Penny Williams reveals her powerful parenting strategies, ADHD management tips, and hard-won wisdom so you can get ahead of the curve, to parent your child with ADHD successfully. Penny has been where you are and understands the hurdles blocking your way to successful parenting. Gain the ability to understand and change your child’s behavior, reduce your own stress, increase parenting confidence, and create more successes and joy in your family.
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In everything we do or say, we have a choice. Even when your child is intensely emotional or explosive — you have a choice in how you respond. You can react in kind and prolong the battle, or you can respond calmly and purposefully to help your child and protect your relationship with them. I’m talking with Deborah Ann Davis, author of “How to Keep Your Daughter from Slamming the Door,” about the superpower of choice all parents possess. Learn how the choices you make in interactions with your children affect their behavior and your relationship.
Each year, my friend and colleague, Sarah Wayland, PhD and I gather experts in ADHD, autism, and parenting to share their top insights and strategies on raising kids with ADHD and/or autism in our parenting summits. In this episode, we are sharing the best insights we learned from this year's 35 experts, as well as an overview of the Summits and how you can participate in them free. We're covering diagnosis, emotions, behavior, creating calm, school, life during a pandemic and so much more.
This is an episode you should listen to with your neuro-atypical kids! I have been trying to get my son to do an episode of the podcast with me for a couple years, and he finally agreed. In this episode, you'll meet my son, Luke, a nearly 18-year-old with ADHD, ASD, LDs, and a gifted IQ. We jumped on the microphone and found out he has a lot to say about growing up with differences and learning challenges. I posed this question to him: What are some things parents and teachers did for you that really helped you over the years, and what are some things we did that weren't helpful at all, or even harmful. The common message woven throughout our conversation was pressure — how parents and teachers amp it up, and how it causes kids like him to be less able to meet expectations. He also shares what he really needs from the people in his life, and even has a message of hope and perseverance for your kids. So listen in an meet my funny, compassionate, insightful boy who has inspired this podcast and all the work that I do.
Many children and teens struggle with confidence, social anxiety, and bullying, but kids with ADHD often struggle even more with this challenges. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, Dr. Jeffrey Kranzler talks about his new book, "The Crimson Protector," and the themes that are woven into the story to help kids build confidence, manage social anxiety, and deal with bullying. You'll learn that managing all of these situations boils down to building a sense of control, and how to help your child do just that.
Society has always thought of lying as a character flaw. While willful lying to deceive is not acceptable and could be an indicator that someone lacks integrity, it's not that simple when talking about kids with ADHD and/or autism. There are many reasons that individuals lie. To avoid negative consequences and to impress others are the top two. When the child is neuro-atypical though, lying just isn’t always that simple. In this episode, I outline the five main reasons your child may be lying to you, and how to reframe this behavior so that you can successfully address it and improve it. Hint: Punishment won't make it stop.
We're in the midst of the Coronavirus pandemic and filled with uncertainty and a lot of intense feelings. That's true for most of us as adults, and it's doubly true for our kids. There's a lot of helplessness during uncertain times like these and that lack of feeling in control of life can be extra tough for kids to navigate. In this episode, I'm talking with Dr. Shelli Dry about how we can help our kids navigate their big emotions and care for their mental health in the midst of uncertainty. Dr. Dry offers several parenting strategies and resources we can provide to our kids to help them move forward, despite the uncertainty. When we give kids resources — things they know that they can fall back on — when the world is saying, "We don't know what's next," your child can say "I don't either, but I know that I have these things I can do to help me feel better about myself and what's going on in the world."
Our sensory systems are how the brain processes all the information that’s around us. When one or more of the sensory systems is off kilter, it creates challenges in moving through the world from day to day. And these sensory challenges can often trigger anxiety and/or negative behavior. In this episode, I’m talking with occupational therapist, Nikki Perez, about all things sensory — from the different sensory systems, what behaviors may be caused by sensory avoidance or sensory seeking, and what you can do at home to help ease your child’s sensory needs. There are many activities and tools and resources mentioned in this episode. Don’t miss it.
When we talk with parents about the struggles they experience raising kids with ADHD and/or autism, all of the various challenges boil down to one thing — behavior. In this special 100th episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, my colleague, Sarah Wayland and I hosted a Q&A session with parents all about behavior. We discuss what causes challenging or intense behavior, aggression, kids who only have inappropriate behavior at home, strategies and tools for calming, and so much more.
I talk a lot about motherhood on this podcast, because that’s the world I know. On this episode, we get a father’s perspective. Larry Hagner, founder of the Good Dad Project, joins me to discuss growing up with ADHD, raising a child with ADHD, and being an intentional man and dad to better connect with your kids and support their journey to success. Connection is the key — "without connection you have no influence."
Anxiety affects more and more kids and adults every day. It’s taking over lives and eroding the confidence of our kids (and ourselves). But, as therapist Jodi Aman outlines in her new book and explains in this episode, anxiety can be dramatically improved and brains can be hardwired for happiness. Join us in this episode to learn about the inner critic, how the “monkey mind” feeds and grows anxiety, and what parents can do to help teens and themselves reduce anxiety and be more confident. Happiness is attainable for everyone when the work is done to shift your mindset.
We all want four things in our lives that contribute to our happiness: less stress, connection to others, purpose, and meaningful relationships. Many things get in the way of achieving these things for our kids with ADHD and/or autism (and ourselves), including a frequently triggered nervous system and dysregulation, the way our own past traumas have shaped the way we parent, our expectations of our kids, and wanting to protect our kids from the negative events in our own childhood.
On this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I’m talking with Dr. Nima Rahmany, a chiropractor and educator specializing in helping individuals and professionals get to the ROOT CAUSE of their physical and emotional challenges, from stressed, depressed, and anxious to living Powerfully Aligned and on Purpose. We discuss connection, trauma, triggers, regulation, and the autonomic nervous system and the way these are all interconnected and are clues on how to integrate mind-body tools to go deep with our kids and truly help them build regulation and connection from the bottom up. This all culminates in recognizing behavior as adaptive instead of abnormal, which puts parents in the best position to truly improve behavior and help our kids achieve success and happiness.
If your child has ADHD (or is on the autism spectrum), behavior is likely top of mind for you. They act in ways we don’t understand, find inappropriate, or don’t approve of when we view behavior through the traditional behavior lens. Brain-based science now helps us understand behavior and how our autonomic nervous system — our physiology — drives how we feel and how we respond to how we feel.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, psychologist and behavior expert, Mona Delahooke, PhD, explains Dr. Stephen Porges’s Polyvagal Theory and how to harness an understanding of the autonomic nervous system to appropriately and positively address behavior challenges. While everything we discuss is backed by brain science, we’ve broken it down into simple terms. This conversation is one that all of us can understand and includes proven strategies to implement with your child right now.
