Are you feeling anxious and worried about the upcoming US presidential election? Our brains are wired to fixate on anything in the future that they perceive as a potential “threat,” but you don’t have to let your fear consume you. In this episode, I’ll teach you how to wrangle your brain when you are spinning out about the election (or any other future-focused event you’re stressed about).

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It’s possible to get more done in less time, with zero stress - even in a pandemic. Listen in for all the details about a brand new FREE webinar I’m teaching on Oct 29 that will help you get organized, stay on track, and learn how to keep your commitments to yourself. Press play for details, and then text your email address to to +1-347-997-1784 and use the code word “getmoredone” or visit www.unfuckyourbrain.com/getmoredone to register.

A lot of people think that “your thoughts create your feelings” means they should blame themselves if they’re struggling, even if they’re dealing with the effects of trauma. Listen to this episode to learn how to ACCEPT what you’re feeling rather than judge it, and why applying this radical acceptance to your life will set you free.

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Do you know how to solve your own problems? Resourcefulness is one of the most important qualities you need to live an incredible life, but many of us have brains that just throw up their metaphorical hands and want to die whenever the smallest hurdle arises. Learn why resourcefulness is so important, and how you can develop this critical skill, in today’s episode.

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Is your brain haunting you? Most of us experience ghosts of old anxious thought patterns even after we’ve used coaching to feel more confident and secure. In today’s episode, I’ll teach you why these sparks of anxiety are so persistent, and what you can do the next time you experience a “haunting.”

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You would never go to a toy store for a gala dress, so why do you stay with someone who’s afraid of commitment, when you’re looking for a life partner? Why do you seek validation from a parent, when they’ve never once approved of your choices? In this episode, I’ll teach you how to stop seeking validation, love, and approval from people who will never give it to you - and how to give it to yourself, instead.

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Are you feeling hopeless, afraid, despondent, or angry at the recent passing of Ruth Bader Ginsburg? In today’s podcast, I will teach you how to take hopeful action even when you aren’t FEELING hopeful, by using the coaching model to generate feelings of commitment. Hope feels good when it happens to arrive, but commitment will create a revolution.

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Do you wish your life looked more like those minimalist Instagram homes full of light and clean lines and constraint? In today’s podcast episode, you will learn about the patriarchal underpinnings of minimalism and why I embrace MAXIMALISM instead. Tune in to get a taste of what life could look like if you stopped restricting yourself and gave yourself permission to be as colorful, loud, and abundant as you wanted.

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Women are socialized to compromise our needs and happiness behind the needs of family, friends, even strangers. At the same time, we’ve also experienced situations where compromise is helpful and growth-promoting. In this podcast episode, you will learn a few simple questions to ask yourself so that you will always know when to compromise and when to stand firm.

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Most of us are so steeped in fatphobia that we don’t even realize it exists…and yet it impacts every aspect of our lives, from what we think about our bodies to what our doctors tell us when we are sick. Listen in to learn how I used thought work to overcome my own internalized fatphobia, and how you can set yourself free, too.

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Listen in this week to discover why the framing of intuition as something you use to categorize an experience doesn’t serve you, how it gets confused with feelings of anxiety, and the role of cognitive bias here. You need to examine the assumption that you should act on something without question if it’s coming from your intuition, and I’m guiding you through this process today.

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Listen in today to get a taste of what it’s like to join The Clutch where I coach every single week on topics like body image and thought work. I’m doing a listener Q&A to coach on some of the most frequent questions I get sent. If you’re loving what you’re learning here and want a chance to have your questions addressed, come join us there!

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Listen in this week to discover if you might be using thought work against yourself. There are two main ways that I see this play out very commonly, and I’m showing you why using thought work within these contexts can sometimes bring you awareness, but ultimately they are longer paths to getting to that point.

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Join me this week as I show you what mental flexibility is and why this skill is crucial in thought work. I’m outlining the irony that exists in resisting being challenged or in trying on a new contradictory thought, and why accepting, allowing, and holding space for two conflicting beliefs is what will help you move into alignment with the thing you want to become or have.

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Join me on the podcast today as I show you when it’s useful to think about other people’s models, when it’s not, and why. Making your mental and emotional state contingent upon what other people might be thinking, feeling, or doing is useless and a waste of energy, and my goal is to show you that you never have to know what someone else is thinking to decide what you are going to think.

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Join me this week as I show you the power that lies in practicing radical self-love and exquisite self-care, why it is a radical subversive act, and how liberation from an oppressive ideology is an inside job. Radical self-love is where change has to start, and it’s a tool that will give you the emotional resources and mental freedom to transform your life.

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Join me today as I share the nuances that come with being an overactor and an underactor, and the antidotes for each type of behavior. Both types are self-critical and often feel miserable about their goals, and I’ll be showing you how balanced action is the key to your own growth and appreciation for the journey, no matter what you may be working on.

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Join me today as I show you what true closure is and how to get it. I’m outlining two things that many people believe will bring them closure if they had it, why these things are just lies our brains feed us, and the only thing that is really in your way of being happy right now.

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Join me on the podcast today as I show you why you have to sell yourself and commit to watering, nurturing, and growing the new thoughts you’ve planted in your brain to make your visions and dreams come true. You’ll inevitably have mixed results along the way, but that’s just part of the process.

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Today I'm showing you how thought work can be used in various scenarios to improve your sex life and your physical experience of sex. It’s not all biology, your thoughts have a huge impact on the sexual dynamic between you and your partner, and your experience of sex overall.

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Listen in this week as I share a technique that I’ve found effective in connecting to your sexuality by embodying your own desire. This can feel uncomfortable and it may bring up strong emotions for you, and that’s totally okay and normal. The great thing about this work is that you can take it as slow as you want, without anyone else being involved.

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Join me today as I show you what is actually happening when you feel defensive, and how shame feeds into this feeling and prevents you from consciously digging into your thoughts. Anxiety, shame, and defensiveness are signals for you to get curious, and cluing yourself in and asking the right questions will allow you to see where you might be out of alignment and make changes.

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Join us today as Erika shares her experience of navigating racism and her own journey of finding her voice to speak up and have difficult conversations as a black woman. You’ll hear how learning the coaching tools has impacted her life, and she illustrates the nuances of how she uses thought work to process her experiences, allow her emotions, and take action.

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Listen in today to discover the most productive ways for you to be an ally and to make anti-racism a practice. I’m showing you how to use thought work to start questioning your belief systems. There is no one right way to do this, and creating guilt and shame for yourself never results in transformation.

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What I think the role of thought work is in moments like this and how we can use it to process challenging times and create change in the world. I also address how white people can use thought work to get curious about our thoughts and to get honest about our own internalized racism. If you are a white person listening to this, I invite you to stay with me on this episode and to trust what I’m saying today so that it can be a tool for individual liberation and help us contribute to social change.

