversation between Denise and I. In it, we discuss intuitive yes/no responses versus impulsive/fearful ones and how those responses feel different in the body.
7:54 - Denise reveals something that happened a few months ago
11:46 - Why seeing yourself as victim or victor with life challenges is a false dichotomy
17:05 - How Denise experiences her intuitive feeling and how it helped her respond to the ending of her relationship
19:09 - Examples of what an intuitive yes or no response vs. fear can feel like in the body
23:08 - The difference between making decisions from fear or impulsiveness vs. intuition
27:58 - What happened with Denise the day before this call that highlights the intuitive yes response
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A lot of the self-help available out there harms more than it helps. Too much of it encourages you to discount your negative feelings about why things happened to you. I started a conversation about this whole thing in last week’s episode.
In this episode, I want to wrap up that conversation with how you can consume self-help in a healthy, helpful way and reveal three ways you can trust yourself more.
5:54 - How Harry Potter and the hero’s journey illustrate my preferred approach to self-help personally and professionally
9:36 - The three stages of alchemy and how the process also demonstrates true self-transformation
13:38 - One of my favorites ways to help clients build self-trust
16:55 - The second way you can build up trust in yourself (which can be fun or uncomfortable, depending on your point of view)
22:44 - A third way that helps when you don’t have lots of evidence to back up your decision-making
26:57 - Taking the next step into my brand new and totally free challenge
29:21 - Why I believe I avoided the on-again, off-again relationship rollercoaster
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I’m a big believer in understanding why you feel what you feel (or don’t feel). There are infinite reasons why you might find it difficult to trust yourself when making relationship decisions. But in talking and working with thousands of women over the years, I’ve noticed a couple of big ones.
In today’s episode, I reveal three of the most common reasons why it’s hard to trust yourself in your love life.
7:59 - Why your mind shouldn’t be the only thing you use to make decisions
10:46 - Example of how your mind can go into overdrive (and how society make things worse)
13:36 - How education or “edutainment” shows up as another culprit in your lack of self-trust in dating
18:04 - Why this third reason for your lack of self-trust lights such a fire under my ass
24:37 - What’s missing in a lot of mindset work and “new age” concepts like the Law of Attraction
28:00 - How all three reasons can compound on themselves and work in tandem
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If you can’t trust yourself, you’ll find it hard to trust others. Seems obvious, right? Self-trust is the foundation to everything else, including dating. In reality, though, it’s not always as black and white as it seems.
So today kicks off a three-part series all about how to trust yourself more when dating. And in this first episode, I cover three reasons why and provide examples to illustrate how not doing so can show up in and affect your love life.
4:27 - Not trusting yourself leaves you vulnerable to this
8:21 - How not trusting myself ultimately affected my love life in grad school
10:06 - Why this little phrase from well-meaning people makes me so mad
13:18 - How a lack of discernment with friends and family about your love life can sabotage you
18:08 - Why putting more trust in external resources (including me) instead of yourself can lead you astray
21:48 - One last, very important thing I have to say about trusting yourself more in your love
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Back when I originally recorded this episode in 2019, I felt some resistance to doing so. It’s a little bit of a tricky subject about coachability. I didn’t feel like the kind person to say who is or isn’t coachable, despite working one-on-one with lots of women.
But there are key differences in those who got far with my coaching versus those who don’t. In this episode, I reveal the tell-tale signs of coachability and uncoachability so you can see where you land and if you’re ready to get farther in obtaining the relationship you desire.
7:00 - My definition of coachable and why it has nothing to do with worthiness
9:56 - One sign of uncoachability that I hear from a lot of potential clients
13:23 - An uncoachability sign that closes you off from possibility
14:55 - A telltale sign that, while usually fine, can mean you’re uncoachable if you approach it like this
17:08 - Something a lot of my audience hides behind that shows uncoachability
18:38 - The constant feeling about dating that also shows uncoachability and what you need to know if you think you’ve already healed
22:07 - How awareness, detachment, curiosity, and celebration demonstrate that you’re coachable
27:37 - Feeling coachable? How your life can look very different in a few months time with my help
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You hear a lot of talk about self-love. Particularly, you’re told that you need to love yourself before someone else can. My caller Leonnie certainly agrees, but she doesn’t know where to start. In fact, she struggles with the whole concept.
So today, we talk about what self love is, how you can increase it, and even go beyond that to the unexpected. If you’re not sure what self-love is, what it feels like, or how it applies to you, this episode could shift your relationship with yourself.
3:41 - Leonnie describes her struggle with the self-love concept
9:16 - Why Leonnie finds it difficult to pump up her self-love meter
17:57 - Something I think is more important than self-love
20:54 - How self-help books can create more harm than good
24:05 - Questions to ask yourself (and a tool to use) if you’re not feeling the self-love you think you should
27:47 - How the work I do with clients can change your relationship with yourself AND transform areas outside your relationship
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I’m obsessed with skincare and really interested in the idea of tending to your temple (i.e. your body). So when natural skincare and facial spa expert Angela Jia Kim contacted me about being a guest on my show, I was thrilled!
Angela is the founder of Savor Beauty, a company inspired by Korean beauty and self-love rituals. She recently authored Radical Radiance: 12 Weeks of Self-Love Rituals to Manifest Abundance, Beauty, and Joy. In this episode, we discuss her book and how tending to your temple can help heal your relationship with your body and affect the energy you radiate from the inside out.
12:13 - Things to think about before you listen to my interview with Angela
16:33 - How Angela made the connection between skincare rituals and inner energy
20:47 - Angela talks about what a skincare regimen should look like
26:21 - Where is the line between ritual self-care and patriarchal demands to look a certain way?
31:21 - How the 2020 pandemic deepened Angela’s self-love
33:17 - Angela discusses her divorce, how it came about, and why she’s grateful for the experience despite the pain
40:07 - Why the energy with which you approach things is so key
42:09 - The best gift you as a single mother can give to your child
44:48 - Why Angela wrote Radical Radiance and the ritual within it to become a magnetic force
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Feeling not good enough is a pretty universal feeling. If you were to look at everyone’s core wounds, it all essentially comes down to “not enoughness” which can manifest itself in different ways.
Today’s caller Jada wants to know how she can get rid of the story that she’s not good enough for the love she wants. If you struggle with worthiness, then you’ll love this coaching call!
4:56 - What started Jada down the road of not feeling good enough
8:57 - How Jada’s dad was still a presence despite his absence early in her life
15:03 - Why I think Jada feels she needs emotional support from other people
20:42 - What Jada would do for a child going through the emotional pain that she went through
24:34 - Where Jada (and anyone who feels the same way she does) can focus right now when it comes to dating and relationships
29:04 - Recapping important keys and takeaways from my conversation with Jada
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When you decide to do (or NOT do) something, whose rulebook are you following? In the dating world, many women tend to heed dating rules that, when it comes down to it, are a bunch of patriarchal nonsense. I LOVE smashing the patriarchy at any opportunity I can.
In today’s episode, I discuss and debunk the four most common, arbitrary, and patriarchal dating rules women follow.
1:46 - What you’re really doing to yourself by following these rules
5:37 - The 1st rule that drives me bonkers (especially since I’m living proof that it’s bullshit)
7:18 - Why feminine energy is very dynamic and powerful
10:34 - Rule #2 is more like a myth (but one with a nugget of truth)
13:50 - The rule that’s just an excuse for bad behavior (and exacerbated by the online dating world)
19:11 - A new perspective on rule #4 (and the real emotional reason underlying it)
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I’ve often said to clients to date for fun, not for the one. Having fun puts you into a state of super presence, like a puppy or a child just enjoying themselves without a care in the world. But what if the thought of dating feels very meh right now, and you’re looking to pump yourself up to do it?
That’s the situation that today’s caller Amelia finds herself in right now. In this episode, I help her discover why she feels so blah about the idea of dating again and what she can do to start clearing up her issues around all of her relationships. But I also spend some time touching on how you can protect yourself regarding recent socio-political events causing you to feel stressed or hopeless.
1:49 - A few things I need to get off my chest in the wake of the Roe vs. Wade decision
14:11 - Amelia describes her relationship struggle with men and how it ties back to childhood
20:09 - Why Amelia finds it difficult to allow herself to be vulnerable with men
22:45 - I reveal part of Amelia’s issue and what she needs to do next
26:47 - Why the thought of dating can feel exhausting and doing an inventory of your relationships
35:05 - The three things I want you to take away from this coaching call
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We have all these rules around dating, especially as women. We get told, “Don’t do too much” or “Don’t seem too needy.” So when it comes to hookups and texting, you probably find yourself questioning when (and whether) it's good or bad to do it.
In this episode, I talk about how you can prevent harmful hookups (emotionally speaking) and constant texting from getting in the way of your dating life.
2:14 - One thing I have to say before diving into the meat of this episode
4:39 - Reasons why guilt or shame come up after hooking up with someone
6:06 - When hookups can be harmful and going for what I call “conscious hookups” instead
10:39 - Why I think constantly texting with someone is a huge red flag
14:47 - What to do if you want to get out of or go beyond constantly texting with someone
18:27 - Are you currently doing this in your relationship?
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Rondi has taken a deep dive into inner child work since we began working together. She’s realizing all types of connections between events in her life and beliefs she’s taken on. But her inner child is still having trouble making real sense of it all and connecting it to her specific situation now.
If doing the deep inner work feels a bit vague or you’re unsure how to apply it, then you’ll love this episode! In it, I help Rondi explore what all this inner child work means and how to apply it to her life now.
6:01 - Rondi explains the circumstances behind her recent breakthrough
10:45 - Some beliefs that may have come up for Rondi and how she’s playing those out as an adult
15:56 - The big difference between Rondi now and her five-year-old self (and this goes for everyone)
19:26 - How Rondi’s weird situation with a texting pen pal reflects her wounded inner child
24:44 - The two stages of getting over an ex (most of the time, one’s far easier than the other)
31:17 - How you can apply the process in this coaching call with Rondi to your own life
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Embodied Dating is a 6-week live immersive experience to help you release fear and anxiety around the unknowns in dating so you can feel it, ease meeting with potential partners, and stop ignoring red flags, falling in love with potential, and trying to control everything.
The core of Embodied Dating is to learn my 3-part framework, that is, Embodied Dating. That's a 3-part framework for Embodied Dating, again, so you can have more fun.
Learn more and enroll in Embodied Dating at https://veronicagrant.com/embodieddating
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For whatever reason, you’ve gained weight. You went through something--a pregnancy, the pandemic, etc.--and ate a lot. And now your body doesn’t look the way you want it to look, or you feel uncomfortable in it. In this episode, I talk about the shame and embarrassment you feel after gaining weight for whatever reason and how you can still love yourself.
5:44 - How you’ve been brainwashed to not like your body (even if you grew up in the best of scenarios)
8:47 - My own experience dealing with fatphobia (which has been extra heightened recently)
10:22 - Why the myth of “Calories in, calories out” is not all it’s cracked up to be
15:23 - The thing I think you can do that’ll have the biggest impact on your relationship with your body
18:06 - The metaphor I like to use for my body that I learned while in Bali
20:08 - Two more things to think about that can help you regardless of how you feel about your body
28:02 - The question I ask myself when I’m feeling down and in a dark place
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Life has been a little different for my caller Rose since she left New York to go on a sabbatical to Mexico. With the addition of the pandemic, she’s felt more isolated over the past few years than ever. But soon she’ll be making her way back to the U.S. and the faster-paced city lifestyle she feels will offer more opportunities for dating. And yet, she’s really nervous about how to prepare herself for it.
If you too are nervous about getting back into the dating scene after a period of absence, then you’ll really love this episode. In it, I help Rose delve into the real cause of her anxiousness and how to prepare herself for reintegration into dating society.
12:28 - The question Rose wants answered after years away from dating
15:09 - What Rose likes and dislikes about her isolated state and
18:14 - The real issue in Rose’s response and why it’s practically impossible to coach on a hypothetical scenario
23:52 - Helping Rose discover the root of her fear that dating again will be a shock to her system
28:21 - Rose’s best barometer for recognizing her fear cropping up when she dates again
32:38 - Why Rose feels she might be repelling a relationship possibility instead of inviting one and a simple way she can change that
37:14 - Tying the key points and highlights of this call together into actions steps and things to think about
47:42 - One thing I find that’s really challenging for women in this community
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Michelle ended a four-year relationship two months ago and has been dealing with a roller coaster of emotions ever since. If you find yourself in a similar situation, those feelings can fester into beliefs, actions, and patterns you don’t want to deal with down the line.
In this episode, Michelle and I discuss her situation and how to navigate the two stages of a breakup to set up for success going forward.
5:44 - The two stages of getting over an ex
7:35 - Why Michelle felt secure in her relationship and what led to the breakup
11:33 - The type of relationship Michelle vowed to never have
14:39 - Michelle’s inner child wound and how her relationship played into it
21:01 - Getting through the 1st stage and how inner child work will help Michelle move past the 2nd stage of her breakup
23:04 - The possible Bill Clinton effect on Michelle’s relationship
26:48 - The myth of closure and why Michelle will never get it with her ex
32:11 - Why time doesn’t heal all wounds and the three mistakes people make in the 1st stage of a breakup
37:43 - The only thing that will move Michelle through the 1st stage more quickly
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You’ve been blindsided, hurt, and duped on past dates and by former partners. You’re determined to not repeat the same mistakes and attract the same kind of relationship, looking for red flags with eyes wide open. Instead of letting yourself get swept away in the romance of it all, you feel desperate for a sense of security in your relationship.
For this series on how to navigate dating someone new without the stress, anxiety, or fear, my intention has been to inspire you to think differently about how you approach dating because I really think it can make a huge difference in your life.
In this third and final episode of the series I’m going to talk about my new workshop Embodied Dating which I’ve designed to help you find the balance between protecting yourself while being available for your potential significant other.
4:47 - Does this scenario sound familiar?
6:37 - Summing up the first episode of the series
8:58 - Nothing slows you down more in your love life than this
9:56 - Some specifics of what I’ll cover in the Embodied Dating workshop
14:16 - Why answering questions about my “success rate” is difficult
16:30 - What if you also need help around your love blocks or core wounds
18:01 - What if you can’t make it to the workshop live
19:23 - Answering some questions you might have about the workshop
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How do you navigate the early stages of dating without the stress, fear, and anxiety that often comes with it? I ended the last episode with a teaser of what I call “embodied dating.” In part two of this series, I dive a little deeper into it by discussing how it can help you during those early stages and giving an overview of the overall, three-step process.
1:31 - Recapping the first episode of the series
3:50 - How I define fear, anxiety, and stress
7:12 - Two options for dealing with fear, anxiety, and stress in the moment
8:23 - What embodied dating is and the ways it can help you in the early dating stages
12:31 - An example of how embodied dating can help you find your relationship “sweet spot”
16:10 - The general three-part process of embodied dating and my upcoming workshop
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Meeting a new dating partner can be quite the roller coaster ride of emotions! You get the thrill of the first connection, the anticipation of the first date, and (if all goes well) the excitement of the “Wow, I’m actually in a relationship” stage.
But you also might worry about whether or not you and your partner are on the same page or if the relationship is truly going anywhere. So how do you stay grounded and calm throughout this process? Today, I’m kicking off a three-part series to hopefully help you remain free from fear and anxiety as much as humanly possible when it comes to dating someone new.
2:34 - The #1 mistake I see clients make during the early stages of dating
4:15 - Getting a better understanding of the concepts of rejection and fear
9:13 - How fear influences what you do (or don’t) in your love life
14:49 - Fear-based actions vs. intuitive-based actions
19:21 - What intuitive-based decisions allow you to do about rejection
22:43 - A preview of part two of this series and my upcoming workshop
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Beating yourself up for reaching out to the ex you just can’t seem to quit? I can’t count how often I’ve had these kinds of conversations with clients! Today, I talk with my former client M who’s frustrated with herself because she recently reengaged with an ex of hers. And it isn’t the first time she’s done it either, but she knows it’s not good for her and wants to move on completely.
The truth is that there’s a real emotional need underneath actions like this. And addressing that provides the best way for M to reach her ultimate goal: releasing this person from her life. So what is going on underneath, and what can she do? Tune in to find out and if you can relate to her (whether you’ve sought out a former partner for the first or the millionth time), I hope this episode gives you permission to be kind to yourself.
1:56 - The connection between food and reaching out to your ex
7:15 - M reveals the crux of her situation
13:03 - Going back to see where M’s feeling of invalidation comes from
18:51 - What keeps M stuck in this cycle
23:14 - Why trying to use willpower ultimately doesn’t work and what I recommend M do instead
28:48 - The one thing M might still want to explore
30:36 - Suggestions for cutting cords keeping you plugged in emotionally to things you want to release
34:32 - The key to not letting your action have power over you
39:25 - Re-emphasizing the main points of this coaching call with M
42:54 - Something I didn’t talk about with M that’s worth mentioning
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Choosing dating partners based on compatible zodiac signs is a thing. You’ve probably tried it yourself or seen others with dating profiles specifically requesting partners of certain signs. But contrary to what’s often depicted in the media, astrology isn’t about controlling your fate. It’s not about saying, for example, that you as a Gemini need to date an Aries.
In today’s show, I’ve invited my friend and astrology expert Veronica Perretti back to the show to talk about astrology! This time we discuss the real truth behind astrology, how the main three signs form the basis of who we are, and how best to use it to figure out romantic compatibility.
9:48 - Using astrology, for this reason, keeps some people trapped in cycles
14:14 - How checking your astrology resembles keeping tabs on the weather
21:04 - Why astrology actually can be a little predictive sometimes
26:35 - How the big three signs in astrology (sun, moon, and rising) help form your personality
37:17 - How to know if you’re romantically compatible with another person
46:31 - Simplifying astrological compatibility to the most basic level
53:49 - What you need to know about the coming Mars retrograde if you’re a Gemini
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Are you in a situation where you can’t seem to let go of someone, whether they’re an ex or a potential partner? Or do you treat your love life like the thing that excites you (at all) and a respite from the blah you feel is the rest of your life? Then listen up!
In today’s episode, I speak with one of my clients, Amy, who’s in what you might call a “situationship.” But as you listen to this conversation, you’ll see how her situation isn’t actually the problem. It’s just a manifestation of the real problem.
1:50 - Something you might notice coming up as you listen to my conversation with Amy
5:31 - Getting the facts about Amy’s situationship with Drew on the table
9:00 - Amy describes the part of her that wants to hold on to the situation (and why her attachment to Drew isn’t about him)
17:32 - My recommendation for Michelle the next time she feels the need to talk to Drew
20:03 - Something I learned in my health coaching days that can help your inner child
22:02 - Incorporating excitement in other ways outside of dating and relationships
32:39 - Reiterating the two real issues I see coming up for Amy regarding her situationship
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Are you a bit of a control freak? By that, I mean do you try to control everything in your love life (and beyond)? I’m incredibly passionate about letting go of the need to control everything. I consider it a vital part of healing and being on this love journey.
In this episode, I define what it means to truly surrender, the benefits you derive from it, why people try to control things, what controlling behavior can look like in your love life, and how to overcome it. Along the way, you’ll hear about what I’ve noticed in my own life as well as those of my clients.
5:00 - What it really means to let go of control
9:15 - Why the path of letting go is more important than the outcome
11:42 - Examples of how you might try to inadvertently control things in the dating space
18:17 - Something to reassure you if you see yourself as overly controlling in your life
20:51 - Examples illustrating where the need to control things comes from
24:15 - How to figure out where your need to control comes from
25:29 - Ways you can overcome control issues and learn to let go
32:23 - A caveat for the common reaction of “it’s happening for a reason” and other mantras
38:45 - Why letting go of control is really about getting out of your own way
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An old client of mine recently got into tarot. We’d worked together a couple of years ago, and she reached out to me for feedback after drawing some cards to help her answer a question about her love life.
While I’m not a tarot expert, those of you who’ve listened to me for a while (or even just last week’s episode) know I love me some woo-woo, too! So I saw this as the perfect opportunity for a podcast episode.
In today’s show, Sierra and I discuss her question and what the cards revealed, along with tips and caveats for how to use tarot (or any other spiritual modality you choose) more intuitively and responsibly.
3:03 - Beware of this when using spiritual tools
5:32 - Four questions to keep in mind as you listen
8:04 - Sierra’s question about the tarot and how she felt about the cards that came up in response
15:18 - Very helpful tip when interpreting meanings behind cards that come up for you
18:07 - The response Sierra gets back when she asks her question of her higher self instead
23:05 - Taking spiritual information and turning it into tangible solutions
31:08 - The process of how I might use a spiritual tool
34:55 - How my work with clients resembles working with spiritual modalities
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I love oracle cards! I love the many themes, the inspirational meanings, or the self-reflective questions behind them. And today features an interview of someone who’s created her own oracle card deck of which I’m a big fan.
I don’t even quite remember how I came across Rachael McKee and her Kickstarter campaign, but in this episode, we discuss her deck, the inspiration behind it, and how it emphasizes women supporting women. As a bonus, she also gets into some of the things that made her long-term relationship blossom during a pretty trying time.
6:15 - A quick story to illustrate the beauty of (and history) behind Rachel’s deck
12:02 - A preview of next week’s podcast that ties into this episode
15:16 - Rachael talks about her work, describes her deck, and reveals what inspired the idea
19:46 - Rachael’s personal experience relating to women and how her deck can help women heal
23:22 - One unconventional woman’s story you’ve never heard of and her huge impact on social services
26:22 - How Rachael made her relationship thrive and grow during the pandemic
30:09 - One of the most important things I’ve learned about maintaining long-term relationships
31:39 - A connection between business and relationships (and why you might actually be avoiding one for the other)
33:25 - How Rachael learned to balance her work and her relationship
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This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up? I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom. It’s not that she needs to heal her relationship with her mom, but she needs to set boundaries because it’s bringing out her core wounds. This is the equivalent of picking off scabs when you’re trying to heal a physical wound.
Setting boundaries will give Abby the space she needs to have an even better relationship with her mom. It will also help Abby do the inner child work she needs to do to feel less anxious in her romantic relationship.
1:19 - An example of something I have been experiencing lately where I need to set a boundary
5:09 - An introduction to my caller today who’s in a healthy relationship, and is scared she’s sabotaging it
6:16 - Abby presents her fear
9:35 - Abby describes her childhood with her mother
16:30 - My advice to Abby on how to heal her core wound by setting some boundaries
21:05 - The one place Abby wants to set a boundary with her mother
26:18 - A tool Abby uses to help ease her anxiety
27:23 - My suggestion to help Abby curb her anxiety
33:10 - A recap of my call with Abby
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In this episode, I talk about 10 things you need to know about boundaries, delve into two of the four types of boundaries, and wrap up with how to stick to your boundaries in dating. Along the way, I even give you a peek into how I’ve set boundaries for myself and my relationship.
6:31 - Ten things you need to know about boundaries as you apply them in your life
22:09 - Quickly touching on the first two of four types of boundaries
25:27 - Discussing emotional boundaries and the core wounding often present
29:39 - Why relational boundaries allow your relationships to flourish (with an example from my own life)
35:51 - Discussing how to uphold the dating boundaries you set
39:08 - How to compartmentalize people who keep disrespecting your boundaries
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You’ve done a lot of work and understand how past experiences have shaped your relationship patterns. But are you still meeting lots of emotionally unavailable people on dates or constantly looking for red flags to keep from getting hurt or rejected? If that sounds like you, then you’ll relate to Erin who’s been single for five years.
In this episode, I help her discover what lies behind her frustration with her love life and seeming inability to find someone with a mutual interest in a long-term relationship.
9:33 - Erin explains her frustration with her existing dating situation
13:50 - The perspective that’s missing from Erin’s love life right now
17:21 - How being too open can be a form of manipulation
19:33 - Dating from the fearful place of “guilty until proven innocent”
24:12 - The missing factor Erin may not be consciously aware of
27:11 - Why emotionally unavailable people can be attractive to Erin
31:57 - How your thoughts can lead you to take (or not take) certain actions
37:15 - What Erin can work on next and a suggestion for how to put it into practice
41:54 - Recapping the coaching call with Erin
46:38 - My top takeaways from this episode
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What’s stopping you from making the changes you need to find the love you want? During my time coaching in this community, I’ve noticed four obstacles to healing your love life come up over and over.
In this episode, I cover these hurdles and discuss why some people choose not to pursue help in getting something they want. In the process, if you’re curious about Love Incubator (enrollment open now), I cover in detail how I work closely with women through the program.
3:09 - An obstacle I often see when talking about inner child work with someone
6:38 - Why I’m passionate about coaching vs. only doing this
9:51 - Using this common obstacle as an excuse to not do the work
13:08 - The last obstacle to healing your love life that might surprise you
16:33 - What happens once you’re inside the Love Incubator program
23:19 - Who the program is and isn’t a good fit for
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Usually, the fourth Thursday of the month is reserved for a guest expert interview. But on today’s show, I have a very special guest: a past client of mine, Paige. She was part of my program Love Incubator last year and is no stranger to doing lots of inner work.
In this episode, she talks about how the program and our work together helped her finally let go of some past hurts, confidently get back into online dating, and deal with fear and rejection differently.
6:13 - Where Paige was stuck before joining Love Incubator and ways it’s facilitated change
12:46 - Other shifts in Paige’s life since working together, inside and outside of her love life
15:52 - The surprising ways COVID impacted Paige’s relationships and personal growth
20:42 - What the group experience within the program was like for Paige
25:36 - Paige’s initial hesitation about joining and why she’s grateful she did in the end
29:38 - How Love Incubator works and deciding if the program is the right next step for you
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Allison feels nervous. In the past, she’d get physical in a relationship quickly and it’d fizzle out after three months. However, she just started dating someone who seems to be emotionally available, and she wants to set herself up for success. But she’s afraid she’ll mess it up somehow.
On this coaching call, I discuss the so-called dating playbook, physical and emotional intimacy and how the two of them work together, and when’s the right time to talk about sex in a new relationship. If that sounds interesting or like something you struggle with too, then you’ll want to listen up and take notes!
11:46 - Trying to figure out where Allison’s problem is coming from
15:00 - Ways we learn to source confidence from things outside of ourselves
21:27 - Advising Allison on her ideal next step
27:23 - Why women shouldn’t fear initiating dates with emotionally available men
28:39 - What it feels like for Allison to discuss physical intimacy with her partner
30:20 - Picking a good time to share any kind of private information with a new partner
38:50 - Five things to take away from this episode that ignore the so-called dating rulebook
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I have lots of opinions about self-love. Even though I believe inner child work (and any kind of self-care) is ultimately about self-love, I’ve also steered away from using the phrase. The way it’s often presented on social media lacks nuance. So I want to dive into it a little bit today and reveal my four-part framework to help you understand what it means to “love yourself” and get a better sense of whether or not you do.
3:28 - The Todd Herman quote that also describes the Instagramification of self-love well
5:36 - Something that gets lost in the #selflove talk and a popular “love yourself” mantra that doesn’t really work
11:00 - Why the first piece of my self-love framework is the cornerstone for everything
15:15 - Ways people tend to bypass or ignore the next framework piece (this is an area where self-help can trip you up)
18:41 - Why the third part of the framework makes it easier to heal
22:41 - Why the final framework piece ties back to the first and makes it easier to trust other people
25:36 - What you can do if you struggle to recognize your intuition
28:31 - Quick recap of my self-love framework
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Have you gone a loooong time without dating? My caller today has had some less-than-great experiences dating and felt so traumatized over it that she stopped entirely for five or six years! Now, she’s feeling the nudge to start again but has a lot of fear around attracting the same types of relationships (and bad feelings) as before. If that sounds like you too, then you’ll love the insights and key points I share with Anastasia in this episode!
7:44 - What scared Anastasia away from dating for so long and why she still fears returning
15:27 - The moment Anastasia recognizes her biggest fear and how she can feel safe again
21:25 - How Anastasia is over-thinking her situation
26:24 - How I’d deal with ghosting and the trick to feeling your feelings when frustrated with dating
30:01 - Where you should focus your forgiveness and a new perspective on bad dating experiences
34:50 - Why I advise Anastasia differently than usual and how she can take a new approach
41:53 - A recap of the five main takeaways from the coaching call
52:01 - How our shadows and gifts are two sides of the same coin
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You’ve done tons of inner child work and have gone through therapy. You meditate, write your morning pages, and do all kinds of other stuff. And it’s helped you grow in several areas of your life. Your health is good, your career thrives, and your friendships flourish.
But you’re still stuck in a rut in your love life. Romance is the one area that hasn’t really improved. So what the hell is going on?
My guest Hannah knows the feeling. She’s happy with her life... except when it comes to dating. She can’t figure out what the issue is, so in this episode, I help her get to the bottom of it. If you can relate to her situation, you’ll love today’s show!
8:34 - The overriding belief or story that dictates Hannah’s love life
12:04 - The work Hannah has done to help herself feel supported
15:23 - Things I’ve noticed behind lagging romantic relationships when other areas of life gel well
18:07 - Where Hannah senses the disconnect when it comes to her dating life
21:42 - How Hannah views herself in past relationships that impacted her the most
26:23 - What can get overlooked with core wound healing and what I see as Hannah’s real issue
31:41 - A process that can help hone intuition regarding romantic relationships
36:57 - How to get more comfortable channeling masculine energy and the difference between it and feminine energy
45:15 - Recapping the main takeaways from the coaching call with Hannah
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Normally, today’s episode would be a coaching call. But I’m changing things up because it’s my book’s birthday! That’s right! You Are Meant for Love has finally arrived and should soon be on your e-reader or doorstep if you pre-ordered it. (Take a look now, because it might already be there!)
In this episode, I want to take you behind the scenes and share a little bit more about the book. But I’m not in the driver’s seat. Instead, UK-based documentary filmmaker and friend Gemma Brady interviews me and guides the whole conversation! So get comfy as I share a bit more about my own personal story and the process and purpose behind writing the book.
5:48 - Why I’m glad I didn’t know what it was going to be like writing and releasing a book beforehand
7:37 - Who I had in mind as I wrote the book
8:47 - Recounting my lowest dating period before discovering inner child work
12:37 - The most important factor about your memories and how healing resembles a spiral staircase
16:14 - How you can have a different perspective from others about the same experience
19:21 - Why I see inner child work as the missing piece and go so in-depth on my dating history in the book
25:58 - Positive mantras or beliefs about dating won’t do this for you
30:37 - Finding the balance between exercising your agency without being over-controlling
34:48 - The point where I went beyond theory and motivational quote material and started applying self-help in a different way
42:56 - How I want people to feel when they read my book
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We’ve all likely dealt with stressing around money at some point. If you’re living under constant money stress, it can keep you up at night.
Now, there’s the fear with literally not having enough money in your bank account and you’ve got bills to pay. But that’s not the kind of money stress I mean. What about when the money is in your account and you have a good job or business to keep it flowing, but you still feel the stress?
Just like being in codependent relationships or repeating people-pleasing patterns can wreak havoc on your emotions and sense of self-worth, your money stories can serve a similar function. So in this episode, I really want to talk about my broad framework for clearing money blocks that you can use to heal your financial shit.
9:53 - How I define the word “block” (of any kind) and examples of my former money blocks
12:34 - The fluid way you can work with my four-part framework
13:08 - Discussing the first part of the framework
17:58 - How Suze Orman stressed me out and Ramit Sethi helped me de-stress
24:04 - Rethinking how money can help you have a life you want to live
26:40 - Why you’ll probably want to revisit the second part of the framework every year
27:57 - Part three of the framework: the B word and how it gives you so much freedom
37:43 - Money as an energetic exchange and a prevalent belief about money and work
45:04 - Why purpose and passion aren’t necessarily the same thing
47:48 - Recapping the four parts and why I wanted to share this episode at this time
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I’ve got an exciting announcement to make! I want to let you know about an upcoming, free workshop and open house called How to Do the Work. I’ve never taught it before, but it’s a tangible workshop that’ll help you actually implement the inner work you need to do to change your life. In this very short episode, I briefly talk about the workshop and the open house bonus you receive if you sign up.
1:18 - Who will really love this free workshop
1:57 - How you’ll benefit from the five tenets I’ll cover in the workshop
2:57 - Why this is the most affordable time to work with me in 2022
4:04 - A solution for you if you want to work with me but can’t start right now
5:03 - How to sign up for the workshop and access it for the rest of the month
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You might relate to today’s coaching call with Sarah and her dilemma. She has a pattern of codependency where her feelings are tied up in relationships, specifically whether or not she’s in one or if someone likes her back.
While the circumstances of your situation will be different, I ask her a question that I also want you to ask yourself as you listen to this episode. In it, I walk her through a process that’s applicable regardless of your background or experience. Prepare yourself as this conversation takes a lot of twists and turns!
13:38 - The current situation with Sarah’s love life
16:22 - The main thing Sarah took away from being told she was too sensitive growing up
19:07 - What Sarah gets from a new relationship that she feels she can’t generate on her own
24:04 - Sarah’s struggle with her attempts to do inner child work and what her 11-year old self experienced
30:03 - What the core wound you’re dealing with is really all about and a more effective way for Sarah to do inner child work
34:59 - Why Sarah has a tendency to shut down her emotions and how it affects her relationships
40:24 - The next steps I recommend Sarah should take to continue healing her inner core wound
45:46 - Sarah discusses her struggle with tapping into her intuition
51:15 - Pulling out some of the most important highlights from the call
58:11 - The #1 sign that a relationship is playing into your core wound
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What’s in store for us in 2022, astrologically speaking? You long-time listeners know I like to have Veronica Perretti on occasionally to give us an astrological update on what we can expect and how it might show up in our personal lives.
Within the past couple of years, we’ve been preoccupied with the pandemic, so can we expect any changes with COVID in the next few months? What do we have to look forward to (or be wary of) this year?
In today’s episode, Veronica’s back to talk about all things astrology, both in terms of our lives individually as well as the big picture perspective.
6:56 - Asking Veronica the question we all want to know
11:41 - Why people feel less gung-ho about 2022
15:24 - How Venus retrogrades affect your relationships with everything
20:29 - The effect of a pretty rare planet conjunction occurring in February and March
24:26 - Why February to May is your period of opportunity in 2022
26:54 - What the North and South Nodes moving into Taurus and Scorpio, respectively, this January means for you
37:07 - Finding the balance between the Taurus North Node and Scorpio South Node
38:56 - What it means when a Node returns to your birth sign
41:29 - The link between Pisces and COVID and why astrologers feel more optimistic about 2022
46:08 - How our relationship with the pandemic will change this year
50:48 - Why Veronica worries about Jupiter in Aries and the U.S.’s Pluto return this year
54:59 - What you can expect with a Pluto transit, individually and collectively
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We intertwine money and love in so many ways. There’s a really good chance you relate to one the same way you do to the other. I’ve seen it in myself and my clients, like living together and having to figure out how to pay the bills.
But that’s just the practical side of it. We interconnect money and love on energetic, emotional, and even spiritual levels too.
In this episode, caller Brooke’s feelings about her financial situation also makes things feel awkward when it comes to dating. Listen as I help her unravel the money story behind her mindset and offer action steps to begin the healing process.
4:48 - Five financial questions to consider while you listen to the episode
10:44 - Brooke explains her awkward situation regarding dating and money
14:08 - Explaining my philosophy about money
15:05 - Brooke discusses the financial situation in her household growing up
17:34 - Brooke’s relationship with money now as an adult
22:59 - Tendency to see money and love as measures of self-worth
27:39 - An exercise for Brooke (and others who can relate) that changed my life around money
32:22 - How money beliefs from my parents affected my business early on
35:11 - What Brooke has to say to her inner child about old money feelings
37:27 - Other practical things that can be done around finances
46:50 - Why your feelings around money aren’t always about the number in your bank account
49:18 - Recapping the action steps you can take today to heal your story around money
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So many dates yet no real, rock-solid relationship in sight? What you need is a no-nonsense approach to dating and relationships that’s entertainingly funny, heartbreaking, and soulful... and that works!
My book, You Are Meant for Love, fits the bill and is available for pre-order right now! To give you a taste, in this episode I share a little of the backstory behind why I wrote it, how it came to be, and read you the introduction and an excerpt from the first chapter.
2:16 - What my book is centered around
3:07 - The backstory behind the book’s creation
7:58 - Why I choose the self-publishing route instead of traditional
9:40 - The one kinda cheesy thing I must say...
14:09 - Reading the introduction to You Are Meant For Love
27:47 - An excerpt from Ch. 1 called “And the Nice Guys Are So Boring”
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Long-time listeners might get a sense of déjà vu with today’s show. This is a coaching call from 2019 but a very popular, timely, and super relatable one. That’s because what my guest Andree-Anne and I discuss is something a lot of women, including myself, have experienced.
If you tend to get wrapped up emotionally (and physically) with new partners long before any real connection gets made, you’re not alone. Listen in as I help Andree-Anne discover the truth behind her relationship attachment tendencies and offer strategies for breaking the pattern.
12:11 - Questions to keep in mind as you listen to this coaching call
15:22 - Why Andree-Anne feels she gets attached to guys too fast
18:39 - The pattern she has seen since the age of four that she fears is playing out in her own love life
23:58 - A short, complete-the-sentence exercise to get to the uncomfortable truth behind her issue
27:00 - What she believes a relationship will provide her that she can’t provide for herself now
28:15 - How she can connect with herself and find her identity, regardless of what’s happening romantically
33:32 - Andree-Anne put on the spot with a hard question to answer
35:28 - Tangible ideas to put into practice to help release relationship attachment
39:02 - Andree-Anne’s biggest takeaway from our coaching call
45:23 - Why you do know the answer to this question I asked Andree-Anne, even if you think you don’t
48:18 - Something that needs to be said before I wrap up the episode
51:14 - Recapping a couple of questions to answer in your journal
53:14 - Answering a question that comes up a lot with potential clients
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When people ask me about strategies for online dating, it’s difficult to answer. There’s usually another, deeper question underneath the initial one like, “Why am I not attracting this person?” or “Why is this happening to me online?”
However, I have found that online dating tends to be a microcosm of whatever pattern you’re playing out. So in this episode, I dig into some methods to help you rethink your approach. I offer four easy, soulful strategies you can use to create more connection in your online dating experience with a whole lot less burnout.
1:11 - Choosing alternatives to your typical New Year’s celebrations
6:11 - Why I’m talking about online dating now
12:23 - Strategy #1 gives the middle finger to a giant myth about online dating
15:43 - Online dating from a different angle with the “swipe right” strategy
19:38 - How the “shit or get off the pot” strategy can save you time and energy
25:42 - How to use the “show, not tell” strategy on your dating profile
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I’ve talked a lot about body image on this podcast. But I’ve never had an expert in the subject on the show... until now. And with the holiday cheer accompanied by the challenge of cookies, cakes, and other food and wine everywhere, I think now’s the perfect time for this conversation.
My guest Jenna Free has a ton of knowledge about eating disorders and body dysmorphia and acceptance. So I had to have her on to give her perspective and teach us a few things to help you navigate the holiday season.
But our conversation took an interesting turn I didn’t anticipate. We ended up discussing beauty culture a lot, in addition to body issues and how to navigate the unwanted comments and lack of boundaries from friends and family during holidays.
1:30 - A couple of tips for those who find this time of a year a challenge to get through
10:54 - A caveat before you listen to the interview
15:36 - Jenna introduces herself and her history with food and body image
17:34 - The biggest misconception about food addiction
18:50 - Diet and beauty culture as a patriarchal distraction for women
23:38 - How Jenna felt trapped in beauty culture even outside the body weight arena
27:56 - The link that exists between your love life and your body image
30:55 - Why dieting doesn’t work and refusing to comply with diet culture
33:27 - Finding a balance between releasing diet and beauty culture standards and taking care of your body
35:45 - How the skincare industry, and beauty culture in general, markets itself to women
42:56 - The time Jenna almost dipped her toes back into beauty culture
44:56 - Advice for dealing with body weight comments from friends and family this holiday season
49:25 - How to handle “overeating” during the holidays in a better way
51:16 - Jenna discusses her app and how helps people
56:04 - Setting boundaries to protect yourself (and future generations)
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Lots of people have a hate-hate relationship with online dating and believe it’s responsible for their love life woes. But online dating isn’t inherently good or bad. It’s just a neutral space, like a bar or the workplace.
