Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

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Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book

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Discipleship and the Single Girl with Kennon Vaughan Mar 12, 2024

#118: This week's guest is Kennon Vaughan, the founder and CEO of Downline Ministries in Memphis, TN. Co-host Leah is currently the Women’s Director for their Emerging Leaders program, the young professional ministry within Downline. In this episode, we discuss the benefits of discipleship, especially for single women, and we get all of Kennon's best advice.

If you want to be discipled by someone or want to disciple someone else, but you don't know what to do, Downline might just be your next step!

To find out more about Downline:

https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders

To fill out the interest form:

https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form

Downline's instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/dl_emergingleaders/

Leah's instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/omg.the.real.lc/

Podcast/Kim's instagram:

Realities of Marriage: The First Year Mar 05, 2024

#117: Single women need to build realistic expectations about love and marriage. If you enter a future marriage with the wrong ideas about love and marriage, those unrealistic expectations can create problems.

Logan is back on the podcast with his new wife, Lindsey, and they are opening up to give an insider look at what the first year of marriage can be like. It's rare that a couple would open up and share about the realities, but they are here for it.

If you want to love your husband before you even have one, listen in so that you will have more realistic expectations about love and marriage.

Logan's instagram https://www.instagram.com/loganbonjean/

Lindsey's instagram https://www.instagram.com/lindseybonjean/

Adrienne's instagram https://www.instagram.com/adriennemathews_/

Podcast/Kim's instagram

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/inside-the-mind-of-an-aspiring-good-guy-logan/id1551403877?i=1000532823746

Related episodes:

#26 Inside the Mind of an Aspiring Good Guy

#63 When a Social Media Spark Leads to Marriage

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-a-social-media-spark-leads-to-marriage/id1551403877?i=1000577065025

#53 The Best News Ever

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-best-news-ever/id1551403877?i=1000557067908

Resources:

Get a copy of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book here--> https://www.kimvollendorf.com/

Love and Respect by Emerson Eggeriches

True Beauty Hacks--Tried & Tested Feb 27, 2024

#116: Guest host Jena joins Kim in this episode to discuss all things beauty with our friend, Allie. Allie has always loved beauty and fashion, and after she started a relationship with Christ in college, she still loved fashion and beauty! As Allie shares her story, she helps us learn to pursue a beauty that actually makes us look and feel beautiful. She shares her best hacks to find our true beauty, contentment, security, and identity in the one thing that never fades--God.

Allie's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alliepace23/

Jena's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenaemma/

Kim/podcast instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sixonesis/

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Related episodes:

Jena's episode on contentment #53: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/contentment-thriving-in-your-thought-life/id1551403877?i=1000556203491

Leah's episode on beauty #3: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-want-to-look-good-is-that-okay/id1551403877?i=1000509117504

Resolving Your Past Feb 20, 2024

#115: We all have things in our lives that we've done in the past that we are not proud of. Most of us have baggage from our sexual past, and often, we don't know how to deal with it all.

If you want a good, healthy marriage someday, it's good to resolve these things of the past and move forward in the freedom Christ gives us. And, as a single woman, this is an opportunity to invest in your future marriage ahead of time by resolving these issues before you enter such an important relationship, and hopefully, your future husband will do that, too.

Kim, Adrienne, and their guest, Milana, discuss all of this and more in this episode. Thanks for joining us!

Freedom Study by Katie LaRavia: tinyurl.com/women-freedomstudy

Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book https://www.kimvollendorf.com/

NEW! Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Audio Book https://www.kimvollendorf.com/ (use the code LOVEYA for 50% off in February)

Milana's instagram https://www.instagram.com/milana_mia/
Adrienne's instagram https://www.instagram.com/adriennemathews_/
Podcast/Kim's instagram https://www.instagram.com/sixonesis/

Happy Valentine's Day! (Part 2) Feb 13, 2024

#114: Cassidi is back! You guys LOVED her Valentine's Day episode last year when she shared her top 3 single girl tips to celebrate Valentine's Day (#82). Her single-girl street cred is hard to beat, and her episode topped our charts for the most listens in one day!

She returns again this year with the same big heart for single women, but her husband is with her! God surprised her in the past 12 months, and He gave her a story that will cause you to trust God more deeply as you wait on Him.

A few key questions we discuss:

Do guys really listen to this podcast?
Are you not feeling pretty enough or godly enough for a guy to like you?
Does it really matter how you live out your single years?
What does it mean to "stir the pot"?
Should you make the first move with a guy?

Use code LOVEYA to get 50% off the "Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One" audiobook during February at https://awesound.com/a/loving-your-husband-before-you-even-have-one

#82 Cassidi's first episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Vafl0bn7wWyJnDLAkLIdG

Cassidi's instagram https://www.instagram.com/cassidilist/

Leah's instagram https://www.instagram.com/omg.the.real.lc/

Kim's/podcast instagram https://www.instagram.com/sixonesis/

A Special Announcement, a Special Guest, and a Surprise for You! Feb 06, 2024

#113: We are excited to announce the audiobook version of "Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One" --a full-blown, word-for-word, read by Kim audiobook, and this episode marks the official release! To celebrate, we are going to listen to a chapter of it together.

Kim also talks with Lindsay, the producer of the audiobook, who just happens to be a single girl! She shares some of her single-girl insights and her thoughts on the book's content.

On the podcast, you know Kim as “married” Kim with the married perspective, but in the book, you get to know "single" Kim and what choices she learned to make along the way to love her husband before she even had one.

Lindsay's instagram https://www.instagram.com/lindsay_versaw/
Kim's/Podcast instagram https://www.instagram.com/sixonesis/

Podcast Website https://www.kimvollendorf.com/

Audiobook link https://awesound.com/a/loving-your-husband-before-you-even-have-one

Get priority access and 50% off the audiobook during the month of February using the code LOVEYA

Sargent Family Productions https://sargentfamilyproductions.com/

What if I'm Not a Baby Person? Jan 30, 2024

#112: Adrienne wasn’t much of a baby person. She never “oohd and ahhd” over babies like some of her friends. She never volunteered to hold babies, but that's changed.

You may not be thinking about motherhood right now--many of you are just wanting a date! But if you’d like to be a mother someday, it’s helpful to build realistic expectations now. Who better to give you a sneak peek into motherhood than our newest mom, our friend and co-host, Adrienne?

Adrienne's instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adriennemathews_/

Leah's instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/omg.the.real.lc/

Podcast/Kim's instagram:

https://apps.apple.com/us/app/plant-nanny-cute-water-tracker/id1424178757

Read the book version of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

Setting Goals and Why “Getting Married” Shouldn’t Be One Jan 23, 2024

#111: Have you made some goals for 2024? Is one of them to get married? If so, you need to listen to this episode!

Kim has a goal-setting gene in her DNA, but Adrienne and Leah don’t. Join in on their discussion, where Kim shares her best insights about successful goal-setting to help you move toward becoming who you want to be in 2024.

Why you shouldn’t have a goal to get married this year
How many goals should you set?
The importance of setting SMART goals
What goal-setting looks like

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The Bible Recap https://www.thebiblerecap.com/start

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Leah's Engaged! (Her Story and How Pre-Engagement Counseling Helped) Jan 16, 2024

#110: Welcome to Season 7 of the podcast! We've had some big news around here--Leah's engaged and Adrienne had a baby boy!

Since we are a podcast to help you prepare for a better marriage someday, we HAD to start out this season by getting all the fun tea from Leah about her engagement. We love a good love story--especially when it involves a single girl who waited longer than most!

In this episode we get to meet Leah's fiance' and find out all about him and their relationship. We also discuss pre-engagement counseling, and how it helped them have the confidence to know that they were the one for each other.

Check out Leah's instagram highlights for her engagement story videos: @omg.the.real.lc

Pre-engagement resources:

* Merge

https://www.watermarkresources.com/ministries/merge

* Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts (SYMBIS)

https://store.lesandleslie.com/collections/saving-your-marriage-before-it-starts

Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One BOOK!

https://www.kimvollendorf.com/shop

Do You Have a List of Qualities You Are Looking For in a Guy? Nov 28, 2023

#109: Hannah developed her non-negotiable list right after a tough breakup, and she is sharing her best insights on how that list changed her future.

For our last episode this season, we are talking about why you should put together a list and how to do it.

We also discuss these questions:

What is a non-negotiable list?
What is a negotiable list?
Why is it important to think things through ahead of time?
How do you know what to put on your list?
What could happen if you don't have a list?
How does a girl start a list?
Will every girl's list look the same?
Does a list ever change?
How do you know if your standards are too high or too low?

We hope you'll join us for this helpful and practical discussion.