The teen years have always been tough. There’s a ton of change coming at teens from all directions, as well as an ever-increasing expectation of independence, accountability, and responsibility. But it’s a much bigger challenge to be a teen today, with the added social complexity of instantaneous distribution and social media. It’s no wonder the tween and teen years often have an inherent lack of self-confidence.
I’m talking to psychologist, Dr. Melanie McNally about supporting self-confidence in our teens and young adults on this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast. Dr. McNally offers loads of insights about healthy self-confidence and outlines several strategies for parents to help their kids manage anxiety and improve self-confidence. And this conversation is perfect for parents of younger kids too — start young because they’ll all be teens one day.
If there's one tool we all need for life in this world — kids and parents — it's calming techniques. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast I explain the role of the vagus nerve and our autonomic nervous system in getting us activated and feeling unsafe, and then list more than 20 tools and techniques to use for calming yourself or your child, by stimulating the vagus nerve to calm the nervous system.
Is it will or skill? Behavior challenges often look on the surface like willful acting out, but rarely ever are. Behavior is simply a symptom of the “real problem” — the lagging skill, differences in neurology, dysregulation, or misunderstanding of others. Rather than judge and react to your child’s behavior and parent through a behavior lens, it’s paramount to take into account your child’s differences — physiological brain-based differences — and let that guide your parenting. This is what licensed clinical social worker, Eileen Devine, calls a brain-based lens. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, Eileen and I discuss challenging parenting paradigms and shifting your mindset to parent through a brain-based lens. This is the ultimate in parenting the child you have, and raising happy successful kids. Listen in now!
If there’s one thing parenting kids with ADHD is, it’s unpredictable and inconsistent. We can be stressed by those characteristics and fight hard against them, or we can accept them and use them to our advantage. Seeing the ups and downs of this special brand of parenthood as an adventure and a perpetual learning and growth opportunity is how mom and blogger, Beth Grushkin, aka FuzzyMama, meets the challenge of raising two boys with ADHD with courage and passion.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, Beth and I discuss how a creative and adventurous perspective have helped her to keep going— to keep rising after challenges knock her off her feet. She also shares what she has found to be most important for her kids and family, including sleep, nutrition, screen time, out-of-the-box parenting, and modeling what we want to see in our kids. The struggle is real, and Beth acknowledges that while providing strategies and hope to help you keep going.
A larger percentage of the ADHD population — kids and adults alike — struggle with sleep. Your child might have a hard time falling asleep or staying asleep during the night, or both. When kids aren't sleeping, parents likely aren't getting adequate sleep either and that takes a toll on the entire family. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with sleep consultant, Melissa Doman, about all things sleep. We discuss why sleep challenges arise, strategies to help your kids fall asleep and stay asleep, and even how to get kids sleeping in their own beds. If your child (or you) struggle with sleep, this is an episode not to be missed.
We are all guilty of it. Blowing up at our kid at one time or another is inevitable, because we parents are human and we make mistakes. Of course, we don't want to blow up at our kids, and it certainly doesn't have to be part of our everyday family lives, and it shouldn't be. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking to psychologist and ADHD specialist, Dr. Marcy Caldwell about the reasons we blow up at our kids with ADHD, and strategies to blow up less and how to handle it when we do blow up. They keys are mindful awareness, co-regulation, empathy and validation, and connection between parent and child. Listen in now to get Dr. Caldwell's expert insights and strategies to improve your interactions with your kids.
It's no surprise that I'm a big fan of Brené Brown and her podcast, Unlocking Us — she's a woman of great wisdom and inspiration. I had an epiphany of sorts when listening to a recent episode on loneliness when her guest said, "We must feel good to do good." Everything I know about parenting kids with ADHD / autism and self-care instantly collided with this statement and provided a jolt of inspiration. a big part of what I teach parents is summed up by this quote — we do have to feel good to do our best for others, and for ourselves. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I take a deep dive into why this quote is so important for parents like us, and discuss how to use this quote as one of your parenting and self-care guides.
Challenges with planning and organization are common among kids with ADHD. It shows up with messy bedrooms, lost items, missing or never turned in homework, not putting things away, etc. The consequences of disorganization aren’t just frustrating for kids, they’re frustrating for their parents, too. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I’m talking with organizing expert, Laurie Palau of Simply B Organized. Join us as we discuss how everyone learns and processes differently, how to communicate with your child so they are clear on expectations and processes and open to hearing your suggestions, implementing routines to improve organization, and Laurie’s top five tools and strategies for anyone to get and stay organized.
One of the biggest struggles with ADHD is executive functioning deficits. These are skills in the areas of planning and organization, problem solving, task initiation, working memory, self-regulation, and self-awareness. Many kids with ADHD are often two to three years or more behind same-age peers in these areas. And, yet, these skills are crucial to success both at home and at school. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I’m talking with educational therapists and hosts of the Learn Smarter Podcast, Rachel Kapp and Stephanie Pitts. Listen in to learn how to identify lagging executive functioning skills in your child, as well as how to improve and accommodate these deficits.
Connection is one of the most important and powerful human needs. It provides a sense of safety, security, belonging, and fulfillment. And yet, we often struggle with making true, genuine connections. And our kids with ADHD/autism struggle with it far more. As this episode airs, we are under lockdown due to the Corona virus pandemic. You'd think this would provide so much more connection being stuck at home, but it really doesn't. We have to act with intention to create genuine connection. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I've listed 25 ideas to connect with your kids and family at home, right now, and at any time in the future.
Connection is a fundamental human need, and one that holds an immense amount of power for individuals, even kids. Especially kids. And, when we're talking about kids with ADHD and/or autism, connection is often a struggle — socially or with family members, like parents. Feeling connected to others provides a sense of safety and security. We feel more at ease and less anxious when we feel connected. This means better behavior and a better sense of self and self-worth.
I'm joined by Rebecca Brown Wright, creator of the Back-and-Forth Journal, for this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast. Rebecca shares her journey to realizing that connection with her children is more powerful than discipline and correction, and how it improved her kids' behavior. We also discuss how you can build and nurture authentic connections with your kids, too.
Get curious and support your child in the struggles they have without judgement. With the knowledge we have about brain development and structure, we can better understand our kid's behaviors and the way they learn. We can also better understand their strengths and, in turn, lift their self -esteem. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with online reading strategist, Jean Harville, about the neuroscience behind a positive, strengths-based approach, as well as the tools, strategies, and mindset to help your child thrive.