I find that people likely manifest their online dating experience based on their larger relationship pattern which brings me to my caller today, Erin. She’s frustrated because she’s unable to replicate the online dating success her friends enjoy and wants to know what she’s doing wrong. As you listen, though, you’ll discover why online dating practices aren't her main issue.
10:04 - Erin describes the dating pattern she’s had in relationships
14:06 - The first thing that pops into Erin’s head during a short exercise
16:52 - Why Erin lost her sense of security and how she’s tried to gain it back
21:35 - How Erin’s upbringing led to a lack of trust in her ability to provide security for herself
23:15 - A bit of a woo-woo spiritual exercise I take Erin through
27:31 - The mistake some overly-dependent people can make in relationships
29:05 - How Erin’s view of her parents contributes to the real issue she’s having in her love life
32:18 - Another version of self to look at, besides the inner child
38:20 - Summarizing and expanding on key points from the coaching call
43:35 - Tips for getting people off the pedestal you put them on
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I’m about to say something controversial, even seemingly contradictory. I love manifesting, but the law of attraction is crap. And I love talking crap about it because it grinds my gears how much harm it does.
For too long, it’s been used as a force of manipulation across the personal development, wellness, and MLM industries and can actually lead to more frustration in your love life. So in this episode, I want to focus on why the law of attraction is so toxic and how you can manifest without it.
8:07 - Why the popular comparison of the law of attraction to the law of gravity doesn’t work and is really harmful
10:54 - The huge flaw in equating the law of attraction with quantum physics
14:01 - One area where the law of attraction is useful (but even this comes with a caveat)
17:12 - Another big issue with the law of attraction and my theory about why it was popularized
20:33 - The simple, two-step process for manifesting what you want
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Romantic comedies, dramas, novels, soap operas... we access so many things where we see the idea of having a soulmate come into play. And as soon as “the one” appears, the relationship just clicks and everything is perfect.
Or is it? How do you find the balance between passion and having a healthy relationship, if one of those criteria is lacking?
Today’s caller has a history of being in toxic relationships and starts off the call by asking how you know when a relationship is right. But almost immediately, the real question she wants to be answered reveals itself.
6:14 - My opinion about the whole soulmate concept that relieves the pressure
11:11 - The real question underneath the caller’s question
14:18 - The difference between the two ways you can have sex
20:05 - Can a healthy relationship also be an exciting one for the caller?
25:23 - How to effectively approach a difficult conversation with your partner
27:50 - Why sex in toxic relationships can oftentimes feel like an addiction
30:23 - The importance of making agreements in relationships
35:59 - Getting clear on the love language in your relationship
43:06 - Why the belief “If it’s meant to be, it should be easy” is a myth
49:03 - Summarizing, highlighting, and expanding on the key points from the call
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We’re in that tricky time of the year for people who are single. News feeds and conversations are littered with talk of parties and other engagements for couples. People come out of the woodwork with the cute holiday activities they do together. I’ve been there. I know it can be tough!
Despite this not being a Thanksgiving-themed episode, specifically, I still wanted to have a conversation with Monica Rodgers about remembering who you are and bringing forth the divine feminine and spirituality to dating, your relationship with others, and most importantly your relationship with yourself. We discuss how patriarchy, religion, spirituality, and the politics of it all intersect together to affect your life.
8:04 - My new book revealed
12:23 - Monica’s history and passion for empowering women
16:31 - How women have been under a trance of unworthiness our whole lives
18:59 - What is the divine feminine?
22:01 - The double bind that women face and the rich, but hidden, history of feminist religious texts
27:19 - Origins of the suppression and subjugation of goddess culture and the feminine
34:28 - What reawakening to the divine feminine looks like
40:00 - The importance of integrating the feminine and masculine for the good of the whole
44:37 - How to honor more of the feminine and let go of dichotomy in your relationships
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Imagine doing the inner work to overcome the need for other people’s approval to feel worthy, only to find yourself constantly attracting that kind of person as a potential romantic partner. Are you doomed to repeat the pattern, or do you believe you have the power to disrupt it?
In the past, Tasleem felt like the anxiously attached, needy partner in relationships. Even though she did the work to vanquish it, she’s now attracting men who seem to fit the anxious attachment style. In this episode, I talk about attachment styles, specifically anxious attachment, and help her discover the conditioning that underlies why these types of men are drawn to her.
2:07 - The one caveat you need to hear about attachment styles
6:25 - Tasleem describes how she used to be a needy dating partner
8:22 - Exposing the patriarchal programming behind the “overly sensitive” label
17:02 - Anxiously attached or love bombers: which type is Tasleem actually attracting?
24:50 - How anxiously attached people are also emotionally unavailable, just in a different way
30:44 - The process of getting comfortable expressing your needs to others
35:35 - Summarizing the key takeaways from the coaching call
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Today’s show touches on a pretty sensitive topic. Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself when dating because you desperately want to start a family? Or find potential partners for such a purpose who may not be the right fit?
I believe that doing so can actually make dating a lot trickier. In this episode, I reveal why and talk about what I went through when dating and trying to have a child. I hope it helps you approach your dating life with this desire from a new perspective and with more peace of mind.
6:54 - How anxiety and pressure from wanting a child can affect your dating life
8:36 - Two reasons why you’re more likely to waste time dating from a place of desperation
12:01 - What dating and deeply wanting a family requires of you
15:54 - The better thing to do if you can’t let go of the need to control in your dating life
19:06 - Some myths and truths I discovered from my own experience having a child
22:16 - The unusual belief (and dream) that helped me the most when trying to conceive
26:12 - Adopting a spiritual practice to this piece of your life and the mantra that can help
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What does outsourcing your worthiness look like? Many people outsource their worthiness when they think they’ll gain acceptance, love, and confidence in themselves only after they reach a certain weight... or make a certain amount of money... or live in a certain kind of house or neighborhood... or have a relationship, period.
Now, those things can make you feel good about yourself, but it becomes an issue when they’re your sole source for feeling worthy. My guest today Dante feels like her self-worth depends on being in a relationship. So in this episode, she wants to know how she can stop outsourcing her confidence and worthiness to things outside herself, particularly relationships.
2:46 - Consequences of being in a relationship to which you’ve outsourced your worthiness
7:44 - Why Dante feels her self-worth depends on being in a relationship
11:46 - How Dante felt like a bit of an outcast as a child
13:34 - The main culprit behind Dante’s inner child wounding and outsourcing
19:13 - Why Dante has a hard time letting go of the energy of one particular person
28:07 - Trouble connecting with your inner child to do the work? Try this instead
30:05 - Why trying to date and heal core wounding at the same time is a waste of time
33:35 - A cool thing to try when you connect with your inner child through journaling
34:42 - How to connect with your ancestors for answers
40:48 - The sentiment Dante shared after the call that I hear often and want to address
43:07 - Highlights and thoughts from the coaching call
47:06 - Re-capping the actions steps that Dante and you can take today
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There’s a hot topic in the dating and relationships arena that I rarely mention. I haven’t really had an episode dedicated to attachment styles. So I’ve brought on a therapist, love coach, and Irresistible Woman podcast host Madeline Charles to talk about attachment theory and how to overcome insecure attachment styles.
In part one of this two-parter, we discuss the three main styles and she gives her perspective on how they develop and impact who you do or don’t date. Then in part two, I go on Madeline’s show to discuss how to use inner child work to help you overcome some of the unhealthy attachment types. So let’s dive in!
7:30 - Madeline quickly introduces herself
8:16 - Defining attachment style and theory
10:23 - Origin of your attachment style: nature or nurture?
11:59 - Anxious attachment style and how it might tie back to your childhood
14:31 - Signs of having the anxious attachment style as a dating adult
16:41 - Avoidant attachment style, how it can form during childhood, and what it looks like as an adult
21:40 - What it looks like when two people with anxious attachment date each other
23:27 - Trademarks of the secure attachment style
25:07 - How you can be a blend of two styles
26:53 - Moving beyond the label of your attachment style
32:07 - Highlighting an unstereotypical aspect of the anxious style as I wrap up the episode
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Getting over your ex isn’t the hardest part of a break-up. Getting over what the relationship meant to you is. If you’re not honest enough with yourself to do the deep work needed, you’ll never know if an old relationship is still holding you back in your love life.
Sharon has done a lot of deep work and created coping mechanisms to try and move on from her last relationship, but something’s still preventing her from truly moving on. If you still think about your ex or find yourself constantly comparing every current dating experience or relationship with a past relationship, then this coaching call with her is a must-listen.
4:47 - Why you want to listen to this episode even if you don’t think you need to
6:33 - Sharon discusses the break-up of her last relationship
11:48 - Sharon reveals what she’s done to try to heal and move on
15:03 - A recent online dating experience that left Sharon with mixed feelings
17:03 - The missing pieces from the deep work Sharon has already done to shift the dating pattern she’s stuck in
24:33 - What it takes to heal past relationships on the soul level
31:17 - Quickly working with Sharon’s inner child
35:03 - A different way to define a soulmate
39:25 - A question to ask yourself if you want a committed relationship with someone who clearly does not
42:35 - How time impacts healing from relationships
45:20 - Why I still stand by my belief about the impact of Sharon’s inner child on her love life
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Do you feel pretty or skinny enough? If not, you’re not alone. I’ve had clients tell me they feel they need to lose weight before they can date the people they really want to date or have sex with their skinnier partner. So in today’s episode, I talk about the link between worthiness and body image. Specifically, I want to share details about my own bumpy road to body acceptance and how changing my body image helped me attract the relationship I desired.
7:42 - Revealing my past issues with health, dieting, and body image
9:41 - Why you shouldn’t blame your parents for how you feel about your body
12:22 - What got me off the diet train and changed my relationship with food
16:58 - The unexpected but much-needed change that occurred alongside my new relationship with food
20:21 - Why I’m no longer a vegan
21:47 - Why body acceptance is a lifelong process
25:29 - The question I ask people who say they just want to be healthy
26:30 - A quick body acceptance exercise you can do anytime
29:12 - Ways you can treat your body as a temple today
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Do you feel pretty or skinny enough? If not, you’re not alone. I’ve had clients tell me they feel they need to lose weight before they can date the people they really want to date or have sex with their skinnier partner. So in today’s episode, I talk about the link between worthiness and body image. Specifically, I want to share details about my own bumpy road to body acceptance and how changing my body image helped me attract the relationship I desired.
7:42 - Revealing my past issues with health, dieting, and body image
9:41 - Why you shouldn’t blame your parents for how you feel about your body
12:22 - What got me off the diet train and changed my relationship with food
16:58 - The unexpected but much-needed change that occurred alongside my new relationship with food
20:21 - Why I’m no longer a vegan
21:47 - Why body acceptance is a lifelong process
25:29 - The question I ask people who say they just want to be healthy
26:30 - A quick body acceptance exercise you can do anytime
29:12 - Ways you can treat your body as a temple today
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Trouble with attracting men who can’t commit is by far the #1 issue I hear about. Today, I have a coaching call with Cici who’s frustrated about dating emotionally unavailable men. In this episode, we focus in on her relationship with her father because while she as an adult has come to terms with her dad in many ways, it turns out that her inner child hasn’t and still suffers from an unhealed wound that impacts her love life today.
5:16 - My general answer to those frustrated with attracting emotionally unavailable or non-committal men
10:37 - Childhood issues that contribute to Cici’s attachment style and problems with relationships
17:22 - Why Cici feels she’s attracting avoidant types of men
20:13 - What Cici’s evolved feelings about her father reveal about her emotional state
25:30 - Why understanding something on the mental level isn’t enough
27:31 - What Cici needs to do to truly heal the wound left over from her and her dad’s relationship
34:47 - How your inner child can blind you to red flags in a relationship
36:36 - A couple of things to look at if you have a pattern of attracting emotionally unavailable people
40:13 - Wrap-up of the episode with a summary of the highlights, insights, and breakthroughs
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Welcome to the official kickoff of the Worthy in Love podcast tour! Every day during the next two and half weeks, you’ll learn about some of my favorite podcasts covering relationships and personal growth. These experts have their own experiences, specialties, and flavors that can support you in discovering how to feel worthy in love.
Speaking of feeling worthy... worthiness and confidence often get conflated as the same thing. But they’re not. So in this quick episode, I want to clear up the confusion and talk about the difference between the two.
1:16 - How this podcast tour will work
2:58 - The surprising way confidence can affect awareness of your worthiness
4:02 - How the self-worth wound is universal and affects your relationships
5:42 - How I demonstrated a huge disconnection between my confidence and self-worthiness
8:17 - Why self-worth and confidence have very little to do with each other
11:00 - How to get a true view of where your self-worth is at right now
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As of the recording of today’s episode, there’s an ongoing crisis with COVID and Afghanistan. These current events might have you feeling a little down. Even though I can’t know what the state of the world will be by the time you listen to this episode, I wanted to lighten things up and talk about something a bit more fun. I also think a little fun is appropriate with my upcoming podcast tour fast approaching. So today, I share three TV shows/movies, three podcasts, and three Instagram accounts I love, plus some other entertaining resources.
9:15 - The humorous TV show with a theme around the power of kindness you must watch
10:48 - The rare movie that I just had to finish watching
12:56 - The TV show all about creating beautiful and functional backyard spaces
14:12 - The first podcast I can’t get enough of (and how it relates to baseball and The Bachelor)
16:23 - The podcast that tells you little know stories about American history, from Washington to Walt Disney, and how they tie into current events
19:43 - The podcast hosted by two famous people with nothing in common with each other
21:29 - The funny Instagram account that makes me appreciate my current home state all the more
22:35 - The poetic astrology IG account you’ll enjoy reading when you wake up
25:17 - Astrologist recommendations and the app that’s far more accurate than your horoscope
27:16 - A few other things I love that you might find pleasure in too
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Over the last few months, I’ve frequently mentioned pop culture and how it has impacted our love lives. It affects people’s perceptions of men, women, love, sex, and relationships. It can also enforce beliefs and normalize power dynamics between men and women, some of which are unhealthy. In this episode, I discuss one particular unhealthy dynamic involving The Bachelorette’s Katie Thurston and Greg Grippo in hopes that it’ll help you identify shitty behavior and take appropriate action when and if it happens to you.
9:52 - How you can watch The Bachelorette episode in question for yourself
11:38 - A quick overview of the situation and the first red flag I see
16:39 - The more subtle, manipulative exchange between Katie and Greg on the couch
22:14 - First sign of someone trying to manipulate or gaslight you
23:52 - How Greg continues to emotionally manipulate Katie in the conversation
25:52 - Why what Greg does is gaslighting and how the TV network influences perception of the situation
28:30 - What healthy love is and is NOT and what Greg actually loved about Katie
30:03 - More boundaries that cross the line into unhealthy, gaslight-y territory
33:08 - Power plays and the moment Katie starts to see what’s going on and tries to take her power back
39:22 - Recapping the kind of red flag behaviors I saw for you to be on the lookout for
44:05 - Why I don’t go as far as to call Greg an abuser
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No matter the age, everyone believes that they’re too old for something. Twenty and thirty-something year-olds think they’re getting too long in the tooth to get married and start a family. Those in their 40s or 50s believe they’re too old to meet someone new, and seniors just plain think they’re too old for everything, period. Time’s always running out!
While this doesn’t have to be true, so many of us take it on as our truth. We see the number that is our age and attach a story to it as if it were real. Melissa has taken on these kinds of beliefs. She feels she’s too old, too busy, and too tired for a relationship. So in this episode, I help her get to the root of why her beliefs are there in the first place.
8:38 - Melissa describes her situation and reveals her relationship fear
12:12 - What’s really keeping Melissa from spending the time and energy on dating
17:53 - Getting to the core of what Melissa’s beliefs are really about
21:12 - What Melissa needs to do to build up trust in herself for a relationship
26:00 - The surprising question I ask clients who see some part of themselves as a problem
29:05 - The difference between dating from a fearful vs. trustful place
31:10 - How Melissa can best practice self-forgiveness
37:23 - Why I don’t believe in the idea of mistakes and recapping key points from the coaching call
40:55 - Your action steps from this episode
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I get asked about matchmaking recommendations a lot. But not only did I have no one to recommend, I honestly didn’t even know if I liked the concept...until I met Sarah Louise Ryan. Sarah is an international matchmaker from the United Kingdom who I formed a bond with earlier this year. I like her approach because she combines the practical with the intuitive.
So with her focus on outer work and my focus on inner work, our combined approaches actually complement each other well. In fact, this episode serves as an introduction to her and a way for you to see if you like her style and energy before we hold our joint workshop in September. Today, Sarah talks about how she matches her clients and what all’s involved in matchmaking, including the four biggest dating mistakes people make.
6:31 - The #1 thing Sarah’s learned about matchmaking, dating, and relationships
9:08 - Some advice for those who have a shopping list of attributes they seek in a partner
11:18 - What Sarah’s matchmaking company does, how it works, and how to apply
22:42 - The biggest dating mistakes Sarah sees her clients make
26:26 - The best way to approach dating disappointments, rejections, and failures
30:27 - Giving you a little taste of what Sarah and I will talk about in the September 19th workshop
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Humans are complex. We're good at achieving workplace or financial goals or any area of our lives with clear, linear steps. But we stumble when it comes to personal development or relationships. There’s too much nuance, emotion, and involvement of other people in those areas to follow the linear path, yet we try to anyway.
My coaching call with Patty today really highlights this. She wants to know how to stop feeling jealous of friends in relationships. If you’ve been listening to this show for awhile, though, you know there’s more going on than meets the eye. So I help her dissect a lot of it in this episode.
9:02 - The real point behind diving into what you feel you didn’t have as a child
15:05 - What trusting other people really comes down to
21:05 - The various layers underlying Patty’s lack of trust in men
26:51 - How fear has played into Patty’s trust issues since childhood and how she can overcome it
32:48 - My controversial take on breakups that seemingly happen out of nowhere
35:41 - An invitation for Patty to imagine a different scenario
41:39 - Why jealousy can be such a difficult emotion to eliminate
43:19 - Winding down with a recap of the 3 big themes discussed with Patty
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What do Britney Spears, Meghan Markle, Rachel Lindsay, and I have in common? Believe it or not, you have it in common too. In today’s episode, I reveal an insidious influence on all women’s thoughts and emotions while in the dating phase and how it keeps us stuck in behavioral patterns that affect our relationships. Being aware of it and keeping it in mind is the first step to unconventionally stay calm in the early stages of a relationship.
2:08 - My biggest emotional fear during my dating phase
6:24 - Spears, Markle, Lindsay and misogynistic media coverage
11:57 - The hidden way media stories about women celebrities influence you and me
15:47 - The types of conflicting messages that we women receive all the time
18:07 - Questions to ask yourself when you feel frustrated with your behavior in a relationship
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Attachment theory books are popular, and they’re mentioned to me all the time. I think attachment style and personality quizzes can be powerful tools for healing and learning about yourself. However, they can also hold you back by preventing you from gaining clarity around what you actually need to heal, grow, and shift your relationship patterns. Today’s coaching call with Sabrina reveals this paradox, so listen in as I help her get to the real heart of her attachment anxiety issues.
3:00 - How Sabrina identifies with being anxiously attached
7:33 - Something that can block you from changing your pattern
13:30 - Sabrina keys in on defining who she is (in or out of a relationship)
18:11 - The interesting history behind Sabrina’s desire to win
25:58 - A discovery made when diving into the world of 6-year-old Sabrina
32:08 - A simple way Sabrina can re-parent her inner child in a way she needs
38:20 - Two reasons why I hesitate to recommend attachment theory books
41:04 - Highlighting key points revealed during this coaching call
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Do you repeatedly attract emotionally unavailable people? Or are you the type to push away, get bored with, or look for something wrong with emotionally available partners? Depending on the amount of inner work you’ve done, you might have some emotional availability tendencies worth looking at.
But when I ask people about this, I get a lot of different reactions. So in this episode, I discuss what emotional availability is and isn’t and walk you through an assessment I’ve created so you can see if you’re emotionally available for the relationship you want right now.
4:26 - Exposing a big myth around emotional unavailability for relationships
7:30 - The 4 things I see attracting emotionally unavailable people to my clients repeatedly
10:48 - Why your emotional availability and unavailability will fluctuate
13:22 - How my assessment ranking system works and the #1 requirement for accurate results
14:21 - Diving into the 10 criteria for testing your emotional availability
20:47 - What each of the assessment’s 4 scoring categories mean and next steps to follow
26:22 - Reading a little from my humorous post about how to never get rejected...ever
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At some point, you’ve probably heard something like, “You need to strengthen your intuition.” Well, I’m not a believer in the need for us to find or strengthen our intuition. We just need to uncover the noise we pick up from our family, pop culture, and society at large that keeps it hidden from us.
Today’s episode is all about trusting yourself and getting beyond the noise. In this coaching call with Lynn, I walk her through an exercise to reveal what her intuition has to say about her relationship. You can do the same and follow through on fearlessly trusting your intuition in your love life.
5:59 - What it looks like to make dating decisions from your brain vs. your intuition
7:48 - A family history behind why Lynn doesn’t trust her intuition
12:46 - What 5-year-old Lynn felt she had to do to stay safe
17:38 - Lynn’s realization about her relationship with her parents as an adult
20:07 - Empty Vessel exercise to discover the question Lynn has about her current relationship
24:09 - One way of matching her partner’s energy that comes at a cost for Lynn
29:26 - The real-world action step Lynn must take
32:18 - A summary of the breakthroughs from the coaching call with Lynn
37:37 - Your action steps for fearlessly trusting and following through on your intuition
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If you feel you lack feminine energy, you might be conflating it with something else altogether. Recently, my client Amanda asked about how to bring more feminine energy into her love life. But we discovered that the issue isn’t really about femininity but how to let go of needing to be perfect.
Perfectionism can feel like a masculine energy even though it isn’t. So in this episode, I walk Amanda through this confusion and help her release her need for controlling everything in pursuit of perfection. If you can relate to being a perfectionist or have some part of you that you wish to change, you’ll want to give this one a listen.
11:38 - The relationship that plays a huge part in Amanda’s perfectionist tendencies
14:57 - Looking at the phrase “no one’s perfect” in a different light
17:32 - How the perfectionism part of Amanda actually helps her
19:42 - A shift you can make with any part of yourself you want to change
21:50 - Ways in which Amanda has already cultivated her feminine energy
23:58 - Why Amanda tries to control things and what she fears can happen if she doesn’t
27:24 - What Amanda can do when she feels her inner child’s fear and habits coming up
30:26 - A quick recap of the coaching call and highlights of a few key points
33:57 - Going over a couple of important things you might have noticed during the episode
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I conducted a community survey last month, and one response really stood out to me. This person said they want to meet someone organically. However, they also appreciate the ability to pre-screen people online for compatible values and interests. While dating apps have their advantages, I don’t believe using them in this way guarantees you’ll reach your goal for a deep, romantic relationship.
Today, I want to dive into how to know if you’re compatible with someone. I cover three reasons why you don’t need dating profiles to figure out if someone’s a good fit for you. Then, I wrap up with three considerations to help you make informed decisions when dating someone new.
4:37 - The rabbit hole you can often fall into with dating apps
6:38 - How arbitrary decision-making on the apps can backfire
9:09 - The real issue with depending on dating app profiles
14:30 - Different ways discernment and judgment affect your approach to relationships
15:57 - Why compatibility and chemistry aren’t the same things
17:34 - One area where online dating can really trip you up
22:23 - A re-frame that can help you overcome your dating anxieties
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Do you tend to rush into relationships and eventually find yourself overcommitted and losing self-confidence in your pursuit to make your partner happy? When you’re single, everything else can be going great: your work, your health, and your life generally. It seems like the perfect scenario to add someone special to the mix.
But when you finally meet someone, you suddenly want to drop everything else in your life and career, and the confidence you feel goes down the drain. If this sounds familiar, then you’ll love this episode! In my coaching call with Nilsa, you’ll discover how to stop rushing into a relationship with actionable tips to help you keep confidently living the life you want.
8:31 - Nilsa describes her self-sabotaging situation
12:00 - The habit Nilsa developed that affected her relationships for a long time
14:46 - How Nilsa’s long “situationship” still affects her today
17:49 - Nilsa’s underlying fear behind not earning love or approval
20:28 - What Nilsa really needed to hear as a child
23:43 - The small shift I want Nilsa to make in her inner child work
26:47 - How Nilsa can prevent overcommitting herself in her relationship going forward
33:20 - Two simple takeaways from this call that you can do right now
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Do you ever wonder how you're going to meet your “the one”? Does it occur to you that there is a possibility that you two have already met at some point?
If these ideas have crossed your mind, let me tell you that there is a great chance that you are already on your way to meeting the love of your life. I would be glad to share with you the steps I took to get to mine.
There are several places where you will most likely meet your soulmate. Welcome to Part IV of our miniseries called Dating in the Wild, where you’ll find out how I landed into the serendipitous moment of meeting my very own soulmate.
1:39 - How randomly saying “yes” can change your life entirely
3:18 - The role of common interests in building friendships
4:02 - Creating long-term relationships
6:44 - Being open to new experiences and its impact on your chances at serendipity
8:09 - How to create serendipitous moments that may lead to your soulmate
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Are online dating platforms starting to feel forced and unnatural to you? Are you someone who appreciates the traditional meet-and-greet experience?
If you are looking to meet someone in a more organic scenario, I can tell you that there are lots and lots of ways that you can build your community to create more chances for serendipity to happen in your favor.
I want to guide you through this process of building your community and meeting potential partners off the apps and IRL. Welcome to Part III of our miniseries called Dating in the Wild, where you’ll find out how to make meaningful interactions to expand your community and find your potential soulmate.
1:17 - How people meet their spouses according to statistics
2:22 - What serendipity really is all about
3:30 - The mindset my coach taught me that lead to my business success that we can adopt to dating
5:06 - Different ways to build and expand your community
6:01 - Setting goals for social interaction on a regular basis
8:00 - Where to stay focused on
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What can you do to create the off-chance of meeting someone new today? Believe it or not, you have a lot more control than you think.
If you, like many of my clients, want to meet people off the apps and in the wild, then I challenge you to create your own serendipitous moments. “Serendipity” is defined as “the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way.” I help my clients create more of it in their daily life, and in this episode, I cover the three mistakes and myths that can prevent you from creating, encountering, and enjoying serendipity in your own love life.
1:49 - Real life examples of what serendipitous moments can look like for you
2:16 - The series I could watch all day long, that I recommend you watch to see serendipity in action
3:00 - The #1 mistake that’ll burn you out on creating serendipity
5:05 - The challenge I give to my clients to prevent them from making mistake #2 in creating serendipity
6:07 - What you don’t have to be in order to create serendipitous moments
7:26 - How I can help you create more serendipity in your life to attract potential partners
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Are you tired of spending the last year and a half at home and just want to get back into the dating world offline?
While I don’t think it matters whether you meet your partner online or offline, so many people tell me they want to have serendipitous dating experiences and discover partners organically.
If you feel that meeting people in person is the best fit for you too, then I’ve created this new miniseries to support you. Welcome to part one, where you’ll find out why dating in the “real world” isn’t as complicated as you think.
1:53 - The surprising place where you can meet great men
3:04 - The #1 way people meet their spouses and why it doesn’t really matter
4:14 - The 80/20 rule and how to apply it to your dating life
7:27 - How to begin tackling your biggest challenge in meeting people organically
8:34 - Manifesting serendipitous romances without using Law of Attraction tactics
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It’s time for us to talk about the dark side of personal development. If you’re in the self-help industry as a coach or any kind of healer or helper, then this episode might make you feel a little uncomfortable, but I’ll remind you that this feeling can catalyze growth.
What I’m sharing reflects both my experience being on the receiving end of the dark side of personal development, as well as the ways I’ve fallen prey to the industry when it comes to making money and getting clients.
I’m being really transparent on my own growth in this way and how I want to show up for you, but I also want to warn you of the pitfalls so you can become a better consumer (or coach) of personal development as well.
6:42 - The inner child programming that the personal development industry plays into
9:11 - How toxic positivity shuts us down from healing through spiritual bypassing
14:32 - The critical piece missing when we talk about The Law of Attraction
17:20 - The toxic culture around gurus, and the false belief that there is one right way
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Welcome to episode 268 of the Love Live Connection podcast. If you feel like you lose yourself in relationships, struggle with worthiness or boundaries, or become a chameleon, then this episode is for you. Ashley has been feeling lost in many areas of her life but especially when she starts a new relationship. In my coaching conversation with her, I help her work through her feelings of self-worth, self-consciousness, and rejection and uncover her perpetual pattern of outsourcing her worthiness and likability.
5:40 - Ashley’s journey in the last few years
12:36 - What Ashley wants and requires right now
17:53 - Difficulty getting into 10 or 12-year-old Ashley’s head space
21:03 - My preferred self-exploratory question to ask daily, at minimum
23:31 - Passion and purpose don’t need to be tied to income
26:27 - Working through feelings of self-consciousness
31:07 - Recapping the coaching call with Ashley
39:23 - Two action steps to take
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Welcome to episode 267 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today’s topic probably applies to most, if not everyone, who listens to this show. One thing that comes up in dating and relationships is the different levels of interest in personal development and growth. One person will often be more interested in this area than the other, and sometimes that can create real relationship conflict or some wrinkles that need to be ironed out.
Luckily they can be, so in this episode I talk you through my process of being married to someone who isn’t super into this stuff whereas I live and breathe it as a life coach. Yet, my husband and I still have a beautiful relationship and make it work, even with ups and downs. So perk your ears up as I get really personal!
6:42 - My history with personal development since childhood
9:03 - Deciding what personal growth will look like in the relationship
13:41 - Spiritual growth and my anxiety about its affect on my relationship
18:09 - First thing I had to do in my relationship with Stevie
22:45 - Leading by example instead of telling your partner what to do
25:56 - Understanding who runs the personal growth industry (and who it targets)
30:49 - Some of my and Stevie’s frameworks and boundaries
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Welcome to this quick bonus episode of the Love Life Connection podcast. I just wanted to pop in to tell you I have some space open for new clients this summer. Right now I’m taking on two new clients a month. In this short episode, I go over what I do, how my work helps you, and how you can get one of the open spots. So tune in if you’re interested in working with me!
00:53 - Clarifying the kind of work I do with clients
1:36 - The big secret about how my work benefits you
3:01 - Your first step to take if interested
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Welcome to episode 266 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This episode originally aired back in 2019, so if you’ve been listening for a while some of this might sound familiar. I know a lot of people experience a dating fizzle where things seem to be going well, then all of the sudden the other person feels a little more distant. Or they don’t want the same thing you want and the relationship fizzles out or just abruptly ends. If you can relate to this, you’re gonna love this episode.
6:24 - Renee explains her situation
14:58 - Surprising people-pleasing realizations
20:59 - Things Renee can do to put herself first
25:08 - Renee’s action steps moving forward
32:39 - Recapping the coaching call
36:38 - What to work on if being a people pleaser is blocking you in love
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Welcome to episode 265 of the Love Live Connection podcast! I often talk about how some gaslight-y things go on in the world of personal development, but Amy Smith doesn’t do that. I think the way she teaches about communication, vulnerability, and boundaries is her sweet spot. She also inspires me when she talks about her 20+ year marriage, which is why I’ve invited her as a guest today.
If you feel like you don’t have a healthy relationship model to inspire you, then this episode’s for you. Listen to what’s underneath the surface of what she’s saying so you can emulate it with your relationship.
6:36 - Amy gives an overview of her relationship
11:13 - Why her marriage feels freeing instead of restrictive
16:59 - Intimacy and vulnerability as directly related to each other
23:07 - How we can over-glorify relationships these days
27:37 - Amy’s advice on personal growth and development in a relationship
33:32 - Tips for maintaining and daily care-taking of a marriage
42:08 - How Amy and her husband manage conflict in their relationship
47:07 - Communication tips for resolving marital conflicts
51:16 - What you need to do if you want change from your partner
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Welcome to episode 264 of the Love Live Connection podcast! My caller today, Amy, has two issues. She keeps finding herself in the same pattern over and over again, settling for people and relationships she knows she doesn’t want long-term. She also has a fear of being in a committed life-long partnership, even though it’s what she desires.
Self-sabotage like this is more common than you think and can happen for several reasons: confirmation bias, over-identification with the part of ourselves we want to change, fear of vulnerability in allowing and receiving, and worry about what others’ think. So keep all of this in mind for today’s coaching call.
7:16 - Amy describes the pattern she keeps repeating
11:14 - What her fear of success is really about
19:25 - An assignment to help her let her light shine
26:37 - Another good exercise for getting in deep with subconscious fears
31:42 - Recapping the coaching call with Amy
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Welcome to episode 263 of the Love Live Connection podcast. A lot of advice you hear for getting over an ex comes from not just what we say to each other, but also our pop culture. But it can leave you feeling stuck and thinking it’s impossible to do, or you’ll put yourself in a similar situation in your next relationship. So today’s episode is all about getting over an ex, specifically three mistakes that I find a lot of women make in the process.
10:34 - Mistake #1: a dangerous mindset that gets quoted a lot
15:12 - Mistake #2: distractions and staying in busyness mode
17:56 - Mistake #3: forcing yourself to date again or dating too early
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Welcome to episode 262 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today’s guest, T.J, wants to know that her partner is as serious as she is about commitment. But I need to give a trigger warning: she and I discuss abuse that she’s endured, and her experiences with past abusive relationships affect how she approaches her current relationship.
We don’t go into many details about it, but we do bring it up. So if this is triggering for you, please take care of yourself and don’t listen to this episode. For help with an abusive situation, call 1-800-799-7233 or go to thehotline.org.
8:40 - Walking TJ through a quick ground process
17:46 - Past abusive relationships, childhood bullying, and their effect on TJ
24:42 - A rundown of what I want TJ to do to heal her inner child
31:30 - TJ’s biggest relationship fear and not putting all her worthiness eggs in one basket
39:04 - What I want you to take away from this episode
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Welcome to this bonus episode of the Love Live Connection podcast! I just want to share one quick thought today based on a question that’s been coming up a lot with my clients: how does money work in a relationship? Who should pay on the first date? Here’s the truth.
3:59 - First date recommendation and having a money conversation for future dates
6:05 - Why it actually might not be fair sharing expenses 50/50
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Welcome to episode 261 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I’ve brought clients on the show before and often tell them that you have to reach mini goals along the way to reach the big goal. So it’s not a failure if you’re not in the relationship that’s going to last forever by the time we’re done working together. Sometimes you just need to get the confidence to start dating again and meet real potential partners, or get over an ex.
My guest today, former client Markie, is a really good example. So much of her life has changed, not just in her love life but in other parts of her life too. In this episode, I let her tell you her story.
12:43 - Markie before we started working together
17:10 - How inner child work supported her in achieving her wins
21:00 - The transformational shifts she underwent with online dating
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Welcome to episode 260 of the Love Live Connection podcast! Sandra is really struggling with anxiety and forgiving herself for mistakes she’s made in past relationships. She’s also taking the unfair brunt of the blame for her relationships ending. We’re gonna get into why this is happening to her but also get into the bigger picture of wider things at play subconsciously.
It takes a few minutes to get into the meat of this coaching call, but I highly encourage you to hang in there and listen to the whole episode. We cover a lot of ground, unpack a lot of things, and I think it’ll be an incredibly helpful and transformative experience for you.
6:28 - Questions to keep in mind as you listen to this coaching call
10:05 - Sandra recalls her mother’s behavior in relationships
19:29 - Why parenting the parent gets in the way of your ability to receive love
23:09 - I walk Sandra through an introspective and emotional exercise
27:55 - What Sandra would say to her mom
30:51 - My recommended next steps for Sandra
35:49 - Summary of the call and tying it back to her original question about anxiety
38:29 - Wrapping up with some action steps
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Welcome to episode 259 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 6. Previously, I finally fulfilled a dream of living in a big city, had moved to Washington D.C., and was excited to meet a nice Jewish boy. Things were going really well, but then I took a couple of steps back when I found myself crazy about a guy who wined and dined me. The connection wasn’t really there, so he broke up with me and I was really devastated. Thankfully, I got some sense knocked into me by a good friend and pulled myself together. I’d started online dating, and for the first time in my life dating was really fun no matter what happened (or didn’t). Eventually, it all led me to a Happy Hour hosted by my (then) future husband, Stevie.
5:31 - Finally pursuing Stevie a few weeks later
9:31 - Our first date and the possible Tanzanian bump in the road that wasn’t
13:53 - Deciding to move to Dallas together
16:01 - A trip to Denver and a proposal in Boulder I saw coming
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Welcome to episode 258 of the Love Live Connection podcast! Did you lose a parent or other close relative early in life? Is it hard for you to trust both yourself and God/Universe and other things outside of you? Perhaps you’re always waiting for something bad to happen or have unhealthy habits like drinking or eating too much, binge-watching lots of TV, using drugs, or doing anything that suppresses your emotions. Keep these things in mind during this episode with my guest Becca where I help her come to terms with her self-abandonment issues.
7:11 - Where Becca’s abandonment fears come from
13:00 - What Becca experienced as a child when she wasn’t “perfect”
17:31 - Feeling stuck in the sadness and grief of her 12-year old self
21:26 - Self-abandonment as the culprit behind some self-destructive patterns
27:04 - Something my first coach said that can take the edge off negative self-talk
33:50 - A quick review and some tips from this coaching call
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Welcome to episode 257 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 5. Last time we left off, I discussed how dating went completely on the back burner while working on the Obama campaign. During that year, I worked like crazy and wasn’t really taking care of myself. When the campaign concluded, I didn’t really regain my energy, so I changed my approach to food and exercise. I reinvented myself, became a vegan for a time and soon afterwards, I got a job in Washington D.C. and was ready to meet my future nice Jewish boy. Now, let’s move full steam ahead to part 5!
6:34 - My six-week romance with a banker in Washington D.C.
9:42 - What my best guy friend told me that changed everything
14:37 - The fateful chat invitation I received to a Happy Hour
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Welcome to episode 256 of the Love Live Connection podcast! I’m always talking about, thinking about, doing, and coaching my clients on inner child work. But I know it can feel a little awkward. So if you like the idea of doing inner child work but have misgivings for whatever reason, then this coaching conversation with Debra will be helpful for you to listen to. I walk her through how she can get over that barrier so that she’s able to connect deeply with herself without cringing, and it’ll help her attract a more emotionally available partner as a bonus.
7:10 - A wish to re-ignite the desire to date
13:25 - How 5-year old Debra coped when trying to be accepted for who she is
20:25 - This decision serving as a turning point for her
26:27 - Using photos to connect with her inner child
31:25 - What she can commit to right now
38:17 - Wrapping up the coaching call with a review and some takeaways
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Welcome to episode 255 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 4. Previously in part 3, after hitting a low point, things in Charleston were beginning to look up. I loved my new city, had a great job, and quickly developed a great group of friends. I also dated someone for the first time who was respectful and actually wanted to be with me, and I found new confidence that allowed me to dodge a bullet with another guy. Then Obama’s people called me, and that’s where I continue my story now.