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Today I'm sharing two big reasons why you need to embrace the suck. We’re going to experience it at least 50% of the time anyway, so why not accept that and move through the world knowing that it sometimes sucks to be a human? There is no perfect way to do this, and willing to stay present is a skill that will help you embrace the other 50% that is full of joy and happiness.

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This week, I want you to hear from some of my Clutch students who have used thought work to change their relationship with money. I love that they each bring a unique perspective on this topic, coming from various fields and industries, and every single of them has used what they’ve learned in The Clutch to create a more abundant financial mindset.

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This week I illuminate the importance of this work in feeling secure in your moral value and worth, and why you, as a human, have inherent and intrinsic value just for existing. It’s no surprise that women tend to experience a lot of emotional drama when it comes to financial conversations or discussing their economic worth, and I’m untangling all of this on the podcast today.

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You can experience pleasure whenever and however you want, without permission from anyone else. I’m diving into how women don’t spend time on things we truly love, and why we’re not encouraged to take real pleasure seriously. Taking the time to create and experience pleasure is the best thing you can do for yourself, and I’m showing you how today.

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Kara and Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School explore how the Covid-19 outbreak is presenting a unique opportunity for us to level up our thought work skills. Learn why loneliness, fear, and misery are not inevitable reactions to the crisis - and how to shift your thinking to get relief.

Listen in this week to catch Marissa and Deb share their experience around dating, breakups, social justice, and how The Clutch has helped them shift their perspective. This is such a rich and interesting conversation, and I know that the discoveries they’ve made throughout their time in The Clutch will show you what is truly possible for you too.

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I know all of you will be able to relate to having moments where your brain seems to go to worst-case scenarios; where you imagine all the horrible things that could potentially happen in your life, or what I call a “what-if parade.” Even though I’ve dedicated my life to the practice of thought work, I’m no exception, and today, I’m showing you why this is normal and what you can do when this happens.

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Listen in today as I show you how opportunities are available to you right now if you choose to see this crisis through a new lens. If you’re not currently living the life you want, I’m sharing some reasons why all of us humans tend to turn away from what’s possible for us, and finally, what it takes to create the life of your dreams.

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Join us on the podcast this week as The Clutch members, Bessie and Elizabeth, share their lessons learned and the best thought work they’ve done to transform their lives. I’m so excited for them to show you what’s truly possible when you learn how to manage your mind and I know that they’ll inspire you to do the same.

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Join me on this episode as I show you why humans tend to want to believe that our lives will start in the future, or that it will start once we have achieved something, whether that’s weight loss, finding a partner, or anything else. Putting your life off until things get back to ‘normal’ is preventing you from experiencing the freedom and happiness you could be having right now if you embraced your current situation, and I’m giving you the tools to help you do that today.

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This is a time of questioning and being curious of your patterns, belief systems, and actions that you’ve been able to escape from before the pandemic, and you’re going to see how it shows up for three of my clients. We’re addressing questions around living your best life right now, health anxiety, perfectionist tendencies, and getting things done in quarantine.

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Join me this week as I talk through what boredom actually is, whether it’s a problem, and how you can handle it better. Letting boredom just exist in your body can feel extremely uncomfortable, but you’ll be surprised at how much growth and new insights you’ll discover on the other side of it.

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Listen in today as I offer you three tools that I have found to be very helpful in my own life and with my clients with their health-related anxiety. Acknowledging the reality that you are mortal is the first step in finding peace with our current situation, and I’m walking you through how you can use these techniques to stay out of frenzy and anxiety.

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Listen in today as I show you why you can create value and money right now during a pandemic. Just because this is our current reality doesn’t mean you don’t have any control over your mind or the kind of results you can create anymore. I guarantee that taking ownership of your thoughts and choosing intentional thoughts around money will help you feel empowered and create any amount of money or value you want.

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Listen in this week as I show you how your brain creates mental habits, and how cognitive bias is a crucial element to understand in changing them. This concept is applicable everywhere in your life, at any time, and the two ways I’m offering to you today of how to prevent your cognitive bias from running wild is going to give you so much more control over your mental and emotional experience.

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Join me this week as I break down what it means to want something, the fundamental motivation for why you want something if you have an unmanaged mind, and two exercises you can use to determine what you actually want. I’ll also be diving into how women especially use thought work against themselves in deciding what they want for their lives.

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In the midst of what feels like chaos and frenzy, most of us are seeking some stability and familiarity. Staying focused and productive in some area of your life and feeling connected to other people are two ways of doing this, and I’m offering my recommendations of how you can do this reasonably and realistically.

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Join me on this episode as I highlight why your mental health matters the most right now. You’ll discover what is possible for you when you prioritize this over your physical state, and how undermining it is actually deteriorating both your body and mind.

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Join me as I walk you through the difference between your thoughts and your feelings, and how to identify what a feeling is. From there, you’ll be able to start the process of intentionally creating emotions that you want to feel, and at the same time, you’ll be able to allow emotions that feel uncomfortable in your body without resisting them.

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Discover exactly why we get sucked into believing that we can control other people and external circumstances, and why letting it go is the only path to true freedom. Any feeling you want to have can be achieved by relinquishing the belief that you can or should be able to control anything outside of yourself. To do this, I’m offering a set of questions you can ask yourself that will focus on the things you can control.

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Too often, we believe that the thoughts we have are unchangeable, and so we try to control everything outside of us to try to feel better, which is impossible. Instead, what I’m offering you today is a technique called neutral thoughts that will guide you in actively choosing thoughts that serve you.

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Join me today to gain a deeper understanding of what is going on in your brain right now. This first step is crucial to changing the state of panic that you might be experiencing. I’ll also be highlighting how the news and social media can feed into the frenzy that your mind is going through.

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Join me this week to discover how you might be disempowering yourself by not embracing the agency you have over your own life. There is no right or wrong, failure or success. You can have any adventure you want, and there is no wrong story to write.

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Join me as I share some tools that you can practice to help you see why you might be feeling fear right now, as well as some reminders about the news and social media and the role it plays in your mental health. Acting out of fear will always feel terrible, and so I’m sharing my pandemic mission statement and some affirmations that you can use too, to help you be in control of your brain and manage your thoughts.

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Join me this week as I introduce you to a concept I call self-improvement shame. Coming to this work with shame about yourself, to change your own negative thoughts about yourself, is never going to produce the change you want to see. You can’t outrun your shame, and so instead, I’m showing you how to start creating true transformation in the long-run.