As moms, we think of self-care as selfish and frivolous. But self-care is so much more than a spa massage or a weekend away with your girlfriends. Self-care includes all eight dimensions of wellness: physical, spiritual, emotional, social, environmental, financial, intellectual, and career. That's true wellness, and it takes mindful awareness and some work. Remember, self-care isn't selfish... you can only give your best to your kids and your family when you are feeling your best — feeling your best in all areas.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Kate Lynch of Healthy Happy Yoga about mama wellness. Not only do we talk about the dimensions of wellness and your mama mindset and self-compassion, but we offer many insights and strategies on how to shift your mindset, make wellness a priority, and fit it into your life. And, we're giving you permission to take care of you, Mama.
Many individuals with ADHD struggle with anxiety as well, wether it be an additional condition or the result of the challenges that come with ADHD. Anxiety is often misunderstood by parents and other adults in a child's life, and can feel like it should be easily rationalized away. But, those with anxiety know no amount of rationalizing can just "turn off" an anxiety attack. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, Psychologist, Dr. Dawn Huebner offers both insights for understanding anxiety, as well as strategies to help your child through the difficult challenges of anxiety.
There’s a Buddhist saying: “What you focus on grows.” Has there ever been a truer statement? Yes, this is common sense when you think about it. But have you ever thought of this in terms of parenting and ADHD and/or autism? It’s easy to focus on something painful or uncomfortable. It’s difficult to let that discomfort be and focus on something else, something you’d much rather have grow. Let’s think about this in terms of parenting kids with ADHD. There’s a whole lot of challenging, uncomfortable, painful, negative stuff we can focus on. There’s so much we want to fix and improve to end our kids’ struggles. But, we have to be very careful, because it’s easy to focus on the challenges and then the negativity grows and takes over everything. Listen in to this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast for insights on the crucial task of shifting your mindset and focusing on the things you want to grow, and pushing ADHD and/or autism to a tertiary role.
When you don't have ADHD yourself, it's really how to know how your child with ADHD thinks and feels. Even if you do have ADHD too, the experience is different for each individual with ADHD, meaning it's different for your child than it was and is for you. Yet, it's important for parents to know what life is like for your kids so we can help them thrive. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Dr. Dawn Brown of the ADHD wellness center about how to discover how your child thinks and feels. We cover a variety of perspectives and topics including development, intense feelings and big emotions, sensitivity and rejection sensitive dysphoria, dysregulation, meeting your child where they are, and more...
I just finished the Finding Fred podcast, all about Fred Rogers, or Mr. Rogers as most of us know him. And I'm inspired! He was always telling children and his television audience, "I like you just the way you are." Remembering what that felt like when watching his show and diving deep into what that means and how we can apply it to our lives and our parenting, I realized that we and others in our kids' lives are very often sending the message that we don't like our child just the way they are. That message is clearly harmful.
We can't change our children for the world, so we must change their world for our children. Join me in this episode to understand when and how this message is given to our children with ADHD and/or autism and what you can do to make sure your child knows that you truly like them just the way they are.
There are three main elements to setting a foundation for success: (1) accepting and understanding that behavior is communication; (2) getting your mind right for raising a kid with ADHD, autism and/or other challenges; and (3) adopting a self-care regimen, including effective stress management. Listen in to learn more about each of these pillars of your success plan and how to create them for yourself and your family.
Many parents struggle with wether or not to share their child's diagnosis with them. And even the decision to fill them in leaves many wondering what to say and when to have that conversation. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with psychologist, Emily King, PhD, about why having this conversation is important, when to have it, and what to say. This is your guide to telling your child about their ADHD and/or autism diagnosis, as well as discussing their abilities and support needs with them.
The sex talk with your kids doesn't have to be nearly as painful as you imagine it. In this episode, Dr. Ari Tuckman walks us through the when, why, and how of this important conversation. We discuss starting the conversation about romantic relationships when our kids are young, how to talk about sex and sexuality with our teens, keeping our kids safe when they're prone to impulsivity and risky behavior, strategies to help keep our adolescents safe in the heat of the moment, and, most importantly, how to open the door for our teens to come to us and keep talking to us about relationships and sex.
What parents of kids with ADHD (and/or autism) want more than anything is for our kids to succeed. And, yet, success can be elusive with the many challenges and hurdles a neurodevelopmental disorder like ADHD adds. That's why providing opportunities for successes and wins for kids with ADHD must be a crucial part of your parenting plan. In this episode, pediatric neurologist, Dr. Sarah Cheyette, and I discuss how to help your child win with ADHD. We're not simply talking about nurturing talents and interests, but also about teaching our kids resilience and showing them that they can, indeed, do hard things and succeed.
Holidays are challenging for kids with ADHD, and for their parents. Schedules are different, excitement is high, big gatherings are routine, and that's the only thing that's routine. Yikes! This frenzy guarantees some struggle. It's really easy to get tangled up in the fallout of a lot of new things and people, a ton of sensory overwhelm (hello, Uncle Buck's loud voice and Aunt Mildred's heavily perfume aura), and the excitement of impending gifts, so close you can almost touch them. Don't let a focus on the traditional and neurotypical celebration expectations ruin your holiday, because — let's face it — our kids are kids, but we are the ones with the storybook visions and the inflexible expectations. In this episode, I'm talking about what parents can do during the holidays to prevent letting ADHD (or autism) ruin the spirit of the season. Listen in now and plan for a truly happy holiday.
There are few times more chaotic and stressful for families of kids with ADHD than mornings, especially school mornings. Kids with ADHD struggle with staying on task, time management, working memory, and many other executive functioning deficits that make mornings difficult — difficult to get out the door on time, difficult to get everything done, difficult to not lose your sanity. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking to executive function coach, Brendan Mahan, M.Ed. about how to survive mornings in a household challenged by ADHD. This episode is packed full of tools and strategies. Don't miss it.
When you have a child with ADHD, almost all of your attention and energy naturally goes to that child — they're more intense and they're struggling. And yet, that child's siblings are likely struggling too. The experience of being the sibling to a child with ADHD, autism, or other special needs is hard, at the very minimum, but traumatic to many. On this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Jessica Leving, author of the children's book, Special Siblings: Growing up with a sibling who has special needs, a book inspired by her own experience with a brother with autism. Listen in and learn what your other children might be going through and hiding from you, and how you can make sure the siblings in your family feel as loved and as important.