4:23 - A missed call and grueling days on the Obama campaign
7:23 - Why I was obsessed with my weight, despite being physically fit
11:59 - How ditching dieting and becoming a vegan helped me practice self-love
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Welcome to episode 254 of the Love Live Connection podcast! This is the second coaching episode I have around pandemic dating. As you’ll learn in this call with Angela, the pandemic isn’t really the problem. She’s had quite a few relationships that started off well but ended shortly thereafter and can’t seem to get past the first date. During our call, we delve into her love life before the pandemic, the kind of people she’s attracting now, her parents’ relationship with each other and with her, feeling the need to walk on eggshells growing up, and navigating how to connect with potential partners and bring more feminine energy to the process while still in the middle of a pandemic.
4:07 - What Angela’s love life was like prior to the pandemic
8:47 - Comparisons to her parents’ relationship affecting Angela’s dating approach
12:42 - A little experiment with 10-year old Angela
17:53 - What Angela tells herself when she goes online
23:59 - Making our online connections more like our offline connections
27:57 - The need for both masculine and feminine energy in relationships
32:35 - Angela’s big takeaway from this coaching call
36:15 - Wrapping it up with a quick review
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Welcome to episode 253 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 3. You might remember that after breaking up with my college sweetheart, I moved to Jerusalem for grad school and had two back-to-back relationships with people who didn’t want to be with me. Despite my love for travel and living abroad, it was one of the darkest times in my life and look back on it now with mixed emotions. It got to the point where I couldn’t handle my emotions anymore, so I reached out to a therapist. That brings us to part 3, which I like to call “learning how to adult.”
4:54 - Moving back to South Carolina and feeling like a complete person for the first time
10:25 - My relationship with a nice Jewish boy just a few months later
13:08 - Why that relationship was so significant to me
15:09 - A situation that showed me how far I had come
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Welcome to episode 252 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This episode really highlights why inner child work is so incredibly important. So much of our romantic life has to do with us replaying out old wounds and issues from mom and dad (or lack thereof) and childhood. My caller today Mariela is doing all the things--swiping, going on dates, trying to be open and vulnerable, trusting other people--and it keeps blowing up in her face. As you’ll quickly realize, it’s not surprising that she’s facing this given her backstory. Even if you can’t really relate to her experiences, I still encourage you to be curious about connecting some of the dots.
5:00 – Mariela describes the pattern her dating life has taken
9:53 - 12-year old Mariela not getting love, support, or understanding from her parents
15:58 - When conditional love or unconditional love is appropriate
22:25 - Doing some inner child work on the call with Mariela
29:47 - A sign to know when you’re in a good place with the healing process
33:34 - Summarizing the coaching call with Mariela and some action steps
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Welcome to a special Valentine’s Day episode of the Love Live Connection podcast! A lot of times I hear women say that they’re deserving of love and love themselves, they know that they’re a great catch, they give themselves bubble baths, and so on. All of these things are great. Yet, when they’re in a relationship the love isn’t there; there’s murky boundaries, they’re not feeling very supported or seen by their partner, they’re attracting partners who exhibit toxic behavior, etc.
I know for some of you this day is no big deal. Others, however, find it difficult because it reminds you of what you want but don’t have. Maybe you switch from camp to camp or are somewhere between the two. But wherever you are, I want to help you take your self-love practices and apply them to your dating life and relationship.
6:00 - Boundaries are the application of self-love
8:38 - Relationships not being about compromise
11:19 - How to shift your perspective when paying for therapy
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Welcome to episode 251 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How I Found Love Part 2. I’m excited to be chatting with you all again! In this episode, I give a quick recap of what I discussed in the first episode of this series. Then, I talk about my romantic adventures living abroad as a grad student, including facing denial and desperation regarding a guy I was crushing on hard, and seeking help through therapy for the first time.
11:52 - The major problem in my romantic relationship with a guy in Ramallah
17:24 - Totally crushing on someone at the organization where I interned as a graduate
19:59 - My obsession to keep the relationship going
24:02 - Feeling like I wasted almost two years of my 20s while living abroad
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Welcome to episode 250 of the Love Live Connection podcast. This is going to be a really good episode to share with a friend. If there’s anything that’s a catalyst for late-night Googling or reaching out to me, it’s a breakup, especially one they can’t get over and feel they should because it happened a long time ago or the relationship wasn’t super serious or long-lasting anyway.
Getting over a breakup is really two-fold: it’s getting over both the person and the relationship. The former is usually easier than the latter, but a lot of times we conflate the two. We can even know that the person wasn’t right for us or didn't treat us well. Yet, we’re still hung up on them and the relationship which can further contribute to inner turmoil. So if you can relate to that, you’ll love this conversation with Rachel.
6:52 – Making a relationship mean something or it giving us something we can’t give ourselves
12:30 - How it’s really about Rachel’s relationship with her dad and filling the masculine void
17:47 - Rachel getting things off her chest and talking to me as if I’m her dad
25:16 - Recapping the coaching call and 5 steps to help if you’re struggling to get over an ex
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Welcome to episode 249 of the Love Live Connection podcast. I’ve brought back my good friend, Veronica Perretti. If you’ve been listening for awhile, you know she’s one of my favorite astrologers. I have her on the show a few times a year, just to give us little astro updates so we can know the energy and its effects on politics, society, and our lives (including our love lives).
This is a longer episode than I intended, but I really think you’re going to love it. Will 2021 be a step up from last year? Maybe...or maybe not. Obviously in our conversation, we only speak of things very broadly. So I highly recommend looking to see where some of the things Veronica’s talking about are playing out in your chart.
5:22 - 2020 recap where we kicked off with generational conjunction of Saturn and Pluto
12:39 - Saturn loves to put us in our place but we need him for growth
20:00 - Why Veronica P. believes we’re entering an era of Aquarius, but not the Age of Aquarius
25:13 - Uranus in Taurus will force us to make changes on how we treat the planet
32:17 - First half of this year will still be challenging but also a good time to re-access
40:12 - Old friendships and other relationships falling apart and new ones forged
45:00 - Social media and big tech changes coming this year
50:13 - What Veronica P. fears most with all of this Aquarian energy
55:19 - Biden’s very fitting presidential campaign slogan and building for the future with Saturn in Aquarius
1:02:16 - A really good example of astrology using the U.S. Capitol attack
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Welcome to episode 248 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today, I’m having a coaching call with Antoinette. As you listen, keep the following questions in mind: Do you have a habit of escaping certain parts of your life, especially when things feel uncertain or chaotic? Do you check out through travel, work, exercise, Netflix, or something else? Does a part of you believe that a relationship would just be a burden?
In this call, Antoinette reveals her deep rooted feeling that relationships are a burden, feelings of insecurity in her home, tendency to use escapism as an act of avoidance, and how her parents and childhood contribute to it all.
5:25 - Antoinette suspects there’s something wrong with her or her dating approach
11:22 - Feeling a subtle instability undercurrent from being raised by incompatible parents
17:01 - Little Antoinette lack of a group of friends or peers consistently nice to her
24:49 - Feelings of shame associated with home spaces in Antoinette’s past
31:58 - Recapping my conversation with Antoinette
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Welcome to episode 247 of the Love Live Connection podcast. As I acclimate to new parenthood, I’m re-running a series that originally aired on my podcast almost four years ago.
It’s a 6-part series about how I met my husband, beginning with my first boyfriend in sixth grade. I share with you the ups, downs, and everything in between. For many years in my dating life, a healthy and long-term partnership felt so far away. So my goal with this series is to inspire you and help you see that a relationship is possible for you too, no matter how far off it may feel right now.
7:20 - Embracing the creation of serendipitous moments and envisioning your relationship10:21 - Wanting to find, at age 11, the person I was going to marry and spend forever with13:49 - The best friend I thought about marrying at one point, despite misgivings
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Welcome to episode 246 of the Love Live Connection podcast. In today’s coaching episode, we’re joined by Nicole to discuss whether to follow the head or the heart when they contradict each other in relationships. It’s really her 11-year old self asking for help. A history of perfectionism, OCD, seeking the approval of family (especially her parents), and a religious upbringing all combine in her outsourcing her power. So I talk her through doing some inner work and figuring out how to get marriage off the pedestal she’s placed it on.
7:01 - What Nicole’s head is saying about her current relationship
11:23 - OCD as a child and where Nicole’s perfectionism comes from
17:30 - Nicole’s message to her 11-year-old self and how she’d respond back
20:56 - Revealing Nicole’s misalignment and the work she needs to do
27:45 - Taking note and keeping track of the stories Nicole tells herself
34:09 - Not liking yet still accepting what your partner does and compromising (or not)
38:35 - Compatibility issues and deciding if the PlayStation situation is a deal-breaker
45:02 - Nicole realizing the need to work on herself rather than find the “perfect” person
48:46 - Reiterating some concrete takeaways from this coaching call
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Welcome to a bonus episode of the Love Live Connection podcast! This feels extra special because this is the first episode I’ve recorded since giving birth. As much as this is my business and livelihood, it’s also my creative outlet. So it’s really good to be back podcasting and working with old and new clients again.
Usually, I look back and share some highs and lows (professionally and personally) at the end of the year. But this year has definitely been one for the history books and not one we want to re-live! Since I’ve always liked hearing other people’s birth stories, instead of the usual I thought I’d share with you my birth and fourth-trimester stories instead.
3:20 – Enduring a painful prenatal procedure involving “sweeping the membranes”
11:49 - Why I wanted to avoid an epidural and taking a morphine nap
23:15 - Surprising news, undergoing a big fear of mine, and seeing my baby for the first time
28:40 - Why I couldn’t hold my baby boy for 12 hours
35:19 - Realizing all the dogma about newborn care and delivery doesn’t matter
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Welcome to episode 245 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Why High Achieving, Successful Women Struggle in Love
When we talk about independence, we have to talk a little bit about feminine and masculine energy. This is not an episode on feminine and masculine energy. However, I do think it’s important to understand the basics of that, so you can see why being independent can actually be a hindrance and how you can be independent and be in a relationship at the same time
Make sure you listen to the end so you can take those steps and start making changes in your love life
5:41 – What the Independence Complex is and why it can be a hindrance
8:02 - A few examples of how masculine and feminine energy work together
10:52 - How being super independent results in the person in your relationship not feeling needed or able to hold an emotional connection with you
15:36 - Three actions steps to take from this episode
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Welcome to episode 244 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Use Fem/Masc Energy to Stop Procrastinating and Get Back on Track With Your Goals With Maureen
I’m speaking with a long time client of mine, Maureen, who’s having trouble leaning into her masculine energy to move her career forward.
I think she described herself as a puddle of feminine energy. She wants to meditate, clean, focus on the self-care inner work, but when it comes to moving her career forward, she feels stuck, and puts off applying to jobs.
In the past, Maureen used to be very into her masculine energy. She could achieve any career related thing and knock out any to-do list. She wants to know how she can get back into that.
Maureen thinks her problem is a masculine energy problem, but I disagreed. I think she has a healthier relationship with her masculine energy than she thinks. In reality, the problem is rooted in her feminine energy.
4:45 – Background information on Feminine and masculine energy
9:20 - Maureen asks how to re-engage her Masculine energy after focusing on her feminine energy for so long
10:55 - Maureen describes how her masculine energy felt in the past
15:59 - What it looks like now for Maureen when she tries to get stuff done
18:30 - Maureen may not be dealing with a masculine energy problem
24:48 - Why Maureen’s goal of getting back into the traditional workforce could be the wrong path for her
34:02 - Maureen’s next steps
38:36 - A recap of the coaching call with Maureen
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Welcome to episode 243 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Clear Love Blocks When Your Parents Had a Great Marriage
In today’s coaching episode we’re joined by Alice to talk about clearing love blocks and the inner child work that comes up even if your parents had a wonderful marriage. And be sure to join us for the entire show because, in the end, I’ll share why I didn’t move into some heavier topics during this conversation. It’s going to be really valuable if you’re also a coach, or even coaching yourself.
2:13 – Alice asks, why is she still single after ending a 20-year relationship 5 years ago.
4:28 – We explore Alice’s background and childhood.
6:18 – Do you really want unconditional love?
10:17 – Alice becomes enlightened, and you can too.
16:08 – The importance of looking at how you already have what you want in the relationship with yourself.
18:48 - We dig in to why Alice attracts the wrong people
23:07 – Start taking people off the pedestal, it’s not fair for you or them.
29:48 – Where I’d go next to help clear more of Alice’s love blocks if I was working with her over time.
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Welcome to episode 242 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Relax in the Early Stages of Dating with Miriam
You know when you’re dating someone you feel excited about, and yet, the anxiety is killing you! You anxiously await text backs, you hate not having plans in place, you want to know how they feel and where this is all going.
My caller Miriam, just started dating someone she’s super excited about… yet the excitement has tipped over into anxiety, to a point where it’s becoming unsustainable. We talk through some tools she can use to help relax during this early stage of her relationship.
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4:18 - Miriam asks how to navigate the anxiety she’s feeling in the early stages of dating
6:42 - How Miriam is trying to deal with a wound of not being picked.
13:00 - Tools Miriam can use to help with her negative storytelling
19:00 - The power of not giving your power away
26:57 - A recap of my coaching session with Miriam
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Welcome to episode 241 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Is He Right for Me and How to Know What You Need With Marti
In today’s show, my caller is unsure of how to ask for what she wants and needs in her relationship without being bitchy or naggy. She’s also got these other questions swirling through her head, “Is he right for me?” “How can I ask for what I want without trying to change him?” and “What’s happening long term in this relationship?”
All of these questions can feel overwhelming and cloud the issue at hand which, getting what she needs.
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3:14 - A list of episodes (linked below) to start with if you are new to the podcast
7:51 - Marti asks for direction with dating
10:59 - Finding a balance between settling or being too picky
15:05 - How to ask for what you want
36:45 - A walk-through of the Emptying the Vessel technique to help you make big decisions
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Welcome to episode 240 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set a Boundary (and Really Mean It!)
I really love this episode with my client, Laura, because she’s in a very specific situationship with her best friend, but we tie it back to some deeper, core issues.
Setting a boundary or asking for what you want or need is never the problem. I know it can feel scary to do it especially if you’ve done it before and it’s blown up in your face. But remember, if someone can’t handle your boundary, emotion, or opinion, the problem is who you attracted into your life, not you.
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5:27 - Laura wants to know what to do about her best friend who is not respecting her boundaries
14:25 - Laura’s version of success is different from her family’s, causing friction
18:48 - My advice to Laura on how to set a boundary with her brother
24:22 - Why setting a boundary with her best friend may be hard
27:20 - How connecting to her inner child every day has increased Laura’s confidence
31:30 - Is setting the boundary the problem? Or is it the person who was unable to accept the boundary the problem?
35:45 - Why setting boundaries is hard
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Welcome to episode 239 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Started With Inner Child Work (and Why You Must Do This to Find Love)
Inner Child work is the core of the work I do with my clients. If you want to find love, doing this work is non-negotiable.
In fact, I’m very clear with all my potential clients that they need to be on board with doing this. Because talking about profiles, texting, what you’re wearing, or how you’re meeting people isn’t going to help you find love.
Find a date? Sure. But if you have patterns and blocks that are holding you back emotionally, it doesn’t matter how awesome your profile is or how many dates you go on. Nothing will change. Since I get so many questions about this, I created an episode where I break all this inner child work down.
So if you’re not sure what I mean by inner child work, or you’re not sure how it applies to you, or how to get started, you’ll love this episode.
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3:03 - What inner child work is and why it’s the core of the work I do with my clients
9:25 - An example of childhood trauma that could be affecting your adult life
17:40 - How I approach inner child work with my clients
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Welcome to episode 238 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Worthy of the Relationship You Want with Maya
The worthiness wound is the core wound of all core wounds. I think all of our core wounds, one way or another, go back to worthiness.
My caller this week, Maya, is definitely not alone in asking how to feel worthy. I could tell her over and over again that she’s worthy, but in order to fundamentally change how she feels about herself, she has to do the deep healing work, which is exactly what I coach her to do in today’s episode on the Love Life Connection.
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4:07 - Maya wants to know how to feel worthy in a relationship
11:24 - We dig in to Maya’s childhood
16:07 - It doesn’t matter if you remember everything from your childhood to do inner child work
23:04 - When we don’t want to deal with messy emotions, we typically don’t want to deal with messy things physically
27:37 - How to integrate curiosity and play to your life every day to help relieve the pressure of perfectionism
33:28 - Recap of why the worthiness wound is the core wound of all wounds
36:53 - Tips and actions steps to take if you feel blocked in doing the inner work
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Welcome to episode 237 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to know the difference between your intuition and fear with Katy.
You know by now that dating by your intuition is the name of the game here… but what if your intuition and fear kinda feel like… the same thing? The good news is they’re not. But it CAN be tricky to know if your gut is telling you to stay away. Or if fear is running the show, and ultimately holding you back.
In my coaching conversation with Katy today, we dive into some important questions and techniques to use that’ll help her know the difference in no time. Once you apply these to your own life, you’ll have the clarity you need too.
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2:35 - Fear is not BAD!
3:56 - Katie asks how she should know the difference between intuition and fear
11:01 - I walk Katie through emptying the vessel to help figure out the answer to her question
16:00 - The difference between a real fear and an imagined fear
23:27 - Key takeaways from my call with Katy
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Welcome to episode 236 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Over Your Anxiety of Dating Again
Whether you’ve been in previous long term relationships, if you’ve haven’t been dating for a bit, and you’re ready to date again but have a paralyzing fear about it, you’ll love this episode. And I want you to take note of the coaching techniques I used with Natalie, because you’ll be able to do them yourself and hopefully get around your anxiety of dating again.
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8:24 - Natalie introduces herself and presents her question about having anxiety of dating again
14:30 - How to foster your relationship with your anxiety
16:10 - Natalie talks about the specific fears she has around dating
22:22 - I give Natalie a tool to use as her compass when she enters the dating world
30:17 - Natalie’s action steps
33:00 - The recap from my conversation with Natalie
45:11 - What to do if you’re feeling stuck in your dating life
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Welcome to episode 235 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know What a Healthy Relationship Looks Like
If you’ve never been in a healthy relationship, it can be really easy to buy into the story that you don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like.
You don’t know what to do, how to be, or what to say.
For instance, for my caller, this created so much fear that a part of her just wanted to stay single. As a result, she didn’t have to deal with the constant fear and self-doubt that she’s screwing everything up.
As I coach Joanne, you’ll see that her question isn’t just about how to be in a healthy relationship. More importantly, the question goes much deeper than that.
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6:40 - Joanne explains her dilemma of not knowing what a healthy relationship looks like
9:02 - Joanne describes what her core issues were
15:30 - The big secret everyone knows, but no one is talking about
22:00 - How Joanne can learn to trust in her new relationship
26:14 - My advice to Joanne to learn to forgive herself
32:36 - The big takeaways from my coaching session with Joanne
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Welcome to episode 234 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to do Inner Child Work When You Don't Remember Much of Your Childhood.
Today my caller, Lori, knows she wants to change her love life pattern, but is uncertain about how to do that because childhood was a long time ago, and she doesn’t remember much of it.
The nice thing about inner child work is that you don’t have to remember much, and what you do remember doesn’t have to be what actually happened. What matters is how you FEEL about what happened, because that ultimately creates your view point, and that’s where your patterns come from.
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4:24 - Lori asks how she can heal something that she can’t remember
5:55 - Lori talks about patterns of alcoholism and narcissism in her relationships and a deep longing to feel loved by a man
10:03 - I walk Lori through a visualization to dig in to why she doesn’t feel loved
14:00 - Lori talks about the connections she started to see as a result of her core wounds
22:49 - My advice to Lori on how to continue to do her inner child work to heal her core wounds
28:22 - A recap of my coaching session with Lori
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Welcome to episode 233 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Do You Have To Wait On A Man To Have Children?
The society we live in tells us that our ability to have a family and kids is based on being able to find a man to procreate. And the truth is, that’s not the only way. My guest, Dana, found herself at the age of 39 in a dead end relationship, with a strong desire to be a mom. So, she decided not to wait on a man to have children and went the donor route.
We talk about the logistics of going the donor baby route, plus the emotions that come with it. And at the end, Dana shares how she met her now partner on the day she conceived her second baby… at a fertility clinic!
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3:03 - A little background on Dana
6:58 - Dana introduces herself
8:57 - The story of how Dana came to the decision that she could have a baby on her own
14:32 - The first step Dana took in the journey to get pregnant
20:29 - What the process of looking for a donor looks like
26:56 - How much it costs to go through the insemination process
31:50 - What Dana’s conception and pregnancy looked like
35:50 - Dana describes what single motherhood was like
44:11 - How Dana met her current partner
50:49 - Dana’s advice for women considering becoming a single mother
Dana’s Bio: Dana Freedman is a critical care nurse who spends several nights a week in a helicopter flying over the greater San Francisco Bay Area saving lives. By day, she keeps busy as a choice-mama to a 5-year-old boy, an infant girl, and a back talking Siberian Husky. In 2017, in the aftermath of the presidential election, multiple pregnancy losses and a generalized feeling of despair, she discovered the work of Dr. Peter and Briana Borten, and their Dragontree Illuminator Program. There she embarked on training as a holistic guide and life coach with a foundation in ancient Chinese and Ayurvedic practices. She now caters her own coaching practice toward empowering women, mothers, and women interested in pursuing choice motherhood. In all of her spare time she is writing a memoir. The Kind of Woman who Would is a story of love and relationship, death and dying, and what to do if you should find yourself single at 39 with a desperate longing for motherhood. With any luck, and a few stolen moments, it should be finished in 2021.
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Welcome to episode 232 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Feel Confident in Your Body as You Date AND Get Older
In today’s episode, I’m talking with Beth who is worried about being rejected for her body. She’s feeling self-conscious since she’s divorced, aged, fought breast cancer, including multiple surgeries leaving her body with scars. No matter how old you are, if you struggle with your own body image or are worried about being rejected for the way you look, you’ll love this episode. We’ll talk about exercises you can do to feel confident in your body.
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2:45 - The societal pressure on women to look a certain way
7:27 - Background on my caller, Beth, who is having a had time feeling confident in her body as she’s aged, divorced and fought breast cancer
11:20 - How Beth’s relationship with her body transformed after her fight with breast cancer
13:44 - The first piece in putting yourself in the right mindset of NOT rejecting your body
15:13 - The second piece to learning how to feel confident in your body
23:21 - I walk Beth through exercises to appreciate the parts of her body that bring her stress
37:29 - How I have personally worked through my own body image issues
42:03 - The one thing I want you to take away from this episode
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Welcome to episode 231 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Relationships You’re Confusing with Love
I’ve worked with enough women to know that sometimes when someone is describing a current or past relationship, I know when they are describing it through rose colored glasses.
Obviously things happen, but I’m very skeptical when I hear stories around being blindsided. Yes, that might have been your experience, but to the outside eye, there were probably a lot more signs.
Knowing what love is and what it isn’t will help you to protect yourself from being in a relationship you're confusing with love and from being blindsided in the future.
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3:12 - Why I describe love and happiness as states of being
4:52 - Why I’m skeptical about hearing stories about being blindsided by a breakup
6:38 - Why the scenario of filling a void can be confused with love
12:08 - The second type of relationship that can be confused with love is when two people’s issues dovetail each other.
19:39 - The third way you can get confused with love, idealizing your partner or the relationship
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Welcome to episode 230 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Get Past a Big Breakup With Amber.
Amber joins me today with a question about why dating was so hard after her 13-year marriage came to an end. Getting over a big breakup is not as straight forward as you may think. As is common in my coaching sessions, I help Amber to see that moving on from the relationship isn’t just about getting over the person. It’s also about looking at the reasons the relationship came into your life, understanding the dynamics of it, the break-up, and what that relationship gave her that she wasn’t able to give herself.
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1:00 - A personal update
12:00 - Amber presents her struggle getting over her big break up
15:15 - Amber describes her relationship with her recent relationship
17:56 - Where Amber’s self-confidence is rooted
20:44 - My recommendation to Amber to take a break from dating
25:10 - I address Amber’s fear of being too old and time is running out
26:55 - I encourage Amber to move from edutaining to doing the work and healing
35:18 - A recap of my conversation with Amber
39:40 - What Amber and I talked about after we stopped recording about finding a therapist
42:20 - Why telling yourself time is running out is not helpful
43:44 - Action steps to help you get over a big breakup
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Welcome to episode 229 of the Love Live Connection podcast, The Rest of 2020 Astrology: Your Love Life, Coronavirus, and the US Election with Veronica Perretti.
I’m super excited to welcome back to the show, my friend, Veronica Perretti. Veronica is here to talk about the remainder of 2020 Astrology. Specifically, how it might affect your love life, Coronavirus, and the US Election and the direction the world is going in general. I think you’re really going to enjoy this one.
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5:27 - Venus is now out of retrograde, changing the game in our dating life
12:28 - Mars is in Aries for the rest of the year helping us find our motivation
18:30 - Saturn was in Capricorn and moved into Aquarius sparking humanitarian conversations
23:34 - The back and forth of Mars squaring Pluto three times before the end of the year is a war energy
30:55 - Jupiter comes into Aquarius and meets up with Saturn at the end of the year helping us focus on the future
41:58 - How the current astrology parallels the US Election
44:30 - Pluto is approaching its return to the very spot it was when our nation was founded - over 200 years later, making this election so important
50:41 - Joe Biden is a Scorpio and what that tells us about him
1:00:26 - Veronica talks about why she loves Real Housewives
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Welcome to episode 228 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Set Boundaries, manage anxiety, and not sabotage a finally healthy relationship
This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up? I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom. It’s not that she needs to heal her relationship with her mom, but she needs to set boundaries because it’s bringing out her core wounds. This is the equivalent of picking off scabs when you’re trying to heal a physical wound.
Setting boundaries will give Abby the space she needs to have an even better relationship with her mom. It will also help Abby do the inner child work she needs to do to feel less anxious in her romantic relationship.
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1:19 - An example of something I have been experiencing lately where I need to set a boundary
5:09 - An introduction to my caller today who’s in a healthy relationship, and is scared she’s sabotaging it
6:16 - Abby presents her fear
9:35 - Abby describes her childhood with her mother
16:30 - My advice to Abby on how to heal her core wound by setting some boundaries
21:05 - The one place Abby wants to set a boundary with her mother
26:18 - A tool Abby uses to help ease her anxiety
27:23 - My suggestion to help Abby curb her anxiety
33:10 - A recap of my call with Abby
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Welcome to episode 227 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Know If Your Expectations Are Too High
I’m really excited about today’s topic. This question comes up a lot with my new clients who ask me, “Veronica, are my expectations too high? If they are, just tell me.” They think by lowering their expectations, that will get them into a relationship. I think a lot of this comes from the patriarchy in place in our society. It’s a really good example of how the political landscape is personal and shows up in our relationships and in the bedroom. So, I’m going to go through five ways that your expectations may be too high and five ways your expectations are definitely NOT too high.
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6:56 - The first way your expectations might be too high - You believe they should know what you want
9:30 - Reason #2 your expectations may be too high - You aren’t okay with any degree of arguments or fights
12:07 - The third reason your expectations may be too high - Your partner feels like nothing they do can make you happy or they feel they’re on eggshells
14:30 - The fourth reason your expectations might be too high - You possibly have too many dealbreakers
19:42 - The fifth way your expectations may be too high - You believe in fairytale love/unconditional love
24:12 - The first example of when your expectations are not too high - Consistent communication/spending time together
26:13 - The next way your expectations are not too high - Your partner doesn’t take any responsibility for growing the relationship or working through issues, gaslights you and puts it all on you
28:29 - The third way your expectations are not too high - The idea that “Love is supposed to be hard”
31:04 - The fourth example of when your expectations are not too high - You don’t feel excited by the relationship
34:04 - The last way your expectations are not too high - It’s wrong or mean or not nice to have boundaries or say no
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Welcome to episode 226 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Why You Can’t Emotionally Connect With Anyone With Pam
I’m talking with Pam on the podcast today who has a question about why she can’t connect with anyone in the dating world and was wondering if she needs to put herself out there more. As we began to dig into why she felt she couldn’t connect with anyone, it became clear that she has some core wounds around being a people pleaser as well as a generational pattern in her family around gender roles that she needs to break. Once we identified these core wounds, I walk her through the best way to approach the healing process.
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6:31 - Pam asks why she doesn’t need to date more to meet the right person
9:16 - Why dating is not a numbers game
11:06 - Pam talks about why she has problems opening up during a date
16:58 - Pam describes the dynamic of her home growing up
18:55 - Pam expresses sadness around needing to reparent herself in spite of a beautiful childhood
23:19 - I explain what Pam’s parents missed that caused her core wound
27:50 - I explain how Pam can start to heal her core wound
30:42 - We talk about practicing discernment when being emotionally vulnerable
34:04 - A recap of my call with Pam
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Welcome to the July Bonus Episode of the Love Live Connection podcast, Meditation for Less Anxiety and Better Sleep
For the bonus episode this month, I am offering a Yoga Nidra meditation. Yoga Nidra translates to yogic sleep. It is a very relaxed state of consciousness. It has been used across the United States, as well as in the US Military as a way of supporting soldiers and veterans suffering from anxiety and PTSD. I thought given all of the anxiety and fear revolving around the pandemic right now, this meditation could be really helpful. Enjoy and be well.
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2:20 - What Yoga Nidra is and how it’s used.
5:15 - Start of Meditation
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Welcome to episode 225 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating as a Feminist and Healing from Sexual Trauma
In today’s episode, I’m joined by my new friend Kimberly Rose Pendleton. In my conversation with Kim, we talk about how viewing your experience in dating and relationships as a feminist reveals patriarchal norms still around us. We also discuss how to heal, especially sexual trauma, though pleasure. Kim has a Ph.D. in women’s studies AND, she coaches women around sexual trauma and empowerment.
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7:40 - Kim introduces herself
9:05 - How Kim’s Ph.D. intersects with the coaching she does
12:30 - Examples of patriarchal structures that exist and how one might experience them based on who they are
16:40 - How patriarchal norms show up in active and online dating
27:09 - What encompasses sexual trauma in Kim’s work
32:54 - How pleasure is the key part of the medicine to heal sexual trauma
37:05 - How the brain will cut off the memory or the feeling when there is trauma to the body
40:25 - Steps Kim walks her clients through who are ready to be more comfortable with sex
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Welcome to episode 224 of the Love Live Connection podcast, How to Rediscover Who You Really Are With Rachel
You know when you’re on a date, and you really want the other person to like you, but you can’t help but feel like that awkward teenage girl whose boobs were growing faster than the other girls and you just got a big zit on your nose?
On the Love Life Connection this week, my caller Rachel is wondering why on earth she’s pushing away potential partners, even the seemingly nice ones.
This actually is quite common among my clients and while there are quite a few reasons this can happen, in Rachel’s case, she still feels like that awkward teen with acne.
Over the years, Rachel has completely forgotten who she is, and has found herself pleasing, conforming, and going through the motions.
Per usual, I coach Rachel through some inner child work to heal this, but it’s with a bit of a twist.
You’ll see what I mean when you listen.
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6:36 - Rachel presents her question
8:40 - What Rachel’s real question is
10:52 - Rachel describes her childhood
14:22 - I do some inner child work with Rachel
19:29 - I help Rachel re-discover who she really is
25:14 - Rachel’s take-aways from our conversation
30:36 - A re-cap of my discussion with Rachel
34:08 - Your actions steps from today’s call
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Welcome to episode 223 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Four Reasons Why the Law of Attraction Doesn’t Work
In the personal development world, the Law of Attraction has become quite popularized, and I see an alarming amount of coaches teach as if it were as real as the Law of Gravity. But in my opinion, the Law of Attraction is crap. At best, it’ll hold you back from what you want to achieve. At worst, it can cause further damage to your healing, and therefore to your goals of shifting your patterns and attracting a healthy partnership.
So today, I’m going over four reasons why the Law of Attraction doesn’t work and why I want you to consider letting go of it or at least shifting your relationship with it.
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6:23 - The definition of The Law of Attraction
7:55 - What I believe about the Law of Attraction
8:44 - The first reason I want you to let go of the Law of Attraction
14:50 - The second reason I want you to reconsider this idea of the Law of Attraction
17:36 - Reason #3 why I think you should let go of the idea of the Law of Attraction
21:41 - Finally, the last reason I want you to let go of this idea
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Welcome to episode 222 of the Love Live Connection podcast, Dating an Addict
I am addressing a topic that is often not talked about enough: addiction. My caller today is in a relationship with someone who has an addiction and is unsure about how to move forward. We dig into her inner child wounds and the parallels between her relationship with her mom and her boyfriend. We also talk about the re-mothering she needs to do so she can heal the heartbreak and avoid falling into the pattern of attracting someone else she can try to heal her mom void with.
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2:05 - Confronting the stigma around addiction
5:40 - Tiffani presents her question about her boyfriend’s addiction
7:50 - We dig into Tiffani’s family history of her mother’s addiction problem
13:07 - How Tiffani’s current relationship is like being in a relationship with her mom all over again
18:20 - Why Tiffani is holding on to the relationship
24:58 - My guidance and advice for Tiffani
26:57 - Tiffani talks about what she’s learned from our conversation
29:47 - I wrap up my conversation with Tiffani
35:14 - Two key takeaways from my call with Tiffani
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Welcome to episode 221 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
It’s been a while since I’ve done a heart to heart episode, but with everything going on in the world right now, this is a good time because it absolutely impacts you.
I’ve been receiving some feedback from my audience about resistance to feeling your feelings around anger or sadness or not wanting to dwell on these feelings. So, I want to address where this resistance is coming from. And if you know me, you won’t be surprised to hear me say, it’s in a large part because of the patriarchy.
I’m also addressing how patriarchy has a role in racism and how we contribute to racist structures in our society.
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1:50 - Why what’s going on in the world is related to the work I encourage you to do on the show
8:37 - How the patriarchy is keeping us from doing the deep uncomfortable, emotional work
13:24 - How patriarchy intersects with racism
16:40 - Announcing my new workshop opening up in 2 weeks!
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Welcome to episode 220 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I’m really excited about today’s episode because I will be debunking the myth that love is unconditional. I’ll be talking with Carrie who is struggling with a pattern of running from relationships at the first sign of struggle. We trace back to her childhood and find out where this pattern came from. But the biggest takeaway from our conversation is the realization of the difference between unconditional love and unconditional acceptance.
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2:20 - Debunking the myth that love is unconditional
4:45 - Carrie describes the pattern she’s seeing in herself
6:09 - The fear Carrie has that creates the pattern and where that fear stems from
10:30 - Carrie talks about how it felt to be the 6 or 7-year-old who didn’t feel unconditional love
12:30 - The difference between unconditional love and unconditional acceptance
15:15 - I ask Carrie to remember what it was like to feel the love she felt from her grandparents
19:40 - What Carrie learned from our discussion
24:37 - Why I want you to ask yourself if unconditional love is what you really want
28:46 - What IS important in a romantic relationship
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Welcome to episode 219 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Anger and forgiveness are important emotions that I think are widely misused and misunderstood. In today’s episode, I’m addressing these misconceptions and explaining why they’re important to your growth. I’ll also explain how to work through these emotions in a way that encourages healing rather than bypassing or gaslighting yourself.
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7:50 - Why I’m Addressing anger and forgiveness
9:25 - What anger is and the misconceptions associated with it
11:49 - Definition of forgiveness
14:05 - Why anger and forgiveness are so important to your growth
18:05 - How to work with both anger and forgiveness in a healthy way
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Welcome to episode 218 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I think this is one of the more powerful episodes I’ve ever done. I do some deep work with Baraba, revealing some pain and anger she’s been holding on to for most of her life. Barbara was aware of her patterns and where they originated but wasn’t sure how to change them.
Facing the pain at the core of your issue and feeling it is uncomfortable but necessary to heal. The discomfort you feel in the moment will result in a meaningful long term relationship.
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3:39 - My thought for the week about emotional processing work I still need to do
8:53 - Barba presents her question: She knows she has an anxious attachment style but wants to know how to change her mindset
13:45 - We dig into why Barabara stayed in a bad relationship for 12 years
19:10- I ask Barbara what she would say to her abuser, her step-father
25:08 - I encourage Barba to continue to feel her anger and work through it
28:38 - Why anger is a really important emotion
32:03 - I recap my call with Barbara
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Welcome to episode 217 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
In today’s episode, I’m going to go over three of the most common limiting beliefs I get from my clients about online dating. I’ll break them down and then discuss how to move past each block.
If you find yourself struggling with online dating, I’m also presenting an opportunity to sign up for a workshop that addresses this. Online dating doesn’t have to drain your energy. You can actually meet someone and not hate the process!
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1:54 - My experience with online dating
3:45 - The number one limiting belief about online dating I hear from my clients
9:00 - The second limiting belief I hear all the time
13:47 - The third limiting belief I hear
17:18 - An opportunity to join a workshop I’m holding about conscious online dating.
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Welcome to episode 216 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
In this episode, we are talking with Bridgette who is struggling with a pattern of running from relationships when things get rocky. But as you might have guessed, Bridgette’s pattern isn’t really the problem. As the discussion progresses, we get to the core of the issue by digging deeper into her childhood. In Bridgette’s case, an unstable childhood prompted her to create a very stable life where she has complete control. This control plays into Bridgette’s pattern as wanting something to feel a certain way in her relationships so that she feels secure.
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3:39 - Introduction to Bridgette who struggles with the pattern of running when things get rocky in a relationship
6:16 - Bridgette presents her struggle with her recurring pattern
9:10 - Bridgette describes her childhood
11:23 - We do some inner child work and discover Bridgette needs to re-mother herself
13:10 - The types of relationships Bridgette is attracting
20:48 - How to determine if what you’re feeling is intuition or fear
23:40 - Bridgette talks about her takeaways
26:27 - Bridgette describes her expectations in a relationship and whether or not they are realistic
35:06 - I breakdown the coaching session with Bridgette
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Welcome to episode 215 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Believe it or not, this is actually a really exciting time to date. It’s easy to feel like you are missing out on finding that special person during this quarantine. But in today’s episode, I go over five tips to make dating during this pandemic easier. This is an opportunity to try something different, so why not embrace it?
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2:04 - An update on my life
5:55 - Why focusing on inner work is the first thing to focus on during this pandemic
10:48 - How to get excited about having fewer distractions
13:59 - Why this is a good opportunity to develop emotional attraction before physical attraction
17:12 - Why it is so important to use discernment when it comes to online dating
21:40 - How to make dating intentional, and nothing something to do to fill some time
25:39 - Why this is an opportunity
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Welcome to episode 214 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
In this episode, I am coaching Sherry who has a pattern of always wanting to be somewhere she’s not. Together, we do some inner child work to find out why she feels this way. But knowing the why is just the start of working through her triggers and emotional blocks. Learning to manage them as they come up is an ongoing process. Tune in to find out what the four layers of sustainable transformation are and how to put them to practice.
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4:40 - I introduce Sherry who has a pattern of always wanting to be somewhere she’s not
7:00 - Sherry joins us and presents her block
10:30 - Sherry digs deep and reveals where this all may be coming from
13:00 - Self-worthiness is not the root issue - we work through what IS
17:12 - Why it’s so important to have a good relationship with yourself and how to nurture that relationship
26:03 - Sherry asks how she can incorporate the practice of being at one with herself to help stop her destructive pattern
35:04 - I recap takeaways from today’s show
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Welcome to April’s bonus episode of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Today, I’m sharing a special announcement with you: Tomorrow, I am releasing a brand new course, Crappy to Happy. In this two week course, you learn what your love blocks are, and how to clear them and find love. I am really excited to share a sample of this course with you. I hope you find this helpful and it turns on some light bulbs for you. It will also give you an idea of my style of coaching and what you can expect from the course if you decide to sign up.