Hannah's Instagram
Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book
(The list referred to in this episode is in Chapter 17)
Adrienne's Instagram
Leah's Instagram
Kim/Podcast Instagram

Have a great Christmas! We'll be back in mid-January. See you then!

Spooked by Marriage and Commitment? Nov 21, 2023

When you hear the words “marriage” and “commitment,” how does it make you feel?

Perhaps you can relate to these young women:

Marriage scares me a little because my parents are divorced, as well as a lot of my family members, so I just really don’t want divorce to be my story as well.
My parents have a really bad marriage, and I still see marriage as a gift, but it’s hard for me to believe that I could ever have a marriage that can truly last forever and make it through every trial. (My parents were believers, and they still got divorced.)
I can’t even commit to game night. How will I commit to one person forever? What if I struggle with what it be like to date this other guy?
I am really excited about marriage, but the divorce stats really scare me because I am worried that I won’t actually end up with the right person…What if I marry the wrong person??
Marriage is serious, and I don’t want a worldly marriage because I can see that the world’s way is clearly not working with how many people get divorced.

If you can relate, this is the episode for you! Kim, Leah, and Adrienne will be discussing some insights to help you not be spooked by marriage and commitment anymore.

K-I-S-S-I-N-G Nov 21, 2023

We’re back for another spicy episode today on the podcast! We’re talking about k-i-s-s-i-n-g!

We’re talking about kissing because it’s something probably all of us will have to make a decision about one day. There are godly couples who date with different convictions in this area.

Our culture has LOTS to say about this topic, and in the name of aspiring godly women, we want to enter the conversation! Our friend Cat is joining in with us, and she has some great insights to share.

Can't I Just Watch Church Online? Nov 14, 2023

Is going to church really that important? I mean, can’t we just watch the sermon online so we can stay in our pajamas? What difference does it make if we actually show up or not?

Maybe you’ve been hesitant to go to church because you feel like the church is mainly focused on married people, and, as a single woman, you feel like an outsider.

We’ve asked our friend Tonya back on the podcast to discuss the church with us from a single girl's perspective.

You guys met Tonya on Episode 15, where she talked about what it means to help other women grow spiritually–#15 Me, Make Disciples? She’s the best of the best in spiritually mentoring women.

Tonya is a seasoned, single woman who loves God, life, and people, and she loves the church. In fact, she’s the Missions Director at Faith Bible Church in Edmond, Oklahoma.

"I've Been Cheated On" Nov 07, 2023

Today's topic is a heavy one--one that involves heartbreak and betrayal… cheating. Cheating is, unfortunately, far too common in relationships.

We know for many young women, it may seem impossible to ever trust a guy again after being cheated on. And perhaps even more impossible to think of staying married to someone who had an affair.

What do you do if you've been cheated on?

How do you move on?

How do you begin to trust someone again?

We've invited our friend Andrea on this episode to provide insights about how to move on when you've been cheated on. Who better to share these types of insights than a woman who has survived an affair?

Resources Mentioned:

Listen to Andrea's Husband

I'm Addicted To....

The Freedom Fight Program

What Porn Doesn't Tell You

Authentic Intimacy

Starting Over in Purity With My Boyfriend Oct 24, 2023

#104: Abby hasn't always been interested in God, the Bible, or His parameters for sexual integrity, but in college, all that changed. First, her boyfriend changed as he began to follow Christ, and then she began making changes too. She's pretty open about the journey she's been on, and why, so we've invited her on to the podcast to share her story. As you consider God's design for sex and intimacy, we thought Abby's insights would be helpful.

Sex and the Love Hormone Oct 17, 2023

The Struggle With Comparison and What to Do About It Oct 10, 2023

#102: Our summer intern told us that we needed to have an episode about comparison, so here we are! Adrienne and Kim invited their friend Sarah into this discussion, and Sarah has some wonderful insights and practical help to share that apply to whatever season of life you are in.

"Comparison is one of those lifelong girl struggles--like gossip, body image, materialism--but it's a little sneakier at times than those other ones. It is something I think we all struggle with, but a lot of times, we don’t even realize it. And beyond that, it is something we never fully overcome- we kind of have to fight it for a lifetime."

Listen to Sarah's episode on the realities of marriage

Mistakes Single Girls Make Oct 03, 2023

#101: No one likes making mistakes. We can either learn our lessons the hard way, or we can avoid mistakes by learning from the wisdom of others.

In this week's episode, we are chatting with my dear friend Jen. She's been walking with God and mentoring young women on college campuses for 25+ years, and she's been married to Joel for almost 22 years. She's godly and wise, and I've asked her to share the mistakes she most often sees single girls make.

Margaux Loved Her Husband Before She Even Had One Sep 26, 2023

#100: It's our HUNDREDTH episode!! To celebrate, Margaux is joining us on the podcast today.

The LYH material first came out in 2014 as a conference breakout session–almost 10 years ago! Many of the young women who were in those early breakout sessions are now wives and moms now themselves. I love when these young women can come on the podcast and tell their stories about what God has done in their lives and relationships!

Margaux was a student at TCU in the early days, and she is a wife and mom now. We get a chance to hear from her how following God has made a difference in her life and marriage. She's sharing the choices that she is glad she made as a single woman.

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Inside the Friendships of an Aspiring Good Guy (Fisher) Sep 19, 2023

#99: Being around good, godly men can change the way we view guys and relationships. Getting to know godly men can change our standards as young women. We begin to think: "I want a guy like that!"

We want you to know that good guys are out there. In this episode, Kim's oldest son, Fisher, shares some insights about his friendships with international students.

Similar episodes:

GRWM: First Date Sep 12, 2023

#98: Get ready with us! Adrienne, Leah, and Kim have created an episode with practical advice for you to listen to right before that sweet, probably nervous, boy shows up at your front door. We're sharing our best advice, and, honestly, it will be helpful whether this is your first date or your fiftieth. Pretend we are sitting on the floor of your bathroom with you while you are getting ready. We'll share some helpful things to think about before your date!

Will I Ever Be Chosen? Sep 05, 2023

#97: Are you struggling, watching your friends' relationships, and wondering if you'll ever be in a relationship? Do you feel passed over? Perhaps it causes you to feel down about yourself and a little insecure. If you can relate, Brittany is here to help! Brittany never had a boyfriend in high school or college. She had never kissed a guy or held a guy's hand. She was out of college before she was ever asked on a date. You'll love hearing Brittany's story! She knows what it is like not to feel chosen, and she's sharing her best tips to help.

How to Handle Your Conflicts Aug 29, 2023

#96: Are you low-key really annoyed at your roommate?

In this episode, we are talking with Jessilyn about resolving conflicts, and she has some practical steps for us.

Being able to resolve conflicts will be a game-changer in your relationships now--and in a marriage someday. Walking down an aisle isn't going to automatically make you good at resolving issues with your husband. Why not learn some skills now?

Living in a Barbie World Aug 22, 2023

#95: Recently, Kim celebrated her birthday and invited Adrienne and a few of her young friends to watch the Barbie movie with her. Afterward, while processing some of the messages in the movie, they decided to make it a podcast episode!

We're not here to tell you whether you should go see the Barbie movie or not. Our intent is to process some of the messages the movie had with what we know of God's Word. Though it was extreme satire and meant to be a comedy, a message is still a message.

And if you didn't see the Barbie movie, we think you'll still enjoy our discussion and find practical tips for any movie you might see in the future.

Help! I Don't Know How to ”Just Be Friends” With a Guy Aug 15, 2023

#94: Do you struggle with how to "just be friends" with a guy? Do you have healthy friendships with your guy friends? Are you in a "situationship"? (Take Leah's diagnostic test in this episode to find out!)

One way you can love your husband before you even have one is to enter marriage with healthy friendships with your guy friends, and that is what we are discussing in this episode.

We've asked our friend Natalie to share her best tips about how to have healthy guy friendships. Then, we wrap things up by asking Natalie some of the questions you guys asked:

-What are some ways unhealthy guy friendships can hurt a future marriage?

-What are good conversation topics to have with my guy friends?

-What if I like guy friends more than girlfriends?

-How can a girl be kind without coming off as flirty?

-How can a girl tell when he's being flirty vs. being friendly?

-What is the line between friendship and "situationship"?

Getting Guys to Step up and Lead May 09, 2023

#93: Welcome back to Part 2 of Kim's discussion with her husband, Sean, about men and Biblical leadership. They had so much to talk about that their initial recording went pretty long. Instead of editing parts out, we decided to divide it into two episodes.

Last week, Kim and Sean talked about what the Bible means when it says that the husband is to lead a family, and they started talking about what that looks like practically. If you haven't heard Part 1 yet, go back and give a listen to Episode #92.