Our culture says that parents should be authoritarian and have control over their children. I call BS. Authoritarian parenting and trying to control behavior with punishment and fear is bad parenting. I explain why that's bad parenting, and outline a better way in this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast. We should be parenting individuals and celebrating individuality, not pushing for conformity. There is room for positive parenting and teaching your values. Let's talk about how.
Many kids with ADHD are brilliant in one way or another, but still struggle. You can be smart, and struggle — and that doesn't mean you're lazy. In this episode, I'm talking to child psychologist and author of the book Raising Will: Surviving the Brilliance and Blues of ADHD, Katherine Quie, PhD, about the inconsistencies that are the very nature of ADHD. Katherine talks about her experience raising her son with ADHD and the challenges of raising a kid who is gifted and still struggles. This conversation offers an honest look at real life parenting kids with ADHD.
Most students with ADHD go through what I call a school honeymoon at the beginning of each new school year. The newness is stimulating and the demands are less starting out and our kids do pretty well. But the honeymoon ends and reality sets in — kids with ADHD struggle in school. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with educational advocate, Brandie Rosen, about what parents can do to help ease the transition from honeymoon to everyday reality at school. We discuss how to prevent this sharp decline in the first place, as well as how to work with teachers to to get through this tough period to ensure continued success, if you weren't able to prevent it.
Executive functioning skills — including organization, planning and time management — are almost always impacted in kids and teens with ADHD. There are a myriad of strategies and tools to assist with disorganization and poor time management. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with coaches Natalie Borrell and Alison Grant of Life Success for Teens about how to help your disorganized teen. Natalie and Alison share many tools and strategies they use to help their students and coaching clients, as well as insights on how to implement them successfully for your teen or pre-teen.
Never meeting expectations means our kids with ADHD and/or autism feel like they never succeed. That is a heavy burden that can take a monumental toll on any individual. In this episode, I outline all the repercussions possible when a child feels like they never succeed and what you can do to keep the worst of the consequences from happening to your child.
Parents are expected to be authoritarian and parent through a system of crime and punishment. We're raised to believe this is what defines a "good parent." I argue that we need to flip this idea on its head — that crime and punishment parenting is actually making you a "bad parent." It does more harm than good for our kids, especially kids with ADHD and/or autism. There is a much, much better way to raise kids that will become happy, successful adults. Listen in and I'll explain why crime and punishment is bad and how to serve our children much better.
"There needs to be a desire to go to college. Just sending somebody because that's what's expected is not going to be good for that student."
Our culture defines expectations of our parenting priorities. When we become parents, we latch onto those expectations and adopt them as our own. The problem is, those priorities were created for neurotypical kids and we are raising kids with differences. If our child is different, our parenting should be different too. That means that not everything that matters to our culture really matters for our special brand of parenthood. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I outline what truly matters when raising kids with ADHD (and/or autism). "The rest of it is just noise that we need to start turning down." Resources in the Episode Nowhere to Hide, Dr. Jerome Schultz, The Insider's Guide to ADHD, by Penny WilliamsDr. Hallowell's Mirror Traits: Article or VideoHappy Mama Retreat Thanks for joining me! If you enjoyed this episode, please use the social media buttons to the left or within the player to share it. Have something to say, or a question to ask? Leave a comment below. I promise to answer every single one. **Also, please leave an honest review for The Parenting ADHD Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and appreciated! That's what helps me reach and help more families like yours. Listen to More Parenting ADHD Podcast Episodes
There's no disputing that — especially team sports — can be a difficult environment for individuals with ADHD to naturally succeed in. It's not just developmental delays and social differences with peers that can make it tough. Things like emotional sensitivity and dysregulation, poor working memory, anxiety, and lagging executive functioning skills can also make it hard to meet peer and coach expectations, because they are set or neurotypicals. However, this doesn't mean that kids with ADHD cannot succeed and thrive in athletic endeavors. Join me as I talk with Susan Stout, founder of My Own Beat, about the challenging areas of athletics for those with ADHD and how you can help your child succeed in sports that are interested in and/or passionate about. Even if your child just plays Little League or Peewee Football, you can't miss this discussion. Listen now!
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm diving into stress management for parents of kids with ADHD and/or "high-functioning" autism. I used to think I'd have to change the characteristics of my life and family — like give away my kids — to reduce my stress. Turns out, I just didn't know what real stress management was and how to apply it to a life that is inherently more chaotic, demanding, and stressful. Thank goodness I finally discovered how I could manage my stress. It's made a monumental difference in my physical, mental, and emotional health. I am so much happier. So much calmer. So much freer. And, even better, so are my kids and everyone else in my life. My stress management is one of my top strategies for effectively parenting kids with ADHD/autism. It changes everything. Listen in now to find out how to manage your stress and change your family for the better too. Resources in the Episode Happy Mama Conference & Retreat Thanks for joining me! If you enjoyed this episode, please use the social media buttons to the left or within the player to share it. Have something to say, or a question to ask? Leave a comment below. I promise to answer every single one. **Also, please leave an honest review for The Parenting ADHD Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and appreciated! That's what helps me reach and help more families like yours. Listen to More Parenting ADHD Podcast Episodes
Parents can create an environment that empowers kids with ADHD and helps them thrive. It's about the relationships, perspectives, understanding, and compassion we have with our kids and how that affects behavior and grit.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm filling you in on the upcoming FREE Parenting ADHD Summit. It's a free online conference with 28 experts on ADHD and parenting sharing a little of their wisdom with you to empower you to empower your child. In this podcast episode, I'm sharing clips from five of the sessions, including Dr. Edward Hallowell, Julie F. Skolnick MA, JD, Ross Greene, PhD, Jerome Schultz, PhD and Amanda Morin. There's valuable information just in these clips. Listen in and get new strategies for parenting your child with ADHD. Resources in the Episode Parenting ADHD Summit: Grab your spot here! Thanks for joining me! If you enjoyed this episode, please use the social media buttons to the left or within the player to share it. Have something to say, or a question to ask? Leave a comment below. I promise to answer every single one. **Also, please leave an honest review for The Parenting ADHD Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and appreciated! That's what helps me reach and help more families like yours. Listen to More Parenting ADHD Podcast Episodes