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1:28 - Special Announcement about my new course on inner child work, Crappy to Happy
5:41 - Start of Lesson 1, Part 1 of my new 2-week course
7:33 - What you will learn in Part one
8:16 - Why time does not heal all wounds
10:21 - Why we attract people or situations similar to our parents or experiences from childhood
15:01 - Why everyone has inner child wounds
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Welcome to episode 213 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
With so much going on in the world right now, it’s really interesting to note that Venus is getting ready to go into retrograde. So today we are talking to Veronica Perretti from The Essential Astrocast about how this affects our love lives, relationships, and business partnerships. I also couldn’t resist asking Veronica about how Pluto’s role in the COVID-19 pandemic is playing out.
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4:15 - Why Venus going into retrograde ties in so well with this show
5:20 - Questions we should ask ourselves about what we want life to look like once the pandemic is over
13:30 - Veronica Perretti explains who Venus is, what she rules, and what parts of our lives she influences
19:30 - What it means for Venus to be in Gemini
23:22 - What happens once Venus goes retrograde
30:11 - How we can do inner child work while Venus is in retrograde
34:47 - How Venus in retrograde will affect people who have Venus, Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius in their chart
38:33 - Veronica Perretti talks about the astrology of the pandemic
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Welcome to episode 212 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
In this episode, I’m talking with Saskia. Saskia recently went through my free workshop and has questions about what to do now that she’s started to connect the dots on her dating patterns. We do some inner child work to find out why Saskia feels the way she does and I give her steps to take to work through those feelings. I also give her some inner child homework to do while she is on a dating break.
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1:00 - How to work through WHATEVER you’re feeling during this pandemic
4:00 - Why this could be a great time to do some inner child work
6:16 - Once you have awareness, how do you change your pattern?
10:55 - Saskia presents her realization of her own patterns
13:56 - How Saskia’s pattern is played out by her relationship with her dad
15:55 - I guide Saskia through a meditation putting herself into her 13-year-old self’s shoes
19:47 - Why Saskia’s connection to her younger self is so important
20:20 - The first step to shift your pattern after gaining awareness
23:23 - The next most important thing you can do in the process
28:24 - I explain to Saskia the next step of developing a relationship with herself and how that can be grounding
30:45 - Saskia presents a question about how to navigate a situation when a guy rejects her but then attempts to remain friends
34:00 - I break down the 4 steps in the process of shifting your dating patterns
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Welcome to episode 211 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
If you struggle with love, odds, are you are also struggling with money and or food. In today’s episode I go over how these three things play off each other, affecting our well being. I’m also giving you an inner work project to do help you dig into the root cause of your issues with money, love and food.
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2:00 - Corona Virus update and tips to help you get through the quarantine
6:56 - Why this could be a good time to do some inner child work
11:05 - How money, love and food play off each other in the way we feel about ourselves
11:57 - The effect money can have on how we value ourselves
13:22 - The tendency to judge ourselves based on our success with love
14:43 - How society’s view on body image can have an impact on our self-worth
18:20 - The big secret about the coaching service I provide, and the results seen after doing inner child work
20:27 - Inner work questions to consider on how you relate to money, food and love
22:41 - Practical things to do externally to work on your self-worth
24:09 - A word of caution surrounding people who may try to take advantage of you and your money
26:52 - The best way to shift the relationship with people you are romantically involved with
28:54 - Unexpected advice surrounding food
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Welcome to episode 210 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Today, I’m excited to be sharing some big news of my own! Be sure to check out today’s episode to find out what it is and how it will affect the Love Incubator program.
I am also following up with a client I started coaching around a year ago, Joann. Four years ago, Joann decided to end a 10-year toxic relationship and dedicate herself to her own growth. She explains how asking for help in the form of coaching and therapy aided her transformation giving her the confidence she needed to build a new meaningful, healthy relationship.
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1:55 - Veronica shares some big news!
4:27 - How this news affects the format of the Love Incubator program
9:27 - Veronica introduces Joann
12:49 - Joann describes her toxic relationship and what she ultimately did about it
14:50 - Joann talks about what life was like between ending her relationship and starting her inner child work with Veronica
18:08 - How common it is for the rebound relationship to become the breaking point
20:49 - We talk about the biggest shifts Joann experienced in the way she approached relationships
24:15 - What happened after Joann moved to rural Australia to reinvent her life
28:54 - Joann shares some big news of her own
31:35 - The biggest shift Joann has experienced as she deepens her current relationship
35:06 - Joann’s advice on building the life you love
40:38 - Joann’s final piece of advice for anyone working on building a meaningful relationship
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Welcome to episode 209 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
When it comes to your dating life are you feeling exhausted, triggered constantly, or attracting the same kind of person over and over? In today’s episode, I’m interviewing Kacie Main, author of I Gave Up Men For Lent - The Story Of A Jaded, Hopelessly Romantic, Health-conscious Party Girl's Search For Meaning. Kacie was struggling with these very issues and as a result, put herself on a dating break. We discuss the issues leading up to the break, her inner child work during the break and life after those first 40 days. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode. Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I can’t wait to hear from you!
2:25 -Why a dating break may be a good idea
3:30 - A list of indicators that would suggest taking a break from dating is a good course of action
7:54 - Our guest, Kacie Main explains what lent is and why she decided to take on this challenge
12:07 - How Kacie’s inner child affected her need to have a relationship
14:03 - The incident that prompted Kacie to give men up for Lent
15:55 - What happened once Kacie made her decision to slow down and reconnect with herself internally
19:52 - Kacie explains how the questions she asked herself during Lent were the first steps of her self-awareness
23:00 - Kacie explains what her journey has looked like beyond the first 40 days
27:56 - Why having compassion for yourself during the process of working through your inner child issues is so important
29:00 - How Kacie knew she was ready to get back into the dating scene
30:32 - Kacie talks about her book, what kind of stories she tells in it, and why she wrote it
32:36 - Kacie gives us a teaser about what vulnerabilities she reveals in her book
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Welcome to a special episode of the Love Live Connection podcast.
In today’s episode, I’m talking about what is on everyone’s mind, the Coronavirus. With all of the anxiety and uncertainty flying around social media and the news, I’m giving you some tools to surrender, trust, and be present. I’ll talk to you about dating and personal growth, how to stay physically healthy, be a good member of the community, and put some focus on spiritual growth. I’ll wrap this episode up with a meditation you can come back to and use throughout this crisis.
Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I can’t wait to hear from you!
1:28 - STAY HOME! This is hard for all of us, but it’s so very important to stay isolated. I explain why. #flattenthecurve
4:13 - What to do about dating during isolation
6:00 - How to continue dating during isolation
9:28 - A free tool to do some inner work: The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life
13:35 - Ideas for staying physically healthy while being quarantined
18:00 - Why being a good community member is so important right now
19:39 - Things you can do to help your neighbors and community members
22:30 - Encouragement and ideas for those of you who need help financially
24:35 - What you can do to work on your personal and spiritual growth instead of going on a two month Netflix binge
27:42 - Meditation begins!
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Welcome to episode 208 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
In today’s episode, I speak with my client, Aila. Our discussion touches on discerning the difference between being triggered or someone just being unkind, how an unhealthy relationship with your parents as a child has long-term effects, and how learning to be vulnerable can help us heal. I’d love to hear what you thought of this episode. Find me on Instagram or send me an email with your feedback. I can’t wait to hear from you!
3:33 – Aila asks how to identify a reaction as a trigger.
6:15 – Is receiving unsolicited advice a trigger or a validated reason to be upset?
8:44 – Aila and I discuss her core wound origination and how that affects her life when she receives unsolicited advice.
15:38 – My advice to Aila on healing from her damaged relationship with her mother.
20:18 – Broaching the topic of independence and how it can be a hindrance to building meaningful relationships.
27:22 – How to discern when a reaction is a result of rudeness vs. being triggered.
29:21 – Lessons Aila learned from our discussion.
34:01 – Four big takeaways from my conversation with Aila.
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Welcome to episode 207 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Today’s episode covers some topics that aren’t necessarily as fun as analyzing the latest Bachelor happenings (we still see you Pete!), but it’s vital for anyone seeking a truly fulfilling and healthy relationship. Sometimes love can make us accept things we really shouldn’t and I want to go over the red flags with you. Please pop over to Instagram or send me an email with your feedback about this podcast, I can’t wait to hear from you.
3:50 - Just because you haven’t seen a healthy relationship doesn’t mean you can’t have a healthy relationship.
10:00 - The first sign you may be in an unhealthy relationship, feeling uncomfortable speaking up.
14:05 - Another thing to watch out for, physical intimacy without emotional safety.
16:30 - Attraction to deprivation, a term coined by Ken Page, is another sign we want to be aware of.
19:55 - A few rapid-fire signs that are also important to notice and address, including a couple absolute dealbreakers.
24:05 - In case you need a refresher, I explain what gaslighting is and why I believe it’s a zero tolerance issue.
25:00 - If you find yourself in an abusive relationship I urge you to reach out and get help.
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Welcome to episode 206 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I am delighted to welcome my client Rachael to the show today. We talk about idealizing being in a relationship, being happy when we’re single, plus the difference between being okay alone and giving up on love. Have you ever felt like you were settling for singleness? I would love to know your experiences and what you think about this week’s conversation. Come on over to Instagram or drop me an email, I can’t wait to hear from you.
3:05 - Learn about Moon Tracking, I’m a big fan.
8:35 - Introducing the lovely Rachael, she’s wondering how to be content without a partner in her life.
11:30 - I ask Rachael to think back and tell me where some of her beliefs about being “forever single” may have originated.
16:25 - We take a moment to reconnect with Rachael’s 2nd grade self and offer her some comfort she didn’t receive back then.
19:10 - I pledge to give Rachael the support she deserves as she moves forward, not in giving up on love, but in identifying what she truly wants and needs.
21:05 - It’s time to assign a little homework: I want Rachael to identify 25 things she’s been told and internalized as truth then rip that up, because it’s not absolute truth.
26:30 - Want to come on the podcast and be coached by me? Reach out!
28:45 - Three big takeaways from my conversation with Rachael.
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Welcome to episode 205 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
This is a very special episode, I am so happy to introduce Lisa Hendrickson-Jack. We get down and dirty on the topic of birth control, your options, and the impact on your fertility. Enjoy this incredibly informative conversation then reach out to me! I would love it if you let me know what you thought about our discussion, what you learned, and what you would like to hear in the future.
2:35 - My experience with different forms of birth control and how I found the amazing Lisa Hendrickson-Jack.
10:10 - Welcome Lisa, author of The Fifth Vital Sign and fertility cycle educator.
13:35 - Going back to basics, Lisa talks about what your menstrual cycle is and identifies other parts of your cycle, beyond the period.
17:45 - The question almost everyone has asked at one point: How does birth control work?
19:45 - The societal impact of birth control, its history in the feminist movement, and our cultural feelings towards it.
25:20 - We talk about what we know about hormonal birth control as well as the gap in education between doctors and patients.
31:00 - What about a medicinal male birth control option?
33:10 - How hormonal birth control can impact your fertility, now and long term.
41:10 - We talk about non-hormonal birth control options, including barrier methods and the fertility awareness method.
48:20 - IVF, egg freezing, and other modern technology solutions for fertility struggles. 52:15 - To learn more about Lisa’s work connect with her directly through her website, her new online course, her podcast, and, of course, Instagram (where I first learned about her).
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Welcome to episode 204 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I am so excited to welcome Cassie to the show. I hope you enjoy this episode, if you have ideas for future episodes or thoughts on what we talked about today, reach out to me and let me know what you think.
3:10 - I will randomly see flashes of my dad in my husband!
6:45 - Introducing today’s guest, Cassie.
8:20 - We start by identifying the dynamic between Cassie and her dad that she may be repeating in her romantic relationships.
11:50 - Having a narcissist parent can set us up for roller coaster relationships later in life.
16:30 - We go back into Cassie’s memories to find a situation that exemplifies her relationship with her dad.
21:00 - We discuss what we would want to say to that little girl from her memory if we could go back in time.
26:10 - Our urge to find partners like our parents comes from our subconscious, not our logical brains.
30:00 - Cassie’s tangible actions going forward include a “5 things” grounding exercise.
35:05 - The first step is always awareness, with awareness we can start to make changes.
38:15 - Just because we have never seen a perfect, or even “healthy”, relationship does not mean we can’t retrain ourselves to work towards one.
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Hello and welcome to the Love Life Connection podcast, a podcast for successful women who feel like they have it all except love. I'm your host of Veronica Grant, a love and life coach and my only goal with this podcast is to inspire you to believe in yourself and that real love is possible for you even in our swipe right, swipe left world.
Hello and welcome to day five of the 2020 Love Vision podcast challenge and congratulations you made it! After you listen to today's episode and do the mini assignment, you have completed this challenge and I hope you have a lot more clarity and guidance as to what your next steps are going to be in your love life. So today is day five and it's all about taking one action step towards love and I'm going to walk you through how to do that. So not to worry. And again, as always, if you haven't listened to you days one, two, three, and four and don't really know what I'm talking about, I highly recommend you start with day one and go from there because everything builds on the step before it. And I think it's just going to make the most sense and you'll get the most out of it.
Okay, so today we're going to finally take an action step towards love. Now I like to go real slow when it comes to creating new habits and actions in your love life and honestly just your life in general. That's because I believe that's how habits and things shift sustainably over the long term. I think that if you were to wake up tomorrow morning and just decide you're just going to change everything about all the habits that you do in your life, you might do it for a week, two weeks, maybe a month if you're super lucky and motivated. But at some point you're just going to get sick or you're going to get busy or you're going to get tired or whatever it is, and you're going to say, "Screw it." And you're going to go right back to whatever it was you were doing before.
So I like to just add in one, maybe two, habits at a time. Really stick with those for 40 days because that's what research says, how long it takes for a habit to stick. And then once that feels more normal and natural, add a habit or another action that you're going to take on top of that. I know that can feel like a really slow, daunting process, but I like to start with the biggest things that are going to make the biggest difference because a lot of times if we do one big habit differently, then I think that a lot of other smaller things can kind of just ride on the coattails.
So for example, let's say you really just want to get 10,000 steps every day. You know that if you moved your body, a lot of things would change for you. You would feel better, you'd be getting more oxytocin and oxygen and all of the feel good stuff into your body more so then your emotions would feel better. You wouldn't be as likely to go down as many rabbit holes, or shit talk yourself, and you'd probably also sleep better, then you'd feel more rested. So you could see how just picking one habit, I'm not saying 10,000 steps has to be the thing, but one habit can actually invite a lot of other things that you might want to shift in your life. And it will happen almost organically just because it's simply riding on the coattails of the big goal that you want to shift.
Now, here's how I like to think. When I'm thinking either for myself or with a client on what needs to shift in their life first. So I've talked about this on the show before. I talk about with all my clients. I think of everything in four categories. So what I mean by everything is the things that we can do to change our life, to change our love life, whatever part of life we want to change. And the four categories are the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual.
So the physical are things that you say, the things that you do, the things that you don't do. So that can be things like exercising. It can be about eating in a different way. It could be about setting up a morning routine and having some quiet time before you go to work. It could be about deciding to date again. It could be about deciding to not date again. It could be about having a conversation with somebody or saying no or asking for something. All the things that you do in the physical world, that is a physical habit that can shift. Yes, the mental, emotional, spiritual, but we're really focusing on the physical changes in your life.
The mental habits are going to be the habits that really focus on the thoughts going through your mind and thoughts are really important to look into because usually our thoughts just become the way we see and see the world and see ourselves. Our thoughts can often influence our emotions and our thoughts typically influence our habits too. And so the belief that your thoughts become your reality, that's not just like airy-fairy bullshit. It's actually really true. Your thoughts do become the things that you do and the things that you do ultimately will become your life. So things that can help shift the mental realm are things like affirmations. It can be self-talk, it can be journaling, depending on your style of journaling, like bullet journaling is definitely very, very mental. It can be things like EFT, or the emotional freedom technique, also known as tapping. It can also be rewriting the story that you tell yourself about you or about love or about relationships or the things that you have or it can't have in your life.
The next realm is the emotional and the emotional realm is the emotions where we feel. And this really falls into the category... or I guess the things that fall into this category are things like inner child work. Healing deep core wounds. Feeling your feelings, not being a pity party or having a pity party, but actually feeling your feelings. So that can include meditation. Although meditation can also be included in the mental, just depending on how you approach it and how you look at it. It can also include visualizations, especially if you do the inner child visualizations that I do with my clients. It can also include release writing, which is just writing out how you feel. It's not even your journal, it could just be scribble-scrabble. It could be writing letters to exes or to parents, giving them back old emotional wounding that you don't want to carry around anymore. It can be cord cutting, which is a visualization that you can do to cut cords from past situations or people in your life. Any of that stuff is going to fall into the emotional world.
The spiritual realm, that's really your relationship with yourself and your relationship with the universe or any kind of higher spiritual being that you might believe in. So it can be God, it can be a goddess, it can be lots of gods, lots of goddesses. It can be the divine. However you like to think of it. Spiritual realms, it's a little difficult to sometimes come up with tangible actions. But here's some ideas. I think that trust really falls into the spiritual realm. So trusting yourself, trusting the universe, trusting God. So that could include things like prayer every morning or every night. It can also include some mantras. Can be a little bit more spiritual in nature rather than just mental in nature. Just depending on what the mantra is. That can be very spiritual. I also think forgiveness in the way that I teach it, can be spiritual.
So forgiveness in terms of having a conversation with someone and saying, “I forgive you for doing dah, dah, dah.” I'm going to say that's more on the physical realm, but forgiveness and the spiritual world is more about connecting with someone who has hurt you in the past. They may or may not be aware that they've hurt you in the past and it's just about giving that back to them. So that whatever beliefs you created about yourself or the world, men, love, women relationships, whatever it is, it's just back to them. You're not allowing whatever they did or said or didn't do or didn't say to affect how you feel about yourself. So that's more of a spiritual forgiveness and you're not actually having a conversation. You're really just connecting with them in your mind, through meditation, or through writing and journaling. So that would be an example of more of a spiritual form of forgiveness.
Now, this list and the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual realms are definitely not exhaustive. But I do want you to come up with one action step that you can take based on what you discovered about yourself and your love life over the past four days. What is one thing that you can do physically that will help you to achieve your goals? What is one thing mentally, what does one thing emotionally, and what is one thing spiritually?
Now, you don't necessarily have to apply all of these four action steps. All right now, again, that can be a lot. I definitely recommend to start with either the emotional or the physical because sometimes we need to initially begin with the emotional, that will begin to get us unblocked so that then we can more easily move into the physical and mental realms and sometimes the emotional just feels... we're so disconnected from it that it would just be impossible to connect with any of our old emotional wounding. In which case starting in the physical would probably be better because that might then help you to actually connect with the emotions because the emotions do live in the physical body.
I recommend not starting with the mental first because that can often just sound a little pep talky. So if you decide for your mental thing that you want to start with some affirmations every day, affirmations are great, but when done alone, it can feel a little cheesy and honestly cause some cognitive dissonance because if you're saying, "I'm awesome," or "I love you," "I love myself," and you're just not there at all, then it can just feel a little forced, not really the best thing to start with.
A couple of other things that I want you to keep in mind as you're developing your action steps you're going to take is I want you to think about trying to crowd out. So I want you to add an action rather than try to take an action away. It's actually a lot easier and the idea is to crowd out. So if you're doing all of these things, then you're going to have less time and energy and space to do the old things. And I also want you to be really specific on a specific action and not just an idea.
So perhaps one of your action steps, maybe you originally said, I'm going to be nice to myself or I'm not going to talk shit to myself. And those are great things to do. I applaud that, I support that. Obviously I want everyone to be nice to themselves and to not talk shit to themselves. But the problem with that is it's just a little vague. It just, I don't know how you did it or you can't even really measure that you did it yourself. So instead maybe your action step is whenever I go down a rabbit hole of worry, I'm going to put one hand on my heart and one hand on my belly and take three deep breaths instead. Just to help you to relax and calm the mind or your emotions or whatever is running rampant. Or instead of talking shit to myself or whenever I find myself talking shit to myself, as soon as I realize it, I'm going to pull back and I'm going to say, "Veronica, you got this, you can do it. I believe in you and you were so loved." That's just an example. It can be whatever you want.
Now I want you to get creative. Obviously everything I've listed here, it's not an exhaustive list. So I want you to do what feels really good and resonate for you. And of course, if you want some ideas, I encourage you to come over to Instagram. I'm at @veronicaegrant. Send me a message, or comment on my photos. I'd love to support you. And you can also send me an email over at veronicagrant.com/contact if you are not on Instagram.
All right, that is a wrap for this podcast challenge. I really hope you loved it and you got a lot out of it and again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this podcast challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge.
And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self, and more because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life.
So if you're ready for massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching. All right, that is it for this challenge. I will see you next week where I am bringing back a brand new podcast coaching episode. So until then...
Thanks for listening to the love life connection podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love. Until next time, remember. Wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, it doesn't mean you can't have it now.
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Hello and welcome to day four of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. This week on the podcast, I'm doing something a little different in celebration of Valentine's Day. I want to help you get refocused on your love life so you get unstuck and can move forward. Each day this week on the podcast, I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals and your love life, overcome blocks getting in your way, and you'll end the challenge with creating some tangible action steps that will change your love life. Today is day four and it's all about trusting love. So if you haven't listened to days one, two, and three yet, I highly recommend you start there first. It'll make today's topic much more understandable.
So today is all about trusting love and trusting something new. Now, this might seem counterintuitive or it might even feel like it doesn't apply to you or you don't think you fall into this trap, but I think most of us do, and part of that is because of biology, which I'll explain in a minute. But sometimes what you actually want, so in this case, you want a healthy, happy, loving partnership with someone that ideally lasts for many years, if not your life, and a lot of times that can actually feel so scary that you might actually sabotage yourself. Sabotaging yourself can look like continuing to pick the "wrong" guys. It can look like continuing to stay single and not even try to date. It can look like just going on date after date like a freaking robot and not trying anything different. It can also look like putting off getting support in this area from a coach or a therapist who can actually help you do some of the work, so that your patterns and habits change.
Now, the reason why we do this, I mean, for a lot of reasons, but the biggest thing is any kind of change, whether it's a change towards something that you don't know anything about or a change you don't want, or even if it's towards a change of something that you want, it can still feel really, really scary. Our brain is wired to operate on autopilot. Our brain just wants to use the littlest amount of energy it takes to perform a task. And this isn't a bad thing, right? This is a good thing. Imagine how exhausting life would be if you had to consciously think about every single little thing that you did each day. If you had to consciously think, "Okay, I'm going to put my sock on, and then I put my shoe on, and put my foot in my shoe, and then I'll tighten the laces," I mean, that would just be exhausting.
That's what it's like when you're a two, or three, or four, or five year old, you're just learning the drills of day to day life, but eventually, all of these things that we do just become nature, becomes habit and we can do them on autopilot. And because we can do so many things on autopilot, that allows us to do a lot of other things like do our jobs and have deep intimate relationships, and it allows us to do things like rock climb, or run, or hike, or play an instrument, or write a book, or do all these other things that we get to do as humans.
When it comes to your love life, it really is no different. You may not want to sit at home every night feeling sorry for yourself about your love life. You may not want to continue going on date after date after date that leads to nowhere. You may not want to continue attracting unhealthy relationships. But on some level, there's a comfort there. You know what to do. You know how to handle it. You know how to deal with the frustrations and the feelings around being upset or feeling lonely. You just know what to do. And there's definitely a familiarity in that, there's a comfort in that. And sometimes that comfort can sometimes feel like love, and that makes it really hard to: a) be attracted to someone who's actually exhibiting healthy, happy relationships. And also what it can do is it can just make it really scary to do something different.
So today's assignment is a little bit different. I don't really have that many journaling questions for you because honestly, when it comes to trusting the unknown, which is basically what I'm asking you to do, it's really something you have to practice. It's an experience you have to have. You can't really intellectualize yourself through it. And while journaling can definitely be an emotional experience, for sure, I think it's more of a mental exercise, right? Because you're processing your thoughts, you're writing things down, and I think it really helps you to organize your thoughts, and to think about your thoughts, and to put them into certain ways and logic, and that can help you reframe and create different stories. Super important, super powerful, but also sometimes we just need to trust. We need to trust that even if we get into a relationship that makes us really nervous and you might get your heartbroken, you can survive and it's not going to mean anything about who you are or your worthiness or any of those things.
And so I think the only way to really create that kind of trust is through doing. Evidence ultimately breeds confidence. And so you have to do it over and over again. One of my favorite ways to do it is actually to do it through meditation. And so if you download the workbook for this podcast challenge, then when you get to the day four page, there's actually going to be a link in there that will take you to a meditation that's all about just giving yourself tons and tons and tons of love. And for a lot of you, this might feel really, really uncomfortable because it's just not a state of being that you're used to having. Even if you feel like, "Well, yeah, I feel like I love myself or I can give myself love that feels normal and natural," well, remember this isn't just about doing pedicures or buying yourself flowers, which I love those things, don't get me wrong. This is really more work on the emotional and the spiritual level, which actually we'll talk about a little bit more tomorrow.
So I want you to try this meditation, try the exercise that I give you in the workbook so that you can begin to build that self-trust and that self-love, which will ultimately help you to naturally be more vulnerable because you won't be feeling like you need to act a certain way or be a certain way in order to be good enough or in order to be loved. Okay, so to download the meditation, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge, and there you can download the workbook for free. And remember, so far in this challenge, you know where you are now. You know where you want to go. You know where some of the blocks that are going to either slow you down or altogether prevent you from getting you to where you want to go. Now, think of this step as kind of just like a pep talk, like, okay, I can go this new route. I can do this new thing differently. I'm worth investing this time and energy into myself to do this, and I can do it and it's possible for me. That's what today is all about.
So again, I would love to hear what you think and what comes up for you. You can come join me over on Instagram, I'm @veronicaegrant. Send me a DM or a comment on one of my photos and let me know. If you're not over on the ‘Gram, that's totally fine. Head over to veronicagrant.com/contact and send me your questions or what came up for you. I would love to hear from you. I really, really would and I responded to everything that comes my way.
All right, that is a wrap for day four. Again, to grab the workbook, veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh-so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self and more because, guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life.
So if you're ready for massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching.
All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow where we're diving into day five, which is the last day of the podcast challenge, and we're going to dive into taking one action step towards love. See you then.
Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast, and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find the show and find real love.
Until next time, remember, wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now.
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Hello and welcome to day three of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. This week on the podcast, I'm doing something a little different in celebration of Valentine's Day. I want to help you get refocused on your love life so that you can get unstuck and move forward.
Each day this week on the podcast, I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals in your love life, overcome blocks getting in your way, and you'll end the challenge with creating some tangible action steps that will change your love life. Today is day three and it's all about your love blocks. Now, if you haven't listened to days one and two first, I highly recommend you do that before starting here. It will make a lot more sense when we get to the exercise for today.
Okay, so today is all about love blocks and I'm thinking that this is what I'm becoming known for in the relationship and love world because a lot of women come to me specifically because of my work around inner child work.
I do believe that as adults we are all playing out old, unresolved issues from our childhood. And this is true across the board. It does not matter your socioeconomic status. It does not matter your religious background, your racial/ethnic background. It does not matter if you've come from a family that looks idyllic and like our Sweet Pete on The Bachelor. It does not matter if you've come from a family of any kind of trauma or divorce. Everyone has stuff. Everyone is a human. Everyone at some point has lost that sense of love, safety, and belonging.
And whenever you have lost that sense of love, safety, and belonging, then you have created some sort of habit, and that habit might turn into a pattern, over many years that will help you to compensate so that you don't feel that pain of not feeling the love, safety, and belonging.
This is completely normal. It's completely natural. And it is completely human. So if you have noticed that you have some patterns or some blocks that aren't super helpful, and you're aware that they're not helpful, and maybe even at this point you know that they're harmful for you, I want you to know that that's normal and it's okay. It does not mean that there's anything wrong with you. It does not mean that you're broken or anything like that.
I really don't buy into the belief that you are broken and you have to be whole and healed in order to find love, because that would mean that all people in a relationship are whole and healed. And that's just the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I think the better question is from where are you attracting your relationships?
So today we're going to figure out where that place is. Is it a place of fear? Is it a place of not feeling good enough? Is it a place of trying to please, and compensate, and all of those things? Well, what kind of relationship do you think that's going to attract versus attracting from a place of feeling good enough, a feeling like you have so much to give and you want to share that love, or I guess you could say healed place would be? So again, if you want to have all of these journaling questions and exercises that I talk about here on the podcast in writing, then head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge, and there you can download the workbook for free.
Okay, so to get started with figuring out what's blocking you, this is really a natural next step after days one and two. In day one we talked about where are you right now, where are you starting. In day two we talked about where are you going and now it's, what's getting in the way.
So using this Google Map analogy again, it's like you put in your address of where you want to go in Google Maps and it has your location so it knows where you are now and Google Maps might give you a few different options. It might say, there's a big traffic jam if you go this route. And you go this route, it's a little bit longer, but the traffic seems to be moving faster. And if you go that route there seems to be a lot of speed traps. And you go this route, there are a bunch of tolls. And so then you have to figure out if you have cash on you to pay the tolls, or whatever it is, right?
The point is that there's all these obstacles that are going to get in your way. They're going to either block you totally or slow you down from getting to where you need to go. In our love life world, the same thing is true. You have some blocks that are either totally preventing you or slowing you down from getting into the relationship that you want. And most of them come from childhood.
And any blocks that were created when you were older, especially as an adult or a young adult, they might have started in that moment when you were an adult possibly because you experienced some form of trauma. That would certainly create some blocks because it would create some story about yourself, which will create some limiting beliefs. So of course that's going to create some less than ideal habits.
However, I would say that even then, not all the time for sure, but a lot of the time, even some of those less than ideal relationships that happened when in your 20s and that were really traumatic and really created a lot of pain and you felt like were a turning point in your life, a lot of times those also can be a manifestation of childhood stuff.
Not all the time, of course, things happen, but I would say... I don't know, I don't have a percentage, a lot of the time. Most of the time. I'm not really sure. But even if you think, well, I was totally fine until this relationship when I was 25 or 30 or whatever, I really invite you to dig back even a little deeper and say, well where did that relationship manifest from? Where did I attract that relationship from? So they can really down to the root of it.
I do think that you need to get as close as you can to the root of your core wounding. We all have core wounds because that's where the wound was created, and so that's where it can best be healed. So what I want you to do now is, again, if you're journaling now, then go ahead and open your journal. You can pause me as I list all the questions, or you can just write the questions down now, journal later, or download the workbook.
But what I want you to do is I want you to just feel into how you feel and your love life. So we did this on day one, and for some of you it might've felt really crappy. You might've felt really ashamed. You might've felt not good enough. All of these feelings might've come up for you as we excavated the current state of your love life.
So I want you to drop into feeling that right now. Now, depending on where you are in your situation and your love life, you might be with a specific person and it's maybe not going the way you wanted it to go. So then you can drop into how you feel and the dynamic in that relationship. Or it might just be your love life isn't anyone specifically, and you're dating a lot or not dating at all. How do you feel?
And the reason that I want you to jump into this is because this is how we're going to trace it back to where it came from. Now again, just like I said in day one, we're not solving anything. We're not fixing anything. We're not removing any blocks right now. All I want you to do is just get really clear on what the blocks actually are.
So what I want you to do, again, you're thinking about how you feel, you're really feeling into it. You might notice that you feel it in your body somewhere. You might feel a tightening in your chest or your throat. You might feel something like in the pit of your stomach. You might feel something completely elsewhere in your body. Again, it's all normal. Wherever you feel it is totally fine. You can't mess this up.
And what I want you to do as you're feeling into that, I want you to ask yourself, what does this reminds you of? Or what does feeling like this remind you of? Or another way to ask it is, if you're in a specific relationship with a person, who does that person remind you of? And if you're not in a relationship with someone right now, think about your previous relationships that you have been with and ask yourself, who do they remind you of?
And when you feel into those relationships, when you feel into your love life, I want you to ask herself, how old do you feel? So the questions again are, who (or what) does that remind you of, and how old do you feel? And then I just want you to begin thinking about, well, what was going on in that time of your life when you felt five, when you felt eight? Or if it reminds you of a certain situation, what was going on in the situation? Or if it reminds you of a person, probably your mom or your dad, most likely, then how does it remind you of those people? What are the similarities?
And this is going to begin to tell you, or show you, how you're playing out some of these old things. Maybe you didn't get the love that you wanted from dad, and so now as an adult, you're trying to fill that void with the men that you're dating. Or maybe you never felt good enough. Or maybe you felt like you were actually always the black sheep in the family. You just didn't really fit in. And maybe your parents even said stuff like that. And so maybe now you feel like, "Well, I'm too much for people. No one's going to like me." And so you find yourself watering yourself down in relationships.
Now, these are just two very broad examples. Everyone's going to have a little bit of nuance, but there are infinite number of ways that you could be connecting the dots here and understanding where your blocks came from. Because your blocks come from your core wounds. Because you have a core wound you didn't feel that love, safety, and belonging, that created some feeling of not safety in your body and your emotions. And so you created some habit. You created some belief about yourself or a story about yourself. And then if it just happened once and you get over it, then fine. But typically those things ultimately become habits, which become patterns, which become blocks, and becomes a way in which we see the world.
So I would love to know what you came up with. Come on over to Instagram. Let me know I'm @veronicaegrant, and if you're not Instagram, then head over to veronicagrant.com/contact and tell me what you realized. And if you have questions or if you're struggling to connect those dots, then I would love to know that too so I can maybe answer some questions.
All right, so that is a wrap for day three of the podcast challenge and again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge.
If you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you.
My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self, and more, because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life. So if you're ready for a massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching.
All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow where we'll dive into trusting love. Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection Podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast. And that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love.
Until next time, remember wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now.
After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hello! Welcome to day two of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. Today is all about your love vision and if you haven't already listened to day one, I highly recommend you start there, so just scroll up on your podcast player. It is the next episode and listen to that. It's pretty short. And then come back here. And in case you missed it, this week on the podcast, I'm doing something a little different. So in celebration of Valentine's Day, I want to help you get refocused on your love life so that you can get unstuck and move forward.
Each day this week on the podcast, I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals in love, overcome blocks getting in your way, and of course, you'll end the challenge with some tangible action steps that will change your love life. So let's go ahead and get started with your love vision. Now, just like yesterday's challenge was all about where are you right now, now we need to know where do you want to go. Again, bringing back the example of Google maps or the cat from Alice in Wonderland, we know where you are now. Now we need to know where you want to go so that we know if you need to turn right, and then left, and then go straight, and then go right again. So often, I work with women who desperately want a relationship, they know they want a relationship in their heart of hearts, and it is something that consumes a lot of their emotional bandwidth and just their energy throughout the day.
But then when it comes to actually getting clear, well, what do you want your relationship to look and feel like? How does that fit into your life? Then, often they're a little confused and not sure of what they want. And it's not surprising that many of these same women will often continue to feel frustrated and unseen in relationships because they don't know what to ask for. They don't know what they want. And so how can you even ask for something if you don't know what you want? Think of a child screaming that can't talk, so they're like a year old or something and they're screaming because they're hungry, or they're cold, or they're tired. They don't have the words at that point to articulate it. And so as their mom or dad, you just kind of have to guess what you think they want, or what they need, and then you try those different things and hopefully one of those things will get the child to stop screaming.
But once we're adults, we know our words. You know your words. And at some point, if you're feeling unseen, or unsatisfied, or unfulfilled in a relationship, it might be true that it's not the right relationship or the right person. But what also is probably true is that they may not know what you need or want, and so they don't know what to do. And that's going to create a lot of frustration on your end because you're going to feel unseen and unwanted and unloved, and that's not going to feel very good. But honestly, they're going to feel really frustrated too, because they're going to feel like no matter what they do, it's not enough. And it really just comes down to good communication. But again, I'm beating a dead horse here, but I just want you to get this across that there can be no communication on this topic if you don't know what to ask for.
So again, I'm going to give you some journaling questions that I really want you to take some time with. And I know yesterday I was like, if you don't want to journal, that's fine. Just think about it, meditate on it. But I really, really want you to write this down because I think it's really important to have on a pen and paper, or a notes app on your phone, just so that you can be reminded of what it is that you want in a relationship so that when you're in a situation where you're like, "I don't know if this feels good, something feels off. I don't know if this is what I want." You have something that you can refer back to, to help remind you of whether or not this relationship could be the right thing or not. Because sometimes when we're actually in the relationship, it's very easy to get lost in it and lost in all the emotions, and the triggers, and all that kind of stuff.
And sometimes we can get a little googly-eyed and really forget the core values that you might have. So definitely write these down and of course if you want some support, help with these journaling questions, then head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And there you can download the workbook and the workbook has all of these questions and some more notes and just some thoughts about today's challenge there so that you can read through that and you don't have to take notes with what I'm teaching you in case you are out on a run, or a walk, or walking the dog, or doing the dishes or whatever. So the theme of today is, what do you want in love? And I just want to give you a few pointers before we get started with the journaling questions. The first thing is that I want you to understand that you might need to relearn what love feels like.
A lot of times we have been in relationships that have had high-highs and low-lows and the high-highs feel fricking amazing. And the low-lows feel miserable. But we want that high-high again so bad. And so what happens is we begin to compare that high-high to what love is. And so then you go out with someone who seems like a nice person and you're like, "I don't know, I'm kind of bored. Why am I not into the nice guys? I'm only into the asshole guys." And that's because you've taught yourself that high-high is love, and that's not really what love is. If you want a little bit more information on this, I highly recommend you listen to my episode on this topic specifically, veronicagrant.com/episode111, and I'll put that link in the show notes so that you can go back and listen to it if you'd like.
I do recommend if you can relate to this little conundrum that I know a lot of women find themselves in. So again, the high-high does not equal love. You might need to relearn what love feels like and in fact, that's going to be a challenge later on in this challenge series so we can work a little bit more on that. I believe it's day four so know that is coming. However, just know that this might be something on the horizon that you will have to work at. The other thing is that chemistry doesn't equal compatibility. Chemistry can be awesome. Chemistry can just mean great sex and it's nothing more. It's just great sex. But that does not mean that someone is actually going to be compatible with your lifestyle, with your values, with the things that you want out of life, with the things that you want out of a relationship, the things that you don't want a relationship, all of those things.
So I want you to look beyond chemistry. And I know a lot of you, it's really important for you to have strong physical affection and a great sex life with your partner. And I strongly, strongly agree. I think that's important. That's really what makes a romantic partnership different than the other relationships that we have in our life. But I want you to know that chemistry doesn't equal compatibility, and often chemistry can come from compatibility. And so often if chemistry is there first and it's like you see the person across the room and you're like “Oh shit, gotta have that person!”, then that can actually be a trigger or it can be actually something related to your inner child. I've talked about this a little bit more on the podcast. I'm not going to go too much into it now. Maybe I'll do another podcast episode about this specifically if you're interested in learning more, but if you listened to Summer Love School when I had Ken Page on the program, he talked about this. Anyways, so just want to put that out there.
So go ahead and grab your journal, or download the workbook, whatever you're going to do, and I want you to write down these questions so that you can either pause me and go through the questions now as you're listening or come back to them when you are going to do some journaling time in your day. Okay, so the first question is, I want you to think of someone in your life who you love or loves you. And ideally this relationship is not a triggered relationship, so it's likely not going to be a parent. It's likely not going to be a former lover. It might be a really good friend. It might be a pet. It might be an aunt, or it might be a child. It might be a sibling. It might be a really close friend or coworker, whoever. Just make sure that this relationship is trigger-free as possible.