This week we are discussing questions like, "How can a single girl tell if a guy will be a good leader or not?" and "Is there anything a young woman can do to help a guy in her life step up and lead well?"

The episode is the finale for Season 5. Thanks so much for joining us. We're taking our break for the summer, and we'll see you again in August for Season 6!

What It’s Like for a Godly Guy to Lead May 02, 2023

#92: One of the most common complaints we hear from young women is, “Why don’t guys take more initiative in relationships?”

In fact, the most listened-to episode on our podcast, hands-down, is our first episode, “Where Are All of the Good Guys?”

Whether it is simply asking a girl out or providing communication and clarity in a relationship, many guys won’t step up and take the lead. Why is that?

In today’s episode, we’re talking about men and Biblical leadership. Kim and her husband have an honest conversation about what it is like for a husband to lead in his marriage and family. You don't want to miss this rare opportunity to get a peek inside the heart and mind of a godly man.

Dealing With Change Apr 25, 2023

#91: Are you someone who likes change?

It seems like people fall into one of two camps. They either love it and seek it out, or they hate it and avoid it.

I think we’d all agree that change is inevitable. Sometimes we’re the one that initiates the change, and other times we are the recipient of the change happening around us.

In today’s episode, we’re talking with Bonnie about dealing with change, and she's giving us some practical tips on how to deal with change well.

What Do I Do With My Desire for a Relationship? Apr 18, 2023

#90: Are you struggling with a desire to be in a relationship?

It’s difficult to know how to process all the emotions and feelings surrounding our unmet desires and longings. It’s hard to know where God is when you are right in the middle of them.

You are not alone. We know. We’ve been there. We get you.

Sam is the perfect guest for this episode, and she is going to walk us through how to deal with our unmet longings and desires.

What if I’m a Woman With a Strong Personality? Apr 04, 2023

#89: Last week, we had a spicy episode on submission! And one of the biggest questions we’ve received is, “What does submission in marriage as a strong woman look like?”

“What if I’m not quiet and I have strong opinions?”

“What if the guy I marry is more laid-back than I am?”

To our strong female personalities out there, we hear you! And we hope to answer your question in this episode. This week, we’re talking with Rob and Bekah. Bekah has a "Commander" personality, and Rob is more laid-back. How has that worked for them in their ten years of marriage? Listen in and find out.

"I Don't Want to Make My Husband a Sandwich" Mar 28, 2023

#88: Does God want husbands to boss their wives around to make sandwiches for them?

Is that what submission means?

Why does God care about submission in marriage?

What does submission look like?

How do women submit to their husbands in marriage?

If submission is so important in marriage, are we supposed to be submissive while single?

What if a wife has a stronger personality than the man she marries? How does submission work then?

What if a wife disagrees with a decision her husband makes, or what if he isn't making a decision when she thinks he needs to?

If you have ever asked any of these questions, we hope you'll listen in to our discussion. We won't be able to cover everything in one episode, but Kim presents a helpful framework that lays the groundwork for what submission is and isn't.

Turn Your Single Swag On Mar 21, 2023

#87: Are you thriving in your singleness? Or just surviving? Maybe it depends on the day. Well, we are passionate about helping you thrive in your single years, so we brought on our friend Sam! She is living a purposeful and fun life as a single woman, and we think she’ll inspire you. Join us as Sam shares the lessons she’s learned and her biggest tips for surviving and thriving in your single years!

Enjoying God Mar 14, 2023

#86: Would those around you say that you enjoy God? How can a person enjoy God in all the ups and downs in life? In this episode, Kim is going to share her best tips to help us enjoy our relationship with God this year!!

Shout out to Bill Bright of Campus Crusade for the "Because God is..." idea mentioned in this episode!

If you are interested in a bookmark, please venmo $2 to @Kim-Vollendorf and then send your address to Kim via email or insta.

Preparing Yourself for God's Best: Blake and Millie's Story Mar 07, 2023

#85: We love giving you peeks into godly couples' relationships: What was life like for them when they were single? What qualities were they looking for? How did they meet? In this episode, we're talking with Millie and Blake. They are truly a power couple, and they have lots of fresh insights and wisdom to share with us. One of their single friends recently said that Blake and Millie's story has greatly impacted her view of God to trust Him for His best in her life.

Love Where You Are At Feb 28, 2023

#84: What’s the key to loving where you’re at? Maybe your life right now isn’t what you expected it to be. Maybe you’re going through a tough transition and wondering when life will get easier. Maybe you just want to take your contentment to the next level! We at LYH relate with you! That’s why we’ve brought on Megan Coye to give us her 3 tips for how to love where you’re at!

Body Image Feb 21, 2023

#83: In this episode, we’re discussing the topic you, our listeners, have requested most. We are talking about body image. What is body image? How does God want us to think about bodies? Does our body image get better once we’re married?

Today our guest is Katie. She is sharing her story and four tips to help us develop a God-honoring body image.

Happy Valentine’s Day! Feb 14, 2023

#82: It's Valentine's Day, so we wanted to do an episode specifically for our single listeners--we see you! It can be hard to know what to do on Valentine's Day when you're single. Order a heart-shaped Domino's pizza? Send yourself flowers? Stalk other couples on Instagram? How do we enjoy this Valentine's Day...even if we don't have a Valentine? For this topic, it was no question, we HAD to bring on our friend Cassidi Gooch! Cassidi is sharing her top 3 single girl tips to celebrate Valentine's Day this year!

She Got What You Want Feb 07, 2023

#81: We all WANT to celebrate our friends well when something exciting for them happens…so why is it hard sometimes?? Why do we get that pit in our stomach when we hear they just got engaged, asked out on a date, or got the new position in our sorority? Why is it important to learn to celebrate our friends well while we’re single? Today we’re talking about pursuing contentment through celebrating others with our good friend, Sam Davis. Sam was in 5 weddings in 6 months as a single woman, and she has some great tips for us!

I’m Addicted To… Jan 31, 2023

#80: Are you struggling with an addiction on some level? It could be food, your phone, exercise, or pornography. Addictions can look different, but one thing is the same–we all need help to find freedom. Ted Shimer, founder of The Freedom Fight, is an expert on the brain science of addiction, and he is answering our questions:

What is an addiction?
What are ways addictions can get in the way of a thriving marriage?
What role does dopamine play in addiction?
How does a person know if they have an addiction or not?
If you’re in a relationship and one of you has an addiction, is it better to be together or apart when trying to heal?
What are some practical steps to break free from addictions/bad habits?

Plan to Win Jan 24, 2023

#79: Are you ready to make 2023 your best year yet? We are too! It all begins with one important skill: Planning! Our guest today is Alex McCraney, creator of the Pattern Planner. She’ll be sharing her 3 expert tips for how to plan your life well in 2023 Let’s jump into it!

Relationship Q&A (Season 4 Finale) Dec 13, 2022

#78: That’s a wrap on Season 4 of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One! For our last episode of the season, we’re answering questions like: “Were you scared to show your body & have sex once you got married?” ... “How do you approach conflict with your boyfriend?” ... “What emotional boundaries do I need to keep with my guy friends?” ... and more! We're here for it all & we’re glad you’re here too! See you in January!

Single With a Sex Drive Dec 06, 2022

#77: This might be our spiciest episode yet, because we’re talking about being single... with a sex drive! Why did God give us sexual desires in singleness if he doesn’t want us to act on them? How are we supposed to view our sexuality as a good thing, but pursue purity at the same time? When does a sexual urge become sin? Joy Skarka is here to answer all of our spicy questions!

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Am I Throwing Away My Degree to Be a Stay at Home Mom? Nov 30, 2022

#76: In this episode, Adrienne’s friend Allison is going to share her story. She set aside her law degree and her job as an attorney to stay at home and raise her new baby girl. Some might say she “threw away” her degree and her career. Was this always something she wanted to do? Find out more in our discussion!

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Designer Insider Tips Nov 22, 2022

#75: When Kim was single, she looked forward to having a wedding shower one day so she could make a home. As the years went by and no man came, there was no shower. Her home was always an eclectic assortment of what her parents passed on and what she and her roommates could pool together.

Kim hit the jackpot, however, when Jill moved in as a roommate. Jill was an interior design major. She didn’t have lots of money or fancy things either, but she transformed their quirky little apartment into a cozy, appealing home that they were proud of.

Jill is now a celebrated designer, and she is joining us on this episode to share her best design tips to help you make a cozy, appealing home.

Prepped for the Holidays Nov 15, 2022

#74: The Holidays can be a complicated season to navigate, especially as a single woman. Whether it’s a conversation topic we want to bring up ... or a conversation we’d rather avoid at all costs ... we all need help getting prepped to go home for the holidays! Today our guest is Ryan O’Sullivan, and she’s going to be giving us 3 seasoned tips on how to prepare to spend time at home this holiday season.