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with documentary filmmaker, Ana Joanes, about the journey to becoming the parent you want to be. We discuss how our childhood experiences shape the parent we become, how those experiences change our neurological physiology, parent stress, the importance of self-compassion and self-care, and the fact that you are not alone. This episode will help you parent with intention and purpose, rather than just trying to get through each day. "You're not alone. We all have times when we don't like our child, when we reset their presence." Resources in this Episode (Yes, some of these are affiliate links.)Articles/Topics/Podcasts Mentioned: The experience of autism (and ADHD) is almost identical in the brain as trauma. A life with autism includes traumatic experiences. At the intersection of autism and traumaThe Life Recovery Method, by Robert Cox, LPC Radical self-careFar from the Tree, by Andrew Solomon Healing Program on WrestlingGhosts.comWatch Wrestling Ghosts My Guest Ana Joanes is a documentary filmmaker dedicated to inspiring conscious action and systemic change through film. Her previous works include Generation Meds, an exploration of our fears and misgivings about mental illness and medication, and Fresh, which celebrates the farmers, thinkers and entrepreneurs who are reinventing our food system. Before dedicating herself to filmmaking, Ana was a lawyer. She founded Reel Youth, Inc., a video production program for youth coming out of detention and other underserved youth. Ana is the mother of three children, and with Wrestling Ghosts, she hopes to contribute to a shift toward a more compassionate world. Where to Find Ana Website: wrestlingghosts.com Facebook, Twitter, Instagram: @WrestingGhosts Thanks for joining me! If you enjoyed this episode, please use the social media buttons to the left or within the player to share it. Have something to say, or a question to ask? Leave a comment below. I promise to answer every single one. **Also, please leave an honest review for The Parenting ADHD Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and appreciated! That's what helps me reach and help more families like yours. Listen to More Parenting ADHD Podcast Episodes
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm tackling developmental age. ADHD is a development disorder. Very few people talk about it in that way but it's 100 percent a developmental disorder. Your child with ADHD is two to three years behind their same-age peers in a lot of ways. If you're child's functioning and skills are at a 7-year-old level, but he or she is actually 10, what is going to be more successful: expecting neurotypical 10-year-old behavior or 7-year old behavior? Your job and the success of your parenting hinge on setting appropriate expectations for the child you have. Listen in as I explain developmental age further, and how to set appropriate expectations for your child to succeed and thrive. Resources in the Episode Executive Function Age chart floating around social mediaRussel Barkley on his 30% Rule Thanks for joining me! If you enjoyed this episode, please use the social media buttons to the left or within the player to share it. Have something to say, or a question to ask? Leave a comment below. I promise to answer every single one. **Also, please leave an honest review for The Parenting ADHD Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and appreciated! That's what helps me reach and help more families like yours. Listen to More Parenting ADHD Podcast Episodes
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with coaches Natalie Borrell and Alison Grant of Life Success for Teens. We discuss how to help kids with ADHD address and overcome challenges and obstacles. Learn how to help your kids build grit and resistance — the core aspects of being able to overcome challenges without falling apart or avoiding obstacles. "Sometimes it's easier to just give up." Resources in this Episode (Yes, some of these are affiliate links.)Articles/Topics/Podcasts Mentioned: Life Success for Teens My Guest Natalie Borrell is the Founder of Life Success for Teens. She coached high school and competitive cheerleading for 8 years and this is where she realized that she had a gift for connecting with teenagers and motivating them to be the best version of themselves. She has 11 years of experience working as a school psychologist in a public high school. Her areas of expertise include working with students who have ADHD, executive functioning weaknesses, and other learning differences. Natalie earned her bachelor’s degree in psychology from Ohio State University in 2004, her masters degree in school psychology in 2006 from Michigan State University, and her Educational Specialist Degree in 2007 from Kent State University. She became a certified Academic Life Coach in 2015 and founded Life Success For Teens in 2016. When she is not coaching students, Natalie can be found traveling with her family, reading cookbooks, or binge-watching episodes of Friends. One of her favorite part of coaching is getting a text or email from her former students. Alison Grant joined the LSFT team with 15 years as a Family Consumer Science teacher at Willoughby South High School. As a teacher, Alison has advised groups including Student Council, Teen Institute and Class Officers. Alison has coached dance, cheer, and tennis and in 2011 was named Adele Knight Teacher of the Year. In recent years, she has been part of an initiative to develop a mentoring program that assists freshmen in the transition from middle school to high school. Alison earned her Academic Life Coach certificate in 2017 which allowed her to help students realized they can be successful inside and outside the classroom. Her favorite part of coaching is watching a student have a moment when everything clicks and their hard work has paid off! Alison earned her bachelor’s degree in vocational education from Kent State University in 2003 and her master’s degree in educational administration from Ursuline College as well as a masters in school counseling from John Carroll University. Alison lives in Willoughby, OH with her husband and two daughters Maggie and Gwyneth. When she is not spending time with her family, Alison enjoys crafting and taking snapshots of her family’s adventures! Where to Find Natalie and Alison Website: lifesuccessforteens.com Facebook: LSFTcommunity Listen In! Parenting #ADHD Podcast 057: Grit & Resilience: Teaching Kids with ADHD How to Overcome Obstacles, with Natalie Borrell & Alison Grant. #ADHD #LD #autismClick To Tweet Thanks for joining me! If you enjoyed this episode, please use the social media buttons to the left or within the player to share it. Have something to say, or a question to ask? Leave a comment below. I promise to answer every single one. **Also, please leave an honest review for The Parenting ADHD Podcast on iTunes. Ratings and reviews are extremely helpful and appreciated! That's what helps me reach and help more families like yours. Listen to More Parenting ADHD Podcast Episodes
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm tackling a questions I get from parents all the time... how to stay calm when your child is having an outburst or a meltdown. There are a couple tricks that helped me gain control of how I stay calm and respond in these moments. I've shared both these fundamental pieces, as well the real transformational power remaining calm has for your child, for you, and for your entire family.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with occupational therapist, Susan Schenk, about learning challenges. Susan shares her story of growing up and finding success with learning challenges. Then we dig into how to help our own kids who are struggling with learning disabilities through tools, strategies and technology. Listen in for inspiration from Susan's story as well as resources to help your challenged learner. "Tap into the part of the brain that goes on fire to tackle the challenges."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I have a very important message for you. You're not alone. You're not alone in this special brand of parenthood. There are millions of parents raising challenging kids. The fact that your parenthood is different isn't your fault, and you're not the only one with these challenges. You must find your tribe. Having a tribe around you who "gets it" is everything. Let me tell you why...
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking IEPs and 504 Plans with former teacher and educational advocate, Amanda Morin. We're defining IEPs and 504 plans, and the differences between them. In addition, learn how to determine what services and accommodations your child may need in school, and how to go about securing them. We also answer questions like, should my child come to school meetings? And we're busting some myths around the rights of kids with special needs at school.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, teacher and education advocate, Meg Flanagan, and I discuss taking a collaborative approach to working with teachers and advocating for your child at school. To achieve an effective working relationship with the school, parents need to approach teachers and school staff with the attitude of working together, as allies instead of adversaries. Sometimes it's tough to strike a balance between being a strong advocate for your child and seeming confrontational. Meg and I discuss strategies for this and more during this episode. Listen in now!