And then I want you to think about what is it about their love or that person that makes you feel safe and secure. And I want you to get really, really specific because those are going to give you some clues as to what's important to you in a loving, trusting relationship. Then the next question is how can that inform what you want in a relationship? Okay. So those questions all kind of cluster together. And then the next two questions cluster together. And that is how do you want to feel in your ideal relationship and what are your values? So what are your values in life? What are your values in love and relationships with men and women? With health? All of these things. Just what are your values? Because I don't think you necessarily need to have the same values as the person that you're calling into your life but I definitely think you need to have parallel values. They need to work together.
And then the next three cluster of questions is a relationship envisioning exercise. And it's one of my favorites. The first question is who do you want to be in your ideal relationship? The next question is what do you want to do in your ideal relationship? So what does your relationship actually do? How does it fit into your life? Do you travel together? Do you go on walks every evening? What are the things that you do in your ideal relationship? And then what do you want to have in your ideal relationship? So think of the tangible and intangible. Do you want kids, do you want a family? Do you want a business together? Do you want a home together? Also do you want to feel like a team? Do you want to have trust? What kind of bond do you want to have? What kind of sex life do you want to have? What kind of communication do you want to have? So what do you want to have in your ideal relationship?
And I just want you to really focus on the questions that I'm giving you rather than something along the lines of a “perfect man list”. I've talked a lot about a “perfect man list”. I really think they keep you stuck in single because it's just a way of taking our past experiences and projecting that onto the future as to what we think we want or what we think will make us happy. But ultimately why we want anything in life is because we think these things will make us feel a certain way. So I want to start with how you want to feel in your ideal relationship and work from there rather than saying, oh well if I have this kind of person and they've got this kind of job and they're this height and all these things, then we think we'll be happy. And ultimately more often than not, that is not true.
So I can't wait to hear what you think about these questions, what comes up for you, what questions you have. Come on over to Instagram and let me know. I'm @veronicaegrant and if you're not on Instagram, that's totally fine. Head over to veronicagrant.com/contact and there you can submit any questions or insights or ahas. I'd really love to hear from you. Okay, so that is a wrap for day two of the podcast challenge and again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this podcast challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh so many of my clients and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you.
My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self and more because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life. So if you're ready for a massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching. All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow where we'll dive into your love blocks.
Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection Podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcast. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love. Until next time, remember wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now.
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Surprise! I am here in your podcast feed on a Monday and you might be wondering why. Well, today is day one of the 2020 Love Vision Podcast Challenge. So this week on the podcast I'm doing something a little different in celebration of Valentine's day. I want to help you get refocused in your love life so that you can get unstuck and finally move forward. So each day on the podcast this week I'm releasing a mini episode that will help you get clear on your goals and your love life, overcome blocks getting in your way, and you'll end the challenge with creating some tangible action steps that will change your love life. So today is day one and it's all about taking a love inventory.
Now, I will tell you that this is probably the step that most of you want to skip the most, and I'm telling you don't. It's actually super, super important that you don't skip out on your love inventory. When I mean love inventory, I mean assessing where you are in your love life right now. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Now, a lot of people want to skip this step because it's really uncomfortable. We don't really want to admit where we are or really see where we are. We'd rather just turn a blind eye to it or stick her head in the sand and just immediately start moving to something new or something different in your love life. I really, really believe though, as a coach, that to get to where you want to go, you have to be super clear on where you are right now.
It kind of reminds me, it's not exactly a parallel, but it's still kind of reminds me of that scene from Alice in Wonderland where Alice is completely lost and she doesn't know where to go and so she tells the cat, "Hey, I'm lost. I don't know which way to go." And he's like, "Well, where do you want to go?" And she's like, "Wherever, I don't care." And he's like, "Well, you can go wherever you want then." So when you put your directions into Google Maps, Google Maps needs to know where you are now so it can tell you how to get to where you need to go, location B. And I think when it comes to our emotional state, our spiritual state, or mental state, or our physical state, wherever we want to change and our life, we need to know when to turn right and when to turn left. And we know that based on where you are now. So it's really important that you know what kind of people you're attracting. It's really important that you know what kind of boundaries you are or are not setting. It's really important for you to understand what you're putting up with, and maybe you need to ask for, or not ask for, or whatever it is.
Okay. So, I am going to give you some questions that I want you to journal on. If nothing else, definitely think and meditate on them, but I really want you to be radically honest with yourself. Now, if you want to download the workbook that goes with this podcast challenge, I highly recommend you do, because I've included some extra notes in the workbook and I've also just got everything laid out so you can follow it really clearly and easily. You just head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. Again, the workbook is totally free, as is the challenge. But the workbook will just help you to stay focused and also all the journaling questions and all the other assignments that I give throughout this podcast challenge will be all there so that in case you're listening to this podcast as you're running, or driving, or cleaning, or whatever, you don't need to stop and take notes on all the questions, they're all right there for you. So again, veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge, and you can download the workbook there.
Okay, I would love to see you actually write these questions down and the answers down and actually journal on them in your journal, on a piece of paper, in the workbook, wherever. If you're really not a journaler and you're really resistant to it, definitely at least think about it, meditate on it, and maybe go on a walk and think about a couple of the questions and just really see what comes up for you. And again, I want you to be radically honest.
So here's some questions that I want you to think about. #1: How does your love life feel right now? So does it feel exhausting? Does it feel like it's something you're just putting on the back burner over and over again? Does it feel like it's draining? Does it feel fun? Does it feel exciting? Does it feel passionate? Does it feel a number of these things altogether? Does it some days feel really good and exciting and some days really crappy and just really blah?
There's no right or wrong here and I don't want you to be in fix it mode right now, not that you're broken, or not that you're ever broken. I never liked the idea of fixing ourselves or fixing things in our life, but I don't want you to be in a state right now like, "Okay, well, this is really bad, I need to change it." I just want you to assess where you are right now. It's kind of like if you've been really bad with money for many months, or many years, and then you finally want to start setting a budget, and setting some goals to save money, at some point you actually have to look at your bank account and see how much debt you have and see how much money is actually in your account. You have to be able to look at those numbers even if they're uncomfortable so that you can set some reasonable goals to budget for and reasonable goals to save for. And it's the same thing here.
So we're not trying to fix, or solve, or change anything now, I just want you to get super, super clear. Okay, so again, how does your love life feel right now? That's the big question that I really want you to journal on or think about. And then after that, I want you to think about what are some of the patterns that keep coming up over and over again.
Sometimes patterns can be in the form of people. They can be that you're attracting the same kind of person over and over again, and sometimes it can be the same kind of situation over and over again. Sometimes the same thing can happen to you over and over again. Sometimes you can feel the same way in a relationship over and over again. All of these are patterns. You might be experiencing one or more patterns, but I want you just to write down any kind of patterns that you notice, no matter how big, or small, or insignificant they seem. Everything is important when it comes to connecting the dots, which we'll get to later on in this week.
The next question I want you to consider is: What are you putting up with? What is some crappy behavior from other people, or even from yourself, that you're putting up with that? Maybe it's time to stop, but again, we're not there in fix it mode yet, we're just noticing what kind of behavior or situations or things or people that you're putting up with. And then the next question is: What are you not asking for? What are you not asking for? What are some things that you would like to have in your love life or that you need in your love life but you're not asking for them?
And then finally, this is one of my favorite exercises, and it's actually an exercise that I used to do with clients a lot, I don't do it as much anymore, I don't know why, it's actually a great exercise. But basically, it comes in a lot of different forms. I've seen it in the form of the Wheel of Life where you have a circle that looks like a pie. So you've divided out in different sections of life and then you rank how good or bad that area of your life is, and you draw the circle and it's really jagged, then that can show you what areas of your life need work.
You can do that. I also just like to list out the main categories of my life and then rank them on a scale of one to ten, 10 being, "This feels really awesome in my life right now," and 1 being, "This part of my life feels really hard, really draining, really heavy, want ignore to all of those things." So instead of looking at your entire life, though you can certainly do that, I've broken down some categories within your love life to look at because all of these things are ultimately the ingredients for a healthy relationship. And so if your boundaries are off or your communication's off, or whatever it is, then it's going to be really, really hard for you to create a healthy relationship when these skills and tools aren't where they need to be. So again, not trying to fix it and not trying to judge yourself.
Let's just rank where each of these categories are in your love life. And again, I have all these categories written down in the workbook at veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge if you want to grab them there. But right now, or I can tell you right now, the categories are Boundaries, Communication, Worthiness, (how worthy do you feel of love? How worthy do you feel of someone's attention, love, adoration, things like that). Reciprocity, (how much does your love life feel it's reciprocal, or even, do you feel like you're putting more of the energy and effort into your love life?) Passion/Excitement, does it feel exciting and passionate? And then finally Trust. How much do you trust yourself? How much do you trust the process? How much do you trust others? So where would you rank trust? So I'll say those again quickly. Boundaries, Communication, Worthiness, Reciprocity, Excitement/Passion and Trust.
And actually, you know what, I'm going to go ahead and add Vulnerability in there because I think that's also really important. And honestly, you can feel free to add any other categories that are important to you that I didn't mention within your love life. But I think these really cover the big pieces when it comes to creating a healthy, happy relationship, so we'll add vulnerability in there.
All right, that is it for day one. Again, if you'd like a copy of the workbook that goes along with this podcast challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/podcastchallenge. And if you've been thinking that I might help you get out of your dating patterns and truly transform your relationships, as I've done in my own life and the lives of oh so many of my clients, and help you craft a life that serves you, I'd love to work with you. My clients have left toxic relationships, started to actually enjoy dating and meeting people, met their partners, gotten married, and even had some babies. You can also expect to grow in your career, spirituality, sense of self, and more because guess what? You are the common denominator in your own life.
So if you're ready for a massive transformation and are no longer available to stay stuck, I'd love to help you get out of this pattern. Head over to veronicagrant.com/coaching to learn more and take the next step, which is to schedule an introductory call with me. During our call together, we'll get to know each other and see if working together is the next right step for you. Again, that's veronicagrant.com/coaching.
All right, that's it. I will see you tomorrow when we dive into your love vision. Thanks for listening to the Love Life Connection podcast. You can find the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/podcast, and that's also the place you can sign up to be coached by me here on the show. And if you love this podcast, please leave a review over on Apple Podcasts. It helps more incredible women like you find this show and find real love. Until next time, remember wherever you are is exactly where you need to be. You're not broken and you don't need to be fixed. Just because you've never had the relationship you want before, doesn't mean you can't have it now.
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Welcome to episode 203 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Today I have a great guest joining me, Katie, and we’re discussing coaching, how to get started as a life coach, and why authenticity is the real key to success. I hope you find this conversation inspiring, definitely reach out to me and let me know what you think.
3:00 - About my passion for working with coaches and why I love it.
6:55 - Ask yourself - why do you want to be a coach and what specialty do you have to offer?
7:35 - Welcome Katie to the show!
11:00 - Finding the path to becoming the coach you would want for yourself.
16:45 - Identify your potential clients and what their pain points are.
20:50 - We talk about the fear surrounding changing careers and starting a new business.
25:30 - It all comes back to our inner belief systems, where do these feelings and worries originate?
31:50 - The best way to find clients is to be your own best client.
34:30 - My 7 steps for coaches to build a successful, profitable business.
46:10 - Next week - I have a super special Valentine’s Day surprise coming Monday, don’t miss it.
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Welcome to this special bonus episode of The Love Life Connection Podcast. What do we think of Pilot Pete? I go over this season’s first four episodes of The Bachelor and give you my thoughts. Don’t forget to check out my fabulous virtual retreat coming up in March, Shift Your Dating Patterns In A Weekend. I want to hear from you though, come over to Instagram and let me know if you are loving this series!
Let’s get started.
We start our conversation with a few reminders and background details
2:25 - I was rooting for Mike but here we are with Pilot Pete
4:20 - I think Pete is on the show for the right reasons
7:55 - I can’t choose a front runner because Pete falls in love with everyone
Key lessons from this episode
12:25 - The role of family, how we fell for Pete’s perfect parents and the contestant’s family relationships
18:45 - Enough with the girl-on-girl drama!
23:00 - Historical roots of competition between women
28:40 - Shoutout to the assertive women going after what they want
34:50 - 3 lessons recap: Your parents don’t determine your relationship success, women are not your enemy, and go after what you want
And the Patriarchy Roses go to…
35:30 - Madison’s objectification, weight gain, and weight loss portrayal
37:30 - The gross pillow fight
38:15 - All the girl-on-girl crime going on!
40:20 - Champagne-gate with Kelsey
41:15 - Hannah Ann claiming bullying and showing her privilege
Grab your favorite drink, and come along for the ride!
A few episodes that we can learn from related to what we learned this week on The Bachelor.After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:
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Welcome to episode 202 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Today I am welcoming a very special guest, Alison Armstrong. Her book, The Queen’s Code, has had a huge impact on my life and relationship. She has taught me to ask, “What if men aren’t misbehaving?”
Learn about Alison’s incredible research and the lessons that have come from it. She has been studying men, women, and their relationships with one another for almost 30 years!
2:15 - Let’s ask ourselves: What if men aren’t misbehaving? Is it men or is it me?
6:18 - Welcome Alison!
10:20 - We often confuse the men in our lives when we state a need but do not follow through with action.
15:07 - Why do we believe others are intentionally misbehaving? What if no one is actually misbehaving?
20:15 - The words masculine and feminine are loaded with baggage, men AND women should focus on being committed and goal oriented.
24:30 - All humans have a tendency to objectify ourselves by applying labels.
28:34 - Relationships are based on expectations, partnerships have shared power that flows.
31:10 - The importance of acknowledging men as human beings in everyday life.
34:00 - Criticism does not inspire men to be better.
39:02 - If given the chance, an emasculated man will step into powerful space you have created.
41:00 - Appreciation brings out the type of behavior criticism never could.
42:15 - Connect with Alison on her website, understandmen.com, and find more information on her YouTube channel.
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Welcome to episode 201 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
If you are dating, or have ever dated, you are probably familiar with the feeling of rejection. My wonderful client, Hillary, jumps on a call with me to discuss how to deal with rejection, “ghosting”, and texting expectations.
Hillary tells me about a recent date that faded into the ether and how it’s impacting her interaction with a new guy. Together we discover that old patterns can reappear in unexpected ways and I give her some tips on what to do when that happens.
2:18 - What is the “pullback”?
5:45 - Be sure to check out my totally free 60-minute workshop, “New Year, New Boo”.
7:30 - Welcome Hillary! She asks, “How should I deal with rejection?” and, “How do I know if it’s pullback or just busy-ness?”
12:00 - I explain that rejection hurts, whether it’s an ego sting or dashing our dreams of what could be.
15:50 - It’s important to sit with those negative feelings but don’t devolve into a pity party.
18:30 - Hard lesson: Stop getting advice from friends.
23:30 - We determine that Hillary is seeking validation through daily communication with her dates.
26:35 - Finding someone who texts as often as you want probably means they have other qualities you do not want.
29:20 - How doing inner-child work can help reduce our anxiety around fear from rejection.
37:35 - The coffee pot problem: My favorite analogy for real versus imagined issues.
39:40 - The symptom versus the cause. What triggers you isn’t always what’s really bothering you.
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Welcome to episode 200 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I am so thrilled for 200 episodes and this wouldn’t be possible without you, so thank you for being a part of this community. Your presence is seen and it is felt, and I am so deeply grateful.
To celebrate episode 200 I wanted to do something special, but I wasn’t sure what to do, but last year I pulled back the curtain to share what had happened in 2018, and today we’re going to do the same for 2019. Some of it is amazing, and some of it was anything but amazing.
To celebrate 200 episodes, I’m also offering one-hour coaching sessions for $200. I don’t generally offer one-off sessions, but for the next four days these calls are available In one hour we can look at why you’re feeling stuck in your life love, and I can help you create a plan to move forward. To follow-up, you’ll have 7 days of email coaching as well.
There will be no next time, so book your session now by clicking here.
3:30 - We kick off by flashing back to 2018, and living in Denver, CO and our move on January 1st to Northern California.
7:00 - As January turned into February the rain continues and followed me to Iceland.
9:15 - How a conversation with my mom impacted my relationship with my husband.
14:00 - In April we went back East for Passover and I ask about living in Philadelphia.
16:30 - By May I knew I wanted to move back to the East coast and we look at the next chapter of our adventure.
19:20 - On the business front, things were a lot less clear.
23:00 - June brings baby talk, but I have a limiting belief related to my business.
25:00 - Getting clear on business expenses, and how clients really want to work with me.
31:10 - My relationship with hormonal birth control and trusting what I put in my body.
35:50 - Connecting even more with my body as I evaluate how much I’m really moving and eating.
41:10 - October was beautiful, I hired a new podcast producer and simplified my business and it was beautiful.
45:00 - November comes around, and we get serious about baby and I’m reminded about divine timing.
50:50 - We are wrapping up in December with the winter solstice and my birthday. And we officially close the Love Action Tribe.
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Welcome to episode 199 of the Love Live Connection podcast and welcome to a new decade.
I want to talk a little about manifesting and the Law of Attraction, it can be misunderstood and mistaught and that’s why I’m excited to share this conversation with Jasmine today. As you listen today I want you to consider, are you afraid if you focus on another area of life you might miss out on a partner? Do you know why you want whatever you want in the first place? Are you trying to control everything or can you let things happen in divine timing?
4:20 - We welcome Jasmine to the show with her question.
7:20 - Looking at the fear around this question
10:15 - Talking about the reality behind manifesting and looking at the feeling behind it.
11:45 - Defining The Law of Attraction
14:35 - The power of focusing on your own core values
18:00 - Taking the pressure off is where the magic happens
19:40 - Shifting focus to the guy Jasmine is dating, but doesn’t see a long term relationship
25:40 - Jasmine’s takeaways from today’s conversation
26:45 - You are the one in power and more reminders from Veronica
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Welcome to episode 198 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
Today I’m joined by my good friend Veronica Perretti. Veronica joined me on the show before to talk about the difference between your sun and moon signs and your astrological chart and compatibility. You can listen to that episode here.
About Veronica:Veronica is an astrologer by day, a yoga teacher by night, and a wellness advocate for doTERRA at all hours. After years of seeking outside experts and healers to fix her, she turned to her chart and her oils to heal herself. Veronica lives in NYC with her honey and her kitty kids, Rama and Zora. She’s an Aries with a Virgo moon, obsessed with KonMari and Bravo TV. You can learn more about working with her at veronicaperretti.com.
2:45 - My on-again-off-again relationship with astrology.
9:00 - Why I recommend Veronica when people ask me for a recommendation along with a few other recommendations for Hedi Rose Robbins and Jennifer Racioppi
11:15 - Veronica shares a couple of high-level pieces as we look at 2020
15:30 -What it means when Saturn and Pluto come together.
21:00 - How the eclipses will impact 2020
24:15 - The impact of the Capricorn energy in 2020
28:45 - Will the retrogrades make 2020 a tough year?
33:45 - What’s happening with Venus in 2020?
41:25 - Astrology and what’s happening politically right now
51:20 - Connect with Veronica on Instagram and on her podcast.
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Welcome to episode 197 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I’m really excited about this conversation because we’re going to talk about how to actually shift your inner child. Before we get into that conversation I want to remind you that if you’re feeling off this holiday season or triggered as I was when I was single to reach out to someone. It could be a friend in your life or even DM me, I respond to every single one. There is someone in your life you can share how you’re feeling, and I want you to do that.
2:20 - A mantra I use to soften and let go of my desire to control all the things - What is for me cannot pass me.
7:30 - The childhood experiences that informed Julie’s pattern of doing things to fit in or please
10:40 - Looking at what Julie’s inner child actually needed
12:50 - How Julie is changing the pattern with herself (including dating herself)
15:30 - Looking at how Julie’s inner child impacted her previous relationship
17:50 - How to connect with your inner child
20:15 - Responding to triggers by connecting to your inner child
25:15 - How to connect with me and be coached on one of these calls
26:20 - Veronica shares a couple of caveats to inner child work
28:50 - A look at the steps to connecting with your inner child
27:15 - Spiritual bypassing
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Today on the show I'm talking about three keys to growing or starting your life coaching business. Now, I know a lot of you aren't starting a life coaching business, that's not on the horizon, but if you have any kind of entrepreneurial bug or you have a business or you think you might want a business, this episode will apply to you and I know you'll learn a ton.
Or if you're simply just curious about the behind the scenes of my business and kind of want to know what I did to be "successful," whatever the hell that even means, you're going to love this episode. And so I really wanted to do this episode for two main reasons. As I mentioned in last week's episode where I coached Renata, I've been doing a lot more work with aspiring and beginning life coaches.
If this conversation resonates with you, be sure to learn more over at veronicagrant.com/episode196
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Welcome to episode 195 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I’ve been working with more women on building their coaching business, and I freaking love it. I love the coaching industry and supporting people in this way. I invited one of my clients, Renata, to join us on the show today for a coaching session.
When I work with coaches we focus on 3 core things, their own mindset and beliefs, building their own coaching toolbox, and of course the business building piece. As Renata sat down with her first client they were able to get to a point of awareness but now she’s looking at moving that client through to what’s next.
This is a common question from all of my clients, so this is a great episode for anyone.
2:20 - The difference between therapy and coaching
8:30 - Renata shares her question about moving from awareness and through fear
10:50 - Sharing about how to navigate clients through making a change
12:00 - Using inner child work to connect dots and shift into action
16:30 - Working with a client through the process
18:40 - The importance of the right client
23:30 - Expectations around how long this work will take for a client
29:00 - Being your own best client
38:40 - Veronica shares action items to wrap up the episode
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Today is part three of a three part series on why high achieving women's struggle in love, and the purpose of these episodes are to do three things.
Today is all about navigating two very real realities of dating as a high achieving women, and why they’re not actually bad things.
If this conversation resonates with you, be sure to learn more over at veronicagrant.com/episode194
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Welcome to episode 193 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I am really excited that Stephanie brought this question to us, we haven’t talked a lot about friends with benefits and so that is what we’re talking about today. If this is something you are in, or you’re considering this is a great episode to listen in on.
I challenge you to listen to this (and any) episode without judgment. Listen in to see what you can learn and apply to your own situations regardless of how you feel about friends with benefits.
5:20 - Stephanie shares her question about moving from friendship to relationship
9:50 - Listen in to Three Relationships You’re Confusing with Real Love
10:40 - Seeing what we want to see with a person instead of seeing what is there
11:50 - Having the conversation about to define a relationship
15:30 - How to language what you want as you move from friends to a romantic relationship
17:50 - This is important - You have to believe what he says
20:15 - Setting boundaries after the conversation
22:30 - Stephanie shares how she feels as we wrap up our session
24:00 - Veronica shares action items to wrap up the episode
25:20 - Two reasons to avoid a friends with benefit relationship
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Today is part two of a three part series on why high achieving women's struggle in love and the purpose of these episodes are to do three things.
Today is all about using the same formula that you use to get that success you've had in your career and apply it to your love life.
If this conversation resonates with you, be sure to learn more over at veronicagrant.com/episode192
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Welcome to episode 191 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I am joined this week by Tina to talk about the fear of getting what you want. We talk about how fear and anxiety can arise when we experience happiness and success and the difference between real and made up fear. Be sure to listen to the entire episode as we share how you can handle these types of fear.
11:40 - Tina poses her question about limiting herself because of fear and anxiety.
12:25 - Tina shares that this question is coming up for her due to things at home with her family and how this tends to flare up doubt and anxiety in her personal relationships and business.
13:40 - Tina shares her relationship with risk and how that may play into today’s fears and anxieties.
15:30 - Tina shares her experience with not getting what she wants when she goes for it and how her childhood and being called “emotional” affects her today in her life and parenting.
19:50 - Tina tells us why she is so afraid of failing and we get to the real reasons.
21:50 - We talk about the comfort of not choosing or trying and feeling that we aren’t in control.
23:15 - “Even if going outside is still better, it’s scary.”
24:30 - I break down Tina’ s fears.
29:15 - We call out Tina’s made up fears.
31:30 - I share how we learn through contrast.
33:30 - I share what I always tell myself that helps me in my life and business.
37:00 - Wrap up of Tina’s action items.
40:00 - Tangible and intangible things you can do to overcome fear.
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Today is part one of a three part series on why high achieving women's struggle in love, and the purpose of these episodes are to do three things.
The first thing is I want to normalize the very real and unique challenges that ambitious women face in the dating pool.
Number two, I want to give you a couple of mindset shifts so that you can see these "challenges" as actual opportunities for your love life.
And number three, I want to make sure you have some actionable steps you can take away and you're going to get actionable steps after every single one of these three episodes.
Make sure you listen to the end so you can take those steps and start making changes in your love life
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Welcome to episode 189 of the Love Live Connection podcast.
I am joined this week by Amanda to talk about reconciliation and returning to a relationship when it doesn’t feel complete. I want you to make sure you listen all the way to the end because I give Amanda some key pieces as she explores reconciling her relationship. I also share more about knowing when to stay or leave.
10:40 - Amanda shares her question on reconciliation with a partner.
13:15 - Amanda shares why she wanted to reconcile and highlights some work she did on herself during the separation.
17:30 - Amanda shares the root of her people-pleasing.
19:40 - What prompted me to start a health coaching business.
21:30 - Looking at Amanda’s pattern around taking care of everyone.
24:50 - The three pieces of every relationship.
29:30 - Talking through the guilt around finding another partner while separated.
29:30 - Talking through the guilt around finding another partner while separated.
32:30 - Actionable takeaways for Amanda.
39:20 - How to know when to stay or leave.
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I am so excited to connect with you and to talk to you about body confidence, emotional eating, dieting or breaking up with dieting and all that kind of good stuff. This is a topic that's actually really close to my heart. Now, if you've been following me for a long time, since like the beginning of my business, then you might remember that I actually started as a health coach.
I really wanted to help women to break up with dieting and to just have a different kind of relationship with their body so that they could feel just more confident and they could feel happier. And they weren't always stressed about, I can't eat that or I need to go to the gym, all that kind of stuff. I had lived like that for a really, really long time, actually since about age 10 or 11 or so, and it's exhausting. And it's not a fun place to be.
3:50 - How working with my coach helped me grow as a coach, and see how my struggle with body confidence was intertwined with my love life.
6:55 - Why I needed to change my relationship with food.
9:20 - What prompted me to start a health coaching business.
10:15 - Three truths I want you to know about your body and food right now.
13:00 - Where I am now on my body positivity journey.
23:10 - Four action steps to begin making peace with your body and food.
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In today’s coaching episode we’re joined by Alice to talk about the inner child work that comes up even if your parents had a wonderful marriage. And be sure to join us for the entire show because, in the end, I’ll share why I didn’t move into some heavier topics during this conversation. It’s going to be really valuable if you’re also a coach, or even coaching yourself.
4:05 - Alice asks, why is she still single after ending a 20-year relationship 5 years ago.
6:20 - We explore Alice’s background and childhood.
8:20 - Do you really want unconditional love?
12:05 - Alice becomes enlightened, and you can too.
18:45 - The importance of looking at how you already have what you want in the relationship with yourself.
30:40 - Start taking people off the pedestal, it’s not fair for you or for them.
33:00 - Where I’d go next if I was working with Alice over time.
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Full disclosure, I had some resistance around today’s episode. We’re talking about being coachable, and I don’t feel like I’m the person to say who is or isn't coachable. I have worked 1 on 1 with a lot of women, and there are some key differences between women who really go far by working with me and those who don’t get as much out of this work.
So today we’re going to talk through being ready to work with me, and really being ready to expand and grow so you can call in the relationship you want.
7:05 - I want to start by defining what I mean by coachable
8:30 - Being coachable has NOTHING to do with your worth
10:05 - Signs you’re not coachable right now
13:30 - Signs of a closed mind, I’ve already heard this or I already know this
17:15 - Hiding in books or larger programs to avoid the deeper work
22:15 - What makes us coachable, starting with awareness
24:00 - The power of curiosity
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I am grateful to Ayari for joining me on the show to have this conversation around navigating finding love when you have a chronic illness or something else where you have deep shame. This is a powerful conversation so thank you again Ayari for sharing with us.
Ayari has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and she’s wondering if she just has to settle for being single.
6:10 - Welcome Ayari to the show and start off with her question
8:00 - Ayari’s relationship with her diagnosis
10:40 - Sharing “privileged” information isn’t how you’re vulnerable
13:45 - Why it’s time to be more discerning with how you spend your emotional bandwidth
15:45 - What are the signs, or feelings that help you identify a person is a safe person to share with
34:50 - The four action steps if you resonated with deep shame around something in your past
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We are here, for what will likely be our final bonus episodes of the season with episode 6 of Bachelor in Paradise. I want to hear from you though, come over to Instagram and let me know if you are loving this series and if you’d like me to do a few of these kinds of episodes during our next season of The Bachelor.
Let’s get started.
We start our conversation with situationships,
2:20 - Comparing grand romantic gestures from Dean and Blake
5:05 - Dean’s grand gesture
7:25 - Blake’s grand gesture
13:00 - Demi and Christian’s conversation model a healthy disagreement
18:20 - Two ways pressure can impact a relationship.
Next up we hand out a few Patriarchy Roses
24:00 - Matt for how he treated Bri and Sydney
29:10 - Clay for making it all about him
We close it out with some moments we’re here for.
29:40 - JPJ and Taysha’s prom date
30:00 -Demi and Christian’s relationship and how Bachelor has modeled around what Demi’s going through
Grab your favorite drink, and come along for the ride!
A few episodes that we can learn from related to what we learned this week on Bachelor in Paradise.Learn more about the Love Incubator and book your exploratory call here.
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In today’s coaching episode I’m joined by Jada who answers a question that is truly universal, how to feel like you’re good enough.
3:50 - Conscious vs unconscious brain
10:10 - How inner child work impacts what you’re manifesting
11:40 - This is not about you being broken, this is so important
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This is week five, and our second to last regular week. Next week we’ll finish up with regular episodes and we’ll find out who is staying together or getting engaged. Until then though, let’s talk about what happened this week on Bachelor in Paradise.
Let’s get started.
We start our conversation with situationships,
1:50 - Let’s talk about Dean’s moment at the end of night two.
6:35 - Angela’s return to the beach.
9:40 - Breakups are always tough, no matter what.
14:30 - Christina and Blake and his rom-com moves.
18:50 - Watching for the rose-colored glasses and trying to put someone in a role you want.
21:50 - Dylan’s comment supports the idea of “boys will be boys” when it comes to JPJ’s behavior
Next up we hand out a few Patriarchy Roses
24:20 - John Paul Jones gets another patriarchy rose. Listen to last week’s bonus episode for more on this.
24:040 - Clay is making it all about him and even assumes that Angela should drop everything to come to his “job”.
26:45 - Blake gets a rose for JPJ and the “boys will be boys” defense.
We close it out with some moments we’re here for.
27:15 - The editing around Matt and Sydney’s kiss.
28:00 -Demi’s face as Hailey put JPJ in his place.
Grab your favorite drink, and come along for the ride!
A few episodes that we can learn from related to what we learned this week on Bachelor in Paradise.
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In today’s coaching episode I’m joined by Jada who answers a question that is truly universal, how to feel like you’re good enough.
3:00 - Jada shares where the inner child story started around “not enough”
10:30 - Connecting with Jada’s inner child
14:00 - Talking through parental rejection
17:20 - Reconnecting with Jada’s emotion
19:45 - The importance of feeling the pain to heal the pain
23:00 - Ways to love your inner child and self-soothing
29:00 - Wrapping up this episode and thanks to Jada for being so coachable
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I’m here for week 4 of our Bachelor in Paradise recap, well not really a recap, there are plenty of amazing options for a play by play. Instead, we’ll be looking at some situationships and backstory of what might be really happening below the service. Best of all these are lessons we can apply to our own love lives.
Let’s get started.
We start our conversation with situationships,
1:25 - Tahzjuan self destructs after JPJ and Hailey go on a date
5:50 - Being triggered - is your reaction greater than what actually happened?
9:50 - Dean ends the relationship with Caelynn (on her birthday)!
13:30 - Dean shows us why inner child work is so important.
20:35 - Nicole and Clay and Clay’s ex-girlfriend.
23:30 - What’s in play if you don’t feel like you can trust your partner
Next up we hand out a few Patriarchy Roses
25:55 - John Paul Jones - He started strong, but his reaction to Derek and Tayshia was not ok.
29:00 - Ashley I, Caelynn, and Hailey - Their conversation about Dean’s ex and how she lost weight to get Dean back was disgusting!
31:00 - Bachelor Producers for how they handled the use of sage at the wedding.
We close it out with some moments we’re here for.
33:40 - Tahzjuan handling the heat at the beach was hilarious.
35:30 -JPJ had some great moments before the second episode.
35:55 - Demi mocking Conner.
36:00 - Christian talking about the rose ceremony.
Grab your favorite drink, and come along for the ride!
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I am back for Week 3 of bonus episodes around The Bachelor in Paradise and I’m really enjoying sharing these with you. I have especially enjoyed hearing from you who haven’t watched the show before and are starting to watch it along with these episodes.
If you haven’t yet, connect with me on Instagram and let me know if you’re watching.
Let’s get started.
We start our conversation with situationships,
1:30 - Demi-Derek-Christian and Bachelor’s first same-sex relationship
7:45 - Why is Christian staying?
9:00 - Two women choose each other over the Bachelor in Vietnam. Hear more on Here to Make Friends.
11:00 - Did producers overstep with Demi-Derek-Christian?
13:00 - This American Life talked to Colton about some behind the scenes of selecting dates.
15:45 - Why I think Demi and Christian are staying on Bachelor in Paradise
16:35 - Katie sabotages herself with Chris
20:40 - How playing it cool can work against you
23:15 - Hannah-Dylan-Blake, I don’t buy it!
25:30 - Christina is in denial
Next up we hand out a few Patriarchy Roses
27:45 - Christina gets another patriarchy rose for how she’s treating the other women on the show.
29:20 - Kevin is so full of himself he’s earned another patriarchy rose.
We close it out with some moments we’re here for.
30:30 - Breaking out of the hedo normative norms
31:00 - All things JPJ and Tayshia
31:30 - Nicole singing to Clay
31:50 - Dean learned his lesson
Grab your favorite drink, and come along for the ride!
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This is part one of a two-part series. We are going to start today by talking about three ways to manifest what you want more of in your life (including available potential partners). In a few weeks on episode 184, I’ll break down why you’re already a great manifester. You’re just manifesting emotionally unavailable partners.
Today though I want to start with the three ways to manifest more of what you want.
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We (yes, I have a guest this week) are here for week 2 of The Bachelor in Paradise Recap.
I’m joined by Emily Cassel, my friend and a soulful business and leadership coach for female entrepreneurs. If you listened to my first bonus episode last week you know this isn’t your run of the mill recap, we are talking about situationships, handing out patriarchy roses, and sharing what we’re here for.
Let’s get started.
We start our conversation with situationships, starting the Blake situation
7:00 - Why it’s selfish to be a people pleaser.
9:30 - What should Dylan do next?
11:00 - Emily and I talk about who is going home next.
13:00 - Nicole - Clay - Christian, a brand new situationship for this week.
18:00 - Two red flags to watch for in relationships.
26:00 - What can we learn from Cam?
Next up we hand out a few Patriarchy Rose
38:00 - Dylan and Blake and Christian get patriarchy roses for skipping asking what someone else might want or feel and just fighting for what they want.
40:00 - Christina for playing into the patriarchy by pitting women against women to get what she wants.
We close it out with some moments we’re here for.
45:00 - Jordan as the Mayor of Paradise.
46:35 - Joran finding out what Blake’s done.
47:00 - Clay’s sports analogies going on for a little too long.
49:00 - Jordan’s wisdom.
50:00 - The women get caught talking about Mike.
51:20 - Caelynn and Dean’s date
54:45 - Our pick for the next Bachelor.
Grab your favorite drink, and come along for the ride!
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You don’t have to want to be in a relationship.
But what makes me sad is when women tell me they don’t want to be in a relationship because relationships drain them.
Relationships are supposed to feel uplifting.
Yes, there are introverts and extroverts, so you may need varying levels of human interaction, but if you’re dating or are in relationships and they feel heavy or draining, something deeper is going on.
My caller today wants to know why she feels so drained and overwhelmed almost immediately when she goes online to potentially meet people. She sizes men up on religious preferences and a whole slew of checklist items. Then of course, if she does meet up with the person, she tries to please and conform to what they want.
So if you…
https://veronicagrant.com/episode181
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Yes, you read that right!
This isn’t a Bachelor recap show that’s pop culture-y or gives you a play-by-play of each moment. There are plenty of other delicious podcasts that do that.
Instead, I break down three “situationships” from each episode and turn them into teachable moments you can apply to your love life. It’s easy to judge and criticize, but the truth is, you’ve experienced most of what the cast on the Bachelor has experienced. It’s just without all the cameras and Instagram followers berating you.
In addition to breaking down three key situationships, I’m also giving out roses! Patriarchy roses, that is. There’s a lot to love about the Bachelor franchise, but there’s also a lot to be critical of. I think have complex feelings about something makes life interesting, and that’s what this show is here for.
Each week of Paradise this month, I’ll bring you recap bonus episodes where I’ll help you look at your own love life different, help you get clear on all the ways patriarchy affects your life, and we’ll have a lot of fun and relish in the guilty pleasure that is the Bachelor franchise.
Grab your favorite drink, and come along for the ride!
Show notes: https://veronicagrant.com/bip-episode-1/
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This episode is inspired by a conversation I’m having with a lot of my clients right now: a dating break.
You might be on a dating break now, and if that’s you, that’s awesome. I still want you to listen to this episode, because a dating break that’ll actually create a change when you do start dating again is a lot more than just netflix and mani/pedis.
Or, maybe you’re on the complete opposite end of the spectrum. You feel like you have no time to waste. Whether you really want to have kids or you don’t want to age alone, I want you to really listen to my case for taking a dating break. The right kind of break could actually help you to meet the RIGHT person FASTER.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode180
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You know how when you get out a relationship your kicking yourself because the warning signs and red flags are SO obvious to you now?
They say hindsight is 20/20, but what if you could tap into that power in present time. AND, when you tap into that power, it helps you to create more vulnerability and intimacy with the right person?
This is 100% possible, and it’s a lot easier than you think.
So if you…
Then you’ll love this episode!
Show notes: https://veronicagrant.com/episode179
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This episode is a doozy, and we cover so much ground. (Hence the ridiculously long episode title.) In this episode, we jam on everything from how she left a job that she was super successful in that she thought she was “supposed” to like, how she quit dating for a while, healed old wounds, and eventually, found her love.
Show notes: https://veronicagrant.com/episode178
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If you attach yourself to a relationship early on, like waaay before the feelings are really there, then you’re not alone.
Today on the show, my caller Andree-Anne gets wrapped up emotionally and physically with new partners long before there’s any real connection or talk of commitment.
She wants to break that pattern, but isn’t sure how.
So if you…
… Feel like you’re behind in life because all your friends are married or have families...
...Secretly believe you can’t really start living your life until you get into a relationship...
...Wrap your identity up in who you date...
Then you’ll love this episode!
Show notes: https://veronicagrant.com/episode177
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You might be thinking, Veronica, this is a podcast about finding love.
Well, one, you’re the common denominator in your life. AND, if you’re struggling to attract high quality partners, it usually roots down to a problem with your self-worth.
And if you have a problem with your self-worth, it’s almost inevitable that you’ll have a problem with money.
It’s no surprise to me (even though it’s often a surprise for my clients) that when they work with me, they also get promotions, better jobs, more clients, charge more in their business, or even start a side business that wasn’t even a blip on their radar.
That’s because, raise your worth, raise your value. Raise your value people pay you more and people treat you better.
It really can be that straightforward.