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Discover the true impact of patriarchy on our brains through the concept of heuristics. I'm giving you the basics of how our brain unconsciously absorbs the messages we’re taught and creates reasoning shortcuts, and then how that ties into the patriarchy and our experience as people socialized as women.

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As you learn about thought work and start using these tools to change your life, it’s only natural to want to speed things up, change all of your beliefs, and start getting the results you want right away. Something I’ve seen every single one of my students do at some point is ‘silver-lining’ their thoughts to feel better, and today I’m showing you how this isn’t conducive to the process and why it doesn’t work.

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Join me this week to discover how practicing the skill of managing your mind can be the greatest gift you can give yourself. I’m now more kind and compassionate to myself in moments of intense suffering and negativity, and you too will get to see the transformations that are truly possible if you apply this work.

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Join me this week to see if you can identify with some of the limiting beliefs I was holding onto around family and romantic relationships, and see how you could free yourself of thoughts that aren’t serving you. Make sure to tune in next week as I dive into friendships and other social relationships too!

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On today’s episode, I’m diving into my relationship with my body image, work, and money mindset, and how that has shifted over the years of doing this work. A lot has changed since I first started in 2015, and I’m sharing the progress I’ve seen in those areas, as well as the habitual thought patterns that occasionally still show up.

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Listen in today to gain a new perspective on why it’s so hard to fundamentally understand that other people have totally different thoughts to you, and how you buy into the assumptions you have about what’s going on in their brain. If you don’t know what a model is, I’m giving you the basics to help you understand this concept better, and I’m also sharing my interpretation of what empathy really means.

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Listen in as I take a deep dive into entitlement, how it shows up and why, and a new way to start thinking about the results you want that will save you time and energy, instead of sitting in entitlement, which drains all of your resources and leaves you in emotional drama.

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This week, we’re talking about the past and how you think about it in terms of forgiveness and blame. As most people are looking to the future now that 2020 has begun, I’m taking it back so you can start seeing your future in a new way and release yourself from the suffering you might be experiencing.

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I’ve received questions on podcasting and how to be a credible host, what I think draws people to coaching and how to be a coach people are drawn to, and my thoughts on carrying your clients’ emotions as you coach them. I’m also responding to some questions you guys had on confidence and my best advice on how to be successful.

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This week, I’m diving into the basic premise of desire and why changing how we think about it can be so transformational. We tend to want to push this feeling away when we can’t have something, or rush to acquire the object of our desires if we can have it, but I want to suggest a new way to approach this feeling.

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I hope my answers are helpful in getting you into the new year with a well-managed mind to create all the results you want. I’m sharing my thoughts on unrequited love and whether it’s a problem, the basis of libido and sexual attraction, and how to ask better questions when it comes to creating anything that you want in your life.

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Join me this week as I break down how true vulnerability creates intimacy in your life, and how to practice it. The only person who can make you feel vulnerable is you, so I want you to take this work and think about how you might be inflicting your own emotional pain.

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I’m answering work and self-worth related questions today, and I’ve seen a link across almost all the questions I’ve received. You might think these questions don’t relate to your specific circumstance if it’s not something you’re dealing with, but I’m sure you’ll find a common thread in your own life when you listen to my answers.

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This week, I’m taking a topic I’ve discussed on the podcast before a step further. Attachment theory is something you might believe in, or you might not, but I think it’s useful to discuss it to see how it’s affecting your relationships, especially in terms of your dating life.

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Listen in today as I bring you a short and sweet episode, but one that is so powerful in changing how you perceive your story and what might be going on for you right now. Using this thought whenever you’re struggling will help you see that you can handle any emotion and that nothing has gone wrong.

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Join me this week as I share the process I use when I feel triggered to grow and learn more about myself. I want this episode to act as a reminder that taking actions to move away from what feels bad isn’t a solution, and that there is so much missed opportunity when you do this.

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Listen in today as I give you a different perspective on the fear of uncertainty and how you can start to slowly let go of it. You don’t have to be terrified and let it stunt your growth. In fact, you can discover a whole new way of using thought work and stretch yourself in ways you never would have imagined.

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The questions I've received over the past week were so interesting and thoughtful, and I’m excited to address these topics on the podcast today.

They range from how thought work aligns with the concept of mindfulness, questions about coaching others and how I facilitate coaching sessions, to whether there is a right or wrong reason to practice thought work.

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The topics I’m covering range from general questions on classic thought work issues to some more specific questions from life coaches that I think will be super helpful to all of you. From the importance of niches, the belief that external factors could make you happy, to letting go of your emotional childhood, I’ve got it all covered today.

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It can be absolutely crippling and produce more anxiety than necessary, especially when we preemptively think about how we’ll feel when we have to get out there and perform. So this week, I’m approaching this concept from a slightly different perspective to show you what it really is, how we often exacerbate this negative feeling, and how to start resolving it.

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If there are things you want to achieve in your life or business but you’re worried about the expense, or not having enough time, or whether it’ll all work perfectly the way you imagine, today’s episode is for you. I’m highlighting these thoughts that have been running in your mind day in and day out, to help you look at them, and decide if you want to keep them.

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In this episode, I’m outlining my beliefs on internalized biases. We all have them, whether we’re conscious of them or not, as we live in a society where people have explicitly or implicitly taught us certain biases. It can be difficult to accept the thoughts we deem to be wrong or ugly that we’ve internalized about ourselves or others, but rejecting them is far from useful.

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The human ecosystem is a concept that I developed early on in my own thought work journey when I was trying to change the behaviors I didn’t like in the people around me - especially my partner at the time - but keep the ones I did. Sound familiar? Today, I’m taking a deep dive into this concept to show you how it applies to anyone in your life, including yourself, or any circumstance you experience.

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Join me this week to discover how the infinite 1% tool can shift your mindset completely. The difference between not doing anything and doing something 1% is huge so I hope you embrace it and start implementing this in your life because you will see some amazing transformations.

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Join me this week as I break down the way we process the feelings of safety and danger. These feelings are no exception to thought work, and it’s something we need to work on to teach our lizard brains that our perception of our safety is our responsibility and can be managed.

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On this episode, I’m covering some really common themes that I see a lot. If you’re working on your social anxiety, if you’re struggling in your relationships, or having anxiety-producing thoughts in the middle of the night, this one is for you.

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Do you ever find yourself consciously committing to a new goal or habit and then failing at it? I think everyone can relate to, at some point or another, trying to do something new and it seemingly just not working out. This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I call unconscious commitments; understanding this is going to be life-changing in getting more clarity on why you sometimes have a hard time achieving your goals.

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This week, I’m introducing you to a concept I first learned in yoga – beginner’s mind. I’m all about growth and evolution, and as humans, we naturally want to advance in anything we do. With that in mind, I’m delving into why learning to cultivate the beginner’s mind is crucial to actually improving your skills and advancing in your abilities.