Single Ladies (ft. Carrie) Nov 08, 2022

#73: Are you thriving in your singleness? Or just surviving? Maybe it depends on the day. Well, we are passionate about helping you thrive in your single years, so we brought on Carrie Quirk! Carrie is living a purposeful and fun life as an older single woman, and we think you’ll be inspired by her. Join us as Carrie and Leah share the lessons they’ve learned and their biggest tips for how to not just survive, but thrive in your single years!

Self-Care Nov 01, 2022

#72: Self-care is a hot topic these days. Is it a good thing? Is it wrong? How do we navigate self-care as aspiring godly women?

Adrienne has looked into this self-care phenomenon, and she believes there is a way to approach self-care in a self-less way. We’re discussing it on this episode.

You’ll learn about establishing everyday rhythms to better care for yourself and others so that you can glorify God with your life! You’ll also learn how to care for yourself spiritually, physically, mentally, and personally so that you can steward what God has given you for His ultimate glory. We think this episode will provide biblical context and practical steps to approach self-care in your own life!

Why Waiting Was Worth It Oct 18, 2022

#71: We don’t like waiting. Whether it’s waiting in line or waiting for Mr. Right to come into our lives, waiting is difficult. We know a lot of you are waiting! We want to encourage you in your waiting season, and that’s why we brought on Cat Coyle and her fiance Jeremy Leach! If you’re a single woman needing advice on how to wait well in your singleness, you’re going to love this episode.

Do Opposites Attract? Oct 11, 2022

#70: We’ve heard that opposites attract… but do they?? Does marrying someone that’s different from you make marriage better, or worse? We’ve brought on Dave and Rhea Lana Riner, Leah’s parents, to answer this question! You won’t want to miss their story!

How Do I Know If He’s Legit? Oct 04, 2022

#69: On today’s episode we are answering the question that our single AND dating audience is wondering: How do I know if a guy is legit?

How does a girl know if a guy is a believer in Christ and, even more than that, if a guy is a spiritual leader?

We brought on Sean Vollendorf, Kim’s husband. He’s the person we can ask all our guy questions to. Whether you’re a young believer trying to discern if the guy you’re dating is on the same page as you spiritually, or you’re a young professional trying to navigate the dating scene, Sean is on your team.

We think today’s episode is going to give you some practical tracks to run on. We hope you enjoy it!

Processing Your Hurts Sep 27, 2022

#68: No one goes through life without experiencing some hurt. Do you know how to process these hurts in a healthy way? When you feel hurt, do you implode or explode? Sometimes it’s tempting to let the little hurts slide, but that’s not healthy either.

In this episode, Kim is teaching a skill that’s important for single women to know: processing hurts in life. The ability to handle the hurts you feel will greatly impact the quality of your single years and your marriage later. Whether you are dealing with deep hurts or little hurts, you’ll have a step-by-step method to process them openly and honestly.

What if He’s Younger Than Me? Sep 20, 2022

#67: Are you impressed by a guy that’s younger than you? Deven can relate!

In this episode, Deven tells the story of how she loved her husband before she even had one. As a bonus, her husband Easton is joining in on the conversation too! We're going to find out about how they met, how Easton got the courage to ask Deven out, and what Deven thought when this younger guy started pursuing her. You won’t want to miss their story!

Four Reasons Why He’s Not Asking You Out Sep 14, 2022

#66: Have you ever spent time with a guy and noticed a connection and some chemistry, but then you were really puzzled why he never called or did anything about it? In this episode, Kim shares four reasons why he may not calling to ask you out. This is a discussion you won’t want to miss!

Inside the Home of an Aspiring Good Guy (Blake) Sep 06, 2022

#65: Being around good, godly men can change the way we view guys and relationships. Getting to know godly men can change our standards as young women. We begin to think: “I want a guy like that!”

We want you to know that good guys are out there. In this episode, our friend Blake shares about his passion for hospitality and gives practical tips to begin practicing hospitality in your season of life!

Similar episodes:

Should I Join a Bible Study? Aug 30, 2022

#64: Are you thinking about joining a bible study? Not sure if it’s worth your time or if you even have time? Heather can relate! Listen to her experience of how bible study is definitely worth it and how it will transform you in ways nothing else will. We think you’ll walk away excited to be in a bible study this fall!

And, for those who are taking steps to lead a bible study, you’ll love hearing how Heather and Kim met. When God is involved, you just never know how He will use your efforts!

When a Social Media Spark Leads to Marriage Aug 23, 2022

#63: Being around godly couples as a single woman can be a difference-maker. Hopefully, you have some couples in your life that you look up to & learn from, but we want to provide some for you as well!

In today’s episode we visit with Logan & his new fiancée, Lindsey. Our regular listeners know Logan because this podcast was his idea & he produces it every week! Logan & Lindsey both join us in the studio where we ask them about how they met & how they knew they were meant for each other. We talk about singleness, the role of social media in meeting someone & advice for dating long distance. You’ll be able to glean some great nuggets of wisdom from their relationship!

Is Your Crush Out of Control? Aug 16, 2022

#62: Do you have a crush? Crushes are a normal part of the single girl life, but they can also be really hard to manage! Is it right or wrong to have a crush? Is your crush healthy or unhealthy? How do we handle crushes as aspiring godly women? Welcome Leah, our newest addition to the podcast team, as we discuss all things crushes!

Keep up with Leah, Adrienne & Kim
Leah's episode: I Want to Look Good. Is That Okay?
Leah's episode: How Insecure Are You?
Adrienne & her husband's episode
Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book

Where Do You Go When Life Falls Apart? May 30, 2022

#61: Kim Eppler has served faithfully on the podcast team for the past two seasons, and in season 2 she shared her incredible love story about flying to Tokyo for their first date. We asked her to get back on the mic this week for her farewell episode before she launches out into her next chapter of life. In this episode, she opens up about facing her biggest trial.

Where should we run when we face life-altering news?

Can the Bible offer lasting comfort when we experience overwhelming grief?

How can we trust in God's goodness when things fall apart?

Is it okay for your time with God to look different in seasons of heartache?

In our last episode of this season, Kim processes the challenges of her Mom's cancer diagnosis and how God has met her in this season.

Keep up with Kim Eppler, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram
Listen to Kim's inspiring love story

Madison Loved Her Husband Before She Even Had One May 23, 2022

#60: Years ago, before it was a book or podcast, "Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One" was a breakout session at a student conference. Madison, our guest on this episode, was there at that first breakout. As a single woman, she began taking steps to love her future husband. Now, as a married woman and new mom, she shares some of the choices she's glad she made as a single woman. You'll love hearing the story of how God brought her and her husband together, and you'll be motivated to take steps to love your future husband!

Keep up with Madison, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram
Listen to Jena's episode on contentment
How do I get right with God?

Do You Have a Spiritual Mentor? May 16, 2022

#59: Do you have a spiritual mentor? Do you desire to have one? Would you like to be one someday? Spiritual mentoring can make a huge difference in our lives because life change happens most within our relationships with others.

In this episode, Kim and Adrienne talk with one of Kim's personal mentors, Trish Carruth. Hear from personal experience what spiritual mentoring is like and get practical tips on how to find a spiritual mentor and be one someday.

Follow Kim and Adrienne on Instagram!

Read the book that inspired the podcast.

Bonus Episode With Dr. Heather Walker May 13, 2022

In this bonus episode, Heather answers more of our questions about what it means to be “busy at home” and what that has looked like for her as a wife, mom, Bible teacher, and university professor.

Should Women Just Stay at Home? May 10, 2022

#58: Why does God tell women to be "busy at home" in Titus 2:4-5? Does God want me to stay at home all day? Isn't that idea out of date? Even offensive? Does it apply to single women too? What does it mean for me?

If these are questions you've asked before, we think you'll enjoy this episode. We're honored to have Dr. Heather Walker join us on the podcast this week! She is a wife, mom, Bible teacher, and Chemical Engineering professor who greatly values being a keeper of her home.

We had so much to talk about that we had to do a bonus episode that will come out later this week!

Follow Heather, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram.

Relationships Q&A (From the Guys’ Perspective) May 04, 2022

#57: We had to change things up this week in our regular podcast format, but we think you will enjoy this episode!

A few months ago, my husband Sean & podcast producer Logan held a relationships Q&A discussion with a group of aspiring young men. We are posting it this week for you to listen to! If you have ever wondered what the good guys are thinking & asking, this is your chance to find out. We'll be back next week as usual, but we hope you enjoy this content!

Listen to more of Sean and Logan's podcast for aspiring good guys here.

Sexuality & Shame Apr 25, 2022

#56: What does it look like to have a healthy view of your sexuality as a single person? Why did God give us sexual desires? Is sexual desire the same as lust? Who has the responsibility to maintain purity in a relationship?