Of course, the path to increasing your self-worth can be messy.
So if you…
...Live paycheck to paycheck even though you know you make enough
...Believe you’re destined to not make a lot of money
…Think you never have enough, no matter how much money you actually have
Then you’ll love this episode!
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To my American listeners, happy Fourth of July!
Whether or not you’re celebrating, I thought this would be a great time to talk about INDEPENDENCE.
Because the truth is, you can definitely have too much of a good thing.
I’m in no way advocating for you to be codependent on a partner or lose yourself in a relationship.
But in relationships, people need to feel needed. If you’re not allowing the other person to feel needed, then you’re blocking off the opportunity for connection, vulnerability, and intimacy.
Relationships can feel flat or stagnant, and my guess is the other person will eventually just leave.
So if you…
...Have a hard time asking for help
...Can’t drop into your feminine energy
...Don’t even want your partner to open the door for you
Then you’ll love this episode!
Show notes: https://veronicagrant.com/episode175
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Lisa is a dear friend of mine and I can’t wait for you to meet her too.
In this episode, we talk about how to deal with curveballs, whether from a cancer diagnosis, a loss, or just being single when you thought you wouldn’t be. Lisa also shares her story and how her diagnosis led her to creating a non-profit organization around the importance of understanding dense breast tissue.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode174
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I know you love to hate online dating!
It’s easy to believe that online is the root of your dating issues, why you hate it, and why you can’t meet anyone.
Because of that, I hear all the time women wanting to move into the offline space.
Look, I have a lot of opinions around whether or not online dating is the problem, but I don’t go into that (too much) this episode.
Instead, I help Judith figure out what she needs to do meet people offline. If you’re desiring to meet people in “real life” too, then you’ll love this episode.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode173
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There’s no way around it, getting over an ex can bring up all the feels. THAT’S NORMAL.
The goal isn’t to rejection proof yourself, it’s to build rejection resilience.
As much as getting over an ex isn’t fun, it’s an incredible time for deep healing and growth.
In today’s episode, I walk you through three ways to not just making getting over your ex easier, but how these are three hidden opportunities to grow as a person in your own life, and in your next relationship.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode172
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Oh the three month fizzle!
It’s all too real.
There could be MANY reasons your relationship fizzles out after 3 months. However, no matter what the reason is, if it’s a pattern, it means something deeper is going on.
The answer is NOT date more, pick better, or try not to be too demanding or needy. Something deeper is going on that’s causing you to attract people who initially fill a void, so it feels GOOD, and then once that fades out, the issues begin to surface.
In this episode, I share with Renee what to do instead, and what YOU can do to avoid the three-month fizzle.
Once you listen, come let me know what stood out for you on Instagram! Comment on any of my photos or send me a DM.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode171
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This episode isn’t just an interview, it’s two women about to get married having a candid conversation about what real love looks like. We talk about what beliefs we had to let go of and how we soften in ways so that real love could come in.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode170
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It’s one thing to know intellectually that you want a partner and you want love.
Unfortunately, that’s now how you manifest and bring things into your life.
You have to go deeper than that. Just because you know you want a partner, doesn’t mean there aren’t emotional blocks that are keeping you out of love.
In my call with Jenny, she’s attracting plenty of people, but they aren’t the right ones. We uncover why and tangible steps she can take to change that.
https://veronicagrant.com/the-right-person/
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Today I’m talking about the ONE THING that could be holding you back in your love life.
It’s a real obstacle that can STALL your personal growth, and I know because it’s stalled mine and I’ve seen it stall clients’ growth too.
I’m talking about the low-quality, bullshit questions you ask yourself that make you feel stuck. These are the questions that suck the soul out of you and can make you feel that you are not cut out for love.
In this episode, I’m sharing the 5 most common low-quality, soul-sucking questions, why they keep you stuck, and how to change them into high quality questions that inspire more love, abundance, and you getting closer to real love.
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You know by now that dating by your intuition is the name of the game here… but what if your intuition and fear kinda feel like… the same thing? The good news is they’re not. But it CAN be tricky to know if your gut is telling you to stay away. Or if fear is running the show, and ultimately holding you back.
In my coaching conversation with Katy today, we dive into some important questions and techniques to use that’ll help her know the difference in no time. Once you apply these to your own life, you’ll have the clarity you need too.
https://veronicagrant.com/intuition-and-fear/
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This week on the podcast, I invited another client of mine to share her story.
I love Sara’s story because I know so many of you will be able to relate to it: wanting to be super independent, seeing the good in crappy guys and wanting to help them be the best they can.
Sara had reached a point in her life where if she didn’t end up meeting someone, she was going to be okay with that. And that’s just about the time she met Zach…
https://veronicagrant.com/when-you-least-expect-it/
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Today’s episode is a bit different.
On the third Thursday of the month, I normally bring on a caller to coach them through a question or situationship.
In today’s episode, I wanted to bring on Lauren. We’ve worked together 1x1 and she’s a member of the Love Action Tribe.
I wanted her to share her path with you, and luckily, she agreed! Because if you’re anything like me, you want to hear from “real” people what this journey actually looked like for them.
The theory and steps to take are nice, but lord knows it’s never as straightforward as that.
So if your path is feeling rather loop de loop, I hope Lauren’s journey will inspire you. No one has anything more or less special than you. No one knows anything you don’t. They’re just doing the work, and you can do that too.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode165
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Whew, can you say vulnerability hangover?
I made an intention during the New Moon in March to show up even more real for you. To tell the truth.
And I’ve shared a lot about my love life, especially before Stevie, but I’m also not a robot. Nor am I perfect. There’s something so refreshing when I see an influencer being super real, because it helps me to feel less alone. And when I feel less alone, I feel happier. And when I feel happier, I show up better for my clients, my partner, and in my life generally.
So in today’s episode I’m sharing 10 things you didn’t know about me. Some things are fun facts you might not have known, and some things feel like, “woah, I need a moment.”
Whether it’s your normal human desire to get a peak behind the scenes or some of my truths can help you to feel not so alone, I hope you enjoy this episode.
https://veronicagrant.com/10-things-you-didnt-know-about-me/
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In this episode, I coach Vicky on how to let go of control. She’s a go getter, and could accomplish any goal you put in front of her.
The problem is, she does the same thing in her love life, which has created a lot of anxiety and turning off the other person.
Plus, she’s not even attracting the kind of relationships she’d like to create.
In this episode, I’ll walk her through the steps to start shifting that pattern.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode163
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I always love my conversations with Veronica, honestly, they could go on forever! But we had to cut ourselves off to make this a reasonable length podcast.
In this episode, Veronica gives you the astrological run down from now until mid-June.
AND, at the end, we have a big announcement for you!!!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode162
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Sometimes not having a specific question is better than having a question when it comes to getting coached.
You’ll notice women come onto the show with a question, and my clients will definitely know from our sessions, that what they bring to the session isn’t what we end up talking about.
There’s something underneath the question.
If you don’t have a question, you don’t have to wait around to be able to articulate it. There are tools you can use to get underneath that’s blocking your knowing.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode161
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I love some good tea, don’t you?
In this week’s episode, I’m giving you the inside scoop on what relationships are REALLY supposed to be like beyond the 3rd or 4th date.
I’m talking all the stuff you wondered about, all the stuff you suspected, and all the questions you’ve asked about the world of being “in love.”
Want a little teaser?
Relationships are NOT about compromise.
WHAT? I know, right? I break it all down in this week’s episode.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode160
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My caller today has discovered from other personal development resources that she doesn’t love herself. She’s concerned because she knows she needs to love herself before someone else can, but isn’t sure where to start.
Like most of my coaching calls, we go to the unexpected, and specifically, asking the question: DO you have to love yourself first?
How does she know she doesn’t love herself?
If loving yourself isn’t the important important thing to find love, what is? We talk about all this and more. Tune in!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode159
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I love a good pun, and when I came across Lynn Marie’s work, Quit Happens, I knew I had to introduce you to her.
All things quit is scary AF. The stories we have around it, the unknown, the financial pieces, and more. But according to Lynn Marie, the more you can quit, the closer and closer you can get to your purpose and what makes you happy in life.
https://veronicagrant.com/quit-happens/
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Talking about your problems or having awareness as to why you attract partners you don’t want to attract often isn’t enough.
In fact, awareness is only phase two of the 5 phases of personal growth… so if that’s all you do in therapy or talking things out with your friends, it’s easy to see why you haven’t seen the changes you want!
In my call with Gina, we dive into concrete action steps she can take to start to shift the unconscious mind to create new patterns in her life.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode157
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In today’s solo episode, I address a comment I received on my Facebook page. The comment was about how she was tired of people telling her women needed to change, and that shouldn’t men be doing this work too?
I totally get the sentiment, because the truth is – the patriarchy is real! There IS a system in our society that tells women they have to look, act, or be a certain way to be palatable to a man.
So… is the burden on women to this work? Where are the men who do this work?
I answer all this and more in today’s episode.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode156
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In today’s show, my caller is unsure of how to ask for what she wants and needs in her relationship without being bitchy or naggy. She’s also got these other questions swirling through her head, “Is he right for me?” “How can I ask for what I want without trying to change him?” and “What’s happening long term in this relationship?”
All of these questions can feel overwhelming and cloud the issue at hand which, getting what she needs.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode155
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You’re going to be so inspired after listening to my interview with Kristen. If you believe now or have ever believed that you’re too broken or just not fit for a healthy relationship, this episode just might leave you in tears.
From an abusive childhood, to codependent relationships, to a personal pilgrimage to southeast Asia, Kristen shares it all with us.
Five years ago, she hit rock bottom, and now she’s married, had a baby, and is the happiest she’s ever been.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode154
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You had a date! And it went well!
Yay!
Cue in the stress around the texting game and getting to the next date.
This is what my caller Michelle is struggling with.
As usual in my coaching calls, this isn’t just about the game and ‘how to text.’
https://veronicagrant.com/second-date/
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This is a question that came from one of my clients on Instagram, and honestly, I can’t believe I don’t have an episode on this yet!
Speaking of Instagram, I’ll have take requests for podcast episode topics, so make sure you follow me there so you can tell me your requests too! You can do that here.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode152
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Today my caller on the show is dealing with a lot of fear around the new man she’s dating.
She’s terrified of rejection, and because she doesn’t quite understand how she got herself into previous abusive relationships, she’s afraid she’s going to mess this one up.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode151
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I always love my conversations with Veronica, honestly, they could go on forever! But we had to cut ourselves off to make this a reasonable length podcast.
Here’s what you’ll learn:https://veronicagrant.com/episode150
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This episode is a bit different from what we usually talk about on the show, but it’s probably not surprising to hear that struggling to eat healthy can absolutely affect your relationship to men.
Because there’s something underneath all those struggles, and what’s underneath is probably the same thing.
If you struggle to “stay on track,” not emotionally eat, or eat what you know you “should,” this episode is a must listen.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode149
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This time of year is hard for a lot of people (despite what the Christmas movies and commercials convey), but I know how hard and triggering it can be.
In this episode, you’ll learn what to do when you get triggered, how to deal with jealousy, and what to do instead of texting your ex.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode148
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If you feel like you’re doing all “the work,” but nothing’s changing, I want you to know you’re not alone.
You’re not a loser, you’re not broken, and you’re not destined to end up with duds.
I can’t say exactly why things aren’t going the way you want them to without talking to you personally, but my guess is you’ll get some good ideas after listening to my episode with Nicole.
Like you, she feels like she’s doing all the work, but is frustrated because she’s still attracting narcissists.
Take a listen to this episode, and then come let me know what you think over on Instagram.
www.veronicagrant.com/episode147
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As single women, it’s so easy to consciously or unconsciously to believe your life is about finding The One. So you spend your time, energy, and money doing just that.
The problem with that is, it’s not who you are, and if you put all your resources towards it, you’ll probably begin to identify with it.
But you’re not a woman who lives to date! My guest today in her work helps women to connect with each other, share their stories, and birth creative projects into the world.
This turns 2-D living into 3-D living, so that when you do enter into your next relationship, you don’t lose yourself in the process.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode146
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My caller today is struggling with a situation in her relationship where her partner still has contact with an ex.
This brings up all kinds of old fear in her, and is leaving her waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Of course, this question isn’t really about what to do in this situation, rather it’s about trusting yourself.
So in our call, I help Juliette flex her self-trust muscle; and you’ll learn some good self-trust tools along the way too.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode145
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This week’s episode is just me, and the core of the work I do with clients. It’s called inner child work, and if you want to find love, doing this work is non-negotiable.
In fact, I’m very clear with all my potential clients that they need to be on board with doing this. Because talking about profiles, texting, what you’re wearing or how you’re meeting people isn’t going to help you find love.
Find a date? Sure. But if you have patterns and blocks that are holding you back emotionally, I don’t care about awesome your profile is or how many dates you go on. Nothing will change. Since I get so many questions about this, I finally created an episode where I break all this inner child work down.
So if you’re not sure what I mean by inner child work, or you’re not sure how it applies to you, or how to get started, you’ll love this episode.
After the episode, make sure you get started with this healing work and grab my free Inner Child Meditation.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode144
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Vulnerability is required when it comes to creating the relationship you want. I rarely say you *have* to do anything because I want you to create your life and relationship on your own terms.
But if you want the kind of love and relationships I talk about here, you must be vulnerable.
My caller today is terrified of being vulnerable, and ultimately of being seen. It creates fear and anxiety that’s even affecting her health.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode143
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In this episode, I interview my dear friend Norma on how she went from crazy stressed out TV producer to meditation teacher.
If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know I’m a huge believer in meditation. Meditation can literally transform how you react in relationships and dating, and in turn who you attract.
Even if you feel like you’ve tried meditation or that it’s not for you, Normal will walk you through meditation A to Z, and what you can do instead of meditation isn’t for you.
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I’m so glad my caller today brought this question to the podcast:
Am I experiencing karma? If so, how do I get out of it?
The most common definition of karma is “what comes around is what goes around.”
But that’s not what karma is, at all.
Karma is actually the thing you’re soul is born with that it needs to learn or overcome in order to reach your soul’s dharma, ie, destiny.
My caller today is convinced that because she cheated in her last relationship, and he was nothing but incredible to her, that it’s all her fault her relationship ended.
Walking around with this kind of guilt will always keep you in the past and never allow you to move forward and meet the person you want.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode141
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This week’s episode is just me, and I’m sharing a BIG lesson I learned in Bali.
I won’t give it away here, but I’ll just say: learning this thing about myself in Bali was really hard for me, and quite frankly, I was embarrassed this was still a “thing” for me.
Aren’t I more evolved or conscious?
I guess that’s what this work is all about.
I’m sharing this profound lesson with you because I think it’s also going to help you find love.
If you feel like you’re doing all the things you’re supposed to be doing, but haven’t had the success in love you want, then this episode is a *must* listen.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode140
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If you’ve never been in a healthy relationship, it can be really easy to buy into the story that you don’t know how to have a healthy relationship.
You don’t know what to do, how to be, or what to say.
For my caller, this created so much fear that a part of her just wanted to stay single so she didn’t have to deal with the constant fear and self doubt that she’s screw everything up.
As I coach Joanne, you’ll see that her question isn’t just about how to be in a healthy relationship, the question in fact, goes much deeper than that.
As I coach my caller today on the show, here’s what you’ll learn:
https://veronicagrant.com/episode139
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If you’ve been following me on Instagram, you know how disturbed I am by Brett Kavanaugh’s nomination, and the aftermath of multiple sexual misconduct allegations against him.
Look, I’ll be honest, I was never going to like him because we fundamentally do not agree on a woman’s right to choose. Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion, so I can’t be *too* upset about that.
Yes, I don’t agree, and if even if he doesn’t support choice, why does he feel like he can dictate what I can or can’t do?
Despite that, it’s forgivable. Anti-choice is still a hallmark of the Republican party and he was nominated and supported by Republicans.
What is unforgivable, what is appalling is the GOP reaction to allegations on his sexual misconduct. Looking the other way, using the “boys will be boys” excuse, and rushing his vote through is deplorable.
Given that, I couldn’t think of a better episode to bring out from the archives than my chat with Belinda.
The personal is political, and the political is personal. This Supreme Court nomination will have vast effects on US women, and I want to remind you that if you’re pissed like I am you have a voice, and I encourage you to use it.
The work I do in my business is so much more than mastering the Tinder game or getting a date.
It’s really about female empowerment, and this is what female empowerment looks like on the macroscale outside of your personal dating experience.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode138
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My caller Nadia is calling in because she’s been in an on again off again relationship for the past 7 years that she wants to get out of for good.
If you’ve been in a relationship like that before, I’m sure you can relate. You think you’re done for good, you know he’s not right for you…
But then... loneliness hits, something happens at work, and you need some good old fashion comfort and something that feels familiar.
Your head is saying “no no no,” but your heart is saying, “Ohhh but I need him! This time will be different!
In relationships like this, rarely is willpower or “snapping out of it” going to work.
As I coach my caller today on the show, here’s what you’ll learn:https://veronicagrant.com/episode137
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This is one of the most common questions I get, and I have to say, I have a love/hate relationship with the question.
Love because when someone asks me this, love because it gives me an excellent view as to where they are emotionally and mentally.
And hate (but not really hate) because it’s a question that has the askers playing small. So since it’s the #1 question I get, I thought I’d finally create a podcast I could direct everyone who has this question too.
This probably won’t surprise you if you know me already, some of my answer may be what you expect, and some surely won’t be.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode136
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Do you find yourself only attracting the bad guy?
And maybe not even that interested in the good guy?
If yes, then you’re not alone.
The good news, is that there’s good reason for that! And no, it doesn’t make you broken or crazy.
But a bit of inner work can make a huge a difference.
As I coach my caller today on the show, here’s what you’ll learn:www.veronicagrant.com/episode35
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In lieu of a new episode this week, this week I’ve got a quick message to share:
The Love Incubator is 4-month journey with a small group of women who are ready to use the power of community to discover the art of finding love and a lasting, equal partnership in their life.
Learn more about the Love Incubator here.
Schedule your Incubator Exploratory Chat with me here.
Connect with me on Instagram here to let me know what you think of the new show format.
https://veronicagrant.com/a-short-message/
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I’m so excited to introduce you to my friend and former coach, Becca Piastrelli. What I love about Becca’s work is how she helps connect connect with themselves and others in a time of what’s known as the Age of Loneliness.
We’re all so hyper connected through technology, yet we connect with humans on a daily basis less and less. We can order coffee and groceries without ever talking to a human, and passively following a friend on instagram is considered “keeping” in touch.
This creates a huge crisis in mental health, and I think it shows up in your relationships with men. Because you still crave deep connection, so you go about it getting from men, creating codependency and other unhealthy relationships.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode134
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Claudia is a dear client in my last round of the Love Incubator, which is my small group coaching program. (Another round is starting soon! Keep your eyes and ears out.)
She’s gone through a massive transformation, and now that she can begin to see the light at the other end of the tunnel, she wants to help other women get unstuck and living life on their own terms.
But, like most new entrepreneurs, she’s not sure where to start. Should she file for an LLC? Get a business bank account? Hire a photographer? Start making a website?
The good news is, you don’t have to ANY of that stuff. At least not yet. When you’re brand new in business, you’ve GOT to focus on the money making tasks quickly.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode133
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As my email list, Instagram, and Facebook has grown, I get tons more questions from the community.
Some questions, like, “How do I attract emotionally available men?” feel hard to answer in an email or FB live, or even a podcast episode because I spend months breaking down this question with clients.
Other questions I get come from a place of playing small and thinking small.
And when you’re looking for love, I don’t want “small” to be any part of your experience. No one deserves to settle, including you.
In this episode, I walk you through three of the most common questions I get, and then walk you through how to transform those questions. When you transform the questions, not only are they more empowering, but you can actually answer the questions and in doing so, get specific action steps to change your love life for the better.
https://veronicagrant.com/three-questions/
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Have you met someone that you really like, but you don’t want to let yourself fall too fast?
Maybe you’ve gotten burned in the past, emotions are hard for you, or you intellectualize the chances of “success” in your relationship.
Whatever it is, you certainly don’t want to be weak and feel out of control.
Truth is, to let love in, you have to soften, open up, and potentially be hurt. But that doesn’t have to be as scary as it sounds.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode131
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You’ll learn:
https://veronicagrant.com/love-astrological-forecast/
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You’re in a good spot with your career, your health, and your daily routine. You’re feeling good. Maybe even on top of the world.
You’re feeling like yourself, healthy, and confident.
And then you meet someone. And despite the incredible spot you’re in now, you still can’t help but feel the urge to want to throw it all out the window.
You want this relationship to work and you want him to like you. And it’s taking everything inside of you to not throw your life out the window for your new relationship.
If you can relate, you’ll love this episode and will totally relate to my caller today.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode129
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If a tree falls in a forest, does it make a sound? If you have boundaries, but don’t ask for them to be upheld, do they really exist?
Okay, I ask this question in jest, but seriously! There are three parts to every boundary you have, and without these three parts, your boundaries don’t really exist.
You can have all the boundaries you want, but if you aren’t actually following through with them, then they mine as well not exist.
I know that sounds harsh, but I can’t tell you how many women tell me they ‘already know their boundaries.’ That might be true, but just knowing them isn’t enough.
www.veronicagrant.com/episode128
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Why do we like the bad guy? And then the nice guy comes around, and we’re like BORING.
If you can relate, you’re definitely not alone. In fact, this is how I was for years. I needed that chase and those high highs. I thought those high highs were love, but they’re not.
My caller today is wondering why she keeps chasing guys that are definitely not interested in her. There are infinite reasons as to why you might find yourself in a particular pattern, but essentially, the big thing for you to do is to relearn the what love is.
https://veronicagrant.com/stop-wanting-men-who-arent-interested/
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Most of the time, what we want isn’t as far out of reach as we think it. The trouble is, we think it’s out of reach, then we create stories about it, and spiral from there.
That’s when the funk, jadedness, bitterness, and even meltdown can happen. And look, we’ve ALL been there. So please don’t beat yourself up about it.
At the same time, you don’t have to stay in your funk or meltdown. So channel your inner coach and coach yourself through anything with the three tips I share in this podcast.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode126
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I hope you’re loving the 2-part series on all things sex.
It seems like sex is either a taboo topic in our society, or the butt of every joke. It’s hard to remember sometimes that sex is supposed to be amazing, pleasure, and in some faiths, a holy act.
But the way we’re taught about sex, no wonder so many of us have complicated feelings about it. Like my friend Kit says, if we were taught soccer the same way we’re taught sex, no one would be playing soccer.
https://veronicagrant.com/not-physically-attracted/
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Kit is a new friend that I’ve met through my friend and old coach, Becca Piastrelli. I really admire Kit’s energy and her relentless dedication to celebrating women’s pleasure.
Owning your pleasure, specifically your sexual pleasure, may seem trivial, but I believe that owning your sexual power is a beautiful way to own your power in other parts of your life, especially relationships.
Who are you outsourcing your power, your confidence, or your worthiness to?
In our conversation, we talk about all things pleasure and women’s empowerment. I think you’re gonna have a fire under your ass after you listen. :)
https://veronicagrant.com/episode124
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Through working with the dozens of women in the Love Action Tribe and my countless private clients and clients in the Love Incubator, I’ve found three big beliefs to let go. If you do, you’ll get just about the closest thing to instant gratification there is.
Now, personal growth is a life long journey, but there are a few things you can do to immediately feel more free and less stuck.
In this episode you’ll learn:
https://veronicagrant.com/episode123
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Ugh… rejection.
Nobody wants to deal with it, but unfortunately, if you want to find real love, then it’s something we all have to come to terms with.
It’s 100% impossible to rejection proof yourself AND want to find real love. Living in the fantasy that the “right person” will break down your walls will leave you single, or worse, in an unhealthy, toxic relationship.
As I coach Hillary through dealing with rejection, here’s what you’ll learn:https://veronicagrant.com/rejection-the-pullback-and-texting/
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I’ve been getting tons of questions recently about how I started my business and how I continue to grow it to the success that it is today.
I’ve also been increasingly working with clients on their businesses, and in that process, and in reflecting on what’s made me “successful” (what is success anyways?!), I saw that there were actually lots of parallels between finding soulful love and running a soulful experience.
I often say what got you success in your career isn’t going to get you success in love. That’s still true, but only when you look at your success in your career from a more corporate-y, hustle perspective.
That’s not what got me success in my business, and won’t be what gets you success in love either.
In this episode, I go through 5 parallels between finding love and having a soulful business. And even if you’re not a business owners and have no plans to be, you’ll definitely walk away with lots of takeaways you can apply to love, or moving ahead in whatever your career is.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode121
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I often hear from women in this community that they know what their intuition is saying; they just don’t listen to it. Or they don’t trust it. Or worse, someone has told them that going with their gut is “bad.”
The truth is, primarily as women, our power lies in our intuition is our greatest asset. It gives us an immense power that may make others feel uncomfortable. So they try to take your power away to keep the power balance.
I believe that if we ALL listen to our intuitions more than our heads, the world would be happier, safer, and more compassionate place for all beings.
The tides are changing, but we still have a lot of work to do. This episode will help you develop the tools you need to be your own best guru and live the life you want, on your terms.
https://veronicagrant.com/trusting-your-intuition/
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In today’s episode, I coach Carrie through her frustration of getting sooooo attached to the men she dates, then not just being disappointed when a relationship doesn’t work out, but devastated.
I find that as adults, we play out unresolved issues from childhood in all areas of our life, but it especially shows up in love. Carrie is playing out a couple unresolved issues from her mom and dad, but she’s playing them out in very different ways.
Each way requires a specific line of healing and work to move through them.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode119
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Today is another live coaching session. We'll talk with Stacy about letting go of the fear that the pickings are slim and a new look at the numbers game!
Listen in as I coach Stacey through the fear of being “pistachio.” She’s scared that if she’s herself and expresses her interests or preferences, that the guy she’s dating will be turned off and no longer interested in her.
I think as a society this is largely the way women are conditioned. Generally, girls, who grow up to be women, are conditioned to be agreeable, look a certain way, act a certain way, get approval. Then, when these girls become women, in dating, it translates to being rather vanilla and uninteresting to the guys you’d be interested in, and attracts guys who have tendencies to be narcissists or controlling.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode118
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In today’s show, my caller is unsure of how to ask for what she wants and needs in her relationship without being bitchy or naggy. She’s also got these other questions swirling through her head:
All of these questions can feel overwhelming and cloud the issue at hand which, getting what she needs.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode117
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It’s been a while since I took you behind the curtains of my life to see what I’m loving. In this episode, I’m talking you through what I’m reading and listening to (hardly any self-help!), what I’m watching (I need your opinions, please!), what I’m eating, and my favorite apps.
I hope these recommendations provide some inspiration and fun, and I think many of them will also help with your growth! I’m introducing a new segment onto the podcast!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode116
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I’ve been running the Love Incubator and Love Action Tribe for a couple months now, and from my own experience, I know that listening to other people being coached can be just as powerful as being coached yourself.
So, a couple of times a month, I’m inviting a woman from the Love Action Tribe onto the show to be coached by me. I officially have my own call in show! Woot woot.
Anyways, our first caller asks a question I know many of you have: how do I know if I should stay or leave? We go deep into the situationship my caller is in, but the answer may not be what you expect.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode115
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We often hear the only constant is change. There’s definitely truth to that, but the detrimental part of that is when we go looking for that stability solely in relationships. Sure enough, you’re likely to find yourself in codependent, toxic relationships.
The good news is, you can find that stability within yourself with the moon. You see, we live in a 24-hour cycle world, but as women, we aren’t wired like that. The 24 hour cycle can feel exhausting and overwhelming.
Unfortunately, we don’t have much of a choice when it comes to getting out of that, but by syncing in with your 28-day clock of your body and the moon, you can find the energy to make it work so you feel grounded, aligned, and energized.
www.veronicagrant.com/episode114
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In today’s episode, I answer three listener questions. I periodically will make a call for listener questions, usually on my Instagram page, so if you’re not following me, make sure you do that so you can submit your question next time. You can follow me at @veronicaegrant.
I LOVE the questions that you all submitted to me, and I’m super excited that one of the questions came from a man! The questions are on getting over an ex (even when you know it would’ve never worked out), how to fix a toxic and codependent relationship, and how to date as a feminist when most men are not.
Lots of juicy stuff. Here’s what you’ll learn:
https://veronicagrant.com/episode113
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I hear from friends and clients all.the.time. about how to be more feminine. It’s a good question, an important one, and I know that my body of work has certainly been a part of this wider conversation.
I was at an incredible retreat last week with my coach and mastermind in Santa Fe, and I had a huge, massive, a-ha about our power and masculine energy. When I tell you, it might seem so “duh,” but I’m gonna bet you’ve been missing this.
I know I've been.
Just for the moment, I want you to forget about “being more feminine.” Forget about flow, being receptive, vulnerability, blah blah all those feminine energy things.
And let’s just focus on the masculine.
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I’ve worked with enough women to know that sometimes when someone is describing a current or past relationship, I know when they are describing it through rose colored glasses.
I want to be clear that I don’t want to invalidate how you felt or are feeling in a relationship. It’s a cornerstone of my coaching and how I teach my clients to treat themselves.
Look, obviously things happen, but I’m very skeptical when I hear stories around being blindsided. Yes, that might have been your experience, but to the outside eye, there were probably a lot more signs.
Knowing what’s actually love and what isn’t will help you to protect yourself from being blindsided in the future.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode111
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think it’s common if you’re struggling in love to get sent into the world of personal development pretty quickly. I love personal development, but it’s really important to understand the nuances of it and how human growth works. Otherwise, it’s easy to get stuck or feel like you’re doing the work but nothing is changing.
Perhaps you’ve built some awareness as to how your childhood is having a direct effect on who you’re attracting. But you’re still attracting narcissists!
That’s because the awareness is there, which is important, but it’s not the only step, and it certainly isn’t the last step.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode110
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One thing that drove me craaaaaazy when I was single was talking about my love problems to my other non-single friends who either didn’t struggle the way I did or had been in a relationship for a while and forgot what it was really like.
Obviously their words and advice were well meaning, they’d always say, “It just wasn’t meant to be. And you’ll meet him when you least expect it.”
Ahhh, I would have rather poked my eyeballs out then hear that again.
While I don’t really think that this advice is good or true, there is truth behind it, and in this episode, I break it down.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode109
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When I hop on the phone with a potential client one of their frustrations/questions they ask me if they’re being too picky.
Sometimes someone told them that they’re being too picky or they draw that conclusion themselves after countless dates just feel meh or even if they’re bored with everyone they meet.
And there’s so much fear around this question. Because they want me to tell them that they’re not being too picky… otherwise perhaps their worst fear will come up
They’ll worry that they’ll have to choose between staying single, or worse, settling.
And look, I don’t know exactly what’s on your “list” of needs, desires, and wants in a man and a relationship, but I do want to say this:
You’re more than likely not being picky,
BUT…
I think you’re asking yourself the wrong question.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode108
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I’ve got a special treat for you!
Over the next four weeks, I’m sharing with you the four dating energies that keep you out of love. I’ve NEVER shared this anywhere except with my clients, and I’m SO excited to be finally sharing it with you.
Once you know your dating energy, you can easily begin to see your patterns and sabotages so you have some CONCRETE things to start doing differently so you can finally see some change in your love life.
Think of these dating energies as archetypes, kind of like Sex and the City archetypes. Are you the Carrie, the Miranda, the Samantha or the Charlotte?
Today’s episode is all about the final dating energy…
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I’ve got a special treat for you!
Over the next four weeks, I’m sharing with you the four dating energies that keep you out of love. I’ve NEVER shared this anywhere except with my clients, and I’m SO excited to be finally sharing it with you.
Once you know your dating energy, you can easily begin to see your patterns and sabotages so you have some CONCRETE things to start doing differently so you can finally see some change in your love life.
Think of these dating energies as archetypes, kind of like Sex and the City archetypes. Are you the Carrie, the Miranda, the Samantha or the Charlotte?
Today’s episode is all about the third dating energy…
The Future Tripper!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode106
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I’ve got a special treat for you!
Over the next four weeks, I’m sharing with you the four dating energies that keep you out of love. I’ve NEVER shared this anywhere except with my clients, and I’m SO excited to be finally sharing it with you.
Once you know your dating energy, you can easily begin to see your patterns and sabotages so you have some CONCRETE things to start doing differently so you can finally see some change in your love life.
Think of these dating energies as archetypes, kind of like Sex and the City archetypes. Are you the Carrie, the Miranda, the Samantha or the Charlotte?
Today’s episode is all about the second dating energy…
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I’ve got a special treat for you!
Over the next four weeks, I’m sharing with you the four dating energies that keep you out of love. I’ve NEVER shared this anywhere except with my clients, and I’m SO excited to be finally sharing it with you.
Once you know your dating energy, you can easily begin to see your patterns and sabotages so you have some CONCRETE things to start doing differently so you can finally see some change in your love life.
Think of these dating energies as archetypes, kind of like Sex and the City archetypes. Are you the Carrie, the Miranda, the Samantha or the Charlotte?
Today’s episode is all about the first dating energy…
The Pleaser!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode104
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Is dating distracting you from finding love?
Think about it, do you get caught up in the texting, swiping scrolling, what you look like, or even how the flow of conversation goes? I find so many of my clients get so caught up in that minutiae of dating they forget that they’re doing this whole thing to find love.
Find REAL love is a lot more than just dating, and we talk about that in today’s episode.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode103
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I’ve got a special treat for you!
In this special New Year’s episode, I’m taking you through a meditation to help you set intentions and create clear goals that will create real change for you in 2018.
New Year’s Resolution’s don’t really work, but I find New Year’s INTENTIONS can, and this meditation is all about you getting clear on what 2018 is going to be like for you. So you can go out there and create it!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode102
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I’ve never been much into New Year’s Resolutions. More on that in a sec, but here’s one thing I do know:I’m hopelessly devoted to serving you next year.I’ve been listening closely, all year long, and the #1 struggle that you’ve shared with me boils down to attracting men who want commitment and are emotionally available.Whether it's bad communication, lack of honesty of what he’s really looking for, or creating a real connection, please know that you’re not alone.At the beginning of every yoga class I teach, and even with my private clients now, I ask my students to set an intention for the class. An intention can be anything from wanting more awareness, to getting the kink out of your neck, to just getting some damn peace and quiet.So like my yoga classes, at the beginning of each year, instead of a resolution, I set a New Year’s Intention. So my intention for 2017 is for it to be the Year of Depth.That’s my intention for me, my business, and how I serve you.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode101
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We’re coming to the end of 2017, and it’s the 100th episode, so I thought it’d be a great time to do a little reflection. So this episode is a bit different, because what I’m going to do is tell you 4 episodes from the past year that I think you must listen, or relisten to you. That’s because I think they provide the biggest bang for your buck in terms of getting you closer and closer to real love.
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In today’s episode, I’m answering three listener questions! They are:
https://veronicagrant.com/Episode99
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I have an amazing episode for you today. I came across Amy through another podcast I was interviewed on, and was completely drawn to her spunky, badass, tell it like it is style. You’ll hear it immediately once we start chatting.
We talk about speaking your truth, boundaries, vulnerability, and all things communication. Whether you’re trying to figure out the relationship you’re in or dating, you’re going to love what we jam about. No b.s., and no airy-fairy advice like, “just be authentic!” without telling you step by step how to make it happen.
Enjoy this spicy conversation!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode98
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I’ve got a special treat for you!
In this special Thanksgiving episode, I’m taking you through a grounding and centering Thanksgiving meditation.
We know that Thanksgiving is supposed to be all about gratitude, but that can sometimes be hard.
This meditation will help you this, AND I’ve got a free gift for you:
The Singles’ Holiday Survival Conversational Cheat Sheet. It’s totally free and you can get it at veronicagrant.com/holiday
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I know I probably say this about all of my episodes, but this one is so important. If you find yourself constantly anxious, angry, or feeling stuck, there’s a good chance you haven’t felt your feelings.
If you aren’t sure how you feel sometimes or you rail against things, there’s a good chance you’re repressing your feelings.
Over a lifetime of repressing your feelings, you disconnect from yourself, and minimize your ability to connect with others.
So you can see how this making find love extra tricky.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode96
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A lot of you have told me you feel confident when you’re around someone you DON’T like, but when it’s someone you like, you fall apart. So let’s break this down.
There’s something to this, and in fact, in many of the tips I share in the episode, they’ll each get their own episodes in the very near future.
Because when you feel confident except when you’re with someone you like, that tells me there’s an issue of vulnerability and your dating energy.
Enough on that now, you’ll hear a lot more about your dating energy soon, but for now, in this episode, I’ll share with you SIX super simple things you can do to feel more confident on a date with someone you actually like!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode95
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Would it surprise you if I said people pleasers and narcissists are a match made in heaven?
It’s true.
People pleasers are the largest subsection of my clients, and their biggest frustration is attracting narcissists. The bad news is this is a frustrating pattern to break, but the good news is it’s totally breakable.
In fact, if you’re a people pleaser, I’ve got a meditation for you that’ll help you to say NO to others.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode94
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**Nerd train alert.**
Ok, just kidding, but I do nerd out over all things personal finance.
That’s why when I came across Catie, I knew I had to get her into your earbuds. Catie is a financial planner for millennial women who want to get their shit together.
I love her no nonsense approach to finance, swirled with her ability to meet you where you’re at and her humor, I think you’re gonna love her too.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode93
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Just this morning, I deleted about 1000 subscribers from my email list. If you don’t run a business, let me explain the magnitude of this:
If I’m not working with my clients, I’m probably working on building my email list and community. Some business owners never make it to the 1000 subscriber mark, and I just deleted 1000.
These 1000 subscribers hadn’t opened an email from me in months; in the marketing world, they’d be called “cold subscribers.” Other business owners might think I'm crazy, but I had to make a tough call.
Ultimately I did it because the cold subscribers were draining my energy. I was constantly focused on how can I re-engage them and why they didn't like me.
But in keeping these cold subscribers on my list, I wasn't creating space for what I wanted to call more of into my life, nor was I serving who WAS there with my full attention.
And in doing so, I realized I wasn’t asking myself the right question, which is: “How can I inspire, educate, or entertain the 1000s of women that DO want to be here?"
https://veronicagrant.com/episode92
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I’m so grateful for my friend Dagmar and the work she does in the world.
The amount of trauma, shame, and embarrassment around our sexuality is startling. And it’s not something you can so easily just compartmentalize. It shows up in how YOU show up to men and in relationships.
Creating sexual freedom in your life is creating more freedom for you as a whole in your life.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode91
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In this episode, I interview my friend Jen on how childhood emotional trauma has affected her relationships today as an adult.
Even if you’ve never been abused or didn’t experience trauma in the way Jen and I discuss on today’s episode, it doesn’t mean that your upbringing didn’t affect you in some way in how you relate to men and relationships.
And if it happened 10 years ago, 20 or 30, and you haven’t dealt with it, there’s a chance it’s impacting your relationships today.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode90
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Dating in the modern world can be tricky, but I don’t think it’s inherently because of the apps, texting, snapping, or swiping. I think what makes it tricky is part of a larger problem that we all face from living an increasingly online life.
I share what I think that problem is, and what you can do to stay out of the ‘games’ modern dating brings and how to know if you’re with the ‘best’ person for you.
https://veronicagrant.com/episode89
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This is one of the top questions I get asked by my clients.
The truth is, the answer is complicated. Sometimes a dating break is useful and very necessary. Sometimes, a dating break is holding us back. Sometimes too much dating is holding you back, and everything in between!
In this episode, I ask you 5 questions that you need to ask yourself to know if you need a dating break or if you’re good to date.