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On this episode, I'm diving into why some of us - mostly women - struggle with the reality of aging. I'm exploring all factors, from our cultural stories and stereotypes to the archetypes of women that play into our identities as we move through different stages of life.

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We're desperate to run away from old thoughts that make us feel bad, and I'm going to help you see if you're frantically trying to drive your brain in a new direction. Today, I'm showing you how you can give yourself a fighting chance to truly change your thoughts by squarely looking them in the eye.

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Discover how you might be subconsciously sabotaging whatever problem you're facing. I'm sharing why this is actually normal and how you can start to solve it for good. Working through this is truly one of the keys to unlocking the possibilities of your own life, so come join us in The Clutch if you need more support on this topic!

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I've got two tools that are seemingly straightforward in helping you break any of your ingrained numbing habits, but it's going to require lots of practice in order to use them to your advantage. Breaking habituated patterns takes effort because most of the time it's happening unconsciously, and it often makes us feel anxious when we act against our own will, which is why these tools are going to be challenging but life-changing.

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Working on bringing awareness to compulsive behaviors means being able to enjoy these activities mindfully, without the end goal of numbing. I'm focusing on the distinction that exists, and why we feel the need to get a break from our feelings, which is totally normal. Stay tuned because next week, I'll be teaching you how to start changing these habits if you want to.

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This week, I'm addressing perfectionist fantasies and tomorrow thinking. I'm discussing how they work, why we indulge in them, and the consequences of staying stuck in this cycle. If there is any area of your life you're working to better or achieve something in and it isn't working, I can guarantee that this is probably the reason why. I urge you to listen to this episode closely, a few times over if necessary, to stop making plans you know you won't keep.

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This week, I'm helping you see why you're not getting as much done as you'd like and how to deal with the discomfort of having to actually practice focusing in your daily life.

If productivity and multitasking are things that are holding you back, this episode is for you. It's not going to be easy, but try out my tips for focusing today and I can guarantee your life is going to be transformed.

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Join me today as I give you a short and sweet episode on the behavior of complaining, and why it's so detrimental to you both physically and mentally. I challenge you to try out this diet and see if the results make a difference in your life!

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Join me as I unravel the concept of loneliness and give you some new ways of thinking about it that will help you see the bigger picture. There are areas of this particular feeling that we're apt to misinterpret, so hopefully, this episode gives you some insight into how you might just be thinking about it in an unhelpful way.

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Today, I'm digging into the idea of PTSD and something you may not have heard of before - post-traumatic growth. I'm giving you a clear description of what trauma actually is and how you can help yourself get through it. There are some really important key points I'm sharing today that will help you work towards emotional resiliency to change your experiences going forward.

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Trying to find the balance in dealing with a child, while setting boundaries and expectations can be tricky, especially because you can't control their behavior - even if you think you can. Join me this week as I outline the three key points to consider when setting boundaries with your kids so you can be a parent without all the emotional drama that comes along with being one!

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Dr. James Gills is a brilliant ocular surgeon who said, "I talk to myself more than I listen to myself," and when I heard this, it stopped me in my tracks. Most of us know that listening to others usually does us good, but we don't realize that we also often listen to what our brain tells us to think. Today, I want to shed some light on how you can start to talk to your brain in a proactive way that will positively change the discourse in your mind.

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As we try to change our results, we often try thinking new thoughts. I'm exposing why just thinking a new thought isn't going to have the same effect as truly believing it, and why this is crucial to grasp when you're working on your thought ladder.

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Listen in to uncover how you can set out to create positive emotion from scratch. Applying this concept is going to give you a more embodied experience of your emotions and strengthen the connection between your thoughts and feelings!

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Join me today, my chickens, as I teach you some tools and ways of thinking about pain and chronic illness, or acute illness. I have some great resources to share that may be able to help you reduce or eliminate the physical pain itself once you stop believing that it means something is going wrong.

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On today's episode, I break down why judgment is not serving you, especially as you embark on your thought work journey, and how practicing curiosity instead will open you to a much richer experience. The difference between judging your thoughts and having curiosity is a huge shift: curiosity doesn’t assume to know the answer. Curiosity doesn’t evaluate if something is good or bad. Curiosity doesn’t have an opinion. Curiosity pays attention.

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There is a downside to categorizing ourselves by personality tests and attachment styles. Before we learn to manage our thoughts and choose them on purpose, having a diagnostic of those thoughts can have a detrimental effect on our belief in our ability to change.

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Join me on this episode to discover how to start implementing the practice of truly allowing your negative feelings. Baby steps are crucial in working on your skeptical brain, and starting here is going to help you tremendously with your self-coaching.

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My goal of replacing my salary through coaching has shown me that even positive thoughts can keep you stuck, and plateaus can happen to all of us. Massive thinking is one of my biggest takeaways from this last year, and I'm exploring how up-leveling your current mindset has to happen at every stage of your life.

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Introducing: The Clutch. An online feminist coaching community where you can learn how to create true, authentic confidence in your own heart and mind - and bond with other bad-ass women who are doing the same.

The world is always coming at you, with new challenges. But now you have somewhere to go. Anytime. Anywhere. For anything. And a community that has your back.

Because you’re always going to be a woman in a society built by and for men. You’re always going to need advice, feedback and support in changing your thought patterns, navigating the world, and creating your best life.

Because a good clutch goes with any outfit and holds all the essentials you need. Because clutch is exactly what you need exactly when you need it. And the Clutch is exactly what your brain needs, whenever you need it. Conversations that dig deep. A community that helps you grow.

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On a previous episode, I talked about the distinction between positive and negative motivation and action, and the way we're taught that negative emotions lead to positive actions. Many of us think our anger will motivate us to take actions, believing this will change things, but I'm hoping to share some insight that will shed a little light on why this is a mistaken thought pattern.

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If you're confused or frustrated because the steps you're taking aren't working or getting you any closer to your goals, I'm giving you the answer today. Discover where you might be going wrong in your endeavors to get what you want. What I'm sharing today may seem obvious, but you'll be surprised when you slip back and catch yourself relying on actions alone to create your results.

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Tune in as I reflect on the biggest gifts podcasting has given me and how I've worked on them to create a successful seven-figure business!

Text your email (all lowercase) to 347-997-1784 and reply with "instagram" when prompted for the secret password to follow me on social media and get links to a couple of articles I wrote!

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Where you're most commonly going wrong in your thought work and why the answer to your questions never lies in simply choosing the right action to take.

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To help you on your path to becoming your best selves, I designed a workbook called Feel Better and Get Sh*t Done! Text your email address to 347-997-1784 and then text "feelbetter" when it prompts you for the secret password.