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I outline different behavior triggers that are common with ADHD and/or "high-functioning" autism. Within this list are developmentally lagging skills, but also differences in how a child's brain functions when they have ADHD. Recognizing these and other triggers in your child will help you improve behavior and reduce the instances of outbursts and meltdowns. This knowledge will also help you understand your child better and remain a calm parent.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Maureen Healy, author of The Emotionally Healthy Child, about cultivating emotional health, which creates happier children. Emotional balance is key, and it's more challenging for kids with ADHD and/or autism. Maureen outlines strategies to help your child recognize, work through constructively, and control their own emotions. "It's like an onion. There are many layers to emotional health. We must cultivate emotional health."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm honored to have talked with Ana and Curt Warner about the challenges and isolation of raising kids with autism. They've shared their experiences raising twin boys with "low-functioning" autism in their new book, The Warner Boys: Our Family’s Story of Autism and Hope, and they've graciously shared a glimpse of their parenting experiences here with us. While your child may not have autism, the struggles and triumphs of this parenthood are much the same. I promise, you'll be moved by their story. “It wasn’t ever the pressure or exhaustion that was most troubling to us; it was the realization that our boys were in a kind of pain we couldn’t understand. For some unknown reason, everything was so hard for them.” — Ana Warner, The Warner Boys
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking about how to finally stop battling with your child. Day in and day out, the challenging behaviors, the impulsivity, the seeming argumentativeness feel like we are battling with our kids. Sure, most of the triggers are symptoms of their ADHD and/or autism, but that doesn't make it any easier or any less painful to accept these battles. But, the thing is, you don't have to accept these battles — you can stop battling with your child. I'm not saying that you just don't engage, although that's a little part of it. I'm saying there's a way to end the battles, most of them, and have a lot more calm and joy in your family. Listen in to learn more.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with licensed child therapist, Angela Pruess, about emotional intelligence. Building emotional intelligence skills is an important part of raising kids with ADHD, kids who are often dysregulated emotionally and struggle with interactions with others. We discuss emotional awareness, emotional regulation, and how emotional intelligence plays a role in relationships with others and social interactions. Listen in to learn how to assess your child's current emotional intelligence and then work on building skills where there are gaps. "They need to be able to handle the highs and lows in life. Emotional intelligence skills will enable us to see that our kids thrive."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I was inspired this week to talk to you about saying yes more often. As parents, we are programmed to say no automatically, but we need to find ways to say yes. Our kids already get messages that they “can’t” more than anything else, so they need more yeses, more positives in their day-to-day lives. There are other good reasons to start saying yes more often, too. When everything is no, kids stop asking. Saying no also limits discussion and building and practicing problem-solving skills. Automatic no's often create power struggles, which no one wants. And, lastly, our kids need to feel like they have some control in their lives, and finding ways to say yes to them helps with that. I explain that and how to say yes more without "giving in" in this episode. Enjoy!
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I was inspired this week to talk to you about the language you use to describe your child's behavior. I see parents day in and day out use language that sounds as though they're describing a character flaw. Language that sets a tone of "can't" and "won't," instead of describing things for what they really are — which is most often your child having a hard time, not giving you a hard time. Join me as I illustrate the differences and how to change your language for greater success and peace in your family.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Dr. Sharon Saline about what your child with ADHD wishes you knew, in conjunction with the release of her new book. We're talking about how most kids feel like parents aren't hearing what they're saying, and vice versa. Dr. Saline offers many strategies to communicate better, for a more successful and joyful family life. "Stop. Take a 'time apart.' Think things over when everyone's a little calmer. Then you act."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with divorce and family attorney, Morghan Leia Richardson, about how to navigate co-parenting a child with ADHD when the parents don't agree on ADHD treatment and parenting. There are ways to pre-plan for these parenting disagreements during the divorce process, as well as resources and recourse for resolution after. Court proceedings aren't the only option for resolution, and Morghan outlines a few better options. If you and your co-parent disagree on how to parent your child with ADHD, this episode is a must-listen. "Shielding your child from the conflict and a legal process is really important to protect your child. If you go to court about your child's treatment, your child will be required to be involved."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm giving you a pep talk for parenting kids with special needs. Use this pep talk when you're feeling low, lacking confidence in your parenting, apprehensive about starting another day, or just having a bad day. If you're feeling yourself slip, use this pep talk as your reminder that you've got this!
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm sharing tips and strategies to help your child overcome social struggles and make and keep friends. ADHD makes social interactions challenging for kids for a variety of reasons. I outline the different reasons kids with ADHD struggle with friendships, offer strategies to help your child build social skills, and share how to create opportunities for social successes.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Heather Chauvin about defining our job as a parent. Heather talks about her journey to discover her authentic role as a mom and how to parent in a way that serves the true goal and purpose of parenting — that serves her sons but also serves herself, too. Listen in to find out what is your real responsibility as a parent? Heather shares how to choose how you live, work, play and PARENT on your terms. "My son taught me how to take back control of how I feel by purely trying to help him manage his own big emotions. As I started implementing these tools and strategies that I was learning, I started to feel in control of my own anger and anxiety. Then I could teach my son how to do the same."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with therapist, Kimberly Beaman, about the importance of therapy, how to find the right therapist for your child and your family, and the power of creative arts in the lives of kids with ADHD and other challenges. Listen in as Kim offers a wealth of resources and guidance on therapy for kids with ADHD.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with nutrition and wellness practitioner, Jennifer Scribner, about creating a non-toxic lifestyle. Many kids with ADHD have genetic polymorphisms like MTHFR that reduce the body's ability to detoxify effectively. A non-toxic lifestyle is important for all of us, but especially kids with ADHD and sensitivities. Listen in for what items should be on your radar and tips and strategies to detoxify your home, for everyone's health. "Detergents, and particularly fabric softeners, are the biggest source of toxins in our homes."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with speech-language pathologist and author of "My Second Year of Kindergarten," Becca Eisenberg, about repeating a grade in school. Listen in as we discuss the signs that a child might need to repeat a grade, the aspects of school to think about when making the decision, and how to walk your child through acceptance and the transition. *Note: The sound on this episode isn't as good as I'd like it to be. The message, however, is fantastic, so please forgive the sound quality.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when people call a meltdown a tantrum. A tantrum is a fit a child throws to get their way. A meltdown is when your child is stuck and their brain has been sort-of hijacked. A child in a meltdown does not have control of their actions. Listen in to this episode as I discuss the full differences between a tantrum and meltdown and provide insights and strategies to begin to tame them.