Charlie and Heidi Loften join us this week to discuss these significant questions. If you have experienced shame from your sexuality, or if you want a biblical view of these topics, you won’t want to miss this episode!

Follow Heidi, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram. If you like the podcast, please share it with a friend! If you want more content like this podcast, check out Kim's book.

Expectations, Entitlement, and Eternal Perspective Apr 18, 2022

#55: Often we envision what our lives will be like, and we start creating expectations in our minds and hearts. We start forming a timeline in our heads of how our career, marriage, and family will play out. As followers of Christ, we feel that if we follow God and live an obedient life, things will go as expected. But, what if our lives are different than we planned? What if God gives us unexpected things? Hard things? How do we wrestle with that?

Our guest in this episode is one of Kim's spiritual heroes, Gayle Clark. Gayle shares her unexpected journey of being single longer than most, and then becoming the mom of two beautiful, special needs daughters.

Follow Gayle, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram. If you like the podcast, please share it with a friend! If you want more content like this podcast, check out Kim's book.

The Best News Ever Apr 11, 2022

#54: Have you ever wondered what Easter really means, or what it has to do with your life?

Easter is around the corner, and it means a lot more than bunnies and baskets! In this episode, Logan joins us for a discussion on the Good News that Easter brings. It has life-changing power for today and for our future. Whether you've been a Christian for years or you're just exploring your faith, this episode is guaranteed to spur you on toward knowing and loving Jesus better.

If you like the podcast, please share it with a friend! If you want more content like this, check out Kim's book.

If you're looking for a simple way to share the Good News with a friend, check out this video of Logan walking through the 3 Circles illustration.

Keep up with Adrienne and Kim on Instagram!

Contentment: Thriving in Your Thought Life Apr 04, 2022

#53: Does your life look different than you have planned? Do you often compare your life to others?

The contentment battle is won or lost in your mind. If you can win this battle now, you will thrive as a single woman (and later as a married one!). Today, our guest is Jena. She's a single woman who has been a bridesmaid in sixteen weddings. Jena has a lot of seasoned wisdom to offer, and in the episode, she is sharing six practical tips that have helped her. These tips will help you flourish and embrace exactly where God has you right now.

Follow Jena, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram! If you like the podcast and want more content like it, check out Kim's book.

Holy, Hot, and Willing to Live in a Hut Mar 28, 2022

#52: Finding it hard to meet someone? What if you needed to find someone who wanted to be a tribal missionary?

In this episode, we are talking with Sean and Jinny Richards. They live and work among a tribal group on a remote island in Papua New Guinea. As a young man, Sean began looking for a woman who was "holy, hot, and willing to live in a hut." You'll learn more about their love story and adventurous life, and you'll learn some great principles along the way for discovering your purpose in life, finding a mate, and trusting God in your own journey of following Him.

Learn more about Sean and Jinny's work, keep up with them on Instagram, give toward their work, and check out Jinny's prayer journal.

Read the book that inspired the podcast, and follow Adrienne and Kim on Instagram!

How Insecure Are You? Mar 21, 2022

#51: Take Leah's diagnostic test and find out! Insecurity is a feeling many of us experience several times a week--if not every single day! Join us in our discussion with Leah as we share our own insecurities and how to deal with them. Listen in as we talk about the most common areas young women experience insecurity, how to identify when you feel insecure, and how to speak truth over our insecurities. You will walk away from this episode realizing that you are not alone in your insecurities and empowered to fight for true security in Christ.

If you enjoyed this episode, leave us a review and share it with a friend! Follow Leah, Adrienne and Kim on Instagram. If you are interested in more content like this, read Kim's book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One.

One in TWO Million: RJ and Kim's Story Mar 14, 2022

#50: What if God did something crazy and wonderful to introduce you to your spouse? After hearing RJ and Kim's story, you'll believe that He can do anything! Years ago, Kim had no idea that her mission trip to a city of two million people would set into motion a series of events that would bring her future husband to her doorstep. When God's involved, anything is possible! We hope their story will encourage you to trust and follow God wholeheartedly.

Keep up with Adrienne and Kim on instagram and read the book that inspired the podcast. If you are enjoying the podcast, please leave us a rating and review!

Alcohol: To Drink or Not To Drink Mar 07, 2022

#49: This week we are talking about a super important topic: Alcohol.

When it comes to alcohol, have you ever found yourself just feeling unsure what it really looks like to honor God in this area? Does God actually have anything to say on the subject: Is it okay? Is it wrong? Why? Or why not? Whether you are a recovering party girl or the girl who has never had a sip, this podcast is for you! Regardless of your age, this episode will help you evaluate your current relationship with alcohol and navigate if any adjustments need to be made to help you flourish in your walk with God an approach alcohol with maturity!

Check out this page with every reference to alcohol in the Bible, and Matt's breakout talk from SMC 2022. We hope you'll connect with Matt and his wife Allie, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram, and if you enjoy this episode, please leave us a rating and review!

What Porn Doesn't Tell You Feb 28, 2022

#48: Our culture encourages us to explore our sexuality through pornography and masturbation. We're told porn will "help" our future marriage as we discover what we enjoy sexually. But, what if that's not true? What if there are some important things that we aren't told about porn?

Our guest this week is Joy Skarka. As a young woman, she experienced sexual trauma and turned to porn to process what happened. What began out of curiosity quickly became an addiction.

Joy joins us to share her powerful story of healing and freedom, and she exposes the lies that pornography doesn’t tell you. She was able to experience sexual freedom, and she has made it her life work to help other women break away from sexual shame. She currently works with Authentic Intimacy. This is a powerful episode you won’t want to miss!

We hope you'll connect with Joy, Adrienne, and Kim on Instagram, and if you enjoy this episode, please leave us a rating and review!

Inside the Mind of an Aspiring Good Guy (Tyler) Feb 21, 2022

#47: Being around good, godly men can change the way we view guys and relationships. Getting to know godly men can change our standards as young women... We begin to think: "I want a guy likethat!"

We want you to know that good guys are out there. We want you to know what they're like and what kind of girl they're looking for. In this episode, our friend Tyler opens up and shares with us about what it's like to be an aspiring good guy. We know you'll enjoy listening to this conversation!

What if I’m Not That into Him? Feb 14, 2022

#46: This week on the podcast we are addressing a question we hear a lot: “What if I’m just not in to the great godly guy who asked me out?” or “What if I just see him as a friend?” Our guests this week are Alex and Jeffery Coffman. After their first date Alex felt confident that she only saw Jeffery as a friend. To find out what happens next, you’ll have to tune in to this week's episode!

Adrienne & Dave's Story

Money 101 Feb 07, 2022

#45: For single and married women, money can cause a lot of stress. Conflict over money is one of the main reasons marriages fall apart, so why not use your single years to grow in your money managing skills? You will enjoy your single years more and increase your odds for a happier marriage later by learning good money management skills now.

Chris Haas joins us in this discussion. He is the founder and president of Freedom 5:One, a financial coaching ministry. He can help you experience freedom in your finances.

Crushing Your Health & Fitness Goals Jan 31, 2022

#44: A special note about this episode...

Every person and body is different. For example, Kim has had rheumatoid arthritis for over 20 years, and it has made most fitness plans a challenge! Just as she did her own research, talked with her doctor, and found a trainer to work with her unique needs, we hope that you will do your own research, consult your doctor, and find a fitness coach who will give you the best information for your body and unique needs.

We live in a world that can often cause women to view their bodies in the wrong way. If you struggle with an eating disorder, the tips in this particular episode may not be the best ones for you. We weren’t able to cover all of the important issues in one brief episode—there’s just too much to talk about! To help, we've linked some additional resources in the podcast show notes. Our heart in this episode is for you to take one step toward taking better care of your body this year.

Have you set some health & fitness goals for 2022? We'd love to encourage you along the way! In this episode, Marietta McClure of "McClure Fitness" shares her top tips to help you crush your goals this year.

Here are some additional resources that some young women have found helpful:

@btribalfit
@comparedtowho
@maxlugavere
@jessicaashwellness
"Compared to Who?" podcast
"The Genius Life" podcast

Making Time For God Jan 24, 2022

#43: Our relationship with God is our most important relationship. Our relationship with God will impact all of our other relationships. If we are going to grow closer to God, we need to spend time with Him each day in the Bible and in prayer. This time is often called a "Quiet Time" or "Morning Devotions."

Have you ever struggled getting one started or staying motivated to continue? If so, you'll appreciate our discussion today with Charlotte. We are talking all about establishing and maintaining time alone with God.