I'm taking a slightly different route on the podcast this week, bringing you a metaphor that is going to act as an amazing tool for your thought work. Today, I'm using neuroscience to demonstrate the real power of your brain and why confirmation bias exists.

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Text your email address to 347-997-1784 for a worksheet that you can use to help adjust the prescription on your skepticals. Reply with "skeptical" (all lowercase).

Get a copy of my recommended reading list by texting your e-mail address to 347-997-1784. You'll get a text back asking for the secret password, which is "reading" (use all lowercase!)

I see so many erroneous beliefs around the feeling of love and I'm going to clear them up on today's episode. What I'm uncovering on this podcast may be a little unsettling at first, but will really set you free in your relationships with others, whether they are someone you love so much you couldn't bear to lose them or someone you hate and never want to see again.

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Get a copy of my recommended reading list by texting your e-mail address to 347-997-1784. You'll get a text back asking for the secret password, which is "reading" (use all lowercase!)

Discover the difference between clean and dirty pain, and how embracing this concept can diminish so much unnecessary suffering in your life. Emotional pain and misery are bound to come up, but this tool is going to help you flow through it with less resistance.

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On this episode, we’re covering topics of dealing with unsolicited advice from others, what to do when you’re someone who’s being “rude,” and body image issues.

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Join me today as I break down the three elements of a regret thought pattern and share how you can start feeling better today by changing your thoughts. You don't have to change what happened in the past. You only need to change how you think about it.

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You don't have to change your negative thoughts right away - it's okay to sit with them for a bit. I like to call this the Struggle Bus. You might be struggling with some negative emotion, but you're still moving forward. You're still showing up to do everything you need to do.

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On this episode, we’re diving into topics like addressing things that are outside of our control, social anxiety and insecurities, meeting your own needs, the five love languages, applying thought work to physical pain, and more.

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Join me this week as I answer questions about what I think about antidepressants and other medications, dealing with Trump supporters, boundary violations, thought work around “toxic” family members, people pleasing, and more.

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Join me this week to learn how to believe new things harder. I share the three mistakes I see in thought work when people are not believing hard enough and how to get past them. Believing new things on purpose is work. It's going to feel like work. That's the good news. Because the good news is if it feels terrible sometimes, you're doing it right.

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Tune in this week as I talk about dealing with your past regrets, body image, speaking your truth, mending (or not) relationships, dealing with recurring thoughts, and much more!

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Let’s start this year off with a chat about self care as many of us will be making resolutions to take better “care” of ourselves... and then falling back into old habits 3 weeks later. Join me today as I break down what self care really is and why managing our minds is the ultimate self care practice.

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Tune in this week as I answer questions on the topics of managing “toxic” family members around your kids, thought management around physical touch, controlling your mind around uncontrollable circumstances, and more.

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In this episode, I talk about the differences between jealousy and envy and how they relate to other emotions. They both hinge on the thought that you need something external - money, a certain job, a romantic partner, a friend - to be happy and that you will be unhappy without it. Join me today to hear why confidence alone won't solve issues with jealousy.

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Join me this week as I answer questions on the topics of self-love, people with intuitively-managed minds, changing go-to thoughts, finding love, dreaming about your problems, and more.

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Understanding FOMO and taking the steps to work through your thoughts around your current or future circumstances can make a tremendous difference in the level of happiness and fun you’re allowing yourself to have in any given moment. Listen in to hear how!

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Listen in as we explore topics like handling criticism and feedback, intuition vs bad thoughts, managing intrusive thoughts, the struggle between choosing comfort vs growth, and more!

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Join me today for a tough look at how so many of us are letting our fears of shame and rejection keep us from putting ourselves out there enough to reach our goals. I can't tell you how many "no"s you need to hear but I can say that every no gets you closer to the "yes" you want and the only thing holding you back is your unwillingness to hear the no.

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A lot of us are paranoid about what other people think about us, especially in social situations. But just because your mental default is to worry about other people's opinions about you, doesn't make this a permanent state of mind.

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Join me as we get into topics like managing your mind under the influence of alcohol, mind over matter, cultivating confidence, managing thoughts of resentment, being around people with different religious beliefs than your own and more!

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This week, we have another installment of the Listener Q & As. In this episode, we dive into topics such as dealing with overwhelm, empathy vs compassion, fortune-telling, teaching thought work to young kids, relationships, boundaries, and more!

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On this episode, we take a deep dive into the topic of trust and explore the common misconceptions about it that are holding you back. After listening to this episode, I’d like for you to get curious about what trust really means for you and whether it’s necessary to have it for others at all.

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This week, I am back with another round of questions from all of you and my tough-love answers. Today, we’re digging into a number of topics such as dealing with ‘problem’ coworkers, letting go of shame around past mistakes, feeling more lovable, and helping others.

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Today, I want to teach you more in-depth about people-pleasing and why I think we should stop using that terminology. Join me today for People-Pleasing 2.0 and discover how this behavior sabotages your authenticity and perpetuates dishonest relationships. Plus, I share a couple of steps to ending this deceptive cycle. Awareness is key, my chickens. Notice your thoughts and you can change them!

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In this episode, I’ll talk about the assumptions most of us make about friendship and discuss why it’s important to refresh how you think about your friends. Listen in as I reveal how you might be blocking yourself from fully enjoying your friendships – then I’ll tell you what you can do to flip this script and appreciate the many friendships the world can offer you if you just know where to look.

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Join me this week as I answer more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from boundaries, relying on external validation, cultivating self-confidence, family and relationship issues and more.

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This week, I explain what a boundary is and why everything that you have previously known about boundaries is most likely wrong (or at least highly unhelpful). Join me as I show you what a boundary is not and how to tell if you’re ready to set a boundary and how to do it in a way that serves you and your emotional state.

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After the last listener Q & A episode, I got a lot of great feedback from you guys and have since received a ton of new questions. Today, I am answering more of your questions that you sent in via email, Facebook, and Instagram on a variety of topics ranging from relationship advice and workplace issues to my morning and nighttime routines.

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Constraint is one of the mind management tools that has had a huge impact on my ability to achieve ambitious goals, and quickly and exponentially grow my business and podcast. And on this episode, I am excited to show you how you can properly use constraint in your life to create more time, hit big milestones, and level up any area of your life.

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This week, I want to talk to you about the concept of catastrophizing, or imagining all the possible future negative scenarios that could happen and emotionally reacting as if they were real. We take a look at why we do this and how it impacts the results we have in our life. I share three simple but powerful tools that will help you kick your catastrophizing habit to the curb.