School struggles are one of the leading causes of parent and child stress in families with kids with ADHD. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I share some red flags that your child may need extra help and support in the classroom, outline the steps parents should follow to request services and accommodations at school, and explain the basic differences between a 504 Plan and an IEP. * Please note: Nothing in this episode or in this post constitutes legal advice. I am not an attorney. Always consult an attorney for interpretation of and guidance on the law.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with behavior analyst, Holly Moses, about why looking at behavior as "bad" isn't the best parenting approach for kids with ADHD. Often, the gap between expectation and capability leads to unwanted ("bad") behavior. Listen in to learn effective strategies to elicit appropriate behavior, and to effectively address unwanted behavior. Holly and I will adjust your mindset for behavior so you can be the parent your child needs.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Julie Neale about our Mother's Quest, discovering your passion, living with purpose and intention, and surviving and thriving when raising kids with ADHD. Julie is sensitive to the constraints of this special parenthood, having two differently-wired boys of her own. Listen to learn how to slow things down, take a pause, and move forward with your purpose and intention. "We don't have to figure it out on our own."
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Frank South about his life with ADHD and raising his two kids with ADHD. Frank has had an intense, fascinating, challenging life with ADHD, which makes for an intense, fascinating, challenging parenthood raising kids with ADHD. He's compiled his family stories in a new book called, A Chicken in the Wind and How He Grew. Learn more about Frank's life and parenthood, his insights on raising kids with ADHD and letting them find themselves, and why having ADHD is kind of like being a chicken in the wind. "We're there to listen, support, and help them solve problems, not to bring more outside judgements and goals that we put on them."
There's little that instills more fear in parents than the idea of giving their child ADHD medication. That fear is built on a foundation of largely myths and fear-mongering, but it exists nonetheless. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm sharing the basics of ADHD medication, as well as nuances and little-known facts I've learned over the years. This is the information I desperately wish I'd had when starting and trialing ADHD medications. This is the information every parent should have before they fill the first prescription for their child. * Please note: Nothing on this episode or in this post constitutes medical advice. I am not a clinician. Always consult your child's doctor for guidance before making any medication decisions or changes. Enjoy!
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Dr. Roberto Olivardia, a Clinical Instructor at Harvard Medical School, about how imperative it is to think outside the box when raising kids with ADHD. And Dr. Olivardia should know, he has ADHD himself and employs some very creative strategies to manage his own challenges. His insights and experience will inspire your parenting.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm tackling the misnomer of helicopter parenting. We think hovering over our kids is protecting them, and loving them, but it actually does more harm than good. By hovering over our kids and overprotecting them, we are robbing them of building lagging skills, successful future independence, and the joy of doing something on your own for the first time. So, let's dive in and get your out of the pilot's seat. Enjoy!
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Jeff Copper of DIG Coaching, about teens with ADHD and the reality of motivation. I hear parents complain about their teen with ADHD and their lack of motivation very frequently. I am living this struggle myself right now, with my own teen son with ADHD. What Jeff and I talk about is why kids with ADHD lack motivation — for things like school performance —and how to both spark some motivation for the brain with ADHD, and survive that chapter of your parenthood. Please note: while we do talk specifically about teens with ADHD in this episode, a great deal of our conversation applies for parents of younger kids with ADHD, and it also helps you prepare better for the teen years ahead of you.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking about why traditional parenting norms don't work for kids with ADHD, and how to create a parenthood that works for your kid. Here are the steps I talk about in detail in this episode: Destroy traditional parenting ideals and norms. Cast them out of your mind.They don’t work for ADHD. How to be a detective and learn your child’s truth. Use that truth as your guide to rewrite the plan for your parenthood, being sure expectations are developmentally appropriate, and respect who your child truly is. Focus on the positive more than the negative. Create opportunities for success, and for building confidence. (Many kids with ADHD feel they are “stupid,” “bad,” or “broken” and this helps to counter that.) Don’t expect the “norm,” and don’t expect perfection. Some of this episode overlaps with episode 017: Throw Out the Traditional Parenting Rulebook. That's how crucial and powerful this lesson is — that I repeatedly talk about it. :)
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Dr. Randy Kulman, of Learning Works for Kids, about screen time and gaming. We focus our discussion on the benefits of gaming and technology, including a list of games that are good for your child. Yep, I said good for your child. Listen now to find out what skills can be improved, and by which games. And, recognize that screen time isn't all bad. Enjoy! *Note: I experienced a small technology glitch when recording this episode that resulted in an audio glitch in the middle of the recording. It doesn't affect the awesome information you get from this episode.
In this episode of the podcast, I was inspired by the celebration of a new year (so hard to believe it's 2018!). I don't like to make New Year's Resolutions, because I associate those with deprivation. However, I love to set an inspirational word for the new year and think of it as a sort-of clean slate and opportunity for improvement. In this show, I challenge you to implement 5 key opportunities for improvement in your life, your child's life, and your family. New Year. New Opportunity. Yes, I'll take it!
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with Elaine Taylor-Klaus and Diane Dempster of ImpactADHD about maintaining healthy family relationships in a family with a child with ADHD. We define what a healthy relationship is, how to repair broken relationships, and how to maintain healthy relationships between spouses/partners, siblings, and with yourself. How do you get on the same page when co-parenting? Can you accept different parenting approaches? Let's talk about your relationships!
In this episode of the podcast, I discuss your thoughts, and how they hold the key to everything. Being mindful of the emotions and thoughts you attach to a situation, and changing them to serve you and your family better. It's not easy to do, but let's talk about taking more control of your thoughts, and how powerful that will be in your life. Positive thinking leads to positive parenting, and positive parenting leads to better behavior. Positive thinking and better behavior make for better mental and physical health for all. Listen now and learn how to change your thoughts.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I'm talking with occupational and physical therapist, Suzanne Cresswell. Often, kids with ADHD are told to "try harder," especially in school. Suzanne explains the physiology behind how the brain works in an individual with ADHD and challenged learners, which further explains why telling a child with ADHD to "try harder" can't help. This was a truly fascinating conversation for me — I learned a great deal from Suzanne that I hadn't yet learned in 9+ years of obsessing about ADHD and how to help my child. We talk about the role the sensory systems play in neurological function, and the invisible impact it often has for kids with ADHD and learning challenges. How each student acquires knowledge, i.e., learns, is different, but sensory has a huge impact on it. Rhythm is a key component. Let's talk about unique learners!