Live From SMC 2022 Jan 17, 2022

#42: Recorded live from the 2022 Student Mobilization Conference (SMC) in Dallas, Texas.

Relationships Q&A Dec 06, 2021

#41: We’re mixing things up a bit this week with a little Q&A! We cover several of your most common questions from: How far is too far? When should you talk about your sexual past with your significant other? Should I hang out with my guy friend alone? And so much more! Don't miss it!

Making This Your Best Christmas Yet Nov 29, 2021

#40: The Christmas countdown is on, and our guest this week LOVES Christmas! She knows how to make it special whether she has a man or not. Cat joins us on this episode to share her insights and best tips for making this your best Christmas yet!

Forgiving Their Kidnappers Nov 22, 2021

#39: A question many of us seek to answer is: How can God still be good when the unthinkable happens? Meagan, our guest this week, opens up about a horrifying experience she & her husband Alex thought would never happen to them. Their home was tragically broken into, they were held at gun point, robbed & kidnapped. If anyone is equipped to answer the question of God’s goodness, it's Meagan.

Listen to this week’s podcast to hear what was going through her mind during that night, how God brought comfort in the midst, and how the gospel of Jesus empowered her to extend true forgiveness. This is an episode you simply cannot miss.

He Flew Her to Tokyo for Their First Date Nov 15, 2021

#38: Have you ever had a difficult time trusting God’s timing? Have you ever wanted something so badly but God said “no”? Our guests today, Kim and Matt Eppler know those feelings all too well. They are joining us on the podcast to share all the juicy details about their love story and spoiler alert: It beats any Hallmark movie hands-down. It’s an incredible story of trusting God and waiting on His best timing. it is one that only God could have written and we know you'll be inspired to trust God in whatever season you are in.

We are extra excited for you to meet Kim because she also is the fourth member of our podcast team! Kim has played an important role with the podcast these past few months and we love having her on our team—grateful she is with us!

The Social Media Struggle is Real Nov 08, 2021

#37: Does spending time on social media often leave you feeling worse about yourself?

No one can deny that social media has completely transformed the the world we live in. Nearly all of us use social media from one degree to another, and we all fight the pressure to find our worth in likes and comments. How do we not compare ourselves to others? Is there a way to use social media in a healthy way?

Listen in as Mckenna gets vulnerable and shares about her relationship with social media. She opens up about the struggles she has encountered with body image and self worth, and she also discusses insights about the healthy boundaries she makes to fight for contentment! You won’t want to miss this!

Loving Your Husband WHEN You Have One Oct 31, 2021

#36: Many women feel lost in their marriages. They don't know what to do with their disappointment, when to ask for help, or what it looks like to let go of the need to control. Yet, God has given women incredible power in marriage—but they have to learn how to use it.

Our guest this week is Dr. Juli Slattery. She is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and broadcast media professional with over twenty-five years of experience counseling, discipling, and teaching women. She's the president and co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, a unique teaching ministry devoted to teaching on God's design for intimacy and sexuality.

Juli joins us to discuss her newly updated book, Finding the Hero in Your Husband: Embracing the Power in Your Marriage. It canbest can be described as loving your husband WHEN you have one--a topic which obviously hits close to home for us!

It's important for both single and married women to understand God's design for love, sex, and marriage. The principles Juli shares will leave you eager to look to the Bible, which highly esteems women’s significance and value, to understand how you can live out His design!

Single With No Prospects Oct 25, 2021

#35: It's hard to admit that we struggle with contentment, but the reality is that it is something we all struggle with. Whether it's our relationship status, our job, our looks, or just wanting that new sweater, there's always something we feel we must have to be content.

Our guest today has a lot to share on the topic. Want to know why? She's a single girl in her early twenties serving as a missionary in Tokyo, Japan. Not only that, everyone else she works alongside is married.

Abby knows firsthand what it is like to be the third wheel and fight for contentment even when her circumstances can be challenging or lonely. She shares the hard truth we all desperately need: that Jesus alone meets all of our needs.

Her bold faith, joy, eternal perspective, love for life & security in Christ will inspire you! We promise you will walk away empowered to choose contentment whether you are single or married!

Bonus Episode: Some Practical Tips Oct 20, 2021

#34B: Our conversation with Tiffany was so great that we had to include more! In this bonus episode, Tiffany shares some practical steps we can take to live for more than the American dream.

More Than the American Dream Oct 18, 2021

#34: Tiffany's parents immigrated to the US from Vietnam to pursue the "American Dream." During her college years, Tiffany found herself craving more than the American Dream had to offer. Her pursuit led her to real purpose, and it changed everything about her life.

Today, Tiffany works as a cardiac nurse, teaches first year nursing students, and attends grad school. However, she says her main priorities in life are to help others start a relationship with Christ and to help younger women grow in their faith.

Tiffany challenges us to live for more than just the American Dream -- to live our life to expand God's Kingdom, not just our own kingdom. We know you will be inspired by the wisdom she has to share!

Tiffany's Instagram
Adrienne's Instagram
Kim's Instagram
Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Book
*Send Kim an email if you are interested in Sean's book*
kim@kimvollendorf.com

Thriving Single (Kathy's Insights) Oct 11, 2021

#33: In this episode, we have a special friend we'd like you to meet who has an amazing story to tell.
If you have been struggling in your prayer life, you'll be motivated to pray.
If you have been struggling as a single woman, you'll walk away encouraged.
If you desire to live a life of significance and purpose, you'll be inspired to make a difference where you are.
We know Kathy Reed's story will give you chills, and we are excited to share it with you!

Why Is It So Hard to Not Gossip?? Oct 04, 2021

#32: Sam Nicolay joins us to discuss a juicy topic: gossip. We are all familiar with gossip, and many of us have been on both the giving and receiving end of gossip. We know gossip hurts others, so why do we do it?

It can be tempting to spill the tea, but the truth is gossip negatively impacts every area of our lives. It hurts others, and it damages our character and our witness for Christ.

Today we will define what gossip is, why we gossip, and share practical tips on how to fight the temptation to gossip so that we can be different from the world around us.

No One Is Too Broken for God Sep 27, 2021

#31: Anxiety and depression are plaguing our world, leaving us more lonely and isolated than ever before. This is a road many of us are walking through but often feel unsure how to navigate. Adrienne’s old roommate and best friend, Hallie, joins us on this episode. Hallie knows first hand that life can be really hard, and she has taken some hits from difficult circumstances throughout her life. Listen in as Hallie shares how she worked through the anxiety, trauma, panic attacks, and depression she has experienced and the genuine hope and healing she has found in the midst of it all. No matter what season of life you are in, we all can benefit from her experiences and advice!

Breaking Up is Hard to Do Sep 20, 2021

#30: In a perfect world, we wouldn't have any breakups. As it is, breakups are a reality that many of us have walked through. Breakups can be heart-breaking and confusing. How do you know when you need to break up? What's the best way to break up? What about life after a break up — how to move forward and heal?

Sam Coyle joins us in this episode to discuss breakups. She not only survived a broken engagement, but she began to thrive afterwards. Sam shares with us some insights she has learned along the way!

When the Hard Choice is the Right Choice Sep 13, 2021

#29: Do you fInd it hard to trust God? Are you facing a difficult choice as you follow Christ? Alex faced one. When she put her faith in Christ she was living with her boyfriend. What would she do? How would it work out? Alex’s story will encourage you to trust God and follow Him through difficult decisions whatever season of life you are in!

Bonus Episode: More With Dave + Adrienne Sep 09, 2021

#28B: Dave and Adrienne share a little more about setting boundaries in dating. If you listened to the main episode and would like a little more practical information, we have some great, rarely talked about content in this short bonus episode.

(Note: This episode has a PG-13 rating)

Setting Boundaries in Dating Sep 06, 2021

#28: God's word is clear that as followers of Christ we need to avoid sexual immorality and guard our hearts, but we often struggle with the specifics of what it should look like in a dating relationship. How do you navigate getting closer to someone physically, emotionally, and spiritually without going too far? What if you’ve already gone too far? Does every breakup need to end in heartbreak? Setting boundaries will help you answer these questions and navigate these challenges, but how does a girl do that?

We've received a few questions/requests from our listeners about setting boundaries in dating, and we are here for it! In this episode, Adrienne and her husband Dave discuss the boundaries they set while they were dating so they could honor God in their relationship. They share about their experience and the decisions they made, how they stuck to them and why. We hope through their openness and honesty you'll gain some good insights and practical ideas so that you can decide how you will honor God in your dating relationships.

Will Hookups Help Your Marriage? Aug 30, 2021

#27: Hookups are everywhere around us. Culture tells us hookups are no big deal. Culture says that hooking up and getting sexual experience before marriage will help create stronger marriages down the road. But what if that’s not true?