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On this episode, we take a look at why restricting yourself from having or doing something that you want – whether it’s food, alcohol, or spending – does not work. Join me as I show you how to change your thinking from restriction mode to the type of thinking that will help you achieve the positive results you desire in all areas of your life.

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I get a lot of emails, Facebook, and Instagram messages from you guys. And although I love to hear from all of you, due to the sheer volume of these messages, I can’t respond to all of them directly. So today, I’m answering some of your questions and exploring the topics that you’d like to get coached on. For this episode, I’ve chosen questions and topics that many of you struggle with and I think all of you will learn from.

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On this episode, we take a look at the reality behind drama and who really causes it in your life. I explain why you should actually consider spending more time with people who you think affect your vibe and show you exactly what you need to do to totally escape drama and toxic people with only a small change.

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A bonus interview with Jami.

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Are you usually emotionally exhausted by the end of the day? Do you obsess over whether other people are upset with you (even if there’s no actual evidence to support it)? If you can relate to any of the above, it’s a sign that you don’t have appropriate boundaries and you don’t have emotional resilience. Discover whether you’re emotionally reactive to what’s going on around you and how it may be affecting your day-to-day.

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I believe that most people misunderstand what potential is and what it actually means. This is a deep topic that has a lot of ramifications for how we think about the past and the future and what we can achieve in our lives. Listen in as we take a look at the difference between being past-focused and future-focused and how each approach affects the results you see in your life.

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You probably already accept the idea that not all of your thoughts are true. With that in mind, what should you believe? On this episode, I explain why no one can tell you want to think and share a quite counterintuitive framework for evaluating thoughts and deciding whether you want to believe them. I then show you how you can come up with your own new helpful thoughts that are in line with your goals.

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Listen in as we take a look at three thought errors that are running in the back of your mind, holding you back from working on your emotional health and making progress. Join me as I show you how you can make a few simple mindset shifts that will deeply enrich not only your life but the lives of those around you.

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A couple of weeks ago, we talked about perfectionism and how so many of us love to make unrealistic plans and never keep them or see them through to the end. This week, I want to take a deeper dive into the topic of perfectionism – the insidious trait that many smart people suffer from – and look at two powerful tools for managing it.

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On this episode, I want to talk about why you should consider welcoming negative emotions that come up in your life and how this practice can help you live a rich and fulfilled life. Join me to discover how to develop a better relationship with yourself and enjoy a well-balanced human experience.

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So many of us go through life without really making decisions for ourselves or understanding the decisions we made. Then one day, we wake up and find ourselves surprised at how we got to where we are, not sure if we even wanted it for ourselves. So how do you break that cycle of living by someone else’s rulebook and getting the results you don’t want in your life?

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I often see many of my clients trying to use a gratitude practice against themselves in a way that can be quite harmful to their mental health. In this episode, I want to talk to you about how to tell if you’re misusing gratitude or maybe even using it as a weapon against yourself. Join me to discover what you can do to stop feeling sorry for yourself and start thinking about gratitude in a way that serves you.

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This week, I want to teach you one of the best tools that I learned from my coach – the power of asking better questions. Join me as I explain how asking dead-end questions is affecting your brain and show you how to ask questions that stimulate your brain to find answers that will move you toward goals.

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On this episode, I talk about how your reaction to other people’s gender-based discrimination may be impacting your emotional state and creating unnecessary suffering and drama in your mind. I explain how judging, resisting or resenting others for their thoughts actually keeps you stuck in the constant loop of judging yourself.

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On this episode, I explain why, no matter what ideologies you internalized over the years, you DO NOT have to earn pleasure and you’re 100% entitled to it. We also take a look at the important distinction between real and false pleasure and why neither should be a solution to any of your emotional problems.

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This week, I decided to give you a behind-the-scenes look at my annual review and share the important lessons that I learned along the way. Join me to hear 5 most important things that I've learned from going through the process of growing my business 5x times and find out how you can apply these lessons in your own life and business/career.

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On this episode, I want to explore why, contrary to the popular belief, being a leader is not about an attachment to a certain outcome and dependent on controlling others. Join me as I share what you need to do to become a great leader who is able to inspire and advocate for her ideas effectively.

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A bonus interview with Shira.

If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit https://unfckyourbrain.com/program to learn more about what UnF*ck Your Brain Program can do for your life.

In this episode, we explore what it really means to be busy and why we choose to inflict busyness on ourselves. We take a look at the two forms of the “I’m so busy” that we use in our daily lives and why both of them are highly unhelpful. Tune in to find out how you can stop using “busy” as a way to stress yourself out and find out how to never feel too busy to make real progress on your important projects and initiatives.

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A bonus interview with Nancy.

If you find this bonus episode helpful and you’d like to achieve similar results to my clients’, visit https://unfckyourbrain.com/program to learn more about what UnF*ck Your Brain Program can do for your life.

Today, I want to give you a sense of what the deeper, second level teachings that we do in the UnF*ckYour Brain program look like and teach you an advanced level topic - taking responsibility for other people’s feelings (Emotional Adulthood 2.0). We take a look at how your prior programming is causing you to feel responsible for how other people feel and act, and why it is actually not a loving thing to do.

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Today, I'm going doing something a little bit different. As our flock grows, I know that some of you may not know much about me or my story - where I came from. So today I'm going to share with you a little bit about me. I'm sharing this with you so that you can see that where you are now, the heaviness you feel, the pressure, does not have to be your future reality.

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On this episode, we take another look at the real reason why, when presented with two or more choices, we often get paralyzed, unable to make a decision. From the questions you need to ask yourself to help you make a decision, to how to deal with the doubt, fear and regret, you’ll learn how to be a more decisive person, able to love the result of whatever decision you make.

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On this episode, we dive into the reasons why confusion is an indulgent emotion and why you actually like to stay confused. We also explore exactly where confusion comes from and why there’s no such thing as a right or wrong decision. I'm sharing a step-by-step process you can start using today to begin relieving confusion about anything in your life to make uncertainty, indecision, and fear a thing of the past.

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We are taught as children, that our parents are supposed to meet our needs – emotional and material. When we grow up, we are “supposed to” substitute other people, like friends and romantic partners, for our parents, who should also meet our needs.

On this episode the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, I explain why this type of reasoning is insane and teach you one of my favorite tools for revolutionizing your love life.

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On this episode, I want to talk to you about what actually creates lasting transformation. It’s an integral step in the process of unf*cking your brain that many of you miss simply because you’ve never been taught how to do it. Are you ready to see what you’re really capable of accomplishing?

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This week on the UnF*ck Your Brain podcast, we’re doing something bit different. On this episode, I want to teach you through a 2-way conversation – a 20-minute coaching call with your fellow listener, totally live an unscripted – on the topic of dealing with a difficult person in her work life.