This episode of the podcast is inspired by my new book, The Hidden Layers of ADHD: The Underlying Complexities of ADHD, and Their Powerful Affect on Your Parenting Success. I'm so excited to share with you why you should look at ADHD like an iceberg, what that means for your parenting, and all the hidden layers of ADHD you need to understand in order to do your best for your child. Listen in as I outline and briefly explain each hidden layer.
In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, Debbie Reber and I discuss shifting your mindset and tilting your parenting to become the best parent you can be for your differently wired child. Debbie, founder of Tilt Parenting, is passionate about changing the conversation on neurodiversity and differently wired kids from one of being "broken," to being different but having many gifts to share. Listen in as we touch on everything from school struggles to the importance of self-care, and many nuggets of wisdom somewhere in between.
I had a very emotional conversation with a coaching client this week, and it inspired me to talk to you about making mistakes as parents, forgiving ourselves, having a healthy conversation with ourselves about it, and living in a place of self-compassion. Mom guilt doesn't serve you, and it doesn't serve your child or your family either. Be authentic and be human, but forgive yourself for the things in your past that were the best you could do at that moment. Hindsight really is 20/20, but looking back doesn't serve us. Listen in and learn how to be a more compassionate, authentic mom. You are enough! I promise.
You have to get your mind right in order to be an effective parent to a child with ADHD. One of the facets of getting your mind right for this special parenthood is to throw out the traditional parenting rulebooks and norms, and rewrite a custom parenting rulebook for your child, where they are today. For your child, and your entire family. In this podcast, I explain what I mean by writing your own rulebook for parenting, and how to go about it.
Danielle Matthew has devoted her work to helping kids through the emotional, and often damaging, experience of being bullied. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, Danielle and I talk about one-on-one support, guidance and education to empower children and teens to heal from bullying, address conflict, and move forward. Listen and learn what you can do to help your child if/when they are the victim of bullying.
I've been reading Ross Greene's newest book, Raising Human Beings, and I am so inspired to share how his insights and approach to parenting challenging kids can be a powerful force in your parenting. Of course, I've been a fan of Greene's work for years, and I recommend his books to parents constantly. What you have to understand first, before you can implement his collaborative problem solving process with success, is that behavior is simply a symptom of the actual problem. The behavior is not the problem. Stick with me... it makes sense. It's a problem, but not the problem. Learn all about it in this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast.
I'm so excited to have Ben Glenn (aka, The Chalkguy) on this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast. He is a remarkable human being and offers great insights to parents raising kids with ADHD and/or learning disabilities, because he was that kid. Ben begins by sharing his story of growing up with learning disabilities and ADHD, unhappy in a self-contained classroom for many years. Then, with the help of an out-of-the-box-thinking high school principal, Ben discovered his gift — art. During our conversation he shares what it's like to grow up thinking something's wrong with you, and how he found his motivation and became a successful, happy adult. Hearing his story also reinforces that what our kids are doing right now (like cheating in Ben's case), doesn't necessarily mean they will grow up to still employ those unsavory coping mechanisms. Ben is a fun and funny guy. His energy and drive to help others are infectious. His story will inspire you. Enjoy!
On this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I talk with Sarah Wayland, PhD, a Consultant and Special Needs Care Navigator, of Guiding Exceptional Parents. Sarah and I have known each other for several years, after meeting at the Happy Mama Retreat. She truly understands kids with ADHD and autism and always offers great insights in informed and compassionate parenting. My favorite topic to turn to Sarah about is the idea that "behavior is communication." She and I are both huge fans of Ross Greene's work, where he outlines this concept and much more. This is Part 2 of a 4-part series on behavior as communication that I'm doing with Sarah on the podcast. I'm super excited about it! Part 1 was episode 003: What Your Child's Behavior is Actually Telling You. If you haven't listened to it yet, you definitely should, but you don't have to listen to it before this episode. On this show, Sarah and I discuss why kids with ADHD get angry, and what parents can do about it. We discuss emotions, developmental age/delay, meeting your child where they are, and handling big emotions and intense kids. There are a lot of really powerful insights on behavior, deciphering what it really means, and having a positive affect on it going forward.
There can be no debate that parenting kids with ADHD (and/or autism) is hard. Super hard! However, there are many approaches that can soften the edges and make this special brand of parenthood a little easier, and a lot more successful. Brian R. King, aka The Compassionate Dad, teaches parents to be a student of your child — to let your child's truth guide you. It's all about compassionate parenting — compassion for your child, and for yourself — and it's powerful for parents of kids with ADHD. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, Brian and I discuss compassionate parenting, how to implement it, and the power that it holds for families of kids with ADHD.
I'm so excited to share the magic parenting phrase for kids with ADHD (and autism) and how to implement this strategy successfully with your child! This one phrase is so, very helpful. Truly, I cannot emphasize enough how "magical" asking your child this one question can be. So, sit back and get ready to get your mind right. Enjoy!
ADHD can look very different in girls and women than it does in boys and men. That different appearance of symptoms, coupled with gender stereotypes, means girls with ADHD often fall through the cracks and struggle without a diagnosis for much longer. In this episode of the Parenting ADHD Podcast, I talk with ADHD Coach and adult with ADHD, Linda Roggli, PCC about the symptoms to watch for in girls, the role estrogen plays in ADHD symptom severity, and the ways that ADHD is just plain different for girls.
I cannot tell you how upset it makes me for someone to tell my child that he's "smart enough" to do something (that he obviously hasn't done to their satisfaction). It makes me livid folks. Intelligence is not the sole predictor of capability, especially in the traditional public school system. Especially when you have ADHD and/or learning disabilities. So, this week we're discussing "smart enough" on the Parenting ADHD Podcast. I'll explain what's wrong with telling a child they're "smart enough to do _______" and fill you in on what other factors predict capability. I'll give you a hint, there are a lot of them. So, sit back and get ready to get your mind right.
Kids with ADHD are exponentially more likely to have poor planning and organization skills, part of their poor executive functioning. That's something Leslie Josel of Order Out of Chaos knows all too well... as do I. This can be a constant battle for parents of kids with ADHD, but it doesn't have to be. In this episode, Leslie and I discuss different organizational challenges of kids with ADHD, and what products, strategies, tools, training, and expectations parents can implement to make a positive difference with this struggle, both at school and at home. You will love Leslie's energy and passion as she shares many valuable organizational strategies that work for organizationally-challenged kids with ADHD, including her own son, who's now a successful college student (it is possible folks!). Grab pen and paper and start the podcast audio, and get ready for some new strategies you can implement today. And, don't forget to download Leslie's free One-Stop List of Recommended Products for ADHD Organization below.