Val, our guest this week, knows first hand about the impact of hookups. She has experienced them, she has observed their outcome on others, and she is well-read on the topic. She joins Kim and Adrienne as they discuss and expose the article, "3 Ways Hook-up Culture Can Create Stronger Marriages Down the Road."

We'll help provide honest insight and advice as you face the hook-up culture around you.

Inside the Mind of an Aspiring Good Guy (Logan) Aug 23, 2021

#26: Logan, our very own podcast producer, joins us on this episode. We're excited for you to get to know the guy behind this podcast!

In Logan’s words, he hasn't always been a good guy, but he's aspiring to be one now. He opens up and gives us a sneak peek into the heart and mind of an aspiring good guy, giving his insight on these questions and more:

What does it mean to be a good guy?
Why did he want to start this podcast?
What is it like for a guy to pursue a relationship with God?
What challenges do guys face?
What are some qualities he thinks girls should look for in a guy?
What mistakes do girls make relating to good guys?

We hope you'll enjoy our conversation!

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Tips for Being the New Girl Aug 16, 2021

#25: Have you ever been the new girl? Many young women are heading off to college and will experience being the “new girl” for the first time. We've been there, and we know that it can often feel both exciting and intimidating. We're here to help!

Sarah is our guest on this week's episode. She is full of joy and laughter and becomes fast friends with anyone she meets. She is from Kansas City, went to college at Oklahoma State, and she now works with college students at Colorado State. She's moved around a lot, and she knows what it is like to be the new girl!

Sarah gives practical tips about how to take initiative and risks while also trusting in the Lord to provide all of your needs. She shares, "I've been the new girl a few times, and it's been cool to see that I have somehow made it through...I've been there and have implemented what we are talking about today...Going off to college is one of the first times you're the new girl, but it will not be the last time you'll be the new girl."

We hope you'll enjoy this week's conversation. This is the last episode in our mini-series to show love to our youngest listeners as they launch off to college, but you'll learn some tips and tricks to embrace a new situation, no matter what season of life you are in.

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Going Through Sorority Recruitment (5 Insider Tips) Aug 12, 2021

#24: In this episode, we're talking about sorority recruitment. Going through the recruitment process can be a bit intimidating and a little overwhelming, but it can also be a really exciting and memorable experience. We've invited best friends Makayla and Jacqueline, recent sorority grads from Colorado State, to share their best tips on navigating this process!

This episode is part of our series to show some love to our youngest listeners. Our podcast is about helping young women make good choices now that can impact them later in life. The college years are an impressionable and important season, and for many young women, sororities are a big part of college life.

Many choices are made during this season that can shape your future and who you become. We want to show up for these important moments to help guide young women toward making wise decisions.

We hope you'll listen to their top tips and pass this episode on to any young women you know who might need some encouragement during recruitment!

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Home Sweet Home Jul 12, 2021

#23: Moving away from home and creating your own living space can be a fun experience. Whether you are moving into a dorm, an apartment, or a house, it's a chance to express what you love and enjoy. Wouldn't it be awesome if we could do what we wanted without thinking of money or others' preferences? Usually, that's not the case. Often we are making these decisions with a roommate or spouse, and they have their ideas too.

How do you make a place you both love and enjoy?

Laura Williams, co-owner of Homestead Collective, joins us on this episode. She loves creating spaces which consider the needs of others. Laura knows how to intertwine design styles to make a beautiful home, without having to spend a lot of money. As a single woman, she lived with roommates in a dorm, sorority house, senior house, and loft. When she later married, she figured out ways to mix her design style with her husband's unique preferences. She is ready to share her insights to help you set up a new place with someone else!

Ready For College? Jul 06, 2021

#22: Going off to college is a huge step in life. The choices you make during your first year can shape your future in many ways. Because this is a podcast about making good choices to thrive in life and relationships, we are taking a few episodes this summer to show some love to our youngest listeners. We want to help them be ready for the choices they'll face.
Austin Gentry is author of the book 10 Things Every Christian Should Know for College. In this episode he talks with Kim and Adrienne about how to handle doubt, how to form community, and how to establish identity. College can be one of life's first big changes, but it certainly isn't the last, so there's something for everyone in this episode!
Note: Austin is a single guy living and working in Houston, so Kim's alternate title for this episode is "See, There Are Good Guys Out There!"

Austin's Book: 10 Things Every Christian Should Know For College: A Student’s Guide on Doubt, Community, & Identity
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Thriving Single (Kaitlyn’s Insights) Jun 28, 2021

#21: When Kim was single, she longed for single women role models. Because of that, it’s important for her to provide those for you! In this episode we talk with Kaitlyn. She’s in her 30s, living in Houston, and working as a flight attendant. As a single woman, Kaitlyn has some great insights about being single!

So, if you're wondering if you are normal in your feelings and struggles while single, you’ll be encouraged and cheered on to live your best life. And, if you are married, you’ll get an insider’s look at how you can encourage the single women in your life!

Kaitlyn’s Instagram: @kaitosb
Adrienne's Instagram: @adriennemathews_
Kim's Instagram: @sixonesis

Kaitlyn's Book Recommendations:

The Hiding Place, Corrie Ten Boom
A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, Betty Smith
Seven Women: And The Secret of Their Greatness, Eric Metaxas
Jane Eyre, Charlotte Brontë
A Severe Mercy, Sheldon Vanauken
Les Misérables, Victor Hugo
Lilac Girls, Martha Hall Kelly

God, Are You Listening? Jun 22, 2021

#20: She loved her husband before she even had one. This is Megan’s story.

Do you wonder if you should pray for a husband? Have you ever felt discouraged praying? Are you concerned that your prayers are even making a difference?

If these questions resonate with you, you’ll enjoy our discussion with Megan about prayer. She is very open about her own ups and downs with prayer, and you’ll be encouraged by the role prayer played in her life and story!

You can read about her on page 149 in my book!

Megan’s Instagram: @meggieshearin
Kim’s Instagram: @sixonesis
Adrienne’s Instagram: @adriennemathews_

How Do I Know if He’s the One? Jun 14, 2021

#19: At what point do you know you’ve found your soulmate? Is it the first time you make eye contact with each other, or is it after you’ve been dating for a few months? How do you know if this person is “the one”? What are some qualities they need to have?

If you have wondered about any of these questions, this podcast is for you. Our friend Alex joins us in our discussion today.

Alex began dating Cleveland right before the world went into quarantine in 2020. They got engaged this spring, and they are getting married this summer. She’s ready to share some helpful principles about how she knew that Cleveland was the one!

Want a Sneak Peek Into Marriage? Jun 07, 2021

#18: This week we are talking about having realistic expectations for marriage and family. It's easy to create expectations about what our future will look like, but if you enter marriage with unrealistic expectations, it can cause problems later on. Our friend Sarah joins us in the discussion. Sarah has a great marriage, and she is a proud minivan mom of four. You'll enjoy this real peek into what it's like to be married, and you'll walk away with some insights on building realistic expectations!

Thriving Single (Rachel's Insights) Jun 01, 2021

#17: When Kim was single, she craved time with other single women who "got" her and understood her life. If you are wanting that as well, this week's podcast is here for you! Our guest is Rachel Leigh, and as a single woman, she gets where you are coming from. She wants you to know that you are not alone! Rachel is co-host of the popular podcast "The Problem with Perfect" where she and her mentor Robin have meaningful, cross-generational conversations that will leave you uplifted and encouraged about a future freed from the problem with perfect.

Do You Love a Good Read? May 24, 2021

#16: It’s summer time, and it’s a perfect time to grab a good book! Whether you are a natural reader (Kim) or not (Adrienne), you’ll enjoy this conversation we had with Jordan Sears. She read 107 books during 2020, and she has LOTS of inspiration to help you discover your favorite book this summer.

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Get Jordan’s Summer Reading Guide at www.jordantailored.com

Follow her on instagram @jordantailored

Check out the "Read Out" Podcast: linktr.ee/readout/

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Me, Make Disciples? May 17, 2021

#15: On this week’s podcast, Adrienne and I are talking about a topic that enriches our lives, whether we are single or married. We aren’t here by accident, and God has a purpose for each of us. We discuss what it means to live out our purpose and how it both benefits others and ourselves. Our guest, Tonya, is living out her life purpose as a single woman and is changing the world, discipling one woman at a time. You’ll walk away inspired and equipped to take your next step in making disciples!

Personal Disciplemaking, Christopher Adsit

Disciples are Made, Not Born, Walter A. Henrichsen

Lost Art of Disciplemaking, LeRoy Eims

Master Plan of Evangelism, Dr. Robert Coleman

What's the Big Deal About Modesty? May 10, 2021

#14: What do you think of when you hear the word "modesty"? It usually stirs up many different opinions, and we are jumping into the modesty discussion this week. Our guest Brent shares some insights that are often overlooked but crucial to consider.