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This week's episode of Unf*ck Your Brain is going to blow your mind. I'm talking about something all of us experience that can be extremely detrimental to our well-being if left unnoticed and unmanaged but, once we understand it and learn to use it to our benefit, can also set us free! That concept is confirmation bias.

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Compare and Despair Follow-Up with Stacey Smith

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Today on Unf*ck Your Brain, I'm talking about something I know all of you have felt at one time or another. In fact, it is such a universal part of the human condition, it has been called the "most human emotion" and that is shame. Learn how to question your shame and start building the skills to remove it from your life completely.

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This week, I want to teach you one of my favorite coaching tools for achieving tremendous results in any part of your life – taking massive action. Join me as I explain how this simple, yet powerful, tool can help you change your relationship with failure, eliminate doubt and fear, and allow you to get exactly what you want.

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Tune in to get your mind blow as I share my own personality theory that will challenge everything you think you know about the "type" of person you are... beginning with the question, "What if you don't have a personality at all?"

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I know the topic of self-love feels a little confrontational for a lot of you, but I want you to stick with me today as I share how it's possible for you to see all of your best qualities, be compassionate about your shortcomings, and feel amazing about yourself... without becoming a delusional narcissist. So pop in those earbuds and get ready to learn how to love yo' self (no positive affirmations required) and get shit done!

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On this episode of Unf*ck Your Brain, I want to talk about why we constantly compare ourselves to others - even though it makes us feel bad - and the role two major societal systems have in perpetuating the issue, especially for women. Join me as I explain why constantly comparing yourself to others is a problem and how you can learn to stop.

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On this episode, I want to dig into the reasons why we have a poor relationship with money and share my personal story of how I shifted my money beliefs through coaching. Join me as I share the most important money mind shifts that you can implement to become more successful in your business and your career.

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Until the last couple of years, I hated having my photos taken, no matter where they were shot, what I was wearing, or how I looked. All I saw in them were my flaws: my frizzy hair, double chin, belly rolls my height… you name it. The self-criticism was endless, and the family events and online dating were a nightmare.

After using some of the tools that I will share with you on today’s episode, I am now able to genuinely see myself as photogenic without lying to myself. Join me as I share my favorite brain hacks for learning to love how you look in photos (as well as real life) and transform your life forever.

Make sure to download the free Love Any Photo of Yourself Workbook to help you with this process!

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On this episode of UnF*ck Your Brain, we take a look at why our brain is so good at remembering and focusing on negative outcomes and not so great at conjuring up good ones and how that affects our mind chatter. Discover how you can begin rewiring your brain out of the deeply engrained habit of focusing on the negative to focus more on the thoughts that serve you and move you closer to where you want to go.

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On today’s episode, I break down what stress really is and why it is not necessary despite the conditioning of society that says that stress is good for productivity, that it drives us, that it’s fuel for achieving greatness. Discover what your life could be and how you can open up space for intrinsic motivation by changing your thoughts about what role stress plays in your success.

Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfckyourbrain.com/stress-isnt-necessary

If you’re interested in learning more about the UnF*ck Your Brain Program that starts on January 1st, 2018, hurry over to https://unfckyourbrain.com/uyb-join by this weekend and sign up for a consultation with me to see if we’re a good match.

On this episode, we explore two powerful tools for keeping your commitments and reaching any goal happen 100% of the time. We also take a look at how choice overwhelm and decision fatigue hold us back and dive into the strategy that will help you achieve success in the new year and beyond.

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In this bonus episode, I’m featuring a recent webinar I did on the 4 mindfucks of patriarchy and how they are holding women back from living an empowered life.

As women, we often feel anxious, insecure, guilty, or not good enough, even if our life looks good from the outside.

In this episode, we cover how social conditioning is creating these negative feelings and experiences, and how you can go about changing it.

If you want to liberate yourself from self-doubt, insecurity, anxiety, and fear, visit UnFckyourbrain.com/join to learn more about the UnF*ck Your Brain program.

In this short but important episode, I explain the immense benefits of investing in your mental and emotional health, why it's a feminist issue, and why you can’t afford not to begin this work in 2018.

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Today, I want to talk to you about settling – what it’s all about, why you do it, and the harmful effects of settling. Listen in to discover why you should consider putting an end to your stagnation and scarcity thinking and how you can stop settling and start living a full, extraordinary life.

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No matter what your body looks like it IS possible to feel great with no clothes on; and on this episode, I explain exactly how you can get to that place.

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Today, we're talking about how you can get more things done in a given time and avoid unnecessary anxiety in the process.We also take a look at the reasons why you’re not getting as much done as you want or need to.

Join us as I explain how you can create a clear system and organize your work and personal life to have more time, save mental energy, and eliminate overwhelm.

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Today, we’re talking about how to survive family time during the stressful holiday season. Join me on this episode as I share a powerful strategy to help you prepare for family time, skip the drama, and actually enjoy your holidays.

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This week, we're talking about how our society and upbringing has affected our subconscious (and conscious) thinking to constantly engage in people pleasing. Join us as I explain why we often choose to prioritize others’ wants and needs over our own and the detrimental effects this has on our personal and professional lives.

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To sign up for the upcoming free webinar, "The Four MindF*cks of Patriarchy," visit https://thelawyerstresssolution.com/webinar

On this episode, we take a look at how most of us try to “fix” our lack of confidence and examine why trying to accomplish something external will never solve this issue. Join us as I explain how self-confidence really works and how you can begin creating it in your own life.

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In this episode, we take a deep dive into the topic of Imposter Syndrome and examine the roots of this damaging thought pattern.

Join us for an exploration of how Imposter Syndrome is holding you back in your career and personal life and discover tips and strategies for overcoming this feeling and fear that you’ll be “found out” to be undeserving or unqualified, or revealed as a fraud.

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On this episode, we explore the process that causes the disconnect between our beliefs and actions, and exactly why you feel bad about it. Listen in as I share a step-by-step process to help you stop feeling like a “bad feminist” and actually practice what you believe in without anything holding you back.

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Welcome to UnF*ck Your Brain! This podcast teaches you concrete, effective, mind-blowing tools that you can use to reduce anxiety, improve your productivity, dial up your self-confidence, and dial down your insecurity and people-pleasing. I’m Kara Loewentheil, a master certified life coach with degrees from Harvard and Yale – and a former high-powered career working for women’s rights. I’ve taken all the best neuroscience, evolutionary psychology, and coaching tools I know and combined them with feminist theory to create a set of powerful practices and life-changing ideas that will teach you how to liberate yourself from the inside out. You can be the strong, empowered, confident woman you’ve always wanted to be – you just have to learn how to clear away all the negative self-talk and messages from the patriarchy that are keeping you small. So let’s not sit here just talking about it – because I’m all about teaching you how to take smart action! You can start anywhere you like, every episode stands alone – just scroll and find a topic that calls you, and hit play. Join the feminist mindset revolution - your life will never be the same.