I think you’re gonna love it, and after you listen, come tell me what you’re going to decide to do over on Instagram!
https://veronicagrant.com/episode88
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This may sound crazy, but I’ve recently cut out most of the self-help outlets in my life.
Yep, I unfollowed dozens of accounts, unsubscribed from podcasts, and unsubscribed from emails.
This seems kinda weird, since, well, I’m IN the self-help industry, but it dawned on me that I was completely addicted.
Let’s back up a bit:
We live in a world where we’re taught to be believe that we’re not good enough, and that something external can “fix” us.
For years I thought I was too fat, and what’s why I couldn’t get into a relationship. Maybe you think you’re too fat. Or maybe you’ve been told you’re too emotional, too masculine, or just too “much.”
https://veronicagrant.com/episode87
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Previously in Part Five of How I Found Love…I had just moved to DC, had started online dating, and was so excited to meet my nice Jewish boy. Just when things were going so well, I took a couple steps back. I found myself crazy about a guy who wined and dined me, yet wasn’t really emotionally available to me. He broke up with me, and then I did a lot of online dating. Then, one of my friends invited me to a happy hour, and Stevie was there...If you missed the full Part Five of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part Four, read it HERE. If you missed Part Three, read it HERE. If you missed Part Two, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE.Here is Part Six...The finale!
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If you missed the full Part Four of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part Three, read it HERE. If you missed Part Two, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE.
Here is Part Five, aka Three Steps Forward, and Two Steps Back...When I moved to DC, I was so excited to start dating. I felt like over the past few years since living abroad, I had reinvented myself. I was living in a city I'd wanted to live in for years, I had a new job, and I was just beginning to get ideas of my health coaching business.
It was the first time I had an online dating profile, and I felt like I had thousands of potential partners at my finger tips after I signed up with OkCupid.
I was confident, I wasn’t battling my body, and I was genuinely excited about life. You know how people say though that you take 3 steps forward and two steps back?
Well, that was about to happen to me.
But first, I had to take a giant step back.www.veronicagrant.com/episode85
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Previously in Part Three of How I Found Love… After hitting a low point, things in Charleston were beginning to look up. I loved my new city, I had a great job, and quickly developed a fantastic group of friends. I dated someone for the first time that was respectful and actually wanted to be with me, and my new found confidence allowed me to dodge a bullet from another guy. If you missed the full Part Three of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part Two, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE.
Here is Part Four, aka, When Obama Calls...https://veronicagrant.com/episode84
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Previously in Part Two of How I Found Love…
After breaking up with my college sweetheart, I moved to Jerusalem for grad school. Almost immediately and back to back, I found myself in two different relationships with people who didn’t want to be with me.
Even though I have a travel bug and loved living abroad, it was emotionally one of the darkest times of my life. I got to a point where I couldn’t handle my emotions anymore, so I reached out to a therapist.
If you missed the full Part Two of my love story, read it HERE. If you missed Part One, read it HERE.
Here is Part Three...aka, Learning How To Adulthttps://veronicagrant.com/episode83
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If you missed the full Part One of my love story, read it HERE.Here is Part Two...aka, fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice...I had just graduated college, I was getting ready to move to Jerusalem for grad school, and I had just broken up with my college sweetheart.Life exciting and scary at the same time.I’ve had the travel bug ever since I had 15, so I couldn’t wait to live abroad.Yet, I was nervous about making a big move, the language barriers, the cultural barriers, and of course, who would be my friends?!
http://veronicagrant.com/episode82
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I’ve worked so hard on my spirituality, my personal growth, and my relationships to be where I am today.
Recently, I realized I’ve told my story of how I found love in bits and pieces here and there, but never all together in one place....Until now!This is part one in a six-part mini series about how I found love, and created my dream life.
http://veronicagrant.com/episode81
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If you feel like a crazy person around food, struggle with your body, and think that if you lost weight dating would be easier, this episode is for you.
This episode hits home for me so hard, because for YEARS I struggled with my weight. I went on my first “diet” at age 10, dieted on and off until I was 26 years old. Dieting and trying to lose five more pounds was just a thing women did.
It wasn’t until I discovered that my worth wasn’t wrapped up in size that not only did I get off the diet train for good, but it helped me become the person I needed to be to attract the relationship I wanted.
You’ll hear Isabel’s passion immediately. She’s been there, and she knows how to get you out of the diet-binge cycle and improve your body image.
http://veronicagrant.com/episode80
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Maybe it’s nosy or slightly stalkerish, but I love seeing people’s behind the scenes.
Knowing what you ate for breakfast gives me ideas to switch up my breakfasts. Hearing your morning meditation routine helps me to tweak mine if it’s not quite working for me.
I love seeing the real story behind people’s curated Instagram lives. In fact, sometimes, it’s hard for me to post on Instagram, because I feel like my life is so not Instagram-worthy.
We still had unpacked boxes in our apartment until about a week ago. I’m not the neatest person either. I’m also always wearing workout clothes because I’ve either just worked out or am about to.
Most importantly, seeing people’s behind the scenes helps me to not feel so alone. It’s easy for me to feel like I’m not good enough or that I don’t have my shit together as someone else when scrolling social media.
But when I can see that person’s human-ness, I don’t feel as alone. I begin to see that we’re all in this together. And I can learn from them as someone standing right next to me instead of being above me on some sort of pedestal.
In that spirit, I thought I’d peel the curtain back and show you a bit of a snapshot of what life looks like to me right now.
http://veronicagrant.com/episode79
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Lately, I’ve noticed a lot of stuff out floating around on the internet about manifesting your soulmate, more money, your dream house, losing 50lbs… you name it. I’m sad to say though, that as awesome as it sounds, most of it’s bullshit.
Don’t get me wrong though. I’m all about manifesting. I’ve manifested this community, our move to Denver, lots of things.
As much as manifesting as changed my life, I’ve see way too many women get the wrong idea. Like, believing all you have to do is want it, and it’ll magically appear, or if a date goes bad, then it must mean the universe hates you.
Nothing could be further from the truth, which is why I’m so excited to have Bri Seeley on the podcast today setting us all straight.
http://veronicagrant.com/episode78
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They say success is 80% mindset and 20% tactical. In all areas of life, I couldn’t agree more. And what’s why when I got the request to do a podcast episode on discovering what you need and want in a relationship, I knew I had to break it down into two parts: the why and the what, and then the HOW.
Last week’s episode, which was part 1 in this 2-part series was about the mindset and importance of discovering what you need and want in a relationship.
And this week’s episode is all about putting it into practice. Knowing what you need and want doesn’t do you any good unless you know HOW to ask for it in a way that’s effective.
Most conversations I find are so ineffective. Conversations between coworkers, lovers, parents and kids, and employers and employees are riddled with blame, judgment, and accusation, which isn’t going to get you anywhere.
So today’s episode gets into the nitty gritty of how to have an authentic conversation. I go into the weeds here, and since I’m guessing that maybe you’re listening to this episode while you’re walking, driving, or doing something else, I created a freebie you can refer to.
This freebie has some important questions you need to ask yourself BEFORE you ever have this kind of conversation, and it outlines step by step what to do.
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I once was talking to a woman who asked me, “Why can’t I find someone who just knows what I need and want, and then do it?!”
“Well, are you telling them what you need and want?”
“No,I just think someone you’re in a relationship with should know.”
It makes me so sad that this by far is the overwhelming beliefs as to what relationships are. It’s a mix of what we thought we saw in our parents, romanticized romantic comedies, and our smart phone culture where possibly technology knows us better than ourselves.
In a relationship, you can NEVER be too clear as to what you want and need in a relationship. In fact, if a 7 year old can’t understand it, you’re not clear enough. It’s not because you or your partner are dumb, it’s because that’s what effective communication is.
But you have to start with knowing what YOU want, and that’s what today’s episode is all about. This episode is the first in a two-part series. Next week, I’ll teach you how to effectively ask for what you need/want, but first, let’s get started with you knowing what you want.
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In this episode, I share why ending relationships is so hard. The truth is, there’s a lot of fear, shame, judgment, not to mention heartbreak and disappointment when ANY relationship ends, no matter the reason or who did the breaking up.
Which is why so many women stay in relationships long past their expiration dates.
Think about it: how often have you waited for him to break up with you? How often have you tried to pick fights or make something so unbearable that he’d HAVE to break up with you?
If you’re unsure about the relationship you’re in, or if you NEVER break up with a guy even though you know you need to, this episode is for you.
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This episode isn’t just an interview, it’s two women about to get married having a candid conversation about what real love looks like. We talk about what beliefs we had to let go of and how we soften in ways so that real love could come in.
Here’s what you’ll learn:http://veronicagrant.com/episode74
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This is such an important conversation, and as a podcast host about dating and relationships, I can’t believe it took me this long to have a women’s health expert on the show!
Even though I do focus on the inner game and the self-development that goes into relationships, knowing the “real world” stuff is so important so you can stay safe and healthy.
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All this month, I’m sharing a new series on the podcast, all about why you’re attracting emotionally unavailable men. Today is the final installment! If you haven’t listened to parts 1-3, make sure you listen to that so today’s episode makes more sense, then dive in here.
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This is one of the biggest frustrations I hear from my clients, and really any woman who’s trying to make a change, do the work, but nothing is happening.
It’s like you have the pedal down but you’re going nowhere. Or maybe you just have awareness of your patterns/beliefs, but still nothing is changing.
If that’s you, then this episode is for you. In it, I give you 3 reasons why you’re doing the work but nothing is changing.
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EP70: Why You’re Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men Part 3
Why Smart Successful Women Suck At RelationshipsAll this month, I’m sharing a new series on the podcast, all about why you’re attracting emotionally unavailable men. Today is part 3! If you haven’t listened to parts 1+2, make sure you listen to that so today’s episode makes more sense, then dive in here.
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Be more vulnerable! Be yourself! Act natural! Be authentic! Step into your authentic self!
WTF does that all mean? I tackle one of them, how to be vulnerable and give you 2 very tangible and actionable things you can do to start being more vulnerable in your relationships.
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All this month, I’m sharing a new series on the podcast, all about why you’re attracting emotionally unavailable men. Today is part 2! If you haven’t listened to part 1, make sure you listen to that, then dive in here.
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I get this question a lot. Or I hear women say that they’re dating themselves and learning how to be happy being alone.
No, no no! That’s not what dating yourself is meant for. Listen into this episode to hear what learning to be happy alone is really all about, and how to deal with the loneliness that comes from being alone.
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All this month, I’m sharing a new series on the podcast, all about why you’re attracting emotionally unavailable men.
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You’ve done a lot of work on yourself. Things are going great. And then boom. You get triggered. Something throws you off. A date didn’t go as planned. Well, you have two choices. Listen into this episode to hear those two choices, then tell me, which choice are you going to make?
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Flex your intuition muscles, find empowerment through exercise and ignite your inner-inspiration with Feminine Empowerment Guide, Mind Body Nutritionist and Pilates Instructor, Amanda Gyuran.
After years of struggling with exercise obsession and binge eating, Amanda slowly watched her hormonal health, relationships and creativity dwindle away.
It’s now her mission to help women embody their feminine energy, banish body bashing and rock their relationship with fitness so they can live more connected, more vibrant lives and pursue their passions with purpose.
Using a unique combination of Eating Psychology, Holistic Nutrition, Radical Self Care Rituals and Mind Body Movement, Amanda works with creative women worldwide through her private mentorship program and her online Pilates course, The Liberated Movement Method. Learn more on her virtual home, amandagyuran.com.
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If you HATE (or straight up can’t) make a decision this episode is for you. Whether you struggle with what to order at a restaurant or if you should stay in your relationship, it doesn’t have to be so hard. Listen in to hear my take on making decisions, which questions to ask, and why you really can’t mess it up.
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I’m pulling out a fan (and personal favorite) episode this week. Don’t worry, it’s super relevant, and it’s all about how to meet met and make friends as an adult.
In the intro, I list 3 things I’ve learned from my friendship with Casey, and how it can help you make more friends and meet more men.
What you’ll learn:http://veronicagrant.com/episode66
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Are you struggling to get over an ex and let a relationship go? I’m not talking you just got out of a relationship and you’re still in the mourning phase. I mean, you reeeally can’t get over this one. And it’s been months, or even years since the relationship ended. If that’s you, then you’re missing something, and it may be in this episode.
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Feeling stuck has to be one of the most frustrating feelings for me. As someone who always wants to be pushing ahead and moving forward, when I get stuck, my default is to try harder or do more! I often feel like I’m just spinning my tires, which leads me to try more, which leads to more stuckness, and the cycle goes from there.
Today, Well-Being Coach Shira Gura walks us through an amazing process to help you get unstuck from whatever is keeping you stuck.
Here’s what you’ll learn:Shira Taylor Gura is a well-being coach and author of the book, Getting unSTUCK - Five Simple Steps to Emotional Well-Being. She created The S.T.U.C.K Method™ to teach people how to turn their "stuck" spots into sources for energy and positive change. She is a regular contributor to The Huffington Post and has been a guest on several podcasts including the award winning EO Fire. She lives with her husband and four children in Israel.
http://veronicagrant.com/episode65
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I don’t usually pull out the soapbox, but women, I’ve been hearing too much of this lately. I’ll leave it here and let you listen in. If you want a healthy, meaningful relationship, you MUST stop doing *this.*
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About Marisa:
Marisa T. Cohen is currently an Associate Professor of Psychology at St. Francis College in Brooklyn and the co-founder of the Self-Awareness and Bonding Lab (SABL), which is a relationship science lab. In addition, Marisa is the author of From First Kiss to Forever: A Scientific Approach to Love (published by Open Books). This book relates relationship science research to everyday experiences and real relationship issues confronted by individuals.
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Julia and I talk a lot about single motherhood in this episode and what dating as a single mom is like, however it’s really for anyone who feels that time (or the world) is stacked up against them or who has shame on where they are in life.
Here’s what you’ll learn:Julia Hasche is a blogger, podcast host, author and life coach for single parents. She became a single mother in 2013 when her daughter was just a few months old, and created Single Mother Survival Guide in 2016 to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about.
The Single Mother Survival Guide aims to inform single mothers on relevant issues, support single mothers on their journey, inspire them, and motivate them to create the happy single mother life that they want. By providing a community for single mothers, and providing honest and inspirational content through her website, blog, podcast, and social media. She lives in Sydney, Australia with her daughter.
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In this QUICKIE episode, I’ll teach how how to LET GO. Whatever you’re holding onto, whatever you can’t stop obsessing over or over analyzing, this episode will show you how to let it go.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, Veronica is flying solo, but she’s here to tell you the #1 thing holding you back in your quest towards love.
Your next steps:http://veronicagrant.com/episode62
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Since so many of us dream of our fairytale or at least our version of cute rom-com, I had to answer this question when I saw it come up in the Facebook group. What if your ex comes back into your life? Or you had an incredible, intense relationship with someone that has no realistic future? What does that mean? Does it mean you’re meant to be? I give you my thoughts on what to make this mean for you.
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You all are in for a real treat with this episode. Julie is so eloquent and poised as she shares priceless insight into coaching, confidence, feminine power, and relationships. We touch on a lot of important topics in this episode, and if you’re struggling with confidence, friendships not benefiting you anymore, or wondering when you’ll meet the one, you’ll have this episode.
Here’s what you’ll learn:Ready to uplevel your life and relationships? If you’re ready for something big to change in your life, done with feeling crappy every day, feeling alone, or just keeping yourself busy to avoid the feels, apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
About Julie:Hailed by ELLE Magazine as a ‘self-help guru,’ Julie Parker is the Founder of The Beautiful You Coaching Academy where she passionately trains and supports heart centered people to bring their talents into the world as life coaches. The Editor in Chief of inspired COACH Magazine, a published author, and in demand speaker, Julie has inspired thousands of people on stages all over the world for clients including Apple and Earth Events. Julie is the recipient of numerous leadership and women’s business awards and she appears regularly in the media including Sunrise and The Morning Show, as well as publications such as Cosmopolitan, Peppermint Magazine and Sunday Life. Julie is also a modern day Priestess and is committed to contributing to a world where feminine qualities of intuition, presence, nurturing and love, sit comfortably within the realms of global for profit entrepreneurship.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, I explain how to effectively communicate your needs.
It’s not about watering down what you want to appear “easy going,” nor is it a way to trick or manipulate a man. It’s clearly stating what you need/want and putting the other person in a position to actually WANT to meet your needs.
If you’d like to answer a question you have about dating, relationships, or life in general on an upcoming QUICKIE episode, submit it HERE.
Important:Have you filled out the community survey? It takes less than five minutes, and 2 lucky women will win a 30-minute coaching call with me! Plus, it helps me to better help you. Win-win for all. Access the survey here.
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Resources mentioned in the show:An outline for a difficult conversation
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Ok, truth: a part of why I love Date Yourself Radio is it’s a selfish excuse to chat with experts in their fields. And today’s episode, is an area that truthfully I’ve been struggling. I loved talked all things style and fashion with Crystal, and I hope you’ll enjoy it too.
Here’s what you’ll learn:Crystal Cave is your celebrity wardrobe stylist and is the founder of xoCrystalCave.com. She is an International Business Award Winner, Public Speaker and TV show host at Crystal Cave TV. She has been featured on CBS, The Huffington Post, MindBodyGreen, NBC, The CW and many more.
As a former celebrity stylist, Crystal’s goal is to help every woman feel like a Style Icon both inside and out. Crystal has worked on the teams behind some of the biggest celebrities and brands, including Taylor Swift, Mercedes, Kate Upton, and Nike, from NY to LA. Crystal now utilizes those skills to help high-achieving women become style icons in their own right!
Your next steps:Grab all the links mentioned in the show at veronicagrant.com/episode60
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, I give you 12 ideas for first dates. I also tell you what you REALLY need on a first date, and why that’s actually more important than what you do on a date. I also tell you what to look out for, and what things may not make a great first date.
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Get ready to fall in love with Shereen Thor. Part comedian, part life coach, part bad ass. Today, we had an important conversation how to effectively communicate with men, how to be yourself even if it pisses off other people, and finding your version of an extraordinary life. And no, you don’t have to sell all your possessions and sail around the world. (But you can if you want to!)
Here’s what you’ll learn:
-How to communicate with men effectively
-How to be yourself and live your life without pissing others off
-The mindset you need to be in to date for less stress and emotional overwhelm
-Finding your version of an extraordinary life
-How to let the masculine support you without losing your sense of who you are
About Shereen:
SHEREEN THOR is a bad ass on a mission, though she doesn’t care about seeming important so she won’t bore you with insignificant details that will make you think she’s impressive.
She is not. She is just a regular gal doing her best to piss off the world and leave it a better place. She focuses her energy mostly on life purpose, family & lifestyle design.
Freedom is of utmost importance, she can’t live without it and would die for the cause of helping others have it as well. So naturally, she’s kind of a pain in the ass.
Many of us are complex beings who have many sides and we struggle to pick one. Shereen says fuck that. Don’t pick one. Be all of you.
You are exquisite and you are perfect, but you are also inconsequential in the grand scheme of things. So don’t make this thing called life a big deal, just do you, Boo.
Your next steps:
-Ready to stop feeling lonely and anxious and find a partner that feels like an equal? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, I’ll walk you through what TO say and what NOT to say when messaging men first online. Trust me, it’s not as hard as you think! And no, it doesn’t mean chivalry is dead.
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I can’t wait for you to meet today’s guest. Linda and I met about a year ago, and we’ve been get business friends. One thing she’s really helped me to do is to be confident connecting with my community {that’s you!} on video + my podcast.
Before I met her, the thought of talking into a mic or talking on camera was just too much for me to handle, and now here I am with Date Yourself Radio, monthly webinars, and making videos for my community all the time.
In the episode she talks about those tools + techniques + shows you how to be confident on a date, or even show up at a networking event, happy hour, or meet up group with confidence and with things to say.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
-4 things you can start doing today to feel more confident in your body -How to spiritually prepare for a first date -How to turn your self-consciousness into self-awareness on a date -How to let go of thoughts of doubt, self-consciousness, and fear while on a date -Techniques to use + things to say while you’re at a networking event, happy hour, or meet up
About Linda: Linda Ugelow is a business and mindset mentor, and dancer/performer. She helps people transform worry and struggle into inspiration and ease in their work and life. A special love is helping shy entrepreneurs find confidence and joy connecting with their audiences on camera and stage. As a movement specialist of many years, her work is grounded in body-centered awareness. Her writing has been featured on Positively Positive and in the Positive Psychology Program Ezine.
Grab all the links mentioned in the show at veronicagrant.com/episode58.
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In this episode on Date Yourself Radio, I’ll share why guys ghost, and what to do about it. You’ll walk away with 3 action steps you can start doing RIGHT NOW to avoid getting ghosted in the future.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, Veronica Grant shares 3 things every woman needs to find love.
And she doesn’t just tell you, Veronica explains her thoughts behind these 3 things. You may have heard of these things before, but do you know why they are important? Understanding why will help you act with purpose when using these principles to find love.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
Your next steps:
- Enrollment to the Dating Mindset Bootcamp is OPEN. Class starts next Friday, and you won’t have another opportunity to enroll until Fall 2017! Click HERE to see if it’s a good fit for you and to enroll.
-Want my personal attention on your life love? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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In this quickie episode of Date Yourself Radio, I’m going to share with you why relationships start hot then come to a screeching halt. There are 2 types of relationships that can lead to this, and in this episode, I’ll explain them to you and I’ll share how how to avoid getting into them in the first space.
If you’d like to answer a question you have about dating, relationships, or life in general on an upcoming QUICKIE episode, submit it HERE.
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Given our current political climate, today’s episode is SO important. We talk all about using your voice. And the interesting thing is, using your voice politically isn’t so different than using your voice when dating. How you do one thing is how you do everything.
No matter your opinions or what you believe to be going on right now, this episode is so, so important and timely.
Here’s what you’ll learn about using your voice:
About Belinda:
Belinda is a female empowerment coach and a documentary filmmaker.
As an experienced coach and storyteller she holds space for women to become the powerful version of yourself that you know you’re becoming. She believes wholeheartedly in the power of story. Story connects us and reminds us that we are not alone. Owning your story and loving yourself through the process is literally the bravest thing you will ever do. It’s why she coaches. It’s why she make documentary films.
Your next steps:
-The Dating Mindset Bootcamp opens soon! Learn more about my signature program HERE. :)
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Resources mentioned in the show:
Grab all the show notes at veronicagrant.com/epsisode56.
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This is a question I got from the Date Yourself community:
“How do you get over an unhealthy, damaging relationship? I've been with this guy for almost two years, I know he's not good for me.
Although I have told him that I'm going away, I lack courage at the last minute. I always come back with the result that he's taking me for granted as he knows I'm not going anywhere.
I'm so hurt and humiliated and still can't seem to break myself free. Thanks in advance.”
To submit your question for me to answer on an upcoming episode click HERE.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, Veronica Grant shares why getting rejected is a GOOD thing.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
Listen into why detesting rejection is completely normal HERE.
And most important, join us for the next round of the Date Yourself Challenge HERE.
Your next steps:
- Join the Date Yourself Challenge! The next LIVE round starts Friday, Feb 9 3rd. Join below or click here to sign up. (It’s free!)
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab all the links from this episode at veronicagrant.com/episode55.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, Veronica Grant teaches you how many dates to go on before you can call it.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
And most important, join us for the next round of the Date Yourself Challenge HERE.
Your next steps:
- Join the Date Yourself Challenge! The next LIVE round starts Friday, Feb 3rd. Join below or click here to sign up. (It’s free!)
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
To grab any links mentioned in this episode, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode54.
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This question comes from a Dating Mindset Bootcamp alum, and she asks,
"Why do I over give in a relationship? And how do I stop?"
If you’re a people pleaser or you know you always put others before you, this is a must listen!
If you’d like me to answer a question you have about dating, relationships, or life in general on an upcoming QUICKIE episode, submit it HERE.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, Veronica Grant shares the Date Yourself Manifesto. This is a must listen whether you’re new to Date Yourself Radio or if you’ve been with the podcast since episode 1.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
Join us for the next round of the Date Yourself Challenge HERE.
Your next steps:
- Join the Date Yourself Challenge! The next LIVE round starts Friday, Feb 3rd. Join below or click here to sign up. (It’s free!)
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab all the links mentioned in this episode at veronicagrant.com/episode53.
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In this slightly different QUICKIE episode of Date Yourself Radio, I’m going to share with you why you aren’t crazy, weird, or too much. This is a must listen if you think you’re broken or too much for someone to handle. Or, if you believe that you’re the only one going through what you’re going through, this episode is to assure you otherwise!
If you’d like to answer a question you have about dating, relationships, or life in general on an upcoming QUICKIE episode, submit it HERE.
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Today’s episode really is that silver bullet in dating that you are looking for. Yes, it is that important, so please listen to the whole thing. I know this one is a bit longer than others, but it’s so worth it!
Self-care is a buzz word thrown around a lot in personal development. But I find either little explanation as to what it is, or what you’re supposed to do, OR, it’s explained in way that leaves little room to make it your own.
IF there were a silver bullet in dating, it would definitely be this. So as you listen into my conversation with 100% Guilt-Free Self-Care Coach, Tami Hackbarth, here’s what you’ll learn:
- Ideas to create your own self-care routine
- Why putting yourself first is NOT selfish
- If self care can ever be selfish
- The closest thing to a silver bullet to getting into a healthy relationship
- The insane benefits of meditation
- What you’re actually supposed to be doing during meditation
About Tami:
Tami is a self-care coach who teaches 100% guilt-free self-care to busy women. She encourages women to drop the story that self-care is selfish and start feeling powerful in their own lives.
Your next steps:
-The Date Yourself Challenge opens soon! Keep your eyes and ears out. :)
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab the links from the show at veronicagrant.com/episode52.
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In this QUICKIE episode of Date Yourself Radio, I’ll teach you how to rock a first date (or any big date.)
Important:
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
- Come say hello on Instagram! I’m @veronicaegrant. Come comment on a picture and tell me what you want to accomplish this year.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Resources:
The Creative Habit
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If you believe that your success intimidates men or you don’t have time to date/relationships because of your career, this episode is for you! Tiffany is going to school us on work-life balance and the truth about intimidating men.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- How to get started creating a work-life balance that works for you
- Habits you can start implementing in the new year to create your ideal lifestyle
- What it’s like being the breadwinner
- Why your success doesn’t intimidate men (even if you think it does)
About Tiffany:
Tiffany Walker is a productivity and time management strategist to high achieving working moms, Co-Founder of Pop and Banter, and the co-host of the Pop and Banter Podcast. Tiffany previously served as a Vice President of sales and product at a rapid growth technology company and has over 12 years of experience working with top media and broadcast companies such as ABC, Viacom, and Hulu on their digital strategy.
In this experience, she realized how difficult it is for women to “have it all” without feeling stressed out at the same time. As a result, she co-founded Popandbanter.com and the Pop and Banter Podcast which empowers career-minded women to be successful inside and outside of the office without feeling overwhelmed. Tiffany has been featured on Great Day Washington, Huffington Post, Boss-Mom, and Recovering Corporate. She is also a wife and a mom to two daughters (5 & 2 years).
Important:
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab all the links mentioned at veronicagrant.com/episode51
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In this QUICKIE episode of Date Yourself Radio, I’m sharing 3 habits simple habits that have changed my life, and can change yours too, AND the way you approach dating and relationships.
Important:
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
- Come say hello on Instagram! I’m @veronicaegrant. Come comment on a picture and tell me what you want to accomplish this year.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Links in the show:
instagram.com/veronicaegrant
EFT with Olga: veronicagrant.com/episode5
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In today’s episode, I share with you a list of things I’m loving.
Categories include:
- Podcasts
- Health/Wellness
- Books/TV Shows
- Instagram Accounts
Also, remember that early enrollment to the Dating Mindset Bootcamp is OPEN! Learn more, save $200, and snag some early-enrollment-only bonuses HERE.
Take it to the next level:
-Ready to work on your inner game so you can find and keep your perfect-for-you relationship? Apply for my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab all the links mentioned in the show at veronicagrant.com/episode50.
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Maddy is one of my favorite life coaches to follow on the internet. She’s so smart and intuitive, and sprinkled with just enough humor and quirkiness you can’t help but adore her.
She’s a transformational life coach, speaker, author, and fellow podcaster. She spent years hiding behind fear and perfection until she realized what she was doing wasn’t making her happy, and decided to do something about it.
In our conversation, we talk about everything what it means to play big, releasing the need for control, and so much more.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
About Maddy:
Surrender to your own greatness, laugh in the face of rejection and live louder with Motivational Speaker and Life Coach Maddy Moon.
After hiding behind fear, perfection, and a risk-aversion for many years, Maddy knows what it’s like to play small, downplay your own existence and only hope that one day it will all be worth it.
Today, Maddy’s mission is to help you realize the heart-pounding fact that you've only been gifted one life and every day you’re faced with the choice to either make the most of it {unapologetically} or fight against who you’re really meant to be.
Her work and story has been featured in The Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, The Daily Mail, Vice, and ABC News Nightline. Maddy is the host of a top-ranked podcast, Mind Body Musings, and can be found passionately exclaiming her love for taking life by its golden, glittery reigns on her online space, MaddyMoon.com.
Your next steps:
-Early enrollment to the Dating Mindset Bootcamp opens soon! When you enroll early, you get to save $200 and snag some sweet bonuses, including 1x1 coaching with me! Learn more and sign up HERE so you’ll be the first to know when enrollment opens.
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab all the links mentioned at veronicagrant.com/episode49
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EP48: Standing Up For Yourself Without Being A D*** with Amy Smith
I have an amazing episode for you today. I came across Amy through another podcast I was interviewed on, and was completely drawn to her spunky, badass, tell it like it is style. You’ll hear it immediately once we start chatting.
We talk about speaking your truth, boundaries, vulnerability, and all things communication. Whether you’re trying to figure out the relationship you’re in or dating, you’re going to love what we jam about. No b.s., and no airy-fairy advice like, “just be authentic!” without telling you step by step how to make it happen.
Enjoy this spicy conversation!
Here’s what you’ll learn:
About Amy:
Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love. With acute focus on helping people "find their voice", she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com.
Take it to the next level:
-Ready to work on your inner game so you can find and keep your perfect-for-you relationship? Apply for my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-Follow me on Instagram for daily relationship advice and inspiration
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab all the links mentioned in the show at veronicagrant.com/episode48.
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This episode is a bit different, mostly because we talk about 2 completely different topics, so yay for having multi-passions!
My guest, Margo Donohue is a blogger and podcast host for one of my favorite fitness blogs, Fit Bottomed Girls. She also hosts the podcast, Book vs. Movie. In this episode, we talk about how to have a healthy relationship to fitness (and why losing your last 5lbs WON’T help you get the guy).
Margo happens to be a movie expert, so we also talk about the best and the worst rom-coms, and how they’ve often subconsciously held us back and ruin our expectations around dating, relationships, and love.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
About Margo:
Margo Donohue is the creator of the health & fitness Blog Brooklyn Fit Chick which has been featured in Fitness magazine, Shape.com, Bridal Guide, DietsinReview.com and Fitbie.com. She lives and works in Brooklyn, NY is both a Group Fitness and Personal Trainer with certifications from NASM, AFAA, ACE and TRX.
Follow her on Twitter @BrooklynFitChik, Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest.
She is also the producer and co-host of the Fit Bottomed Girls podcast as well as the Book Vs. Movie Podcast.
Her favorite thing about living in Brooklyn is that it isn’t Manhattan.
Important:
-Ready to bust through your love blocks and make 2017 the year you find your perfect-for-you partner? Apply my 1x1 coaching HERE.
-Grab the free, on demand class, The Singles Holiday Survival Guide Workshop: The do’s + don’ts of a stress-free, joyful holiday season no matter your relationship status HERE.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab all the links mentioned in this episode at veronicgrant.com/episode47
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In this special Thanksgiving episode, I walk you through 3 different ways to practice gratitude.
Whether or not you’re celebrating Thanksgiving this week, I highly encourage you all to take a moment to cultivate an attitude of gratitude.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- Why gratitude is essential for successful dating
- 2 ways to practice gratitude intellectually
- How to do a meditation to use gratitude as a way to get out of your head and into your body
Important:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping you from attracting your ideal partner.
-Make sure you’re on my email list so you don’t miss my Black Friday deal. If you want to make 2017 the year you find love, then you won’t want to miss this. Join here.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Head over to veronica grant.com/podcast for more episodes.
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, you’ll learn whether or not swiping or traditional dating sites are for you.
Submit your question for me to answer here.
Important:-YOUR NEXT STEP: Apply for your Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner
-Don’t miss my Black Friday Special to help you make it work online. Make sure you’re on my list HERE to hear about it. (I’m only sharing the details to people on my newsletter!)
-Say hello to me on Instagram!
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Links:
veronicagrant.com/ask
veronicagrant.com/datingclarity
veronicagrant.com/37
instagram.com/veronicaegrant
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Online dating, you probably either love it or hate it. Or perhaps you see it as a necessary evil.
I actually think online dating is a great tool, especially if you’re more introverted, and going out all the time just to potentially meet someone is going to exhaust and drain you. That’s definitely how it was for me.
I think the problem with online dating isn’t the online dating part, but rather, it’s about how we use it. And after talking to my guest today, I’ve learned a lot about the techy part of online dating, and how some sites may not be setting you up for success.
Enter DragonFruit. Dragonfruit is a new online dating app designed for geeks as a safe space to meet, connect, and hopefully date!
Here’s what you’ll learn:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping you from attracting your ideal partner.
-Make sure you’re on my email list so you don’t miss my Black Friday deal. If you want to make 2017 the year you find love, then you won’t want to miss this. Join here.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
For all the links from this episode, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode45
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This week’s question comes from the community:
“How do I respond when I get a dick pic from someone online?”
Submit your question for me to answer here.
Important:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner
-Don't miss my Black Friday Special to help you make it work online. Make sure you're on my list HERE to hear about it. (I'm only sharing the details to people on my newsletter!)
-Say hello to me on Instagram! (@veronicaegrant)
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Links:
veronicagrant.com/ask
veronicagrant.com/37
instagram.com/veronicaegrant
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I’ve got a juicy one for you today. I invited Elise Carr onto the show, who is a ‘Pioneer of Yoni Power’ (you’ll learn what that means in the episode), and she is the Sacred Spirituality and Sexuality Director at Stella Muse.
We had a spicy conversation about tantra, embracing our sexuality, and how to be more feminine in our life and relationships.
In this episode you learn:
Important:
Grab the show notes for this episode at veronicagrant.com/episode44
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This question is one of the most common questions I get AND the #1 issue I help my clients work through:
"How do I get out of a dating pattern?" Whether you keep dating emotionally unavailable men, men who don't treat you well, or keep having a series of one date wonders, then this episode is for you.
To submit your own question to the show, head over to veronicagrant.com/ask
Links mentioned in the show:
veronicagrant.com/episode5
veronicagrant.com/work
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Chris Seiter of the website exboyfriendrecovery.com is on the show today talking to us about how to get an ex back and how to get over your ex. Chris is a relationship consultant specializing in breakups. He’s the creator of the website exboyfriendrecovery.com, a website dedicated to helping women get their ex back...or move on from their ex which gets over half a million visitors each month.
I haven’t had an episode yet dedicated specifically to getting over an ex, so I’m thrilled that Chris was able to come onto the show and give us the scoop. And we talk about a subject that I don’t really teach… which is getting an ex back.
I definitely have mixed opinions about this, and generally think that a relationship ended for a reason. But I really like his approach to getting an ex back, which starts with seeing if it’s even WORTH to get him back.
Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode about how to get over your ex:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping you from attracting your ideal partner.
-Learn more about the Dating Mindset Makeover.
-JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating.
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Grab the show notes at veronicagrant.com/episode43
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This week’s question comes from Veronica, and she writes:
“I ended a 7 year on again/off again relationship earlier this year. I’ve recently learned that he’s gone downhill in a lot of ways and is using a lot of drugs and hanging out with the wrong people. So, I’m glad it’s over, I just don’t understand how I could’ve fallen for this guy. Now that I’m over him, I can’t trust myself. He was such a bad choice, how do I trust again when I go back out and date?”
Submit your question for me to answer here.
Important:-JOIN US! Save your FREE seat for Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul here.
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Resources:How To Know If You're Settling (Episode 3)
Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul
Links:
veronicagrant.com/attractsoulmate
veronicagrant.com/37
veronicagrant.com/episode3
veronicagrant.com/ask
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This week, I have Anne-Sophie Reinhardt on the show. Anne-Sophie is a body image coach and she helps women get out of diet prison and how to stay confident and have a positive body image even when you’re dating.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
JOIN US! Have you signed up for my FREE training, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul? Go to veronicagrant.com/attractsoulmate
YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping you from attracting you ideal partner. Sign up at veronicagrant.com/dating-clarity-session
If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate + review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking & it will help other women find our community!
Grab the show notes at veronicagrant.com/episode42
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This week’s question is a question I’ve been getting a lot lately:
“How do I know when I’m ready to date again after a break? I took a break to work on myself, but now I’m just not sure how to know if I’m ready so I don’t make the same mistakes or fall into the same patterns again.”
Listen in below to hear my answer!
Want me to answer a q you have? Submit your question for me to answer here.
Important:-JOIN US! Have you signed up for my FREE training, Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul? Save your free seat here.
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner
- If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Links mentioned in the show:Attract Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul (veronicagrant.com/attractsoulmate)
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Hello and welcome to episode 41 of Date Yourself Radio!
A few months ago, I met today’s guest at a local networking event in Dallas.
I invited her onto the show because, well, she works for an online dating company I’m sure you’ve heard of, but she also has an incredible blog where she beautifully + eloquently shares her experiences dating.
I’ve already included some of my favorite posts in the shownotes, which are at veronicagrant.com/episode41, but she’s also going to share some of those stories here too.
Towards the end of the interview Emma shares a pretty raw and real time she honored a boundary with someone. And I want you to listen really closely. So many women tell me they’re scared to say what they want or how they feel because they may come across as a bitch, as too much, or get rejected.
I won’t give what happened to Emma away here when she spoke up, but the insight is so powerful, and I want you to hear it.
Alright, let’s go ahead and jump straight to the interview...
Important:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping you from attracting your ideal partner. Check out veronicagrant.com/dating-clarity-session for more details.
-JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating. Go to veronicagrant.com/community
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
Happy listening! xo
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This week’s question comes from Ashley, and she writes:
I am not looking for someone to complete me, but I’m tired of living life alone and if there is something I can do about it I would, it's just hard to know where to start. I’m having one of those days where I’m loosing faith and though I can tell myself "I'll meet someone," the truth is I may not, and it's a little painful to admit. I’m in the place where now my energy is being used to console myself that it's okay to be alone but I'd rather put my energy into finding my partner, I'm just not sure how to go about doing that.
Important:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner at veronicagrant.com/datingclarity
- SUBMIT your question for me to answer here: veronicagrant.com/ask
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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Today on the show, I have Erin Wells. She’s The Intentionality Expert, Productivity Strategist and founder of Chosen Course. But I invited her onto the show today because she so eloquently is able to relay what she teaches in her business to dating. And, I’ve been around the block a time or two in the field of self-development, and what she had to share still blew my mind.
Here’s what you’ll learn when you listen in:
About Erin
Erin Elizabeth Wells is The Intentionality Expert, Productivity Strategist and founder of Chosen Course [www.ChosenCourse.com], a professional productivity consulting and training firm. Erin helps high achievers, entrepreneurs, corporate leaders, and influencers to improve their productivity, focus, and effectiveness in their work and daily life. She is the author of Inspired Action: Create More Purpose, Productivity, & Peace in Your Life [www.InspiredActionBook.com]. Erin is a graduate of Harvard Divinity School with a Masters of Divinity (M.Div.) degree, a Certified Professional Organizer (CPO®), and a certified practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP).