Should I See a Counselor? May 03, 2021

#13: Have you ever asked that question? We have, for sure!

It's no secret that many of us are experiencing increased levels of stress and anxiety. So whether it is stress from finals, relationships, grief, loss, or depression, counseling may be a place where we can move toward personal recovery. When we are healthy emotionally, it helps our relationships be healthy too.

In this episode, we welcome our guest Katelyn Eddleman from Ft. Worth Counseling and Intervention to help us answer this question and discuss this important topic.

Katelyn's email: keddleman@fwcai.com

Ft. Worth Counseling and Intervention Clinic

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Kim's Instagram: @sixonesis

Will a Husband Meet All My Needs? Apr 19, 2021

#12: We often long for a relationship hoping it will meet our deepest needs for love and intimacy, but is it really possible? Julia Robinson joins us on this week's podcast to share some vulnerable insights from her 45-year happy, rock-solid marriage. Julia has also been studying and teaching the Bible to women for decades, and she brings tried and true wisdom into our discussion. She's been a friend and a mentor of Kim's for 36 years, and Kim is excited to bring you into their friendship!

Julia's Instagram: @juliacrobinson

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Can Prayer Really Make a Difference? Apr 12, 2021

#11: It sure did for Lance and Susan. They were in their 30s, living and working in separate states, and God made sure they met. In this episode, you'll hear how growing spiritually and serving others not only developed Lance and Susan as single adults but doing these things also brought them together.

When you live a life of trusting and obeying God, you just never know what will happen. It's a story only God could have written. We hope this episode will encourage you to embrace and live your best single life.

Lance's Instagram: @texazlonghorn

Susan's Instagram: @soooiesue & @susansellsaz

The Power of Friendships Apr 06, 2021

#10: When Dorothy was a freshman in college, a guy friend challenged her about some friendships she was making. He wisely told her that the friends she chose would not only influence her college years, but also the rest of her life. He was right. Her choice of friends as a young woman did change the trajectory of her life. Listen in as we discuss with Dorothy some great lessons about the power of friendships!

Dorothy's Instagram: @dorothypro

Dorothy's Blog: dorothypro.com

Bonus Episode: Money Q&A Apr 05, 2021

#9C: We had a lot to talk about with Deb on finances! We’ve got a bonus episode for you where Deb answers your money questions.

Deb's Recommended Resources:

Dave Ramsey
Financial Peace University
I Will Teach You How to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi
The Automatic Millionaire by David Bach
The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley

Bonus Episode: Student Debt Apr 01, 2021

#9B: 69% of college students take out student loans. In this bonus episode, Deb provides insights on college loans and how to keep your student debt low!

Deb's Recommended Resources:

Dave Ramsey
Financial Peace University
I Will Teach You How to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi
The Automatic Millionaire by David Bach
The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas Stanley

Let's Talk Money Mar 29, 2021

#9: It may not seem like a fun topic, but learning to manage your money will be a game-changer for your future! In this episode, Deb, a financial coach with 25 years of experience, discusses money with us. She shares some wise advice that will help you thrive financially as a single woman and will set you up for a better marriage later!

Kim and Sean actually met with Deb and her husband to talk finances before they married, and there's a funny story you'll get to hear about!

We actually had so much to talk about that we had to make some bonus episodes, so be watching for those to post later this week.

Resources:

I Will Teach You How to Be Rich, Ramit Sethi
The Automatic Millionaire, David Bach
The Millionaire Next Door, Thomas Stanley
Financial Peace University, Dave Ramsey
www.daveramsey.com
www.mrmoneymustache.com
F.I.R.E. Movement (Financial Independence Retire Early)

"I'm Only Looking" Mar 22, 2021

#8: Porn is a bigger problem than our culture lets on. Contrary to common thought, marriage won't fix a porn problem. In fact, if you or your spouse enter marriage with a porn addiction, you are 2-3 times more likely to divorce in the next two years than a married couple without a porn habit.
How do you know if you're addicted to porn? Should you ask someone you're dating if they struggle with pornography? What are the next steps to take if you are struggling in this area?
In this episode, we talk with Ted and Amber Shimer. Ted is the founder of The Freedom Fight, a FREE online porn addiction recovery/discipleship program. He and his wife Amber will answer these questions & more!

Kim's Instagram: @sixonesis

Adrienne's Instagram: @adriennemathews_

I Didn't Expect to Be a Widow at 27 Mar 15, 2021

#7: What if you married the love of your life only to discover that your days together were numbered? It's a fear many have, but when you hear Carrie's story and how God took care of her, your heart and faith will be encouraged to trust God even in the middle of life's nightmares. Carrie is a hero in the faith, and we can't wait for you to hear her story.

Carrie's Instagram: @carrie_moser_

Kim's Instagram: @sixonesis

Adrienne's Instagram: @adriennemathews_

What Should I Share, and When? Mar 08, 2021

#6: You and the person you marry will both have things in your past that will affect your marriage. Whether it is an emotional wound, sexual history, debt, insecurities, or trauma, our past experiences affect our current relationships. Maybe you are spending time with someone and wondering when you should start discussing issues of the past. Or perhaps you are in healing season and wonder when you'll be ready for a relationship. In this episode, we have a conversation with Jessica Clarke, who is engaged to Ben Higgins of Bachelor fame. Join us as we talk about some hard things and offer some insights into this important topic!

Jess' Instagram: @jessclarke_

Kim's Instagram: @sixonesis

Adrienne's Instagram: @adriennemathews_

Ben's book:

https://www.amazon.com/Alone-Plain-Sight-Searching-Connection/dp/1400221358/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1RG022XIX66AF&dchild=1&keywords=alone+in+plain+sight+ben+higgins&qid=1614886283&sprefix=Alone%2Caps%2C221&sr=8-1

When Things Turn Out Different Than You Planned Mar 01, 2021

#5: Kennedy is a planner. Maybe you are too. She made plans about her career and life post-college. After graduation, none of those plans happened as expected. However, she is finding joy and purpose in what God has planned for her! If you are struggling with a different plan than you were hoping for, our discussion with Kennedy will encourage you in your journey.

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Bonus Episode: More of Gracen's Story Feb 24, 2021

#4B: Since you guys loved Gracen's podcast episode so much, we are posting a bonus episode today! We hope you'll enjoy hearing more from Gracen. In this episode, you'll find out how Gracen started her relationship with Jesus and how she met her husband, Will!

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Having Sex Before Marriage Is No Big Deal, Right? Feb 22, 2021

#4: Gracen prayed and wrote in her journal, "I can't do it anymore. I can't be silent. I have to talk about the potential effects that sexual sin could have on your marriage one day. I have to teach younger women. I have to let them know because of my own personal experience." It takes a unique woman (and a unique husband) to open up about this topic, and Gracen shares insights other married women are hesitant to share. If you regret the sexual decisions you've made, if you find it difficult to maintain sexual integrity, or if you just need some encouragement to trust God, you won't want to miss this episode!

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I Want to Look Good. Is That Okay? Feb 15, 2021

#3: The Bible says that God values inner beauty. So, how are we supposed to handle external beauty? Can I pluck my eyebrows? Is Botox ok? Should I get a nose job? Where's the line? How much is too much? If you have had these questions, join us as we discuss all things beauty with our friend, Leah.

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Is it Love-if, Love-Because, or Love-Regardless? Feb 08, 2021

#2: When you know what true love is, it will help you recognize "love-if" & "love-because" & protect you from getting sucked into a fake love that is all feelings & no commitment. Learning about true love in a college Bible Study changed Kim's trajectory in life. Listen in as special guest Steve Shadrach, who led that college Bible study decades ago, shares insights into what true love really looks like!

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Where Are All of the Good Guys? Feb 01, 2021

#1: Kim's husband Sean joins in on the conversation today. Sean spends his time mentoring young men, and he is the host of "The Endangered Species" podcast designed to get the noble, godly man off the endangered species list. Sean provides a noble man's perspective on some important questions: Where can a girl find a good guy these days? Why don't guys ask girls out much anymore? Are there ways a girl can let a guy know she's interested? Is it ok for a girl to ask a guy out?

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Check Out "The Endangered Species" Podcast:

https://open.spotify.com/show/45jt9roDvT3tEOrkObvtWA

Welcome to the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Podcast Jan 28, 2021

An enjoyable, lasting marriage is rare. If you hope to have one someday, this podcast is for you. Based on her book, "Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One," Kim continues the discussion alongside her younger co-host Adrienne & their wise, insightful guests. Learn about choices you can make now to flourish during your single years & increase your odds for an enjoyable, lasting marriage later!

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