In this episode, I decided to share my story because I think many of you will identify with it and find it helpful to hear how I used coaching to change my own life. Join me to discover how I was able to apply coaching to my own life to help close the gap between intellectually understanding the feminist principles and actually living them.

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On this episode, I want to talk to you about the two main reasons why we neglect advocating for ourselves in our work and personal life. We explore how your self-talk holds you back and how following internalized conditioning, and then criticizing yourself for doing so, creates a limiting force in all areas of your life.

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Today, I explain the importance of not taking things personally and I prove to you that what other people choose to do means absolutely NOTHING about you. Tune in to find out what you can start doing today to stop taking someone else’s actions personally and dramatically improve your romantic and professional life.

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On this episode, we’re taking a deep dive into the topic of guilt – what creates it, what to do about it, and what you might want to consider feeling instead. Join me to find out what small change you can make today to counter feelings of guilt, stop being a victim and become a powerful actor in your own life.

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Today, we’re talking about healthy habits and why they are so difficult to keep up in a high-stress work environment. From managing your all-or-nothing thinking to building a better relationship with your body, you’ll find out everything you need to know to begin building new habits that alight with your goals.

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I invited Heather Hubbard to the show to share what she’s learned in her legal career and how she implements that into her coaching practice. In this episode, we explore the concept of staying in the flow of life and why it’s absolutely necessary in our daily lawyer hustle.

From the importance of meditation to Heather’s tips for making partner without going crazy, you’ll get a good understanding of what you can begin doing today to lead a balanced life as a lawyer.

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Today, I’m talking about the core of everything I teach – the importance of thinking new thoughts. I explain why simply thinking positive doesn’t work for most people and share a powerful tool that I use in my coaching for adopting new thinking. Join me to find out exactly what you need to do in order to make those new thoughts more believable and how you can create routines that will actually help you make lasting changes.

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This week’s episode is a short but important message to help you work through your fear and take the risks you want to take in life. Tune in to find out why your fear IS NOT a true reflection of any “danger” that might be happening to you at the moment and how you can coach yourself to believe that.

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On this episode of The Lawyer Stress Solution, we’re taking a look at why lawyers are so sensitive to rejection and why it hurts so much. I explain what rejection really is and what you can do to lessen its impact. Listen in to find out how you can begin rewiring your brain to stop always looking for rejection and instead create feelings of security, safety, and stability.

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In this episode of The Lawyer Stress Solution, we’re talking about the mental aspects of improved productivity such as anxiety, cultivating productive thoughts, and reducing shame around the subject. I also teach you what you can begin practicing in your own daily life to help you be more productive.

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August is finally here, the time of year when a lot of people go on vacation. Inspired by all the travelers in my life, I decided to dedicate this week’s episode to taking how to take time off from work... without constantly worrying and checking your email.

Learn why you really resist taking time off from work and what you can do in order to enjoy any time off.

This week, I’m sharing advice on how you can advocate for more professional development, get more opportunities, and take your career to the next level.

Join us to find out why so many lawyers have a problem standing up for themselves when it comes to career advancing opportunities and why you’re really the only person who can advocate for your own professional development.

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n this episode, I explain what actually contributes to substance use and abuse and how you can solve those problems without using *or* quitting your job. If you’re using substances more often than you would like and you want to better understand why you use and how to cut back, this podcast is for you.

Tune in to find out how you can break your habit of using and abusing substances and better manage your urges to use. Discover three things that you can start practicing today to reduce your desire to use alcohol or other substances and create lasting change in your life and career.

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On this episode, we explore what makes you avoid tasks and how to change that habit. Join us on the show as I lay out a step-by-step process that will help you deal with any task you’re avoiding and finally get it done!

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On this episode, we look at a couple of different things that you may think would make you a better lawyer and why they don’t actually matter. I also reveal what truly DOES make a difference to your performance, and three primary ways that practicing this skill will make you a better lawyer.

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It’s the beginning of July, and that means one thing for a lot of you – mid-year reviews.

Today, we delve into the outcomes of mid-year reviews and why they bring up so much anxiety about your performance and career. Tune in to discover a step-by-step process for successfully navigating your performance review and find out how you can use this information to take your practice to the next level. No meltdown required.

Get full show notes and more information here: http://thelawyerstresssolution.com/midyearreview

There’s a specific set of reasons why lawyers are anxious. On this episode, I go through these reasons and explain why your lawyer brain works the way it does and why knowing this is important if you want to reduce your stress level and get better at your job.

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This week, we look into the intricacies of perfectionism and examine the reasons why it is so common among lawyers, especially ones who are already self-critical. I explain where perfectionism comes from, how it affects all areas of our life, and why it never works. I also share my coaching strategies for overcoming it and starting to be able to accept yourself where you are.

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This week on The Lawyer Stress Solution, we’re delving into the ins and outs of working with difficult clients. Join us as I talk about two different ways that difficult clients can cause stress, and share actionable tools and strategies to help you manage both your clients and your own brain better.

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On this episode of The Lawyer Stress Solution, I’m excited to talk about one of my favorite topics – the way that thinking and talking like a lawyer impacts your personal relationships outside of work to a less-than-desirable outcome. I explain how you can keep your lawyer brain at bay and stop defaulting to being on either attack or defense at all times when communicating with others.

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As lawyers, we’re no strangers to feeling overwhelmed by our workload and doing our best to balance it with our social, family, and personal lives.

In this episode, I share my process for managing overwhelm, calming yourself down quickly, and setting yourself up for success.

Get full show notes, resources, and more information here: http://bit.ly/2pucsK3

On this episode of The Lawyer Stress Solution, we explore the main reasons why dealing with difficult bosses is a common complaint for lawyers. I’m also excited to teach you one of my favorite tools, called “The Manual.” It is an incredibly powerful tool that will help you change how you feel about any supervisory relationship in your life.

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On this episode, we delve into two different levels of working with anxiety – the physical sensation in your body and the thoughts that are causing that feeling. Tune in as I share a two-part “chill pill” for relieving anxiety immediately, an exercise that will help to calm your physical sensations and a practice that will allow you to explore your thoughts and eliminate worry quickly.

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On this episode, we’re diving into a subject familiar to many lawyers: Procrastination!

Join me for this episode as I explain how procrastination works, why we procrastinate (it’s not why you think), and how we can rid ourselves of this stressful habit and become better and happier lawyers in the process!

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