Important: -YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner. Head over to veronicagrant.com/dating-clarity-session
-JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating. Go to veronicagrant.com/community
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
You can find the resources mentioned at veronicagrant.com/episode40
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I’m thrilled to announce Date Yourself Radio is now a biweekly show! (Cue virtual confetti dump!)
On Mondays, except to hear a quick episode from me answering either a common question I get or, you can submit a question for me to answer live on the show.
Here are some questions I’m answering over the next few weeks:
- Why am I always getting friend zoned?
- How do I know when I’m ready to date again?
- How do I stop being a people pleaser?
Important:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner
- SUMBIT YOUR QUESTION: veronicagrant.com/ask
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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In this episode of Date Yourself Radio, I invited a fellow yoga teacher + travel addict Meg Townsend to share how traveling for her became a tool for self-exploration, self-love, and self-acceptance.
About Meg:
Meg Townsend loves breathing in life to its fullest potential and she experiences that through traveling the world, exploring her creative gifts as an opera singer, tending to her urban garden, going on photography adventures, and teaching yoga. She has combined her love of yoga with her love of the world, and guides adventurous souls around the world with the company she co-founded: Aluna Adventures.
Here’s what you’ll learn in this episode:
Important:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner. Read more at veronicagrant.com/dating-clarity-session
-JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook group It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating. Hear more about it at veronicagrant.com/community
-If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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In this episode, I give you some real talk about the real reason why dating feels sucky and demoralizing.
I know you get really frustrated with dating.
Attracting emotionally unavailable men, finding yourself in the same dating patterns again and again, not being on the same page as someone, not knowing who you can trust...
And I know you are over the repeated disappointment when yet another relationship fails.
If this is you, then make sure you listen in to learn:
YOUR NEXT STEP: The Dating Mindset Bootcamp is now open for enrollemnt. The Bootcamp is a 9-week online group coaching program and community to help you uncomplicate dating and attract your ideal relationship.
Learn more + join the Bootcamp at veronicagrant.com/bootcamp.
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If you’re dating, and looking to attract your ideal partner, it can be frustrating + demoralizing when it seems like everyone around you is a couple.
Maybe you’ve tried the same dating sites as your friends. Maybe you’ve followed the texting advice on those sites, used those words to “keep him interested.”
Here’s the truth: You CAN learn how to play the game better. You CAN learn little scripts or texts that’ll provoke curiosity to make him want more. But if he’s not the right match for you, then why does it matter if you get that 2nd date?
I find there to be 4 mindset mistakes most women make when dating.
In this episode, I’m going to lay them out for you, show you how they work against you, and what mindset beliefs to replace them with. This will not only make dating feel more fun + less icky, but will more quickly attract the RIGHT relationship to you.
YOUR NEXT STEP: Enrollment for the Dating Mindset Bootcamp opens on September 15th. The Bootcamp is a 9-week online group coaching program and community to help you uncomplicate dating and attract your ideal relationship.
Learn more + join the Bootcamp at veronicagrant.com/bootcamp.
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The question I get asked a lot is “What is Dating Yourself”?
Let me tell you what it isn’t. It’s not about staying single or learning how to be okay with being alone.
I’m also not another person telling you how to ‘get’ the guy, I want to be really clear:
You aren’t broken.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
You aren’t fundamentally flawed in some way, and,
You certainly aren’t destined to be single forever.
Dating Yourself is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself and for your relationship (future or current).
In just a few days, I'm starting my Date Yourself Challenge + I want you to sign up now by heading over to veronica grant.com/dateyourselfchallenge. When you sign up you'll get one simple date to have with yourself every day for 10 days (aka 10 ways!) that'll help you to simplify + uncomplicate dating.
When you Date Yourself:
– You can finally stop thinking something is wrong with YOU when a date goes bad
– You'll attract men you’re interested in + feel safe to be vulnerable with
– Learn to see each date as a potential opportunity rather than something to stress out about, and be OK with any outcome of the date
– You stop dating the same emotionally unavailable men over + over, and see a person's true self sooner
– You no longer dread dating or feel anxious by it
Join the Challenge: veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge
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Welcome to a special series I’m doing all this week on the podcast, the How We Met series. Each day, I’ve invited some past guests as well as other amazing women to share their story of how they met their life partner.
I hope these stories bring you hope, inspiration, and insight to the different ways these women have met their spouses and partners.
Today is the last episode in the series, and I'm thrilled to share my story of how Stevie and I met, AND how we got engaged. Ennjoooy!
Grab the show notes to this episode at veronicagrant.com/episode35
Make sure you join the FREE Date Yourself Challenge at veronicagrant.com/DateYourselfChallenge
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Welcome to a special series I’m doing all this week on the podcast, the How We Met series. Each day, I’ve invited some past guests as well as other amazing women to share their story of how they met their life partner.
I hope these stories bring you hope, inspiration, and insight to the different ways these women have met their spouses and partners.
Day 4 features one of my favorite podcast hosts + Date Yourself Radio guest alum, Jessie Artigue. She + her husband cohost another favorite podcast of mine, Marriage is Funny. It’s a funny, thoughtful approach to striving for great love, rather than perfect love. I love the messaging, the candid conversations, and the lessons this hilarious couple learns through their own marriage journey. No matter your relationship status, this podcast is entertaining + inspiring to all. Be sure you also listen to our conversation in episode 19 about striving for great love, rather than perfect love.
Grab the links + resources mentioned in the show at veronicagrant.com/episode34
Don't forget to join the FREE 10-Day Date Yourself Challenge! Sign up at veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge
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Welcome to a special series I’m doing all this week on the podcast, the How We Met series. Each day, I’ve invited some past guests as well as other amazing women to share their story of how they met their life partner.
I hope these stories bring you hope, inspiration, and insight to the different ways these women have met their spouses and partners.
I’m really excited about today’s guest, because I actually know her quite well. Her name is Hillary Rubin, and she was my life + business coach for almost a year. She changed both my personal life and my business, so it’s really an honor to have her here today.
Grab the show notes at veronicagrant.com/episode33
Don't forget to join the FREE 10-Day Date Yourself Challenge! Sign up at veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge
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Welcome to a special series I’m doing all this week on the podcast, the How We Met series on Date Yourself Radio. Each day, I’ve invited some past guests as well as other amazing women to share their story of how they met their life partner.
I hope these stories bring you hope, inspiration, and insight to the different ways these women have met their spouses and partners.
On Day 2 of the series, I have author, podcaster, and comedian Laura Lane sharing how she met her partner. Laura along with her cohost Angela have the show, This is Why You’re Single. It’s one of my favorite comedy podcasts, and it’s inspired by real life dating adventures and disasters, and they share a new reason every week about why you’re single. I highly recommend checking it out.
Find all the links + resources mentioned in the show at veronicagrant.com/episode32
Don't forget to join the FREE 10-Day Date Yourself Challenge! Sign up at veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge
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Welcome to a special series I’m doing all this week on the podcast, the How We Met series. Each day, I’ve invited some past guests as well as other amazing women to share their story of how they met their life partner.
I hope these stories bring you hope, inspiration, and insight to the different ways these women have met their spouses and partners.
First up, I have Linda Ugelow sharing how she started treating herself better + manifested your dream relationship. {You may remember Linda from Episode 16 where she shared her best tips on how to be confident on a date.}
Grab the links mentioned in the show + show notes at veronicagrant.com/episode31
Don't forget to join the FREE 10-Day Date Yourself Challenge! Sign up at veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge
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This is the FINAL episode of a little summer series I’m doing with Casey Berglund. In this episode, we share what being a strong woman means to us.
We talk about asking for help, being vulnerable + you’ve got to hear our nautical analogy for this whole subject.
So what does being a strong woman mean to you? This is a conversation we want to continue! We’d love to know what you think!
NEXT STEP: Join the Date Yourself Challenge! The next LIVE round starts Friday, September 9th. Go to veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge to sign up. (It’s free!)
JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook Group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating. Go to veronica grant.com/community to join.
If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate + review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community.
As always, head on over to veronicagrant.com/episode30 to grab the show notes + all the links mentioned in this episode.
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The summer series on Date Yourself Radio continues with Casey Berglund from Worthy + Well (worthyandwell.com). This week we’re talking all about how to have difficult conversations, express how you feel to someone you like, and how to ask for what you need. (In other words, how to honor your boundaries!)
Here’s what you’ll learn:
NEXT STEP: Join the Date Yourself Challenge! The next LIVE round starts Friday, September 9th. Go to veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge to sign up. (It’s free!)
JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook Group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating. Go to veronica grant.com/community to join.
If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate + review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community.
As always, head on over to veronicagrant.com/episode29 to grab the show notes + all the links mentioned in this episode.
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Vacation mode continues at Date Yourself Radio. This week, Casey + I are talking about how to invest yourself. Investing in yourself is SCARY business. Yes, it could be a lot of time + money, which is scary. But it’s also scary because you’re investing in yourself because you want something to change: your weight, your happiness, or your dating life.
And even though we may want something more than what we have, there is a comfort in staying where we are EVEN if it’s not what we want.
In this episode, we discuss:
NEXT STEP: Book your Dating Clarity Session so you can get better align your life so it can attract the relationship you desire + deserve. {It's totally free!} Head over to veronicagrant.com/datingclarity.
JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating. Request access at veronicagrant.com/community.
If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
As always, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode28 to grab the show notes + all the links mentioned in this episode.
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While Date Yourself Radio is on vacation for August, I’m jamming with my dear friend + colleague Casey Berglund from Worthy + Well (worthyandwell.com). This week we’re talking all about where + how to meet high quality men AND make friends as an adult as well as how to deal with rejection, go outside your comfort zone, and how to pull yourself out of your story.
NEXT STEP: Schedule a Dating Clarity Session with me so we can uncover what’s keeping you from attracting your ideal partner. {It's totally free!} Head over to veronicagrant.com/datingclarity.
JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook Group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating.
If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate + review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community.
As always, head on over to veronicagrant.com/episode27 to grab the show notes + all the links mentioned in this episode.
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Date Yourself Radio reached 10K downloads, as THANK YOU I want to answer the top 10 dating questions from the Date Yourself community... in a live hangout! {Bring your own bubbly!}
I'm gonna answer questions like, where to meet men, the best online dating sites, how to stay calm + carry on even when you reeeeally like the guy + more. {It's totally free!}
To save your seat, head over to veronicagrant.com/10k
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I’m so excited about bringing Katie Dalebout to you today. Katie is one of the sweetest + most genuine online guru I’ve met, and she’s the author of Let it Out, which is quickly becoming of my favorite go-to self-development resources.
Today she’s going to share how even though she had incredible support from family, therapists, coaches, nutritionists, and doctors for her to heal from anorexia, journaling is the tool that helped her actually apply what she learned from self help, get to know herself, and continues to be a tool she uses to learn + grow.
Through her writing, videos, workshops, and podcasts, millennial blogger, speaker, and podcast host Katie Dalebout curates inspired wisdom that guides people to develop a positive image of their bodies by embracing their creativity and personality outside of their physicality.
For links mentioned in the show, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode26.
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In this episode, I interview Irene Langeveld, who’s a coach for highly sensitive people.
Can you relate to this? You don’t want to turn someone down because you feel bad, or you agree to be set up because otherwise the person who is setting you up will think you’re judgy or picky, or you have trouble saying ‘no’ to people.
The good news is that this probably means you’re not a psychopath, as psychopaths have zero ability to empathize. The bad news is this exhausting, and it rarely leads to a healthy, lasting relationship.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
-How to know if you’re being too sensitive or if you’re just being empathetic
-What to do when you worry about what people think
-How to listen to your intuition, and act upon it!
Grab the show notes at veronicagrant.com/episode25.
Important:
-YOUR NEXT STEP: Apply for a Dating Clarity call with me so we can uncover what’s keeping your from attracting your ideal partner: veronicagrant.com/apply -JOIN US! Are you in the Date Yourself Facebook group? It’s THE place to be to get support for authentic + intentional dating. Request access here: veronicagrant.com/community -If you get value from Date Yourself Radio, please rate & review it in iTunes. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!
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We live in a world where we’re taught other things {houses, cars, jobs} or people {spouses, friend} are supposed to make us happy. If we live like that, we’ve completely lost our power to other people or things. Then when you have all those things, you can’t help but ask yourself…’This is it?’
The problem is we want to feel happy, successful, loved, whatever, but we’re not our own source for those feelings.
Getting an amazing job, partner, losing weight are great things to aspire to, but self-development is about being able to feel how we want to feel with or without those things.
In my interview today with Maggie Quinn from Strong Body Whole Heart, we dive into what self-development is really like + about, the journey from unloveable to loved, and how to love yourself again {or for the first time.}
It’s a juicy one, and here’s what you’ll learn:
Grab the links + resources mentioned in show at veronicagrant.com/episode24.
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Myke Macapinlac is the founder of mykemacapinlac.com. His mission is to help shy guys become socially confident so that they can create the lifestyle they deserve. As a dating coach for me, he shares in this episode how to talk to men + understand men.
Here’s what you’ll learn: -How men really feel about paying for a first date -The #1 ingredient for better dating, no games or ‘rules’ involved -Why older men want to date younger women {and what to do if you’re not a ‘younger woman’} -If men find it attractive when women make the first move -If you can change men
Grab all the links to this episode at veronicagrant.com/episode23
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In this episode, I'll answer the q, why does rejection hurt so much? I'll also share a simple insight into one of the biggest misunderstandings around rejection. When I learned this, as someone who takes getting rejected extremely personal, it changed everything!
At the end of the show, I invite you to join me in my upcoming webinar: Get Over Your Ex. If you're struggling to let go of someone, or if you get really hung up on someone you barely know, you won't want to miss this.
Grab your free seat:
veronicagrant.com/getoveryourex
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On this week's episode of Date Yourself Radio, I've got the Period Coach, Stasha Washburn with me. She's going to share with us how you can align your dating + self care practices to your monthly cycles. It makes so much sense, I’ve just never seen it that way before. And don’t worry, if you’re on birth control or in perimenopause or menopause, she’s got you covered.
NEXT STEP: Book your Dating Clarity Session so you can get better align your life so it can attract the relationship you desire + deserve. {It's totally free!} Head over to veronicagrant.com/datingclarity.
Finally, THANK YOU for being a listener to the show. If you love it, please share this podcast with your friends, and leave me a review! It helps to get this show out to more smart, savvy women like yourself.
As always, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode22 to grab the show notes + all the links mentioned in this episode.
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Some of you may know that a not-so-secret passion of mine is personal finance. It may my love of number crunching, graphs, or the satisfaction of reaching numerical goals, but I love it.
I met Hillary in a women's podcasting group on Facebook, and of course she caught my eye because of her expertise in personal finance. I read more of her stuff, I realized that yes... she'll help you crunch the numbers, but she also coaches her clients around the mindset of their money. And she specifically works with women. When I reached out to her to ask if she had opinions about men, dating, relationships, and money she said, 'ooooh yeah.'
So here it is!
Here’s what you’ll learn:
About Hilary:
Hilary Hendershott, MBA, CFP® is the Founder of Hilary Hendershott Financial and the host of Profit Boss Radio, the podcast for women + money.
Hilary is a financial coach, money mindset expert, and experienced wealth manager. She has worked for nearly 15 years with women who want to preserve their wealth, make it grow, and eliminate financial stress once and for all.
She’s a TEDx speaker, and she’s regularly featured in Forbes, BBC On-line, Investopedia, NPR's Marketplace and Women 2.0. She was recognized as a Top 40 Under 40 Entrepreneur, and has been interviewed multiple times by the Wall Street Journal. Her articles are syndicated nationally and she’s a columnist in DailyWorth’s Connect platform for financial experts. With more than 30 television appearances, she’s a go-to personal finance expert for NBC where they call her "The Investor's Voice of Reason."
In 2015, Hilary announced her campaign to empower one million women to become millionaires. Her passion is empowering women to take control of their money and happiness, and achieve their financial goals.
Grab the show notes at: veronicagrant.com/episode21
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I’m flying solo this episode for the first time in quite a while, but it seems to be a perfect thing to do coming off the Date Yourself Challenge.
Y’all, the Date Yourself Challenge BLEW me away.
When I ran the challenge back in February, 175 women went through the challenge. This past round, over 600 women did the challenge.
The energy was incredible, and I can’t tell you how many women joined with ‘little expectation’ of how it’ll help and were then blown away by the results they got.
Women reported feeling more confident, happier, and more like themselves in years.
Anyways, this Ask V is the first episode of its kind. I find that I get asked the same questions again + again. Instead either a) answering it over + over and/or b) not giving a thorough answer {the comments in the Facebook group can only do so much!}, I thought I'd occasionally do an Ask V episode to answer common questions.
The question is, I get asked all the time about my skincare regimen. And this just happens to be a topic I could go on + on about.
So in this first Ask V episode, I'll answer that question {it's probably not what you think!}, AND while I'm at it, I'll share with you my 3 other top self-care habits.
Grab all the links + resources mentioned in the show at veronicagrant.com/selfcare
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Today on the podcast I interview Andrea Hood, she’s a health coach + co-host of the podcast Badass + Bare.
When I first asked Andrea onto the show she was unsure of how she could be helpful. She's never actually dated! But, she's 11 years strong with her hubby, so I wanted to know how she does it, and how they keep their relationship fresh + exciting.
She also shares her story of how both her + her husband come from a long line of divorce, but both worked hard to not repeat the same patterns + mistakes their family members made. I really loved this conversation in particular, because whether we like it or not, our parents have a huge influence on how we see ourselves + how we relate to others. And the more we resist becoming like our parents, the more we become like them. Andrea shares how she broke that cycle + is creating a new pattern for her relationship with her husband.
As you listen, here's what you'll learn:
About Andrea:
Andrea Hood is an Entrepreneur and co-creator of Badass & Bare podcast, inspiring ear candy for the lady in flux. Andrea’s mission is to empower women to live authentically and stand in their own truth. When Andrea found herself unhappy, overweight, and lacking energy and excitement in her mid-20’s, she knew she needed a serious life overhaul and she set out to do just that. By surrounding herself with a community of like-minded women, and following the lead of mentors and coaches she invested in, Andrea was able to pull herself out of her funk and create the life she had always envisioned. She was able to get the clarity she needed to discover her true purpose in life, to which she does on her own terms and unapologetically, and now she guides other badass women to do the same. To learn more about Andrea visit her site www.andreahood.com
To grab the resources + links mentioned in the show, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode20
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Today on the podcast I interviewed one of my podcast crushes, Jessie Pepper. Jessie, along with her husband, is a co-host one of my favorite podcasts, Marriage is Funny. My favorite thing about their show is their quest for great love, rather than perfect love.
I really wanted to ask her to be on my show for a while, but I’m not gonna lie, I was a bit nervous to do it. I was sure she'd say no, and then I'd feel crappy for a few days. Then of course, I saw the staggering parallels between what it meant for me to ask Jessie to be on my show, and my clients going out of their comfort zone to go on dates.
Here's what you’ll learn:
About Jessie:
Jessie Artigue is a lifestyle expert, on-air host and perpetual big sister. She co-hosts a podcast with her husband called Marriage is Funny (because it is) and blogs at Style + Pepper about creating a happy, healthy + flavorful life. She loves the chance to pop in and share her style tips on Good Morning America, Harper's Bazaar, Lucky Magazine and more, but spends most of her spare time running or writing or reading on the beach near their Southern California home.
For all the resources + links mentioned in the show, head over to the show notes: veronicagrant.com/episode19
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I did something a littledifferent today.
When I tell women about the power of dating yourself + about thechallenge, I find I get 1 of 2 responses:
A: That sounds awesome! I lovethat, I don’t give myself enough ‘me’ time, and that’s something Iwant to work on.
B: You mean like buying myselfflowers, little gifts, or going out by myself? I don’t get it. I dothat all the time, and it hasn’t helped me.
Well, my guest on the show todayISN’T another wellness, self-care, or lifestyle expert {but I lovethose guests too!}. Today, my guest is Debbie Novitsky, and she isa Date Yourself Challenge alumna + one of my clients inside theDating Mindset Bootcamp.
In this episode, Debbie shareshow dating herself helped her:
Join the Date Yourself Challenge {the fun starts May 13th}:veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge
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Today on Date Yourself Radio I’ve got Body Positive Wellness Coach Kaila Prins. I recently met Kaila through a women’s podcasting networking group, and when I learned about her story, I knew I wanted her to share it with you all. Kaila describes herself as a happy kid growing up, but once she realized that boys were a thing you could kiss, have crushes on, and be crushed on, it sent her down a path of not understanding who really owned her body.
What I really loved about Kaila’s story is that her journey from disordered eating goes beyond recovery. She wanted to live beyond the “strong not skinny” mentality of many women recovering from disordered eating. She went into a phase she calls discovery, which is about filling the void of obsessing over food + exercise with other things. Enter pole + burlesque dancing. Aka, dating yourself.
In this episode, Kaila shares:
About Kaila
Kaila Prins is a body positive wellness coach, burlesque and pole dancer, and voiceover actor. After recovering from orthorexia, anorexia, and exercise addiction, she has set out to understand and overturn the reasons why we're all so darn uncomfortable in our own bodies. Using her podcast, Finding Our Hunger, as the medium and burlesque, pole dance, and drag as a message, Kaila Prins speaks radical truths about body positivity, health at every size, feminism, sexuality, and recovery...usually while covered in glitter.
Grab all the shownotes at: veronicagrant.com/episode17
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I can’t wait for you to meet today’s guest. Linda and I met about a year ago, and we’ve been get business friends. One thing she’s really helped me to do is to be comfortable connecting with my community {that’s you!} on video + my podcast.
Before I met her, the thought of talking into a mic or talking on camera was just too much for me to handle, and now here I am with Date Yourself Radio, monthly webinars, and making videos for my community all the time.
In the episode she talks about those tools + techniques and how they can help you show up confidently on a first date, or any date really, or even show up at a networking event, happy hour, or meet up group with confidence and with things to say.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
About Linda:
Linda Ugelow is a business and mindset mentor, and dancer/performer. She helps people transform worry and struggle into inspiration and ease in their work and life. A special love is helping shy entrepreneurs find confidence and joy connecting with their audiences on camera and stage. As a movement specialist of many years, her work is grounded in body-centered awareness. Her writing has been featured on Positively Positive and in the Positive Psychology Program Ezine.
To connect with Linda, grab the links mentioned in the show, or to join the Date Yourself Challenge, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode16
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Some alcoholics will say that they’re always alcoholics, even if its been years since their last drink. They’re just recovering. As a recovering perfectionist, my guest I couldn't agree more.
My whole life I was a perfectionist + overachiever. In fact, I remember shamefully throwing away a report card my senior year of high school because I made a B+ in calculus. In calculus! And it was at the college level!
The thing is, being a perfectionist + chronic achiever can lead to great things: success, financial abundance, and yes, status.
But when you die, all those things go away + don’t matter. And unfortunately, the perfectionist mentality keeps you from living a life of deeper meaning.
This hit home for me, and I know it did for my guest today. Both of us had achieved so much, yet it was never enough. We were always tired, and at the end of the day, something was missing.
Kelly + I dive deep into the conversation about all things perfectionism, worthiness, and relationships.
Here’s what we jam on:
About Kelly:
Kelly Covert is co-owner of Strong Body Whole Heart, a transformational coaching company. She is passionate about helping women transform from the inside out and start loving themselves today and living to their fullest potential. Kelly is a dynamic speaker and speaks to groups across the country on the topics of everyday worthiness, the myth of perfection and the importance of vision. Her work has been featured in the Huffington Post and the Elephant Journal. She is also the host of The Strong Body Whole Heart Podcast available on iTunes.
To get all the links + resources we mentioned in the show, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode14
To sign up for my new webinar, How To Get Over Your Ex, head over to veronicagrant.com/getoveryourex
To get all the links + resources we mentioned in the show, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode14
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My journey in the self-development space began almost 10 years ago as a fitness instructor. I taught Cardio Combo, Kickboxing, Muscle Pump, the works.
In fact, it was my experience as a fitness instructor that inspired my original business as a health coach. A lot of my students came into my fitness classes asking me to ‘work them hard’ because of what they ate the night or weekend before.
I’m finally getting back into having a healthy relationship to fitness, which is why I was so excited about this interview. Tanja is spot ons, and I love the parallels she draws between a healthy relationship to fitness + healthy relationships.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
About Tanja:
Tanja is a west coast girl, born and raised in British Columbia. She loves climbing to the top of mountains + staring at just about any body of water from the Pacific Ocean to the Vedder River (that flows through my current home, Chilliwack). She also loves an oversized cup of coffee, and listening to podcasts for entrepreneurs. You can find her writing blogs + publishing podcasts to inspire others, continuing her own education, running her fitness studio here in Chilliwack, and working with her amazing clients.
Grab all the links mentioned in the show, connect with Tanja, and join the Date Yourself Challenge at veronicagrant.com/episode15
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On today’s episode, I’m so excited to introduce to you a nationally recognized health + sexuality expert, August McLaughlin. It’s possible to talk about all things dating + relationships without ever talking about how sex fits into the equation. Since we haven’t talked directly on the topic yet on this podcast, I can’t wait for you to listen in to this juicy episode.
I especially loved this episode because the key to sexual empowerment + a satisfying sexual relationship with your partner runs parallel to everything I teach: dating yourself + treating yourself the way you want to be treated.
As I said, August is a nationally recognized health + sexuality expert, and is host of Girl Boner Radio {Yes, you heard that right!}. Girl Boner is a show that celebrates women’s lives + sexuality “like no other.” I’m so excited that I’ll be coming onto her show in late May. {I’ll send you the episode when it’s live!}
Here’s what we jam about in this episode:
Grab all the links, including August's podcast link in the show notes: veronicagrant.com/episode13
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I’m so excited to share with you my interview with Robyn Baldwin. Robyn is a self-described Alpha Female + Work/Life Harmony Strategist.
Her story, and her transformation afterward blew my mind. Four years ago, Robyn canceled her wedding after realizing the relationship she was in was a toxic + co-dependent. She stayed with a man that had his own shit to deal with. But her belief of unconditional love + that love conquers all made her stay, because she believed she could fix him + the relationship.
Even after calling off the wedding, Robyn still struggled with putting herself first + literally could not be alone in her apartment.
Even if you’ve never broken off an engagement or canceled your wedding, so much of her story is incredibly common. As you’re listening, consider these questions:
In your current or a past relationship, did or do you believe that you are responsible for your partner’s happiness?
Does unconditional love conquer all? At what point is for better or worse a bad idea?
Are you operating under a timeline of when you think you ought to be married or having kids?
Can you hang out by yourself? {And enjoy it?}
Finally, what red flags have you ignored? When has going against your intuition worked for you? Has it ever?
Robyn’s bio:
Robyn Baldwin is an Alpha Female and a Work/Life Harmony Strategist. She is a Sr. Integrated Marketing Manager, a fitness/lifestyle blogger at RobynBaldwin.com, a former Canada Football League cheerleader and fitness competitor, a published fitness model, a freelance magazine writer, a future best selling author, a brand ambassador and a sponsored athlete. With a passion for fitness Robyn loves running, weight lifting, has taught spin and coached beginner runners. She’s also a yogi and has been practicing for over 10 years. She now spends the majority of her spare time training for obstacle course racing. She also calls herself an MS Warrior after being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in December of 2014.
***To grab the links + resources Robyn mentioned in the show, head over to veronicagrant.com/episode12***
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If you’re in your 40s + dating, or want to date, then episode 11 of Date Yourself Radio is for you. Today on the show, I invited Jacqueline Parker-Court to talk all about how dating in your 40s is different than in your 20s or 30s.
I teach a lot from my experience, and as a non-mom + someone who just entered her 30s, I’m so excited to bring Jacq to you. She has a blog, podcast, and video series that helps women navigate their late 30s + 40s.
She also had her daughter at age 43, which I know will be an inspiration to many in this community.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
About Jacq:
Jacq is a seasoned story teller and content producer with over 20 years experience in advertising and PR on brands such as Canadian Tourism Commission, Aveeno, BMW, WINNERS, Mattel, Fairmont Hotels and Dove. She is the sharpie of stuffies, fairy dresses and Lego for her 4 year old daughter and a devoted wine drinker.
Twitter/Instagram/Snapchat: @drinksatsix
Resources Mentioned in the show:
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If like attracts like, there’s a good chance you’re a lot like me. You’re driven, you have big goals, and most of your friends were...male.
If that doesn’t sound like you, I’m STILL willing to bet that at least once {but probably more} you viewed other women as “the competition” + have sized yourself up against other women.
If that’s you, there’s no shaming or hard feelings, I’m pretty sure we’re all guilty of this, and so was my guest on Date Yourself Radio.
Shannon lived most of her life in her masculine energy, secretly despising other women. In her mind, men were a scarce commodity, and other women were the competition. It wasn’t until she tapped into her own femininity + changed her relationship to other woman that she was able to attract the relationship she has today.
In today’s episode, she shares that journey with us.
About Shannon:
Shannon grew up on her family’s pear farm in a small town in Northern California. She floated up to a skyscraper in Manhattan as a corporate lawyer. When that wasn’t working, she hit the road as a travel photographer all over the world. Now, she is a rooted mama living in Asheville, NC with her 2 year old daughter + husband.
She share her passion for whole food nutrition + vertical gardening in her business. Most recently, she hosts the podcast, Honor The Feminine Podcast, and feels so blessed and honored to connect with and share these incredible women.
Resources mentioned in the show:
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I’ve got another fun episode for you today.
If you’re finding yourself stuck in a rut, this episode is for you. It’s only human to get into a cycle of wake up, work, work out, eat dinner, netflix bed. I’m all about routines; they can bring groundedness + familiarity to our lives, which lord knows is comforting. But sometimes, it begins to feel like a rut, like we’re just going through the motions.
Enter Laura Yamin. Laura is a career coach for millennials + fellow podcaster. Her podcast Say Yes Podcast is all about those moments we say yes to life. Really? It’s about bringing in more fun + opportunity into your life, wherever you are.
Here’s what we jam about:
Resources:
For shownotes + to join the conversation, visit veronicagrant.com/episode9
xo,
V
ps - Big news! Date Yourself Radio made it onto the New + Noteworthy list in iTunes!
Woohoo!
This helps us to grow our community + create new friendships here in this group so that more women can start attracting the relationships we REALLY want into our lives.
I'd love to move the show up even higher in the ranks, so here are 3 things you could do to help:
4) Once you review, take a screen shot of the review {it takes a day or 2 to show up} + email it to hello@veronicagrant.com to be entered to win a free 60-minute coaching session with me!
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I am so excited about today’s episode. Casey {from worthyandwell.com} + I have been buds almost since my business’ beginning. It’s been really fun to have a friend where we got to birth our businesses, programs, and services into the world together. {This must be why moms who were pregnant together have unique + special bonds?! I think I’m kinda getting it.} Anyways, she’s a master at helping people heal their relationship to food, and eat for fuel, flavor, and fun. I adore Casey + what she teaches, mostly because she gave me a good excuse to use an analogy in my show notes {SAT, old school style}: Your relationship with yourself is to your romantic relationships, as _____ is to all your relationships. Give up? It's food! I love what Casey does because she doesn't teach you what to eat/not to eat. She teaches you how to use your own inner wisdom as a guide to know what to eat. This not only changes your relationship to food, it really changes all the relationships you have in your life. Food + my relationship to it has been a huge part of my life, and I attribute changing the way I ate to attract {and keep} Stevie. I was a chronic dieter + calorie counter-extraordinaire. For years I believed that once I reached the perfect weight, all my dating problems would be solved + I could have any relationship I wanted. It was only once I saw food as something as nourishing + not ‘something to be conquered’ did I transform the relationship I had with myself, and ultimately, attract the relationship I truly wanted.If you struggle with food, then this episode is for you. About Casey:For many years Casey had an unhealthy and unhappy relationship with food, her body, and her life. She is a self-described queen of the all-or-none when it came to food + dieting. She read every diet book she could get her hands on and ate in a very rigid way (that would usually backfire). This left her exhausted + feeling stuck. She got her degree in nutrition from the University of Alberta, which was useful in learning how food affected her body. But what REALLY helped her was establishing a yoga practice. Yoga helped her let go of her perfectionist mentality + made her more mindful. It connected her with her own unique inner wisdom, which now serves to guide the way she eats, the way she treat her body, and the way she lives her life. In this episode, here’s what you’ll learn:1. How Casey created her own inner wisdom, and how it helps her make eating choices that keep her nourished + happy. {She’ll tell you how to create your own inner wisdom, too.}2. How to eat on a first date or in front of men without feeling self-conscious3. How mindful eating can help you attract the right relationship for you4. How to deal with different food choices + values in a relationship {eg, you’re a vegetarian + he’s not} Resources: Casey's 21-Day Mindful Eating Challenge Worthy and Well Dating Clarity Session
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If you've been with me for a while, you know that I am {not so} secretly obsessed with How I Met Your Mother.
I think the show is brilliant in how they portray dating + relationships.
When I saw the episode where Barney explains his application of the Lemon Law, I thought it was genius, and I knew it would have to be a podcast episode.
Now, the Lemon Law, when it comes to cars, means that if a car is defected or continues to break with repeated fixes, it falls under the Lemon Law. You can get your money back.
When it comes to dating, according to Barney, the Lemon Law can be invoked within the first 5 minutes of a date if one or both parties "deems the union hopeless."
Obviously, that's a bit shallow, and not what I'm advocating.
In this week's episode, I'll explain what I AM advocating if a date isn't going so well, or if you aren't sure about your guy.
Specifically, I'm talking about:
Tune in below!
After you listen, in the comments below, I'd love to hear have you ever agreed to 2nd, 3rd, dates {and beyond!} because you felt guilty or that you "should" like him?
Tell me about it below in the show notes, veronicagrant.com/episode7.
xo,
Veronica
Resources mentioned in the show:
Ted's Fatal Flaw + 3 Dating Tips Barney Got Right
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When I work with private or group clients, I have a very specific process I take them through.
Why?
Because I know it works.
So often, when I see women who want to get serious about meeting someone they immediately download the latest dating app, start imagining their dream guy, or spend ALL their free time dating.
The truth is, this doesn't work! At least not in the long term.
You don't need another dating app, you can throw your perfect man list out, and if you spend ALL your time dating, you will burn out.
Instead? I have 3 steps, and guess what, the first 2, don't even involve anyone else!
If you're really serious about attracting the relationship you most desire, you've got to get serious with the relationship you have with yourself.
I don't care if that sounds woo-woo or too warm + fuzzy for you, but it's the truth.
It's a fact that the relationship we have with others is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself.
You can't expect someone to treat you like a queen if you yourself don't treat yourself like a queen.
In this episode, I share my 3 steps, and WHY they are important for lasting love.
The three steps are:
Tune in below so you can get all the details + learn what the heck those steps actually mean.
When you're done listening, head over to the show notes, tell me: where in this process do you struggle with most? Are you hung up on old boyfriends? You don't put yourself first? Share in the comments below.
xoxo,
V
Resources mentioned in the show:
7 Steps to Getting Over An Ex - Free workshop recording
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I’ve been so excited to bring you this episode. I’ve seen Olga around the online business space for a while, and recently got over my OWN fears + blocks, and finally reached out to her to come onto Date Yourself Radio.
In this episode, Olga is going to you {and me, too!} what the heck the Emotional Freedom Technique {EFT} is, why it’s helpful, and how it can help you date better + have more fulfilling relationships.
You’ll hear us jam on:
If you’d like to learn more about Olga + her work, here’s where you can find her:
Resources:
Emotional Decluttering Free Masterclass
EFT for Entrepreneurs Free Masterclass
10-Day FREE Date Yourself Challenge
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What’s the first thing that comes to mind when I say dating + relationships?
Is it fun, excitement, something flows easily into your life?
Or do words like icky, gross, draining come to mind?
If you’re in the latter half, then this episode is for you.
I certainly didn’t invent the idea of dating myself, but I’m the only dating coach I’ve ever seen that specifically uses it as a tool to attract the relationship you desire + deserve.
In this episode, I’m going to tell you:
If you’re ready to have fun dating again + attract the relationship you desire, then I invite you to join my free 10-Day Date Yourself Challenge!
Resources:
Free clarity call: bit.ly/DatingClaritySession
Date Yourself Challenge : bit.ly/DateYourselfChallenge
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A few months ago, I asked my community what their #1 struggle was when it came to dating.
I got a lot of great insight.
But the #1 theme that kept coming up was TIME.
Busy, successful, goal-oriented women had trouble finding enough time to date.
In today’s episode, I give you 3 tangible action steps that you can start taking TODAY to have more time to date, more time for yourself, AND still get all the important things done. {I promise - this is possible!}
But before I get to the 3 steps, I ask some tough questions that you’ll need to seriously consider.
As you listen into this episode, consider:
In the comments below, I’d love your answers to the questions above. In the show, I lay out my own answers to these questions, and I think that’s gonna help you a lot come up with honest, heartfelt answers for you.
Resources:
veronicagrant.com/episode2
Date Yourself Challenge
@veronicaegrant
Tomato Timer
Google Calendar
Submit your question to me for a future episode hello@veronicagrant.com
Schedule a free Dating Clarity Call - veronicagrant.com/dating-clarity-session/
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This episode is a juicy one because I address women’s #1 fear when it comes to dating: settling.
Single women are afraid they’ll have to settle just to get into a relationship while women in a relationship may be wondering IF she’s settling.
In today’s episode, I walk through my step-by-step process you can use to help you figure out if you’re settling.
An important thing to note: not all compromise, meeting in the middle, or giving in is created equal. In fact, relationships are full of compromise.
In this episode, I’ll help you figure out what really is important to you, things you SHOULDN’T settle on, and how to figure out the things you could settle on.
This isn’t about compromising on your values, morals, or what’s important to you. You won’t be giving up a part of yourself, and there’s nothing un-feminist about the process I’ll walk you through.
After the show, in the comments below, please let me know:
Resources:
veronicagrant.com/episode2
Date Yourself Challenge
@veronicaegrant
Submit your question to me for a future episode hello@veronicagrant.com
Schedule a free Dating Clarity Call - veronicagrant.com/dating-clarity-session/
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Hello + welcome to my introductory podcast!
Honestly, I never thought I’d have a podcast + connect with my audience in this way, but I am so excited to, because I hope it’ll serve you in a deeper + better way than a traditional blog.
If you’re new to me, you may be wondering what the heck I’m talking about when I talk about dating myself. I certainly didn’t make up the concept of dating yourself. However, I do think my emphasis on dating yourself as a way to deepen the relationship you’re in or drastically improve your dating life is powerfully unique.
In this first episode of Date Yourself Radio, I share with you my own date yourself story. At the time I was undergoing a radical shift in my life, I didn’t really realize what I was doing. Hindsight is 20/20 in that way. But now it is crystal clear to me how once I started treating myself the way I wanted to be treated, I started attracting men who wanted to also treat me that way.
As you listen to this episode, here are some key concepts + questions to consider:
After you listen, in the comments below, I’d love to know: how do you treat yourself the way you want to be treated?
Resources:
Shownotes: veronicagrant.com/episode1
Date Yourself Challenge - veronicagrant.com/dateyourselfchallenge/
@veronicaegrant
Submit your question to me for a future episode hello@veronicagrant.com
Schedule a free Dating Clarity Call - veronicagrant.com/dating-clarity-session/
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